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I’m in my mid 40’s. Had a great but tempestuous childhood and really had a wild time in my early 20's. Been married once and had numerous relationships, the longest being 14 years. Sometimes I ended them, sometimes I got dumped! I’ve cheated and been cheated on! I've have restored my principles and values and believe in honesty and integrity and lots of love, passion & spice with the right lady. I’ve talked to friends and a counsellor about my personal issues, worked them through and learnt a lot so maybe I can help someone who's feeling lousy or who's a little lost. At least I’ll try…

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Mom Caught me with sisters hubby!

Q.   my mom saw me with my sisters hubby this happened by surprising me 4 brunch. she saw me with a mouthful. she said she wouldn't tell but expects he and i to do the right thing. he wants 2 tell her but we only did it once and only head. so?...

A.   14 January 2007: Dear Anon, Well this is a bi mistake and I see everyone else telling you the same thing! Too late to cry over spilt milk but maybe not too late to save your sisters marriage if it's worth saving. You have to ask yourself; why did he do this with... (read in full...)

How do you get over doing something nasty in the past and letting go of the huge regrets?

Q.   How do you get over something you regret so bad. I am 17 and when i was like 11 or younger, I did something i think with some other girl who was younger than me and everyone who knows her, knows that family is the biggest skanks! I feel nasty ...

A.   12 January 2007: Hi Anon, Kids often experiment during adolescence, it's normal. We are human and we all make mistakes! The past is the past so just be strong and forget about it! It does not make you a bad person! Looking over your shoulder at the past will hau... (read in full...)

Do I tell my wife I kissed the girl from work?

Q.   I have got myself into a dilemma that is eating me up inside. I have been married for nearly 2 years and we are very happy together. we have been through a lot lately with house moves and both had problems at work, so we have been stressed but have ...

A.   12 January 2007: Hi Anon, There are some mistakes that we need to take to the grave and this little one seems to be one of those. You sound very guilty & remorseful about the incident and I guess this is your punishment. No need to create waves in your stable r... (read in full...)

She split, said she wasn't seeing anyone, then phoned 3 weeks later to say that she was. We were engaged! Is there still a chance for us?

Q.   hi my girlfriend and i were together for nearly seven years,she is 21 and i am 26.we have been engaged for nearly 3years and we brought our first house together in august 2005 and everything seemed to be going well,then the end of november she ...

A.   11 January 2007: Hi Kev, I sympathise with you! This is not an easy period in any person’s life. Dealing with loosing your partner when they leave is sometimes harder than dealing with your partner dying as you don’t know why! The grieving process is the same. I’v... (read in full...)

He became a sex-machine after he proposed... huh?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been with my BF for 9 years now and I recently hinted that I am now over my cold feet and am ready to get engaged. I just wondered why is it that sex has changed between us since I put that thought in his head?? He is now way ...

A.   11 January 2007: Hi Anon, So what's the problem? Don'tyou prefer the sex this way! It's probably that he now really feels that you've commited to him and he can really relax and be intimate! You should be pleased, just enjoy don't ask why? Cheers Dagwood... (read in full...)

He's stopped drinking at the furry cup!

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now. The thing is, he has completely stopped giving me oral, which i absolutely love and dont think i want a relationship where theres no chance of it. He did right at the beginning of when we ...

A.   10 January 2007: Hi Anon, Buy him a book called; "She comes First" by Ian Kerner. You can download it from the net. Do a google search to find it online. Then get yourself a book called; "He comes next" by the same author. Discuss the situation openly and honestly... (read in full...)

I'm afraid that I'll push him away with my insecurities!

Q.   i had a seven year relationship that ended due to his cheating. im with someone else now who had a similar relationship with his ex girlfriend. how do i stop myself thinking he will do the same as my ex? i love him very much but im scared i will ...

A.   10 January 2007: Hi Anon, Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. Tell him about your past experiences and your fears, be honest. Did he cheat in his previous relationship or was it his girlfriend? Don't constantly worry about him cheating or e... (read in full...)

In a love triangle with her and her ex bf! Is this worth it?

Q.   I have to fight for her love, I'm in a Love triangle with her and her ex. but she wants me not to give up on her. Sometime times i feel like its not worth it But i do really love her. I feel like im always losing as it being her ex and the...

A.   19 December 2006: Hi Buddy, Listen, this happened to me a long time ago and it never worked out. I loved her more than anything in the world but her ex would always be waiting in the wings when she felt like she was missing him. She went back and forward for 7 mo... (read in full...)

Would it be cheating if you viewed porn and bashed the bishop?

Q.   Is enjoying porn cheating if you masturbate to it? What if you don't masturbate to it would that be considered as not cheating. ...

A.   19 December 2006: Hi, Is this for you or your boyfriend? Anyway in either case it's not cheating. Cheating is done with real live other people. As long as masturbation is not a complete substitute for sex in your relationship then it's pretty normal. If it's ... (read in full...)

Disatisfied with life. (long but worth it)

Q.   I am so confused about my marriage and lost dream, I can't focus on anything else! But, to warn you, I have cheated, my husband knows and he calls me a "classic bored housewife", even though I a very-well educated and have tried to resume studies ...

A.   19 December 2006: Dear Anon, Well the fact that you realize all these problems and write them down is a great sign! Good for you. Now that you can actually do this start working on them one by one. Maybe things will improve but I do think seeing a professi... (read in full...)

Why won't my bf go down on me anymore?

Q.   me and my bf have been going out for four years now and in the begining the sex was great but now he wont go down on me he hasnt in two years i have talked to him about it but he just gets mad so i wanted to know why he dont do it anymore?...

A.   15 December 2006: Dear Anon, Sometimes guys go off this type of thing because things down there are not the same as they used to be, maybe too hairy or a little overpowering fragrance. My suugesstion is that you wash each other during foreplay and have a good sha... (read in full...)

When we were having sex she did some anal play on me and now I feel weird about it..any thoughts?

Q.   I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time at the weekend and when she was masturbating me she put her finger in my anus. I really liked it but now i feel weird. I feel like ive done something wrong. Is it ok, i mean am i stressing about ...

A.   11 December 2006: No problem, enjoy! Maybe you can try a little on her and she might enjoy it too! The anus is a very erogenous zone. Your'e normal just relax. ... (read in full...)

Can you ever take back someone who has cheated?

Q.   What are your thoughts on cheating? It's a long story so I won't go into too much detail right now. If someone cheats and then realises they have made a terrible mistake...have taken steps to try and put things right...begging for you to take the...

A.   11 December 2006: Being cheated on really hurts! I know I’ve been there; the lady I love did it to me once! BUT you have to put these things in perspective… had she been drinking, what was the temptation, how good was your sex life etc. If you put of all the thin... (read in full...)

I can't rid myself of this self-hate! Should I see a counselor?

Q.   Mt ex split with me 18 months ago for someone else. Im over it now but I cannot stop blaming myself and feeling embarressed and ashamed of what happened. When I first got with him I knew he wasnt exactly the nicest boy in the world. But I fel...

A.   11 December 2006: There is nothing wrong with you! When we're in love we give ourselves to our partners completely. Sometimes we go a little overboard in the heat of passion as we think this will make the other person love us more! If took advantage of you and ... (read in full...)

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