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I feel like I have to nag her for any kind of intimacy... We've gone from 10 times a week to once a week, if that!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 14 months. We live together and are completely commited to eachother. In beginning, as in most relationshiops, we had a very intense sex life. However, During the first six months, we had gone from having ...
A. 2 February 2007: Hi Anon. Tough situation I feel for you! But remember no one is irreplaceable! Your feelings are important too and you can't be in a relationship that is affecting your work and your life in general. Her pushing you away has probably made you become ... (read in full...)
I find it hard to move on as I have still got hope we will get back together.Anyone been through this?
Q. Hi, this is probably going to be a bit long but i feel that it will do me good to write my feelings down and maybe get some advice from other people! Me and my ex girlfriend had been going out for over 3years. We were both young when we met (i w...
A. 1 February 2007: Hi. Well firstly sorry to hear to you're feeling so bad at the moment. Don't worry it will pass with time. She's just started at uni and made new friends and is discovering new things in life. She may still love you but the passion has gone out of ... (read in full...)
We've split and I've turned to drinking and occupying my time to cope, but nothing works! How can I stop drinking and how do I move on?
Q. Hi, I have been through a very nasty break up with my partner of more than 2 years. I am not going to go into the full story of that as I really don’t want to take much of your time, beside it is a very very sad story anyway. Basically I lov...
A. 31 January 2007: Hi Anon. Sorry to hear that you are suffering so much! I know it's very hard and I'm going through the same thing at the moment. I was dumped by my mistress of 5 years after leaving my partner of 14 years for her. I also felt I could not cope and ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't understand the effect that lack of sex is having on our marriage...
Q. I have been married for 28 years, no children, my husband didn't make love to me and this went on for 5 months with him insisting there is nothing wrong and nobody else, he did still cuddle and be affectionate though. He did go to the doc's for a ...
A. 31 January 2007: Hi Anon. I can read that you're obviously going through a very hard patch. Sex is a very important part of a relationship and this seems true for you too. Sometimes men get bored with their partners for various reasons. It could be he's just not ... (read in full...)
When I got w/ her, I ditched my mates. Now we've split and all my old mates have new lives. I'm so lonely!
Q. Hi, i know this is kind of not in the same catagory of relationship but i don't really know what to do. I split up from my 2yr g.f about a month ago and well the thing is, when i got with her i ditched my mates which was the worst thing i could do! ...
A. 29 January 2007: Hi Anon, You have all your loving family members around you so spend more time with them. If your "mates" were really your mates then they would be there to support you now in your time of need even if you ditched them when you started going out ... (read in full...)
Got a girlfriend, now an old flame wants to come visit... scared of what might happen!
Q. i have hit a big decision! i am currently in a relationship and have been for the past 4 months. i love my girlfriend with all my heart and have never once in my life before been disloyal to a partner. recently, an old friend of mine got back in ...
A. 29 January 2007: The advice given by Shandy Pop & CD is spot on! Don't do it! If you go through with this then you obviously don't love your girlfriend. If you can't stop yourself doing it then tell your girlfriend before! Don't be a cheat; it will catch up with ... (read in full...)
She broke off with me and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. Any advice?
Q. Hi,I hope you can help me with this. I built up a dream and my love around this girl I meet two years ago. Things were good on those early months, then she started to show her true character after 6 months or so… She started her demands after de...
A. 29 January 2007: Hi Anon. Sorry to hear this buddy, it sounds like you have the love blues really badly. Don't worry so do I and many people out there, it's normal after a break-up! The thing is; why did you want to stay in the relationship for so long even though ... (read in full...)
My bfs obsession with fat porn is killing our relationship!!
Q. My boyfriend has an obsession with fat porn! We have been dating for 18 months and it makes me feel worthless. I am a curvy woman and i now question his original motives. I have talked to him about it openly and it hasn't done any good. I love him...
A. 29 January 2007: I agree with Shandy Pop. You're obviously not happy with the situation so sit him down and talk! Communication is a wonderful thing. Don't rush in and do anything rash as suggested by Aunty Lin (Sorry Aunty Lin, nothing personal) as you do love him ... (read in full...)
She wants to be with me and I want to be with her but her boyfriend found out and beat her up! Should I still go for it?
Q. hi, i have a freind i have only known for about a year, he's 39 (im 21) we met when we started work in the same bar. he started bringing his girlfreind (37) to work on saturday nights and after a few months his girlfreind asked me for my number. i ...
A. 29 January 2007: Hi, I would approach this with extreme caution. This lady obviously has issues if she decides to remain in an abusive relationship and is asking you to tell him it was a joke after he beat her up! These will probably surface in the relationship if ... (read in full...)
She dumped me yet owes me £30,000!!! How could she do it knowing she won't be able to pay her bills now?
Q. just before xmas my partner of 7 years dumped me,ever since i have known her she has struggled for money,her dad died 4 years ago and this had a devastating effect on her,her spending since then has spirraled out of control she now owes £30000 wiyh ...
A. 23 January 2007: Hi. Financial problems are one of the biggest causes of divorce. They put extreme pressure on people, which may cause them to act out of character. If you love her, support her. I suggest you discuss the problem with her openly and help her make ... (read in full...)
How do I get over her but remain friends?
Q. hey guys thanks for the help so far. you guys are amazing. in my current situation, i was with a girl for almost 2 years. if we werent hanging out, we were talking (24/7). however we were never "official" bf/gf. i was the one always saying were just ...
A. 23 January 2007: Hi. I know what you're going through… it's not easy. The fact that you did not commit during the 2 years probably had something to do with her interest level dropping to below a certain % where she became strong enough to let herself become ... (read in full...)
I confessed to my friend that I kissed her stepdad. She hasn't brought it up since - should I ask her if we're still going on holiday together?
Q. Right this is a long story but here goes... I am 16 and i have been really naughty. On new years eve i snogged a mates stepdad (he 25 her mum 32), then the following saturday i slept wiv him. On new year eve a friend saw us kissing and thretene...
A. 22 January 2007: Hi Anon. I think the £600 is the last thing you should be worried about! Here you are getting involved with a married man at 16. To top it all he's your friends’ step dad! Stop and think for a minute honey! What you're doing is wrong. You've already ... (read in full...)
Another guy walked in on us having sex and joined in. I told him to leave and he wouldn't! Is this rape?
Q. Ok. i have been thinking. I went to a bar a while ago and eneded up going home with a guy i knew of from high school. well we were having sex and another guy popped in and began messing with me as well. I didnt want this other guy there at all. but ...
A. 22 January 2007: If he did this without your consent and took advantage of you being drunk while having sex with his friend then it's wrong. At the very least this would be considered as sexual harassment or rape if he actually penetrated you. Why did this "other ... (read in full...)
My g/f is ignoring me and changed her myspace profile to private! Why?
Q. Why is she ignoring me? I posted a similar question up a little while ago about my girlfriend not replying to texts. Now it seems to have gotten worse! I texted her on Tuesday and got replies. I then texted on Wednesday but got no reply. I th...
A. 22 January 2007: Hi. Sorry mate but it seems her interest level has dropped below 50% and she no longer wants to be with you. This is tough and we all go through this in relationships. They are always a risk. I suggest you stop all contact with her! You can't need ... (read in full...)
I love him like a brother, not a partner! What should I do?
Q. hi, i split up with my partner of 10 years 6 months ago in that time we both have had another relationship. but 2 months ago i thought i had made a terrible mistake and asked him to come back. i dont want to break his heart again but i feel as ...
A. 22 January 2007: Hi Jojo. What you're saying is that the passion has gone out of the relationship, right? Sometimes passion in relationships does go through highs and lows, sometimes it comes back but sometimes it doesn’t. You say love him like a brother, I guess ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent myself from obsessing over him?
Q. Hi Guys Im in such a dilemma. I broke up with my ex, because he is getting married to the woman he made pregnant. When we dated he told me she was an ex, but later found out she was pregnant by his baby. The problem now is that I cant seem to get...
A. 22 January 2007: Jovial is right. Forget about this man! He's made it clear that he's going to marry someone else and have a child with this person. Knowing the lady will not change anything. Trying to find out more information about him or his friends will just ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy about her but she's married! She says she feels 'something' but is commited to her marrige. What can I do?
Q. I'm a single guy in my thirties. Last year i met this great woman at a place i don't go to very often. I asked her out as i thought she was lovely and amazing. She refused as she's married. A couple of months ago, i met with her again at the s...
A. 19 January 2007: If you love her then you'll respect her wishes. She’s committed to her marriage so leave her alone. You'll get over it! If you pursue her you might have an affair but it will all end in tears. ... (read in full...)
My partner has lost her sex drive and I think she's getting too close to her friend.I don't know what to do. Please help me.
Q. I need a little advice. I have been with my partner for almost 6 years, we got married last summer and I have always believed it was the best thing ever. However things have been a little odd lately. She seems to have lost her sex drive entirely...
A. 19 January 2007: Hi Anon. Sorry to say this but it seems her interest level has dropped. It's natural that not having sex is frustrating, we're human and we need the intimacy making love gives us. Was the sex great before? Did it slowly get worse? Has your ... (read in full...)
At first things were great, but now it feels like I don't matter anymore. Why has he changed towards me?
Q. i've been with my long distance boyfriend for over a year now. Dispite the distance, at first things were great. He made me feel so wanted and loved..which before was something I didn't think i'd ever feel.But now things seem to have changed so ...
A. 19 January 2007: Hi Anon. Relationships need nurturing. The desire has to be kept by both parties. This is hard to do even when you live together so a long distance relationship makes it even more difficult. Ask him why he’s distant but don’t be pushy, handle it ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he's stopped calling?
Q. should i be worried that my boyfriend hasnt been calling me? he usually calls almost everyday i know hes been stressed lately but is that an excuse for not calling for several days? ive tried calling him and theres no answer so i leave a message ...
A. 19 January 2007: Hi. Well things don't seem to be going to well do they? There are a number of reasons that he might be doing this... however if you knwo he's safe and has not been hurt or something then he's probably thinking about the relationship. My suggestion ... (read in full...)
Confused about my three men...
Q. I had been dating a man James for a time and things went wrong we met again and told me he wuld like to be with me if I stayed in town, told me not to worry as he had a nice job so that if I couldn't get a cool job here he would be supportive and ...
A. 19 January 2007: Hi Astrid, Sorry to see you're in such a mess but it's not too difficult to get out of this situation. I think you should step out of all the relationships. Take a hard look as to what it is you're looking for in life and love. Spend sometime alone. ... (read in full...)
My guy on the side makes me feel special even though he only wants to have sex with me in the car. What should I do?
Q. I am having a affiar with a 26 year old man. He has a girlfriend and two kids. I have a bf of 3 years i luv him to bits, but he doesnt make me feel special any more and the 26 year old does. Even tho he is just wantin sex i still enjoy being with...
A. 18 January 2007: Hi Anon. Sorry to say so but he's using you for sex. Get out of the relationship now. It's already making you feel cheap and continuing this affair will only make things worse. I don't understand how you can say you love your boyfriend to bits! If ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my drunken cheating?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, i love him very much but iv cheated on him a few times all of them have been drunken mistakes, but i jus cant seem to stop doin it. i only told him about one kiss and he seemed ok with it but this was ...
A. 18 January 2007: Are you just kissing a few other guys or are we talking full blown sex? Anyway in either case you simply can't cheat on your boyfriend! You say you've done this a few times when you're drunk! Not a good excuse I'm afraid. If you really loved this ... (read in full...)
Can guys sleep with girls and not get emotionally attached?
Q. I have been sleeping with a guy whos one of my friends, its been going on for a few months now, most weekends that we go out together he ends up at my house. At first i was ok about it, because i had just come out of a long relationship and it was ...
A. 17 January 2007: Hi Anon, Yes guys can sleep with woman without being emotionally attached but obviously this depends on the guy. If he has comes to terms with thinking like a man and not like a male then he would not do it! Off course people do have casual sex as ... (read in full...)
How do I stop having a crush on my husband's cousin - I'm not sure how I'll act once I've had a drink around him!
Q. I'm just really looking for some advice. I'n not sure whether I am in love with my husbands cousin or whether it's just a schoolgirl like crush on him. I have only been married to my husband for almost a year and have a young daughter, but I ...
A. 17 January 2007: As CD206 says it sounds like just a crush! If you want to stop these feelings then the best solution is to be more affectionate with your husband! Kiss him in front of his cousin, hold his hand, hug him and tell him how much you love him. Keep doing ... (read in full...)
Would this stop you from marrying her?
Q. Open question would you date a young lady who does oral sex once in her past,would you make her be your wife or girlfrend. Would you date her...
A. 16 January 2007: Well when you marry or want a relationship with someone it's because you're attracted too them and love them. Everyone has a past. Basically it all depends on your personal values. If this is going to effect you then don't do it but a young lady who ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is being really distant. I've told her I feel forgotten but nothing much has changed. Should I give her a taste of her own medicine?
Q. Okay so my girlfriend has been home for the past month due to Christmas break. She and I have been dating for almost a year. I truly love this girl but since she's been gone she's been very distant. She doesn't call and when I'm lucky enough to ...
A. 16 January 2007: Well I suggest you be strong and don't call her. She obviously has some issue right now and giving her the space (at least 2 weeks) will show that you're confident and secure with yourself and that you desire her to be in your life but don't need ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend fouund out I chaeted on him with my ex, I'm afraid he might dump me. I need a solution quick!
Q. I have lied to my boyfriend about not having sex with my ex as i was afraid that he would dump me. Right now, he has found out somehow and i need a solution to make up for this big mistake or he'll never come back to me. Please help me with the huge ...
A. 16 January 2007: Hi Anon, Well just read the 2nd part to your story! It's no so bad after all! If this happened before you 2 got together then your current boyfriend can't say anything! You had no commitment to each other so you were not unfaithful. The fact that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want sex anymore, and whenever I make an effort to look good for him he has negative things to say. Should I leave him?
Q. Hi I'm writing because I'm very, very unhappy in my relationship!he won't have sex with me!! in two months!!! and I don't want to cheat should I stay or leave him? I've been with my partner now for two year when we met he said that he wanted to ...
A. 16 January 2007: Hi Anon, Not good news I'm afraid! Nobody should be disrespectful to anyone especialy their partner and he seems to be verbally abusive! Hopefully he's not physically abusive! This is besides the fact that he no longer wants to have sex with you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend fouund out I chaeted on him with my ex, I'm afraid he might dump me. I need a solution quick!
Q. I have lied to my boyfriend about not having sex with my ex as i was afraid that he would dump me. Right now, he has found out somehow and i need a solution to make up for this big mistake or he'll never come back to me. Please help me with the huge ...
A. 16 January 2007: Hi Anon. Seem to have got yourself into a pickle! If he knows about it then there is no magic bullet to avoid the issue. You've done something wrong now you have to face up to your responsibilities! Tell him what you did and try explaining why you ... (read in full...)
He blows hot and cold!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now.We live in the same house and are getting married. My question is Why does he not seem to care how I feel at times and other times he can be so sweet? I am not sure how to read him....
A. 16 January 2007: Well this is a real difficult question to answer without knowing the guy! You seem to be pretty serious about each other if you've already planned to be married. Was this a mutual decision or did he ask you? Have you set a date? I ask this as he ... (read in full...)
I am stuck here in our apartment with someone who I don't think wants to be with me...
Q. I have been dating this guy for over a year and a half.. everything was going fine and he asked me to move in with him because he was going to law school and I was going to college. We have been living together for about 6 months now and he is ...
A. 15 January 2007: Wow that sucks! I guess you want to get off the planet! Anyway thats not possible but moving out is an option. Tell him how you feel and that you are going to make plans to move out as you sense that he no longer loves you. It's probably better to ... (read in full...)
Dumped by a guy I was obssessed over and having trouble moving on! What should I do?
Q. Please help me. I was dumped by my boyfriend, who i was basically obsessed with, just before Christmas. It wasnt a healthy relationship as he had all the power, but i thought he was perfect and still do. I went on a two week, amazing holiday with ...
A. 15 January 2007: Hi Anon, Yup this is a tough time! I know how you feel, all hollow inside and like you'll never be happy again. Don't woryy you'll be fine. Go to this website: http://www.coping.org/ it has great info on how to handle break-ups and also how to have ... (read in full...)
My ex emailed me to ask if I'm "better about things with us now." What should I say?
Q. Okay, please please help. Boyfrend has recently dumped me, I begged him to change his mind but he wouldnt. Cried loads and everything but he said it wasnt right, he was almost convinced that we dont have a long term future together. He then said we ...
A. 15 January 2007: Hi Anon,
I agree 100% with what Stina says. He might be feeling guilty or just need his ego boosted as he's not getting a positive response from someone else he's trying to attract.From personal experience I think you should have no contact ... (read in full...)
My tarot card said I'd get caught if I kept seeing these two boys! Who should I choose?
Q. I'm seeing two guys. One is my boyfriend, one is getting close to becoming the same. I've met both of their parents, all their friends, and like them both very much. I know this can't last forever, and the more serious I become with them both, the ...
A. 15 January 2007: Dear Mella,
Firstly the situation is not fair to either of the guys so you should stop immediately! You can't mess with people like this. I don't support the use of tarot cards but in this case they are correct; you will get caught! But that's b... (read in full...)
My tarot card said I'd get caught if I kept seeing these two boys! Who should I choose?
Q. I'm seeing two guys. One is my boyfriend, one is getting close to becoming the same. I've met both of their parents, all their friends, and like them both very much. I know this can't last forever, and the more serious I become with them both, the ...
A. 15 January 2007: Dear Mella,
Firstly the situation is not fair to either of the guys so you should stop immediately! You can't mess with people like this. I don't support the use of tarot cards but in this case they are correct; you will get caught! But that's b... (read in full...)
First kiss was so awkward
Q. Hello everyone. I have a major crisis on my hands. My ex and I got back together just over a week ago and I guess were going out. Last night we had a date and besides never doing anything with a guy not even kissing one, we made out. It was so ...
A. 15 January 2007: Well it's pretty normal to feel awkward after your first intimate experience, he probably feels the same way! It might feel like a major crisis but it's not so don't over react.
It's not the relationship but maybe you're moving things a little t... (read in full...)
We've been married 13 years and I can't stop cheating on her!
Q. Hi im 31 male, been married 13 years have two great kids, i cant stop cheating on my wife, she cheated on me before we had kids. im not paying her back. i just cannot stop cheating, i love her in some way, but sex is not there between us. should i ...
A. 15 January 2007: Well you sound just like I used to be! I was in a 14 year relationship that was very comfortable, full of material crap but platonic... no highs and lows and no sex for 7 years! Luckily we had no kids. I don't know what happened but my partner just ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend to shave off his pubes?
Q. GUYS! do you shave your pubes? whenever i give my boyfriend a bj i get a lot of hairs in my mouth. i said he should shave but i was kidding. should i tell him to for real? i just want to know if he is just extra hairy or what?...
A. 15 January 2007: Hi,
I'm a guy and I trim my pubes a regulary just to keep everything nice and tidy. A good brushing now and then also makes sure all stray pubes are removed and don't get in the wrong places. Just ask your boyfriend, as Lilly says, during fore... (read in full...)
Like A Virgin?
Q. will my bf know im a virgin? i told him i had a one night stand a few months ago, thas how i lost my viginity however i was lieing...
A. 14 January 2007: Hi Anon,
I've had two girlfriends who did this to me in the past and to be honest I wish I'd known they wre virgins. They pretended to be experienced lovers and the love making was quite awkward as I felt they wre not comfotable. I only learnt afte... (read in full...)
Mom Caught me with sisters hubby!
Q. my mom saw me with my sisters hubby this happened by surprising me 4 brunch. she saw me with a mouthful. she said she wouldn't tell but expects he and i to do the right thing. he wants 2 tell her but we only did it once and only head. so?...
A. 14 January 2007: Dear Anon,
Well this is a bi mistake and I see everyone else telling you the same thing! Too late to cry over spilt milk but maybe not too late to save your sisters marriage if it's worth saving.
You have to ask yourself; why did he do this with... (read in full...)
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