I poured my frustration out on my LD boyfriend and he left me, is this repairable and what would be the best action to take?
Q. been with my now ex boyfriend for about 5 years.. he lives in Canada and me in the states a long distance relationship. He is 29 and I am 27 We had an overall close relationship and i even lived with him for a year and it was the best expe...
A. 29 August 2008: I'm going to admit I really don't use the online messengers, so I'll say do whatever you would normally do if one of your regular friends were online. Maybe say hi and just see if he says hi back. If he doesn't don't jump to conclusions. He could be ... (read in full...)
I think I missed out when I was a teenager, so I broke up with her. Will I regret this?
Q. Recently me and my girlfriend broke-up, just a few days ago in fact. We'd been going out for about 6 months, she's my best friend and we do love each other. Without sounding bigheaded, she's head-over-heels in love with me. We get on really w...
A. 28 August 2008: It's not petty for you to want to experience all the good and fun things that only a young, single person can. It's very natural, but it is silly to think less of yourself for not having a string of bad relationships in your past.
For all her expe... (read in full...)
Why do players always come out on top?
Q. What is it with guys??? I ended it with a manipulative, compulsive liar 8 months ago, and we hung out as mates up until june because our children were bezzie mates. It drove me nuts and I despised him. He turned nasty one night, and that was the ...
A. 28 August 2008: Players come out on top because they aren't afraid to go after what they want. They aren't worried about what everyone else thinks or if they'll hurt other people's feelings. They take care of number one. Be glad you're rid of him and don't waste ... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 28 August 2008: If you already talked to her about this, and she has denied it, why don't you believe her? She's either the kind of person that "huns" and "babes" everyone or she isn't. You seemed to indicate that she was not and that these were endearments special ... (read in full...)
I just don't understand why he is avoiding me! It's dissapointing!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in June. I loved him so much and he loved me and I think we broke up over a misunderstanding - it was a stressful time for the both of us and a lot of miscommunication and hurt feelings. I was the first to hurt hi...
A. 28 August 2008: Take the high road and send his things to him. If he wants to talk to you then he'll call to thank you or acknowledge receipt. It's clear enough that you want to talk.
You were hurt and called too much after the break up. He probably doesn't ... (read in full...)
Am I asumming too much with this guy?
Q. I had a guy come into my workplace to sell an up to date photocopier. I must admit I thought he was good looking. He did the usual body language, shaking hands and turning his body towards me. I told him I would be on holiday for a week and i...
A. 28 August 2008: I started in sales right out of high school and worked as a manager and a trainer for many years. The quotes you mentioned are over used industry niceties and do not mean anything more than he is a typical sales guy. The touch to his mouth may also ... (read in full...)
I think I'm becoming too attached to her, and I barely know her!
Q. Hi, I've been chatting with this girl I'm going to meet Fresher's Week and started a little flirting. Then I wrote a piece of music for her (you must have seen the question). In my last email to her I asked how old she was (we both like the same...
A. 28 August 2008: Patience! It's so easy to get into a panic when you put yourself out there and then don't get a response right away. It's not time to worry yet. You're right that a lot of people don't check e-mails every day, and you know it's summer and like a ... (read in full...)
Wasting money on birth controle because my partner is no longer as interested in sex!...
Q. me and my bf of 3yrs have a 1yr old. He still slaps my butt and feels me up but gives me nothing in bed. For the past year and a half sex is only once a month, maybe!!! . I'm angry . I have to tell him I want it !! but all he does is dry hump me ...
A. 28 August 2008: There's nothing wrong with you. It's him. He might be tired and stressed. Having a baby is exhausting and can affect people differently. Sex may simply be less important to him during this period, or he may have larger issues. You need to make time ... (read in full...)
How do I make the best impression when I see her again?
Q. Hello, I posted recently about how to flirt with this girl who I will meet at freshers' week in university. I started being flirty with her and she thanked me and said I was being very sweet. Also, I have given her a "gift" - I came up with an ...
A. 28 August 2008: When I met my last boyfriend, he was very interested in me and I had absolutely no interest in him for exactly the reason you fear this girl's rejection. He was overweight and I had never been with anyone overweight. Later, a mutual friend ... (read in full...)
How do I turn down my feelings for a business partner without changing our relationship?
Q. I'm married with children and have strong feelings for a guy who is 21 years younger than me! It's awful and I can't get him out of my head. I've never felt like this before. I could never act on my feelings or let him or anyone know so it's bot...
A. 28 August 2008: My guess is that you are entering that time of life when a woman reaches her sexual peak. Your hormones are raging much like those of a teenage boy and this younger man represents a healthy, virile alpha male. Try refocusing these energies o... (read in full...)
What am I to him?
Q. I know you have all given me great advice and I am getting help and getting closer but need some more opinions please! The guy I am seeing has allowed his 11yr old to interfere with our relationship - he never reprimands her or talks to her abo...
A. 28 August 2008: I'm sorry to say this, but this man is never going to show you the love and respect that you deserve. You're the best woman he has available to him and he wants to keep you around until he finds someone better. I suggest you take the same attitude ... (read in full...)
My husband called out our 16 month old daughter's name during sex!
Q. What does it mean when my husband called out our 16 month old daughter's name during sex? My husband and I have a 16 month old daughter. During sex, he called out her name by accident instead of my name, saying, "Oh-----------, I love you!" ...
A. 28 August 2008: I understand why this is creeping you out so badly, but try to put it out of your mind. I know, when I get very emotional, I sometimes call people by the wrong name. I do it because that person has become associated with a particular emotional ... (read in full...)
I told a serious lie four years ago to make friends, now I'm concerned they'll find out about it!
Q. Okay Basically when i started year 7 i found it hard to make friends. I told a serious lie at the time thinking it would make me more liked and get me more attention. I really regret it now. I am now going into year 11, and my closest friends still ...
A. 28 August 2008: Your friends and your cousin care about you. You aren't saying what the lie is, but as it was so long ago it shouldn't matter. People are often awkward and afraid and that makes us say and do stupid things we regret. You are young, but not too young ... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends?
Q. hey everybody. I had this friend whom I REALLY liked. He had a great personality and we had a lot in common. Almost everything in common. We would talk on a fairly consistent basis about mostly everything. He was so nice to me. I have been to his ...
A. 28 August 2008: Why did you stop talking in the first place? If you just lost touch because he started a new relationship, that's just normal. You can still call him and resume that friendship. He might be wondering what happened to you. Just be clear in your heart ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving to the States and I don't know if I can trust him when he goes
Q. my boyfriend of 8 months is planning on going to uni in the states early next year.he wants me to wait but i dont know if i want to.not coz i dont want to be with him but i dont trust him as he was in a relationship when we met and when he goes over ...
A. 28 August 2008: He isn't gone yet, and you can't stop him from doing whatever it is he intends to do. Jealousy is a mark of insecurity and that's unattractive. Your continued suspicions and worry will drive him away from you and into another woman's arms regardless ... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 28 August 2008: Do yourself the favor of confronting her. Don't continue to torture yourself. Your gut and her texts are telling you that something isn't right. You won't feel better until you do. Isn't it better to know?... (read in full...)
My wife left me, but now she wants to try again. I am torn between giving it another shot with her and this new girl I am nuts for.
Q. This is long so I appreciate anyone who reads it. I am 47 and married with a 7 year old son. I work as a senior manager and have lots of people who work for me. About a year ago a 24 year old came to work with the company, I'll call her T. She is ...
A. 28 August 2008: You and your wife had problems. People cheat because they are not satisfied in their current relationship. Don't let her use you as her fall back guy. You love your son and you don't want him to grow up learning about unhealthy relationships. It's ... (read in full...)
How to observe my hymen? Confused!
Q. Hi all, I am a 2 virgin and about to get married soon. The problem is, I cannot find my vaginal opening! When I use a mirror to find it, I can see only a pink membrane - maybe the hymen. I'm sure my hymen is not completely closed since my menstru...
A. 28 August 2008: It is very unlikely that you have a hymen. The hymen naturally breaks as you age due to physical activity. Occasionally, a girl will have a particularly thick hymen and will require a doctor's assistance to break it. In that case, only partial ... (read in full...)
I poured my frustration out on my LD boyfriend and he left me, is this repairable and what would be the best action to take?
Q. been with my now ex boyfriend for about 5 years.. he lives in Canada and me in the states a long distance relationship. He is 29 and I am 27 We had an overall close relationship and i even lived with him for a year and it was the best expe...
A. 28 August 2008: You messed up and you know it, but he still seems open to you. Don't do it again. You can salvage this relationship by becoming a giver and being patient. Continue working on yourself. It's very important to offer him a person he can respect and ... (read in full...)
Can my friendship with him survive? He helped me see that sex can be about love after childhood abuse.
Q. I am 22 years old and when I was 9, I was sexually abused. It took me 13 and a half years to mention it to a very good friend of mine. He is in his late fifties and married with 2 kids in their twenties. We've been meeting up in secret and we've ...
A. 28 August 2008: Sex and the feelings surrounding sex are difficult for all of us at times. You have it particularly tough because of your early exposure to the abusive, ugly side of sex. If you feel in any way healed by the relationship you had with this man that ... (read in full...)
I cheated and don't know what to do
Q. i cheated on my bf of 3 years , after months of his addiction to internet porn, Live web cam teen age girls , not just actors and sctresses. Not sure what to do because I really do care about him....
A. 28 August 2008: Confession eases the soul of the confessor, but this will really hurt him. Don't bother telling him unless he needs to know - like if you were unsafe or want to leave for this guy. It's a shame you couldn't talk to him about your feelings before ... (read in full...)
Help! Very troubled relationship here, and there is a baby involved.
Q. Hello I'm in a little bit of bind and if someone could help me I would grealty appriciate it! Here is my situation..... I have 2 children with my ex and a baby with my current boyfriend/fiance. My bf is a great guy but he only thinks of him se...
A. 28 August 2008: You know exactly what you have to do here, get out. You have things you want to do before you settle into a committed relationship, and this guy doesn't even sound very committed. A woman with children needs to be with a man that can accept those ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you are going to urinate or ejaculate?
Q. How can you tell if you are going th ouinate or ejaculate?...
A. 28 August 2008: When you are hard and feeling very good like you might ejaculate, then that's what is going to happen. Your body makes it nearly impossible to urinate with an erect penis. You really have to try for that to happen (like in the a.m.)
This is also ... (read in full...)
I don't think things are good with him and his new girlfriend. Would it be ok to step in and see?
Q. This guy I've liked for a long time has a girlfriend and they've been going together for about six weeks. It seems that they are having alot of relationship problems and he is looking for me. I backed off completely when they became committed - I ...
A. 28 August 2008: You need to put yourself first. If the man you care about is looking for you, let him find you. Be there for him as a friend, but be on guard against becoming his back-up girlfriend. No one deserves to be number 2. ... (read in full...)
Is this a coincidence or is he using me just to one up his ex?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me and I was shocked but kind of happy about it, then a week later I found out that his ex girlfriend had been engaged a few weeks before him and i, and he was still talking to her, but not in an acceptable way. A month a...
A. 28 August 2008: It's not usual to feel a little jealous when people around you are experiencing happy life changes. Often, we look for ways to share in their joy and try to find ways to bring a similar happiness into our own lives. Getting married is serio... (read in full...)
Could I possibly be pregnant from this first relation?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I had sex for the first time 3 weeks ago, at age 29, with a friend of a friend I´ve met before. It was a one night stand, we used condom, but I was on my pill break (one day without the pill). On the next day, my period c...
A. 28 August 2008: You know bleeding generally means not pregnant, and if you used a condom, it's highly unlikely. If you're bleeding at the wrong time, you should be talking to your doctor about possible side effects of the pill you're taking and you might want to ... (read in full...)
I need a major pep talk! This break up means I can't sleep, can't eat, can't concentrate. Help me PLEASE!
Q. Well, I haven't heard from my ex since Sunday night when she called looking for her things. She drunk dialed me the night before, but I didn't answer it. When I dropped off her things Sunday evening I asked her if she had called me the night be...
A. 28 August 2008: She has to be trying very hard to get over this relationship. Don't begrudge her any comfort or the welcome distraction. You need them too. You're both hurting, but you are two different people who are going to handle the situation differently. ... (read in full...)
This liar at work keeps putting the blame on me! How do I stand up to her?
Q. One of my colleagues at work is a persistant and convincing liar and constantly puts the wrap for things that go wrong on me. I am not very good at confrontation and i can feel my nerves going and heart racing when this is happening, the manager is ...
A. 28 August 2008: Your position is difficult because this woman is both senior to you and has a personal relationship with your boss. If you aren't willing to be forced out of your position, and you shouldn't be, you'll have to find a way to reveal her true nature. I ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and seem to have lost my sex drive, it's been 5 months since I changed, how can I fix this?
Q. im 22 and have lost my sex drive, it has been about 5 months since i have really wanted to have sex with my boyfriend. i used to have an amazing sex drive but its just gone. its not my boyfriend he has been amazing through it all and i do love him ...
A. 28 August 2008: There are a lot of reasons this could be happening not the least of which are medical. You want to rule those out by checking with your doctor. Be sure to discuss all of your symptoms if anything else is hurting or bothering you no matter how ... (read in full...)
I need major feedback for this job interview I have tomorrow!
Q. Big interview tomorrow ! I need major feedback, please: What are the top things to remember when going into a job interview? Not as an employer, but as a potential employee. ...
A. 28 August 2008: I was a manager for 10 years and you're getting some good advice from the others here.
Interviewers look for you to dominate the interview. They have to ask the same questions and review the same information over and over again. Candidat... (read in full...)
I've been told that my colleague I was dating answered to personal questions about us at the office and encouraged the banter. I'm so hurt now!
Q. Another day another problem thats how my life seems at the moment....was seeing a guy at work and now found out he has been letting guys take the piss out of me...lauging when they was saying to him...she loves you she wants to have your ...
A. 28 August 2008: Guys are horrible with each other. They can attack each other in ways that women find vicious and somehow laugh it off and stay friends. This is different from that because this was at work and it was totally inappropriate of all involved. He and ... (read in full...)
She sees me as a friend, but is there any way to become "her type"?
Q. ok well maybe being a bad boy isint the way to go, BUT shes really really big on trust and if you lose it youll never get it back. i wrote her a song and she said tht she liked it, BUT she still sees me as a freind, is there any way for me 2 beco...
A. 28 August 2008: Hang in there. Don't rush head first into an obsession. Be happy that this girl sees you as friend, because good friends are hard to find. Don't worry about being her type. There is no such thing as type. Either you click or you don't. Girls that ... (read in full...)
I think he's not attracted to me anymore. What can I do to change this?
Q. i dont feel loved by my boyfriend any more.he doesnt show me any affection ..he says he loves but doesnt show it.i want to make him attracted to me again but i dont know how..please help.....
A. 28 August 2008: Only the two of you really know what the problem is. Think back to when you first met. What were some of the things he liked most about you? Have you changed? Has he?
Don't forget that people are animals. Men naturally lose interest over time in ... (read in full...)
I hav been chatting with this guy and would like to meet him, but I am wondering, if my financial status would make a difference in whether he would like me or not, what do you think?
Q. i just would like to ask a general question and get some input of what other people think.when you are getting to know someone,how important do you think financial status is in deciding whether to seriously date that person? i live in a poor are...
A. 28 August 2008: As long as you are stable, supporting yourself and your kids, I don't think how much money you earn should be a man's concern. You are a young woman who has already accomplished a great deal. Who do you have to measure up to? You should be doing the ... (read in full...)
I don't understand what he wants and his behavior is hurting me. Is he playing with me?
Q. I am a married woman that cheated the husband for the first time with this guy(36 yrs old) I have been talking to for 7 months. During the 7 months he called me every single day and our conversations lasted more than 1 hour in average. We had sex ...
A. 28 August 2008: This guy sounds very aggressive. First, he woos you, all the while he's pumping up his ego by keeping you at arms length and breaking your dates. Then when you refuse to continue playing his game, he decides to try and scare you. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a friend's ex?
Q. I have an old friend that I lost touch with approx 9 years ago (I have to add that we weren’t best friends but hung out occasionally but friends just the same). I recently met a guy and surprisingly enough he is her soon to be ex-husband. I had only ...
A. 28 August 2008: It sounds like 2 of your friends have some issues, while you seem to have hit the jackpot. This is so great for you! Why even question it? Your friend is back in your life and you get to start an entirely new relationship with this man. If she isn't ... (read in full...)
How do I get over someone that I have to talk to every day on the phone for work purposes?
Q. Long distance relationships don't work. I know that. I have to talk to this woman daily for work purposes but it got personal after hours about 2 months ago. We have very little in common yet get along great. Until about 2 weeks ago. The phone ...
A. 28 August 2008: Women talk to get things out of their system. I mean, we'll beat a dead horse for days, so my first reaction to this is that this woman needed you back when things got personal, but might now realize it wasn't a good idea. Instead of apologizing, ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and in love with a married man!
Q. hi, im 16 and i joined the police explorers group about a year ago. In like November of 2007, i noticed was growing more and more attracted to the police officer in charge of our group. I had knee surgery that spring, and he saw a picture of my knee ...
A. 27 August 2008: Your friends should not laugh at you. You have a real problem. Obviously, you have real respect for authority and a good sense of right and wrong or you wouldn't have joined the explorers. The man, the married policeman in charge of your class, did ... (read in full...)
Should I keep waiting for my soul-mate? He needs to get his finances straight to divorce.
Q. okay, i am 21, not ure normal 21 year old. I dont go out, i stay focused with work and school. I just got out aof a reallly bad relationship. And i was working, and i felt so empty. thats when he walked in, the love of my life. I didnt know him at ...
A. 27 August 2008: The issue that might be a real concern is that both of you are meeting each other at the vulnerable time of getting out of bad relationships. If he had loved his wife, he couldn't have come to love you, so this is not really a question of morality. ... (read in full...)
He wants "a bit of fun" now and then but I've never interacted with a bloke before and am worried it shows!
Q. Ok, I am imterested in this guy at work who has told me he just wants a bit of fun now and again, the problem is I have never had any interaction with a bloke and I don't want him to know, how can I become more confident or come across more ...
A. 27 August 2008: First, please ask yourself if you really want to be someone's bit of fun. If you really do, then you have nothing to worry about here. Everyone starts out having an idea of what sex should be like. Most of us find it's nothing like what we imagined, ... (read in full...)
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