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Hello, My name is Cindy, I live on the East Coast, USA, I am 34 years old and have a 10 year old daughter. I work for a surgeons office here in Virginia.

I have recently found this site and was amazed at the thousands of questions and responses and advice coming from all over this world. I only use my own personal experiences with some common sense and a lot of TLC when responding to the people on this website.

I love to read and listen to music. I enjoy going to baseball games, and watching college basketball. Spending time with my daughter, who seems to be growing up too fast. I enjoy cooking and my favourite household chore is laundry!

I hope you stop by and say hello.

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My boyfriend wants sex but I'm only 12!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been going out for three months but his sister says he says he wants sex. The problem is i'm only 12! I just turned 12 this month and he's turning 13 in April we love each other so much that i don't know what to do, so i ...

A.   2 April 2008: My dear, I see your age and I am telling you as much as you dont want to hear this answer, I am telling you not to do it. You will regret it. You are so young. Just 2 years younger then my daughter. I cant imagine her having to make this choice ... (read in full...)

I'm scared she's going to break my heart...

Q.   I've been in a relationship for 6 months now and I'd really appreciate some opinions as I feel I'm reaching a crossroads. The first four months were amazing, full of affection and excitement. There were lots of texts, "I love you"s etc. We sp...

A.   1 April 2008: There is never a guarantee that your heart will never be broken, but, that should never stop us from loving somebody. Does your girlfriend know your in love with her? Six months is still early in the relationship to be talking about the next level ... (read in full...)

Caught in a marriage, and caught in an affair, what should I do?

Q.   I got married a month after I turned 18. No one knew. It was a secret, until I got married in church when I turned 19. We moved out of California across the way to Maryland. I left all family and friends behind because he was to be stationed ...

A.   1 April 2008: Being somebody who is involved in a situation thats kind of messy right now, I can undrestand where your coming from and how you are feeling. Have you sat down and talked to your husband? That is the first order of business. You have to keep the ... (read in full...)

I feel this is all my fault and I just don't feel the will to carry on. How do I learn to forgive myself?

Q.   Hello again. My ex and I have been apart for 5 weeks now after 3 years and a half together. It was a bad breakup and if we both had not assumed that the other wanted it over we might not have ended it. It's been 5 weeks and my sadness is growi...

A.   1 April 2008: Funny you mention the Star Wars movies. The famous "I love you" and the reply of "I know". I have heard those words myself so many times. How hard it is not to hear "I love you back" What was George Lucas thinking when he wrote that script????? ... (read in full...)

Is age REALLY a problem???

Q.   My girlfriend is 15 and I'm 23, is this perfectly okay (although we have said no 2 sex until she is old enough) we are both very much in love she means the world to me. ...

A.   1 April 2008: Living in the US, the rules are very different. If her parents wanted to they could press charges against you for being with their daughter. I dont think you even have to have sex with her to get into trouble. If you were 30, she would be 22, adn ... (read in full...)

Why won't he reply to my texts?

Q.   There is this guy that I like and he likes me too. A couple days ago we exchanged phone numbers. Now he wont even text me. The first day I texted him and he replied. The next day I texted him and he never replied.... But I don't get why he has not ...

A.   1 April 2008: The times have changed so much with the technology. I am only 34, and we just had to exchange numbers on a small piece of paper and hope the other one didnt lose it! I would just back off from the texting and see if he gets in touch with you. If ... (read in full...)

My ex is taking my children on holiday at his wife's request I am not allowed to have their home address or contact phone number.

Q.   My children are about to go on hoildays with their father and his new wife. They live on the other side of the country and at his wife's request I am not allowed to have their home address or contact phone number. There is no formal custody orders ...

A.   1 April 2008: I have to agree with Tisha here. Its one thing not to know her details and everything about her, but not knowing where your children will be for a week and who they willbe with and what they will be doing is not acceptable. You need to do something ... (read in full...)

I can't quite orgasm! How can I 'finish up'?

Q.   I masturbate, but I can't seem to orgasm! I've come close, but I can't seem to get there. My boyfriend fingered me, and I couldn't come then, either. Is fingering just not my thing?...

A.   31 March 2008: Sometimes you need to just enjoy the feelings you have during the playful period and dont worry about the orgasm. As a woman, I have found that I usually climax when I have clitoral stimulation. I would relax and just take your time and enjoy what ... (read in full...)

I need ways to tell my boyfriend I love him.

Q.   I need ways to tell my boyfriend I love him. Telling him I LOVE YOU isn't good enough! I want other ways to tell him... either in person... text(preferable) or on the phone. IF you can help me then please do . thanks in advance !!! :) ...

A.   31 March 2008: May I ask why looking at him straight in the eyes and telling him those 3 beautiful words is not good enough??? I think that if you love him, you need to tell him from your mouth. I can't think of anything more beautiful to say to another person. ... (read in full...)

My husband had an affair and says he's fallen out of love with me! Am I doing damage to my kids staying with him?

Q.   My husband hasn't given me affection for over 10 years now. Our relationship is diminishing with him not wanting to deal with our problems or even discussing them. I very lonely and feel like I am loosing my mind. He won't talk about love at all ...

A.   31 March 2008: I dont know what its like to be married and have someone tell me they dont love me anymore. Though, my sister and her husband have come to that conclusion that they need to seperate and divorce because she doesnt seem to love him anymore. I wish ... (read in full...)

Crybaby...

Q.   I've been with my husband for 13 years. We have twin 9-yr-olds and my 17-yr-old from my previous marriage. Over the years we have had many fights. His favorite thing to do over the last 3 years during our fights is threaten our marriage being over ...

A.   31 March 2008: It sounds like this husband of yours is one step short of being physically abusive to you. If he yells at you and treats you so horribly until you cry, that is not love. That is abuse. After 13 years and children its hard to make the move to ... (read in full...)

I feel this is all my fault and I just don't feel the will to carry on. How do I learn to forgive myself?

Q.   Hello again. My ex and I have been apart for 5 weeks now after 3 years and a half together. It was a bad breakup and if we both had not assumed that the other wanted it over we might not have ended it. It's been 5 weeks and my sadness is growi...

A.   31 March 2008: My first question to you is do you love him? Do you love him so much that you believe that this was a mistake? I dont think there is anything more agonizing in this world then losing the one you love. When you lose them over something like ... (read in full...)

Survey: how old were you when you performed your first fellatio, did you choose a special person and did you like it from the very beginning?

Q.   I have question for you women and girl on this site: How old were you when you gave your first blowjob? The reason I ask is that I went to high school in a small town in the 1970s, before oral sex was known. So I am curious as to when to when girls ...

A.   31 March 2008: From the looks of the answers here, I seem to have been a little older then most of you when I did it the first time. I was 21. He was my boyfriend. I had NO idea what I was doing. I just did my best. It got a little easier as time went by and ... (read in full...)

Vibrators how often is too much?

Q.   Hi Guys, just a question about vibrators? Is it bad for you to use them a lot??? I use mine almost everyday I cant help it!!!! help!!!...

A.   31 March 2008: Honey, I will tell you that I have never heard of anybody having permanent damage or dying from using a vibrator. I for one, have several and I use them several times a week. There are some days during the month that I have found myself using it ... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend, who walked out on me years ago, hate my new boyfriend?

Q.   I have an ex bf that I have an 12 yr old child with and he was the one to walk out before the child was born and has nothing to do with the child and he started seeing the child but what I dont understand is my ex hates my current bf that I have had ...

A.   31 March 2008: I have just entered a similar situation. My ex of nearly 11 years and the father of my daughter has just re-entered my life. After not seeing him or talking to him all these years he has made several comments to me that he is jealous when I am out ... (read in full...)

When you have an orgasm, does it feel like you're going to pee?

Q.   When you have an orgasm, does it feel like you're going to pee? like I mean when I'm with my guy, it feels like im going to pee and even when he's doing oral stuff on me.. i feel like im going to pee, is that normal? im afraid I will so I alway...

A.   31 March 2008: The sensations you feel are what I think are normal. I know that I go through similar feelings when we are making love. I have learned to empty by bladder before we start having sex. Your body is going through so much when you start to get to ... (read in full...)

I've never bled before while having sex but I did this time. What could have happened?

Q.   My boyfriend and I were in bed, and he started to finger me, it hurt a bit, I'm not sure why because I'm not a virgin or anything and he's fingerd me before, after a while I noticed I was bleeding, what could have happened? ...

A.   31 March 2008: Each person is very different, but from my own experience with this same situation I will have to agree, his nails may have been too long. A few months ago after we did this I noticed blood the next morning. Then a few weeks back after we got up ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend seems to be cooling down and giving me more space and I don't like it.

Q.   I am in a serious relationship with this guy for the past 18 months. We both love each other very much but now problems have started creeping in. Initially we both used to be together always, then he realised that since he gives a lot of time to me, ...

A.   30 March 2008: I wish there was something I could say that could help you in this time of pain. I just can only go by what happened to me so many years ago. The pain I felt when the man I was with pretty much shut me out and everything seemed to change so ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend seems to be cooling down and giving me more space and I don't like it.

Q.   I am in a serious relationship with this guy for the past 18 months. We both love each other very much but now problems have started creeping in. Initially we both used to be together always, then he realised that since he gives a lot of time to me, ...

A.   30 March 2008: Your young my dear and it sounds like it could be your first love. I am no expert on this sort of subject, though something very similar happened to me when I was 21. I felt so low and so horrible when I realised that he didn't want to be with me ... (read in full...)

What advice should I tell my friend about his deployment?

Q.   I have a friend who's military married to another military, and we mainly keep in touch by email. The other day he send me a note saying he's being deployed soon and that is his third trip in his 4 year marriage and that he'll miss his anniversary ...

A.   30 March 2008: I am not sure why this person is talking to you about something like missing his anniversary once deployment happens. My sister is married to an Air Force Lawyer who was deployed to Iraq before Christmas. They have missed the holidays together, ... (read in full...)

He's cheated on me after 18yrs, and I'm a wreck!

Q.   Husband of 18 yrs is in love with someone else?? Any advice?? Of course he is handling it well...but i'm a wreck! Another problem is he keeps sending me mixed messages...and he says he is confused, part of me wants to kick this woman's butt, wh...

A.   30 March 2008: I am so sorry for what your going through. Have you talked to your husband about the affair? To try and figure out if this is something that has happened alot during the marriage or is this the first time. This is marriage and you need to sit ... (read in full...)

He wants to do me "deep and hard" and "hardcore"... what does it all mean and will it hurt?

Q.   hiya, you no if a boy wants to have sex with me yes what does he meaan by doing it deep and hard??will this hurt due to it being my first time having sex??he also said he wants to do me hard core is this painfull or will i enjoy it?? and is it norm...

A.   29 March 2008: I take it that this is your first time with a man. From the age you posted, I think that you need to think alot to make sure this is what you want. Deep and hard is not painful for most. How long have you known this guy and honestly, I think that ... (read in full...)

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