How would a cheater act if he were cheating on you?
Q. Hi please can people give me some idea of how someone would act around you if they were cheating on you I have been with my fiancé now for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter we’ve been having sleep issues with our 3 year old daughter so my ...
A. 24 March 2018: Woah hang on a minute.. he pops across the road to HER house?? I didn't see that in your original post. I thought he was just stepping outside on the front porch or into the garage for a quick cigg.
If he's sneaking over to another woman's ... (read in full...)
How would a cheater act if he were cheating on you?
Q. Hi please can people give me some idea of how someone would act around you if they were cheating on you I have been with my fiancé now for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter we’ve been having sleep issues with our 3 year old daughter so my ...
A. 19 March 2018: Another vote for 'sneaking out for a cigarette'. That or he's smoking a joint.
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I've borrowed money to celebrate but am not excited about it.
Q. About to celebrate our 5year together but why do I feel like I’m not celebrating anything. We don’t live together as she still works in the same part time job she did when I got with her so we have not progressed. I lost my job 3 months ago, and I ...
A. 18 March 2018: Second paragraph should read:
Shouldn't be out of pocket if you cancel.... (read in full...)
Do you consider girl on girl action cheating?
Q. I am in a relationship for almost 3 years now. My boyfriend is out of the country most of the time. We are apart for months. I love him and I have never had sex wit another man nor have I ever kissed someone else. I haven't even flirted with another ...
A. 18 March 2018: Yes, you're wrong.
If he's stated he considers it cheating and you've agreed to those terms, if not officially, but by staying then you did cheat.
Bisexual means your ATTRACTED to both, not that you're entitled to both at the same time.
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I've borrowed money to celebrate but am not excited about it.
Q. About to celebrate our 5year together but why do I feel like I’m not celebrating anything. We don’t live together as she still works in the same part time job she did when I got with her so we have not progressed. I lost my job 3 months ago, and I ...
A. 18 March 2018: How much money are we talking about? And what is it you've booked? When is booked for?
If it's a hotel out of town and you've given the required notice, then you shouldn't be out of pocket.
Is she pushing for this trip? Or is she asking becau... (read in full...)
How do approach him about what I heard?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend of 4 years pocket dialled me yesterday while he was at work I overheard him and his mate on about some woman who was fit and my fiancé says I didn’t notice surprisingly we have had trust issues in the past due to his roving ...
A. 16 March 2018: You overheard your fiancé telling a workmate that he didn't notice how fit another woman was? Did I understand that correctly?
Why would you need to approach him about this?
I would think this would improve your insecurities about him so wha... (read in full...)
How do I tell my crush that I like him without actually saying it?
Q. How do I tell my crush that I like him without actually saying I? Like maybe if I write a letter or give hints what should I do?...
A. 14 March 2018: Definitely NO to the letter. As has been said, it will likely be shared, you'll end up hurt and embarrassed and it's also coming on a bit strong.
Is there a chance this guy might feel the same about you? Is he part of a close social circle? ... (read in full...)
Did my wife believe me about the dinner receipt?
Q. Hi. I am a married man having an affair. My wife went out of town to her mother's for two weeks and I spent that time with my mistress. Last night my wife found a receipt of dinner for 2 when my mistress and I went to a restaurant the day her flig...
A. 14 March 2018: I think her comment about the mistress was a joke. I've heard people make them before, be it their own imaginary 'boyfriend/girlfriend' or their partner's.
If the receipt were hand written from a diner type place then yes, it's possible she tota... (read in full...)
I'm feeling used and manipulated!
Q. I want to ask how important is the to share social media with your bf or current partner? I ask this because my bf doesn't share social media with me (he blocked me from fbk etc) Before I didnt see this as an issue.. But now it really bothers me ...
A. 13 March 2018: Like Honeypie said... I'd add that another possibility is you've made a pest of yourself in the past with clingy, insecure, behaviour and he's had enough. I'm sure there is more going on than what you described, such as his side of the story, b... (read in full...)
My friend keeps cancelling on me. I find it hurtful.
Q. I’m really upset with my friend. We had tickets to see the movies and he’s cancelled. It’s bern in the diary for a few weeks now.We’ve been really great friends for years, recently he’s just become distant, I always contact to see how he’s doing or ...
A. 13 March 2018: I'm a bit tired so to sum it up I'd say that sometimes we just need some time away from everyone, most people, some people or maybe just one or two people. Maybe we're going through a difficult time or it could be that we're at a crossroads and ... (read in full...)
I made a joke. I'm now wondering about my boyfriend's response.
Q. I told my boyfriend to look for a girl to marry as a joke and he told me he would after tomorrow, since tomorrow is his birthday. He said he prefers a blonde chick, and i am a brunette. I feel upset that he said that. Would anyone else be?...
A. 13 March 2018: Maybe he was joking. You know, like you were.
Or maybe he took you seriously and was upset that you're already planning a future without him. I'm leaning toward the former though.
Lessons to be learned here:
Don't fish for compliments or reass... (read in full...)
My friend keeps cancelling on me. I find it hurtful.
Q. I’m really upset with my friend. We had tickets to see the movies and he’s cancelled. It’s bern in the diary for a few weeks now.We’ve been really great friends for years, recently he’s just become distant, I always contact to see how he’s doing or ...
A. 13 March 2018: yeah, I'd have to agree with that. A woman in another post with similar social issues speculated that people's 'verbal communication skills were diminishing'. I think it's the NON verbal communication skills of the people with these problems t... (read in full...)
Please help me!! No one is helping me.
Q. Posting Questipn again as no one answered before. Please help me. Don’t ignore me please! When people ignore you and your posts on social media, But respond to others what can do you do? Why do people do this? It’s like “Fomo” aka “ ...
A. 13 March 2018: Interesting to note that you've had 9 replies to your two posts and you appear to have ignored all of them. One aunt, aunt honesty, was ignored TWICE. Not a 'thank you' or even so much as an acknowledgement from you that their well thought out ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else experience these types of panic attacks?
Q. hi I've been having a really big problem recently with anxiety for about a year now. I have struggled with jobs and been through about 5. some I have quit because I just couldn't handle the pressure where the jobs were just too physical and were ...
A. 9 March 2018: What you're describing is CLASSIC anxiety and I've suffered through it as well, that and obsessive compulsive tendencies. As have a number of friends and relatives.
I'm guessing the NHS requires you to get a psychiatric referral from your GP,... (read in full...)
She wants my opinion, but if shr knew what my opinion was, she wouldn't want it!
Q. I've got a friend I've known since kindergarten. We've been through a lot and our friendship is strong. I care about her, but I'm not blind. She is pretty self-centered. Over the years we worked on our relationship and I had to set up some boundari...
A. 6 March 2018: Say what you really think, just as you said it to us. She did ask, and more than once, right?
this is another good lesson for her and potential growth for your friendship - that she understand that when your honest opinion is sought, that is what ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for expecting to change my loner boyfriend?
Q. Hi all. I am having this problem with my boyfriend of four years. We have a good relationship overall but he is a loner-independent type of a guy. He meets my needs most of the time and although we have differences, we have been able to compromise. ...
A. 6 March 2018: I'm like your boyfriend.
Here is a link you might find interesting and hopefully even helpful.
http://www.9types.com/descr/?type=5&book=palmer3
I'm not sure what your long term plans are for this relationship. If you can acc... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend talks trash to me. Should I tell him that it hurts me?
Q. I am pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. It was an accident. He wanted me to get pregnant tho. He was a player for a long time. He calls me names like whore, skank and bitch. He tells me to just deal with it. It's usually in bed but sometimes ...
A. 20 February 2018: I second the opinions of the others, but in particular those expressed by the anonymous 'reader' and female anon.
Do you think your boyfriend is so dull witted that he really has no idea he's hurting or insulting you? If he's old enough to have ... (read in full...)
Why did he block me?
Q. There was a person who messaged me on this app I'm using, he was the first person i spoke to on this app anyway i thought were friends (we talk a lot and joke around) anyway today i said hi to him then he goes like I'm not going to speak to you ...
A. 17 February 2018: You didn't recognize that he was never a friend and didn't see you as one either.
He was out for a good time and was only nice to you as long as he believed he had a chance in getting it. He's fed up not getting results so the mask is off.
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My husband doesn't understand how important my sister is to me.
Q. My husband recently lost his job. I told my sister immediately. My husband is now angry at me and said I should have asked if he wants me to make it public. I told him he cannot control me and that I share everything with my sister and also that my ...
A. 17 February 2018: Sharing with your sister is not bad, but it depends on what you're sharing.
Telling her intimate things about yourself is your choice, but violating the privacy of others is not. Your husband does not have the bond with your sister you do so if... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't understand how important my sister is to me.
Q. My husband recently lost his job. I told my sister immediately. My husband is now angry at me and said I should have asked if he wants me to make it public. I told him he cannot control me and that I share everything with my sister and also that my ...
A. 16 February 2018: He's right and I don't blame him for being angry.
Having a close bond with someone does not entitle you to violate the privacy of others. There are lots of things I know about people that I have not confided to anyone. not my husband, not my best ... (read in full...)
I treated her good but she ghosted me, I still want her back.
Q. Asking for advice,over a year ago, my ex girlfriend ghost me, no contact since, she didn't even say goodbye,I didn't do anything wrong, but treat her special,what I am asking is ,would it be stupid, in my part to try to contact her,I know every one ...
A. 15 February 2018: Are you the rose petal dance guy?
The answer is 'NO'. Apparently things weren't as great for her as they were for you, so she moved on, albeit in a cowardly way. Unless she did try to tell you but you were too oblivious to hear and understa... (read in full...)
What is considered cheating in an open relationship?
Q. My wife and I agreed to be in an open relationship. We were both very into the idea for years. During sex, she haexpressed interest in a mutual male friend. Several months later I was suspecting that they were fooling around but she never mentione...
A. 12 February 2018: She cheated.
Cheating is when we do or have something by deception that we don't think we could do or have by being honest.
While she might be more open to mentioning any other man she wanted to sleep with, this one is different becaus... (read in full...)
I don't accept his reasons for not wanting to date me.
Q. Hi I've been having problems with a guy and I want any advice to understand the way he is acting. I met him online many months ago maybe 5 months ago. It was a dating app so obviously that is the reason people are on there. However he will no...
A. 6 February 2018: I think you're unstable, manipulative, extremely self centred, sneaky and deceptive. And that he made the right choice, if a bit late.
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Should I pursue him or let it go? Help?
Q. So I met on a weekend trip with friends and met a guy. Our connection was amazing. My friends and I noticed he kept staring at me and then we eventually started talking. Our connection was pretty deep. Then things turned sexual. Im living here in ...
A. 5 February 2018: I'd say he was attracted to you but if he can go several days without hearing from my guess is he's not serious about you.
My advice is you not invest anything in this. Chat when he contacts you but don't seek him out and don't let things get any ... (read in full...)
Did I upset her?
Q. A girl and me met at a friends place and crashing at thiers, we were getting along and she decided to go to bed after they had been out all night. They had to wake up one of the children for her to sleep in a seperate room. There were 2 couches ...
A. 3 February 2018: Not very much to go on here, but if you're asking this based solely on the fact that she wanted to be alone while she slept I'd say that was premature.
She may have been concerned that she'd fart or something or you'd see her with morning hair/mor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is mad that I've kept my old wedding dress but he keeps Instagram posts from his exes
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles I need some opinions please. My bf got upset that I’m saving my old wedding dress but he has tons of posts and lovey dovey comments on his Instagram from 3 ex gfs. Im keeping my dress because it was expensive and pe...
A. 30 January 2018: I don't see a future here, I'm afraid.
Keeping an old wedding dress, especially for the reasons you gave, is totally different from keeping romantic, public posts from exes on his social media account.
A reasonable and mature person would und... (read in full...)
A girl I chatted with online started telling me all of her fetishes. Should I meet her?
Q. Ok so a few hours ago I started talking to a girl on tinder. Within minutes she started talking in quite sexually explicit terms, mainly centred around her foot fetish. I admit I was intrigued and played along. The conversation moved onto whatsapp, ...
A. 30 January 2018: I think you should be worried she has your number as well, and knows where you work (I'm guessing you told her).
This is extremely risky behaviour, especially for a woman. In fact I've never heard of a woman being this brazen and yet she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Cheater?? Just your first instinct, not full evaluation!
Q. Ok... Just be straight... Being paranoid, or boyfriend totally cheating on me?? He has a friend contact, saved on his phone as "Wifey S" when questioned, said nothing to worry about, just a female friend.... what are your first thought... backgrou...
A. 30 January 2018: First instinct on that alone I'd say not cheating. At least not with her and that if he were to cheat she would be the least likely candidate. Use of the word 'Wifey' suggests he is more focussed on the domestic/mundane, day to day aspects of a... (read in full...)
I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...
A. 30 January 2018: I don't see anything here that would cause anyone to change the advice already given.
Your boyfriend has made some mistakes and he's going to make more and he's eventually going to learn from them. The same applies to his ex. Now that they hav... (read in full...)
My job interviewed didn't offer me a job but asked me out on a date. Is this appropriate?
Q. I am job hunting. I recently got call from one of the jobs I was interested. In the middle of the interview, the interviewer did not offer me the job due to my school schedule clashing with the days he had available. Instead he asked me out on a ...
A. 25 January 2018: Yeah, I don't see a 'situation' to 'handle' here either.
No, it was not appropriate, per se, but then I've known people who have been married for years and guess how that started out? One was a client who asked his bank teller out on a date, or... (read in full...)
Is he using me as a means to come to Canada?
Q. Hello I married a man from Africa and I am Canadian. We have been together for 11 months and I am trying to get him to Canada. He has been good to me but very dominant and expects I be submissive and do whatever he says to me. If I don’t he ge...
A. 21 January 2018: His behaviour is very suspicious. Birthdays in Africa are the same deal they are here. So this demand for a huge sum of money is rubbish.
All his female friends, with whom he admits to having had sex with but claims they're all just friends.... (read in full...)
HE wants to play games with his ex, but I am not sure about it.
Q. Hi, I started an LDR a week ago, we talk every day, everything is good. But he just got out of a 3months relationship ( his ex gf ended it..) Now, she's texting him, and he wants to go with it. wtich means he just wants to make fun of her and make...
A. 13 January 2018: Cut him loose.
One week of 'dating' and he doesn't mind you seeing this ugly side of him?
He's stringing both of you along but thinks if he does it in plain sight he can't be accused of anything shady.
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My best friend seems to want to end our friendship
Q. I've been friendly with my pal David for over 30 years. He drives a taxi for private hire for a living.I provide computer fixing services. A month ago, for the first time ever, he referred a customer of his to me who had a computer problem. The...
A. 9 January 2018: I want to add something here.
This 90 year old woman is a garden variety con artist who uses her 'little old lady' routine to widdle freebies and favours out of others and clearly David has been taken in by her.
I'll bet dollars to donut... (read in full...)
My best friend seems to want to end our friendship
Q. I've been friendly with my pal David for over 30 years. He drives a taxi for private hire for a living.I provide computer fixing services. A month ago, for the first time ever, he referred a customer of his to me who had a computer problem. The...
A. 9 January 2018: I would absolutely NOT call him, for two reasons.
One, you should not be chasing this man or anyone to be your friend and calling would be doing just that.
Second, sending an email is better because you can't be interrupted with questions o... (read in full...)
I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...
A. 9 January 2018: I agree with Honeypie, especially with the last sentence.
His lawyer is not going to go in guns blazing because YOU'RE annoyed and anxious to move forward. These things can be VERY nasty as he well knows. He has only just become involved and will... (read in full...)
Will he break up with me because I don't like giving head?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and things seem to be going well. However he keeps asking for a blowjob which I'm not keen to do. I've tried it with him for a tiny length of time but really really dislike it. I've told him this. ...
A. 8 January 2018: Maybe you should get fed up with him asking and leave him.
He can be replaced more easily than you can. Act as though you have options and before long you'll realise you do. ... (read in full...)
Is this the time to break up?
Q. I am in relationship with my bf 3 years, he keep hiding his life of me, hiding his facebook and his phone. I ask him why he's doing that and he never gives an answer. We break up 3 time and we return to each other because I loved him so much. the ...
A. 6 January 2018: I think it's time to leave him for good.
He can't be trusted and nothing has changed. He's a secretive as ever, likely doing the same things. ... (read in full...)
My boss seems to hate me and I wonder why!
Q. Am I wrong to think that my boss has some kind of a problem with me? Here's some background: I've worked under her for over 7 years we never had any arguments, but I noticed that she does not treat me the same way she threats others. First...
A. 6 January 2018: I'm guessing you may already do this but I suggest you document everything, keep a personal file (a secret one you keep at home preferably) then ask her about it via email, remembering of course to CC the uber boss.
Be specific and limit yourself... (read in full...)
Can I really believe her?
Q. I was looking through my GF text messages one night because I felt something was different lately with her. So I found a text from a guy that she worked with. The text started out as I hear you are leaving the company for a new job and continued ...
A. 6 January 2018: Her answers sound non committal to me so I'm guessing she felt on the spot and resorted to 'being polite'.
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I'm a virgin but I want to have casual sex with him. How do I ask for him without coming across as cheap?
Q. So, I work with this guy and we get along well together. He not necessarily physically my type but his personality os great. He is funny and makes me laugh and even when we get on eachother nerves we still laugh. I feel comfortable and at ease with ...
A. 4 January 2018: I don't know that you can.
For one thing, he's a co-worker and if things go south, or one of you decides they've had enough, it could cause friction on the job and you could end up being the subject of water cooler gossip. These things DO happen o... (read in full...)
Parents can't believe I don't want children
Q. Hello aunts I was at my family holiday dinner and I said that I don’t want to have kids to my family and they looked at me like a deer in the headlights. My parents are miserable (arranged marriage). I was born in a communist country but I came here ...
A. 27 December 2017: I agree. It's perfectly normal to not want children, but it's best not to base that decision on 2 poor relationships.
My advice, for starters is you not make these kinds of declarations to people. It makes the issue a bigger deal than it should b... (read in full...)
I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...
A. 22 December 2017: I wouldn't give it any more time.
For one thing, you don't know anything about their marriage or it's demise other than what he tells you. You've never met the woman yourself, never sized her up and don't know what she's had to put up with. I ... (read in full...)
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