| Latest articles: Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
This question has 44 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
10 December 2012: (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
Online dating/friendships, general safety and security. Protecting yourself and your privacy.
This question has 5 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
8 February 2012: I'm still shocked and surprized far too often by the number of people who have been stalked, harassed or "hacked" online when all they have to do is implement some very easy safety procedures. It is a known fact well over 90% of people who claim...
Crushes on teachers
This question has 42 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
3 December 2010: Have a crush on your teacher? Can't help but think about them all the way through class? Does s/he seem to give you more attention than the other students? Seem like s/he might like you too? Well this article is for you. Firstly there is nothi...
Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
This question has 20 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
30 November 2010: Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...
|
Girlfriend very insecure because I watched porn
Q. I have been in a very serious relationship for the last five years with an amazing girl. I love her so much. I would take a bullet for her. I am going to propose to her soon but I don't know when. She's the only person I've ever been in a relati...
A. 12 April 2013: Just to add, she expects to be able to trust you to protect her feelings too OP. So she asks if she's fat, you going to be honest there too even if she has gained some weight? Sorry OP but you're an idiot for feeling obliged to tell a girl with such ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend very insecure because I watched porn
Q. I have been in a very serious relationship for the last five years with an amazing girl. I love her so much. I would take a bullet for her. I am going to propose to her soon but I don't know when. She's the only person I've ever been in a relati...
A. 12 April 2013: I suppose you're going to tell her the consistency of your last shit too? Going to tell her that when you were a kid you tasted your own piss or licked a dogs asshole? No secrets right. So why would you keep your latest shit to yourself, grab a bag ... (read in full...)
Anxiety attacks. How can I get my Dad to understand that anxiety is a real condition?
Q. I suffer from high anxiety, and have for a while now. It is mostly related to the stress of college and academics. I also occasionally get panic attacks. I have suffered in my grades because of this, but I am doing my best. It's a process, and I'm...
A. 12 April 2013: I found an awesome user on youtube recently who has a similar condition her username is snowflake891000. Her vlog is pretty cool. OP what do you expect of him and what benefit do you hope to achieve? He sounds old school, he's probably not going to ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my cheating Fiance without making her angry because I spyed into her emails?
Q. How do you let your fiance know that you know she is cheating without her getting mad because you have been looking at her email that she keeps leaving open, most recent email to her "friend" "I still want to meet with you. I want to try if you ar...
A. 11 April 2013: Jesus OP are you that scared of her or weak that she could actually redirect this away from her cheating to you being bad for snooping?
For me the process would be simple.
I'd print out that email and add my own little note to it. "No need to ... (read in full...)
Not sure if she's waiting for me to make the next move?
Q. Met this girl on a night out at the start of march. We talked, laughed and ended up kissing in the club. Exchanged numbers and text back and forth quite a bit for a few days before I asked her out for a date. The 1st date went great, we talked and ...
A. 11 April 2013: "Not sure if she's waiting for me to make the next move?"
I'm not even going to read what you wrote OP because it no doubt contains a bunch of useless details you're reading far too deeply into and you're just confusing yourself.
The whole process ... (read in full...)
I want to change and be a better healthier person, both mentally and physically - Advice please??
Q. Hey all! I'm extremely tired of the life I'm living and the mental attitude I have towards it. As far as I can remember, I have always had low self esteem, slightly overweight, allowing others to walk all over me, needy for constant affection, ...
A. 11 April 2013: "How do I change and be everything I am supposed to be??"
The physical changes are the easiest of all. Go to a sports store today, buy a vinyl or leather skipping and buy training sneakers/trainers whatever you call them where you're from.
Go to... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend lied about being a virgin
Q. Well my girlfriend had said that she had almost had sex with someone I know before we were dating but the way she had told the story made me feel as though she was lying she said she was a virgin (as was I) when we first had sex but she didn't reac...
A. 11 April 2013: She didn't lie OP she just interpreted it wrong.
OP in my experience when a woman says "almost had sex" it generally means he stuck it in a couple of times but they didn't keep going. A lot of women think they're virgins still after that but we both... (read in full...)
Jealous BF has a weekend away with friends and it includes a woman that has a crush on him!
Q. I am quite jealous of another girl my boyfriend knows. I know this girl is a big flirt and I've seen her flirt with my boyfriend several times. About 3 people have told me that this girl has told them that she really likes my boyfriend. Problem f...
A. 11 April 2013: "How do you guys personally deal with girls flirting with your boyfriends or a girl who has a crush on him?" I don't, because my fiancée doesn't allow that kind of situation to develop. It's not up to me to deal with guys who come on to her or have ... (read in full...)
Would a BJ make a difference if the BF has a low sex drive?
Q. Want to give my boyfriend spontaneous blow job, but lately his sex drive has been really low and i'm afraid if i attempt to give him a spontaneous blowjob he's going to shut me down or something...should i just take a chance and go for it? or no?...
A. 11 April 2013: Go for it. It's a blow job the worst that can happen is he says no. The gesture will be greatly appreciated even if he does say he's not in the mood. Just understand OP, giving him head isn't going to make him horny again, and don't get into the... (read in full...)
I give expensive gifts because I think it'll keep them interested in me for longer!
Q. Hey everyone, Background: I never really had a father -daughter relationship with my dad,we never were really close,but he would always give me the pocket money as a child and give me anything I would point on! Fast forward to now, This has b...
A. 11 April 2013: OP we're men, the only time we expect gifts is our birthday and xmas. If you want a real reason you should stop understand one thing, when you try to buy a guy OP you emasculate him. It may be 2013 but we still want to feel like the provider... (read in full...)
I want Sex and my GF is happy without it, what am I missing?
Q. My girlfriend and I have almost no sex life anymore. I've tried talking to her about this. She tells me that she just "doesn't feel like sex". The problem is that she seems to be happy to go without sex forever, but I just can't do that - I gave her ...
A. 11 April 2013: You need to talk to her and tell her this is an issue for you OP. Tell her what you told us and ask her if this is just how much sex she has always been happy with or has she just lost her libido somehow. If she's lost her libido then she needs to... (read in full...)
B/f says if I leave the country he'll break up with me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years wants us to get married within a few months. I will be leaving the country in the next few months also but he told me that if i leave he will break up with me. I have been waiting for this opporunity to go overseas for a ...
A. 10 April 2013: OP just to be clear, even if he only put it in terms of him having no choice that he couldn't handle separation and thinks it wouldn't last if you left. The fact he won't even try says it all, the fact he'd want to marry you yet only on his terms on ... (read in full...)
I'm insulted that my ex said our time together was "nice"!
Q. My ex just said our time together was "nice" and I feel kind of insulted. I felt like replying, "and your love-making, sir, was perfectly adequate," but I'm just not that quick on my feet. Now that I've been downgraded, I can't stop thinkin...
A. 10 April 2013: Sorry OP but you sound very egotistical "How dare anyone call me merely "nice" what a fucking insult, I'm queen or the world!". First off he's your ex, who gives a shit what he thought?
Secondly 'nice' is a good term. You need to let go of your ego ... (read in full...)
B/f says if I leave the country he'll break up with me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years wants us to get married within a few months. I will be leaving the country in the next few months also but he told me that if i leave he will break up with me. I have been waiting for this opporunity to go overseas for a ...
A. 10 April 2013: Well fuck him then OP, he knows how important this is to you and he's blackmailing you to get his own way?
Fuck that. You know OP no matter how long I've been with a woman, one single threat to break up with me and I end it.
I was with a woman tw... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to her male friends of hers. Is this normal?
Q. My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to certain male friends of hers. She even told me which ones. I appreciate how honest she is and regret that I even asked. She claims her fantasies don't reflect real desires- that she really doesn't want to ...
A. 10 April 2013: "I don't think it's normal to be masturbating to your friends while in a relationship."
Yeah of course it is. Do you have sexy thoughts about other women? Look at Jessica Alba in a bikini with her nipples poking through and imagine, even for one ... (read in full...)
Will I be labeled as a liar? I didn't tell the truth about how many sexual partners I have had
Q. Hello, I'm writing because I'm in a bit of a situation. I was in a relationship for 7 years from the age of 15 and completely adored the guy. On reflection, he was rather manipulative, unsupprotive and didn't really care about me. This was a...
A. 10 April 2013: "There was one other guy I was seeing for a little while but nothing came of it."
Simple OP. OP if it only came up as casual conversation then I really doubt you have anything to worry about. Always be wary of guys who make a point of knowing. Too ... (read in full...)
If she was so disgusted why didn't she make him wear a condom?
Q. this is a similar problem to what many other guys posted about being obsessed with their wives past sex lives. but this is a little different. she was married to this selfish loser for twenty years, had two kids by him.was a virgin she discovered ...
A. 10 April 2013: Who cares OP, why does it matter whether he wore a condom or whether he liked to put jam on his toast?
What's the big deal?... (read in full...)
I'm in a bit of a mess dealing with my feelings towards his daughter and his Ex
Q. I've posted some of my story before, so this will be straight to the point, my fiance has a very young daughter, only 9 months (yes, i know... why the hell am I engaged so soon, there's a reason, and i've heard every opinion there is to hear already ...
A. 9 April 2013: OP you don't have to justify yourself to me or anyone. I don't know you, I'm just an internet stranger who responds to the tiny bits you post.
The only things that matter is that you're happy, you're doing the best to remain happy while taking ever... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated, I no longer wish to be with her. She is emotionally blackmailing me saying she won't be able to live without me!
Q. i am in relationship for the past two years. everything was great until i caught my girlfriend cheating on me. even though i confronted her she somehow emotionally tricked me into staying with her. i am unable to forget this incident. i made it ...
A. 9 April 2013: "Clearly some of the people on here don't know of anyone who threatened suicide and then actually followed through."
I've known 4 people who committed suicide, one a very close friend. None of them threatened it, they were just found dead. No one ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not stop doing weed. What can I do? I don't know what to do about his actions any more
Q. Hi Everyone, I would love some help right now please. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we have always been happy, things are almost perfect. When we argue, it is all about the weed. When we started going out he only smoked...
A. 9 April 2013: It makes you angry that people you judge for not smoking it then you call those who do pathetic, you say they choose weed over people and you say they must be unhappy?
You're the one being judgemental OP so yeah, I will defend against those judg... (read in full...)
I'm in a bit of a mess dealing with my feelings towards his daughter and his Ex
Q. I've posted some of my story before, so this will be straight to the point, my fiance has a very young daughter, only 9 months (yes, i know... why the hell am I engaged so soon, there's a reason, and i've heard every opinion there is to hear already ...
A. 9 April 2013: You don't have to apologise to me in any way, if you're not being sarcastic.
My post was very harsh but I stand by what I said.
You need to be patient and let her do this on her terms. If your fiancé pushes this on her, then she's not going to... (read in full...)
If we're broken up then why is she still getting in touch with me?
Q. She called yesterday and she called today. She texted a few days ago just wanting to know how I am. We broke up. Well, technically as she would put it, I broke up with her over two weeks ago. Yet, she still contacts me. If the relationship is over ...
A. 8 April 2013: There's no hostility, my apologies if that's how it came off.
I don't see why you don't get it though. People find it hard to let go, will want to contact you if they're still thinking about you and miss you.
You still didn't answer my questi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not stop doing weed. What can I do? I don't know what to do about his actions any more
Q. Hi Everyone, I would love some help right now please. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we have always been happy, things are almost perfect. When we argue, it is all about the weed. When we started going out he only smoked...
A. 8 April 2013: In fact she stated quite clearly he's a pretty good boyfriend other than the weed issue. She said he works, for all you know his job could be a good one with good prospects. I wouldn't be so quick to cast down people who smoke weed regularly, I know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not stop doing weed. What can I do? I don't know what to do about his actions any more
Q. Hi Everyone, I would love some help right now please. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we have always been happy, things are almost perfect. When we argue, it is all about the weed. When we started going out he only smoked...
A. 8 April 2013: I don't get your point there Chigirl, if a person drinks tea every day are they caffeine addicts? No, they're not. An addict is someone who can't stop. There's nothing in her question that says he can't, he may well just not want to. I wouldn't go ... (read in full...)
If we're broken up then why is she still getting in touch with me?
Q. She called yesterday and she called today. She texted a few days ago just wanting to know how I am. We broke up. Well, technically as she would put it, I broke up with her over two weeks ago. Yet, she still contacts me. If the relationship is over ...
A. 8 April 2013: Actually OP the question is more, if you're a person who doesn't believe in friendship after then why are you responding to her shit?
Who cares why she is doing what she's doing, she's really only doing it because she knows she'll get a resp... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated, I no longer wish to be with her. She is emotionally blackmailing me saying she won't be able to live without me!
Q. i am in relationship for the past two years. everything was great until i caught my girlfriend cheating on me. even though i confronted her she somehow emotionally tricked me into staying with her. i am unable to forget this incident. i made it ...
A. 8 April 2013: Stop being a pussy and just break up with her.
If she says she'll die again then say "So? I don't care what happens to you from now on because I'm breaking up with you. You're already dead to me, I don't care whether you physically die or not. Goo... (read in full...)
I lost my friend over a rude text that I didn't send to him!
Q. I recently had a sexual encounter with a friend (married)(someone I've known since childhood),we re-connected and talked on the phone for over a yr and saw ea. other daily. Our relationship became sexual no strings attached. A family member decided ...
A. 8 April 2013: OP unfortunately the "friendship" was over the minute you relegated yourself to being just his bit on the side. In fact I think he only really reconnected with you as a bit on the side.
Sex generally messes up friendships but it can be looked p... (read in full...)
Why do people listen to Sad love songs? Is it sadness that draws one to listen in the first place? Or do the songs make one sadder?
Q. I'm just curious really. That all started out while i was on the bus listening to random song on playlist [ do note most people i know complain about how lot of songs i listen to somewhat depression or sad]after today i probably agree to some ...
A. 8 April 2013: People like to listen to that kind of music because it makes them feel less lonely and less weird because it shows them that others go through the same things. Some find strength in that, others actually like to feel extra sad and lonely though too, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not stop doing weed. What can I do? I don't know what to do about his actions any more
Q. Hi Everyone, I would love some help right now please. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we have always been happy, things are almost perfect. When we argue, it is all about the weed. When we started going out he only smoked...
A. 8 April 2013: OP he could be getting annoyed because of the weed or he could be getting annoyed that you're giving him so much shit over it when you damn well knew he a smoker before you met him.
The only mistake I see here is him promising to stop and not doin... (read in full...)
Do I back off? Seems I am doing all the initiating. Every date I am the one who contacts him first and ask him when he is free to hang out.
Q. So I have been on four dates with this guy, after every date I am the one who contacts him first and ask him when he is free to hang out. After the fourth date I decided not to contact him and he hasn't contacted me and it has now been 5 days! i ...
A. 8 April 2013: He doesn't sound all that interested but you're going to have keep chasing OP. The joy of trying to hook a guy who is seeing others is that you're in direct competition with other women, he gets to sit back and let you do the work or he's probably ... (read in full...)
I'm in a bit of a mess dealing with my feelings towards his daughter and his Ex
Q. I've posted some of my story before, so this will be straight to the point, my fiance has a very young daughter, only 9 months (yes, i know... why the hell am I engaged so soon, there's a reason, and i've heard every opinion there is to hear already ...
A. 8 April 2013: "How long should this wait-and-see period be before she lets me be around her daughter before I should start getting worried? a year? less? more?"
For as long as she needs to feel safe and comfortable with you OP, not a moment before.
"How can I ex... (read in full...)
My mom is sleeping with a guy my age!
Q. My Mom is Sleeping with a Guy My Age. Advice? My mom is 45 and she's sleeping with a 21 year old guy I knew while growing up. I'm her only son (only child) and I'm 20. I don't think this is right, or appropriate at all. I think she should act h...
A. 8 April 2013: It's weird, it's not something you want from your mother but then again OP I don't think many boys would be happy thinking of their mother as a sexual creature who may enjoy a casual hook up thing but guess what, she does.
OP you've gotten t... (read in full...)
I am not interested in her. How do I let her down gently?
Q. There is this girl who moved into my neighborhood maybe 3 months ago. She has a huge crush on me and i am not being egotistical because she told me the other day. She always hangs out with my sister and I am unable to go twenty minutes without ...
A. 8 April 2013: Why do you think you need to say anything to her? Has she asked you out or anything?
OP just because you know she has a crush doesn't mean you have to do something about it. Just leave her alone to it unless she directly asks you out or some... (read in full...)
We talk more to each other and the sex is better, since we broke up. How common is this situation?
Q. This is an interesting phenomenen ....we broke up, decided to stay friends and things are as good if not better than ever. We talk more, the sex is better (don't judge), spend the same amount of time together and we both feel better. I really don'...
A. 8 April 2013: Not really, it's very normal. She doesn't want a relationship with you as she doesn't see you as relationship material so she wants to go find someone else. Now that she's free to do that without it being cheating having sex with you and hanging out ... (read in full...)
Why didn't I realize he was a player? What can I do? I feel I was sucked into believing he was a single guy who liked me for me
Q. Hey all, Last November I met a guy through mutual friends. I liked him a lot from the moment we met and felt the feeling was mutual. We never hung out alone, just occasionally saw each other when we were out. I had heard rumors that he had...
A. 8 April 2013: I have to say Cindy's advice was exceptional.
I used to love women like you OP when I was sleeping around on the hunt.
You'd be surprized how many are around. Absolutely loved the idea that I was a bad boy player, knew that I was and best of ... (read in full...)
What is the best and worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Q. Pickup lines have been used on both men and women. Some are good, some are very, very bad, but we can all agree that they’re pretty funny. Share with us any good or bad ones you've heard. Feel free to list more than one!...
A. 7 April 2013: This not very PC but it was the best I've had used on me, certainly the one that I remember the most. "So are you coming home with me or am I just going to have a rape you down that back alley?"
She was half my size, very petite and obviously joki... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my obsession with house music?
Q. About 9 months ago I went to my first rave. To make a long story short it was a life changing experience. I really connected to it. Ever since that day I eat, sleep and breath house music. I have attended quite a few concerts after that and I'm ...
A. 7 April 2013: Simple, is it having a negative impact on your or anyone else's life? If the answer is 'no' then you're fine.
Actually sounds to me like you've found yourself a beautiful passion that brings you an immense amount of joy.
OP I had much the same thi... (read in full...)
When is a woman at her sexual peak?
Q. When is a women's sexial prime...
A. 7 April 2013: Every woman is different as it's not just a physical/physiological thing, it's mental too.
Plus it depends on what you consider your prime.
Some consider their prime to be when they enjoy sex the most or when they want it the most or when the... (read in full...)
Should I make my partner be checked for STD before having sex?
Q. Okay, so I'm 15 years old and I was thinking about the future. I'm not planning to have sex anytime soon, but when I am ready, I wanna make sure I'm being safe. I was wondering if it would be weird if I make my future partner have an STD check ...
A. 7 April 2013: You've gotten great advice, the only thing I'll add is that you too should have an STD when you have a boyfriend and are ready for sex.
You can catch STD's orally too and diseases like hepatitis, HIV and others can be transmitted other ways too ... (read in full...)
What's up? I understand that rules are rules. But is her mother so harsh because she does not like me dating her daughter?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for 4months now, we have been going out for one month. Our relationship is going perfect, we get along so well and never argue. Anyway more to the point, she is 17 I am 19. On the days she spends out with me, she get...
A. 7 April 2013: Well OP if you keep helping her daughter break the rules of her home then you know what that looks like.
It says nothing about what her mother thinks about you. Just that there are rules and she won't tolerate her daughter breaking them. if you keep... (read in full...)
The first time sex for me, should I take pain killers?
Q. A guy that I've known since elementary school (we've long since graduated high school)and I started talking again and came to realize we both live in the same neighborhood. So long story short, we've gone out for quite a few months and we'll be ...
A. 7 April 2013: No OP, don't take pain killers that's the worst idea I've ever heard of in my life.
OP pain in your vagina is to tell you something is wrong or something is being damaged, you don't take pain killers to mask that or you won't get the signal that... (read in full...)
After sex, liquid came out of me. Was it from me? Or him?
Q. Ok, so me and my ex messed around again and we did it 2 times in one day. The first time he was going really fast before he pulled out, and when I stood up and seat back down I felt some warm, liquid come out of me. Then the second time we did it ...
A. 7 April 2013: Yeah he did come inside you. ... (read in full...)
| *erberus's friends
These are mutual friends, so *erberus has
added them and they have added *erberus!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/dfc99dba-92ee-4179-a8d2-0cf3b463707a.png){kind=small}
