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Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

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6 March 2014: I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.

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10 December 2012: (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...

Online dating/friendships, general safety and security. Protecting yourself and your privacy.

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8 February 2012: I'm still shocked and surprized far too often by the number of people who have been stalked, harassed or "hacked" online when all they have to do is implement some very easy safety procedures. It is a known fact well over 90% of people who claim...

Crushes on teachers

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3 December 2010: Have a crush on your teacher? Can't help but think about them all the way through class? Does s/he seem to give you more attention than the other students? Seem like s/he might like you too? Well this article is for you. Firstly there is nothi...

Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

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30 November 2010: Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...

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I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.

Q.   Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...

A.   13 March 2014: OP I'll never get how people and especially women view being single as being alone. I mean I understand why it is, just never felt "alone" while single because I have great friends and family. I don't consider not having a romantic relationship as ... (read in full...)

I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.

Q.   Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...

A.   13 March 2014: OP your original post was a week ago. Read it again and pay attention to the alarm bells that were ringing in your head at that time. Regardless of what we or your mom think your gut was telling you he's a lemon. Next time trust your gut above all ... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   11 March 2014: Some good points there. Cindy to be honest both male and female genitalia are used as derogatory terms. I think people just need to stop giving words so much significance in a gendered sense when language is contextual. I mean it kind of make... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   11 March 2014: No, it's still slang, there's nothing polite about calling someone a coward as it is and it's not really polite enough to be used formally, obviously given its multiple meanings. But in casual terms it's a softer word than coward because it means 'a ... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   11 March 2014: It's a softer term for coward where I'm from, people are more likely offended by the word coward here. The same way we use the words 'shite' and 'feck' to say things but softer or the way Americans often substitute religious words with 'gosh', ... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   11 March 2014: Yeah, or how a woman's vagina became equated with a cat in the first place. Slang directed at women is very nature based for some reason, all plants and animals. Melons, beaver, bitch etc. Comes from religious doctrine that women are supposedly more ... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   11 March 2014: Neither, the slang term denoting weakness or cowardly. Apparently it bears more weight than I thought though, where I'm from it's a very light word used to say someone is being weak or cowardly without causing offence. "Stop being a pussy" seem... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   10 March 2014: Hey Tisha, yeah it was not labelled as "perfect" in the article but is being portrayed as "real" and "average", which in turn is being promoted heavily as the new perfection by feminists and campaigners. "Finally someone has been brave enough to s... (read in full...)

How do I make it clear that I don't want more than friendship from this guy?

Q.   Okay, so I have a slight issue with understanding what this boy's intentions and motives are. I met this boy when I first arrived at university in September and he's lovely, bless him. From September until January we only ever said hello to ea...

A.   10 March 2014: "I'm trying to do the right thing without upsetting someone who is quite emotional." OP, in my opinion, and it's nothing personal to you, anyone who can't be up front with people for any crappy reason they invent is being a pussy. Leading this guy... (read in full...)

How do I make it clear that I don't want more than friendship from this guy?

Q.   Okay, so I have a slight issue with understanding what this boy's intentions and motives are. I met this boy when I first arrived at university in September and he's lovely, bless him. From September until January we only ever said hello to ea...

A.   9 March 2014: "I thought that was pretty obvious, am I wrong?" You are wrong. You said you're focussed on your studies, not that you're not interested in him. You've made nothing clear, OP, you're doing the typical woman thing and being a pussy about it so as... (read in full...)

Should I tell this new guy everything my ex did to me?

Q.   Hello Dear Cupid, I have been talking to a guy online and we talked about getting together since he lives fairly close by. Initially, I didn't want to go back online because I got hurt in my last relationship. My sister thought it might be a good ...

A.   9 March 2014: Normally I'd agree with Ciar and say no. It's never good idea to tell a guy you've only just started dating that you're damaged goods and not at all ready for a relationship, which you clearly are not. But it's too late for that now because you crie... (read in full...)

How do I make it clear that I don't want more than friendship from this guy?

Q.   Okay, so I have a slight issue with understanding what this boy's intentions and motives are. I met this boy when I first arrived at university in September and he's lovely, bless him. From September until January we only ever said hello to ea...

A.   9 March 2014: Just tell him straight up, or you're going to have a long drawn out nightmare and him to get very pissed off you "friendzoned" him. Also guys who call girls babe and put x's at the end of each text are total slime balls. I mean it's fair enough to g... (read in full...)

What should I aim for first, baby or dream career?

Q.   I need some advice on how to map out a few things in life!!! I'm 29 years old, I have a full time permanent job that I enjoy and the type of skill set that allows me to do nixers from home if I need extra cash. I have a bit of debt that is due to b...

A.   9 March 2014: Normally I'd agree with others, career first. But frankly in the current economic climate starting two businesses in the next year means it could take 3-5 years before you see any real stability and income, if indeed they even take off. On aver... (read in full...)

I feel torn and paralyzed and I don't know where to go from here.

Q.   I previously posted a question on here asking about the lack of passion/chemistry in my relationship and received amazing answers that I can honestly say saved my sanity because I was starting to go crazy. To make a long story short, I have been dat...

A.   9 March 2014: It's the day after a break up, OP. There's literally no advice to give you at this stage but to stay strong, keep brushing your teeth, eating properly and get sleep with you're able. It hasn't even had a chance to sink in yet, this is the init... (read in full...)

Why don't I receive much attention from men?

Q.   Why do I not receive much attention from the general male population? Before you proceed to trash this email, thinking it comes from some innocent 22-year-old who is fishing for compliments to feed into her sky-high ego, I assure you I am fairly e...

A.   9 March 2014: Demeanour and attitude is what attracts male attention. Basically what you've written paints you as an ice-queen, and no offence but a bit boring too. I'll show you what I mean by addressing your points. 1. Irrelevant, everyone has the potentia... (read in full...)

He pressured me, and pressured me and now he is not interested!

Q.   My boyfriend rejects sleeping with me all the time. He comes up with every excuse in the world. It's so annoying. At the beginning I didn't sleep with him for like two months and thought I was going to wait til marriage. He pressured me a lot and ...

A.   8 March 2014: "He pressured me a lot and basically said he would probably break up with me if I didn't sleep with him." Time to return the favour, OP. If it's good for the goose; it's good for the gander.... (read in full...)

I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.

Q.   Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...

A.   7 March 2014: "Rather I should worry about girls he doesn't tell me about." That's a pretty crappy deflection if you ask me, what a stupid thing to say. How about having the decency not to dangle other women in front of you in the first place? How about sa... (read in full...)

How would you cope with learning she has a boyfriend?

Q.   Hello Cupid What will you call a girl who leads you on for a good few months of dating until you realise she has a boyfriend already? How would you cope up with that and what will you do ? Confronting her or asking why she did it be of any ...

A.   7 March 2014: "What will you call a girl who leads you on for a good few months of dating until you realise she has a boyfriend already?" A bitch. "How would you cope up with that and what will you do?" I'd cope with it fine, I'd just lick my wounds, get ... (read in full...)

Can't afford to move, and the lack of privacy at home is driving me crazy

Q.   This is a weird question and probably not the type of question you guys usually get but hopefully somebody can maybe give me their opinion on what I can do. I hope this doesn't sound mean but here it goes. I'm 20 years old and live with my fat...

A.   7 March 2014: Just make your room your haven. The last time I lived at home all three of my sisters and my mother lived there at the same time, so I know how it is to have no privacy. The opposite was the problem for me though in the sense that I was trying to e... (read in full...)

Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.

Q.   I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...

A.   7 March 2014: I actually spoke to a couple of my classes about it today. Not surprisingly they agree. Even the class feminists felt it was just as unhealthy to reinforce the image of one body type being "real", the only ones who actually thought it was a positive ... (read in full...)

What's going? Does my gf still have feelings for her ex? Or even still in love with him?

Q.   Dear Cupid Aunts and Uncles. I've been going with a girl for about 8 months now. But I think she still has feelings for her ex? I could be wrong. Last month her ex had an accident. He almost died. He's okay now though. At the time of his a...

A.   7 March 2014: Oh there's another tactic which I didn't mention which can be fun but is very immature. Playing her at the same game and forcing her to respond. Start by deleting any loved up crap, quotes, I love my baby messages. In fairness Biker Guy's real... (read in full...)

What's going? Does my gf still have feelings for her ex? Or even still in love with him?

Q.   Dear Cupid Aunts and Uncles. I've been going with a girl for about 8 months now. But I think she still has feelings for her ex? I could be wrong. Last month her ex had an accident. He almost died. He's okay now though. At the time of his a...

A.   7 March 2014: Yeah it sounds like she's a passive aggressive douchebag who's had her feelings stirred by her ex nearly dying. I mean she literally couldn't be more obvious and frankly, no offence, but she's being a total bitch about it too. You're not over-ana... (read in full...)

Should I take it personally that he goes limp during sex?

Q.   Sometimes when my boyfriend and I are having sex, he goes limp...I have NEVER had this issue before with anyone I have been with. I haven't had many partners, and he is the first and only one who has been with me since I had a child (3 years ago...

A.   7 March 2014: How can you take it personally when it's only sometimes? Can't exactly be a problem on your end then. And no you shouldn't, it can happen, OP. Little Elvis doesn't always want to perform. Sometimes he's had too much alcohol, other times he's not ... (read in full...)

Hasn't text me all day.. but got on facebook??

Q.   My boyfriend is supposed to be at work today but I haven't talked to him so I really have no idea if he went or not. I text him about 3 hours ago and said "just thinking about you.. love you.. xoxo" and he didn't reply. I didn't think much of it ...

A.   7 March 2014: Your text didn't require a reply. It was't a question it was just a sweet reminder by you of how much he means to you. Don't ruin that sentiment by making it all about getting a reply. If that was your intention then frankly you shouldn't have even... (read in full...)

I can't cope with my fiance watching porn!

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles. My problem will probably seem trivial, but here it goes. I cannot deal with porn. At all. I used to be fine, but ended up in a bad relationship and he was also a true porn addict.Couldnt go more than an hour or so with out it, ...

A.   6 March 2014: You know it seems that porn is an issue for you in a different way than we usually get. I wasn't going to answer this, because based on your question alone and not the follow up I was going to advise trying to get back to the place you were okay... (read in full...)

I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.

Q.   Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...

A.   6 March 2014: OP in the case of this guy your "oversensitivity" is simply a matter of having conditions that he can't/won't meet. The guy's more interested in his phone and his friends when he's spending time with you? OP one month in his attention should be all ... (read in full...)

I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.

Q.   Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...

A.   6 March 2014: Ah well, you gave it a shot, OP and this guy is just not for you. It's not exactly "spending time with someone" if you're going to be constantly on your phone to someone else. He got more than a little obnoxious when you highlighted that too. The g... (read in full...)

Why did she start to show interest when I ignored her? Should I pursue her?

Q.   Hi I am an individual who doesn't believe in mind games and find it a big turn off! I was chasing a girl and dated her for a while until suddenly she became distant. I thought maybe she's not interested so I confronted her. She didn't give me a...

A.   6 March 2014: Of course not male anon, there's nothing rude or disrespectful about changing the rules of a game a woman has decided to start playing with you. There's nothing confused about this woman, she knows whether she likes him or not and she didn't give... (read in full...)

How do I talk to my teacher about my anxiety issues?

Q.   I didn't really know where to go with this question, but hoped somebody on here may be able to offer some advice:) Basically, I have anxiety disorder and suffer from frequent panic attacks, it all started last year but eventually I managed to cal...

A.   6 March 2014: Tell your parents, OP. I'm a teacher, if you approached me about that I'd discuss it with you, send you to school counsellor and inform your parents if you won't. It's a health issue and dealing with has the potential to improve your quality of ... (read in full...)

How do we reconnect? I want things to work! Help?

Q.   I was with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We had a lot of good moments but after he moved away, for work, for 6 months things went down hill. I started to become the jealous, clingy, needy, insecure girlfriend. I started accusing him of cheating, ...

A.   6 March 2014: Just to add, OP, I'm not against you here. I'm rooting for this to work out for you in a way that is best for you. The reason I'm so sceptical here is that you so very clearly have not changed and have no idea what you're doing here, you're just... (read in full...)

How do we reconnect? I want things to work! Help?

Q.   I was with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We had a lot of good moments but after he moved away, for work, for 6 months things went down hill. I started to become the jealous, clingy, needy, insecure girlfriend. I started accusing him of cheating, ...

A.   6 March 2014: Female anon if my wife began behaving out of character and she was becoming a nightmare to be with she's the kind of person intelligent enough to know something is wrong and we'd work together to fix it because we'd know how. The OP has no idea... (read in full...)

Why did she start to show interest when I ignored her? Should I pursue her?

Q.   Hi I am an individual who doesn't believe in mind games and find it a big turn off! I was chasing a girl and dated her for a while until suddenly she became distant. I thought maybe she's not interested so I confronted her. She didn't give me a...

A.   5 March 2014: No, don't pursue her for anything other than a drunken one night stand or something. She's not interested in you but you still may be able to get a shag off her. OP when a woman blows hot or cold she's not interested, and if she is interest... (read in full...)

How do we reconnect? I want things to work! Help?

Q.   I was with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We had a lot of good moments but after he moved away, for work, for 6 months things went down hill. I started to become the jealous, clingy, needy, insecure girlfriend. I started accusing him of cheating, ...

A.   5 March 2014: "Without telling me we should breakup what other advice can you offer?" Nothing at all. There's literally no advice that is going to make this work because you're still the crazy paranoid jealous women that played her part in making the thing fall... (read in full...)

His ex-wife is trash-talking me all over town.

Q.   The man I was seeing is now trying to get back with his wife and she is harassing me and telling everyone I stalked him and wouldnt leave him alone when in fact we had a 3 month relationship which he instigated and I finished. He had already split ...

A.   5 March 2014: Don't like something on facebook? Block and delete those people. So what if she wants to talk shit? Responding to it emotionally or anything else would just feed into her campaign, just ignore it. OP she's picking on you because you're a soft touc... (read in full...)

We told each other we like one another, but he doesn't want a relationship right now?

Q.   We have gone from talking to eachother almost everyday for nearly 4 months, to now nothing...Its been a heart breaking process, to like someone so much who doesn't want to be with you. He's 34 and im 25, and he had not long come out of a relatio...

A.   5 March 2014: I wouldn't hide from him unless it gets too difficult for you after that clear rejection.II mean he's basically said he's not interested in you at all. if you need time to get over him and that means removing him from your life for a while, then... (read in full...)

How far should the "my house, my rules" concept be taken?

Q.   I am curious to know your thoughts about the concept of "my house, my rules". Recently there was a question posted by an (over 18) OP living at home with her parents, who wanted to get a piercing against her mother's vigorous oppositi...

A.   5 March 2014: It depends. I'd be very liberal but put my foot down in terms of safety. Look kids will take their own path in life regardless of your influence but I honestly can't see any kids I have being obsessed with having fake tits or anything ridi... (read in full...)

How do I deal with a guy I dated? I've moved on, he hasn't.

Q.   Hi everyone, I need advice on my situation. I met a guy back in December who was really lovely and had a great personality. I wasn't really attracted to him like that but he asked me out on a date and as I wasn't seeing anybody at the time I kind ...

A.   4 March 2014: OP enough of the mixed signals. Time to grow a pair of tits, woman up and stop being such a flaky game player. You say you said from the start that you didn't like him in that way yet you continued on playing the game and even slept with him. Y... (read in full...)

How could she sleep with him if she felt something for me?

Q.   I am in a bit of a predicament. I have been in a lesbian relationship for the past year and I am more than happy and really feel like I've met who I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with. She says that she feels the same. The only ...

A.   4 March 2014: You're not being unreasonable, I hate when people do that. I just cannot be a with a person who starts dating before they've left their last relationship. The reason it's "difficult to explain" is that she cheated o him with you effectively. ... (read in full...)

How can he change his mind like that? And how can he say he loves me while he's having sex with other women?

Q.   Ok idk if my boyfriend loves me. If he does when did he start idk and i think he is with me only cause i love him not sure. How can i be sure when he left 3 times. He says ii came back. But the last 2 breakups was evil mean very badbad. I wonder if ...

A.   4 March 2014: "He has ruined my life now im gonna die alone." No he hasn't, you have. You're the one who keeps going back to him. If you ask me you can put all the sad faces you want into your question I have zero sympathy for people who allow themselv... (read in full...)

I can't keep the past in the past!

Q.   So ive been with my boyfriend for 6 almost 7 months total, and he couldnt be more amazing. But there is a problem, and its me. I love him more than anything in the world but Im afraid because of my actions I will push him away. We argue a lot...

A.   4 March 2014: "But since she lied he cheated on me for nothing.." That is complete and utter bullshit, OP. That whole story and excuse he made up is possibly the most stupid explanation I've ever heard and I honestly can't believe you fell for that. He cheated ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with a passive aggressive sister?

Q.   I have a younger sister whom I am generally very close with. However, she has a habit of having these mood changes which really upset me. What happens is that I will ask her not to do something, like eat food I am saving for a party, and she w...

A.   4 March 2014: Sanctions. Simple, stop asking her not to do something and just make sure she can't do the things you don't want her to. Don't want her eating your party food? Wait until the day of the party before you get it, stockpile cash instead. She doesn't ... (read in full...)

I get angry when my fiancee doesn't help me much

Q.   I have a learning disability and she my fiancee has. She doesn't help me when I can't think on my own sometimes. Like she opened an account before I did and they accepted her credit union information and not mine at social security office. And no...

A.   4 March 2014: BroncoDude how exactly is it her fault they refused your details? That's not a rhetorical question either. Can you definitely say that even with her help they would have accepted your details? If not then you can't blame her for this. With all due ... (read in full...)

Do her actions indicate that she still in love with her ex?

Q.   I have a very simple question if a women keeps pictures of her and her ex husband even though there divorced and he's with a new women and they have a baby together and but she has these pictures posted on her facebook page of their wedding day and ...

A.   4 March 2014: Impossible to know but very doubtful. It only means their break up wasn't bad enough for her to want to erase any trace of him from her social media accounts or she just doesn't use it that much, or she hasn't gone browsing through her old FB pics ... (read in full...)

What can I do to ensure that I can find someone who doesn't blow me out after 5 months or so?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Im a 30 year old women living in London. I'm single and have had around 6 serious boyfriends. Over the past couple of years, my elderly father has become very ill with a heart condition and dementia. It has been complicated as this...

A.   4 March 2014: I think it's time to take a break from dating for a while and wait until the whole situation with your father has stabilised. My mother in law is very ill at the moment and has moved in with us for support while she's receiving treatment. Our rela... (read in full...)

Want to stay in closet, but also want to connect with a man. How are you supposed to ask a man?

Q.   Hello, how is a man suppose, to go about, wanting to have sex with another man, I've only been with women, am just a little bi. curious I don't know how you are supposed to know: 1. What kind of guy, you can ask 2. How you go about asking, if I do ...

A.   4 March 2014: Just do it online or head to a gay bar out of town and see if you meet an interesting guy who's up for fun. It's very easy to find a casual hook-up online. Of course you'll have to do a bit of research into safety, how to maintain discretion and ... (read in full...)

I declined this man's advances but now I deeply regret it. We are going to meet. What should I do?

Q.   Hi. I am 22 yrs old, I am looking for someone who could give me a helpful insight regarding my situation. A year ago I met someone. He never became my bf. Although he wanted to, always telling me that I am perfect for him. I doubted his sincerit...

A.   4 March 2014: You know for certain he has a girlfriend? If so then leave it off, sounds like you'd find it too hard. Time to focus your attention elsewhere then. You must have some pretty vicious insecurities if you think he hates you when he's invited you to a... (read in full...)

My fiancée says she isn't sexually active, so how does she have herpes? Now I'm rethinking our engagement!

Q.   Hi, I need your help, I recently found out my fiancée has herpes. She said she isn't sexually active. Can one get herpes even without being sexually active? Also, what does it mean if she has herpes? shall I break off my engagement becau...

A.   3 March 2014: You need to ask her how long she has it and when she got it etc. Talk to her about this. It doesn't mean she's been sexually active and even if she was it doesn't mean it was by choice if you know what I mean, especially if she's had it since she ... (read in full...)

Women, do you prefer it when a man delays ejaculation?

Q.   I just want to find out if delayed ejaculation is necessarily than premature ejaculation where the female perspective is concerned. I sleep on a regular basis with sex workers. Normally, I ejaculate within a minute or tow, sometimes even within ...

A.   3 March 2014: Your sexual function in the context of an emotionless business transaction is not a good context on which to judge how it'll be during dating. It's a very different experience when dating a normal woman because it's about mutual pleasure. You real... (read in full...)

He invited me, so why shouldn't he pay?

Q.   Dear ok Cupid, I have male friend who I haven't talked to for over a year, asked if I would accompany he and his family to Disney Land n July 2014. He told me that all I have to pay for is my airfare. If this was an invite, don't u think he...

A.   3 March 2014: What? How did a question about air fare turn into that?... (read in full...)

My male friend has become distant since I confessed to being interested in one of his friends

Q.   I recently broke up with my boyfriend because it was very clear how much we had grown apart in our 3 year relationship. A few weeks before I broke up with him, I started hanging out with a guy regularly. I was never attracted to him romantically but ...

A.   3 March 2014: If you believe that, you'll believe anything. ... (read in full...)

My male friend has become distant since I confessed to being interested in one of his friends

Q.   I recently broke up with my boyfriend because it was very clear how much we had grown apart in our 3 year relationship. A few weeks before I broke up with him, I started hanging out with a guy regularly. I was never attracted to him romantically but ...

A.   3 March 2014: So you don't know why a friend you used on the rebound emotionally, sexually and intellectually before discarding him for his best friend would be a little distant? OP there's nothing wrong with hook ups, but when it's a friend it's dangerou... (read in full...)

He invited me, so why shouldn't he pay?

Q.   Dear ok Cupid, I have male friend who I haven't talked to for over a year, asked if I would accompany he and his family to Disney Land n July 2014. He told me that all I have to pay for is my airfare. If this was an invite, don't u think he...

A.   3 March 2014: Do you want him to pay for the food you eat on the journey there too, or the tampons you may need while there if you're on your period, or the haircut you get before you go? OP he's a friend, they probably had an extra place available on a pack... (read in full...)

Women, do you prefer it when a man delays ejaculation?

Q.   I just want to find out if delayed ejaculation is necessarily than premature ejaculation where the female perspective is concerned. I sleep on a regular basis with sex workers. Normally, I ejaculate within a minute or tow, sometimes even within ...

A.   2 March 2014: Ladies prefer you last longer but sex workers prefer if you ejaculate quickly. Don't mistake the two. Sex workers arr not women there hoping you'll pleasure them, it's business they want to seal the deal quickly so they can move on to another ... (read in full...)

I declined this man's advances but now I deeply regret it. We are going to meet. What should I do?

Q.   Hi. I am 22 yrs old, I am looking for someone who could give me a helpful insight regarding my situation. A year ago I met someone. He never became my bf. Although he wanted to, always telling me that I am perfect for him. I doubted his sincerit...

A.   2 March 2014: OP, again you're backing off and showing no fight. Go and see what happens. If he's single then tell him you like him etc. Look I was harsh in my original post but it obviously backfired and instead of stirring up a fight in you it's caused you ... (read in full...)

I declined this man's advances but now I deeply regret it. We are going to meet. What should I do?

Q.   Hi. I am 22 yrs old, I am looking for someone who could give me a helpful insight regarding my situation. A year ago I met someone. He never became my bf. Although he wanted to, always telling me that I am perfect for him. I doubted his sincerit...

A.   1 March 2014: See what happens at the get together. If he is with someone then it wouldn't be right to pour out your feelings to him and stir up trouble. With all due respect if he's moved on then you should accept that you blew your chance and move on too. A... (read in full...)

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