I am a horny virgin but I don't think I am ready for sex!
Q. im 15 and i keep feeling horny, but i havent had sex before what do you think i should do? i want to have sex but at the same time i dont think im as ready as i think, but i keep feeling horny. Help me please....
A. 23 October 2009: If you don't think you're ready for sex then you're definitely not. It is normal to feel horny, especially at your age. Just do what everyone else does and get to know your body and explore ways of relieving your hornyness. Feeling horny ... (read in full...)
Help with my boyfriend that's addicted to porn, but still has sex with me. I feel like I'm his sloppy seconds.
Q. My boyfriend masturbates to porn everyday. He still has sex with me, but it makes me feel horrible about myself because I am a very attractive woman that is in my early 40's. I look very good for my age. Men tell me all the time that any guy ...
A. 22 October 2009: StarMaiden I was agreeing with you and just explaining that sometimes it's not enjoyment that we are after and therefore we don't want that mutual participation.
The rest of the question was directed at OP, sorry I should have maybe clarifie... (read in full...)
My partner's ex is always saying bad things to his kids about us so is it time to tell them the truth about their mother?
Q. My partner is a very caring Dad who spends as much time as he can with his kids from his first marriage. They stay with us on a regular basis and he pays a regular sum to his ex via CSA plus pays extra towards sports, mobile phones etc. His ex goes ...
A. 22 October 2009: If you do explain anything to the kids about money try not to get them involved in a two way slagging match.
Unfortunately the law is geared towards protecting mothers and has very little consideration for fathers. If your husband was to stop pay... (read in full...)
Help with my boyfriend that's addicted to porn, but still has sex with me. I feel like I'm his sloppy seconds.
Q. My boyfriend masturbates to porn everyday. He still has sex with me, but it makes me feel horrible about myself because I am a very attractive woman that is in my early 40's. I look very good for my age. Men tell me all the time that any guy ...
A. 22 October 2009: Sorry I need to clarify this statement I made:
"Also for guys the emotion is the exact same for both going to the toilet and masterbating, satsifaction of release and nothing more."
Masterbating ALONE is the same.
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Help with my boyfriend that's addicted to porn, but still has sex with me. I feel like I'm his sloppy seconds.
Q. My boyfriend masturbates to porn everyday. He still has sex with me, but it makes me feel horrible about myself because I am a very attractive woman that is in my early 40's. I look very good for my age. Men tell me all the time that any guy ...
A. 22 October 2009: I would just like to respond to something StarMaiden said.
"However, as a woman I would prefer my man to masturbate with me while we are being creative together."
I understand that feeling completely, but it is often the opposite of what... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my passive-aggressive boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend is consistently passive-aggressive when he doesn't get his way, and on many occasions has subtly made small jabs at me for various reasons. It's completely unnecessary and makes me feel terrible. Because of this I rarely compliment him ...
A. 22 October 2009: You need to ignore him when he's acting like that. I'm not proud of it but I'm kind of the same way, but it's only when I'm in a bad mood or unhappy. It's not something I can help to be honest when I'm like that there is no talking to me and there's ... (read in full...)
Body Acne Problems
Q. [WARNING GROSS STORY. SORRY!] This is So embarrassing. So, I REALLY like this boy. and we are currently dating. He tells me I'm pretty but I feel like I'm the ugliest girl in the world. This is because I have horrible skin. I have acne and stuff, ...
A. 22 October 2009: It's nothing to feel embarassed over, I too had horrible acne all over my back for years and it really did hurt my confidence. After a visit to a dermatologist and using the steroid cream he gave it cleared up in a matter of weeks. I know feel more ... (read in full...)
Haven't liked oral in the past -- suggestions?
Q. i was married for 9 yrs. my ex husband went down on me and i didn't feel nothing it was not pleasurable for me. so i don't really care for receiving oral. my current boyfriend wants to perform oral sex on me but i don't let him. this is issue ...
A. 22 October 2009: Uncle Phil is right, perhaps your ex husband was just useless at it, you should let this new guy try. You'd never know he might be really good at it and to not find that out because you're ex wasn't would be a real shame.... (read in full...)
Help with my boyfriend that's addicted to porn, but still has sex with me. I feel like I'm his sloppy seconds.
Q. My boyfriend masturbates to porn everyday. He still has sex with me, but it makes me feel horrible about myself because I am a very attractive woman that is in my early 40's. I look very good for my age. Men tell me all the time that any guy ...
A. 22 October 2009: This is a very common question and there many varying views on both sides of the argument.
My opinion is that it is illogical to be jealous of fictional characters, they're not real so it doesn't constitute unfaithfulness. As you said it has no b... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have herpes?
Q. I need some advice about std's. I was tested for all std's late july and all my test came back fine. Mid August I started dating this man and we soon became sexully active. About a week ago he found a few small red bumps on his penis. What do you ...
A. 19 October 2009: He should go get them checked out, but they might be something benign like fordyce spots or an allergy to something.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?
Q. What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?...
A. 19 October 2009: He could have sat on his phone, it could have been a fault in the system, he might be looking for attention, he might have made a mistake, there are lots of different things it could be, without some background info we can't really know.... (read in full...)
How do I 'move in for the kiss'?
Q. This may sound stupid, or a waste of time but, ive been going out with a girl for almost 2 months now, im really into her, the thing is im not sure how to move forward because we have only really just been taking it easy, hugs, pecks all that stuff, ...
A. 19 October 2009: It has to be a gradual progression, being somewhere private helps. By gradual progression I mean it has to flow with what is happening, diving in as you know, is a bit risky.
It starts with the usual closeness and intimacy, hugs, holding and shou... (read in full...)
She doesn't remember what she did when drunk - or does she?
Q. I moved into a new flat a few months with two girls who were friends of my friend. i got a crush on one of the girls and then a month ago me, her and one of our friends got drunk and kissed her and touched her boobs but we couldn't do much. ...
A. 19 October 2009: If I were you I'd forget about that incident, she either doesn't remember or is choosing not to remember, either way she has made it clear she doesn't want to discuss it.
This doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested it just means that she... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as post wedding blues?
Q. Is there such a thing a post wedding blues? I got married three weeks ago to an amazing woman but now I can't help feeling that I have made a terrible mistake. Shes amazing, everything I've ever wanted. There's never been any problems between us. ...
A. 15 October 2009: Yeah it's perfectly normal. Most people call this "cold feet", yeah I know all the movies make out like this should happen before the wedding, well it has to, to work for the plot in those movies. The reality is though that it can hit anytime before ... (read in full...)
In a student/teacher fantasy, what role does the man prefer to play?
Q. this is going to seem really random, but i need to ask: in student/ teacher fantasies, do most men prefer being the student or the teacher? i ask this because it seems to me that most women i come across prefer to be the student, so i assumed that ...
A. 15 October 2009: Depends on the man, I prefer the teacher role, but I've played the student too, the student role is nice because it takes me out of my comfort zone as I'm usually the one that takes control when having sex with my girlfriend.
It all depends ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. I'm 17 and a virgin and my ex-girlfriend who is 15 had sex already ! I'm very jealous of her even though she told me that I should wait. She didn't so why would I do so? [Edited by moderator to improve readability]...
A. 15 October 2009: Hasden, it's not a competition. Sex is a personal act, it doesn't matter how old you are or if there are people younger than you that already have. There are millions of people that have had sex at an even younger age than her and there are millions ... (read in full...)
Fatten and Feed, Diet and Humiliate. Where can I find a woman like this?
Q. Hi all well i have a bit of a fetish/fantacy but find it difficult to meet women as it is a little unusual, Well hear goes, i'm fat very fat and would like to meet a female that would help me get fatter but humiliate at the same time, for exampl...
A. 15 October 2009: You could try craigslist, but the best way of finding people like this is to search the internet, it might take a bit of time and effort but if there are like minded individuals then you'll find them on the internet.... (read in full...)
Should I tell the her that I have a crush on her best friend too?
Q. hello there there is a girl that i like she used to date my best friend at school but me and him haven't spoken for a while because we chose different career choices. she is a year younger than me and we keep in touch over facebook and msn. ...
A. 15 October 2009: Say nothing, there's absolutely no reason she needs to know.
Firstly it would be very inconsiderate to tell a girl you like her and then tell her you like her friend too, that can be hurtful and/or confusing because that's basically leading ... (read in full...)
Do guys think virgins are a total turn off?
Q. ok, so do guys think virgins are a total turn off? im asking this because i am one and every guy i end up telling this to gets really uncomfortable even though they are the ones that asked. and then of course they run when i tell them i dont believe ...
A. 15 October 2009: No, in general virgins aren't a turn off, in fact most guys your age see taking a girls virginity as some kind of trophy. That's probably why the guys you've met get so uncomfortable, but that's a good thing, you need to weed out these trophy ... (read in full...)
What is the smell that's coming from my private area?
Q. please help!!!! i have a problem with a smell that is coming from my private area. it seems to be coming from the hair cuz at times ther is a white substance coating the hair and it stinks. i have tried differant soaps and altho some seem to help ...
A. 15 October 2009: You need to go to a doctor, it doesn't sound like a yeast infection. Yeast infection on guys constitute a vicious unbearable itchy rash.
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Should I have sex ?
Q. I'm 17 and a virgin and my ex-girlfriend who is 15 had sex already ! I'm very jealous of her even though she told me that I should wait. She didn't so why would I do so? [Edited by moderator to improve readability]...
A. 15 October 2009: Just because your ex girlfriend has had sex doesn't mean you have to, that's not a very good reason.
What's important is that you wait until you're ready.
I think you've gotten the wrong idea why she thinks you should wait, you think she's tryi... (read in full...)
Is it possible to wipe an ex from memory?
Q. If you`ve seen "eternal sunshine of the spotless mind," you`ll know what i`m on about. i could do with forgetting i ever met a certain ex. it`s a long story, i`ve posted about her before. i`ve come to the conclusion that she needs to be gone from my ...
A. 13 October 2009: It's not possible and you know that. No one can advise you on real methods of wiping your memory because you no doubt know what they are and that they involove damaging yourself irreparably.
Unfortunately time and seperation are the only things t... (read in full...)
Hand fetish?
Q. hey, so guys have anyone heard of hand fetish before? well, i did not :S but the thing is that i really feel i am so, i always tend to kiss my husband's hands.. and every time i see some girl kisses a man hands i get those butterflies on m...
A. 13 October 2009: Its actually a pretty normal fetish, especially in Muslim countires like yours. Any part of the body can be sexually stimulating. I have Muslim friends that find hands extremely arousing because where they're from that is the only part of a womans ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to go out and have fun like my friends do?
Q. hi i have been with my partner since i was 15 im now 18 and have a 1 year old child with him but alot of the time i feel like i dont love him anymore and i look at all my old friends and they are either at collage or university doing what they ...
A. 13 October 2009: Eyeswideopen, how is "You need to become an aunt on this site and answer all the sweet young things who Uncle Phil just described. Maybe you can talk some sense into them, we sure can't most of the time" an answer to "Is it wrong to want to go out ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to go out and have fun like my friends do?
Q. hi i have been with my partner since i was 15 im now 18 and have a 1 year old child with him but alot of the time i feel like i dont love him anymore and i look at all my old friends and they are either at collage or university doing what they ...
A. 13 October 2009: Wanna piece of advice Op? Ignore Uncle Phil, normally he gives great advice, but for some reason his response to you is beyond recourse as he took this as an opprotunity to make sure you know how stupid he thinks you are and how much better than you ... (read in full...)
I'm being used by guys for just sex
Q. it seems as though im being used for sex by guys...im tired of it...this guy tells me were making love and i told him i took it seriously...and all he says is his job is very demanding and he's not ignoring me or wanting to hurt my feelings... ...
A. 13 October 2009: Honestly there's no way we can know.
The question you need to consider is whether he's really done anything concrete to make you think this or whether your just overreacting to nothing.
Nothing you have said suggests to me that he's lying and u... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to go out and have fun like my friends do?
Q. hi i have been with my partner since i was 15 im now 18 and have a 1 year old child with him but alot of the time i feel like i dont love him anymore and i look at all my old friends and they are either at collage or university doing what they ...
A. 13 October 2009: Of course not, it's very normal for you to feel that way and would actually benefit you and your child if you looked into letting your hair down a bit more.
Of course raising your child comes first, but it can't be the only thing you do, I'm in c... (read in full...)
Does sex play a huge role in dating?
Q. How long do you wait for sex with a guy so he doesnt think you are a hoe or slut?...
A. 12 October 2009: There is no rule, it depends on the guy and lots of other factors.
I disagree with CaringGuy on the few months thing, thats not a reflection on whether the guy is good or not, for example he could just be a patient asshole. I consider myself a... (read in full...)
What do women want in a man? Women are so complicated!
Q. 12 October 2009: What woman wants in a man? when i was with my girlfriend, i used to love her like hell ....sometimes i used to struggle to find out that what would make her happy being with me. sometimes my wacky sense of humor would leave her ...
A. 12 October 2009: Every woman is different and want different things from men, however there are some general things most women want.
Good Hygiene, well groomed, mentally stable, honest, loyal etc.
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Is there a dodgy underground sex trade?
Q. this is gonna sound like a weird question but does anyone know if there are any working girls who cater to very weird or risky fetishes-such as unprotected anal sex or scatophilia-the reason I ask is because I know someone who was threatened by a ...
A. 12 October 2009: I did a study on this a couple of years ago based on sample groups from Ireland, England, Holland and Germany.
There are many misconceptions about prostitution based mainly on media and sociological portrayals of prostitution as something that is ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to give me oral sex more often
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for eleven months and i believe that i give him oral sex more than he does it to me what should i do to get him to do it to me more often...
A. 10 October 2009: If asking him doesn't work then give him some incentive to want to do it more often.
Let me make myself clear though by incentive I mean reward for doing it, not punishment for not doing it.
Perhaps if he knows he will get oral more often if he gi... (read in full...)
Are watery eyes while giving a blowjob a turn off?
Q. Is it a turn off if a girl's eyes are super watery after/during a blowjob? I'm excited because I finally got the hang of deep throating and I can fit my boyfriend's entire dick now. And don't worry, I wasn't forced to learn or anything; my ...
A. 8 October 2009: No, it shouldn't bother him at all, as a previous poster said as long you don't have tears for any negative reason then it isn't a problem.
Sex questions are welcome here, no matter how graphic. Sex even has its own tag.
Perhaps there... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't like my boyfriend, how can I explain it to her so she will let me get back with him?
Q. Well, I Was with this boy before but my uncle went and told lies about him to my mam so my mam started not to like him, when i broke up with him i cant stop thinking of him i really want him back but i just dont know how to explain it to my mam so ...
A. 5 October 2009: *sister's daughter
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My mum doesn't like my boyfriend, how can I explain it to her so she will let me get back with him?
Q. Well, I Was with this boy before but my uncle went and told lies about him to my mam so my mam started not to like him, when i broke up with him i cant stop thinking of him i really want him back but i just dont know how to explain it to my mam so ...
A. 5 October 2009: You still need to explain what possible motivation your Uncle would have to lie?
Did he say it in passing to your mam or did he make a big deal out of it?
There's every possibility that he's telling the truth and it's the boy that's lying. I ... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't like my boyfriend, how can I explain it to her so she will let me get back with him?
Q. Well, I Was with this boy before but my uncle went and told lies about him to my mam so my mam started not to like him, when i broke up with him i cant stop thinking of him i really want him back but i just dont know how to explain it to my mam so ...
A. 5 October 2009: You need to go into a bit more detail or we can't give you any worthwhile advice.
How do you know your uncle told lies to your mam?
What were the lies?
Why would he lie to her?
How can you be sure they were lies?
... (read in full...)
How likely is it that he will stop wanting to see me because I need to lose a few pounds?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 2.5 months. Last night I was at his house and we were messing around and he started to undress me. Just before we started dating I gained about 10 lbs, and even though I know my weight/body is average, I'm very ...
A. 5 October 2009: What did he do that makes you think he's not into you anymore?
If the answer is nothing, then really you shouldn't worry about it.
Newsflash for you, most of us guys don't like skinny girls, we like women, with natural figures, not wit... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but is it time to move on? Should I feel guilty for having feelings for another?
Q. I love my girlfriend. I really do, We have our ups and downs but for the most parts we are good. We are together for more than 2 years now. We have problems that I am almost certain alot of failed relationships had. We are not growing together ...
A. 4 October 2009: No you can't be an asshole for having feelings for another, it's not something you can choose not to have so it's not your fault. This is also the reason you shouldn't feel guilty (easier said than done).
The only worthwhile advice I can give you,... (read in full...)
My ex seems to have moved on but I cant get over her!
Q. Hi Well Broke up with my GF about 2 months ago. I still see her every day /second day, and we are trying to be friends. She basically told me she isnt interested in sex/kissing with anyone, and yea. Anyway, lately I have been swamped with uni...
A. 1 October 2009: You're doing it wrong. You don't get over someone by seeing them every day and immediately trying to be friends, because you don't have time to grieve then or let your emotions recover.
Recovery time for a break up is not a concrete thing, it depe... (read in full...)
Why does my husband feel the need to lie to me about silly little things?
Q. its been like 1 year for my marriage and now for few months i have come to my moms house for some work and i talk to my husband daily over phone and we chat online also but sometime he lies to me. Like, if i ask him what are you doing now he says ...
A. 1 October 2009: Perhaps he says that because he doesn't want to get into a discussion about menial things.
My girlfriend calls me up quite often too and in the beginning of our relationship she'd ask questions like "what are you doing now? what are you thinking... (read in full...)
The problem that's surfacing right now is a recurring one - blowjobs!!
Q. Recently, my boyfriend and I have been hitting some... impasses. This is a source of some grief for me, because otherwise, our eight-month relationship has suffered no rough spots whatsoever. We don't get into screaming matches or even real fights - ...
A. 1 October 2009: If he's not willing to try everything possible to make it more enjoyable/tolerable for you then he can't reasonably expect you to want to do it.
Breathspray doesn't burn, the inside of your mouth is far more sensitive than the penis is, it tingl... (read in full...)
The problem that's surfacing right now is a recurring one - blowjobs!!
Q. Recently, my boyfriend and I have been hitting some... impasses. This is a source of some grief for me, because otherwise, our eight-month relationship has suffered no rough spots whatsoever. We don't get into screaming matches or even real fights - ...
A. 27 September 2009: Flavoured condoms are good for catching semen, but they might not get rid of the smell, I had the same problem with an ex and we solved it using breath freshener, the sprayable version.
Just spray some of that on, it gives a really nice cool tin... (read in full...)
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