Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 13 April 2012: No no no no no! NEVER EVER suggest staying in at her place or your place on a first meeting/date!!!!
Seriously, this is total red flag behaviour and will set a girls alarm bells ringing.
She doesnt know you at all, a total stranger. You co... (read in full...)
My Husband Seems to Prioritise Cats Over Baby Daughter
Q. My husband and I have a 3mo old daughter. The other day I mentioned it was time to start thinking of what methods we needed to use to childproof the house in the near future. I said I would like to move all the cats' litter boxes upstairs cos if B...
A. 10 April 2012: have you considered that you might be overreacting a tiny bit?
These are just cats. Thousands of people have cats and babies cohabiting happily.
Unless a cat is antagonised, they will not bite or scratch. The litter boxes are a non-issue, mov... (read in full...)
Can you have a 'mid-life crisis' at 19?
Q. Is my friend going though a breakdown, or some sort of life crisis judging by her behaviour. She's only 19, turning 20 in four months but she's been acting really different! We already have active social lives, but now when she's out, she's more ...
A. 10 April 2012: To be honest, it sounds more like she is suddenly relishing the fact she is an adult and can do whatever she wants and no one can tell her any different. She doesnt want to be 'serious' and take the responsibility that being an adult brings, ye... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe in living together before marriage
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year now. Things are pretty great between us and I am considering living together but he seems to disagree. Both of us currently work part time and live at home, whilst saving up for a deposit. However, usually ...
A. 10 April 2012: I dont think either is 'correct' as in neither of you are right or wrong.
it is just a difference in upbringing and opinion.
There are some who believe in no sex before marriage - just because others dont agree, doesnt make them 'wrong'.
... (read in full...)
Student/Teacher Relationship?
Q. I am not really sure what I am trying to achieve here, but I am in an emotional bind and have no idea where to turn to let my feelings out. So here goes and I hope a few sympathetic ears are out there to listen to my issues and maybe be able to ...
A. 7 April 2012: Glad I could be of help, I hope I didn't sound too mean!
You just concentrate on YOU - Your studies, your future and your success are the most important things in this situation.
Don't waste this chance! Get your head down and study! :)
Tig... (read in full...)
My husband sends my daughter to bed so that we can go around the house naked. Is this fair?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman and newlywed with a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My new husband insists that a night, my daughter go to her room so we can have private time and likes me to go nude around the house, even if we are ...
A. 7 April 2012: So your husband DEMANDS that you get naked every night for the hour or so before you go to bed?
Did he ask nicely or TELL you that you had to do this? Do you get any say in the matter at all?
If you protest, will he get angry/annoyed?
... (read in full...)
Student/Teacher Relationship?
Q. I am not really sure what I am trying to achieve here, but I am in an emotional bind and have no idea where to turn to let my feelings out. So here goes and I hope a few sympathetic ears are out there to listen to my issues and maybe be able to ...
A. 6 April 2012: I also want to add, that ALL new tutors are advised about this type of situation - students flirting and coming on to you.
There are policies and rules put in place should anything like this happen. Any potential issues have to be reported... (read in full...)
Student/Teacher Relationship?
Q. I am not really sure what I am trying to achieve here, but I am in an emotional bind and have no idea where to turn to let my feelings out. So here goes and I hope a few sympathetic ears are out there to listen to my issues and maybe be able to ...
A. 6 April 2012: OK, I work at a University, so I might be able to help.
Bottom line, student/teacher relationships are not allowed at University.
This is not an aged based issue. You could be older than him, the rules would still apply.
It has more to ... (read in full...)
Sex is still painful
Q. I lost my virginity three years ago to my ex boyfriend, since then I have only slept with him and my current boyfriend. The first few times I had sex it was painful but I thought that was because I was new to it and that it would get better. B...
A. 6 April 2012: OP, I think you need to take a trip to the Doctors and get checked out.
There could be all manner of reasons as to why it hurts, from not being turned on enough, or him being too large.
Talk to the practice nurse or your GP, they will be able... (read in full...)
Met an aspiring actress, got on so well with her but found out she plans to sleep her way to the top!
Q. Right so last week met this girl a stunner at a local pub. we got on right away and i started seeing her. everything was going just fine until we started off talking about careers and she revealed that her plan is to sleep her way into roles! I was ...
A. 26 March 2012: My mum works in the theatre, so I feel I have more of an inside view on this.
In some respects, there used to be a 'casting couch' culture. BUT this was in the minority and restricted to a handful of pervy directors, who used gullible young ac... (read in full...)
My friend is dating an older guy who's a womanizer and it worries me!
Q. My friend (she is 14) has been daydreaming about a guy that is 4 years older than her (18) we'll call him B and her A. she has only seen him once and talks to him on facebook nearly non-stop. She told me that he has wanted to meet up with her on ...
A. 25 March 2012: OP, I think you are beginning to see what happens when a 14 year old girl gets an idea in her head and will not see the reality of a situation.
We get so many girls your age (14) on here who talk about wanting to have sex with their boyfrien... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 22 March 2012: I have one question.
What does your child think about all this?
Do they care that their father is trying to replace their mother with a new woman?
Do you want you child to be teased about their dysfunctional family?
Your comment ... (read in full...)
Should I date a professor if we're close in age?
Q. Ok, I feel silly posting this, but I am hoping someone with personal experience, either as the student or preferably the professor, in a similar situation can give me some advice. Let me start by saying I am not a young, impressionable g...
A. 22 March 2012: You are a grown woman, so I will be blunt.
No, it is not a good idea, and would be very frowned upon, and potentially he could lose his job.
Staff/student relationships at ANY age are considered to be wrong, and an abuse of position of trus... (read in full...)
At what age do you think should people think of getting married and having children?
Q. What age do you think is people should start having a family? I have a 25 year old daughter, who is very accomplished, smart, beatifull, full of life....and doesn't want even to think of getting married and have children just yet. She is still s...
A. 20 March 2012: I am roughly in the same age as your daughter, at 28.
Why are you so concerned about your daughters family planning? Is it that you want HER to have kids, or because YOU want grandchildren?
That probably sounds like a strange question, but it... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling worried and scared and actually look forward to this trip?
Q. I am going away for ten days for a German exchange, however my boyfriend of a year is not. Instead he is staying at school. He is very close to his ex-girlfriend, and she will be there for the ten days. His ex and I used to be really good friends ...
A. 19 March 2012: You have to trust him.
That is the bottom line in this question. Without trust, there is no relationship.
Trips like this do not come along very often, and it would be such a shame to ruin the experience because you are worrying what is... (read in full...)
She cried when I said I just wanted to be friends!
Q. Hi, I recently met a woman who is a few years older than me. We got on really well, talked on the phone for hours and were texting eachother constantly. I saw a couple pics of her and decided to meet her in person. She was even better looking in the ...
A. 19 March 2012: You feel ignored?
She feels rejected!
Did you meet her on a dating site? Because from what you have said, and the 'hugs and kisses' all suggest that she wanted more than just friends from you.
She probably assumed (wrongly) that you were ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont spend mothers day with me - am I overreacting?
Q. This time last year my grandmother died and it is mothers day weekend as everyone knows and my mum is working all day today and tomorrow. My boyfriend knows how upset i am, i was crying yesterday because I am just feeling quite lonely. At Christmas ...
A. 18 March 2012: My Nan died two weeks ago. When I heard, I was on my own. I had to get on with things by myself for a whole weekend until my boyfriend was free to come and see me.
In the real world people cannot just drop everything just because one person i... (read in full...)
He's changed and has stopped being so affectionate. How can I start that up again?
Q. Hiya. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now (well, in 4 days anyway) and at first, it was really nice. I used to be afraid of kissing and he let me get over it. Then for the next month he was really affectionate and paid a lot o...
A. 17 March 2012: You are 14? eeek, that makes me twice your age! lol that is scary, only seems like yesterday I was that age.
I know you wont want to hear this, but all teenage boys are the same underneath. There may be some who are better at hiding it than oth... (read in full...)
Recognizing female friends that will let you go further then friends.
Q. Ok this is a dumb question, but one ive honestly began to ponder upon lately, and i thought what better place to take this question, I hang out with a lot of girls, not by any preference, it just happens that way, i never really even noticed until ...
A. 17 March 2012: I agree with Janniepeg..... this isn't a case of working your way thru the group until one of them accepts your advances.
If none of them have grabbed your attention emotionally/physically/sexually by now, then really, do you find any of them att... (read in full...)
Thirty, single, no prospects, frequents hookers.
Q. Hi, i have recently turned thirty, only to realise that i am growing old with no experience with women and dating game. i just feel shallow, empty and detached. i have been away from home when i was 15 and have lived for the last 15 years on my own. ...
A. 17 March 2012: I can kind of understand where you are coming from.
I am 28, a virgin, and a PhD. I dont find it easy to talk to men, I am not 'hot' or attractive in the classic sense of the word. I am overweight, and shy.
Any men I liked, generally didn't... (read in full...)
He's changed and has stopped being so affectionate. How can I start that up again?
Q. Hiya. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now (well, in 4 days anyway) and at first, it was really nice. I used to be afraid of kissing and he let me get over it. Then for the next month he was really affectionate and paid a lot o...
A. 16 March 2012: OP, I am not going to bang on about the whole underage sex thing, as I know being a teenager you will do whatever you want anyway, regardless of the risks.
BUT when you say you have only been dating for 8 weeks, and then say this "We know its... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he messing with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months or so. (I'm 29, he's 35). We spend a few days and/or nights together each week, and we keep in touch every day via phone/texting. We have not said the "L" word yet, but we have done other things ...
A. 15 March 2012: Do you love him?
It could be he is trying to gauge your reaction to it, trying to work out your feelings. Hell, he may even just assume it.
if you DO love him, then just come out and say it. Tell him how you feel. He might be shy.
Men are ... (read in full...)
He's changed and has stopped being so affectionate. How can I start that up again?
Q. Hiya. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now (well, in 4 days anyway) and at first, it was really nice. I used to be afraid of kissing and he let me get over it. Then for the next month he was really affectionate and paid a lot o...
A. 15 March 2012: Hi OP
You did the right thing, and I want to address something from the anon male at the bottom there!
In the UK, UNTIL you are 16, ALL sex is ILLEGAL. Be it full on intercourse (vaginal or anal) or oral sex (blowjobs etc) as well as sexual t... (read in full...)
I really dislike being single
Q. I've been single since October And most people I talk to say that they like being single but I don't. Everyone says that I will never fib nd a boyfriend if I am looking but I cant just stop. I like a couple of guys but I am 99% sure none of them lik...
A. 13 March 2012: How old are you? Seriously, you have your WHOLE LIFE to worry about finding a man. See that word 'MAN'. At the moment, you are dating teenage boys, boys who you will mess around with and learn about emotion, but they will never be a long term ... (read in full...)
How did the pill make her breasts bigger?
Q. My friend is 19 and has been taking the pill to make her breasts bigger. I thought this was a stupid idea since the pill doesn't do that and she isn't sexually active, so why bother? However, she has been taking it and they have gotten bigger be...
A. 13 March 2012: Bigger breasts are a known side effect of taking the pill. You can often grow a cup size or more, and like person12345 says, its down to swelling rather than 'growth' of new tissue.......
The pill works regardless of if you are having sex or not. ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 11 March 2012: I think you need to grow up a little bit.
The vast majority of the women you will date and have relationships with, will NOT be virgins. You have to accept everyone has a past (as you do too) and just deal with it.
If everyone thought like you... (read in full...)
What goes through your head when you're facing jail for the first time?
Q. My boyfriend was found guilty for Burglary during the London riots last August. It’s his first offence and is awaiting sentencing which will be custodial. A moment of complete stupidity has also lost him his job. He sent a text telling me he loves ...
A. 8 March 2012: OP, I do not think anyone is going to have any sympathy for your boyfriend.
For what it's worth, I would hope he is feeling truely sorry for what he did, and not just sorry that he got caught. I hope that he is learning his lesson, and asking h... (read in full...)
He asked if I wanted to be FWB, I really want to but I'm scared because I'm a virgin! What should I do?
Q. So I've been pretty good friends with this guy for a year. We had an instant attraction and we both have wanted to be just more than friends but he had a girl friend at the time so nothing happened but he's now single. We've been flirting and ...
A. 5 March 2012: If you really want a relationship with this guy, then DO NOT have sex with him and become a FWB.
Once you have sex, he already has what he wants, and then he will never be 'ready' or in the right place to have a relationship with you.
As Hone... (read in full...)
Crush on my teacher....should I seek a sexual relationship with him? Or just let this go?
Q. I just want to go ahead and say I'm legal, not to justify my crush, but to help provide prospective and help those of you wiling to help me give me more accurate advice... And I apologize in advance, this is going to be really long. Alright, so I ...
A. 2 March 2012: If you are as smart as you think you are, then you SHOULD know that no matter if you are 'legal' or not, any kind of sexual/romantic relationship between a teacher and a pupil is ILLEGAL.
That is the bottom line. If he is found to have had sexu... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 28 February 2012: Not to state the obvious, but perhaps it is the dating site that is the problem. Is it a free one or a paid for site?
If it is free, and you are looking for long term romance, it may be the type of woman you would attract is not on it.
Maybe s... (read in full...)
How do I bring up my bondage fetish?
Q. I have a soft bondage fetish, nothing extreme. I have read around on the subject of bringing it up and I realise that I have to start with fuzzy handcuffs etc. until she's ready. However, how should I bring up the conversation? I have been with m...
A. 28 February 2012: ONLY TWO months? Do you consider this to be a long time, or a short time?
How old are you? Was she a virgin? Is she experienced? Do you want to scare the living daylights out of her?
Two months, 8 weeks, 60 days +/- ....... how many times have ... (read in full...)
Are we in a good position to be making these plans for our marriage in the future?
Q. Hi so really this a question to get people's opinion. here's the back history of me and my boyfriend first so you know where I'm coming from :-) I've been going out with this boy now for 4years he's 19 (20 in september) and I'm 18 (19 in April) we...
A. 27 February 2012: Your reaction to your boyfriend going shows you are still not emotionally ready for marriage. There are times in relationships where you have to be away from a partner, and whilst it might not be fun, you have to get on with it, and you have to be ... (read in full...)
Are we in a good position to be making these plans for our marriage in the future?
Q. Hi so really this a question to get people's opinion. here's the back history of me and my boyfriend first so you know where I'm coming from :-) I've been going out with this boy now for 4years he's 19 (20 in september) and I'm 18 (19 in April) we...
A. 27 February 2012: Most people think getting married at 21 is too young. Regardless of how long you have been together, at 21 you are still learning about who you are and what you want in life.
The changes that happen to you between the ages of 18-25 are huge. Em... (read in full...)
How can I use this money to make more money quicker?
Q. Hi all, I do hope somebody can offer some advice on my situation as I'm feeling rather down. I went on an expensive luxury holiday 6 months ago and had the ussual holidays blues after getting back as we all do. I waited and waited for these to wea...
A. 26 February 2012: OP, I think the main issue you need to address here, is not how to get rich quick (impossible) but why you are so unhappy with your life.
Most people cannot afford to go on holiday as much as they would like. We have to save up and holidays... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets upset when I don't answer the phone
Q. i am 46 single and live in uk and my muslim boyfriend is 26 years old, we met on a dating site. I look much younger than my age,we are planning to get married. My boyfriend gets really upset with me, when he cant get hold of me on the phone. He se...
A. 26 February 2012: Can I ask if you are also a muslim?
I have a friend who had to convert when she married her muslim boyfriend. She now barely sees her own family, as his muslim family has totally swallowed her up. Not out of choice, his family just take up so mu... (read in full...)
Is it taking advantage of a girl if you sleep with her because she's "easy"?
Q. So I know this girl who is really beautiful. Not only is she gorgeous but she's also "easy". You know what I mean by easy, right? She lets a lot of mates have their way with her. I mean, maybe she likes it too. If someone will get her a gift or buy ...
A. 25 February 2012: Cerberus, I think you have got the wrong end of the stick with my answer. I was purely trying to get the OP to see it from a different point of view.
He is calling her easy, but yet is quite prepared to sleep with her just because she IS easy. Wh... (read in full...)
Is it taking advantage of a girl if you sleep with her because she's "easy"?
Q. So I know this girl who is really beautiful. Not only is she gorgeous but she's also "easy". You know what I mean by easy, right? She lets a lot of mates have their way with her. I mean, maybe she likes it too. If someone will get her a gift or buy ...
A. 25 February 2012: OP,
If SHE was a man, who had slept with 150 girls, would you have such an issue with this?
This is the age old question of how men can be players, sleep around and be called 'studs' whereas a woman who sleeps around is deemed to have somethin... (read in full...)
Torn between boyfriend and home
Q. I really dont know what to do!!! I started uni in London 3 years ago and met a lovely boy who is now my boyfriend. We've been together for nearly 3 years and we live in a flat together in London that we rent from my grandmother. London has bee...
A. 25 February 2012: Auntie Bimbim has a point - do you get 'Granddaughter rates' on your flat, or do you pay full market value?
Could your boyfriend have been using you to get a nice flat for not very much money?
If he is willing to give you up so easily (it is on... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and the pill?
Q. Am twenty three years old and my and my boyfreind have been together just under ten months and making plans to move in together :) x and in septemeber we wa want to start a family x I'm currently on the pill but want adice on how i.e. your cycle ...
A. 24 February 2012: OP
Your followup concerns me even more now!!!!
You are LONG DISTANCE, and have only been together 10 months?
How many times have you actually met this man? How often do you see him? Once a week, once a month?
How do you know, that s... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and the pill?
Q. Am twenty three years old and my and my boyfreind have been together just under ten months and making plans to move in together :) x and in septemeber we wa want to start a family x I'm currently on the pill but want adice on how i.e. your cycle ...
A. 24 February 2012: Ok, you do realise you have only been dating your boyfriend as long as it takes to 'grow' a baby? 10 months really is a VERY short time to be considering starting a family.
However, it is your life, so you must do what you think is right.
... (read in full...)
Pregnancy risks?
Q. dear cupid, if you have anal sex and the guy cums in you, is it possible for any of his sperm to come in contact with your vagina (like, if it happens to run back out of your anus) and get you pregnant?...
A. 23 February 2012:
Safety first!
Anal sex is more dangerous for things like STD, STI and other nasty bacterial infections. Think what comes out of your anus... POO. Does he really want to be getting that in his penis?
You should NEVER do this without him wea... (read in full...)
Should I move back home or stay with my boyfriend?
Q. Hey :) I moved away from home 4.5 years ago to come to uni. Although i finished uni in 2010, I ended up staying here. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year but we dont live together. I live with a friend, but my boyfriend and I are trying to ...
A. 23 February 2012: Uni relationships are always strained once the courses finish. People go their separate ways and things get tough.
Right now, you have to make a decision.
Your home town, or his home town. He wont move, you want to be closer to your family. ... (read in full...)
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