Do other women not wear panties under their dresses?
Q. My boyfriend gave me a gift card to luluelemon and said to buy something we would both enjoy. I ended up with a tennis style dress that fits perfect on me, but it is supershort. He told me it looks amazing on me but I'm a little selfconscious with ...
A. 10 August 2015: Personally, I think not wearing pants is a pretty trashy thing to do. It shows an availability, which I personally am just not comfortable with. But that is just me.
Apart from the hygiene issues..... no pants under a short dress really says you... (read in full...)
I accidentally walked in on my elderly mother masturbating and don't know how to feel about this
Q. Hi - this is going to be a strange topic - but I am in my 40s and have just walked in on my mum (who is in her late 70s) masterbating at her house in the middle of the day. We were all sat in the garden when I looked up and saw my mum had gone ind...
A. 8 August 2015: Are you sure you saw what you think you saw?
Sometimes our imaginations can run away with us.
My Nan suffered terribly in her later years from water-works issues and incontinence. It is something she was very self conscious about, didn't ta... (read in full...)
I'm aiming for a career change. Can anyone advise which would be best: MRI, ultrasound or EEG technologist?
Q. Im going for a career change and I wanted to get some opinions. Mri, Ultrasound, or EEG technologist. I live in New York and I love the medical field. If theres anyone on here that does any of these for a living please don't hesitate to tell me a...
A. 5 August 2015: With respect OP, nowhere in your original post did you mention that you were already in medical education or working in the medical field. You provided very little information for people to be able to give you advice, and we have no idea of your ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my girlfriend that my sexual needs do matter?
Q. In college I had a friend named "Jon." He was a stage actor and while he was not conventionally handsome he was a leading man in the style of Gérard Depardieu. He was a decent guy and he had a lot a women interested in him at various points. ...
A. 5 August 2015: I want to give you a womans view on this, as so far all you have had is male advice.
From what you have written, it comes across as all about YOU.
As a woman, I would find it incredibly hurtful, that my current boyfriend and ex-boyfriend had... (read in full...)
I'm aiming for a career change. Can anyone advise which would be best: MRI, ultrasound or EEG technologist?
Q. Im going for a career change and I wanted to get some opinions. Mri, Ultrasound, or EEG technologist. I live in New York and I love the medical field. If theres anyone on here that does any of these for a living please don't hesitate to tell me a...
A. 3 August 2015: What do you do now? You are still only 18-21 so relatively young for having a career change - most people are only just starting a career at your age!
Have you had prior education/training in the medical field?
Most medical jobs require a d... (read in full...)
I made a comment about a person and my friend came back on me saying things that really hurt!
Q. I am friends with this girl and we were out together the other day, and I said a remark about a random stranger saying that she is fat, she doesn't need any more chocolate (because she was buying so many bags) and now my friend has had a go at me ...
A. 24 July 2015: I agree with the others - if you can dish out comments like that, then you have to be able to take them too.
Verbalising nasty comments about other people is rude, and inconsiderate. Some people have weight issues, you don't know why, and to just ... (read in full...)
I'm not comfortable with my partner's colleague coming home this often and it seems like he doesn't respect boundaries
Q. Me and partner live and work together and we are expecting our first baby, our home is next to the place we work , we work in a school. I moved in a few months ago and everything is good and we are happy about the baby etc. My partner works wi...
A. 24 July 2015: I think you need to stand up to your partner, and have a serious talk about this.
Having friends/colleagues pop round occasionally is one thing, providing a daily packed lunch is something else entirely!
The food costs will all add up - over th... (read in full...)
Double date with parents! What affection is appropriate?
Q. Hi! I know I ask a lot of questions but I really like having outside opinions from people other than my peers. So anyway here's my situation. So Saturday I am going on "a double date" with my parents. My boyfriend and I and then my parents will ...
A. 23 July 2015: I am going to reverse your question a little. How much PDA would you be comfortable with your parents doing whilst you were out with them?
If your Mum and Dad were kissing, or touching or hugging etc? Would you feel embarrassed, uncomfor... (read in full...)
How can I stop worrying about the future?
Q. How can I stop worrying about the future? I graduated with a 2:1 degree last November but in a subject that I don’t want to do anymore and won’t help me get a well paid job (Film). I have goals I want to achieve in the future, me and my boyfriend...
A. 21 July 2015: I don't have any advice, because I am in a very similar situation, but all you can do is just keep plugging away.
I am in my early 30's, have a PhD, and have worked and studied to get to a very high point within my chosen industry. Sadly, my contr... (read in full...)
Do I have any future with this man? Can he be helped? A relationship without sexual love and intimacy is not something I could live with
Q. Hello there! I am a 25 year old woman dating, for 3 months, a 36 year old man who I absolutely adore. We're very much into each other. He is kind, charming, chivalrous, gentle, strong-minded....everything one could want in a man. The only iss...
A. 21 July 2015: I think this man has a number of issues, both medical and emotional which may make your idea of "happy ever after" more difficult (not impossible) than with a person without.
I am not sure why you automatically link testosterone = steroid abuse! T... (read in full...)
My wedding day was wonderful and since then I've been crying. When can I feel better?
Q. I was wondering if what I'm feeling is normal... I got married almost 4 months ago. I'm not one who particularly enjoys weddings and hated the entire process of organising my own. I wanted an intimate party but as my husband has a big family...
A. 8 July 2015: As someone who is not married, I watch my friends and family all getting hitched and the processes which they go through.
99% of the time, it appears that everything is focused on the "big day". It is all about the Wedding. Spending huge amounts ... (read in full...)
How do I end things gently after 3 dates?
Q. First date - coffee and dancing. Second date - drinks, dancing, and kissing. Third date - (impressive) dinner at her place, and couch make out session. How do I end things gently as soon as possible? I'm 32 and she's 33. While I had fun o...
A. 29 June 2015: I have to agree with Chigirl on this one. Don't drag it out, because she will already be confused and hurt enough..
You do seem to have given her a lot of positive signals.
You asked her out for dates 2 & 3, so she will be assuming that yo... (read in full...)
The "Metrosexual" Guys I Find Physically Attractive Always Seem To Be Shallower Than I'd Hoped?
Q. I have a specific type in guys and I don't think this is wrong (geeky looking, glasses, skinny, short, well dressed, metrosexual ish). I tend to be very attracted to guys I see who look like that though they are quite rare where I live. However, ...
A. 19 June 2015: I have to agree with Chigirl on this one, right now being a "hipster" is cool. You look down the street, on the TV (adverts are full of them), and clothing shops are full of hipster-style clothes. It is bang on trend for this year. The fact t... (read in full...)
The "Metrosexual" Guys I Find Physically Attractive Always Seem To Be Shallower Than I'd Hoped?
Q. I have a specific type in guys and I don't think this is wrong (geeky looking, glasses, skinny, short, well dressed, metrosexual ish). I tend to be very attracted to guys I see who look like that though they are quite rare where I live. However, ...
A. 16 June 2015: You are still very young, and this is reflected in how you are looking at the guys you fancy. For you it is all about your "type"....
Yes, you are being shallow. Physical attraction is important, BUT to have a successful relationship you need mor... (read in full...)
I'm dating two guys and don't know which one to stay with
Q. i am curently seeing two guys (x and y) by accident and i don't know which guy to stay with. They both know i am seeing another guy as well as them and for the past week they are both trying to convince me to stay with them. x is so kind and always ...
A. 10 June 2015: Also - just another thought.
Imagine if this was a different situation.
What if X had met another girl, and was trying to decide which of you to go out with? How would that make you feel?
Pretty crappy I bet.
Emotions and hearts can... (read in full...)
I'm dating two guys and don't know which one to stay with
Q. i am curently seeing two guys (x and y) by accident and i don't know which guy to stay with. They both know i am seeing another guy as well as them and for the past week they are both trying to convince me to stay with them. x is so kind and always ...
A. 10 June 2015: I have to agree with Wiseowl on this.
There really is no competition here, because if you did really like X or Y, then the choice would be easy.
If you really cared for X, you would not have started seeing Y, and if you really cared for Y you ... (read in full...)
What could be the reason I am so consistently declined for jobs I apply for?
Q. Hi there I started to feel sad and upset with my situation. I have a degree in event management and also worked for 2 years for a well known company with good money too. Since I had the baby I left the job because I was commuting long distance. ...
A. 30 May 2015: Sadly this could be for a lot of reasons.
I am in a sort of similar position, but more that because of extra qualifications, and have been told on numerous occasions that I am "overqualified". I have priced myself out of roles that are now bein... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is tiring me out by following a routine that does not suit a young mother. What can I do to get him to realise this?
Q. Hi everyone my problem is my boyfriend we have been together for nearly 3 year we have a 5 month old son together. He goes to work, finishes at 4 comes to mine at 6 for tea, goes home, and comes back when our son is asleep. By then I'm tired and go...
A. 30 May 2015: You have been together 3 years, have a 5 month old son, yet you do not live together?
To me, this is lots of warning bells ringing very loudly!
You are right, when you say you are a single parent.
He is not taking ANY responsibility for y... (read in full...)
He wants casual but I want a relationship, should I give him what he wants?
Q. I feel like im loosing my mind. I met a mysterious guy and we got on so well, he told me he felt comfortable around me, making me feel relieved and srawn even cloaer to him, but recently he told me he only wanted a casual relationship.I'm 18 and ...
A. 11 April 2015: No. You will only get hurt.
He has been honest, and told you what he wants - SEX. He does not see you as a girlfriend, and that will not change.
Please don't think that if you give him what he wants he will suddenly miraculously wan... (read in full...)
Gf didn't want me to attend my work function. Am I not allowed a break? This isn't about girls...this is about a little freedom
Q. Is this normal? I have been in relationship for two years and we both had tough financial times but things are looking up. We do not live together yet. I found myself a new job, and after two weeks of declining to join work crew for drinks I f...
A. 3 April 2015: She is 19, and in all honesty, emotionally still a child.
I don't think she truly understands the "adult relationship"
You are perfectly in the right here. It is 100% normal when starting a new job to want to go out with your new work colleag... (read in full...)
Why did he ask me to keep this quiet from his girlfriend?
Q. My ex has offered to lend me the money to either get a new car or repair the one I have, with the agreement that I pay it back to him without his current girlfriend knowing as she doesn't know about this money he has in savings. I'm confused as to ...
A. 3 April 2015: My guess is he is still not 100% sure of his "girlfriend's" intentions. If she finds out he has a LOT of money stashed away that she doesn't know about, she may want a piece of it for herself.
They are not married, so he has no legal obligati... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling like a loser for going to uni late?
Q. I started at 17 (I'm Scottish) but faced some problems due to being young (hallmates didn't want to be friends with someone who couldn't go out etc.) and after a few years ended leaving my course as I was really depressed (family issues too) and my ...
A. 1 April 2015: Firstly,you are not a loser,so please stop beating yourself up!
Second, as previous posters have hinted at - University is wasted on 18-21 year olds.
I work within the university system, and have taught many undergraduate courses and semi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a 'fat' fetish. Why?
Q. I think my boyfriend has a 'fat' fetish. I am a very pretty girl, I am not overweight, and have never had a problem getting guys. I'm a petite brunette. I've always had a good sex life with my boyfriend's, always felt wanted and like they are 1000% ...
A. 26 March 2015: I agree with youwish, but from reading your post, I feel that there are perhaps other "issues" with this that might not be so obvious.
You go to a great deal of effort in your post to tell us how you are a "very pretty girl, I am not overweig... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I'm lying and hiding things from her about the past and I'm not!
Q. Hi there everyone. Thanks for checking out my post. I really appreciate it. So rightt. To the question. So me and my girlfriend are kind of being silent from each other. All of this is just too confusing so bear with me. She was an ex of...
A. 26 March 2015: P.s I know breakups are hard, but sometimes you have to look back and see that although painful, past relationships can make you learn, and have better times in the future.
Look back on the good times, now is the time to move on and find someone ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I'm lying and hiding things from her about the past and I'm not!
Q. Hi there everyone. Thanks for checking out my post. I really appreciate it. So rightt. To the question. So me and my girlfriend are kind of being silent from each other. All of this is just too confusing so bear with me. She was an ex of...
A. 26 March 2015: I agree with janniepeg. Ex's are ex's for a reason, and 99.9% of the time it is unwise to go back and try again.
The initial first flush of "WOW i've missed you" makes you forget as to why you did break up. But it doesn't change anything... (read in full...)
He's 25 and he's interested in me and I'm 47. My son, 27, is not happy about it. Should I try to deal with my sons concerns first?
Q. My boyfriend is 25 and im 47. my son is 27, I initially could not believe a guy younger than my son would be interested in me... but I have looked after my figure. We have a mind blowing relationship and both his and my parents have no problems... ...
A. 24 March 2015: Your son is having a lot to take in. As a *child* (regardless of age, you are still someone's child)it can be difficult to see parents move on to different relationships after divorce or death.
It can be difficult to accept a new partner in a par... (read in full...)
I miss the cuddling. How can I engage in any relationship in my situation? And are my friends right about arrive together and leave together?
Q. Hi everyone, need an advice. I am a single mom with 2 teens, 15 and 17. My life is very busy with work and kids. I don't date as I really have absolutely no time for that or energy. I concentrate on my kids and my job. But still I am a sexua...
A. 16 March 2015: OP - thank you for the follow up.
I am still confused though, about what advice you are actually looking for?
You came here, and posted a question, which was very much based purely on the sex you have on holiday, and how it was OH SO UNFAIR tha... (read in full...)
I miss the cuddling. How can I engage in any relationship in my situation? And are my friends right about arrive together and leave together?
Q. Hi everyone, need an advice. I am a single mom with 2 teens, 15 and 17. My life is very busy with work and kids. I don't date as I really have absolutely no time for that or energy. I concentrate on my kids and my job. But still I am a sexua...
A. 16 March 2015: Also - you are perfectly happy to leave your kids to go on holiday, so why can you not leave them for a night to stay over with a boyfriend? Are they not of an age to have sleepovers with their friends?
... (read in full...)
I miss the cuddling. How can I engage in any relationship in my situation? And are my friends right about arrive together and leave together?
Q. Hi everyone, need an advice. I am a single mom with 2 teens, 15 and 17. My life is very busy with work and kids. I don't date as I really have absolutely no time for that or energy. I concentrate on my kids and my job. But still I am a sexua...
A. 16 March 2015: You sound like a teenager on their first holiday away from parents. I WILL do what I want, because I can, and no one is going to stop me. Because I am a grown up.
Lets look at this another way.
If your child, once of age decided to go on... (read in full...)
How do you know when it's the right time to move in with your partner?
Q. Recently my boyfriend has mentioned me moving in with him, he wants me to and when he mentioned it I didn't think 'no it's too soon' or 'wow you're moving too fast' however I've mentioned it to a couple of friends and these were there responses. "...
A. 24 February 2015: I am going to take a slightly different angle to the other Aunts.
We don't know how old you are exactly (between 18-21), and we also do not know anything about your background or CURRENT living situation. These do have an importance to how soon... (read in full...)
My mom is an attention whore on the beach and it botherd me!
Q. My mom likes to wear skimpy bikinis to the beach! Ok so this has been going on my whole life but now that I'm beginning to mature it's starting to matter to me. My mom wear's the smallest bikinis in the world it seems even when we are going as a f...
A. 20 February 2015: Just out of interest OP, at what age do you feel that women should no longer wear bikinis to the beach?
From your age I suspect your mother is still only mid 30's in age, which is really still very young and the prime of her life!
I suspect tha... (read in full...)
2 years of crazy and we're only teenagers! what should I do?
Q. What should I do? Me and my boyfriend been together for 2 years now. At first, everything was fantastic. Like fairytales, lovey-Dovey for the first year. Second year, things changed. We became more busy, and I have a very busy life compared to his, ...
A. 11 February 2015: He sounds like an immature, rude child.
Why do you want to be with someone who treats you so badly and obviously has no respect for you? A part of growing up is learning when to walk away and do what is best for you.
You are still only teena... (read in full...)
My wife gave her ex boyfriend better sex than she gives me!
Q. I have asked my wife for 10 years to do the same sex acts that she did with her ex boyfriend but she refuses. She had sex with him daily and with me 3 times a month. I feel hurt and inferior to him. Is it ok that she denies me but wanted to ...
A. 9 February 2015: To be blunt you sound very self obsessed.
All I read is me me me me me me.
You sound like a spoilt child who isn't getting his own way.
Just because she did it with him, doesn't mean she ENJOYED IT. Perhaps she did it because she felt she ... (read in full...)
Conflicting school trips! Do I go camping or competing?
Q. Hi everyone, So recently I've been selected to represent my school in one of the biggest competitions amongst international schools. Unfortunately, it clashes with another school trip which is a camping trip that you'll receive award for as well....
A. 28 January 2015: Go to the competition.
You have been working hard and training for a competition, not only that your coaches and your fellow competitors will also have been putting in time and effort in order to represent your school. You don't say what you are ... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 27 January 2015: Ok. I feel that this may only be one side of the story, but I will leave my own opinions to one side.
You say you have been married to your wife for 22 years, her son has been in your life since he was 7 years old. He has grown up with you as a... (read in full...)
I am seriously thinking about putting my 2 year old up for adoption! Advice?
Q. Hi please don't judge me for this : I am seriously thinking about putting my 2 year old up for adoption. I love her but I am not the mother I hoped to be or she deserves. I cry on a daily basis, find myself snapping at her. The burst into tea...
A. 27 January 2015: First of all, please don't beat yourself up. You are still very young, being a single parent, and it is understandable that you are going to struggle, especially if your family are not willing to help you.
From what you have written, it sounds l... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to patiently wait out the engagement period and not rush marriage?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now, and we are talking very seriously about marriage (AKA he has picked out a ring and I'm waiting patiently for the one year mark to come for a possible proposal). I am beginning my second ...
A. 20 January 2015: OP, I apologise if I am being a bit slow here, but what exactly is your question?
We know you want to marry him, but why do you think waiting a year or two is going to be so difficult? What makes you think it will be "unbearable"?
Surely you ju... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to patiently wait out the engagement period and not rush marriage?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now, and we are talking very seriously about marriage (AKA he has picked out a ring and I'm waiting patiently for the one year mark to come for a possible proposal). I am beginning my second ...
A. 20 January 2015: I think every single woman who has been in a long term relationship will tell you that the first year, everything is roses and butterflies and nothing can go wrong.
You feel your relationship is invincible and you begin to plan for the future. ... (read in full...)
He's been discussing our sex life with his friends and co-workers! Do I confront him?
Q. I just found out that the guy I'm seeing has been telling everybody about our sex lives. I understand him telling his friends, but he has told his work colleagues as well. This makes me uncomfortable as he is my first sexual partner and it was a big ...
A. 19 January 2015: This is not typical and he sounds like he is very disrespectful of you - not good qualities in a boyfriend.
Sadly I fear he may just have been using you, and now is gloating about his conquests.
Just out of interest, how old is he? This soun... (read in full...)
My b/f wants to try anal sex, but I don't think I'm comfortable with it. How common is it for people to try anal sex?
Q. I'm wondering what everyone thinks of anal sex. I'm 21 my b/f is 23 and we've been together roughly 2 years. He's the only guy I've ever been with and we have been sexually active for a few months now. He's recently told me about wanting to try a...
A. 18 January 2015: Personally, this is a no-go area for me. If my BF tried to pressure me into it, then I would have to seriously reconsider the relationship. But that is just my own opinion.
There are many women who do enjoy it and find it a turn on.
You say... (read in full...)
Went on a date with my online friend, but received mixed messages. Did I offend him?
Q. Dear all. Your views would be welcome. Thanks. I went on an online date on saturday night. I had been talking on the phone to this guy for over a week. He was polite, and interesting. Anyway, we hit it off on the date, but after about 30 minutes h...
A. 12 January 2015: The thing with internet dating (which I have learnt from personal experience) is that men like to keep their options open. They may be chatting to multiple women at any one time, working out which one they like best.
You had one date.... therefor... (read in full...)
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