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Some people may think I am harsh, but often a "softly softly" approach does not work, and a good dose of reality is needed.

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Row with my mom caused to leave for the night. What if she doesn't return?

Q.   me and my mum had a big row today and im worried it has ruined the love i used to have with her. i asked my mum for £50 to buy some shoes and she said yes then said as long as their sensible and i just murmerd yes mum. then i went out and bough...

A.   17 May 2016: To be perfectly frank OP, you sound like you have been a bit of a brat to your mother. You have totally taken advantage of her, and certainly do not understand the value of money. £50 is a lot of money - it might not seem like it to you, but i... (read in full...)

Should I be sending risque pics to my boyfriend? Will it get on the internet?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we have a very close relationship. He is an incredibly sweet person and I honestly trust him with anything. The other day we were talking and it just so happened that he sent me a topless ...

A.   19 February 2016: As you are in the UK and under the age of 18 - LEGALLY you are considered to be a child, and are covered by the laws regarding child pornography. Currently "sexting" or sending any photos of a child in a sexualised context - naked pictures... (read in full...)

What does a guy have to do to lose his virginity?

Q.   What does a guy have to do to lose his freaking virginity? I've posted here a lot and I have taken everything I've been told to try and it just doesn't seem to work for me. I'm going to be 23 in April! I know I've made mistakes like going to a ...

A.   7 January 2016: I think this is the crux of your problem.. "I'm almost 23 and having a frequent/epic sex life is very important to me" You have fallen into the trap where you believe everything you read/see/hear about sex, the frequency of sex, and the "ep... (read in full...)

Where would you suggest I look to find a woman willing to cuckold me and become pregnant by another man after she and I are married?

Q.   Have looked and having trouble finding, yet I KNOW they exist. I am a single male, seeking a female for a relationship and eventual marriage. I am mostly submissive and definitely a cuckold. Seeing my gf having sex with men is amazingly erotic...

A.   3 January 2016: Regardless of your sexual preferences.... You are being incredibly selfish here. You are not considering the health, wellbeing or potential harm that could be done to any child created in these circumstances. Can you imagine how confused, mi... (read in full...)

Would this be a good opener to ask a nice girl going past me?

Q.   Just a simple question. If I see a nice girl going past and I just say "excuse me, are you busy" or "are you in a hurry?". Wouldn't that be the best opener to judge if she's interested? Her response would show straight away if she has any interest...

A.   22 December 2015: "I see a nice girl going past and I just say "excuse me, are you busy" or "are you in a hurry?" Quite honestly, if I was on my own (which I am assuming you would only say to single girls on their own) I would probably be quite scared and think th... (read in full...)

We have started living together and I am scared she feels trapped!

Q.   Every time I try and initiate sex with my girlfriend at the moment she turns me down, and on the rare occasions we do have sex I feel like a prick and that I've pressured her into it. She says it's ok and I shouldn't feel bad about it- that it's jus...

A.   21 December 2015: I don't think this has anything to do with your sexual preferences as such, but it also might not be helping. Living together changes the nature of a sexual relationship between two people. When you are first in love, and getting to know ... (read in full...)

Refractory period last for too long, anybody has the same experience?

Q.   Thi is not a new thing. My husband has always had a long refractory period. The minimum is about 24h. We met in mid-20's and now are in our forties. We're both in good shape, eat well, exercise, still love each other and are very much attracted to ...

A.   15 December 2015: I think you are looking at this problem all wrong. YOUR problem is the lack of sex - really this is just a symptom of the REAL problem. Stress. This is the thing you need to address before anything else. His mind is preoccupied, and you nee... (read in full...)

What are the dangers or issues associated with not wearing underwear? Assuming there may be any dangers or issues.

Q.   Hello everyone, I have an odd question. I recently have decided I want to stop wearing boxers. I don't enjoy wearing clothing to begin with, and I don't even see a reason as to wear underwear if I'm covered. I'm in high school, and I want to kn...

A.   15 December 2015: SVC one of the boys at when I was at school did that too, from what he said years later, it is something you only ever do ONCE, then you learn your lesson! I am glad to be a girl! :)... (read in full...)

Does my date need to come out?

Q.   A guy I'm dating got intimate ! I gave him a couple hickies at the drive thru and we kind of had sex. Well when he turned on the light he saw he had two hickies on his face, and he was upset. I said we can go to the store and I'll help you pick your ...

A.   15 December 2015: I agree with youwish... this is NOT a sign he is gay. Many men now wear makeup, in some form or other. It is part of the grooming ritual, and the current trend for being cool and popular. Fake tan, "guyliner", concealer, eyebrow plucking... (read in full...)

What are the dangers or issues associated with not wearing underwear? Assuming there may be any dangers or issues.

Q.   Hello everyone, I have an odd question. I recently have decided I want to stop wearing boxers. I don't enjoy wearing clothing to begin with, and I don't even see a reason as to wear underwear if I'm covered. I'm in high school, and I want to kn...

A.   14 December 2015: Underwear is actually quite important. It helps keep your private areas clean and hygienic - like it or not it is an area that produces sweat and other bodily secretions. The fabric of underwear helps absorb this, keeping you a little fresher ... (read in full...)

He broke a cup I gave him, but has chosen to not replace it. Should I let this upset me so much?

Q.   I bought my hubby a cup with the words, love you more then shoes on it. He accidently broke it and said he would get another but he still hasnt. it hurts me that he hasnt replaced it and it shows he doesnt care. I've reminded him to get it and s...

A.   3 December 2015: I think you are way overreacting here - and I agree with SVC, this sounds like it could be exposing deeper issues within your relationship. The straw that broke the camels back... if you like. The whole point of giving someone an object like th... (read in full...)

Why does my girlfriend all of the sudden have that horrible odor down there??

Q.   I have kind of an embrassing question... My girlfrirnd is on birth control so we have alot of unprotected sex. Probably atleast 3 to 5 times a day. I always cum inside of her since she can't get pregnant while she is on the birth control. The birth ...

A.   30 November 2015: I have to agree with Honeypie on this - there could be a huge number of reasons, all perfectly natural and normal. Your question, does however bring up some questions about your maturity to sex. The fact that you appear to think this is only you... (read in full...)

My man is 22 yrs old and very fit. So why can he only last one round? what needs to be done?

Q.   2 issues: One that I stopped moaning during sex and the second that my healthy man only lasts one round at a time. When we first met and had sex, this was exciting and new and sensuous for me. I would moan and thrash around and be involved m...

A.   24 November 2015: Its all about sex drive. Some people have a very high sex drive and NEED sex every day, multiple times a day to be satisfied. Others only need it once every few days or once a week. Both are completely normal, and over your life your sex ... (read in full...)

New baby, but he will not lift a finger to help in any way. What can I do?.

Q.   Hi everyone I have been with my boyfriend 3 years we had a bavy girl 10 months ago I have now realised how lazy my boyfriend is he does nothing to help me with our daughter even after a emergency c section I have done everything I clean the ho...

A.   23 November 2015: Sadly he is never going to change. You need to put you and your daughter first. Don't clean up after him. You are not his mother and he is not a child. I agree with Bimbim - you need to tell him straight exactly how you feel, and how his be... (read in full...)

I have recently come out as bisexual. Any advice on dealing with homophobic family members with ingrained prejudices, some micro aggression and some homophobic?

Q.   I have recently come out to myself and close friends as Bisexual but I haven't to my family. They are not outwardly homophobic but are generally full of micro-agressions and ingrained prejudices. My grandparents are super homophobic and w...

A.   23 November 2015: Firstly, it is great that you are finding out who you really are and sharing this with your friends, and hopefully your family. What you have to remember is that the world of sexual preference has changed a lot in the last 100 years. A lot of v... (read in full...)

I'm worried he'll blab to others about what we did

Q.   I have been seeing this guy for about a month, but he has only been my boyfriend for a week. Yesterday I let him go down on me, there was no pressure he asked and I said yes. He has said he won't tell anyone but I worry that when he gets drunk he...

A.   22 November 2015: Also - where did you meet this "guy"? Do you know him from real life, or did you meet him on the internet?... (read in full...)

I'm worried he'll blab to others about what we did

Q.   I have been seeing this guy for about a month, but he has only been my boyfriend for a week. Yesterday I let him go down on me, there was no pressure he asked and I said yes. He has said he won't tell anyone but I worry that when he gets drunk he...

A.   22 November 2015: Being age 13-15 in the UK, legally you are still under the age of consent of 16. This applies to ANY form of sexual practice, oral sex (going down) on him or you, as well as penetrative sex and touching. Legally you cannot give your consent,... (read in full...)

My thoughts are that he can't be sexually satisfying because he has a small penis. What should I do? He's perfect otherwise.

Q.   Hi, So this is quite difficult to write so bare with me. And please, I know this sounds shallow, but I'm not trying to be. Basically I recently ended a relationship with a guy (only 2 months) because he was a complete asshole to me. I mean r...

A.   16 November 2015: You are still very young, and depending on which end of the 18-21 age range you fall, lack of experience could also play a massive part in this. How old is he? If he is still only 18, then my guess is he may not have had enough experience to know ... (read in full...)

Decided to take a break from each other. Will he think it's a permanent thing by April?

Q.   Okay, firstly we've only been broken up a few hours so this question is more of a future problem solving one. We broke up because life schedules mean we never see each other. I literally have work 7 days a week and it clashes with his days off so ...

A.   1 November 2015: Sometimes in life you meet people, at the wrong time. There are many "good guys" out there, who will be there at the right time.. Sometimes in life, relationships have to take a back seat whilst we focus on more important things. From ... (read in full...)

How can I tell them my gf is pregnant?

Q.   I'm 19 and have been dating my girlfriend for a year. We are both in university. I have a 3 year son with my ex girlfriend. We share custody with one week on one week off. I live in an apartment above my parents garage rent free. During the summer I ...

A.   31 October 2015: Sadly, you are just going to have to man up and be honest with them. You got yourself into this mess, and now you have to face the consequences. Like an adult. Having sex is not just a fun pastime. It has a purpose, and that is to produce ... (read in full...)

How to honor my parents, without shaming his?

Q.   Hi, Aunts and Uncles. My fiance and I are tying the knot this January in Las Vegas. We've been engaged for years, but have put off getting married because, like everyone else, we've been struggling a lot financially. Knowing how badly we wanted t...

A.   31 October 2015: I don't want to be rude OP, but I get the impression that you feel your partners family are a little inferior and should be very grateful for your parents coughing up the cash for the wedding. You are right, it is 2015, and the outdated notion t... (read in full...)

How to honor my parents, without shaming his?

Q.   Hi, Aunts and Uncles. My fiance and I are tying the knot this January in Las Vegas. We've been engaged for years, but have put off getting married because, like everyone else, we've been struggling a lot financially. Knowing how badly we wanted t...

A.   30 October 2015: Why does your wedding have to cost so much money? It is possible to get married on very little, it just takes planning, and budgeting. And honesty about what is actually important. If you really want to be married, can you not just have a simple... (read in full...)

Why would he "like" a picture of her on facebook?

Q.   My fella is separated from his wife and lives apart, but yesterday I saw a photo in of his wife on Facebook with her friends and he pressed " like" on it....I was a bit stunned, why would he want to do that? Should I be worried? ...

A.   18 October 2015: I think this is where so many people go wrong for two reasons. Firstly "Separated" does not mean single. It means they are still married to someone, in a relationship with someone - which may be good, bad or indifferent. But it is still a re... (read in full...)

How do I push my bf to leave his parent's house?

Q.   My bf and I have been dating for 3 months now. He is 26 and im 22. We both are very alike, and very much comitted to each other. He even gave me a promise ring. I understand that we are still very new to each other since, we've only been together ...

A.   16 October 2015: I think you are rushing this way too fast. It has only been 3 months...12 weeks...90 days.... it isn't a lot of time together if you only see him at weekends. To decide to move in together at this point would be exceptionally damaging to your... (read in full...)

Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?

Q.   Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...

A.   15 October 2015: I have to agree with Tisha on this. In light of your update, 8 months is really a very short space of time to really know someone, especially when children are involved. How much time have you spent with her daughter, as a family unit type... (read in full...)

Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?

Q.   Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...

A.   13 October 2015: I think you have to create a balance between the proposal and inclusion of a child. Bottom line, it is great that you want to include her daughter (how old is she?), but ultimately it is your partners decision to accept a marriage proposal... (read in full...)

Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?

Q.   Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...

A.   13 October 2015: For me, it would be private, and should just be a special moment between the two of you. I would be mortified if such a special moment happened in public. As the others have mentioned, it can put so much pressure on the other party to say "yes". Y... (read in full...)

Should you date someone you don't find physically attractive?

Q.   Hi there aunts and uncles, I've got a bit of a different question today: how important do you think physical attraction is in choosing a partner? I've become incredibly close to a guy in the last few weeks. We seem to be really compatible; we h...

A.   9 October 2015: Beauty is more than skin deep. Personality and emotional connection can be just as beautiful as a cute face, if not more. Looks fade, but what is inside will always be. I am confused though..... you say you don't find him physically attracti... (read in full...)

If I conceive a child could the child be similarly afflicted with the same conditions, as detailed, and already evident amongst family members?

Q.   Please help. I don't know how to make a very important decision - to have or not to have a child. My partner of many years, who I am very happy with, is happy either way. He, and myself, have done plenty of research and we're very aware of...

A.   5 October 2015: I think it is understandable that you are worried, after all the emotional stresses and strains that you have had to cope with. You have been strong to survive and are in a great place with your life and relationship, which is a good thing! Take ... (read in full...)

To smoke cigarettes or not? Is there a compromise or a solution we can try to make things ok for us both?

Q.   I know what I’m going to write sounds kind of strange, and very long but I guess that’s just the way it goes…. Since I was a young teenager I was interested in trying smoking but I got the chance once at the age of 14 but I didn’t actually go throu...

A.   4 October 2015: I think you need to address a few deeper issues here. WHY do you need to feel "calm"? What is making you feel stressed that you seek cigarettes as a solution? I personally have never smoked anything, and never will. So I cannot answer this f... (read in full...)

Recently met her. However due to her response re instagram should I just walk away from her now?

Q.   I met a girl recently, really liked her and we get along well. I synced my phone contacts with instagram and i can see all my contacts who use it, and she has an account and posts things every few days. I asked her if she uses instagram and sh...

A.   3 October 2015: It may be, that as she has only just met you (recently) she may not want to share every aspect of her life with you. Before facebook/twitter/social media hysteria came along, people got to know each other in person, via talking. People today ... (read in full...)

My son dislikes his sister-in-law and her family and won't go on family vacations with them! How do I handle this?

Q.   I have two sons. The oldest is 32 years old and the youngest is 30 years. The oldest, Rob, is married with two kids and my youngest, Justin, is single with no kids. About ten years ago, we all went on a family vacation (My husband and I, m...

A.   1 October 2015: I think what you have to remember, is that they are not HIS family. They are your eldest son's in-laws. They are your grandchildrens other grandparents. BUT, to Justin, they are just people he doesn't like who he has been forced to spend time wit... (read in full...)

I'm attracted to another mother at the school. I want to make a move, but how?

Q.   I have recently met a mother at my children's school. I am so attracted to her. I first met her when I was just coming in from an errand and I was parking my car and then I saw her stop, waiting on me to park. She was one of the most beautiful woman ...

A.   1 October 2015: I agree with Tisha. Creepy attention can be from both male and female, straight or gay....if you don't want the attention, it can make you uncomfortable regardless of sexual orientation. Don't shoot me down here, but it is probably likely ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and in UK. He's 17 and in USA. How can I manage the crush I have for him? The first thing he asked is "did I want to see his .

Q.   Okay so I have been talking to this guy on Snapchat and Instagram he's 17 and lives in America first thing you need to know is he's a boy and I think I've kinda fallen for him. He asked me if I wanted to see his dick and of corse I said no then...

A.   29 September 2015: I think deep down you know this boy is no good. Apart from the legal issues - you being only 14 - he is sexually grooming a minor which in the USA is a BIG deal, and could land him in a lot of trouble. Also, how do you know he is 17? Have y... (read in full...)

Could you forgive someone who lied about their age and their name? Turns out she the daughter of my boss!

Q.   I met this girl "J" at a bar back in late July. She is beautiful and has an amazing smile, I asked her to dance and we ended up talking all night. She told me she was 23. We exchanged numbers and the very next day I called her. We ended up Hoo...

A.   22 September 2015: I agree with Honeypie This shows her immaturity. She may be 19, but really she is still a child underneath the grown up body. You are a grown man now, looking to have a proper grown up relationship. Probably best to leave well alone and chalk ... (read in full...)

What message should I send with a bouquet of flowers?

Q.   There's a girl that lives in my village that I like, she's been kind of seeing a player, from what I've heard on the grapevine, he's unreliable and just likes to party. anyway, I'm a pretty romantic kind of a guy, that's just how I am, and I'm ...

A.   6 September 2015: I agree with Honeypie. Do you actually know this woman, does she know you? Have you ever actually spoken to her? As a woman, if a strange man sent me flowers, who I did not know, had never spoken to, I might be a little worried. The... (read in full...)

I'm 18 and he's 15

Q.   Hi, I have a pretty big dilemma right now and I don't know what to do! I recently met this boy through some volunteer work I do, we got on really well in the group setting and had fun together, it started pretty casual but I could feel the flirting...

A.   3 September 2015: I am going to tackle this from a slightly different angle to the others - they all have taken the sexual side, and rightly that is a complete no-no on your part. He is underage, and that applies to boys and girls. I want you to think more abo... (read in full...)

Have I done the wrong thing by being direct with my partner regarding his personal hygiene? Should I have never said anything?

Q.   I recently approached my partner about sometimes his personal hygiene being not as good as it should be, I had tried to encourage him through being tactful, playful etc for quite some time, and it hit a final straw recently, as it has effected our ...

A.   2 September 2015: What exactly is the problem with his personal hygiene? I think if it is affecting his health and the quality of your relationship, then I think you did the right thing. Sometimes it is difficult to tell people that they have issues like this... (read in full...)

I'm dating a woman who's bigger and I'm totally into her. Why do some people question my choice, my preferences and my motives?

Q.   There seems to be an issue that's come up a lot in my life and I'm wondering if others have perhaps have experienced the same thing. Ever since I was a teenager I have been more attracted to females that are more full-figured. Its not that I don...

A.   23 August 2015: Sadly, those who are overweight/larger are one group of people who it is still socially accepted to be actively prejudiced against. (and red-headed people). You see it every day in the media, if you are not looking like the current "accepte... (read in full...)

Should I let my Gf's sister know how I feel about this sister of my GF?

Q.   Dear Cupid... I have been going out with a girl for almost 4 years but i have always found her younger sister more attractive, lately i have been having thoughts about letting her know how i feel about her. I know she is attracted to me ...

A.   14 August 2015: I agree with the others. Which head are you thinking with here? What you are suggesting when you say "but i have always found her younger sister more attractive"...... that really you are dating someone(4 years should be considered more ... (read in full...)

Do other women not wear panties under their dresses?

Q.   My boyfriend gave me a gift card to luluelemon and said to buy something we would both enjoy. I ended up with a tennis style dress that fits perfect on me, but it is supershort. He told me it looks amazing on me but I'm a little selfconscious with ...

A.   10 August 2015: Personally, I think not wearing pants is a pretty trashy thing to do. It shows an availability, which I personally am just not comfortable with. But that is just me. Apart from the hygiene issues..... no pants under a short dress really says you... (read in full...)

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