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| | celiaaletta's profile:Hey! :) I'm Celia! I'm 21 years old. I live in gorgeous Orange, CA. I enjoy going to the beach and body boarding.
I'm half Hispanic and half Caucasian. I speak both English and Spanish fluently.
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. Following college, we're planning on getting married.
I'm an Accounting major set to graduate in Fall 2010. www: myspace.com/savecorn |
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Is this really the price I have to pay for my happiness?
Q. I dont really know where to start... Back in June I posted about how I had canceled my wedding to my fiance of 3 years and left him, and how i felt bad because he was beyond hurt. I was given a lot of advice on how he would get over it eventual...
A. 16 November 2009: He is devastated as everything he is, is everything you don't want. It took you three long years to come to the realization that he is 7 years older than you. Three long years that he has a child. Three long years that he is no where near your... (read in full...)
2 questions: My little brother searches for porn and I don't have my period yet!
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: The same (13 year-old) poster has presented two questions, which has been combined into one post.] ok my little brother is on youtube serching on sex and i know cause i checked the search on my laptop what shold i do??? Also, why...
A. 6 November 2009: Don't let your brother use your laptop as, in the process of downloading porn, he may very well ruin your laptop due to viruses. You could hide it or just let your parents know. As far as your period, you're likely a late bloomer. Don't swea... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife has cancer. I love him, but want what is best for everyone.
Q. I am a 37 year old single mum to a four year old. I began an affair with a man 25 years my senior, (someone i have known for 15 years) around six months ago. prior to this I had been alone since the first trimester of pregnancy. Having a child, a...
A. 6 November 2009:
Let's see.
Your partner's wife blatantly told him that she would no longer be having sex with him upon hitting menopause. And that was what, 10-20 years ago?
During that time and up until now, he has been engaging in extramarital affairs... (read in full...)
Should I ask about this 'business' trip?
Q. My husband and his good friend (male) spent a weekend away from home for business/fun. Shortly after I got an anonymous phone message suggesting my husband had a female with him. His work is extremely busy right now which I figured is the reason f...
A. 5 November 2009:
Well, is this sort of business trip a first? Is this phone call a first?
What you can do is this: Confront your husband. Tell him that you are well aware of there being a woman involved in their trip. Make is seem as if you are completely i... (read in full...)
Should I ditch this engagement? After what she did with this guy?
Q. I need help. I just found out my fiancee cheated on me a little while ago. I don't know if I should marry her or not. I'm real pissed off and upset, but I love her, but this is not acceptable. I'm a believer in that 2 people who are in love and ...
A. 5 November 2009:
Wow, this is pretty ridiculous!
No, do not continue your engagement to her. In fact, cut off all ties with her.
I realize you love her; however, you are only in love with what you thought was your fiancee. As such, it would be helpful for... (read in full...)
She had sex with her ex, so I went out and had sex with another girl. Is this relationship doomed?
Q. hi my girlfriend and i are together for like a year. we jumped straight into relationship literally the day after she finished with her ex of 3 years. a few days ago i found out she had sex with him again a couple of weeks ago. in anger i we...
A. 5 November 2009:
Doomed... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009:
I'm sorry, but there is absolutely no way your wife does not wholly recall her indiscretion. No matter the period of time, one would remember. They would feel the guilt, etc. etc.
You did well in initially questioning her about it; however, her... (read in full...)
Through wife-swapping, we fell in love, but are distraught about the hurt we've caused!
Q. Here is my heart-hurting situation. I have been with the mother of my son for almost 15 years. We met when we were in our late teens. About two years ago, we began something that has made me realize I wasn't really in love with my fiancee but more...
A. 5 November 2009: "What would you have done in my situation?"
Worked with my current partner so as to mend the relationship rather than look to outside relations. If that did not result well, consider seeking a divorce.
"Should I put a stop to the relationship... (read in full...)
Dating divorced man with daughters...why havent I met the younger one?
Q. I have been dating a wonderful man for over 1 year now. We enjoy each other very much, and when together have a great time. We love each other deeply. We've both been divorced within the last 2 years. The only problem is the younger daughter...
A. 2 November 2009: Could you describe in what ways this impedes in your relationship with him?
It appears as though he would like to keep his youngest daughter sheltered. Since the divorce, she has likely undergone a lot of confusion/pain/etc. and he feels guilty t... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend I cheated with her boyfriend?
Q. I am 20 years old the other night my bestfriends boyfiend Matt called me wanted to know if i wanted to come over to his and my bestfriend Dawns apartment. He told me she would be home in about 15 to 20 mins. so i agreed. well to make a long story ...
A. 1 November 2009:
She picks you up from work even...?
How are you able to look at her straight faced?
Seems to me like you lack a conscience. ... (read in full...)
Should I have a threesome to not lose him?
Q. My live in boyfriend and I have been together almost a year now. We have a house and have been living together for about 3 months. When we first started dating, the "have you ever?" conversation came up and he asked me about my past experience with ...
A. 29 October 2009: No, don't do something that you already feel ill just thinking about. How will you reflect on the act once performed? This is no good. If he would like to have threesomes, suggest that you two break up. Just as easy as that. You need to set bo... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my fiance insists on having friends over all the time
Q. Hi there, My fiance and I have been together a little over 2 years. He asked me to marry him in April and we found out that I was pregnant in May (good timing huh?). We both have an interest in poker and kareoke and before we found out I was ...
A. 29 October 2009:
I suggest that you do not give him an ultimatum. Not only may he become more pressured, but he may become resentful of you.
As difficult as this will sound, perhaps try this: Rather than continually point out his friends' abuse of him, let him... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my fiance insists on having friends over all the time
Q. Hi there, My fiance and I have been together a little over 2 years. He asked me to marry him in April and we found out that I was pregnant in May (good timing huh?). We both have an interest in poker and kareoke and before we found out I was ...
A. 29 October 2009:
Wow, if only he were that forgiving and generous with you, huh?
Your fiance is not ready to grow up and as such, I wonder what sort of father he will make. I doubt seriously that he will suddenly become an adult once your child is born.
Wer... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by staying with my husband?
Q. I'm very confused, and feel like my brain is not functioning properly, I make a decision know it's the right one, then change my mind. I really want your advice. Should I stay with my husband. I want to stay and be happy together, but do...
A. 29 October 2009:
You are devaluing your own happiness so as to accommodate everyone else. As such, no, I do not think that you are doing the right thing. Not in the least bit.
I am incredibly saddened by how your husband has mistreated you. I cannot begin to ima... (read in full...)
Why has my husband stopped being affectionate with me?
Q. I wonder why my husband stopped being affectionate with me. He never looks at me,or touching me. He also losing his erections,but no medical problems. I asked him why is that, but he says ,he loves me,and I have no reason to worry. But I do ...
A. 24 October 2009: Do you think that perhaps he may be cheating on you? Or...? ... (read in full...)
Am I going to resent him for all my suffering? I cheated.
Q. After 10 yrs and three children, I cheated on my fiance. I dont know how to make him understand that I was going through some serious emotional problems. He feels that I fell inlove with the man, and although some actions gear towards that ...
A. 24 October 2009: I suggest that you be more realistic. You acted in the wrong. What occurs after your wrong is the consequence. If you do not like the consequences of your ill choices, then do something about it. Leave your fiance. Whatever. However, becom... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wasn't there for me?
Q. I was really upset last night and I was crying a lot. I had just gotten done hanging out with my boyfriend (being upset had nothing to do with him), but about an hour after I left him, I asked him to call me when he got home that night because I ...
A. 20 October 2009: No, there's a reason to be all right. If he is ignoring you and getting drunk, that's inexcusable behavior.... (read in full...)
He's a great guy but he lies and cheats! We are engaged...
Q. I have been dating my fiance for 3 years we have been engaged for 2 and living together for 1. I just found out he cheated on me with a girl I had suspected him of cheating on me with.He lied and lied about it until I told him she gave me ...
A. 18 October 2009: Clearly, he did wrong by leading her on and then kissing her. However they are both at fault - as I assume she had full knowledge of your being his fiance. You two are doing the right thing with couples counseling and all. Other than that... (read in full...)
Am I being too close minded?
Q. Hello. Ok here is my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me all the time and I was really hurt by it so I found myself a lover and everytime I knew my boyfriend was cheating on me , I ...
A. 18 October 2009: It makes more sense; however, sticking with him won't help any. It doesn't seem to me that anyone will benefit if you continue together. As much as you want to give him another shot, why not just call it quits? See a counselor, go to sch... (read in full...)
Am I being too close minded?
Q. Hello. Ok here is my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me all the time and I was really hurt by it so I found myself a lover and everytime I knew my boyfriend was cheating on me , I ...
A. 18 October 2009:
Understood. I know why you did what you did, seeing as your boyfriend is a Class A douche, but you could have been the bigger person. However what is done is done and now you can only try to be that person.
I meant hypocritical in the sense th... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wasn't there for me?
Q. I was really upset last night and I was crying a lot. I had just gotten done hanging out with my boyfriend (being upset had nothing to do with him), but about an hour after I left him, I asked him to call me when he got home that night because I ...
A. 18 October 2009:
Are you sure your being upset had nothing to do with him?
It seems you were upset because he went out drinking for his birthday. Why did you not go and prevent all this self-inflicted heartache?... (read in full...)
He's a great guy but he lies and cheats! We are engaged...
Q. I have been dating my fiance for 3 years we have been engaged for 2 and living together for 1. I just found out he cheated on me with a girl I had suspected him of cheating on me with.He lied and lied about it until I told him she gave me ...
A. 17 October 2009:
What is your definition of "great"?... (read in full...)
Am I being too close minded?
Q. Hello. Ok here is my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me all the time and I was really hurt by it so I found myself a lover and everytime I knew my boyfriend was cheating on me , I ...
A. 17 October 2009: Considering your scenario, you're being both close minded and hypocritical.
Two wrongs don't make a right. Your cheating on him to even things out was also wrong.
You two don't see sex so differently as you claim. You hooked up with a random... (read in full...)
Am I going to resent him for all my suffering? I cheated.
Q. After 10 yrs and three children, I cheated on my fiance. I dont know how to make him understand that I was going through some serious emotional problems. He feels that I fell inlove with the man, and although some actions gear towards that ...
A. 17 October 2009: "I truly feel that I was lost, sufferring from depression and confused."
How does this justify your having sex with another man?
"After suffering the dramatic events of him finding out..."
...You suffered? I believe the correct answer is th... (read in full...)
Why has my husband stopped being affectionate with me?
Q. I wonder why my husband stopped being affectionate with me. He never looks at me,or touching me. He also losing his erections,but no medical problems. I asked him why is that, but he says ,he loves me,and I have no reason to worry. But I do ...
A. 17 October 2009:
Is he able to masturbate on his own? Is this only with you right before sex?
His inability to perform doesn't answer the lack of affection. Something else is up.... (read in full...)
He meets his psycho ex secretly, should I be concerned?
Q. I have been with my sig other for almost 2 year, but he still keeps in contact with his ex girlfried. I am okay with ex's being friends, bit this person is a bit of a bunny boiler. e.g. she sends "i love you" messages to him via text (she is a ...
A. 17 October 2009:
Please do yourself a great favor and dump him.
Not only will you then have peace of mind, but the opportunity to meet a man who will respect you.... (read in full...)
Why was my girlfriend angry with me?
Q. Last night my girlffriend was annoyed with me and continued berating me even after we had gone to bed. In short she was angry with me for not contacting her as soon as I arrived home. The background goes like this. I work full time and have ear...
A. 17 October 2009:
Why the lying on her part? That's fishy.
You couldn't have done anything more.
Her issue with what time you arrived home is insignificant. She may be up to something - cheating perhaps?... (read in full...)
I didn't know that I was the "other woman"
Q. Hi I'm hoping someone can give me some advice. 18 months ago I started seeing this guy, it wasn't meant to be anything serious, we only saw each other once every couple of weeks. However, after about 6-8 months I started to fall in love with him...
A. 17 October 2009: 10 months in you were told by a friend that he had a girlfriend?
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Knowing that he was with both of you at the same time for 10 months, you continued the relationship. How do you justify that?
You said it yourself, you didn't want to stop ... (read in full...)
Is it self pity or a valid reason for being down and out?
Q. I was having a slight argument with my gf today and I was wondering: Is it considered self-pity to genuinely not like yourself from time to time? Whenever I'm down and she asks why I often times will say, truthfully so, that I don't really lik...
A. 15 October 2009:
Nope, you're just disliking how you behave from time to time.
You could narrow down what gets to making you feel this way and write it down. From there, work on avoiding those particular behaviors/actions/etc. and focus more on improving yo... (read in full...)
Over drinks my boyfriend brought up a threesome. Am I a drama queen for how I reacted?
Q. about two weeks ago my partner and a friend of mine were having a good old drink or two, when my partner suggested a 3 some and within seconds of him saying this my friend a girl, then came onto me. i responded at first as my partner was glaring me ...
A. 15 October 2009:
SCREW THEM BOTH!
Don't allow either of them back into your life. Never.
Your boyfriend apparently feels it is all right to force unwanted sexual relations and cheat on you. Your "friend" is a skank.
I feel so badly for you. :(... (read in full...)
He has a kid and I've slowly grown to hate him. How can I deal with this?
Q. I am 19, and my partner is 23. He has a six year old son from a previous relationship. The mother split with him as soon as she found out she was pregnant, and is now in a gay relationship. She prevented him seeing his child for 3 years or so after ...
A. 15 October 2009:
Your friend advised that if your boyfriend fails to compromise, then you should accept that the relationship is over. The issue with this is that this matter is uncompromisable.
Quite frankly, there is absolutely no way ever that you will for... (read in full...)
Does watching porn movies constitute cheating?
Q. When I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend, I used to watch porn movies twice or thrice in a week..in fact i still watch it. Whenever she would ask me that do you watch porn movies? I would answer saying that last time I watched porn movie ...
A. 15 October 2009:
This is a matter of opinion. You clearly don't view it as cheating, whereas your potential partner may.
Do you concede to her morals?
That's your choice; however be aware that if she finds out, she will be extremely hurt/sad/angry/etc.... (read in full...)
Our straight female roommate invades our privacy
Q. My best girl friend for more than 10 years was hanging out every day with my boyfriend and me, who also likes her around and she is like our best friend together. Well her room mate moved out and she could not afford the rent herself so we said she ...
A. 15 October 2009:
WOW! PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!
Every bit of this, with the exception of her contributions to the home, need to be stopped a.s.a.p!
Not only is she invading your privacy, but she is also being extremely inappropriate. ... (read in full...)
How can I make him realise that if he helps stop my insecurities I will be able to give him more in our relationship?
Q. My other half and I will have been together 2 years this November. These 2 years have been very hard for us, when we first met we were both quite heavy into drugs, I cheated twice and he would lie to me and ditch me to go to raves. I got told plenty ...
A. 15 October 2009:
To be honest, you shouldn't be minding his porn watching period.
He has essentially forgiven you cheating on him TWICE, don't you think you should loosen up about his porn viewing?
This is all too self-righteous of you considering the fact... (read in full...)
How can I make him realise that if he helps stop my insecurities I will be able to give him more in our relationship?
Q. My other half and I will have been together 2 years this November. These 2 years have been very hard for us, when we first met we were both quite heavy into drugs, I cheated twice and he would lie to me and ditch me to go to raves. I got told plenty ...
A. 14 October 2009: "I cheated twice..."
I'm lost.
Considering that you cheated on him and had sex with two other people during your relationship, shouldn't he be the insecure one?
His porn watching doesn't justify your cheating on him nor does it equate.
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My husband wants to have sex with other women!
Q. hi friends i have a problem that my husband is very much interested in sex. he also wants to have sex with other women. he loves me, he takes care of me every time but he tells that this is his weakness. oneday i told that i will go away if he do...
A. 14 October 2009: No, no, no, that's not how you should rationalize.
He's cheating on you, repeatedly even, and you ask yourself what can you do to have him focus on you?
...I'm lost. Should you not be angry that your husband is cheating on you?
I sugge... (read in full...)
Is talking on chat lines a form of cheating?
Q. my husband has recently been talking on this chat line invu, he stay up all night talking to women about things that are inappropriate,i have talked to him about it and he is staying on it. he say it isn't cheating because it is not real, I think it ...
A. 13 October 2009:
Yes it is and no you are not.
He is ignoring you come night time to chat up random women. Do you two ever have sex anymore?
... (read in full...)
Do I tell her or keep it to myself?
Q. Another Best Friends Wife Story... So my best friend got married to a wonderful girl about three years ago. She has been a very good friend of mine as well. I have been attracted to her throughout their relationship but very easily kept thin...
A. 13 October 2009:
Share your feelings with her if your intent is to get her into bed with you.
Inform her of her husband's cheating if your intent is to get her into bed with you.
Build up her self-esteem if your intent is to get her into bed with you.
Oth... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has a baby with someone else!
Q. Hi i just found out that my boyfriend, that i been in love with for the 3years had a child 5 months ago with another women! I dont know what to do, and to make matters worse i was pregnant two months ago and he told me to have a abortion because he ...
A. 13 October 2009:
He cheated on you and impregnated another woman?
You're still with him because...?... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can get the truth without looking crazy?
Q. I had just read an article where someone was mentioning that 30% of brothers and sister experiment on each other. My girlfriend was very close with her half-brother who was about 5-6 years older than her. They had went though very though times and ...
A. 13 October 2009:
It's clearly a touchy subject and not really something that you should casually bring up.
If she did have a sexual relationship with her half brother, she will inform you once she trusts you. As in, trusts you to not have a change of heart. To... (read in full...)
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