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My 14 years old friend is dating a 23 year old woman

Q.   My best friend is dating a 23 year old and he is 14 but he is very mature for his age and he is a very very big 14 do you think that they will wrk out...

A.   25 August 2007: Where I live it is illegal for a 23 year old to have sexual relationships with a 14-year-old, but if it was someone 15 or older, it would be legal as long as the boy had consent with his parents to do so. Friendship between those two is one thing, ... (read in full...)

I'm seeing a 28 year old and I'm 17 and was wondering if he is too old for me?

Q.   hiya every one I'm seeing a 28 year old and I'm 17 and was wondering if he is too old for me? I have told my mum and dad that he is 22 but a hate lying to them and also I dont even no if I love him yet because I'm scared to fall in love again be...

A.   16 May 2007: My uncle married a 17 year old when he was 35. It is perfectly legal in the state where he lives.... (read in full...)

I really really like him but he's 20 and I'm only 16.

Q.   hey... ok ive got a problem im 16 and theres this guy whose 20 and we really like each other... he's one of my mates pals but we havent met coz of the distance but since yestaday we both realised that we have been what each other are looking for and ...

A.   16 May 2007: I colorado where I live, 15 and 16 year old are allowed to date anyone who is no more than nine years older than them or 3 years younger than them. It would be illegal to date him if you were 14 or younger in my state, just make sure it is okay with ... (read in full...)

My parents are mean--has anyone else had the same experiences with their parents?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I was wondering if any of your readers known some very nice people who have very mean parents? Because I have, and I was wondering if anyone else has too?...

A.   8 March 2007: I don't mean my parents, I mean parents of some of my friends and acquaintances. I think that they are mistreated and aren't given the love and attention that they deserve. This applies especially to moms. I have notices that most dads that I know ... (read in full...)

I feel she's too young to have as a gf - how do I handle this?

Q.   16 year old in love with me? I'm 26! Hi, I need help on one particular and delicate issue. I'm 26 years old. A girl of 16 seems to have fallen in love with me - These feelings are cannot be reciprocated since I am 26. An age gap...

A.   9 February 2007: in Colorado where I live, it would be legal for you to date a 16 year-old, as long as her parents were okay with it. But be careful, your age gaps may seem a little sketchy at this time. For like serious dating and sex, I say it would be best to ... (read in full...)

17 dating 13?

Q.   i am a normal male guy who just turned 17 and there is this girl who i have been talking to and we get along really well she says she likes me and i like her but she is 13 nearly 14 is this wrong if so why do i like her?? any help would be nice...

A.   17 January 2007: I understand that sometimes older guys have feelings for younger girls, but right now 13 is too young to have sex, because too many people at this age are not mature enough to handle this. Maybe wait till she is just a little bit older, but right ... (read in full...)

Found great guy but mom doesn't approve. What should I do?

Q.   Dear cupid i am currently going out with a boy. Hes a very nice kid you know very respectful and down to earth we've almost been going out for a month now and my mom found out how old he is hes 19 and im 15 but i'll be 16 in april and my mom told me ...

A.   17 January 2007: I think that you should talk this over with your boyfriend and your mom, and maybe have your mom get to know him a little bit better, so she can get a better idea of what the guy is like, and better understand why you want to be with him. Where I ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and going out with my ex-teacher, age 34...

Q.   Ok so heres my story, im 16 nearly 17 and im going out with a guy who is 33 nearly 34, we've been together almost 9 months now and things are great..its also a long distance relationship, he lives in another country but i plan to move there with him ...

A.   17 January 2007: Where I live, it is okay for a 16 year-old to go out with someone older, as long as he/she has parental permission. Since you are still a minor, your dad did have the right to kick you out, because he is still in authority over you. I would be ... (read in full...)

She has told be she has cancer and I think she's lying! How do I deal with this?

Q.   I have been in this relationship a year now and we both love each other very much. The thing is I think she has lied to me about somthing big. She has told be she has a serious cancer and it is fatal she wont give me any specific detail on it, but ...

A.   17 January 2007: i think that she should see a doctor to prove to you and herself whether she really has cancer or not. If she is lying, she is probably trying to get you to feel sorry for her. If you totally can't trust her, I say it is time to move on.... (read in full...)

Afraid to tell this boy I like him-what should I do?

Q.   i have a crush on a boy but i am afraid to tell him because i dont think he likes me and i might get embarassed what should i do...

A.   22 December 2006: Why don't you write this boy a letter to tell him that you like him, after he gets it, I am sure he would be very flattered no matter what. He may or may not want to be your boyfriend, and if he doesn't just go ahead and move on, because you are ... (read in full...)

I like this guy, but the age difference is a barrier. What should I do?

Q.   I have this good guy friend of mine whom i like and im sure he likes me too but our age difference is up to 16.This has been a barrier between us,what should i do....

A.   21 December 2006: Since you are both at least 18, then it is perfectly okay to like each other. Age is basically just a number, but when you are still a minor, it requires permission from your parents, and where I live, the minimum age to date and have sex is 16, as ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and dating. What is the best time for me to start having sex?

Q.   hello, i am 12 years old and 13 next month me and my bf have been talking about sex and are thinking of doing it but he as told me he has produce sperm before and ive started my period .my mum said if me or my sister got pregnat she wouldnt have ...

A.   13 December 2006: I know that right now is too early. In Colorado where I live, the minimum age is 16, as long as it is okay with your parents, but to do it without parental permission it is 18.... (read in full...)

Guy I like isn't ready to begin a relationship with me! What can I do?

Q.   there is a guy i really like and he likes me too but he is not ready to start a relationship. something happened between us but thats it. even if he likes me he think he is young to have something. please help me thanks ...

A.   20 November 2006: For now I would say just be friends, and then see what the future holds for the two of you.... (read in full...)

Doe anyone here find it hard to get along with their Mother-in- law?

Q.   Hi just a quick question, does anyone here find it hard to get on with their mother-in-law/mother-in-law to be? Me and my fiance have been together for almost a year and even now I find it hard to get on with his mother. She drives me mad! S...

A.   26 October 2006: I don't seem to have any problems with getting with my two mothers-in-law, but when it comes to my 33-year-old sister-in-law, it is another story. I have to admit that she is very mean to me, my siblings, and her kids, so I stay away from her as ... (read in full...)

How can I build my confidence or get rid of the acne??

Q.   hi! i am 16 years old and have acne on my face along the sideburns and around my neck and some on my nose. i have tried creams but nothing seems to work. i think that it deters some girls from speaking to me but there are still many who think i...

A.   26 October 2006: Hey dude, I have been having acne problems as well. This may sound crazy, but "toothpaste" helps clear up your face. I have tried it myself, and my face has shown improvement.... (read in full...)

Am I average height and weight for a 16 year old?

Q.   hi can anyone tell me the average weight for a 16 year old. iam 136 pounds and 5feet 8 inches. is this normal?...

A.   26 October 2006: There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a 5'8'' 16-year-old female. I am a 5'5'' 20 year-old, and have been this size for 5 years. When I first reached my height, I seemed awkward and tall to other people, but later on, many of these people ... (read in full...)

He doesn't love me but I want him back. How can I do this?

Q.   i was wit my bf 4 6 months, he told me he wants to single n dosent love me anymore but i really want him back,he still texts me and i know i could make him want me again,but how????please write back to tell me wat i should do n say wen i c him,guide ...

A.   23 October 2006: I think the best to do would be to find another boyfriend. If this guy doesn't like you anymore, then why waste your life trying to change his mind and get him back? We all have our own decisions to make, and this decision is his and you must ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and never had a boyfriend!!!

Q.   i'm a 15 year old. i've never had a boyfriend and all my other friends do. i'm quite jealous. but i'm so afraid to go up to guys and it's much harder because i go to a girls school. i really want a boyfriend but i don't think that i'm attractive in ...

A.   23 October 2006: Don't worry, girl. I am 20 years and I still don't have an actual boyfriend, but I have many close guy friends. For example, I have three guy friends who are like boyfriends, except minus sexual attraction. There is no maximum age to start dating. I ... (read in full...)

He has a girlfriend but says he doesn't want a real relationship!!

Q.   Ithought that I was messing with a boy because we were meesing but yesterday I faund out that he was going out with a girl. The thing is that he told me that he didn't want a real relaishionship put yet, he is going out with her. He wouln't kiss me ...

A.   23 October 2006: I think that this guy feels uncomfortable with letting people know the truth about his relationship with the girl, and won't admit to the girl that he doesn't want a real relationship with her.... (read in full...)

What kind of teasing do boys do when they fancy you?

Q.   hiya i wanna know if this boy fancies me, he brushes past me delibratly in the corridor, he pokes my cheek for some reason hehe when i pass him, he teases me constently (by the way what kind of teasing do boys do when they fancy you???) ...

A.   23 October 2006: I think that this boy is trying to get your attention, because in elementary school, this one guy would do similar things to me, and then I eventually found out that he liked me and wanted attention from me. There usually reasons why people may act ... (read in full...)

I worry about divorce - even though I'm not married yet!

Q.   Hi I'm 18 years old and going to uni, but i keep thinking of the future. Should I be thinking about divorce at this moment in time and trying to think of ways to prevent it from happening to me? Also I read a question on here about divore, would ...

A.   30 August 2006: Don't worry, dude. You are not alone in this world. That is why you need to be wise about choosing a date. The best thing to do would be to get to know and spend as much time with your fiancee as possible, so you can decide if she would be the best ... (read in full...)

My aunt follows me around everywhere and treats me like a 2 year old! Help!

Q.   I have this aunt who tries to follow me around everywhere I go and treats me like I am two years old. Her and I have nothing in common, plus she is almost 40 years older than me, is just plain miserable to be around, and thinks I am something that ...

A.   4 August 2006: My aunt has not lost her husband or anyone in her immediate family right now. I have no parents to talk to about this, so right now I am just trying to avoid her.... (read in full...)

I'm getting in the way of my 13-year old friend and his mom

Q.   I am a female who is 20 years old and there is this really sweet 13 year-old boy that I have a lot in common with and like very much. I have sent letters to him and called him on the phone, and now his mom thinks that I am trying to rape him, have ...

A.   4 August 2006: I that lady won't give me a chance to get to know her and the rest of the family better. I believe that you need to get to know someone, before you make decisions of whether you like them or not.... (read in full...)

I'm getting in the way of my 13-year old friend and his mom

Q.   I am a female who is 20 years old and there is this really sweet 13 year-old boy that I have a lot in common with and like very much. I have sent letters to him and called him on the phone, and now his mom thinks that I am trying to rape him, have ...

A.   4 August 2006: I tried to talk to his mom yesterday and explain my side of the situation that I am not a child molester or sexual predator, but she acted like a very mean, nasty woman to me, and threatened to call social services on me, after I have done nothing ... (read in full...)

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