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I’m still bothered by comments he made about celebrities and sex early on in our relationship!

Q.   Hi, I have a boyfriend who is quite devoted and loving in most ways. He is actually a caring person but sometimes says insensitive things without realizing. He is well-intentioned but awkward with no filter. We have been dating for a whil...

A.   15 January 2018:  I agree with what 02DuszJ said about your boyfriend not being respectful about him talking about his porn stars or his crush on a celebrity. It makes you feel you're not enough or you feel like you're not the only woman in his universe. Which, ... (read in full...)

How do I convince my parents that I'm an adult? They have my entire college schedule mapped out and a GPS on my phone!

Q.   I'm new in here and I've tried to help others and so far I hope I'm doing a good job. But now, I need some advice on how to convince my parents that I am an adult and deserve more privacy and freedom. I'm a college student and to be honest, I'...

A.   13 January 2018: Yeah, live with your friends in a apartment and also try looking for a job. You shouldn't put up with this. It ridiculous. You shouldn't let them control you like that. You need to stand your ground with them. This is a disaster. You got ... (read in full...)

My question is should I follow my heart and keep seeing her because I feel great in her company or should I cut my losses now?

Q.   So I've been living in Spain for a few months and I met a local girl and we really hit it off the first night. I tried to meet up with her again but she said she just wanted to be friends because she liked a German guy she met a few weeks ago but he ...

A.   4 January 2018: Your just a second option to her. When you try to get to know her, She rejected you because she said she likes another man...and how do you know the probability is that she could only be talking to you because trying to get hold of German..... (read in full...)

The ex is bad mouthing me to another man. Why would he do this?

Q.   Around five months ago for God knows why the guy I was currently going out with ended the relationship with me saying it was too much and the break up was not mutual. I still have him on social media and he has supposedly assumed I've moved on with ...

A.   3 January 2018: I am gauge to judge on this but it doesn't mean I'm right but I'm guessing He could want you back and changed his mind about breaking up with you ever since he saw you moved on. That's why he was spiteful, He fustigated about you to your boyfrien... (read in full...)

Why can’t they leave me alone and enjoy my visit?

Q.   Am visiting family interstate for 2 days,staying overnight then leaving. Staying with my parents and will visit my younger sister and her family also, as they live in the same town. I have to stay with parents as sister has 2 kids (17...

A.   30 December 2017: ''You're approaching 50, which means your parents are in their 70's or older. That doesn't give you a lot of time left to savor their presence on this earth; and to nurture or demonstrate your affection for them'' Agreed! Ask your sister why she ... (read in full...)

Could he be ashamed of me?

Q.   Hi everyone. I’m in a new relationship (few months) with a man about 6 years older than me. I adore him and he’s a sweetheart but I am finding that we tend to argue a bit too much over silly things , we never fall out though and we make up with each ...

A.   30 December 2017: Get out and never ever contact this predator again. He's great for charity but not good as a lover. instead of valuing you...he's going on dirty websites looking at tits. Your young...and you don't need to waste it on him. He must of had a relati... (read in full...)

Should I pursue this man?

Q.   Hi, I've been having this strange "relationship" with this man over a year now. We met through common friends. Since then he's been chasing me. He was very charming and we really got along, always had something to talk about and there is tons of ...

A.   28 December 2017: To me he just sounded like he designated you for sexual intercourse I mean it's a big give away that he is a frivolous, inflexible 31 year old who he previously had relationships that were only casual and not even one serious relationship. So, why ... (read in full...)

I can't seem to sort my feelings out for this guy!

Q.   there is this guy i know and i don't know if i'm interested in him, he's 2 years older than me and he seems to have a lot of friends ( girls included). sometimes i have feelings when i see him hanging out with other girls but sometimes i feel ...

A.   28 December 2017: The two answers are pertinent. Maybe you are a little bit attracted to him, maybe there is something about him you want to know allot about. You should spend time with him as friends and see if the novelty would wear off or your still being attached ... (read in full...)

Worried my girlfriend will cheat while out of town on NYE.

Q.   My girlfriend of seven years is going to spend New Years Eve with a friend of hers who lives in another state. This is the first NYE we will spend apart since we've gotten together. My girlfriend (and her friend, who has been her best friend ...

A.   28 December 2017: It's nice to have ignorance but at the same time the possibility of her cheating makes you obsessed about it. There really isn't anything you can do except her like she trusts you. I mean I do agree that men are more prone to do the chea... (read in full...)

No Christmas gift from him!

Q.   I have a December birthday and my boyfriend of 9months got me a gift for my birthday but today on Chritsmas no gift. He got one from me. After his family left I asked if he had a gift for me, he said no he ran out of money and hopes to take me...

A.   27 December 2017: Honestly, This guy seems like a oaf. He expects you to buy dinners, gifts etc on him and he doesn't feel bad for it? You can't get anymore insensitive than that. Don't designate in buying him anything even if you expect him to buy you some... (read in full...)

Wil he realise what he had?

Q.   Well I’m 24 and his 26. he's had relationships before but not very decent people I’m trying to belittle his ex's or I don’t see my self higher up its just a fact that he brought up many times and I know for my self. The type of girls he dated were ...

A.   25 December 2017: How do you know in 24 hours your beau is cheating on you? Being sozzled and not answering your text..He made you feel deflated and that doesn't seem like he will change in the future for you. He's a piss cutter. You think he's going to be exce... (read in full...)

Could it be my social anxiety or am I right to feel left out?

Q.   Hey guys I need your help with something. About a month ago I went out with my boyfriend and a few of his friends, two of them being a girl and her boyfriend. My boyfriend still has a big friend group from when he was at school (girls and guys)...

A.   24 December 2017: Like I said they should have worded it better. They probably didn't intentionally mean to make you feel unwanted in their group knowing you have anxiety that's reasons why they said it's better if you stay at home. Since you said you already have ... (read in full...)

Playing truth or dare .... I didnt like his answer.

Q.   I’ve been talking to this boy he’s in the same year as me but in a different school and tonight we were playing truth or dare I asked him what the most he had done with a girl is and he said he wants to take it back but he’s fingered someone.Ohhh ...

A.   22 December 2017: It's natural for teenagers to talk about sex because come on who hasn't at that age. Just because your still a child doesn't mean your not allowed to be curious about it. You are underage and your still too young to even worry about sex and...the ... (read in full...)

I feel my boyfried obsesses over petty tips!

Q.   Hello I'd like every one's opinion on this : My boyfriend is very big on tips. He worked as a waiter at a small restaurant for a few years and currently an Uber driver. Every day he would tell me how this rider or that rider promised to tip ...

A.   22 December 2017: Being with someone shouldn't be about the value of the dollar spent on each other.. but in this case, I see red flags. My answer to this is don't post this to us if you don't have a problem with it. Your man is a cheapskate, untrustworthy freeload... (read in full...)

1st date, he touched my butt

Q.   So i was texting my coworker for almost 2 months and sometimes we were flirting and sometimes we were talking about work or trying to get to know each other. He has no girls, he does not drink like me, and he does not go out so often.Finally 2 ...

A.   22 December 2017: It's good he's not texting you and he's clearing away. No man should ever get away with groping a woman when the kiss is consented or not. You don't want levity to take over your work when all this conflict happens with your co-worker. Good f... (read in full...)

Could it be my social anxiety or am I right to feel left out?

Q.   Hey guys I need your help with something. About a month ago I went out with my boyfriend and a few of his friends, two of them being a girl and her boyfriend. My boyfriend still has a big friend group from when he was at school (girls and guys)...

A.   19 December 2017:  What do you all think about this? I think your blowing things out of proportion and anxiety can do that. even so, why would you want to go out with bitchy ladies anyway...if you heard it from your boyfriends mom? You probably had the luckiest... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   19 December 2017: Your letting her abdicate her responsibility of this marriage? Oh, as long as she doesn't come back home to nag you. Everything is fine. What world are you living in? You don't mind being a doormat? This is aberrant behavior when your pretending to ... (read in full...)

How do I form platonic friendships with women?

Q.   A little background it turns out im emotionally numb/unavailable to people. i have a difficult time making meaningful connections with them even if i want to. tv makes emotional unavailability seem like a big joke for men. its been like this for me ...

A.   18 December 2017: Looks, like your past has linger your way of thinking. You just need to really soul search your true feelings and thoughts of really wanting a sexual relationship or not. Your tentative about what you really want from this situation. So, you need... (read in full...)

Is there a chance my crush likes me back?

Q.   There is a guy nice guy at my church and I liked him the monent I saw him but he had a girlfriend and I back off which was a year ago and forgot about him. Me and him are in the same weekly church group but never really talked much Recently I had...

A.   17 December 2017: You should speak to him but don't do all the running all the time and if he's like abominable or..fickle then it was worth a shot. You needed to know if he would like you or not. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: The fact that she brings this subject up...means she's made her decision anyway to cheat on you. She doesn't love you enough to control herself. The marriage use to be something special on her side has...been demolished. Everyone said how ... (read in full...)

Is this my motherhood talking or would I have changed my mind as I grew older anyway?

Q.   I have a daughter who will soon become a teenager. (they grow up sooo fast!). My sister commented that we'll soon have some dating-drama in the house. Which made me think of my teenage and young adult years. What would I do as a mother if my dau...

A.   15 December 2017: It's your motherhood instinct speaking about your child. Of course your going to have these derivatives thoughts about the divination of your child who will be 19. Whenever if she will be just like you going out with a older man or...not. At that... (read in full...)

I'm having some trouble with my crushes

Q.   I'm having a lot of trouble with my crushes. Do you have any advice on what I should do? How should I deal with this? I'm dealing with a lot right now and I want to resolve all my crush problems first. Basically, around a year ago I started li...

A.   15 December 2017: These boys don't seem ready to like girls or...maybe they just don't have a crush on you back. Your not too young to have crushes. It's a temporarily love but doesn't really mean anything for so long. All you need to know is that you should enjoy ... (read in full...)

How do I get the power back in the relationship?

Q.   Hi, I started an affair with a guy from work around 1 year ago, who actively pursued me. The relationship I was in was physically and dometically abusive and around 5 months ago after police involvement I left him and moved out on my own, which was ...

A.   15 December 2017: Why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free. You need to show endearment towards yourself after the abusive domestically relationship you had with a brute. If there is a sign that something is wrong then it is. He's clearly not interested and ... (read in full...)

Still hurt over the break-up

Q.   I have 2 kids and one on the way. My bf and I have been together for 2 yrs, but were together 2 yrs prior, when we had our first child. Things didn't work then because I had self-esteem issues. After we broke up, he moved on to another relationship ...

A.   14 December 2017: So let's get this straight. 1. You been together with your boyfriend for 2 years, When you had your first child with him. 2. He broke up with you because of your low self esteem and went with another woman. 3. He was away from your child... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is being brutally honest and I can't cope with it.

Q.   Been dating for a year and it's the BEST relationship I've ever been in. However, he's starting to be brutally honest and I'm not liking it. I've told him how I felt, even cried and I try to avoid certain topics just because where it can lead to. He ...

A.   14 December 2017: If he's making criticism then that's just cruel. I agree with Honeypie. She said it all. ... (read in full...)

He wants me to change, I want him to love me as I am.

Q.   I'm feeling kind of hopeless in the relationship I'm in. We'e been together nearly 10 months, age gap between us is 15 years. We get a long great, there is so much chemistry. We love each other very much. There is however an issue that we find ...

A.   14 December 2017: he sounds like a idiot and a bully. Why on earth are you putting up with that? I get that you want him to love you for you but he doesn't love you if he's trying to change you. he is...acting selfish and...being too controlling. This is a red flag ... (read in full...)

I always seek validation, but I shouldn't really need it!

Q.   Why do I attract these men or better yet these people in my life? Hello aunts I am turning 32 next month and I am at a dead end with men . I have stoped daring and having sex for the last year an a half but I don’t jnow why I attract men that are ...

A.   14 December 2017: I really think your better off not seeking for a man. You know better than that and you know you keep going to one bad relationship to another. Denizen is right, you haven't learned from any of your mistakes of the men you been with. When you say ... (read in full...)

How to cope with abuse for mixed race relationship?

Q.   Hello, I have been with my amazing boyfriend of 3 and a half years and we are more than happy. I am a black female and he is a white male and we constantly receive horrible comments and a few uncomfortable stares in restaurants, beaches, cinemas ...

A.   9 July 2017: The only advise i can offer to you is that....being over sensitive to these comments and stares will...only get to you if you let it. You can argue all day to racist people. They still stick to how they feel about you. Arguing over them and ... (read in full...)

Is his request weird or not?

Q.   So lemme know if this is weird or not. My boyfriend has been serious/joking with me about if I we had kids, that he'd want to drink my breast milk from my boobs. I shudder at the thought, and I can only imagine the issues women have with their ...

A.   9 July 2017: At the end of the day he should respect you if you don't like him sucking your boob and drinking your milk. ... (read in full...)

He doesn't treat me like he used to. What to do?

Q.   For the past few months I've noticed my boyfriend acts like he really just doesn't care about the relationship anymore. He sometimes goes hours without replying to my calls or texts only to make excuses like he was busy doing something else. He's ...

A.   9 July 2017: He could be dealing with lots of troubles he bought on himself or...dealing with a mental illness who knows? Without's a guessing game. Since you mentioned how you felt and he went on about the same stuff about ranting and having ... (read in full...)

Step daughter doesn't want the step family moving into Dad's house!

Q.   My boyfriend has a 10 year old daughter with his ex, I have a 8 year old from a previous relationship, and when we first got together our girls got on well. We have been together for 2 years, and recently we started thinking about moving in ...

A.   9 July 2017: I think you all need to do a family meeting and do counseling for this little girl. I don't know whether this girl is afraid of a new environment and she feels like she is replacing her mum by a new family moving in with her. Kids like the same ... (read in full...)

Is his request weird or not?

Q.   So lemme know if this is weird or not. My boyfriend has been serious/joking with me about if I we had kids, that he'd want to drink my breast milk from my boobs. I shudder at the thought, and I can only imagine the issues women have with their ...

A.   9 July 2017: If it's a joke you shouldn't take it seriously and post this question in the first place. It's probably a memo but I really think you're analyzing it too much. ... (read in full...)

I think he's been swapping explicit pics of me!

Q.   I need some advice and don't normally do this but I've been with this guy for nearly 2 years and had a gut feeling he's been up to somthing odd! I logged into his emails today and found messages between him and a random person on cragslist asking ...

A.   9 July 2017: I don't think there is no think about it. The fact is he is sharing pictures of you to his other mates or random people. I suggest you print screen the email message of what it said and then.....upload the print screen image to your email and then... (read in full...)

What does all this interaction with him mean?

Q.   Hello, in recent months I have become close to a male friend of whom I knew in grade in junior high in 2002. He added me on FB which was a surprise, as I rejected him in junior high when he showed interest in me. He ended up moving to another state ...

A.   9 July 2017: Sometimes...people can move on or still like you when years come by depends on the person. If you wasn't interested in this guy having feelings for you because you not interested back, you wouldn't be posting this. You would find some ways to not ... (read in full...)

Why is she so inconsistent with what she wants?

Q.   I've been with this girl for about 8 months now. Everything has been good between us until about a month ago.. I moved in with her last month and now somethings are starting to bother me. She's very inconsistent with what she wants. She works...

A.   8 July 2017: Yeah, I agree. You moved in with her way too soon. Since your gut instinct is telling you that she's lying to you. Well, you need to leave her because she is obviously shady and she's used you for paying the rent with her shares. If you can't ... (read in full...)

My friend seems keen for me to have sex with his wife

Q.   I am single guy....... A friend of mine and his wife who I have both known for years,went over my apartment last night, after drinking at a local bar,and we ended up having a threesome, after he encouraged her... afterwards it was a little...

A.   8 July 2017: If you was really a friend you wouldn't be having sex with your friend wife even if you did get permission. He won't thank you for the long run when you and his wife start to have maybe an affair or her wanted to end the marriage just to be with ... (read in full...)

How can I end my feelings of regret

Q.   Hi aunts. I was in a relationship for six months which he ended two months ago now. I fell in love, we both did and shared a special connection. However he ended it after we had a problem between us that kept surfacing in that I am very tactile and ...

A.   13 June 2017:  I think breaking up over that is just an excuse. People break up over big things, not small things. Let him go and find yourself an honest man.... (read in full...)

Do I stand my ground or make up with my mother?

Q.   Hi folks. I'm in a bit of a predicament at the moment. I have my child's christening coming up this week and haven't invited my mother. Now I know that sounds awful but here's why (sorry for the essay) Basically all our lives my mum...

A.   13 June 2017:  I don't think anyone can really tell you that you should or should not have contact with your mother. It's your mum and it matters, of how you feel. Will you miss the contact with her? Will you forgive her for what she did to you even though she's ... (read in full...)

It's been five days and I haven't heard from him.. How can this be resolved?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a few months. The relationship has been really rocky lately but we continued to try and work through it. A couple of weeks ago we broke up because we have been arguing too much and he didn't seem to w...

A.   13 June 2017: This guy seems to want you to chase after him all the time and make you feel guilty. He is a wishy washy guy with empty promises and you deserve someone who would promise to put dinner on the table, not say it and then not deliver. End it while you ... (read in full...)

Why would a man decide, at the last moment, to not use a condom in this way?

Q.   my partner and i was about to have sex and he went to get a condom. When he got it he was playing with the packaging for a few seconds and put the condom to the side. why? After having sex he started to play with that condom again before putti...

A.   13 June 2017: To answer your question.... He's probably trying to put holes in the condom Like....trying to get you pregnant. Talk to him about this. ... (read in full...)

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