I think I.m in love with the tattoo artist,,should I ask him out for a drink?
Q. just under 3 weeks ago i had a tattoo done. it wasn't my first tattoo, it was a cover up of an old one. the tattooist was a man in his late 40s, who didn't look like a typical tattooist at all. he was just an attractive older man. he also had a ...
A. 27 November 2009: I'd just bite the bullet and ask him out now... it seems he is playing the professional etiquette line.
Steve... (read in full...)
I think I.m in love with the tattoo artist,,should I ask him out for a drink?
Q. just under 3 weeks ago i had a tattoo done. it wasn't my first tattoo, it was a cover up of an old one. the tattooist was a man in his late 40s, who didn't look like a typical tattooist at all. he was just an attractive older man. he also had a ...
A. 23 November 2009: Sounds like he's interested but make sure you are not treading on anyone's toes hun...
Steve... (read in full...)
Have any other men divorced their wives to be with their sister in law?
Q. have men divoced their wives to marry their wife's sister? does this happen or am i the only one that is conteplating this?...
A. 22 November 2009: Does your wifes sister know about this... it seems such a one sided question.
Your immediate family despite wanting whats best for you both will be so shocked that it may just backfire on you both!
If you do get together - please do them a... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable for a man to hit his girlfriend when she stands up for herself against unfair accusations of infidelity?
Q. Is it normal (or acceptable) for: -a man to accuse his girlfriend of infidelity for more than one year? -for the woman to raise her voice and shout, after one year of being falsely accused and asked the same question over and over and over ...
A. 16 November 2009: Simply - NO!
It is certainly not normal. Its no normal to accuse, be frustrated or suffer physical abuse!
But then I have a question of my own... (written in the third person)
"If this was anyone in their own mind - why did they stay in the... (read in full...)
My life is in tatters with an ex that won't move on and a new guy who isn't that interested in me. I don't know what to do!
Q. My life is in tatters at the moment. I split up with my ex in july, mutual decision but since then it's been hard to move on as he is in daily contact with me. I have told him to cut contact but he can't go a day without texting me. The other wk I...
A. 16 November 2009: I sounds to me like your ex has not moved on at all... he still thinks he has some say at what you do and what happens in your life.
You need to make it clear that you are both mature adults and that he needs to start acting like one and move on.... (read in full...)
Husband keeps graphic photos of his two ex wives!
Q. My husband of eight years, soon to be ex, has kept a collection of pictures and videos of the sex life he shared with his two ex wives. These are very graphic -- he describes himself as perverted -- and would qualify as hard core porn, not love ...
A. 16 November 2009: In my humble opinion - this guy can't be wired up correctly!
It's ok to have a healthy sex life to feel free and to do what you wish with your partner, but to carry this footage and material on into a new relationship and consequently his new marr... (read in full...)
Met a man from the Internet but now he says he needs to back off...
Q. I met a lovely man through the internet, we chatted via msn and text for quite a while first before meeting. When we did it was gr8 (for me at lesat) I was crazy about him and thought he felt the same! He came fot the weekend said he had a ...
A. 13 November 2009: What Gina says...
the other thing is - he may already be married and used you. Just a thought!
be careful!
Steve x... (read in full...)
He showed no concern when I had a miscarriage and I am at the stage where I no longer know what to say to him, should I leave?
Q. I have asked for help before and always received helpful and unbiased advice. My problem stems from the fact that I feel that I have not been treated very well and would like other peoples views on whether I should leave this relationship. I was ...
A. 13 November 2009: Hmm... I've been on the receiving end of this one so I do have personal experience.
Speaking as a man and how men are "supposed" to be. Caring Men generally are trying to be supportive and strong, this "can" be misread as uncaring and cold.
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I think I.m in love with the tattoo artist,,should I ask him out for a drink?
Q. just under 3 weeks ago i had a tattoo done. it wasn't my first tattoo, it was a cover up of an old one. the tattooist was a man in his late 40s, who didn't look like a typical tattooist at all. he was just an attractive older man. he also had a ...
A. 13 November 2009: Hmmm... have you ever fallen for someone else who makes you feel valued and attractive i.e. your Doctor, Teacher, Lecturer? It is quite common to think you have fallen for someone who makes you feel good. Its like a temporary ego boost, but that's ... (read in full...)
Is there too much trust lost or can it be salvaged?
Q. Someone I really care about is hurting because of my past actions. I have been seeing someone who I met at work for a year who is much younger than me and we got along really well and enjoyed each others company. About 4 months into the relation...
A. 8 November 2009: I haver to admit I'm with the anonymous (whoever you are) poster. The second posting - th etrouble with posting anon. is as there is no time stamp you're answer becomes lost in the ether - register, post as yourself and stand up for what you believe ... (read in full...)
I'm married but want to have an affair with a married man..
Q. Please everybody I really just want answeres from MEN. Please, all men out there reply to this. I am happilly married and i know a guy who is also happily married, I have never cheated on my husband but I want to cheat now. I want to have hot...
A. 6 November 2009: Looking through your question I couldn't help noticing just how many times you say "I" - 12 times to be precise, in 8 sentences... what about what your spouse thinks or the other guy for that matter... what about his partner/spouse. What about the ... (read in full...)
Help me from the torture of my Psycho ex...Is there a womens organization or something that can help me?
Q. hi, i am 26yrs old female From INDIA, Andhra pradesh. i have this serious problem with my X-boyfrnd we broke up 5yrs ago but he just dosent seem to accpt it and keeps interfiering in my personal life, keeps threathning me to killing me.he t...
A. 6 November 2009: The Community and Organisation you need to contact is the same number as your local police station.
I empathise with your situation but I suspect most A & U would recommend the same action - you are being threatened for goodness sake!
Your fa... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me, or give me any advice on changing the way I perceive sex?
Q. I have always had a problem with sex, it was something I'd quite happily let guys do, but it was something I let happen to me (hoping there was a hug and the end), rather than something I felt part of. I got together with a guy 8 years ago. We'd bee...
A. 6 November 2009: In My Opinion: I think you have underlying issues which cannot be answered on a forum such as this... I feel you need professional help with either a Sex Therapist to help you overcome your anxieties and fears. It will take time and patience... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship will be a short or long one?
Q. I am dating a 26 year old, and i am 40 year old woman. We met 2 years ago when he turned 24. We are basically attracted to each other, love at first sight i may say, and really are like soulmate. During our 2 years life had been very rough. W...
A. 6 November 2009: for me, it's as Gina says... if he is the type of guy who's glass is half empty, your relationship could be more hard work than what you are prepared to accept. Or maybe he is just shallow to think that once you start to age significantly th... (read in full...)
Why can't she see that her actions and lack of consideration are a huge cause of our problems?
Q. My gf did not come home last night. We live together. I called and left a message when I arrived home form work and then I waited until 10pm before trying to call her again. She would not answer my calls or return my texts. I texted her to ask her ...
A. 6 November 2009: Wow - after reading this I was amazed you are still with her... you must think she is really precious and flawless. I suspect most guys would have booted her out by now... You are being used my man - quite simply. Let her find her own way back,... (read in full...)
Can I ever trust my cheating husband again or should I leave now?
Q. My husband was spending to much time with an old friends of ours who had split from her husband. they ending up falling in love and in bed together. He is still with me and says he loves me but loves her more and wants her in his life at some ...
A. 6 November 2009: It sounds so much like you're trying to make a go of this but I'm afraid you already intimated the answer... he is using you honey, whilst ever you put up with the situation he will continue to abuse your emotions and feelings. As difficult as it ... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: To me this is the eternal question about privacy and trust... it's irrelivent that private emails exist or not! You dont trust him - simple.
If he is hellbent on cheating, he will. You constantly checking up on him will only exacerbate the prob... (read in full...)
Old friend only seems to contact me when he wants sex or am I missing something?
Q. hi, i have known this guy for about 20 years, im 37, he is 33. when we were younger we always met and flirted, and kissed a few times, but neither of us was single, so nothing happened. we both fancied each other but it never went beyond flirting. ...
A. 23 October 2009: Sounds like you're surplus to requirements until he's reached almost the bottom of the pile, then he calls you.
Start by setting those rules, keep your own company in bed and re-boot. See if he hangs around... my guess is he wont.
Steve... (read in full...)
Closure needed in the up and down relatinship?
Q. So, she sucked me back in about 3 weeks ago. My own fault, I admit it. She acted weird right away. Stayed with me for a few days. A freind gave me the heads up that she had been on a few dates with a guy the week before. I didn't bring it up to her ...
A. 23 October 2009: Just stay away from her - eventually she'll get the picture. She sounds very domineering and self centred. You really are better off without her...
Good luck and keep ignoring the phone...
Steve... (read in full...)
Married but toying with fantasy of affair with colleague
Q. Wife and Work Colleague Hello everybody. I'm new around here and I need some non judgemental advice from you. (I posted this last night but in the wrong place, I think). I've been married for 15 years and we have two children. Our sex life has nev...
A. 23 October 2009: Wow... you're grasp of English is good!
Ok - to start the ball rolling... I'm no expert on this though I do have some very good experience on this matter in particular. Your life reflects my own pretty much but I dont have anyone in mind to strok... (read in full...)
I don't want to control him but I don't like him looking at pornography!
Q. Hello there, I have a horrible feeling that I can't get rid of. It's probably quite common but I need to get over it. My boyfriend always said he didn't look at porn and wasn't interested in other women, just me, which i knew sounded too good...
A. 23 October 2009: Whilst it is true that most men look at porn it's not to necessarily to provide masturbation material, you intimated that was what he did... but you dont know for sure, you are tormenting yourself for assuming he actually 'gets off' by it.
Perso... (read in full...)
Feelings for my husband's brother but not an affair...
Q. Hi, I don't really know what to say.. A bit of background on this situation. My husband (married for 2 and a half years) and I met in Hawaii in 06 and he immediately fell in love with me. I didn't have feelings for him for about a year. His br...
A. 21 October 2009: By talking to your brother in-law, all you will do is affirm your feelings - that is bad whether those feelings are mutual or not.
Sometimes we make decisions in our lives that; with hindsight we would have made differently. But, please dont for... (read in full...)
I always think about doing it with a girl. Am I a lesbian?
Q. for the past few years I have been masterbating and thinking of having sex with a girl but I have never done such a thing but it's always on my mind. I started having sex in early march at the age of 22 but long before I started having sex I always ...
A. 20 October 2009: If you're happy with a BF, you may just have an active imagination!
Mind you - I dont think about having sex with a bloke so - maybe you are! LOL
Seriously though - if he's not doing things right - you should be telling him not wishing it was a... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lied about unprotected sex with other guys, now I'm worried I have an STD
Q. Heyy, im 16 nearly 17 (male). Ive just broken up with my girlfriend and we were sexually active. We had sex a few times without a condom because she told me she hadnt had sex with anyone else. While I was going out with her I caught thrush, a...
A. 20 October 2009: No point doing everything yourself - there is no shame going to a Clinic! Just go and get checked... it's the only real way that you will feel safe!
Good luck and be more careful next time - PSS
Practise Safe Sex!!!
Steve... (read in full...)
Should I try to bury the hatchet and send my daughter a card for her 21st???
Q. My daughter's birthday is coming up Monday October 26. She will be 28 years old and she and I don't talk, her decision, not mine. She moved out June 08 and only speaks to my sister. I'm torn whether to send her a birthday card or just ignore it. ...
A. 20 October 2009: Just send the Card - one more day that passes is another day too long! Stubbornness has no winners, only losers!
Even if she does not respond, continue to send cards until one day when she is old enough to realise how childish this all is, will... (read in full...)
My wife is in love with another woman. What now?
Q. I need some advise! I've been with my wife for 20years married for 16. Right now she is involved in a relationship with another women for over a year, I've known about this from day one, It was orginally gonna be the three of us and it was, but now ...
A. 20 October 2009: Emotional Blackmail is a nasty thing isnt it... By calling her bluff I think you did the right thing, you dont deserve to be held over a barrel for the rest of your life whilst she east her cake with one hand and still holds onto it with the othe... (read in full...)
Submissive males: what about kisses after licking butt?
Q. I recently posted queston about submissive male. Well here is a new one Now He wanted to lick my ass and then proceed to the vagina is this safe. What about kisses after licking butt. Not trying to sound bad just new to all of this and want to know ...
A. 20 October 2009: Technically its not safe to allow any organ contact with Anus then Vagina in that order. It may lead to infection causing bacteria to spread internally potentially making you (and him) quite ill. Although saliva has antiseptic qualities it's a... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife and is she up to something?
Q. This is hard for me I have been married for over 20 years now my wife has secret e mail is dressing diferantly wants to go out more is spending on clothes and says she needs to find herself, lots of fighting,should i leave...
A. 20 October 2009: Jumping to conclusions is a bad thing...
Suggest going out together, talk to her, find out about her, be interested and flirtatious. Make yourself desirable to her... it sounds like she is craving attention so be there to give her it.
Walking... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my girl friend...how can I convince my husband to share?
Q. I have been married for 14 years to a wonderful man that I am very much in love with. However after I got married I realized that I was bisexual. About ten years ago I had a girlfriend that he knew about and I loved her very much. At that time he ...
A. 19 October 2009: So let me think about this... you want your cake and eat it...
C'mon... wake up and smell the coffee, I think your husband has been very passive, ok so he may have wanted a piece of the action. Did he really have an option? From where I am, "sho... (read in full...)
By cutting him off, will he realize what he is walking away from?
Q. My husband walked out on me and our 2 children 3 months ago for another woman at work who is 17 years younger than him. We have been married for 9 years and together for 13. I have tried everything I can to try and win him back and I know he is ...
A. 19 October 2009: File for divorce, when he receives the papers then discuss... he may realise you aren't playing this stupid game of his.
You need to take control by making the first move... it may seem you are out of your depth but persevere and you will eventual... (read in full...)
Did he marry me for love? Or was it out of lonliness?
Q. Hey all, i have been married for just over a year now and my husband married me a few monthes after his mum died and his dad also died about two years before his mum. I have been a bit unsure about whether or not he married me for love or because ...
A. 19 October 2009: On the face of it, it seems he may be being unfaithful. However, he may just be lonely or indeed depressed and looking for someone to talk to as he is confused as to what it may be he wants.
I'm not making excuses for him, but by talking to him y... (read in full...)
Could I subconsciously be harboring some dislike?
Q. My question id this: I'm 42 and my lover is 45, I like her body very much. I also find her very attractive but I can't have an orgasm with her. She thinks that somehow she is responsible. I've tried to\explain that she is not to blame but no good. ...
A. 17 October 2009: You say your "lover..." Are you married and this is extra marital... that would explain a few things. Stress and guilt would be my theory in this case. otherwise - go to your GP... there has to be something else medically wrong. Steve... (read in full...)
I am grateful for the friendship but could it be more?
Q. I have been single now for 15 months. My husband passed away very suddenly and I am left looking after our two boys. I have known a man to just say hi to for about 5 years, but for the last three months we have been texting, emailng and talking on ...
A. 17 October 2009: It's such a shame the anonymous poster who wrote "Well, if he's single and..." left no name - that is a superb answer!
I agree with every word...
Go for it girl - and Good Luck!
Steve... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex will regret what he's done?
Q. i started talking with my ex after 4 years. in the first email he was very caring and asked if i was ok then i discovered he was married then he was weird in his emails and was sending them at strange times. he said to email anytime. i felt weird be...
A. 17 October 2009: All I say about this is - what did you see in him in the first place? You know why you left him right? So why beat yourself up about the past? He sounds so full of himself - bragging about what he has and wants... shame he doesn't think about what... (read in full...)
Flirting/chatting-how much is too much?
Q. Okay the background. I've been married to my wife for 8 years, we've been together for 10. We also work on the same floor at the same employer. Last few years have been rough- we seem to live in our own separate worlds. I'll admit- some of our a...
A. 17 October 2009: Hmm... it sounds like you have been on opposite sides of the same road for a long time. You acknowledge that you are not perfect (no-one is) but that shouldn't stop you from doing what you want together. It sounds very much like your children ha... (read in full...)
What is likelyhood of a committed relationship?
Q. I'm a 30 year old male and I've met this hot woman off the internet. She is 20 years old and a virgin. No religious ties. She's never even had a bf. She just moved out of her parents home (very controlling/mentally abusive father) and is l...
A. 17 October 2009: As the previous poster says... There is no-way she is genuine - an abusive father? Wants sex with you and never met you...? If she exists - you would probably get what you are really looking for (Sex) but there would be implecations, probably ... (read in full...)
My dad physically and sexually abused me and I'm having flashbacks
Q. What To Do? i am now 19 and have 2 amazing little boys with my longterm partner, sound good right? well its not all so perfect When i was a young girl my own dad physically and sexually abused me at first i didnt understand it was wrong but it ...
A. 16 October 2009: You should involve the Police - simple as. Yes you love him, but for the protection of other little girls or your own children, you need to protect them from him.
It's not just a fact about what YOU want, but your children. If you owe them som... (read in full...)
His penis didnt go all the way in, could I be pregnant?
Q. Me and my bf tried to have sex but his penis cant really fit into my vagina, but it did went in alittle if i'm not wrong,while we were trying. But he took his penis away after awhile. Im just curious if I can get pregnant this way? cause his penis ...
A. 9 October 2009: ...but yes you could be pregnant and to support EWO - if you dont want to get pregnant either abstain or take proper protection. You need to learn about sex... and quick, there is enough information out there to help you - make a mature deci... (read in full...)
During sex I decided it wasnt right..was that rape?
Q. I met up with this guy and concented to sex...then during sex I decided this wasnt right and asked him repeatedly to stop....he didnt, I even tried moving but I wasnt strong enough, when it was all over I just let it go and stayed the night....I ...
A. 9 October 2009: To be honest it makes you seem shallow and superficial... you obviously didn't give that much thought to your actions before you slept together. Technically it would be classed as rape but you would be hard pushed to find: 1. A Lawyer to repres... (read in full...)
I know I can't ask him to stop having contact with her. Any suggestions?
Q. I am getting married very soon and currently my fiancé and I live apart due to selling houses etc. My fiancé has a close female friend whom he has known for over 15 years. I also know her as we all used to work together. My fiancé and her have ...
A. 6 October 2009: He must ask for her to stop, by choice not by your suggestion. If she has designs on him or not is inconsequential and irrelevant to you - does he feel flattered by her? I think he will already know that you feel threatened by her, but maybe he ... (read in full...)
I felt neglected, I cheated, confessed, and now b/f doesn't know if we can get back what we had
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a while now, and i love him. He will have a baby in less then a month with a women that i know he does not want to be with. He has been staying over at her place for around 3 weeks, and i never get any calls from him or ...
A. 6 October 2009: Although things are difficult when one partner cheats in a relationship, its not insurmountable. The "Anon" poster who states:
"Once you cheat you can NEVER go back to what you had. Let the poor guy find a decent, loyal girl."
is probably a... (read in full...)
How does a guy get that kind of attention?
Q. I'm a guy and I'm 24. The thing is I'm still a virgin and at this point it really feels like I'll never have a girlfriend. Is that wrong? I'm more likely to believe that I've got a better chance at ending world hunger rather than landing a date. ...
A. 4 October 2009: The way you start your posting it appears that it's only an issue with yourself.
As already stated - if you are looking for sex, it is obvious. Just be yourself, dont be pushy... on the contrary let the lucky ladies come to you, you have very muc... (read in full...)
I felt neglected, I cheated, confessed, and now b/f doesn't know if we can get back what we had
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a while now, and i love him. He will have a baby in less then a month with a women that i know he does not want to be with. He has been staying over at her place for around 3 weeks, and i never get any calls from him or ...
A. 2 October 2009: One phrase springs to mind: "You dont realise what you have until it's gone" So - dont you go feeling bad about having a knee trembler one night, he got what was coming eventually and that something is pretty much nothing. You ought to mo... (read in full...)
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