He says he will never forgive me if I dont give him rent money
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend and am in process of moving out. Movers come Wednesday. I gave up my apartment the first week in May. We never put any kind of lease in writing and he has me pay him for everything in cash so he does not have to ...
A. 4 September 2007: HI There,
Thanks for your quick response. You know how it is when you feel rotten, you can't stop thinking about all of it. Yes, he was having an online affair/cybersex with someone. He gave me the usual excuses, it's not infidelity because ... (read in full...)
He cheated online , and now I dont trust him and am a jealous maniac!
Q. I have recently found out my partner of three years have been 'cheating' online with a girl he claims he never met. I came across a saved msn conversation on the computer which was quite graphic, this girl knew I exsisted as she asked where I was, ...
A. 27 August 2007: It is NOT unbelievable that you are experiencing so much pain without physical cheating. Lots of stuff has been written about online cheating, studies showing it is just as damamging to a relationship as physical cheating, and of course there is a ... (read in full...)
My fiancee is using one on one sex lines. Is this considered cheating?
Q. hi this is my second posting.Have now just found out that since october maybe before my partner has been using one on one sex lines and there are codes like 69955 and 69691 on them.I haven confronted him yet as he is at work.Please can someone tell ...
A. 21 August 2007: I'm assuming you are very upset about this is what I write here: at minimum you are somewhat upset or wouldnt be writing in:
Your fiance should not be doing something that hurts you so much if he loves you. This is going to be an uphill battle f... (read in full...)
My husband has a strong desire for internet porn!
Q. I have been married for 15 years and I have never stepped outside of my marriage. I do not believe my husband has either. But every once in a while, I have my doubts. My husband has a strong desire for internet porn. He searches for it at least 3-4 ...
A. 19 August 2007: Like the previous person said, your husband first needs to admit that it is a problem. Even then it could be a while before he does anything about it. Facing up to this (and to the underlying problems that cause someone to do this) is painful and ... (read in full...)
I want to help him but I can't take much more
Q. BoyFriend Lives with EX WIFE who cheated while they were married. I know in my heart he has not dealt with these feelings of infidelity and I feel like I am caught in the middle. 1 1/2 ago he introduced me to her as she was a bartender at the time. ...
A. 30 June 2007: You are the same person who wrote later saying that you are the ex-wife who cheated - what is going on?... (read in full...)
I just feel like nothing is going right for us. everything we seem to plan we end up cancelling and I can't help but see a bleak future for us both.
Q. I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together for just over a year. It is a long distance relationship and I am due to move in with him in the next couple of weeks. I have recently started to feel like this is not what...
A. 30 June 2007: I don't think you are being "daft" - it is scary to move some distance and give up your independence plus who knows what else - job, friends, etc. A lot of people have dating patterns and you have seen some signs that make you think you could be ... (read in full...)
I can't move on as I feel obligated to help my ex husband
Q. ok, here is the scenerio: I cheated on my ex husband 8 years ago for a year, I told him and we divorced with no children. I cannot seem to seperate from him, we have a special loyal relationship. He has not been able to be in a stable relation...
A. 29 June 2007: Wait a minute, Michy, you hgave posted twice - earlier as the girlfriend of the guy living with his ex who cheated, and now as the ex who did the cheating. Who are you??... (read in full...)
This breakup is breaking my resolve
Q. my partner cheated on me and we have split but now the whole situation has really wrecked my nerves.i made many sacrifices to help build everything we had-and this is the thanks i get.i feel on edge all the time,my nerves are bad and i keep having ...
A. 28 June 2007: You need to take care of yourself while you are feeling so bad.
There are some thing you can do to make this time more tolerable, and they sound silly but give it a try:
Distract yourself, sitting around thinking about this guy is making yo... (read in full...)
He's been chatting online to women with the webcam and even plans to meet someone!!!
Q. Several months ago, I found out my boyfriend (of 14 months) was using a webcam to chat online with other women while I was gone. I found this out because I came home a little earlier than he'd expected one day and caught him. He told me he wasn't ...
A. 28 June 2007: You really do need to leave this jerk, he could be passing some disease on to you! No one is worth that. You have a pretty good picture of his character now so don't go into denial and endanger yourself.... (read in full...)
My wife makes me feel like I am less than a man at time, what can I do?
Q. my wife is a very aggressivley emotional person and when she has her emotional outbursts it makes me withdawl emotionaly because I feel like I'm being attacked. she accuses me of having no emotions and accuses me of having no passion in the bedroom. ...
A. 28 June 2007: I think you are withdrawing and look unemotional to her because you never know what will set her off, and what good would it do if both of you were yelling at each other? You know that she would not like you better for that, even though you would ... (read in full...)
He restrained me and I felt threatened by it. Am I over reacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months. The other morning he woke up and asked for a cuddle of which I gladly gave him. He then said it was not the cuddle that he wanted, he wanted a big cuddle. He then held on to my clothes and would ...
A. 8 June 2007: I think you have to trust your instincts on this one, it felt threatening and bad to you so . . . if he does this again it will feel threatening and bad to you. You feel like you feel. He should respect you enough not to do something that you ... (read in full...)
Have I Done Something Wrong?
Q. Is it something i'm doing wrong? I started dating a man in the army when i was 17. We spent practically every minute together and got on brilliantly. I stood by him and supported him when he went away on operational tours and we were compleatly ...
A. 7 June 2007: Honey, you did nothing wrong, to be honest I feel pretty bad for the dog who still has to live with him.
He started behaving so badly and treating you badly, but that does not mean that you deserved it.
Surely you will have to get a divorce, a... (read in full...)
She told me she's pregnant!! I'm too young to be a dad!
Q. Help me!! my ex is claiming to be pregnant with my baby! ok to fill you in on whats happened so far: me and my girlfriend broke up after nearly a year together. we argued alot before we broke up and she was becoming way to clingy and didnt trust me ...
A. 7 June 2007: Easy does it here, this girl is acting pretty crazy so I agree with Dr. Pete that you may want to rethink the injunction and work on getting her to calm down so that you can find out the facts about whether she is pregnant, and then be there with ... (read in full...)
Why would 2 people in a close relationship have a threesome? Is this a sign of a problem?
Q. why would 2 people in a close relationship have a threesome? why would a man have a threesome with his long term girlfriend and her friend? is this the type of thing that would just happen when you got drunk or would you plan this? is this ...
A. 30 May 2007: I read some stuff about this because my boyfriend was wanting to do this and I was freaked out.
It is definitely a problem if one person in a couple is pressured into it, anyone who does that to you doesn't really care about you. Or if you go a... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to to be more assertive and say NO to sex with just anyone. Yet he took advantage when I got drunk! Any advice?
Q. Im 17, im pretty and have a nice figure however i am very insecure about myself.. i cant go out with out makeup and take so long to get ready in the mornings... ive slept with 5 people between now and last June and i no this is too many, and i ...
A. 30 May 2007: Hi honey,
You thought you were making up a story when you told this guy you were raped - but I think you actually WERE raped - not the earlier four times but by this guy who says he wants to take care of you. I don't think that everytime a woma... (read in full...)
I've been depressed for so long.. How do I get rid of it without going to the doctors!?
Q. What is the best way to get rid of depression? I have had it for years and daren't go to the doctors. i don't want it on my records. What if this comes back to haunt me in the future. But - honestly i just cannot go on. i am so down all the time. I ...
A. 8 May 2007: I hope you got some help from your Dr.!! You need to know something - the longer you have depression without getting it treated (therapy or medication, whatever it takes) the harder it is to get rid of and the longer you will need treatment.
... (read in full...)
If a guy's wife was the one to leave 2 years ago and he is middle-aged, is it normal to aim for a girl less than half his age and visit porn web sites?
Q. If a guy's wife was the one to leave 2 years ago and he is middle-aged, is it normal to aim for a girl less than half his age and visit porn web sites. It seems totally unrealistic and frustrating. I feel love for him but he doesn't seem to know I ...
A. 8 May 2007: I think it is probably more accurate to say that it is "common" for a guy to go after much younger women then to say that it is "normal"! (Whatever normal is . . .) The fact that he is ONLY wanting to date women half his age sounds like he wants ... (read in full...)
My bf says his ex is the sexiest girl alive and talks about her w/ his friends! Is he trustworthy?
Q. Hi, I recently discovered that my boyfriend chats with his friends about his ex girlfriend. He told me once that I turn him off in bed. And that his ex girlfriend was the prettiest and sexiest girl that he has ever met. He swears that he is not i...
A. 1 May 2007: Those were cruel things to say to you. You know what, I recently found out to my shock that there are men who think there are more important qualities for a woman to have than looking like a supermodel and performing sex like a porn star.
Your ... (read in full...)
My parents were rigid and controlling and I have low self-esteem! How do I cope?
Q. I have been brought up like an obedient servant by my parents who does everything they ask to, even if it's not something i want to do. They would pressurize me to do it if i denied and it is generally me who has to give up, for they are quite rigid ...
A. 26 April 2007: If you have really low self esteem therapy can be really really helpful - no matter who or what caused the low self esteem. There are also some good self-help books. I know there is one called "When I say no, I feel guilty" that is highly ... (read in full...)
4 years together, brought a flat 6 months ago, now he tells me he never loved me, and never wanted me!! Im very depressed about this and its affecting my heatlh, please help!
Q. I am having problems at the moment. Six weeks ago my partner of four years (friend of ten) said he needed some time to figure out what he wanted from the relationship as he wasn't sure that he still loved me. Events came about when I sat him down to ...
A. 17 April 2007: Hi,
I really think you need to deal with your depression first. It is great that you are getting counseling. 6 weeks is enough time to tell if the drug you are taking works for you. It is very common that one antidepressant does not work for an i... (read in full...)
She knew about the event before it took place, could she now get in to trouble even though she wasnt involved ?
Q. Hi everyone i need help i know this girl and she is going around telling everyone about a murder that happend a couple of days ago that she knew about it befor it happend and i was wondering if anyone knows if she will get into trouble if she was ...
A. 17 April 2007: If she knew it was absolutely going to happen, and did nothing to stop it, she could be in real trouble. The way she has been talking it is likely to get back to the police investigating the case, and she may be a suspect herself.
The best thi... (read in full...)
Having problems orgasming with my gf and the last prior 5 girls I was with, before I dated her! Any advice?
Q. Hi, I am having problems with respect to coming whilst making love to my girlfriend. I have spoken to my doctor about this and he has said that I should stop masturbating which I have done but I am still unable to come with my girlfriend unless I do ...
A. 5 April 2007: It sounds as if you may have trouble letting someone see you a little "out of control". Have you ever tried masturbating with your GF with you, maybe with her also masturbating, or maybe with her just touching you and talking to you a little? (if ... (read in full...)
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