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i am not really qualified to help people but I like to give advice. if anyone wants to send me a private message, feel free. not many people know where to find the right advice when they are going through a hard emotional time. when we feel inside us that something is not right, we must reach out and talk about it with someone.

the yin and yang symbol represents my even-handed approach to situations. there is good and bad in everything. that's the way i look at it.

no-one in this world is going to back you up if you have a big argument with someone, whether you're in the right or the wrong. so being right is not always important. getting your own way is what counts.

and at the end of the day, nothing in life is certain. whether that's good or bad, it's just the way it is i guess. we live in the present moment. We do not dwell on past regrets and we don't worry about future concerns. a good marriage is a lot like a novel. it is fun.

but a bad marriage is like a prison. it is terrible. and i have been in prison many times before. adios

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Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

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26 April 2010: Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

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I'm stuck in a time warp. Is anything ever going to change?

Q.   Every time someone tries to help me, I throw it back in their face because I am disappointed with everything that's happened to me in the past. The worst years of my life was from the ages of 14 to 19. The years 1994 to 1998 were bloody terrible....

A.   15 May 2010: I will get around to reading the book at some point. I will write it down. But the point I want to make is that we all have different values and philosophies. We all interpret the exact same situations differently sometimes. My Psycholo... (read in full...)

I'm stuck in a time warp. Is anything ever going to change?

Q.   Every time someone tries to help me, I throw it back in their face because I am disappointed with everything that's happened to me in the past. The worst years of my life was from the ages of 14 to 19. The years 1994 to 1998 were bloody terrible....

A.   15 May 2010: Is philosophical advice better than practical advice? I guess we all have a different opinion on that. At a Psychiatric Ward, someone said the Psychiatrists or Psychologists there prefered to give practical advice. Everyone goes through dep... (read in full...)

Are girls confused about why the average guy isn't more confident in himself?

Q.   Are girls confused about why the average guy isn't more confident in himself?...

A.   14 May 2010: I am not sure what the point of this question is. But who cares what girls think? The fact is if we don't have the courage to ask them out, they can't agree to go out with us. We have to ask them out. If we don't, nothing is going to happen. ... (read in full...)

How can you tell that hes not after your money or expect you to pay for things?

Q.   i am new to the dating world, here goes. i have been dating a guy for the last 2 months. at first 3 dates he paid for everything a gentleman and now we share which im happy with. my question is i dont know if expecting too much from him, but how i...

A.   14 May 2010: No, don't say anything. Eventually, his nature will come out. He might have been taught by his parents to be cheap. It depends on how you look at it, but what I'm saying is it would be quite insulting to him if you said something. You either h... (read in full...)

He lied and told me he lost his phone when he really just didnt want to talk to me

Q.   Basically, there's a guy, that's been a jerk, and I don't know what to do! I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now, things were going fine and we went out on saturday. On the sunday i txted him to thank him for paying/thank his parents ...

A.   13 May 2010: Under the circumstances, it might be best to just forget about him. He sounds like a real jerk. You don't want people like that in your life. Do you?... (read in full...)

Feeling so bad, that I hurt my friend! Any advice?

Q.   I feel really bad! Since I told my guy friend that I would never talk to him again. He hasn't been online or talking to anyone. I didn't mean to hurt his feelings by telling him that. He just really hurt my feelings and I didn't know that he would ...

A.   13 May 2010: Well, we need you to clarify the question a bit more. I don't understand how or why you told this guy you don't want to talk to him anymore. That said, I think you should send him an email if you feel bad. They say that everything happe... (read in full...)

I've never fancied anyone before and I don't know how to handle the situation! Help!

Q.   Hey. I need advice! Sorry if this turns out as a long mess but I’m confused. I’ve got an infatuation with a boy in college with me. I don’t know what I’m thinking let alone him, so any help and I’ll be happy. I’ve never fancied anyone before. ...

A.   13 May 2010: I guess it's about what you think is right at the time, and what you're willing to live with. If you are concerned that this guy is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, it means you have failed. And you don't want to be a ... (read in full...)

Does the greatest happiness come through having a partner?

Q.   Hi guys. I don't have a girlfriend at the moment, and I don't care too much whether I do or don't. But I have been thinking about something lately. I need to know how one finds the courage to face up to their fears? I lack motivation to le...

A.   13 May 2010: Thanks for your advice Cindy. It is a strange question that I have asked. I just thought I would change the focus of Dear Cupid a bit. Normally, people ask direct questions about love or problems with sex. I am trying to get sex out of people's... (read in full...)

Should I give him up or wait until his family holiday is over?

Q.   iv been seeing a guy for little while now and he wants me exclusive but he has a girlfriend of 1 yr who he only sees once a fortnight and said hes just waiting till hes been on holiday with the kids with her as he promised them .i really like him as ...

A.   13 May 2010: I would get in contact with the other woman and ask her what she thinks about the whole situation. Create a bit of embarrassment for him. It sounds like he is using you up. I don't think he loves you. You should have nothing to do with him. I hop... (read in full...)

He dumped me because another girls was cute and had good boobs!

Q.   Hi Cupid My bf broke up with me yesterday, it hurts like hell. I just wanted to die. The reason for break up he said is he moved on and has met an younger girl (im older than him) who is cute and has good boobs. I cant believe the reason he told m...

A.   13 May 2010: Found another boyfriend yet? I hope so. Life is too short not to have someone to have sex with. Hopefully, the next guy will be more mature than me, or the previous guy. All jokes aside, we just want you to know that you sound like a really ni... (read in full...)

How can I eject everyone out of my life?

Q.   Hi guys. I have a really difficult question and I hope you can help me. I have the opposite problem to most people. Most people try to attract plenty of friends into their life. But I want to get almost everyone out of my life. I am anti-social a...

A.   13 May 2010: Don't worry. I am not dead yet. But thanks to everyone for your answers. Kenneth might be right in saying that I need urgent help, and that this is dangerous. Kate has given a good answer. Friends are like libraries and they have knowledge t... (read in full...)

Am I still covered by the morning after pill that I took in the morning?

Q.   I took the aftermorning pill yesturday and had unprotected sex again on the night time, will that pill still cover me or will i have to go for another one?...

A.   12 May 2010: Calm down madam. Just stay calm. You could always speak to a Doctor or expert about all this. But do take notice of what k c100 says. If there is anything in life that is certain...if history has taught us anything...it's that everyone must tak... (read in full...)

How can I eject everyone out of my life?

Q.   Hi guys. I have a really difficult question and I hope you can help me. I have the opposite problem to most people. Most people try to attract plenty of friends into their life. But I want to get almost everyone out of my life. I am anti-social a...

A.   12 May 2010: I guess I've just been having mood swings lately. I just find it so hard to trust people. That's why sometimes, I lock the door to my house and don't really talk to anyone for hours. It's a cold, lonely world. And the truth hurts. What is the t... (read in full...)

How do I see my kids when they are acting like I'm Charles Manson?

Q.   Me and my babies mother was together for 9 months and we were doing fraud and breaking the law...well she got pregnant 3 months before I was federally indicted...i went to jail and stayed there for 4 years...after she found out she was pregnant she ...

A.   12 May 2010: I doubt that things are going to change in a hurry. People will only change their attitudes when they want to. And some people never change. What I'm saying is you have to be realistic and accept that these guys don't like you. Plenty of people d... (read in full...)

How does one overcome bitterness, or should I say pettiness?

Q.   I know a lot about myself and why I react a certain way to certain situations. But I want to know how I can overcome my pettiness complex. I am still twisted and angry that all the girls at school and university ignored me. Is this being petty? What ...

A.   11 May 2010: These are all good answers. I know it's not good to be pissed off all the time but it's natural. We all have to let out our anger and frustration in some way. I do it over the internet. I get all my negative feelings out there. Then I scream all the ... (read in full...)

Did my wife have gay tendencies?

Q.   I have been with my wife for about 2 years total and one year married. I love my wife more then life itself, and we have a baby on the way. However, a past relationship she had with one of her friends (who is a girl) has always vexed me. Just befo...

A.   11 May 2010: Well, as they say...There are all sorts of reasons why people live together. I wouldn't read into it too much. ... (read in full...)

Why does my dad favor my sister over my mum and I?

Q.   I just really want to know why my father treats me like this... I have a 28 year old sister. She lives in Canada; my father talks to her everyday. I'm 14 and, unfortunately, I have to see poor excuse for a father (that's an exaggeration. I'...

A.   11 May 2010: I've never met the guy before but he sounds like a jerk. And that's a nice word I'm using. Because you are 14, there's not much you can do in this situation. You can't move out and you can't verbally abuse him. But you can ignore him when he talks... (read in full...)

Pressured to get a boyfriend...

Q.   I'm 14, Will i ever get a boyfriend? All my friends have boy friends and i feel pressured to get one, other wise i will be left out :( I want a boyfriend but i don't really have any guy friends that i hang out with or see anymore. Most of my frien...

A.   11 May 2010: You are obviously at an age where you take too much notice of what other people say. Just be yourself. Whether or not you decide to look for a boyfriend, be yourself. No-one else should be in control of your life. If you let your friends tell you... (read in full...)

He's sending explicit photos to me and wants the same back!

Q.   This guy im talking keeps sending me non stop nude photos of him... they are veery explicit and wants the same from me. He sometimes begs for photos. I never have sent a picture but shouldi be worried? I have a feeling this guy is jut using me for ...

A.   10 May 2010: I guess it's about what you think is right at the time. And a question of what you're willing to live with. You might have to politely explain to him that you won't send him ANY photos like this because you are worried they could fall into the... (read in full...)

He dumped me because another girls was cute and had good boobs!

Q.   Hi Cupid My bf broke up with me yesterday, it hurts like hell. I just wanted to die. The reason for break up he said is he moved on and has met an younger girl (im older than him) who is cute and has good boobs. I cant believe the reason he told m...

A.   10 May 2010: This is a strange situation. He must be a superficial person if he broke up with you for reasons like this. You might be better off without him. Just forget about him for now. Go out and have a coffee somewhere and try to relax. Do not think ab... (read in full...)

Why is she telling me that other women are checking me out?

Q.   Ok so my girlfriend and I go out to clubs and go dancing. We both love to dance and have a great time. One thing that drives me crazy is that she keeps telling me about other girls that are checking me out. I am there do dance with her. I dont ...

A.   10 May 2010: Now now. Don't read into it too much. She might just be making conversation. All man's depression and suffering stems from seeing things that aren't even there...Meaning, all our suffering occurs from reading into things too much.... (read in full...)

What do I have to do to convince military boyfriend to stay with me even when he is deployed abroad?

Q.   We met about a month ago through an online dating site and hit off instantly soon after we met. Well, about a week after we started dating, he got the news that he may be deploying in December, but back then, it was only a 50:50 chance. A few mor...

A.   10 May 2010: Er...Are you sure he's not dropping a hint that he just wants to break up with you? Didn't you say he pulled a similar stunt with another woman, once? If he really loves you, he will give the relationship a chance. If he keeps saying that he doesn... (read in full...)

Disgusted and hurt but ultimately confused

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months and while we've had our ups and downs, he never gave me a reason to not trust him.. However, I found something suspicious on his facebook chat and my paranoia got the better half of me and I ende...

A.   10 May 2010: What we want to know is whether or not he is a nice guy. That is the main issue. If you think he is a great guy, then stay with him regardless of whether or not he looks at porn. But if you think he is a nasty piece of work, just tell him to get l... (read in full...)

People bully me in school, about my weight! Help!

Q.   Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, Okay, i've been going through some tough things right now the biggest thing i've just accepted is my sexuality wich i'm now happy with! Well the problem thats been going on from when i was 08 until now which is...

A.   9 May 2010: You know? When you're young, it feels like the whole world is against you sometimes. But it's not. You need to have a laugh and forget about all these bullies. Bullies are not worth thinking about. They want you to think about them but you don... (read in full...)

How do I stop family members from talking over me?

Q.   I have problems with family members because they don't listen to a word I say. I might say something really important, and they just talk over me or change the subject. They treat me with no respect. I'm starting to feel like they're taking m...

A.   9 May 2010: It's my parents I'm talking about. I think that because they are now faily old 64 and 65, they act like they know everything and that my opinion is not worth shit. Thanks all of you for your help. I will give them a taste of their own medicine... (read in full...)

He acts like he doesn't care about me anymore and only cares about himself

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half and we live together. when we first got together our relationship was great. he showed me a lot of love and attention and always made me feel wonderful. but lately all of that has ...

A.   9 May 2010: I guess you have to ask yourself a question...Would you be better off living by yourself than with this jerk? If the answer is yes, then kick him out of the place and put this unfortunate chapter of your life behind you. If the answer is no,... (read in full...)

Disgusted and hurt but ultimately confused

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months and while we've had our ups and downs, he never gave me a reason to not trust him.. However, I found something suspicious on his facebook chat and my paranoia got the better half of me and I ende...

A.   9 May 2010: I'm not sure what you should do here. But maybe you are taking things a bit too seriously. Why don't you just wait until the full facts come out before you jump to any conclusions? All these weird emails or sites he's looking up on the internet... (read in full...)

Wont have sex but keeps getting off 2 porn!

Q.   hi i am a 26 year old woman and i am with a man 17 years older than me. for a while now he keeps making every excuse you could think of so he dosnt have to sleep with me. he might look for it once or twice a month and expects me to be all on for ...

A.   9 May 2010: He doesn't sound like a wholesome guy. Does he? Maybe you should tell him that if he doesn't stop looking at porn, you might have to break up. Sometimes, giving someone a scare is all it takes to change their behaviour. I hope this helps. G... (read in full...)

She says she doesn't want a relationship but we text for hours

Q.   when the girl i have feelings for says she has feelings 4 me but she doesnt want a relationship right now. we stoppd speakn for a few days then i tld her how i really felt. for the last couple of days weve 6een txtn for hours. i jux got dne txtn her ...

A.   8 May 2010: You should forget about this woman. She has clearly stated that she is not interested in a relationship at the moment. It is not a good idea to keep pestering her. Just let it go. Good luck in finding some other woman.... (read in full...)

I wish I could remember. why am I stuck in the past?

Q.   I have a huge problem i really need help with. Over 4 months ago i got back with my ex i had been with since i'v been a teenager. We have both gone throug rough times together and i have suffered badly from depression in the past. We were both hard ...

A.   8 May 2010: Life wasn't meant to be easy. And we all go through rough times every now and again. Maybe you should have a warm bath, and sit back and relax. And promise to yourself that you will start again. You will forget about the past and not let it hurt ... (read in full...)

I told him I had a problem with porn, now I watch it myself

Q.   Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'll get to the point. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. I love him very much. Each passing day I want and need and taste for him. I have had many abusive relationships. I told him that I ...

A.   8 May 2010: You might be taking things too seriously. A lot of people look at porn and think dirty things and are ashamed afterwards. It's all about self-control. There are people in the world with bigger problems than this. I wouldn't worry about it to much.... (read in full...)

I dreamed we had a threesome, am I a bad person?

Q.   i had a strange dream last night =s. it was me, my boyfriend, and this boy in our class. i fancy this boy, and my boyfriend knows and doesnt worry anything will happen and nothing will. but last night i had a dream we all had a 3 sum.. why did i ...

A.   8 May 2010: Er...Why would you worry about a dream? Dreams rarely mean anything. You can't control what pops into your head while you are dreaming. Can you? No. I don't think you're a bad person. You should definetely not mention this to anyone though. I... (read in full...)

How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company?

Q.   How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company? He doesn't even seem to know he is doing this. I have talked to him about it and he thinks I am being unreasonable....

A.   8 May 2010: I think you should just dump him. He is not going to change. You said you've already spoken to him about it, and he doesn't care what you think. There is no tactful way of telling someone this. He just has bad habits and he doesn't want to ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend but am attracted to my female friend

Q.   Hey Im not entirely sure of my sexuality because i like a guy and he like me, but i also like this girl i hang out with alot. Shes really pretty but im not sure if he feels the same way about me. I want to try something different like in the po...

A.   8 May 2010: I don't know what to say...This sounds like a complex situation. Maybe you should give yourself some time to think before you do anything. I guess you have to do what you think is right at the time, and it's s question of what you're willing t... (read in full...)

Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

Q.   Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

A.   8 May 2010: Lola is right. All I do is sit back and blame others. But it's not that simple. I have man boobs and Asperger's Syndrome and all sorts of other problems with my life (mostly mental problems). My Aunty who died of cancer recently was con... (read in full...)

Boyfriends weight gain is affecting our sex life.

Q.   Iv been in a relationship for 3 years and in that time by boyfrind has continued to gain weight. Not takes no real care in his appearance. And then wonders why i dnt find him sexually attractive and even blames me for it. Iv remained a size ...

A.   7 May 2010: You don't understand that it is not always easy for people to lose weight, or maintain a healthy weight. Try to have some compassion in this situation. You can drop a few hints if you really want him to be thinner. But if he is not interested in ... (read in full...)

Why is my ex ignoring me?

Q.   When my ex and i broke up we kinda remained friends (just occasionally talking not hanging out). one day we decided to see each other and we hooked up. he said he still has feelings for me always has always will and i said i have feelings too. since ...

A.   7 May 2010: I am a bit confused here. The question you are asking us is...Why is your ex-boyfriend ignoring you? Maybe he is using you in some way. He only wants to see you occasionally to get something off you. Like money, advice, someone to talk to, free... (read in full...)

Is it possible to have periods whilst pregnant?

Q.   if i get my period, is it possible to still be pregnant?...

A.   7 May 2010: I agree with the realist. You need to speak to a Doctor about this. If you are worried about other people finding out about the whole thing, you might have to see a Doctor in another town, and ask him/her not to tell anyone about it. I hope tha... (read in full...)

My fiance wants me to send him dirty pictures.

Q.   I'm engaged, and I've never been in such a serious relationship. He wants me to be creative and send him dirty pictures. What should i send him?...

A.   7 May 2010: Are you talking about dirty pictures via SMSs? I think that might be a bad idea. What if someone else gets hold of the pictures and shows them to other people? That could be embarrassing for you. So think about it carefully before you do anything... (read in full...)

How do I stop people bullying me?

Q.   I understand that no-one is perfect, but I have experienced so much bullying in my life that I am starting to lose trust in people. Wherever I go, I am being targeted by bullies for no reason. I don't know if it has anything to do with my Asperger's ...

A.   7 May 2010:  Well, there was a bully at school in Year 10 who I got into a fight with. I beat him up pretty bad, and I was suspened for a day. What did I learn from that? That God should have come to my rescue but he didn't. I had to fight the enemy alon... (read in full...)

How do I stop people bullying me?

Q.   I understand that no-one is perfect, but I have experienced so much bullying in my life that I am starting to lose trust in people. Wherever I go, I am being targeted by bullies for no reason. I don't know if it has anything to do with my Asperger's ...

A.   6 May 2010:  The thing about bullies is they are like the Devil. They have convinced the world that they do not exist, or that they don't cause harm. But they do. I hate them. They destroy people's lives. Keating always said, "I don't believe in God. But ... (read in full...)

How do I stop people bullying me?

Q.   I understand that no-one is perfect, but I have experienced so much bullying in my life that I am starting to lose trust in people. Wherever I go, I am being targeted by bullies for no reason. I don't know if it has anything to do with my Asperger's ...

A.   6 May 2010: Look, I don't want to talk about it anymore. It is late now in Australia, and I have to go to sleep. Take care all of you, and God bless.... (read in full...)

How do I stop people bullying me?

Q.   I understand that no-one is perfect, but I have experienced so much bullying in my life that I am starting to lose trust in people. Wherever I go, I am being targeted by bullies for no reason. I don't know if it has anything to do with my Asperger's ...

A.   6 May 2010:  There are many different degrees of bullying. Sometimes, it is more serious than other times. But bullies always have friends with them because they are cowards. They don't have the guts to bully people when they are by themselves. They are like ... (read in full...)

Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

Q.   Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

A.   5 May 2010:  Well, I guess I will always be one of those people who blames others. Sorry. I'd better stop it. I admit you've all done your best. I just get frustrated because I'm on dial-up internet and it's not that good. I don't want to be a crude pers... (read in full...)

Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

Q.   Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

A.   4 May 2010:  What if I like feeling miserable? What if I don't want to be happy, or I don't care if I don't have a girlfriend? What then? Oh well, God helps those who help themselves. That's the kind of crap I've been listening to for the last ten year... (read in full...)

Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

Q.   Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

A.   29 April 2010:  I don't often tell people that I have Asperger's Syndrome because I hardly ever talk to people. People sometimes freak me out, especially some of the guys on these websites. Some guy on one of the sites seriously stated that he "thought he was ... (read in full...)

Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

Q.   Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

A.   29 April 2010:  Well, I appreciate the recent answer about saying nice things to women. But I can't do that because no matter what I say to people, they turn against me. I have no friends whatsoever. But to clarify the question...I want to know if women like... (read in full...)

Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

Q.   Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

A.   28 April 2010:  My IQ score was 99 when they did a test at the Monash Medical Centre and I passed high school. That is the level of my education. As Tisha-1 said...I have problems that will impact on how women react to me. I am also a real loser. And I was in ... (read in full...)

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