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i am not really qualified to help people but I like to give advice. if anyone wants to send me a private message, feel free. not many people know where to find the right advice when they are going through a hard emotional time. when we feel inside us that something is not right, we must reach out and talk about it with someone.

the yin and yang symbol represents my even-handed approach to situations. there is good and bad in everything. that's the way i look at it.

no-one in this world is going to back you up if you have a big argument with someone, whether you're in the right or the wrong. so being right is not always important. getting your own way is what counts.

and at the end of the day, nothing in life is certain. whether that's good or bad, it's just the way it is i guess. we live in the present moment. We do not dwell on past regrets and we don't worry about future concerns. a good marriage is a lot like a novel. it is fun.

but a bad marriage is like a prison. it is terrible. and i have been in prison many times before. adios

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Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant

This question has 16 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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26 April 2010: Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...

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Crush signs?

Q.   Dear Cupid are these signs HI cupid their is this boy i like star quarter back of the football team way older than me. Any way i feel like a stalker Ive just met him. He really doesn't know me but when i first walked into a lunch i looked...

A.   1 October 2010: This doen not mean anything. Do not jump to any conclusions because there are all sorts of reasons why people look at one another. If you want to get to know him, you can always ring him over the phone and ask him out, or ask him what he thinks a... (read in full...)

Why can't guys let go of the past?

Q.   ive been with my boyfriend for a yr and everything was good well at times it still is to a certain point. he has been tryng to deal with my pass. i had cheated twice on my ex husband. and he has such a big prblm with that he calls me names he says ...

A.   30 September 2010: You want the truth? Men have a sense of entitlement. They can't let go of the past because if they don't get what they're entitled to (or what they want), it hurts. My Psychologist has told me before that it is a bad attitude to think one is "enti... (read in full...)

I'm 20 and never been kissed or had a bf! Any advice?

Q.   Hi, im 20 years old and have never had a boyfriend nor been kissed...I keep telling myself its God's will or that the time will come. Yet I really dont understand. I dont think its my looks since people keep telling me im good looking (and i mean ...

A.   30 September 2010: I used to get angry about not having a girlfriend and never being kissed, so I did something drastic...I had it off with a prostitute at the age of 30. It didn't make things better or worse, but it answered some of my questions. This might no... (read in full...)

What do you think? Are we girlfriend and boyfriend?

Q.   ok so ive been getting to know this guy for a few months now.. we've been chatting everyday for hours in a month...phone calls and text messaging.. when i saw him..we kissed alot..i gave him a massage (he loved it) and he said he loved been a...

A.   30 September 2010: You have to keep in mind that some people don't like being put on the spot. But I can see where you're coming from...Maybe you should give it a few more days before you say anything about whether or not you are bf and gf. I hope it all works out... (read in full...)

What would you do if someone you met for the first time smells funny?

Q.   Lets just say you are going to meet someone for the first time (woman/man) and as soon as she/he gets in the car she/he smells like onions better yet bummy.what would be your first reaction? And how would you approach her/him? Lol :)...

A.   30 September 2010: People who are recovering from anorexia or eating disorders can stink. It's not a permanent thing if that's the case. Their stomach might be playing up because of health problems.... (read in full...)

When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?

Q.   I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...

A.   30 September 2010: So, you're saying that if a woman says she doesn't have an STD that she is definetely telling the truth? Come on. Women do tell lies sometimes, right? She could have some weird kind of rash all over her vagina and if I kiss it, I could catch some... (read in full...)

When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?

Q.   I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...

A.   30 September 2010: I have another question related to his...If a woman asks me to go down on her, is it rude to ask something like...Are you sure you don't have an STD? You see, men can wear a condom when they receive head, but women can't. So it's more dangerou... (read in full...)

When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?

Q.   I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...

A.   29 September 2010: You've got to understand...I am a strange person. I don't like to use words like pussy, arse, etc I think people should act in a more dignified way sometimes. But everyone is different. The word vagina might sound formal to some, but to me ... (read in full...)

Every time I try to get close to him he pushes me away

Q.   my boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for 3 years.. We had a baby boy together who is now a year old. I have gained some weight due to pregnancy and I'm fighting to get it off. When I was about 6 months pregnant, he said he didn't want to ...

A.   29 September 2010: It's a hard situation, but he might need some space. What I mean by that is, you could suggest a trial separation. If he doesn't really like you anymore, you should leave and put this terrible chapter of your life behind you. He sounds lik... (read in full...)

When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?

Q.   I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...

A.   29 September 2010: Thanks for your answers. But you have to remember, some women like to hear some dirty talk while they're in bed as long as it doesn't relate to anal. Example, how about you let me kiss your vagina? Is that dirty enough? Or is that being disre... (read in full...)

When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?

Q.   I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...

A.   29 September 2010: Yeah, I guess you're both right. But I guess it would be pretty cool to release some sperm on a woman's face in a very respectful way. Mmmmm, that would be fun. And it would release a lot of tension.... (read in full...)

He has to choose... the parents, or me!!!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, and we really love each other, but his parents have suddenly decided i'm not welcome at their house anymore and they really hate me. I thought all along that they didn't like me cos they think i'm ...

A.   29 September 2010: I guess it's about what you think is right at the time...and what you're willing to live with. That means you should confront his parents over the phone and ask them what their problem is??? They might have some kind of twisted jealousy complex.... (read in full...)

My heart is smashed into a million little pieces...

Q.   My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, my heart has literally been smashed into a million tiny pieces and it hurts so much. It hurts this much mainly because it was a sudden breakup and that I wasn't expecting it. What's even worse is ...

A.   29 September 2010: I guess you have to do what you think is right at the time...and whatever you're willing to live with. What does all that mean? It means that it might be time to move on. I know that's easier said than done, but there eventually comes... (read in full...)

I am an idiot!!!!

Q.   I am currently engaged to a beautiful woman with 2 kids, the story is as follows. Beautiful woman was with self centered and controlling man that liked to see her bang other guys, she did not like this went though 10 years of this to stay married....

A.   29 September 2010: I guess it's about what you think is right at the time. And what you're willing to live with. What does all that mean? It means if you want to break it off, do it in a sensitive and caring way. And if you stay with her, make sure you repeate... (read in full...)

Does this girl like me or was she just being polite?

Q.   I met her last night and we were kind of drunk but hung out for most of the time. She gave me her number. She asked me to sit on a couch next to her and she was pointing to where there was little room and I put my arm around her. Then I texted ...

A.   29 September 2010: I could be wrong but if she didn't complain when you put your arm around her, it could be a sign that she likes you a lot. That's the part where I think she wants you bad. So you should make that phone call, but don't freak out if she says she... (read in full...)

Why do family members and relatives interrogate me just because I don't want kids?

Q.   Hi everyone. I've noticed that when someone does not want to have kids, everyone interrogates them. They demand answers. But when someone does want to have kids, no-one interrogates them! How does that work? It sounds like discrimination to me...

A.   28 September 2010: Yeah, that's me. But I'm not stupid. I know how the world works. I know that life is not always fair and there's a lot of twisted people out there who like reading these posts because they laugh at people who have been through tough situations. ... (read in full...)

What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking?

Q.   Hi all. I'm an ugly bloke (I think so anyway) and I have never had a girlfriend before, and I want an honest answer on this question...What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking? Most guys who are not good-looking gro...

A.   28 September 2010: Well, 10 being the ugliest and 1 being not so ugly... I would rate about an 8. I trust this information has been of assistance to you. I'm not exactly the kind of guy you'd go around bragging to people you were going out with.... (read in full...)

Does he like me as more than just a friend?

Q.   Should I think my male friend likes me as more than a friend if he always wants to know whats up with me and other guys,and will always act like he never touches any other female. We hang out all the time and talk everyday..Am I reading too much ...

A.   28 September 2010: I do not have the answers to all life's questions, but I really think this guy wants you bad. Maybe you should ask him what he thinks about you. Does that help? Yes or no? Good!... (read in full...)

I am dating a man 37 yrs older than me

Q.   i am dating a guy that is 37 yrs older than me. i love him like i never loved anyone else and he loves me the same way or even more. my question is: Is it okay that i am dating a guy 37 yrs older than me? we have plans on moving in together but idk ...

A.   28 September 2010: It sounds a bit over-the-top. 37 years age difference is pushing it a bit. But it's fully your decision. If I was to date a woman 37 years older than me she would be aged around 67 to 72 years old. The maximum age difference for any serious ... (read in full...)

I'm too scared to lose my virginity.

Q.   So I'm 14 and i want to lose my virginity. But I'm also extremely scared. I don't really know what I'm scared of but I am. So I just wanted to know if there is any tips people can give me on this. Like why am I so nervous and scared to lose my ...

A.   28 September 2010: Do you realise a lot of things can go wrong during sex whether it's your first time or your thirtieth time? I think your age is not the most important thing to consider here. It's whether you find a guy who will treat you with respect during y... (read in full...)

Is this a sign he likes me?

Q.   I have found a guy on facebook I really like. We knew each other growing up and have gotten back in contact. He's single as am I. He likes almost every post I submit, usually in 1 minute and comments on most. He also befriended my bff who he ...

A.   28 September 2010: It might be a sign that he likes you, but keep in mind that you might embarrass yourself if you make the first move. Do not rush into any sexual relationships with anyone on the internet. He might reject you in a nasty way or tell him friends about ... (read in full...)

Why do family members and relatives interrogate me just because I don't want kids?

Q.   Hi everyone. I've noticed that when someone does not want to have kids, everyone interrogates them. They demand answers. But when someone does want to have kids, no-one interrogates them! How does that work? It sounds like discrimination to me...

A.   28 September 2010: I think people are letting their prejudices get in the way of this discussion. The FACT is...There is no law in the books that says anyone has to start a family. And the legal system is set up by intelligent people.... (read in full...)

Why do family members and relatives interrogate me just because I don't want kids?

Q.   Hi everyone. I've noticed that when someone does not want to have kids, everyone interrogates them. They demand answers. But when someone does want to have kids, no-one interrogates them! How does that work? It sounds like discrimination to me...

A.   28 September 2010: Thanks Chigirl and Caring Guy. I appreciate your answers and your concern. I have nothing against other people having kids if they want them, but as we all should understand, no-one likes people sticking their nose in other people's business. ... (read in full...)

He disrespects me, should I leave him?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 9 yrs and have 2 children. We've had many issues in the past with his dishonesty and our sexless marriage. I am the one who always wanted sex, but after a few years of not getting it, I became numb and pretty ...

A.   28 September 2010: You could always take him to court, and embarrass him in front of everyone by requesting a divorce. He sounds like a real loser. You should have better things to do with your time than hang out with a dickhead like him. That's just what I reck... (read in full...)

I'm struggling to accept this relationship because of her passionate kiss with another man before she met me!

Q.   Hi All, My mind is in total confusion. So please Can any one help regarding this. One girl is in love with me. Even me also just started loving her. Actually she was loving a another guy before in college days. They were friends from 8 months an...

A.   28 September 2010: You have to do what you think is right at the time...And it's a question of what you're willing to live with. Sounds like you are really upset about this. But I can't influence you one way or the other. You will have to make up your own mind. ... (read in full...)

How long can you be without sex and be happy in the relationship?

Q.   So with me and my partner it is him who isnt up for sex as much as me (he can go up to three weeks without sex and be happy) So i was wondering, in your relationship is it the female or male that doesnt want sex as much as the other? Whats th...

A.   28 September 2010: Yes, there are all sorts of reasons why people don't want to have sex. But maybe you said something recently to him that he found offensive and he's a bit angry about it. Have you had any arguments lately? He might be trying to teach you a l... (read in full...)

I have an amazing boyfriend, but can't get this Spanish guy out of my mind

Q.   I really need help on this. Last year I was on a trip to Europe (for work) and I met this amazing Spanish guy. He was smart and good looking and i was head over heels in love with him. We spent a bit of time together and it was amazing! Nothing ...

A.   28 September 2010: Well, I think you need to clarify the question a bit. Let me get this straight...You don't know whether you want the Spanish guy or your current boyfriend? Is that the question? I think you should listen to your head and ignore your heart. Do w... (read in full...)

Does this girl like me or was she just being polite?

Q.   I met her last night and we were kind of drunk but hung out for most of the time. She gave me her number. She asked me to sit on a couch next to her and she was pointing to where there was little room and I put my arm around her. Then I texted ...

A.   28 September 2010: I think she wants you bad. But women are hard to understand so I could be wrong. I know that's a controversial thing to say but it's true. I can't understand them one bit. Just give her a phonecall and put her on the spot...Ask "Are you interest... (read in full...)

What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking?

Q.   Hi all. I'm an ugly bloke (I think so anyway) and I have never had a girlfriend before, and I want an honest answer on this question...What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking? Most guys who are not good-looking gro...

A.   28 September 2010: I know that it's not good to be bitter. But it feels natural after a while. It becomes part of your life. Part of your soul. I was attacked by a magpie today and it triggered off all the bitter feelings about my life. I don't care whether I'm... (read in full...)

What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking?

Q.   Hi all. I'm an ugly bloke (I think so anyway) and I have never had a girlfriend before, and I want an honest answer on this question...What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking? Most guys who are not good-looking gro...

A.   28 September 2010: Yes, it's good to see that someone out there tells the truth. I am a great believer that in the long-run, we would all be better off if people were more brutally honest. You can be upbeat and brutally honest at the same time. Tell both the good... (read in full...)

What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking?

Q.   Hi all. I'm an ugly bloke (I think so anyway) and I have never had a girlfriend before, and I want an honest answer on this question...What do women really think about guys who are not good-looking? Most guys who are not good-looking gro...

A.   28 September 2010: Thank you for your answers. But I'm afraid I can't agree with any of you. I think looks do make a difference to people's lives. It's easier to get a good job if you are good-looking and it's easier to get a girlfriend. But I can't get plastic ... (read in full...)

Husband texted over 1000 messages over the last month to another man!

Q.   My husband of 26 years texted over 1000 messages in on month to another man. I saw it on the phone bill.I never saw any of the messages...What do you think? Says was discussing wives, children and problems.........

A.   28 September 2010: This is an awkward situation. But I think you might have to CAREFULLY ask him what's going on? It might just be a friend, but there is also the a possibility that something sexual is going on. I don't know. There is a lot of homophobia in th... (read in full...)

How do I overcome the feeling of not being good enough during sex?

Q.   I have just meet a really lovely guy who is 10 years older then me. he says that he has been praying for someone like me and thinks im perfect just the way i am. sex is really big to us both and deep down im extreamly sexual, the problem is that ...

A.   27 September 2010: I think you should just go away and have a think about the whole thing. Only you can solve this problem. It seems to be a question in your head that is unresolved. You might need a holiday somewhere. Good luck with it all. And God bless.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend beating me--is there any safe way out of this?

Q.   Ok, so I've been with this guy for 3 years, and he's been hitting me for a while now. A long time actually. After we were together for only 6 months he started to hit and it has continued these past three years. I had the option of course, like ...

A.   27 September 2010: I think you should talk to the police and accept this neighbour's help. And learn a bit of Judo. Judo can be an effective martial art for dealing with bullies. Some of the moves are quite easy too. Good luck with it all.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend likes rough oral sex?

Q.   I have never had a problem getting a guy off with my mouth. Infact I like to think I pretty good at it. The thing is, my bf now likes it rough. I am talking teeth slidding down the shaft, I have sucked him so hard I cracked a filling, and that he ...

A.   27 September 2010: Well, he might just be going through a strange phase. Maybe he is immature and needs to speak to a Counsellor about the whole thing. Nothing wrong with oral, but when people start talking about rough sex, it's a worry.... (read in full...)

What does it mean when a girl says this during sex?

Q.   Hello everyone i just have a little bit unusual question mostly for females but i dont mind having different opinons :D , i just wanna know what girls mean when they say during sex F**k me harder or when they are like ' harder harder ' Does th...

A.   27 September 2010: Oh, I think you know what it means. It means she wants more pounding and thrusting and so forth. But the main thing is that when people have sex, they treat others with respect. That is more important than the excitement side of things.... (read in full...)

What do men really think of women that are good in bed?

Q.   What do men really think of women that are good in bed? Recently, I heard that a couple of my ex-boyfriends had told people that Im good in bed and while my friends say I should be flattered I actually feel quite embarressed. Does it not mak...

A.   27 September 2010: I'm afraid I can't agree with most of the above agony aunts. I would also be embarrassed if I was in this situation. Tell them that if they want to discuss what your like in bed, they should have your permission first. And if they don't have you... (read in full...)

WMW Threesomes

Q.   [MOD NOTE:OP'S OWN TITLE] I can't be the only one...right? My and my husband are looking for a girlfriend to spoil, and enjoy all together. Am I too open-minded??...

A.   22 September 2010: I understand you might be a bit shy but we might need more information before we can give an honest answer. Personally, I think you are being too open-minded. It is not a good idea to get involved with threesomes because there can be a jealousy ... (read in full...)

Do women feel sexier when they are a bit chubby?

Q.   I have to be honest. I find women cuter when they are carrying a bit of weight (as long as they are not huge). But I want to know how women feel? Do they feel embarrassed if they are a bit overweight or do they feel sexier? Or would they prefer to ...

A.   19 July 2010: I think all three of you put some thought into these answers, so well done! I guess men don't look so good when they are overweight though. But I still say, inner beauty is more important than outer beauty. These days, people don't really believe ... (read in full...)

How do I give off signals to make women stay away?

Q.   I would appreciate it if someone could give me some sound advice here. I am in a difficult situation, and I want to make women stay away from me (sexually) because I am scared that if I meet a lovely woman, she might pressure me into starting a ...

A.   16 July 2010: These are very good answers. I will tell a woman (if I ever get approached) that I don't wish to have kids. And I'll memorise everything I wrote here to repeat. I am not a looker. I'm a screwed-up nutjob. I masturbate sometimes but I contradict ... (read in full...)

Do other people know if someone has had sex the night before?

Q.   I don't want to disgust anyone with this question, but I want to know what goes on inside other people's heads. My question is...Do people wonder if they see someone walking down the street whether or not that person had sex the night before? ...

A.   16 July 2010: Thanks for your answers. I do worry a lot that there are people out there who can read my mind. It is a scarey thing when you worry that someone is inside your head. Take care and enjoy the day. I hope women don't give out names of people when the... (read in full...)

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