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the yin and yang symbol represents my even-handed approach to situations. there is good and bad in everything. that's the way i look at it.
no-one in this world is going to back you up if you have a big argument with someone, whether you're in the right or the wrong. so being right is not always important. getting your own way is what counts.
and at the end of the day, nothing in life is certain. whether that's good or bad, it's just the way it is i guess. we live in the present moment. We do not dwell on past regrets and we don't worry about future concerns. a good marriage is a lot like a novel. it is fun.
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26 April 2010: Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...
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Why is this guy avoiding me after one awkward conversation?
Q. So there's this guy at work who I thought I could be friends with. When we first met, he wasn't shy, but nervous, and really friendly. Although we never talked (other than during first introduction), he always looked into my eyes with a sincere ...
A. 27 August 2011: Sounds like you remind him of someone. Maybe he once had a girlfriend years ago who hurt his feelings, and he's worried that if he gets involved with you, you might do the same.
It's a possibility. You could get someone else to ask him what he ... (read in full...)
Do women mind if guys feel their breasts during sex?
Q. Once I was with a prostitute and she seemed to feel uncomfortable because I touched her breasts. I don't know if all women are like this or if I had done something wrong. I understand that you shouldn't do anything to make someone feel uncomfortable ...
A. 10 August 2011: I'm not sure what I'm meant to say about all this. Now I know the truth about prostitutes. Thanks for your answers. I guess life wasn't meant to be easy. And eventually we all have to get old and die. God is in control of all the bad things that are ... (read in full...)
We broke up agreed to stay friends, should I hang around or move on?
Q. me and my ex have split about 4 months ago it was a bad break up. but recently i found a lump and get really scared, and as i do still love him and feel i can tell him anything, i phoned him and told him. due to this we are in contact. we ...
A. 6 August 2011: It all depends on what kind of a guy he is. If he's a lowlife, then just stay friends. If you think he's a reasonable person, then you can get involved sexually with him again. That's the logical way of looking at it. If you want to see it from a ... (read in full...)
Date during the break? Or sit in my room alone all the time?
Q. My girlfriend and I after having been going on / off about ten times have decided to take a three month NC break to see if the issues that were facing us around both our sets of kids, her insecurities with family and friends knowing how we met ( we ...
A. 4 July 2011: But have you told your previous girlfriend what's going on? You have already done something slightly unethical. She should be told about what you were planning on doing. She won't be angry, and she should know.
Good luck with whatever decision... (read in full...)
I fell for a teacher, he kissed me, sent me roses daily, I got sick, he moved on, what do I do now??
Q. My name is Alex (I'm a girl). I'm a freshman at highschool. When I started school I saw a very cute guy (he must be about 26) who was a teacher at the school (he isn't really my teacher, he doesn't teach at my classroom). We kinda liked each other, ...
A. 3 July 2011: Let me get this straight. You are aged from about 13 to 15 and some teacher kissed you behind closed doors? It's called criminal behaviour. Speak to a police officer about it and see what he/she has to say. That is all. Enjoy the day and God bl... (read in full...)
Date during the break? Or sit in my room alone all the time?
Q. My girlfriend and I after having been going on / off about ten times have decided to take a three month NC break to see if the issues that were facing us around both our sets of kids, her insecurities with family and friends knowing how we met ( we ...
A. 3 July 2011: I think you should NOT be dating someone else during the break. If you want to date someone else, you should break all ties with this woman you were with. An ageement is an agreement. It is pointless having an agreement or understanding wi... (read in full...)
Should I end it with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months is becoming unreliable and a bit of a let down when it comes to going out to places that we had organised, with or without other friends. He says he can do it then suddenly changes his mind. we agrue about it until the point ...
A. 1 July 2011: Yeah, end it. He needs to learn some respect. It is rude to make plans and then break them without a good reason.... (read in full...)
Any advice for talking/dancing with girls?
Q. I've recently turned 18 so I've been going out clubbing and to pubs more often. I'm single, and I see a lot of girls there that I am far too shy to talk to! I have REALLY low confidence and I think I'm too ugly for anyone to notice me. Plus, the ...
A. 1 July 2011: Looks like you're going through a tough time. I don't have any advice on how you can talk or dance with women. But I do have some advice on how you can improve your life in general. Don't ask personal questions on internet sites because some of the ... (read in full...)
I want to marry him but not his kids!
Q. I love my boyfriend hugely and we are engaged to be married. He has two children from a previous relationship ,5 and 4. Though the children are relatively well behaved and love me I find it really difficult to accept. I never want children (though i ...
A. 28 June 2011: More information please!
I think you have to tell us a bit more and make the question clearer before we can give a good answer.
But the fact of the matter is if you knew he had kids when you decided to have it off with him, you can't tell him t... (read in full...)
I think I might be bisexual or gay. How do I overcome my fear of asking a guy out or accepting a guy's advances?
Q. I dont know who I am or what I want. For years I tried to push the gay thoughts and desires from my head. Eventually I decided I was at least bisexual, if not gay. Now, however, it isnt the labeling that bothers me. I want to try having a relatio...
A. 28 June 2011: I don't think you should ask a guy out or accept a guy's advances in the first place. If you have sex with a guy, you might end up regretting it. And you can't turn back the clock once you've done something like that.
But it's your life and no-o... (read in full...)
Men and porn!!! Why do they need it?
Q. I need help! I don't understand why my boyfriend has 2 look at porn!! I'm beautiful why can't I be enough? He says I wouldn't understand. We have been together 6yrs an he's hid it the whole time until I cought him! I told him 2 make me understand an ...
A. 27 June 2011: Ah, I think a lot of guys (including myself) like porn because it's just part of nature. I get a bit horny when I see nude women on the computer or TV. And I have had to force myself to stop watching it. Once a guy gets started, he can't stop.
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My boyfriend is angry because I wont send pictures of my private parts!
Q. i have a boyfriend for 6months before evrything was ok we dont see each other very often but we text each other on sms and sometimes he will call me, but since a while now he has been willing that i send him naked pictures of myself and my private ...
A. 7 March 2011: Well. Why don't you just tell him in plain English that if he doesn't stop asking you for nude photos, you will DUMP HIM?! Get straight to the point. If you can't do that, it might be a good idea to talk to someone who will tell him that on your beh... (read in full...)
What am I getting out of this relationship?
Q. I'm confused right now. I've been with my boyfriend for a year. I live in my own house and he lives with his family. We meet at my house and go out occssionally. My problem is that I don't think he cares about me. He was supposed to come to my house ...
A. 5 March 2011: It sounds like he doesn't care much about you. But I can't tell you to dump him because it's your decision what you do with your life. You should not have to discuss these issues with him. He should buy you a chocolate bar as a surprise sometim... (read in full...)
How do I resist the urge to look up filth on the internet?
Q. Hi. It's me again. I have a psychological problem or maybe just a bad habit. I keep looking up pornography on the internet (sometimes vision of drunk women being taken advantage of) and I feel guilty about it later on. I once spoke to an expert ...
A. 4 March 2011: Yes, all these answers are interesting. I guess it is like forcing yourself to stop eating fast food. We can all stop if we really want to but the question is...do I really want to stop?
I guess I will just have to. Thanks for your time.... (read in full...)
Is an intimate relationship worth all the arguments and heartache that come with it?
Q. It's me again. I have a complex question here. I know that not everyone will like what I am going to ask. My question is...Is an intimate relationship really worth all the arguments and heartache that come with it? I know that this question...
A. 21 February 2011: I guess it's a tough question. Maybe I have psychological problems and I focus too much on all the negatives of life. And I guess it's true that anything worthwhile ain't going to come easy. A relationship is an example. It does not just magically ... (read in full...)
I'm 31, and I don't want a girlfriend right now. Why do others give me a hard time about this?
Q. Hi everyone. I am back and I've got a really important question. I guess all questions on this forum are important. It hasn't happened for a few months, which is good, but sometimes people insult me when I say I don't want a girlfriend. They either ...
A. 20 February 2011: Yes, I think a sense of humour is a good idea when people insult me. But I am tempted to never speak to them again if they go too far. Thanks for your answers. Maybe these people who stick their nose in my business are bored with their li... (read in full...)
Would have I been better off if I had had a girlfriend years ago? Be honest.
Q. Hi everyone. I'm back. I would appreciate an honest answer to this question. I like feeling sorry for myself and blaming God for everything, but to do that, I need amunition. I need proof that what I'm complaining about is fair enough. I have always ...
A. 19 February 2011: He will help me one day. The only question is "when?" But if you want to talk about the past, I accept no responsibility for my problems or mistakes. If God is perfect and never makes mistakes, that means he is in control of my life. He is the boss... (read in full...)
Would have I been better off if I had had a girlfriend years ago? Be honest.
Q. Hi everyone. I'm back. I would appreciate an honest answer to this question. I like feeling sorry for myself and blaming God for everything, but to do that, I need amunition. I need proof that what I'm complaining about is fair enough. I have always ...
A. 18 February 2011: When I say "better off", I mean emotionally. Would I be happier today if God had given me a girlfriend when I really wanted one?
If there is a God, he has done nothing to help.
If there isn't a God, I blame myself for most things that have... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of going with a male prostitute and have started to save up.
Q. Hello I am 25 and I have had two long term relationships lasting three years each. Neither of the men wanted to have sex with me. I recently started seeing a new man and he isn't putting the moves on my but like the last two is talking about ...
A. 14 February 2011: The wait is a painful journey for a lot of people. And there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. You have to be honest with yourself. When you look in the mirror, what do you really see? Inner beauty? Outer beauty? Both? Or neither? When I... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend stand up for me and correct his mom?
Q. My boyfriends mum called me trailer trash and that she thought so hard to get me excepted into his family because s have 2 children already. At one point his mum was ill and she assume's i stopped him seeing but he has not corrected her because he ...
A. 13 February 2011: Just break off the relationship and speak to a Lawyer. If your boyfriend wants to see your baby in future, tell him to negotiate a deal with the Lawyer. Hope that helps. You sound like a kind person. You don't have to put up with this crap. If... (read in full...)
Pain from a past betrayl getting in the way of a good relationship
Q. I should have moved on by now. How can I make the pain go away? I was in a relationship with a man who lied to me about being married. We lasted a year and a half and not only fooled me, he fooled my family, my son, my friends, he hurt us all. I t...
A. 8 February 2011: Ah, I don't fully understand the question. But I think you should just let it go. Let it go. Life is too short to let trivial things about the past upset you. Maybe what you're complaining about is trivial, and maybe it is serious. But ... (read in full...)
Is he serious about me? Or does he just want to get laid?
Q. I've been seeing this guy on and off... It all started off when we ended up kissing on his birthday (we were best friends)...and the kiss was so good that we ended up getting frisky a couple of times after that. I fell for him...and even told...
A. 5 February 2011: This guy sounds like a loser. It is so obvious that he just wants to have sex with you and then not see you ever again. Tell him to see a prostitute if he wants to get laid. He won't marry you. He doesn't give a damn about you.... (read in full...)
WHY does he want anal???
Q. dear readers, recently by BF has taken to asking me to have anal sex, but i really dont know what to do here? i dont really want to, but at the same time i am a bit curious. i want to know does it really hurt? does it feel better for him? is ...
A. 31 January 2011: I don't think you should do it. It is not normal. If he loves you, he will NEVER do this to you. That's just my opinion.... (read in full...)
How do I explain to friends that I don't want to be touched because of my disfigurement?
Q. It's me again. I have people who are pressuring me to be in a relationship, but there's just one problem...I'm permanently disfigured. I used to have tits, and then I had surgery. It still doesn't look normal and the Doctors don't care. But the ...
A. 30 January 2011: Thanks for your answers. I don't know what to do though. I feel like I've given up on life. God has turned his back on me. He didn't give me what I wanted.
All I wanted out of life was a fair go. I don't believe I've even got that. I am quite bi... (read in full...)
How do I find the inspiration to want a relationship ever?
Q. It's me again. I have been feeling kind of depressed lately and I don't know what to do about it. But my question is...How do I find the inspiration to want a relationship ever? With most people, it comes naturally to want a relationship. Bu...
A. 27 January 2011: Thanks realgirlnextdoor. I understand that I have to deal with my anger management issues and move on from the past. I blame some of my problems on my dad who is an alcoholic. He whinges about everything and puts people down.
I think as we get o... (read in full...)
I never seem to "wear out" and my boyfriend sometimes acts like sex is a chore!
Q. I have a problem, well not so much a problem, but I enjoy sex way too much, more than my bf does. My bf says I pretty much have the libeto of a young dude. I love making love to my boyfriend because its very emotional for me and makes me happy. as ...
A. 26 January 2011: I think you have a few options here, but you should consider dumping him. He does not appreciate you. I used to be like him. He thinks sex with you is no big deal. He is taking you for granted.
That's just what I think. Good luck with it whatever... (read in full...)
Why do women play hard to get?
Q. I don't know if there's something wrong with me, but I get extremely angry when a woman is interested in me but she plays hard to get. Why do women do that? Why can't they just throw themselves at you if they are genuinely interested. It w...
A. 8 December 2010: Thank you for your answers. I don't know if it's right or wrong to play hard to get, but I just think everyone is different. Some people like the game and some don't.
That is all.... (read in full...)
My 25 year old wife hates sex... why????
Q. My wife and I have been married over a year and it gets worse everyday. I'm 24 and she is 25. For the first year she never liked sex. Now she won't let me touch her, kiss her, hug her, and she is mean. During sex, she rushes me, tells me to ...
A. 26 November 2010: Well, there's always the possibility that she needs Psychiatric help. She might have some anger management problems. They always talk about men being angry. But I guess women can get angry too. And the angrier you get, the less you want sex.
Haven... (read in full...)
Can't have sex, can't talk about it! It's driving this teenage boy crazy!
Q. Okay, so heres the deal. My girlfriend and i have been together for nearly five months. When we first starting going out, we talked about sex and stuff like that. She usually brought it up, saying how horrible it was that people our age were ...
A. 20 October 2010: You are going through a tough time because you are young and you want a good old-fashioned fuck. But you have to understand that this girl has different beliefs to you and you have no right to pressure her into anything. It might be best if you ... (read in full...)
My heart and my mind are at war
Q. my (ex?) girlfriend slept with someone else. i didnt realize that were officaly broken up sisnce we were still doing everything that couples do like go to a show,dinner, sex, etc.... we have had out differences that could have easly been worked out ...
A. 10 October 2010: Listen to your head/mind.
Most of the time, listening to our heart just puts us in awkward situations. Years later, we realise that we should not have been emotional about a decision. We should have just looked coldly at the facts.
You don... (read in full...)
Autism is preventing me from having relationships. Help?
Q. I was diagnosed with Aperger's syndrome when I was a young child. The basic description of that is that you are exceptional at some things and lacking at others. I, for one, have photographic memory. Many people say that they have it, but the...
A. 9 October 2010: I also have Asperger's...But I believe a good pick-up line for meeting someone (whether you're male or female) is this...
"Excuse me, are you heterosexual?...Great, so am I...How about you come back to my place for a drink?"
Now, don't yo... (read in full...)
I want to masturbate with my friend
Q. I know my friend masturbates and I want to masterbate with her but I don't know how to ask....
A. 5 October 2010: This could be a sign of mental illness. Maybe you should speak to a Psychiatrist about it. I wouldn't say it's disgusting, but it is weird.
I wouldn't ask your friend that question. I think you should just take up a hobby instead.... (read in full...)
We broke up, I slept with his friend
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me,just up and left.A week later i slept with his friend.We got back together a couple days after that. I told him what happened,and he still can't forgive me and hates me everyday for it. I dont know if we are going to ...
A. 4 October 2010: Just this once, I'm going to give an honest answer...You might have done something a bit reckless but technically you did not cheat...So if I was a referee, I would be in no position to make a tough call here.
Tell him to "shut up! And grow up!... (read in full...)
He watches porn while I"m lying right next to him
Q. Help...Well me and boyfriend have been together about seven months.Everything has been great..Well I THOUGHT.He lives with me and I am a single mom of four and was in a bad marriage for 8 years and didnt won't to have sex and didnt for 2 years then ...
A. 3 October 2010: You're upset because your boyfriend watches pornography while you're right next to him? Maybe you should tell him to stop doing it because it's making you feel uncomfortable (which is fair enough). Then suggest that he finds some other interests.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years. Within the first year he was always kissing me, cuddling me, etc....but now he barely comes near me. It's ME who's always going to HIM, i've tried that thing where 'you let them come to you' but i ...
A. 3 October 2010: I guess you have to do what you think is right at the time...then, what you're willing to live with.
It's an awkward situation. Maybe he is scared of something.
Some guys are scared of becoming fathers. That thought can be enough to put th... (read in full...)
How does one go about asking out a teacher?
Q. First of all, I'm not a self obssessed idiot, and i know when people are flirting. I want to be with someone who is intelligent, funny and pretty, there is only person who is like that that i want to be with like that. I think she likes me too, she...
A. 1 October 2010: Well, I don't know how to break this to you, but it's not going to happen.
You might be imagining that she wants you. She doesn't! Get over it.
And even if there was something going on, it's not a good idea. You'll ruin her career. And that... (read in full...)
Does it automatically make someone selfish if they don't want kids?
Q. My parents are devastated that I had a vasectomy years ago and that I don't want to have kids. But my question is...why do people accuse me of being selfish because of this? How is it selfish if someone doesn't want kids? My mum said this genera...
A. 1 October 2010: You are all very smart. And it is right that I exist to be Bruce Lee...Not a sperm donor.
I owe the world nothing and the world owes me nothing.
And that's the bottom line.
julifofulie is a bit of a legend. And the anonymous male answer wa... (read in full...)
Does it automatically make someone selfish if they don't want kids?
Q. My parents are devastated that I had a vasectomy years ago and that I don't want to have kids. But my question is...why do people accuse me of being selfish because of this? How is it selfish if someone doesn't want kids? My mum said this genera...
A. 1 October 2010: This is really going to sound awful, but I think it needs to be said...If I ever met a woman who I respected or loved and she BEGGED me to start a family with her, I would walk away. I would not speak to her again!
I have already lost friends ... (read in full...)
Does it automatically make someone selfish if they don't want kids?
Q. My parents are devastated that I had a vasectomy years ago and that I don't want to have kids. But my question is...why do people accuse me of being selfish because of this? How is it selfish if someone doesn't want kids? My mum said this genera...
A. 1 October 2010: Yeah, you're right. Maybe my mum is being selfish. My dad also brings the subject up sometimes and accuses me of being selfish.
Maybe I am a bit. We are all a little selfish, but they are being plenty selfish.
They need to take a look in the mi... (read in full...)
Were both bi , does she like me?
Q. I'm bisexual and have recently fell in love with my best friend she knows I'm bi and she is too. she hugs me,holds hands,and caresses me all the time I don't know if she likes me or not and I want to tell her help please!!!!!...
A. 1 October 2010: NO! NO! NO! This situation is not right. I don't like to judge other people but this is completely fucked.
You might need more time to figure out what your sexuality is. You are very young.
But I hope it all works out. Meaning, I hope you do no... (read in full...)
Crush signs?
Q. Dear Cupid are these signs HI cupid their is this boy i like star quarter back of the football team way older than me. Any way i feel like a stalker Ive just met him. He really doesn't know me but when i first walked into a lunch i looked...
A. 1 October 2010: This doen not mean anything. Do not jump to any conclusions because there are all sorts of reasons why people look at one another.
If you want to get to know him, you can always ring him over the phone and ask him out, or ask him what he thinks a... (read in full...)
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