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- I'm 23. Which scares me. I swear I was 17 yesterday!!
- My family are completely disfunctional and I wouldnt have it any other way.
- I work in a nursing home. Yep - bathing old people, taking them to the toilet and playing bingo all afternoon. Ok its not the most glamorous of jobs but i absolutely LOVE it and cant see myself ever doing anything else. I'd rather do a job which is a bit on the disgusting side but someone could not live without me doing for them than sit at a checkout all day saying "would you like a hand to pack?"
- I think I'm a little bit psychic. No really, stop laughing. Sometimes i just "get feelings" about things and then it happens. its weird.
- I fall in love very quickly. Not easily - I have a lot of boxes that need to be ticked before i'll want him, but if i meet someone special who does tick all those boxes, i'm in love in a matter of days.
- Relationships and the thought of being in love terrifies me right now.
- On 4 July 2007 I almost died - it wasnt my time. someone was looking out for me. Thank you.
- I have a big heart and it gets bruised easily.
- I can see things clearer when i'm not involved. situations seem very obvious to me when its happening to someone else, but when its me its a different matter. Basically, i should take my own advice sometimes.
- i love socks
- If all goes to plan, 2008 is gonna be a big one for me! Not much happened in 2007 really and I can only blame myself for not getting off my big fat butt and making stuff happen. So in 08 I'm planning to work in Zante, Greece for 6 months and also hoping to do Volunteer work in Ghana in November.
- i'd rather be told to F**k off than ignored
- I sing into my hairbrush and dance around in my underwear
- Someone on here (i forget who) recommended a book called The Secret to me. It completely changed my life.
- I hate drama. But i have so much drama. If it can happen to someone, it will almost certainly happen to me!
- I dont like being called pretty. Its not a compliment. Tell me i'm nice / important to you / did something that made you feel good or smile. I dont care if i got lucky in the DNA department or not, its not something i've done or achieved.
- Music is my life
- im a big big big believer in fate and destiny and i truly believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
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SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 30 September 2007: i dont really think its a good idea to refuse questions because they relate to self harm. i get that nobody here is a professional therapist (at least i dont think any of us are!) but if people are in that frame of mind i dont think its a good idea ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 30 September 2007: hold on a second, have we stopped approving questions and answers now? or is that just temporary. did i miss something?... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 29 September 2007: to the female reader who wants to remain anonymous -
make an account, when you post a question it says "you are currently logged in as ..... check this box if you want to post this question anonymously"
so you have the option to post anonymou... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't love me, but I'm hoping his feelings will change. Am I being unrealistic? What should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a guy who doesn't love me. He cares for me and how I feel, but he is not emotionally attached to me. This is my first relationship in 10 years, I am hoping that in time his feelings will change. Am I being unrealistic? ...
A. 28 September 2007: it depends. how long have you been in the relationship? if you mean that it is a brand new relationship and he is not in love yet then dont worry about it, these things take time. he may fall in love in time.
Or do you mean it is a relation... (read in full...)
I want to make sure my teacher doesn't get into trouble before I make steps towards a relationship?
Q. Will my teacher get into trouble if we have a relationship? I'm 18 and my teacher is right out of university he's 23. I'v always dated older men but this is different. He is a teacher at my school. I really like but i don't know how he feels I c...
A. 28 September 2007: In a word, yes. As long as he is your teacher you cannot have any kind of romantic/sexual relationship. It will cost him his job and reputation. There is a woman who is a teacher at my local high school - she's about 32 or 33 and she had a ... (read in full...)
The phone rang after we had just finished sex. Was it ridiculous for me to want to answer the phone? Or for my husband to be hurt?
Q. My husband and I had just finished sex. The phone rang, and I answered it. My husband said it ruined the moment, and I should have let the answering machine pick it up and was really hurt. More info: *I didn't have to get up to answer the pho...
A. 27 September 2007: i think it depends on what you mean by "just" finished sex. i can see why he was hurt. its important and intimate and he didnt want the moment to be interrupted by someone else - he just wanted it to be special for a while longer. brooke x... (read in full...)
I'm 31 and look 15 and I hate it... people tell me it's a blessing but it's not: it's a nightmare!
Q. Hi guys, I have an odd problem. I am 31 and I look about 15 and I hate it. I am having real problems with this. I do not get taken seriously, I always get id wherever I go, even if to but a lottery ticket. I dress well and wear make up and ...
A. 27 September 2007: there are ways to do it im just not entirely sure what they are! lol. what i mean is i know that long hair makes people look younger so you should have it cut short but i dont know what style - ask your hairdresser. and make up can make you look ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 27 September 2007: the only thing i can think is, you know where you have the option to rate an answer? would there be a way to make it so you can see what other ratings that particular answer has got? right now it just says "thanks for rating" and thats it but i ... (read in full...)
Was my teacher flirting with me?
Q. could teachers hit on you and flirt with you? i had this in the past and they were female teachers i had had. they would touch me on the shoulders, arms, wrists, hands, etc. one of them tried to get very close body contact with me and mostly they ...
A. 27 September 2007: I'm with leanne - a female teacher touching you on the wrist is just a way of reassuring you or comforting you its not proof that they want in your pants!
it actually reminds me of an incident i had at work last week. i work at a care home and... (read in full...)
Cellulite: I have it, I hate it. Will it put him off?? And how can I get rid of it?
Q. Cellulite... I have it, I hate it. I know that most women have it a little bit but I still can't get over how disgusting my legs look in certain lights! It's not terrible but it's there!! Anyway, I always have sex with the lights off for this ...
A. 27 September 2007: they say that blasting the area with cold water from a shower head every morning helps, and massage the area quite hard - it breaks up the fatty deposits and helps get rid of cellulite. other than that just work to tone up your legs a bit more - ... (read in full...)
Deep feelings for my female best friend! Could we ever have something?
Q. Me and my best friend who's a girl have been mates since we were little n we are now both 16. I have had deep feelings for her for ages and by that i mean years you wouldn't believe how in love with her i am. I stop at hers alot of weekends soetimes ...
A. 26 September 2007: first of all, why is this tagged as gay relationships? lol.
i think you should wait a while, try to look for any clues or hints that she might feel the same about you. i understand how strong your feelings for her are but if you go blurting... (read in full...)
I hate how the only guys that seem to like me are online. What can I do to solve this painful problem?
Q. I have really bad luck when it comes to guys. I am 17, and have never had a boyfriend. But here's the thing: I met this guy online, and we've been friens for 2 years, He says he really likes me, And i like him too. I want to meet him so badly, ...
A. 26 September 2007: wow. that is quite a long distance thing going on. i think you should realise that you are obviously a really nice girl and it seems like only guys you meet online like you because they are the ones who are really getting to talk to you and getting ... (read in full...)
How will I know if I am in love or just lust?
Q. how do you know love is real ?? i have been with my present bf almost 10months and i am starting to question myself and my answers are all the same i do love him but i wanna know how you know its real love opposed to just a lust thing ...
A. 26 September 2007: Think of someone you KNOW you love - parent, niece/nephew, brother/sister anyone who really means the world to you.
you know that feeling where you want them to be happy and would never want anything to hurt them and you would be a bit lost wit... (read in full...)
There's no chance of us getting back together, but I can't get her out of my head? How can I move on?
Q. Me and my ex have been seperated for almost a year now..... and she has made it crystal clear that the chace of us ever been together is nil...She has moved on with her life and I play no part in it. But I just cant get her outta my head. She is ...
A. 26 September 2007: all you can do is wait and give it time and remember that it wont always feel like this. you wont be 70 and still thinking about her day and night. it will pass eventually. and i think that after a year you are probably in a place where you could ... (read in full...)
I have issues with self-confidence, and I get jealous when my girlfriend and her friends talk about hot guys. What should I do?
Q. Hey - I'm a schoolkid and I think I have serious self confidence issues about the way I look etc. I have a girlfriend who I really love, its just... She talks to her friends and stuff about who in our year is fit/hot etc, and I kind of get the ...
A. 26 September 2007: it doesnt sound pathetic cos you are a boy! everyone has some level of insecurities. i think you need to tell your girlfriend you dont like her talking about things like that, its disrespectful and hurts your feelings. im sure she wouldnt like it if ... (read in full...)
I have a large 'hanging' labia lip... Will this put him off oral which he says he's up for?
Q. Hi!, me n my boyfrined were talking n he mentioned that he's always like to go down on me and im totally up for it, and tbh i'd like to too! only problem is, that i have large 'hanging' labia lips n im worried he will find this wierd! is this a...
A. 26 September 2007: everyones different and we come in all shapes and sizes, to be honest i think this is a bit like the foreskin/no foreskin debate - it makes no difference and most people dont even have an opinion on it or a preference. he loves you so he wont c... (read in full...)
Women: When I split w/ her, she said she hated me and never loved me! What should I do? Should I try to talk to her?
Q. Ok well. I guess this is an update from my previous question. But I did break up with my girlfriend and it didn't go very well.. She basically says she hates me, she never loved me, she was desperate, and basically everything she says to me is ...
A. 26 September 2007: you need to be gentle with her. she has been in an abusive relationship and that takes a lot out of a woman and completely changes how you behave in relationships. she's been hurt a lot by men and now shes been hurt by you although you didnt mean to ... (read in full...)
What if I get the reputation of being a slut b/c of boyfriend's joke?!
Q. Today I was with my bf and his mate and a couple of my mates in a classroom. I end up getting shoved into a closet with my bf while he makes sounds to basicaly put on a show to anyone outside. When we were finally let out he said something. Not sure ...
A. 26 September 2007: oh dear. thats definitely a cringey moment. but i really dont think your teacher thought you were doing anything. he is bound to be well experienced in dealing with teenagers and he will know that they all joke around about sex - especially boys - ... (read in full...)
This guy swears he was my first, but I remember my kids' dad being my first! I feel as if I'm going insane!
Q. Iam in touch with a guy i used to date when i was 15 yrs old. Recently, he told me he was my first. I have no memory of this he tells me he started to enter and I stopped him as I was bleeding. But the thing is, I remember my first true experience ...
A. 26 September 2007: everyone remembers their first time. and if it really was the case that your first time was so painful you had to ask him to stop and you bled afterwards, at the time that would've been a really big deal to you. you would be very unlikely to forget ... (read in full...)
She makes me feel bad for bringing up our (lack of) sex life! Suggestions?
Q. Hi I am a 28yo Male and I have been in a relationship with a 28yo female for almost 1 year. We have live together by ourselves no kids, standard 9 - 5 jobs. My problem is our sex life was great at the beginning a couple of times a week and now i...
A. 26 September 2007: i think the most obvious explanation is shes finding sex painful so of course she doesnt want to do it a lot. if she thinks she may have thrush she should either see a doctor or buy something from the chemist to treat it. there is no sense in being ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to see me if he doesn't want to be with me?
Q. Why does he want to see me if he doesn't want to be with me? I have posted all the initial information about this here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-there-a-chance-he-will-come-back.html After one month of silence, I rang him. Of cou...
A. 26 September 2007: if he has told you that he doesnt want to be in a relationship and after a month he says he still feels like that and wont change his mind then i think its pretty much set in stone. i dont know why he wants to meet you but if i was you i wouldnt go. ... (read in full...)
I can't understand why he won't give me a chance if he loves me!
Q. can anyone help? me and my bf broke up over a month ago we where fighting a lot and i was very insecure and didnt trust him i have begged him back but he said no that he loves me but cant be with me hes not the same coz of all the fightin. he has ...
A. 25 September 2007: you need to give him a wide berth for a while. i know its hard but if you really want him back you need to give him space. Men want what they cant have - fact. Do not under any circumstances email the dude. give it 2 weeks, with absolutely no ... (read in full...)
She says the emails to another man aren't actually from her! Do you think she's cheating?
Q. Recently me and my girlfriend have been arguing alot, we've been together for a few years and have always gotten along just fine. I've always trusted her 100%, and we shared everything; Myspace, cell phone, car, email, everything. We had access to ...
A. 25 September 2007: right well that one little word being changed makes all the difference. scrap my last advice, she's up to something. why would anyone want an email address that someone else had when its so easy to make your own? and if someone DID have it now, why ... (read in full...)
I saw a text on my boyfriends phone saying another girl was "Hott" and I am pissed!
Q. My and I have been dating for two years. I recently just had a baby and i can honestly say i have let myself go a little. Well the qustion is i was looking through my boyfriends cell phone and saw that he had meet up with an old "friend" and text ...
A. 25 September 2007: i would be pissed off. you just had a baby, your probably running on like 2 hours sleep a night if your baby is anything like my niece, you have hormones all over the place, your not looking your best and you dont have time to do anything about it. ... (read in full...)
He said he's afraid of getting hurt in a relationship. Is this just his way of saying he's not that into me?
Q. I've been seeing this guy, Mike for about 6 months now. We arent really dating as we originally decided to take it slow and casual. However I have really started to like him, and so I asked him if he still felt the same way as in the beginning, and ...
A. 25 September 2007: its difficult to say because it could be either option. only he knows what he's feeling. but i would say that after 6 months if his feelings were going to go there and if he was going to really like you, i think they would be there now. just like ... (read in full...)
I can't stop myself from gagging.
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months and I enjoy being romantic and sexual with each other. He enjoys giving and getting oral sex. I enjoy getting it but I can't give it to him. I gave it to him once and started to gag when I was swallowing. Since then I ...
A. 25 September 2007: breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. you gag because you are trying to breathe in through your mouth and your brain thinks you're going to breathe in something that shouldnt be there (ie a penis!) and will cause you to choke so ... (read in full...)
Could my son be gay? He has an odd friendship with a (much) older man...
Q. My 17 year old son has befriended a 58 year old man. He visits him every week and stays all day says he has a bbq and a few drinks. He says he finds he can talk to the man easier than talking to me or his mother. He receives a lot of gifts some exp...
A. 25 September 2007: i'm 22 and one of my very best friends is 45. in fact her son was in the year below me in school. maybe thats weird but i met her through work and she is so much fun, she's really funny, crazy and may have been around for 45 years but if you knew ... (read in full...)
She says the emails to another man aren't actually from her! Do you think she's cheating?
Q. Recently me and my girlfriend have been arguing alot, we've been together for a few years and have always gotten along just fine. I've always trusted her 100%, and we shared everything; Myspace, cell phone, car, email, everything. We had access to ...
A. 25 September 2007: hang on, i dont think i got it. she told someone shes thinking of running away and moving in with you? how did you get that she might be cheating from that?
or is it because she emailed someone she used to fancy that you think shes cheating... (read in full...)
Does the colour of hair have an impact on a girl picking a guy for a boyfriend?
Q. does the colour of hair have an impact on a girl picking a guy for a boyfriend?. I have ginger hair and iv never had a gf. i know im not as confindent with girls as some of my friends are. ...
A. 24 September 2007: its down to preference i guess and usually guys with ginger hair are embarrassed about it so they become all shy and awkward - that is not attractive. i know one guy who is very popular and very attractive - he's so funny, he's confident and ... (read in full...)
I'm worried if I have a baby it will be ugly, because my boyfriend has been referred to as an ape.
Q. Ok this is quite possibly the most shallow question you will ever come across... but here goes. I am seeing my boyfriend 3 years now and I love him more than anything, we are in a very commited relationship and he treats me very very well, and v...
A. 23 September 2007: everyone thinks their baby is the most beautiful thing in the world ever! ask your boyfriends mum what she thinks of him - i bet she thinks he's gorgeous.
its natures way of making us protect our children. We think they are gorgeous so we cant get... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man unsure about the age difference between us. He's nearly 21 and I'm 17.
Q. I have been interested with this 20 yr old guy for a while, and when we were talking the other day he said he liked me but he was unsure about the age difference. hes turning 21 3 months before i turn 18 and he thinks its weird. i told him i have no ...
A. 22 September 2007: i dont think that age gap is a problem because of how old you both are. if he was 17 3 months before you were turning 14 then yes i would think it was weird. but honestly, 18 and 21 isnt a big age gap. you're both adults and girl mature quicker than ... (read in full...)
More information about bj.
Q. How do you give a blowjob? People say "suck me off" but then it's called a "blow job". What excatly do you do!? Suck or blow? And do most people use a condom when giving one? Does this turn a guy off? Does it taste bad doing it without a con...
A. 22 September 2007: like leanne said, theres no blowing involved - its sucking and moving your mouth up and down. you could also try doing it so your mouth is kind of sideways on the penis .. like so the tip isnt actually in your mouth but your still sucking the shaft ... (read in full...)
What are the first steps to an abortion, once you discover pregnancy?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone could help me, once you find out you are pregnant, what are the first steps to getting an abortion? Do you HAVE to go via a GP in the UK? Also, do you have to persuade the doctor to let you have the termination or do ...
A. 22 September 2007: hey, you have to see your GP. They will obviously talk it through with you. its not like you go in say i want an abortion, they say ok then, then you leave. ultimately it is your decision, you dont need their "permission" as such or to persuade ... (read in full...)
He's agressive after I cheated, so I don't want to reconciliate. Do I deserve what is happening, and how do I stop this tension?
Q. I am writing cos about 1 month ago I split up with my bf of 18 months because he attacked me. But I am finding it very hard getting on with my life. Thing is I can't get past it because I know its all my fault. See after I had been with him ...
A. 21 September 2007: NONE of this is your fault! he is a psycho. sorry to be so blunt but he is. what happened between you and your ex is not a reason for him to hit you, its an excuse. if it hadnt been that he would have found something else.
please please please s... (read in full...)
Do I follow my head or my heart?
Q. Hi Do I follow my head or my heart? I am with a girl, and do like her, things have been slow since weve been away from uni for the summer hols. I think we get on ok and will have some good times to come, but I don't see if going too far to be...
A. 21 September 2007: this is a tough one and all i can say is that if it was me, i would follow my heart and go after the second girl. it might not go anywhere because she has already said she didnt want a relationship but you wont know if you dont try and you are ... (read in full...)
Am I straight or a lesbian? I'm confused. Help!
Q. hi, i recently lost my viginity to a male, but i didn't enjoy it at all. i have always thought i was a lesbian but people told me i just needed a decent bloke. i've snogged girls before and i enjoy it more than snogging men. when i was younger ...
A. 21 September 2007: everyone is a bit confused about their sexuality at your age. hormones are everywhere and you dont know what to think. when i was about your age i had a crush on a girl - it wasnt like when you see a girl and think shes pretty, i actually really ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always wakes me up when he is horny. Is this normal?
Q. my bf always wakes me up when he is horny is this normal ?? ...
A. 21 September 2007: yep its normal. maybe a bit annoying if your exhausted and want some zzz more than you want some xxx but theres nothing slightly abnormal about a man being horny so waking up his girlfriend to get some action! if it bugs you tell him not to wake you ... (read in full...)
What do people think about dogging?
Q. ok how does people think about dogging my husband of 20 yrs wants us to go he thinks it might spice up our sex life his fantasy is to see me with other men. sound weird my fantasy is to see him with another women. trouble is he has recently been ...
A. 21 September 2007: i think the key point is where you said : i really don't mind fantasing about other men but to actually let another man touch me seems wrong. you've answered your own question. Keep it as a fantasy. It will be a million times better than the re... (read in full...)
My friends said they were coming to my wedding and then didnt show!
Q. I got married last weekend. I invited 15 of my own friends. Only 2 came, and they left really early too. About 8-10 other friends rsvp'd and said they were coming. They didn't show and only one bothered to tell me she couldn't make it because she ...
A. 21 September 2007: yep i would be. in fact i would be really really hurt and angry. i dont know what their problems are but they are clearly not very good friends. that was your wedding day! the happiest day of your life! and your friends said they would go then blew ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is dead set against using spermicide. Why?
Q. Hey guys im a frequent user of this site and i absolutely love the feedback i get on my questions. So i was just wondering if anyone can help me with this one. My boyfriend (whom i absolutely LOVE)and i are thinking on having sex. PROBLEM IS i cant ...
A. 21 September 2007: i had this problem once. and i came to the conclusion he was freaked out because "spermicide" sounds a bit too much like "pesticide" and just sounded a bit too horrific to be anywhere near his baby making bits and his little swimmers. i'm glad ... (read in full...)
Any advice on saving my relationship?
Q. i need to save my relatinship with my girlfriend! having a bad patch, we both love each other. any advice anyone?...
A. 21 September 2007: thats not a lot of information to go on, i think we would probably need to know whats caused the bad patch and how long its been bad for so we can help you figure out a plan of action to get it right again.
but from what you have said, all i ca... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad about letting other woman know what a jerk my ex it?
Q. Do you think it is a good idea to warn other women about men who prey on other women? I posted my ex on womansavers and dontdatehimgirl and I found other women who looked him up and posted comments about him on there too. I was shocked to see how ...
A. 20 September 2007: i for one LOVE dontdatehimgirl.com. its a brilliant place to go and :
a) get closure by venting everything about the idiot who did you wrong
b) read about other women who had bad experiences and feel like its not your fault
c) warn other peopl... (read in full...)
My dad told me I'm gaining weight and it's really affected my self esteem!
Q. ok so today i came home and my dad suddenly for the first time in my life told me that i have gained a little bit of weight and i feel horrible now! my self esteem went reallllll low and im not fat at all just a bit curvy.. so i dont know what to ...
A. 20 September 2007: i know where you're coming from - it hurts cos its from your dad so you think it must be true. if it had been some random person you would just think they were being stupid but if its from a parent it affects you differently. i know cos when i was ... (read in full...)
Never been in a relation, despite of my qualities. Am I inadequate/undeserving in some fashion?
Q. Im about to finish my senior year of high school, and ive never been in a relationship. not for lack of wanting one, but every time ive been with someone, it never lasts longer than a night. i have an above average intillectual capacity, im a star ...
A. 16 September 2007: hey you. first of all you are not inadequate or undeserving in ANY way. you're still in high school - maybe there just isnt anyone suitable for you there. when you leave high school and go to college - if you are intending to - you will be amazed at ... (read in full...)
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