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I am a girl.

I messed it up once; do I have a second chance, you think?

Q.   OK sorry if this becomes a bit long, but I want to put the whole story across! Thanks in advance for your patience Back in January I was on a work lunchbreak so went to get some food down the road, and whilst I was queuing this girl came in who...

A.   1 October 2008: I really think she likes you. Do it, tell her! good luck!... (read in full...)

We had sex, then he told me he didn't want to lose my friendship, why? Now we are together and he says he loves me, but it's hard to believe him. I need a confidence boost!

Q.   Hey, I have never used this b4 but here goes, i was engaged to this guy and we were together for 4 1/2 years, i got very bored as it was a long distance relationship. he was alot older then me but he looked after me always put me first. Now there...

A.   1 October 2008: Trust your gut feeling.... (read in full...)

My boyfreind of 5 months has totally lost his sex drive, I receive no cuddles or kisses and I'm being told it's not my fault. What can I do?

Q.   My boyfriend who is 6 years younger than me has totally lost his sex drive. We have only been together 5 months. He says its not me and that he still wants 2 b with me forever. Yet he is shutting me off. No cuddles or kisses anymore. I want 2 help ...

A.   1 October 2008: That is normal. My friend also experience this with his girlfriend, but he loves his girlfriend with no doubt. He needs medication, he needs to have a check up with the doctor. Trust me.... (read in full...)

Should I ask her out on a second date?

Q.   Hello dear readers, well my story is that i dated first a girl who is my university, first date was great, we talked a lot , she laughed also...but all the time she didn't give me the opportunity to come closer to her, maybe i sad some stupid things ...

A.   30 September 2008: She do not like you. I am like that to guys I date and don't like. She just like you as a friend. Sorry.... (read in full...)

I wanted more romance and now she's broken up with me!

Q.   I have been seeing a girl the last few months, its long distance of sorts being about 2hours travel apart. We meet as much as we can as our jobs and busy personal lives will allow us. Yesterday things came to a head however after an arugement. ...

A.   30 September 2008: Is she a virgin? Or maybe she was raped before?... (read in full...)

Is my husband cheating on me?

Q.   My husband has gone away once every month with a lady he works with. I found out and confronted him about 7 months ago and he told me he was truly sorry but since then he has continued to do so. He tells me he is going one place and then ends up ...

A.   30 September 2008: Look, what you feel is true. Trust your instincts. If you feel your husband is cheating then he is cheating. And look, no cheater would admit he is cheating anyway right? And tell him about your baby, he has the right to know.... (read in full...)

Dating a year and I want to meet his family...but when I suggest it...he gets so defensive! What is happening?

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and still have not met his family. Everytime I bring it up he has one excuse or another. He also shuts his phone off everytime we are together and will not talk to people over the phone in front of ...

A.   30 September 2008: Hey hey hey girl. I am very sorry to tell you this but I think you are not the only woman in his life. This happened to me before. My boyfriend does not open his cellphone when we are together for me not to caught him. And he thinks you are para... (read in full...)

Why is he ignoring me? We had sex but I want a relationship?

Q.   Ok here we go... I met a bloke 2 weeks ago and he's a friend of my housemates. We all went out and got drunk one night and I let him sleep in my bed. One thing led to another and in the morning we had sex. He lives about an hour and a half away fro...

A.   30 September 2008: He just went and visit you because he enjoys the sex romance you had together. But because he is full and had enough of you, he don't like it anymore. I am sorry to say but this guy just message you or have a communication with you for the exch... (read in full...)

He was still seeing his 'ex' in our early days... I just found out...

Q.   I have been in a very close and loving relationship with a wonderful man for over two years and just found out that my man had been seeing one of his ex-girlfriends for a while early on in our relationship. I guess it really shouldn't matter now - ...

A.   30 September 2008: Don't let the past ruin your present relationship. Everyone needs another chance. He deserves another chance and give him one more but you are also giving yourself another chance to be hurt again - whenever this will happen again. Observe. He admi... (read in full...)

I'm embarrassed about posting this, but I seriously need the help.

Q.   Well its quite embarrassing, but Ive only just turned 14 and i have a spot on my testicles that always itches. Its always in the same spot though, its strange and i dont want any of my family to know. But the craziest part is I've never ever had ...

A.   30 September 2008: It is normal don't worry. Maybe you just need a little wash. Girls have that too sometimes.... (read in full...)

He broke my heart! Now I'm scared of being hurt again...

Q.   I was with a guy for 8 months, my longest relationship, and he broke my heart. before him i was let down by 2 other guys that i truly cared for but my recent break was defently the worst. i'm getting over him slowly but its defently happening. my ...

A.   30 September 2008: Research on: How you can trust someone by just looking at his/her eyes. I have read an article about it before but I forgot the title. And it is also the reason why men get more girls when they are not serious. It is because when men wants only to ... (read in full...)

I've never had a boyfriend and urgently want one! I don't want to be alone forever! Any advice?

Q.   i really need help. it may not seem like a big problem but i'm beggining to think there is something wrong with me. i have written before but only got one reply. i really want a boyfriend but i can't have one. whenever i fancy someone and (som...

A.   30 September 2008: Hey I only kissed a guy when I was 17. And I believe you are around that age. I only had a boyfriend when I was 17 years old. Look you are very lucky not to have a boyfriend. People around 20 - 25 wished they never had a boyfriend yet. Because ... (read in full...)

I want to stay virgin until marriage but the idea of marrying a girl who will dislike sex is haunting me as I have a high libido. Please advise.

Q.   Hello People, This is my first time in here and in any website of the like. I came across your website when researching and I found it nice and friendly so here I am. I am a 28 year old virgin male. It is weird I know but well I like to have s...

A.   30 September 2008: A girl marries because she likes to have sex. So, if you have a girlfriend and she do not like sex then she might at all not marry you. Like my aunt. She does not like sex, and that is the reason she left her boyfriend and never had a boyfriend ... (read in full...)

Was she just testing me about saying she wasn't a virgin to see if I love her?

Q.   i belong to muslim family i was going to marry afther 3 month with my gf .i did not sex with my gf.i knew her 8 months ago she never told me about her past but before one month she told me she is not virgin becouse she raped.i was mad at her why ...

A.   30 September 2008: Yes, sometimes girls do that.... (read in full...)

In love and we gave our virginity to each other. So why does her past bother me? All she did was kiss a guy!

Q.   Hey people I need some help! I have been with my gf for 1 year and 9 months. she is my first ever girlfriend. She is the first girl i have ever done anything with. I have only ever kissed one girl before her. We gave each other our virginity...

A.   30 September 2008: Don't let the past ruin the present especially your future. You do not know how many people are looking for true love. You got one so make the most of it. Stop thinking about things that won't get anywhere especially when it will ruin your ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't believe I lost my virginity to him and thinks I've deceived him all this time. How can I convince him?

Q.   My boyfriend doesn't believe that I lost my virginity to him. But I did. One, he knows that I gave oral sex to a friend (no longer a friend actually) years ago. Two, I lied to him about this. But of course I came clean, that's why he knows. But th...

A.   30 September 2008: Do not convince him. If he really loves you, he doesn't need to be convinced.... (read in full...)

He cheated and doesn't want my autistic brother to be a big part of my life! Can this still work?

Q.   Dear Aunts, I've been dating this wonderful guy for over 2 and a half years. He is my best friend, and he has always treated me amazingly. Recently we had sex for the first time and lost our virginities to one another, and we've talked about ...

A.   30 September 2008: Look, he deserves a second chance BUT you are just giving him another chance to hurt you again. If he really loves you he will support you in what you decide for your brother. If I love someone, I would not let go of his autistic brother... (read in full...)

I'm embarrassed about posting this, but I seriously need the help.

Q.   Well its quite embarrassing, but Ive only just turned 14 and i have a spot on my testicles that always itches. Its always in the same spot though, its strange and i dont want any of my family to know. But the craziest part is I've never ever had ...

A.   30 September 2008: Maybe it is just a red mole, a pimple, or an acne, or some allergies when you ate something that is not good for your body. Drink a lot of water though, it is still the best therapy. Then if it is still there within a month try to talk to a memb... (read in full...)

How should I go about getting close to this girl?

Q.   I know this is the age old question and i feel quite childish asking it but i am 24 and am a virgin. I have met a girl that i have never felt this way about before and i think we are getting quite close. But i feel like i have all the anxieties and ...

A.   30 September 2008: Just go with the flow of the day. Do not plan on anything on how to deal with her. If you want to meet her, just meet her. Do not think or plan on anything on how to say things to her because it will just happen. Trust me.... (read in full...)

I gave him my heart, my virginity, my dignity, my everything! He took it and left! Will I ever get over him?

Q.   We're both 18 and after nearly two years, we're over. I gave him my heart, my virginity, my dignity, my everything! He took it and left! I have no idea what I'm going to do without him! I based my whole life plan on him! I was in love with him, ...

A.   30 September 2008: It is normal. I remember breaking up with my first boyfriend who was my first love. It hurts too much and we never even had sex. I also felt what you felt like throwing up my heart. I also cried so hard like someone in the family died. You will ... (read in full...)

I don't love my boyfriend anymore, the stupid thing is that I fell in love with a guy I have never met! Don't know what to do!

Q.   i am 28 and i have been in a relationship for 14 years. i have never cheated so it's obvious, my bf is the only man i have ever had sex with. never consider myself to be inexperienced, never felt bad about having only one partner simply because i ...

A.   30 September 2008: You know what? Meet him. That is the only way for you to get rid of your feelings. Don't be ashamed or anything to try to meet him. When you met him already, that will be the only way for your mind to be cleared. Trust me.... (read in full...)

Why did my online boyfriend delete my photos on his myspace profile?

Q.   i have an american boyfriend, and i am from philippines. im 24 and he's 20. our relationship is still going on but always argue with something. im just really curious, after 5 months he deleted my photos on his myspace profile. but still says there ...

A.   30 September 2008: It depends. Maybe a friend of his does not like your picture and told it to him. It all depends. Maybe someone said your picture doesn't look good anymore. Or, he has another girlfriend. Or, it's just the way he is. But if he "really... (read in full...)

My girlfriend says she is a virgin but my friends say otherwise, I'm worried she is cheating on me!

Q.   iam 22 dating a girl of 17 and when ever i want to have sex with her she always refused telling me no she is a virgin and not yet time but my friends always told me that she is not and i dont know what to do cos i dont want to loose her cos i ...

A.   30 September 2008: If she is not a virgin, then she would have sex with you now. When a girl loses her virginity it becomes easier for her to give it again. And if you trust your girlfriend then believe her. ... (read in full...)

My wife was not a virgin and this discovery has hurt me deeply. Please help!

Q.   my wife told me that she was not a virgin before we got married, myself was a virgin and only lost it to her.now we are married and truly love her but hurt her past and at times i illtreat her. so i will never experience breaking a virgin i ask ...

A.   30 September 2008: If you love your wife you should accept her for what she is and everything from her past. Breaking the first cherry is not important. You should accept that she had made a mistake. Your love to her is all what is important and it is not about you ... (read in full...)

He threatened he'd stay in the rain, suicidal, so I invited him to my house where he continued his abuse, when I refused sex he said his ex was better, etc. Is this emotional blackmail?

Q.   Hello there, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 16 months now. When i first met him he was a depressant after splitting up with his ex girlfriend, i helped him through it and he has been on and off them for some time know. He often says he ...

A.   30 September 2008: It looks like you are getting numbed and used to the way he acts and treat you. DON'T GET USED TO THIS! A person always acts the best in front of the person he really loves. LEAVE HIM! Other guys are waiting for you. :)... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hit me, but the thought of leaving him hurts too much.

Q.   My boyfriend hit me, and the thought of me having to leave and star all over with another guy hurts so bad I still love him to death cause we been together for a year and a half. Should I leave him? ...

A.   30 September 2008: You are young. There are a lot of better guys out there I promise you. And you will never get to meet any of them if you still stay in that relationship. Always remember when a guy gives you a tick, this means "GO". You are just giving him a... (read in full...)

Am I doomed to stay with this man -till death do us part- just so I can keep my kids together?

Q.   I dont know what to do. Can anyone help pls? about 5 months ago my husband suggested we try a 3sum to spice things up in our sex life, to make matters more complicated my husband said it should be with an ex of mine (well i say ex, i had an affa...

A.   30 September 2008: Be careful, your ex might change when you leave your husband. You never know, like you never know anything would happen before you met your husband. ... (read in full...)

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