Could I get into trouble for not calling after my procedure?
Q. I know this is totally irresponsible of me, but here it goes. I had an abortion at the beginning of 2008, i had to get emergency medi-cal and they told me that i had to call them and cancel the emergency medical after the procedure. So i totally ...
A. 30 December 2008: They factor in human mistake. If you call, they are not going to lecture you over it. They may be a little annoyed but that shit happens and they know it. Just take care of it and cancel it as you've been directed and it should be okay. If they were ... (read in full...)
How do I make a decision when I have strong feelings for both of them?
Q. I had been dating a man for over two years. As he is in mining he was hardly ever home, and I lived about two hours away and would travel to see him when he was. We were in love, but then when I suggested it was time for us to live together he ...
A. 30 December 2008: I know it's hard to let it go, but please try to hear me out. A lot of people react out of jealousy, but that is an ingrained form of territorialism. He may not even really want you back, he may just want what's his. But if it didn't work in the ... (read in full...)
What should I say to the doctor about my depression?
Q. Tommorow I am going to the doctors to try and get medication for my depression. The reason I need these meds is because I'm losing all motivation to do anything, I mean, I've almost quit my job, and I've almost started smoking again! And I'm close ...
A. 30 December 2008: I agree with that. Just don't be nervous. You can't go wrong. Just go in and tell him you are depressed and he will give you the meds for sure. I had to talk a doctor out of prescribing me. They love pumping pills down our throats believe me this is ... (read in full...)
Now that he's not my teacher can I tell him that I love him?
Q. The man I love is 10 years older then me. He was my karate teacher. Now that he's not my teacher can I tell him that I love him? I'm still not sure if he loves me though. He asks my mom about me and calls me beautiful but I don't know if he is doing ...
A. 29 December 2008: You are TOO cute!!! He probably has a crush on you despite the fact that it's not legal. You can certainly tell him that you love him but my dear just be careful, he is probably going to tell you that you are too young for him. Don't get me wrong, ... (read in full...)
So, I guess I should just leave him alone if I don't see a future for us?
Q. I met this guy a month ago, and we have been dating. He is very nice to me and all of my friends and he does whatever we are doing, no matter how silly it is. I can see he wants to make me happy, and he just plain likes spending time with me ...
A. 29 December 2008: Oh my gosh I have never heard someone explain it quite like that and this is exactly what I am going through. I posted almost the exact same question. I would never have understood your predicament until now, because this is the first time this has ... (read in full...)
Desperate for help: crippling trust and jealousy issues!
Q. Im fifteen and I have crippling trust and jealousy issues. My gf of five months is very devoted. But I cant help but feel uncontrollable jealousy over small things and worry over things that havent even happened. I actually have times where Im ...
A. 29 December 2008: You explained this very rationally, which showcases your ability to step outside yourself. That is the first step in personal growth. Honestly, at this height you cannot fix the situation without someone coaching you through it on a regular basis. I ... (read in full...)
Where do you think our relationship is going?
Q. Hi, need some thoughts on this matter. After a period of being single, I finally met P, a friend of friends and we've been together for 1month+. We are similar in age (28), interests, share the same friends and he treats me very well. I've met most ...
A. 29 December 2008: Have you asked him if he would consider staying with you? Or is the general assumption that you two are going to break up when he leaves? If you two are dedicated and desperate for this to work enough, you will make it work. I have an ex whose ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ready!
Q. Well, I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 14. We've been dating for about 2 months now and we had our first kiss about 2 weeks ago. I Love him and I think he's the perfect boyfriend. I just spent time with him yesterday and we made out for a couple hours. He ...
A. 29 December 2008: Honestly I agree with pretty much all of that. At least try for a couple more years before you lose your virginity!!!... (read in full...)
Is this abuse?
Q. I really hate being tickled...and I go into asthma attacks when someone tickles me really hard. Well my boyfriend sat on my chest yesterday so that I could not move...and he kept tickling me. I think he did it for about 5 minuets or more. My f...
A. 29 December 2008: You get off one bus and there's another waitin.... (read in full...)
Is this abuse?
Q. I really hate being tickled...and I go into asthma attacks when someone tickles me really hard. Well my boyfriend sat on my chest yesterday so that I could not move...and he kept tickling me. I think he did it for about 5 minuets or more. My f...
A. 29 December 2008: If you expressed that you could not breathe and he knew that you have asthma problems, then it is a form of abuse. There are levels of abuse. He was not intentionally abusing you to enjoy seeing you hurt. For some reason because tickling causes ... (read in full...)
Where can I get a guy to respect me and not just want sex
Q. I'm 17, and have a 3 1/2 month old baby girl. her father isnt around and hasnt been since the day i found out i was pregnant... i really wnat to get into a relationship, because it has been so long since i had someone to care about me, and someone ...
A. 29 December 2008: Oh sweetheart, if you are looking for love it will come your way when you aren't looking for it. Guys can sense when you are on the prowl and that's when they know you are weak and they will take advantage of you. If you are confident and don't let ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ready!
Q. Well, I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 14. We've been dating for about 2 months now and we had our first kiss about 2 weeks ago. I Love him and I think he's the perfect boyfriend. I just spent time with him yesterday and we made out for a couple hours. He ...
A. 29 December 2008: Sweetheart you are so young!!! There is nothing wrong with you telling him you don't feel ready. Seriously like I worried about that at 15 years old and even I was probably too young to worry about that shit. If he doesn't like you enough to ... (read in full...)
Small lies, but he lies alot!
Q. I am a freshman in college and I have been knowing this boy since I was a sophmore in high school. he always wanted to be my boyfriend but always turned him down. now I like him and we are currently in a relationship. he asks me to come stay with ...
A. 29 December 2008: Honestly, if the sparks didn't fly in high school... are they really flying enough now for you to move in with him? Try to weigh out how much you like him with how much he lies. Even if it is small lies, that is super annoying and still showcases ... (read in full...)
I give but he doesn't return the favor!
Q. ok. so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. i give oral to him almost every day. i enjoy it. although sometimes he asks too much because i dont want to, and he just guilt trips me into doing it. but i just want something in return. he ...
A. 29 December 2008: Since we're online I'll be completely honest.
Either:
A) He's a complete dud-- you should not be guilted into it especially if he's not giving it to you. That is common sense. In one sentence you can tear him over that bullshit. Not ma... (read in full...)
Help, I've ruined my relationship.
Q. HI there. I am in desperate need of advice; I have had an amazing relationship with my boyfriend who I consider my best friend, and my lover, for two and a half years; but now it has gone really astray. In the past 2 years I've suffered from pa...
A. 29 December 2008: I opened this up thinking "oh shit this sounds juicy" and as I began reading it, it sounded freakishly like a situation I was in two years ago.
I was obsessed with my boyfriend. He was my first love, and we had started out in a very unhealth... (read in full...)
I don't want my family to be torn apart, any suggestions?
Q. Im a 16 year old girl and i live with my two brothers, my mom, and my stepdad. My parents got divorced when i was younger, i dont really mind it except for the fact that my dad has never been there for me. My mom got remmaried when i was 7. I ...
A. 29 December 2008: Oh darling I am so sorry for you. My dad used to say the same thing to me. My mom moved away when I was 10 so my dad used to always say "if you ever moved away I'd get a rope and end it". I used to feel really sorry for him but what I didn't realize ... (read in full...)
He took me to two dates and we haven't yet kissed in three days. Is he just a friend or what?
Q. This guy I have a class with I find very attractive has asked me for my number and asked me if I wanted to hang out with him... He asked me if we could hang out friday, so he took me to the aquarium, dinner, and a movie! He was SO sweet and see...
A. 12 October 2008: awwww tank you q!!! =]... (read in full...)
He took me to two dates and we haven't yet kissed in three days. Is he just a friend or what?
Q. This guy I have a class with I find very attractive has asked me for my number and asked me if I wanted to hang out with him... He asked me if we could hang out friday, so he took me to the aquarium, dinner, and a movie! He was SO sweet and see...
A. 6 October 2008: Well I think I got my answer... I overheard someone asking him if he's found any nice girls since he moved down here and he said "actually a few"... ewwwww lol... (read in full...)
There is a guy in my class that I am attracted to, but he seems very shy, and just looks at me without making any kind of move, should I try to talk to him or not?
Q. I just moved to southern California and I'm taking a class at a community college down here. There is a guy in my class that is really cute and always looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking (it's obvious and a girl I made friends with in the ...
A. 2 October 2008: Thank you all... and thank you SO much, again, double! =]... (read in full...)
There is a guy in my class that I am attracted to, but he seems very shy, and just looks at me without making any kind of move, should I try to talk to him or not?
Q. I just moved to southern California and I'm taking a class at a community college down here. There is a guy in my class that is really cute and always looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking (it's obvious and a girl I made friends with in the ...
A. 29 September 2008: Well, he asked me for my number and asked me to dinner! Then he took me to the aquarium, dinner, and a movie. The following day he asked me if I would go to church with him (he just moved here as well from almost the same exact area! and we briefly ... (read in full...)
There is a guy in my class that I am attracted to, but he seems very shy, and just looks at me without making any kind of move, should I try to talk to him or not?
Q. I just moved to southern California and I'm taking a class at a community college down here. There is a guy in my class that is really cute and always looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking (it's obvious and a girl I made friends with in the ...
A. 19 September 2008: Thanks Double! =]... (read in full...)
There is a guy in my class that I am attracted to, but he seems very shy, and just looks at me without making any kind of move, should I try to talk to him or not?
Q. I just moved to southern California and I'm taking a class at a community college down here. There is a guy in my class that is really cute and always looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking (it's obvious and a girl I made friends with in the ...
A. 18 September 2008: Well, I started talking to him and he seems really into me. But it's really weird though like he always seems confident when he's talking to me but like today he left class early without saying anything, i just turned around and he was gone. What ... (read in full...)
Do you think her brother will harm me after I pushed her too far?
Q. My girlfriend(my best friends sister) is a shy qutie around me, we were sitting at in my room yesterday, just softly kissing each other on the mouth and I started getting rough with her, kissing her all over and fast and I kinda forced her to do it ...
A. 13 September 2008: What happened!?... (read in full...)
How do I give my ex boyfriend head?
Q. Hiaa.. Well my problem is that i'm really close with my ex-ex-ex boyfriend we havent been together for ages and we have both had a fe relationships since but we have still talked to eachother and anythig we are single at the same time we have ...
A. 12 September 2008: haha... after i wrote all that, i read sappygirl's thing... MY BAD =]... (read in full...)
How do I give my ex boyfriend head?
Q. Hiaa.. Well my problem is that i'm really close with my ex-ex-ex boyfriend we havent been together for ages and we have both had a fe relationships since but we have still talked to eachother and anythig we are single at the same time we have ...
A. 12 September 2008: Like physically how do you give head? Well, I'll just assume that's what you're asking. You might want to start off basic if you are not used to it because like you don't want to get yourself in a position where you've "bitten off more than you ca... (read in full...)
This under age kid has a crush on me! He won't take a hint...
Q. Hi got a big problem. I go to a course for literacy and numeracy 3 days a week. Theres this kid there. I use the word kid as by law im a adult, he is only 14. He constantly looks at me. I am not interested as i have someone and he aint my type by ...
A. 12 September 2008: Yeah, I mean I know it's super annoying and pesky but just like you said, he is a kid. Pull him aside and tell him that you realize he's young and doesn't get it but frankly it makes you uncomfortable to be stared at like he's starin at you and ... (read in full...)
How can I drop hints that I like him?
Q. hi there. well i really need some advice. lets cuts straight to the story then, erm well ive liked this lad only recently and he is in the year below me. how can i drop hints to make him get the idea i like him? nothing to major cause im quite sh...
A. 12 September 2008: First of all, it takes courage... but whenever he catches you glancing at him, before looking away, smile at him. That gives off the impression that you are confident and he will probably be attracted to you for that alone. When you smile at him... (read in full...)
How can I stop the way I feel about him without stopping the friendship? I'm married.
Q. Im married and have a terrible crush on someone who is 20years younger than me! I have tried stop how I feel and thought I I was over it but it started up again. I really enjoy his company and like how I feel with him but know it's wrong. How can ...
A. 12 September 2008: There is no easy way to deal with this, but we've all fallen into situations like this. You should be very proud of yourself for seeing the signs in advance rather than simply allowing yourself to fall for it or take it any further!
The only sol... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband's reaction to my past?
Q. I met my husband when I was 17. I told him I was a virgin but I wasn't. Below is the story. Its a bit long but you need to understand the circumstances. Please bear with it I really need some good advice. At just 16, I met a 23 year old guy ...
A. 12 September 2008: WOW... it doesn't get more thorough and informative than Yos' response. It is true, you are dealing with a person you love, so it is essential to identify why he is treating you the way he is. It IS because he loves you, and he really does need ... (read in full...)
How can I cheer my friend up? She's distraught because she cheated, but then so did her boyfriend, but his was just a one nighter.
Q. Hey there, this is more of a problem about one of my friends and i need advice on how to help her out. A few weeks ago, my best friend (let's call her Stacy) went away for a few days. She has a boyfriend (let's call him John) and they both get alon...
A. 12 September 2008: Pretty much, Yos.... (read in full...)
Is asking my boyfriend for oral sex unfair?
Q. I am a virgin, which my boyfriend knows, but we have had anal. There are a lot of reasons I don't want to have sex with him that I won't include here. But one thing is that he's small in that department (I can't imagine that I would honestly feel ...
A. 12 September 2008: Well, if you refuse sex then you have to please him somehow to keep him. If he is nice he will compromise otherwise you have to understand that if he is giving something up then you should too... just because he is small that is kinda mean to refuse ... (read in full...)
Do you guys know when there is sperm about to come out or not?
Q. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been in a 7 month relationship and i think he the one..so i gave it up to him, but here the thing he did the poke-meaning he went in and then out in and then out we didnt have a condom so iam worryed.But ...
A. 12 September 2008: There were a lot of answers that were somewhat lengthy so I'm sorry if I'm repeating but I didn't bother to read them all... basically a guy has an orgasm and sperm shoots off. Like, he should know whether or not he got off. He may have had pre-cum ... (read in full...)
When a man's heart and pride are hurt by a woman, does he try and hurt her in return?
Q. My ex and I had an extremely bad break-up (I broke up with him; both he and I were very hurt and very angry) and ended all contact with one another for more the majority of the past year. About a month ago, we began talking again and agreed to meet ...
A. 12 September 2008: Yes, they do try to retaliate. I had such a similar situation. He is just trying to get at you I think... since you had such a volitile break up I think he is just testing you again. It's really immature... are you sure YOU even want to continue ... (read in full...)
What should I get my wife for her birthday and anniversary?
Q. what should i gift her on my wife's birthday or on our marriage anniversary ? how to celebrate or treat her to make her happy (as i never did alike) and believe that i care for her ?............
A. 12 September 2008: HAH you mean you remembered it??? That woulda been good enough for me!... (read in full...)
Do you think her brother will harm me after I pushed her too far?
Q. My girlfriend(my best friends sister) is a shy qutie around me, we were sitting at in my room yesterday, just softly kissing each other on the mouth and I started getting rough with her, kissing her all over and fast and I kinda forced her to do it ...
A. 12 September 2008: Ever heard the song "Boy Named Sue?" Accept your ass-kicking if it comes to you. It can only make you more of a man.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my husband doesn't want sex with me. I feel so unwanted!
Q. i was wondering if anyone could help me out. i am 3 months pregnant and my husband wont have sex with me. he has never had a problem with it with my other pregnancies. but 8 months ago i had a miscarriage and i dont know if that would be the reason ...
A. 12 September 2008: Ok I have no experience in this whatsoever but seriously... he will take oral??? tell that selfish man you are having his baby and he better make you smile as much as possible before he has to deal with you being a total ogre the day of your labor. ... (read in full...)
My mood swings are killing me since he cheated! I just don't know what to do....
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year. We are both young-he is 23 and I am 21. He cheated on me in December last year 2-3 months into our relationship. I found out exactly three weeks ago. I was completely shocked and heartbro...
A. 12 September 2008: Sweetheart, I know you are very hurt. You are both young and sometimes these shitty things happen unfortunately. But what I would say is that obviously this pain is deep-seeded for you. If you can't get it out of your mind then the obvious solution ... (read in full...)
How can I cheer my friend up? She's distraught because she cheated, but then so did her boyfriend, but his was just a one nighter.
Q. Hey there, this is more of a problem about one of my friends and i need advice on how to help her out. A few weeks ago, my best friend (let's call her Stacy) went away for a few days. She has a boyfriend (let's call him John) and they both get alon...
A. 12 September 2008: Unfortunately you might want to be as honest as possible and tell her the harsh truth. As soon as someone is faced with the truth, although it really hurts, it's what helps them pull through things. So what you tell her is first of all, she's yo... (read in full...)
My friend told me my boyfriend invited her over to his house, what should I do?
Q. Is it ok if my boyfriend asks my friend which is a girl to go over his place? he never told me but my friend told me that he invited her over. so what should i do ?? honestly i wasn't ok with it, and she didn't go! but should i confront him and ...
A. 12 September 2008: The most shady thing is that he didn't tell you... I mean if he asked her not to tell you, there's a problem. Otherwise it's kinda up to you whether or not it's shady, cause you know him more than we do. But honestly overall I would say this is not ... (read in full...)
How do I pick one of these two men? I'm crying buckets of tears trying to figure this out!
Q. I am responding to the others who seem to be in the same boat. I fell in love with D at age 18 he is 30 years my senior he was my first and only...he has protected me urged me to go to school and many other pos. things He is also married. 18 years ...
A. 12 September 2008: Plus look at it this way... D is 60ish right? and J is 31??? Chances are you'd be changing D's diapers in about 10 years time, whereas with J you could be just in the beginning of your future, building a family and changing your children's diapers. ... (read in full...)
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