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I want to work on myself and stay single. How do I keep from letting men distract me?

Q.   Hi ladies, as the end of 2017 is approaching I’ve made a decision to be single for awhile. It seems like 2017 was full of meaningless sex with people I thought it would work out with and it just ended up not going anywhere. So I decided to work on ...

A.   12 December 2017: I used to go out a lot when I was younger, I could quite easily just go out with friends and have a laugh. Flirting was fine but I didn't bother with dating or getting off with anyone. You will do it simply because you choose to , it's like anything ... (read in full...)

I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant.

Q.   I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant. I'm currently 31 and have had 1 or 2 sexual partners every year since my mid twenties. Every time I do have sex I use the condom properly, and most of the women I've been with are also on the p...

A.   11 December 2017: Once bitten twice shy, but it sounds like you are keeping yourself well and truly wrapped up in all ways. I understand why, i stayed single for a long time after my ex left and didn't entertain getting close to someone for years. I guess it is ea... (read in full...)

Our sexual needs are different

Q.   My girl friend and I got in an argument last night about sex. I get tired it’s me who wants sex. She never starts it, and now she is too tired, because of work, one full time job an one part time job. I realize that, but now it’s the holidays. She ...

A.   11 December 2017: Just with that one statement 'I last too long' indicates to me she feels you don't consider her needs. I dated a man once, he was a missionary man who went on for a long time, sounds good on paper but utterly boring if you are just lying there ... (read in full...)

When will sex start to feel good?

Q.   I have had sex a few times now (Like 4). When is it going to start feeling good? It doesn't hurt, I just don't really feel anything. Is that a bad thing?...

A.   10 December 2017: Him in had another couple of meaningless flings. I have met someone who I now love and yet again having sex is more enjoyable again. That is the key to what makes it feel different, nice, being attracted, comfortable and loving the other person. ... (read in full...)

Red flags are everywhere. He's a nice guy but was I right to end it?

Q.   I met this guy online, tall, good looking, we met at a coffee shop right away and everything seemed fine until after I got home that night. He was texting me the longest messages I’ve ever seen. They were paragraphs. Usually guys tend to be the ones ...

A.   10 December 2017: Blimey, you need to ask? You gave him more than enough chances and each time new sets of problems came up. You don't even believe any so called health issue he has is a problem. What do you actually see in him apart from the obvious of what you ... (read in full...)

When will sex start to feel good?

Q.   I have had sex a few times now (Like 4). When is it going to start feeling good? It doesn't hurt, I just don't really feel anything. Is that a bad thing?...

A.   10 December 2017: I found when I first started having sex I didn't feel there was much to it. I didn't have serious relationships when I was younger, I was also naive and thought having sex with a man would mean they would like me more. Wrong, I got used. Sex for me ... (read in full...)

She's left me twice does she deserve my respect? Or do I just be her friend like nothing ever happened?

Q.   Hello ladies, got a question for you, I was seeing this woman, she left me for another guy, OK, five years later we started to see each other again, she did it again, with a friend in a band, now he dumped her and she is trying to talk to me, am I ...

A.   10 December 2017: I wouldn't even be her friend, she doesn't actually like one of them, never mind a lover. You are here fall back guy whenever she is single and wants attention for HER benefit.Come on its been five years, plenty of fish in the sea, this woman is ... (read in full...)

I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant.

Q.   I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant. I'm currently 31 and have had 1 or 2 sexual partners every year since my mid twenties. Every time I do have sex I use the condom properly, and most of the women I've been with are also on the p...

A.   10 December 2017: At the end of the day you're being sensible not leaving it down to the woman. It's your life and your choices, using protection and insisting on doing so is the right thing because yes some women can get pregnant whether you want them to or not,the ... (read in full...)

I'm unhappily married but in love with a man who's engaged but hesitant to leave his fiance

Q.   Please could I ask for some advice on my situation... I have been married for 3 years but for the last year the marriage has been very difficult and we both feel that we have grown too far apart to fix things, although haven’t yet said we will div...

A.   8 December 2017: Simple, you need to split completely with your husband and he with his fiancee if your feelings for each other are that strong.I take it at the moment you are both cheating on your respective partners, not fair on either of them. You clearly feel ... (read in full...)

I need a plan to win her back

Q.   i need help getting my ex back. we broke up december 2016. here's the brief history: we met 3 years ago. her and i started dating in october 2016. our relationship was absolutely wonderful! however, things started going downhill shortly a...

A.   6 December 2017: Ps but not all guns blazing on how you feel, how you have described her that would probably have the opposite effect. Subtle but a clear indication you think more about her than just a friend. But please don't build your hopes up and if she isn't ... (read in full...)

I need a plan to win her back

Q.   i need help getting my ex back. we broke up december 2016. here's the brief history: we met 3 years ago. her and i started dating in october 2016. our relationship was absolutely wonderful! however, things started going downhill shortly a...

A.   6 December 2017: So you was friends a long time, dated briefly and she told you she saw you as a friend. That could still stand because I'm afraid she can quite easily accept a gift off a friend and go out for lunch with you. If she was romantically inclined ... (read in full...)

I'm obsessed with the man I had a little bit of fun with, 16 years ago!

Q.   This is really weird. So, some 16 years ago, I had a one night stand with this acquaintance - we traveled together to a new city with a group of friends and stayed in the same house. I was relatively sexually inexperienced and socially inept. The ...

A.   1 December 2017: These things happen, you can have a sexual chemistry for one night/and few days and it amounts to nothing. You are holding some torch field him but he is very clearly keeping you as he should now, an acquaintance. Enjoy the memory,it was simply a... (read in full...)

Should the other woman tell his wife about the affair?

Q.   Should the other woman tell his wife about the affair? I know many would use harsh and negative remarks on such question. I did no Contact and he reached out and I caved in. I am thinking of telling his wife so that I can move on for good forever...

A.   28 November 2017: No, because you are doing it out of spite because you have been scorned and you are simply seeking revenge. I feel sorry for the woman and hope she does discover what a rat bag her husband is, but not the way you are suggesting no. Be dignifie... (read in full...)

I like a guy but he seems to prefer a slimmer girl, do I have a chance?

Q.   Been working at Starbucks for about a year now, it's right next to my uni business school. There's a guy who's been coming in for the last few months and is pretty lush hehe, blond, blue eyes, muscular and wears our uni rugby T shirt, he's rly tall ...

A.   28 November 2017: Honestly, he sounds like he is just a friendly man who flirts with women in general. But if he confident like he sounds to be i am sure he would ask you or anyone else out if he liked them in that way. As for your figure, how can anyone guess if... (read in full...)

I'm married but starting to get obsessed with the guy my husband and I had a threesome with

Q.   Over a year ago my husband and i had a sexual threesome with a single male friend of ours after a night of drinking...this was totally my husbands idea..I was always attracted to this friend but had no intentions of taking it any furthur, even ...

A.   24 November 2017: To be fair you never said he had done the dirty on you until your last comment. Truth is you are as bad as each other then. If it floats both your boats to have casual sex outside the marriage crack on, but be honest with each other. Not my idea of ... (read in full...)

I'm in a horribly abusive relationship and I need a way out for me and my daughter

Q.   Hi basically just looking for some advise plz, I really don't know what to do or how to. Basically I haven't been happy with my partner we have been arguing lately quiet a lot we have a small child but the arguments ain't in front of her as he ...

A.   24 November 2017: You are living with a bully who will continue to get worse in his abuse and who is grinding you down so your self esteem gets so low you will think you don't deserve anything else. There are domestic abuse helplines who can give advice, womens a... (read in full...)

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