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I'm a girly girl who loves fashion. I also love sports and music. I'm always really busy and like it that way for the most part. I am fun to be around and I'm pretty optimistic. I have been through a lot and so have my friends and family so I can help you the best I can. I tend to have guy problems, thinking with my heart instead of my head, so hopefully you cam help me.

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She's gay so am I awkward around her because of her sexuality?

Q.   My partner left me back in august and i put an advert in my local classifieds for a female friend to go shopping with etc. Paulines reply came a week and a half later and we hit it off straight away. The thing is she told me in the first week that ...

A.   26 November 2006: It must have been hard to have your partner leave you for a woman. But it is good that she came out and didn't hide it forever. When she was hiding it she wasn't herslf and it must have been hard for her to act real while being fake. I don't think ... (read in full...)

How can I make him trust me? Any ideas?

Q.   how can i make him trust me? i met this guy on holiday this summer i've been seeing him snce then, but he doesn't want to get into a relationship because he doesn't trustme because of an incident that occured with one of his friends when we came bac...

A.   26 November 2006: Trust is earned and is hard to get back so you can't "make him" take you back. Stay friends with him and see where it goes. Then if the trust is earned or not may be it will become more.... (read in full...)

I have a great bf, but should I go back to my ex for the sake of our daughter?

Q.   I split up with my husband of 2 years, 2 years ago. I met another man who I had dated previously before i got married. we were and always had been in love so it seemed natural to continue. My problem is that I miss my husband (we have a young ...

A.   26 November 2006: I think if you were lucky enough to find a great guy stay with him. He might be better for your daughter. She is young enough that it wont hurt her to much. She wont want to see you and your ex fighting while you live together. This isn't selfish it ... (read in full...)

Friendship problems...do I talk to him about it or just leave it alone?

Q.   A friend keeps puting down my ex and my decision to go out with him in the past many times, also about my degree tough I have a Ph and work for uni, he also talks badly about my best friend who suffers from cancer and who is a nice person without ...

A.   25 November 2006: It seems he is very insocure an dtrys to make himself look better by putting down almost everyone including his friend with cancer. Cancer is serious and his friend could die from it, he wouldn't want that. It seems you are much more mature and have ... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem interested..so should I let go of this good opportunity and just date others or hang in there?

Q.   A group of friends insists that one of their friends is after me, he takes time to talk with me when we meet by chance and texts me sometime but he has made no effort go out with me for a coffee or anything, moreover he's always talking about sex ...

A.   25 November 2006:  He does seem like he might not have made his mind up- yet. The guy muight just be shy when it comes to asking girls out. Keep your eye on him, and see where it goes. You might find out you like someone else or you really like him. When people ... (read in full...)

Can a 12-year age gap work out or should I let it go?

Q.   Okay, so I've been reading some of the posts on age differences and they're all pretty reassuring. I'll be legal (18) soon and have had a pretty strong interest in someone 12 years older than I am. We've developed a really great friendship and ...

A.   25 November 2006: I think you should go for it if you have a good feeling about the enire situation. You can't always go from something you have heard. If the feelings are mutual and you see more in this relationship then go for it. Good luck.... (read in full...)

My co-worker is irresistable, but there's still one problem...

Q.   i have a crush on this guy. I work with him. Hes the greatset the person i have ever met. We are always texting each other on our cell phones and when i'm not with him, i think about him constantly... There's one little problem.. I'm 17 going on ...

A.   25 November 2006: I would go for it. Age isn't everything. If he is a good person and likes you for you it sounds good. Do you have a good feeling about the situation because you know him best? If so go for it. People go you have talked to have had situations and ... (read in full...)

Was I just a holiday fling or does he really love me, like he says he does??

Q.   i meet this boy on holiday and ever since we have been really close and he confessed he loved me and i feel the same but when i got back from my hols and added him on msn i found out he has a girlfriend but he says he still loves me and i guess i'm ...

A.   25 November 2006: I'm sorry to say this guy does'nt sound good. If he lied to you when you first met then you can't really trust him later. If he did/does love you than he would have broken up with his ex. You are worthy of someone else. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Ladies....do girls prefer nice guys or badass guys?

Q.   hey do girls go for nice guys or abit of a bd ass guy?...

A.   25 November 2006: It depends on my mood. Bad guys are hot and turn me on, but at the end of the day I want a good trustworthy guy to come home to. A good mix is perfect. A little bad ass and a bunch of good guy. Good luck.... (read in full...)

She laughs at my jokes and we have fun! Should I ask her for her phone number?

Q.   Hiya! Im 18 and i need advice on wot to do with a girl that ive grown to like. On monday i started a new job and i am being trained in a group of six people. However i am the only guy in the group. Over the past five days ive grown feelings f...

A.   25 November 2006: Yes. You should ask her for her number. It seems like she likes you back. Getting her number is simple and unformal(you could need it for work)so it is not a big deal. Talk to her a few times and then see how that goes. Then ask her out sometime. ... (read in full...)

How do relationships work?

Q.   im a 16 year old boy and i've got a bit of a problem, i havent had a relationship for 6 years and i've basically forgotten how relationships work, so if anyone can give me ideas on this i will be vary grateful. i also need help in how to approach ...

A.   25 November 2006: They are complicated for one thing. But don'd get discuraged. Get to know a few girls that you see often, in your classes or in your clubs and sports and as you talk to them, you may take a liking to one of them. Ask for her number if you don't have ... (read in full...)

She laughs at my jokes and we have fun! Should I ask her for her phone number?

Q.   Hiya! Im 18 and i need advice on wot to do with a girl that ive grown to like. On monday i started a new job and i am being trained in a group of six people. However i am the only guy in the group. Over the past five days ive grown feelings f...

A.   25 November 2006:  I think from what you are saying that she is into you, but you can never be 100% could be into you. I would ask her for her number then depending on how that goes you can see how commited and really tell how that goes if you want to continue with ... (read in full...)

Can you ever take back someone who has cheated?

Q.   What are your thoughts on cheating? It's a long story so I won't go into too much detail right now. If someone cheats and then realises they have made a terrible mistake...have taken steps to try and put things right...begging for you to take the...

A.   25 November 2006: You can forgive a cheater. To take them back and let the relationship go on as it never happened might be wrong. You will have a feeling that they are cheating on you again either until you totally forgive them or realize they arn't for you. The ... (read in full...)

Want to look my best and lose some weight... but what's the best way?

Q.   Hi. Next August, I'm going to Africa with my family. Obviously, it's a once-in-a-lifetime experiance and I want to look my best. I'm not overweight now. I'm quite thin, but recently I've felt a few extra pounds creep on, and it's not even Christmas ...

A.   16 November 2006: Well that is a good goal and since you have months to do this you will be able to do this safetly. Well If you drink a lot of juice you can substitute the juice with water or lite juice. that is an easy was to get rid of about 50-100 cals. Buy light ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions on how I can make new friends in high school?

Q.   Hey, im finishing yr 8 this year and i feel like i am moving away from all my friends. When i started high school i thought i would make heaps of new friends but it turns out i made 2 new friends lost 1 and im moving away from my other friends that ...

A.   3 November 2006: This has happened to me. Become friends with other people can be pretty easy. In high school you will be in classes with other kids so be partners in a project, and then start to hangout with them. Ask other people to go to the football games with ... (read in full...)

We made out and went out a few times - now she just wants to be friends! What should I do?

Q.   Hello, Well, this is my situation. I have known a girl very distantly for around two years, we were previously both in very long term relationships, but I always admired her from afar, and had a very platonic email correspondence with her. An...

A.   2 November 2006: Well this is tough! She did lead you on but you both might have been a little drunk. So I would stay friends with her and see where that takes you. Then after you meet up a few more times see how she feels and then say what you feel. This whol... (read in full...)

I have HSV 1 - would people want to date me if they knew?

Q.   Question: would people still date a person if they knew they had HSV 1? I have HSV 1, and am in a relationship, but i wonder if i break up w. my bf and start dating other guys, will they ever want to kiss me because i could give it to them? Thanks...

A.   2 November 2006: I think people would still want to date you but you need to tell them relativly soon into the relationship that you have HSV 1. Don't make it the 1st thing but soon. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

I'm getting mixed signals! How can I find out if he likes me??

Q.   Hi there, I met a guy a few months ago and we hit it straight off, we had sex within a week of knowing each other. I would text him and he would not reply so I decided to call him and when i say call i mean hounded down his fone as he wouldnt answer ...

A.   2 November 2006: Well it sounds like you hit it off quickly but if the guy doesn't anwser when you call then he is not worth it. Then he threw you a curve ball and it putting effort into the relationship. It could be because he wants to or becuase he realizes what ... (read in full...)

Can't stop thinking about her. Will I ruin our friendship if I tell her how I really feel?

Q.   Hi, I'm in a bit of trouble. I literally cannot stop thinking about this girl I fancy and it's annoying the hell outta me. She's a good mate of mine but I don't want to ruin our friendship if I tell her how I really feel. Recently a sit...

A.   1 November 2006: Well this is a though one. She means a lot and you don;t want to lose what you have but you arn't happy about that one either. Before you do anything go for a run and clear your head. Then tell her how you feel, if she cares about you as just a ... (read in full...)

What does it mean when a guy says "keep in touch?" It's been 4 months and I haven't heard from him! What's going on?

Q.   this guy told me keep in touch...i assumed he wanted to still keep in contact. so why haven't i heard from him? it's been 4 months now. what does it mean when a guy says keep in touch?...

A.   1 November 2006: First give him a call or an email and unless he writes or calls back then move on girl you deserve way better. Something might have happened and his intentions might have been good but he could just say that to everyone because he doesn't have the ... (read in full...)

Should i lie to my folks

Q.   My bf is leavin the country soon we both stay in different cities he cant come n see me and now he wants me to come there, i have to take a lot of risks if i really wanted to see him but still he wants me to come.my folks will never let me go if i ...

A.   28 October 2006: If he is your best friend then why wont they let you go see him?? They should support you. I would ask and tell really tell them how much it would mean to you. Then let tell him what happened and see if your folks could let you and him meet before ... (read in full...)

Girls and butterflies

Q.   From my life experience there are two types of girls that I have liked: 1. I get butterflies in my stomach when I'm near them and I just don't know what to say because I'm so nervous... but I really relaly like them, and that feeling is something ...

A.   27 October 2006: I'm 15 and know from my experience that I feel the same way about guys. The type 2 girl is most likey a friend and you just feel more comfterble but less attracted to. They type one girl is more attractive and you are have less in common. Talk abo... (read in full...)

One guy treats me badly but I like him..the other guy is nice but I don't like him. Who do I choose?

Q.   Which is the best way to find a proper bloke? do you think it's better to go out with a boy who likes you but you don't have a crush on or with a guy who doesn't treat you properly? Is it better to wait fot Mr Right, do not try and stay home sle...

A.   26 October 2006: Look a guy might be more attractive but if he treats you poorly it is a sign that in the future he will be abusive. The guy who is nice, just be fiends. There are other fish in the sea and you dont have to choose between the 2. Good luck.... (read in full...)

My friend is having a tough time getting over an ex! How can I help her?

Q.   What advice can i give my friend about getting over her ex?...

A.   26 October 2006: Talk her out to dinner, a sleepover, dancing, or just walking and scope out other guys. Try and reienforce that there are "more fish in the sea". Chocolate is always a good thing. Getting a break up hair cut is a great idea it is like he is ... (read in full...)

Is it acceptable to stay friends with an ex???

Q.   HI I was wondering if people thinks its acceptable to stay friends with an ex boyfriend, even if you are unsure about whether he is over you? My ex finished it 6 mths ago after i made it clear i wanted marriage and kids (he is nearly 40 and ha...

A.   26 October 2006: Being friends might cause issues with future or current lovers but if you are just friends it is fine. Look you have cared about her for so long it is hard to to care about them at least a little bit. The age difference can be the difference in ... (read in full...)

Does he like me or not? How do I find out?

Q.   I can't stop thinking about this guy in my form! Its really weird as the other year he really upset me, But now im trying to talk to him at every oportunity! What should I do? I want to know what he thinks about me, but I dont want him to know that ...

A.   26 October 2006: Ok so you really like him, relax. You need to talk to him more and maybe get his number. Tell him or make him realize that whatever he did to you years ago no longer bothers you. Once you talk to him more and become close hangout with him. Maybe ... (read in full...)

I don't look at him and find him as sexually attractive as other guys!!!

Q.   My boyfriend fancies me more than I fancy him. I've been seeing a guy exclusively for the last two months and we're now talking about potentially living together. I really enjoy spending time with him, I like all his friends and feel like we cou...

A.   26 October 2006: Well being attracted to someone is only part of the eqation but it is impprotant. If you arnt happy with the way other parts of the relationship are then move on and find another man. He might take it hard since he is sexually more attracted to you. ... (read in full...)

When should I phone her and what should I say???

Q.   if i get this girl's number when can i call her? we both go school. i'm 16 and she is 14. i suppose when i get the number it's only generally askin just in case i need it! but i doubt she will be expecting me to call or will she? what can i say when ...

A.   26 October 2006: Good luck with this. She might like you but before you call her try and sit with her at lunch and see how that goes. If it goes well call her like the next day and hope it goes well. You may be nervous but it is worth a shot if you really like her. ... (read in full...)

18 and craving for a baby... how can I stop feeling broody?

Q.   Ok help. I'm 18, been in a very solid relationship for 2 years and everythings great. We're moving in together soon and everything. But I'm craving for a baby. I know I'm young and not exactly financially stable and all, but I really want a baby. I ...

A.   26 October 2006: Babies are great, but at 18 and not financially stable having one is not the best idea. Food, dipers,toys, a room are needed as well as time and money to suport the child. Your freedom as a teen will be given up. Age is not the only factor but this ... (read in full...)

Do guys mind if the girl phones first? Do they see that as desperation on the girl's part?

Q.   Hi, A guy I have been seeing a couple of months has not contacted me for a few days when he said he would, do you think I should contact him or will he think that is a bit desperate?? Do guys mind if the girl phones first? x...

A.   25 October 2006: Call him something might be wrong waiting 2 days is not desprite and he will be happy to see that you like him enough to call him to. It is not hard and from my experience it works.... (read in full...)

In two weeks, I will be marrying this guy who I think is arrogant and stubborn? Advice needed...quickly!!

Q.   Please can you answer this ASAP - im in a bit of a state. I am due to get married in less that 2 weeks. My fiance is driving me totally mad. I know the run up towards a wedding is stressful enough but he is impossible. All the traits I knew he...

A.   25 October 2006: If you have a gut feeling somthing is not right go with it. I might not be enough time to get your money back but your life and happiness is at stake.... (read in full...)

Is there something between me and this guy?

Q.   I'm not going to say exactly how old i am, but i will say i am in my mid-late teens. There is this guy i REALLY like... he's a few years older than me, he's really sweet, charming, good looking, great smile, has his life planned out and we have alot ...

A.   25 October 2006: I do believe you like him and that is sweet but he is older than you and in college and he might have a girlfriend and you wouldn't know it because you don't know him. Plus he only comes home during the summer and holidays and not seeing him would ... (read in full...)

Can I get in trouble for having sex with a 16 year old girl?

Q.   The age of consent is 18 in california. The question is this: if I'm 16 and I have sex with a girl who is also 16 and we had no problems, could i get in trouble?...

A.   25 October 2006: Yes it is illigal but if you love her and she loves you then go ahead but make sure or else it could be considered rape.... (read in full...)

When I call him..he's busy! Do I just wait for him to call me then?

Q.   whenever i call him he is busy he never even bothers to call me back,for him his family is more important than me, but 4 me he is everything and he knows it.should i keep calling him or just wait for him to call me?...

A.   25 October 2006: How much do you like him? Does he know? Tell him he need to know and he will hopefully make time for you. ... (read in full...)

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