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| | *eentheredonethat's profile:Ok I am in my 40's and have lived all over the United States and a couple short pops in Canada and Mexico. I am living on the west coast right now.
My relationship status is a bizarre world filled with twists and turns that keep my life in a constant flux. Most of you deal with a relationship problem. multiply that several times and that is where I live. I have one husband and two very Long term boyfriends....I love them all very much. They are aware of each other and finally get along....but I do manage them. And dear ladies, your husband is not safe with me IF you take him for granted...I won't. And you won't catch him because I will teach him to be the perfect husband while he and I are sucking the life out of every moment.
My husband usually manages at least 3 girlfriends at any given time. However, he has not always dealt with them fairly...it has taken me years to create a Player out of him for he likes the danger and the chase...unfortunately you cant lay down rules if your the one giving in to demands. I could not for years convince him of my relief at catching him...well...number 13 and the Smelly...were anything but a relief....they were battle. The Smelly nearly did me in. But it was a great and nasty battle and our marriage was strained to the gills. Yet as it recovered and Bloomed far beyond my Dreams I realized that If he had not played the bad guy...I would have. He saved me from ever having to look at my husband and know that if he really knew me it would kill him. My husband and I Know each other...every flaw every hateful wart on our souls.....yet we still love each other. We don't want to change each other....but reach out our hand to guide one another. True Love is Love no matter what. when you set someone else above you...and cherish them more than yourself...that is true love. True Love can be shown in many forms and if it means you both believe in monogamy...there is nothing wrong with that....unfortunately few actually practice what they believe.
I see past that and love the flaws of my sweet boys as well as their many attributes.
Why do I know so much about affairs? I have had them since I was sexually active...one of my first experiences was with an older married man who was a Player. He taught me that there were rules for successful affairs...and there are. I have had mostly successful affairs because I play by those rules ONLY. I have never once been caught.....think about that...NOT ONCE. Now after it was all said and done...I have had a few who confessed....and I had to have conversations with the jilted angry wife. (I have also had to clean up some of my husbands not so successful messes and had to play the jilted wife...so I get all the absurdities of both ends)
Some of you will hate me because I am being honest here...but that is what you will get from me...an honest answer to your question. If you needed one more person telling you what you wanted to hear...you would be talking to friends...not strangers.
What makes me tick?
Love...I love my children, husband, boyfriends, and family. I love books and history. By understanding why the world is the way it is....we see what parts simply don't matter....and can go on from there. Change is the only true constant in the world.
Sex...it is like a religion to me. There is nothing nasty dirty or horrible about kind loving mutually fulfilling sex among adults....repression and guilt have driven more joy from the world than can be imagined.
Mostly I want to say that most of you are fine...your reactions to things are normal....but on occasion...if you step out of your little box you may see things differently...The only true advise I give is Choose wisely. The rest is just helping you think for yourself.
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I feel terrible about my past bad choices, and thinking about what I've done hurts my wife, too!
Q. I hope we can get some help here. I am married about 6 months. We are in our fortys and in our second marriages. We are sure we are perfect for each other in all ways. Our problems stem from my past before marriage about 20 years ago. I lived fo...
A. 5 February 2006: Tell her that you had to go through every one of those women to find her. You wish you had found her right away...but you are so thankful that you will never ever have to look again because it was torture for you. Say," Everything I need is right ... (read in full...)
What options have we got, other than the usual latex condoms?
Q. Ok heres the deal. Sex has now become a hot topic with a new woman in my life, and as we all know protection is important but the problem is that she is allergic to latex and poluyurethane condoms. Is there any other condoms out there or any other ...
A. 5 February 2006: Yes actually I think there is. There are several websites on internet that carry difficult to find products like that. You may always have to order them, but I do know they exist, my brother-in-law has the same allergy and he orders them from a ... (read in full...)
I make him happy in ways his wife can't... Now what do I do?
Q. I have somehow gotten myself into a relationship with a married man. He set boundaries at the beginning stating what he was comfortable with happening between the two of us, but he has slowly broken all of his own rules. He is definitely starting to ...
A. 5 February 2006: Well the first thing you do is You find yourself someone else to date. Have you thought about Why this man is your choice? He may have a quality that you really admire...or several. However, one quality he does not have is respect for you. (men ... (read in full...)
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