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| | *eentheredonethat's profile:Ok I am in my 40's and have lived all over the United States and a couple short pops in Canada and Mexico. I am living on the west coast right now.
My relationship status is a bizarre world filled with twists and turns that keep my life in a constant flux. Most of you deal with a relationship problem. multiply that several times and that is where I live. I have one husband and two very Long term boyfriends....I love them all very much. They are aware of each other and finally get along....but I do manage them. And dear ladies, your husband is not safe with me IF you take him for granted...I won't. And you won't catch him because I will teach him to be the perfect husband while he and I are sucking the life out of every moment.
My husband usually manages at least 3 girlfriends at any given time. However, he has not always dealt with them fairly...it has taken me years to create a Player out of him for he likes the danger and the chase...unfortunately you cant lay down rules if your the one giving in to demands. I could not for years convince him of my relief at catching him...well...number 13 and the Smelly...were anything but a relief....they were battle. The Smelly nearly did me in. But it was a great and nasty battle and our marriage was strained to the gills. Yet as it recovered and Bloomed far beyond my Dreams I realized that If he had not played the bad guy...I would have. He saved me from ever having to look at my husband and know that if he really knew me it would kill him. My husband and I Know each other...every flaw every hateful wart on our souls.....yet we still love each other. We don't want to change each other....but reach out our hand to guide one another. True Love is Love no matter what. when you set someone else above you...and cherish them more than yourself...that is true love. True Love can be shown in many forms and if it means you both believe in monogamy...there is nothing wrong with that....unfortunately few actually practice what they believe.
I see past that and love the flaws of my sweet boys as well as their many attributes.
Why do I know so much about affairs? I have had them since I was sexually active...one of my first experiences was with an older married man who was a Player. He taught me that there were rules for successful affairs...and there are. I have had mostly successful affairs because I play by those rules ONLY. I have never once been caught.....think about that...NOT ONCE. Now after it was all said and done...I have had a few who confessed....and I had to have conversations with the jilted angry wife. (I have also had to clean up some of my husbands not so successful messes and had to play the jilted wife...so I get all the absurdities of both ends)
Some of you will hate me because I am being honest here...but that is what you will get from me...an honest answer to your question. If you needed one more person telling you what you wanted to hear...you would be talking to friends...not strangers.
What makes me tick?
Love...I love my children, husband, boyfriends, and family. I love books and history. By understanding why the world is the way it is....we see what parts simply don't matter....and can go on from there. Change is the only true constant in the world.
Sex...it is like a religion to me. There is nothing nasty dirty or horrible about kind loving mutually fulfilling sex among adults....repression and guilt have driven more joy from the world than can be imagined.
Mostly I want to say that most of you are fine...your reactions to things are normal....but on occasion...if you step out of your little box you may see things differently...The only true advise I give is Choose wisely. The rest is just helping you think for yourself.
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Heartbroken over my husband's use of pornography! I don't want to live like this forever! What can I do?
Q. hello i am heartbroken with a spouse who i love dearly and don't want to leave! we have 2 kids. My realationship is tainted with his use of porno videos and using the internet, i have explained to him how i feel also telling him i don't want to live ...
A. 17 October 2006: Thank you for waking me up. However, I asked a question and gave specific examples of the Sort of answer I was seeking. Why she objects to porn is very important. If she objects to porn because he is watching films that depict violence it is an ... (read in full...)
Have I made the right decision in staying with my husband and remaining loyal? I cannot get my true love out of my head.
Q. I have been married for 11 years to my husband N and have two kids aged 6 and 10. My husband and I had a communication breakdown some time ago and I felt very alone and isolated by him and our sex life was for some years practically non existant. ...
A. 16 October 2006: Well and for the first time he also has had to make an effort to keep you. You don't know how terrific the ground is until you have to walk through air. You showed him that the world could fall out from under him if he does not appreciate it. ... (read in full...)
Does anybody know about being a military wife??
Q. Does anybody know about being a military wife??...
A. 13 October 2006: No I personally have not been one.
You move a lot...you live in base housing which is sometimes great...and sometimes shabby. There is a huge amount of political crap among the wives..whose husband is what rank and any officers wife that rank... (read in full...)
This girl has a BF but she sleeps with me and tells me she loves me!
Q. I love this girl who says that she loves me but she has a boyfriend. She says that she loves him too but why would she say that she loves me as well? We've had sex already and that makes me believe that she loves me but then again why is she stil...
A. 13 October 2006: Well its sad but she could love you very much and STILL love her boyfriend more. She is new at this game too...and it takes a while to work out all the kinks...
If you feel she must love you to have sex....then you did the right thing.
or lo... (read in full...)
He cheated with his ex, but I gave him a 2nd chance. But now he's left me! What can I do?
Q. ok. So I was going out w/ my boyfriend for almost 5 months. And everything was going GREAT up until like 2 months ago when he cheated on me w/ his ex that he went out w/ for 6 1/2 years. He came to me about it right away and was crying on the ...
A. 13 October 2006: Well things will not be exactly like they were when you first went out. Not ever. now you have hurt and baggage.
Don't Cut. It may be what ran him away. I had a friend in college who did that and I found it to be damned scary. Then a boyf... (read in full...)
My fiancee doesnt care if we have sex or not! I do! What can I do about it before we marry ?
Q. hi my fiance and i have a great relantionship but when it comes to sex he doesn't care if it happens or not. i've tried new things but nothing gets him going. i've told him how i feel and he just laughs it off and calls me a horn dog. what can i do ...
A. 13 October 2006: Well...honestly....I went through a couple engagements because way back then I was pretty embarrassed about How much sex I wanted when all my friends could take it or leave it..
And when the gent looked at me and said "Is that all you think abou... (read in full...)
The masturbation equation
Q. Ladies. do all women masturbate and do you like it when men masturbate?...
A. 13 October 2006: Well I am all for watching guys masterbate...and YOU BET YOUR Weenie I Do...
Any woman who is to shy to masterbate....has no hope of telling a man what makes her make critter noises...Hope he reads minds well.
I do it in front of my partners... (read in full...)
What does anal sex feel like?
Q. Is anal sex sore? What does it feel like? Any tips...
A. 13 October 2006: R O F L M A O!!!!!!!
yep...pretty much what she said........... (read in full...)
We have a big difference in our financial positions...how can I talk to her about this getting rid of any doubts regarding my motives and intentions??
Q. I have for some time been corresponding on line with a mature divorced woman. We seem to havea real rapport and interest in each other, tho' we have a way to go. I like this person a great deal and it is important to me to be open and hon...
A. 13 October 2006: Has she expressed doubts? If she has not expressed doubts why would it cause you anxiety?
Honesty is best...Always. (except when she asks if something makes her butt look fat...then the answer IS ALWAYS NO..you look amazing. not fine...not ok. ... (read in full...)
Do men generally wear engagement rings?
Q. Is it true that men don't usually wear their engagement rings? ...
A. 13 October 2006: Ummm I never bought an engagement ring for a guy.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to get married again, I've been there twice. What do you think?
Q. I am 48 years old, divorced twice, single since 1990. I have been dating a man for 13 years now, I fell deeply in love with this man from early in the relationship. He is divorced after a 28 year marriage. He and I get along great together and talk ...
A. 13 October 2006: Better start planning...whoooo Hoooooo congratulations once again.... (read in full...)
Heartbroken over my husband's use of pornography! I don't want to live like this forever! What can I do?
Q. hello i am heartbroken with a spouse who i love dearly and don't want to leave! we have 2 kids. My realationship is tainted with his use of porno videos and using the internet, i have explained to him how i feel also telling him i don't want to live ...
A. 12 October 2006: Ok I need more info. Exactly what is your objection to porn. Is it just a religious thing? Is it something that your mom would not approve of so He can't like it? Is it that you are too shy to see a naked body? You can't compete with silicone? ... (read in full...)
My married man has not called me yet?? I'm so confused!
Q. well i started talking to a work man, he asked for my email i gave it him ,then couple days later asked for my phone number, then i didnt see him for 4 days wen i did he said ill be getting phone weekend ill phone u,but still nothing after,5 days he ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well I am really sorry your connfussed. But I am confused about what you want to know. He's married. All you want from this man is sex right...because that is all your going to get. As long as you understand that from the beginning and don't turn ... (read in full...)
Family divided, please help me. I feel like it is all my fault.
Q. My family has been torn apart and things get worse every day. I married a beautiful girl in 1998 and we had a daughter in 1999. We now have 3 children. Around this time, my sister (K) met her boyfriend (M). When they would argue, he would say things ...
A. 12 October 2006: But your response to your WIFE is yelling back...and fighting. What are you arguing about. She says your are a selfish pig who cheated on her heart...YOU SAY.
a. I understand why it hurt you so deeply and I wish i could take that hurt away for ... (read in full...)
My husband has told me that he no longer finds my body attractive since having our babies. Help!
Q. My husband has told me that he no longer finds my body attractive since having our babies. Its not a weight issue or anything but about scars and sagging that the dr said cant be changed except with cosmetic surgery. I try everything I can to look ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well...some men are asses...they are selfish little babies...its best to discover this before you marry them...and way before you have a baby....cause now you have two children to raise. (and I went thru it with my husband...who I love dearly...but ... (read in full...)
Do men actually end a relationship now or do they just let it fizzle out until we get the message??
Q. Hi. I'm just interested to find out if my experiences are typical of relationships nowadays or if i've just been unlucky. I was married at 20 and had only ever had one boyfriend before so I've never done the dating thing. I am recently divorce...
A. 12 October 2006: No...it is normal. Lots of guys are chickens and they don't have the cahonies to say..."thanks for a nice time but I don't feel much of a spark." Because quite frankly...its kind of nice to have some girl testing them that they can roll their eyes ... (read in full...)
Family divided, please help me. I feel like it is all my fault.
Q. My family has been torn apart and things get worse every day. I married a beautiful girl in 1998 and we had a daughter in 1999. We now have 3 children. Around this time, my sister (K) met her boyfriend (M). When they would argue, he would say things ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well first of all....How have you failed?
Tears are not pretty but sometime you can't help it. Try learning to meditate...Oh and that means with instructions...not suddenly deciding to sit cross legged and then giving up after two minutes. You ... (read in full...)
He got drunk and went to a brothel! He's now so sorry. Am I being stupid to stay?
Q. my partner of 5years and a brillant and trusting relationship went out got drunk with his friends and ended up paying for sex in a brothel. he is sorry and knows how much hurt hes caused. am i being stronge by working at the relationship as i love ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well....he was drunk and relying on his looser buds to protect him from screwing himself...or in his case...paying to screw himself. They let him down...he let you down. I would totally not make a big deal of this. He did not plan it...lie about ... (read in full...)
So unhappy in my marriage! And now he's working 2 jobs to help financially! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my husband for 10 years, married 5 yrs. We have 2 kids together. But I am so unhappy in my marriage its like I put his feelings into consideration but he doesn't mine. He is so selfish. His mom comes before me, also out of the 10 ...
A. 12 October 2006: well in your heart you already know the answer. Get out of debt if possible then get out....or just cut your losses and say whoa...you have had enough. Yet...he's working two jobs now...at least hes trying. It Is up to you. Kid bring a whole new ... (read in full...)
How do men get free sex without having to pay for it?
Q. Hi!, i need to ask a question that eveyone escapes from or ignores, without being offensive. How do men get free sex without having to pay for it. More and more men are struggling to get free sex. Its a growing problem that needs to be solved, its ...
A. 12 October 2006: Oh and critters pay for sex by fighting to the death to win the female.
Now any you fellers wannna fight ter the death fer me...Ill have sex with the winner. Course He might have to fight one of the dominate males of this here household. But ... (read in full...)
This guy wants me to work off my debt with sex. Why am I allowing this?
Q. **Hey Cupid's** Am I slut? I don't want to think I am. I can justify myself. There is this guy who has lust me for quiet a while, at least 2 years. He's been very close to me, friend wise. I have told him everything and I confide in him. At the m...
A. 12 October 2006: Well I guess your could be a slut....but sluts do it for free and with lots of Men because they LIKE to. I am a slut.
A whore does it for money...but now if you have to pay him back too...then sex is just the interest and the balance is still paya... (read in full...)
Poor Ratings Query
Q. Can anyone tell me why I have such poor ratings?? I thought I was giving good advice. Please answer....
A. 12 October 2006: Hey my ratings were great.... but I got really busy and did not get on here for a long time then I poped back in and they kinda sucked...I had not given any new advice so why would the rating go down? I dont know and i sure don't care...Tell them ... (read in full...)
He stayed at her house and his excuses were pretty weak. What's he really up to..any advice?
Q. Need advice. Don't know if I am being cheated on, or if I am just in denial of the whole situation. My man and I have been together for over 3 years. We got pregnant early on in the relationship and unfortunately our daughter was stillborn at 36 ...
A. 12 October 2006: Ummm baby girl that man is her man now and good riddance. whew aren't you glad you found this out...now you are free to find you a man who wants what you do and not his cell phone bimbo. She said to leave her alone...Because He told her ... (read in full...)
Give him a second chance or forget it and move on ?
Q. My boyfriend and i been together for 9 yrs and he cheated on me and i found out and he never denied it, we broke up, he came back and asked for forgiveness and he want me to move back in with him and our child. part of me want to move in with him ...
A. 12 October 2006: Nope...once a cheat can learn his lesson that cheating IS Nothing...and not worth loosing you for.
10 times a cheat....even 3 or 4...always a cheat. Then it is a problem that either must be fixed or accepted. Anyone can have an whoops...even thos... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to get married again, I've been there twice. What do you think?
Q. I am 48 years old, divorced twice, single since 1990. I have been dating a man for 13 years now, I fell deeply in love with this man from early in the relationship. He is divorced after a 28 year marriage. He and I get along great together and talk ...
A. 12 October 2006: I think you have Dated long enough. Congratulations he sounds wonderful. And I bet he's aware of the girls and has factored them into his world too....He was married a loooooong time...not like he's offering to make you number 16 he thinks...grin. ... (read in full...)
How do men get free sex without having to pay for it?
Q. Hi!, i need to ask a question that eveyone escapes from or ignores, without being offensive. How do men get free sex without having to pay for it. More and more men are struggling to get free sex. Its a growing problem that needs to be solved, its ...
A. 12 October 2006: Y sugar...free sex is easy to get....you can have two at once if you want....your left hand and your right hand....that would be Rosie Palm and her five sisters and her cousin Leftia and her five sisters....Oh yeah...thats 12 at once. wow you stud ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my bf feel anything during sex with me? What can I do to help him?
Q. WHY DOESNT MY BOYFRIEND FEEL ANYTHING DURING SEX? I have had sex with my boyfriend and my bf is above average in length and girth...I finish at the least 15-20 times before he even gets done. He has to masturbate to finish and i asked him why he...
A. 12 October 2006: Well not to be blunt but could his condom be too tight. My boyfriend Is ummm....larger than I would normally be inclined to take on.....and then some. (love conquers a lot) and he can not use regular condoms. They make larger ones and they work ... (read in full...)
What does not being "in touch" indicate?
Q. If a person that you have a relationship with, apologises for not being "in touch" and the reason is that they have been absolutely swamped at work. Does this mean that they are not interested in you anyomore or do not want to speak to you for some ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well it depends on what he does too. I mean those in the medical field DO loose track of days...as well as cops, lawyers, firemen, truck drivers and those who have seasonal times like Tax men in april. Also he may have had another quick little ... (read in full...)
He wouldn't take NO for an answer..was this a form of abuse or was he just pushing his luck?
Q. hi, I'll get straight 2 the point, when I was eighteen i was in a relationship with this guy who was really bad at taking no 4 an answer (he would carry on at me til i gave in cause i wanted 2 go 2 sleep or stop being kept on at) and he would do ...
A. 12 October 2006: Well if your still a virgin at 21 then evidently He DID stop...so he did not Do whatever he wanted. He stopped. He did not rape you or hold you down and force you...and he did not Have sex with you after you said no...thus you are still a virgin. ... (read in full...)
Have I made the right decision in staying with my husband and remaining loyal? I cannot get my true love out of my head.
Q. I have been married for 11 years to my husband N and have two kids aged 6 and 10. My husband and I had a communication breakdown some time ago and I felt very alone and isolated by him and our sex life was for some years practically non existant. ...
A. 11 October 2006: Wow....Hubby's little flaws are pretty significant. And a few weeks of effort IS NOT worth years of what you have dealt with. But, see...You made all the moves....You won him...You pushed HIM. You wanted Kids....he had no need to put any effort ... (read in full...)
I am in love with a boy, but he hits me and spits in my face.
Q. i am a teen and i am really in love with a boy, i have performed oral sex with him and he has done things to me but after it he says he doesnt fancy me anymore !! when we was alone he said he only said he didnt fancy him because i annoyed him. so i ...
A. 11 October 2006: Sweetheart....you are not in love with him and he is an ass. To him you are little more than an easy bit of flesh to jerk off on. Don't cry or ever speak to him again no matter what he says to you. From this moment forward he does not exist. You ... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 11 October 2006: While sarcasm is most definitely one of my blatant flaws it is sarcasm with a point and with Humor not anger. I did not mean to infer that you should attempt to be superwoman. My friends situation was meant to show you that no matter how bad you ... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 11 October 2006: Ok...where i got it from was your second post...."He spends most of his time on the golf course in Spain."
and NO I am not missing the point...you have a lot of excuses for your children...and you seem to feel I am attacking you...when all I was ... (read in full...)
His ex gf claims to be pregnant with my bf's child! She only did this because she hates me..what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half we have a 8month year old son. Hes 36 and im 22, I love him dearly he has an ex girl friend (10 year relat) that harrasses him all day long stalks him and unfortunately he cant shake her off no ...
A. 11 October 2006: No dear...She SLEPT with him to get at you. If there has been a little business partner conceived...that is just a bonus for her. You have a child with this man and he's slipping it to his Ex????....either learn to live with her...or dump him ... (read in full...)
We were long distance for 6 years, why did he continue to live with his wife but claim to love me ?
Q. hi..i am a 27 year old female, was living in a long distance relationship with a man, 33 now, for 6 years.can someone plse help me understand why cant a married man, who claims that he loves someone else yet continue to live with his wife ( married ...
A. 11 October 2006: Six years...wow...time flies.
Married men were always an attraction for me...BECAUSE I Knew they would never leave their wives. I got to play with them then they left me the heck alone...no laundry, no kids, no credit card bills with strange purc... (read in full...)
Married with kids but not sure I love him... don't even want to hug or kiss him...
Q. I dont know if i love my husband anymore we have been married 7 years and have 2 children 1 age 4 and 1 age 3 I dont even want to kiss him or hug him but I am indecisive because this happens after a few years of being with someone and I dont want to ...
A. 11 October 2006: Good morning...welcome to the 7 year itch. Many people ask what on earth that is...but it is hard to explain until it has hit you. And though you are right on time...it can happen ANY year of marriage.
Also factor in you have TWO todd... (read in full...)
His ex wife can't get over the split from my bf and calls him constantly. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend's ex-wife calls him constantly! They have no kids together, no property. He gave her $30K to move. She now lives in GA. We are in FL. We are planning to move in together. She cannot get over him and calls his cell 3x a day (sometimes ...
A. 11 October 2006: Yes, you need help. You need to take a deep breath and think about the fact that you have him and she does not. They were Married....not just living together....she has a million little things that need to be worked out..taxes, bills, her heart. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love one's 2nd wife more than the 1st wife?
Q. DO YOU think it is possible to love your second wife more than your 1st wife...
A. 11 October 2006: Of course it is possible. But to be loved is the greatest gift and trying to compete or measure it is crazy. It spoils the gift for you because you are always trying to guess. If you can't get over his past or his future...you need to make a ... (read in full...)
After losing my virginity, I am still sore. Please help!
Q. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend 2 days ago, but it still hurts down there is this normal and next time we have sex is there a way we can make it hurt less? help please!...
A. 10 October 2006: It is normal, the first time can vary from a little painful to quite painful. It depends on how large your boyfriend is and how gentle it was, duration and even wheater or not you have used tampons. now you can use some witch hazel on any sore ... (read in full...)
What does anal sex feel like?
Q. Is anal sex sore? What does it feel like? Any tips...
A. 10 October 2006: Well this is truly where size matters....smaller men win on this count. Big guys have a hard time finding anyone willing because the bigger they are the more the stretch and the more it hurts. You will find it more pleasurable if you use a ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and in love with a 43 year old.
Q. i am 13 i am in love with a 43 year old we are getting on well we have been in a relationship for ten months i have asked him too always be honest with me and he is. to day he told me that he is in love with a woman 50000 miles away but he says ...
A. 10 October 2006: Ok..everybody else has chimed in. I don't dissaggree with leave right now...I will say that if you are absolutely sure you love this man...and yes...30 years diffrence love affairs do take place....make a pact to see each other when you turn 18 or ... (read in full...)
Our babyis to be born in March and he left me with no explanantion! What do I do now??
Q. my partner has just left me with no explanation we had a fall out but usually make up but this time he would not speak to me and avoided coming home when i was in. we are exprcting a baby in march and he wont speak to me or contact me not even about ...
A. 10 October 2006: when we are pregnant we think we are the only one in the world....we forget that HE is also dealing with the issues of fatherhood....responsibility....manhood.....
Sex is easy....but all the stuff that comes with it is hard...welcome to why your... (read in full...)
What is True Love
Q. My question is short but complex...What is True Love? How do you know you've found it? ...
A. 10 October 2006: Its actually as simple as the question.
True love is when you know exactly all the bad stuff about them and love them anyway enough to help them date and marry your best friend if that is who makes THEM happy.
True love is a quiet knowledg... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 10 October 2006: No, You did not make the facts clear. You asked how to make sure you were ok financially and explained that your Ex gave you money for a house and was going to spilt his retirement with you...and your children lived with him.
Now I have your dand... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 10 October 2006: So you don't want your husband or kids....Just their money so you don't have to worry about life? Who will benefit if he died tomorrow...your children...yet your really only worried about getting money to support you and your new guy...even if he ... (read in full...)
Have I made the right decision in staying with my husband and remaining loyal? I cannot get my true love out of my head.
Q. I have been married for 11 years to my husband N and have two kids aged 6 and 10. My husband and I had a communication breakdown some time ago and I felt very alone and isolated by him and our sex life was for some years practically non existant. ...
A. 10 October 2006: Well...you have stayed with your husband....but your are not exactly remaining loyal. Your wishing for someone else and your husband is trying to live up to the other dream guy...and your really not giving him much of a chance. Have you made the ... (read in full...)
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