I do not want my difficult Mother-in-Law to move in with us!
Q. Please bare with me, as this might get long and thank you in advance for reading. My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year, and have a great relationship.one pertinent piece of information is that I have lupus, which for those who ...
A. 15 June 2011: You need to work this one out with your boyfriend I think. If it is his house then I guess ultimately he gets to decide who does and doesn't live there. I appreciate it is very difficult for you as you have an established way of live with your bf ... (read in full...)
Ex and I had sex, he did not try to avoid pregnancy, what does this mean?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend broke up a year and a half ago. He contacted me and wanted to explain why things happened the way they did back then. long story short, He chose to try to make things work with his son mother and it backfired. They have been ...
A. 15 June 2011: Are you on any form of contraception yourself?
If not my advice would be to take a pregnancy test, and also as you chose not to use a condom get checked out for STDs.
When you have the results of those you will be able to make some decisions. ... (read in full...)
Teacher added everyone but me on Facebook
Q. Hi, my name is Rach and I'm 14 years old... thing is, I have a really huge crush on this teacher and yes, signs are there that he likes me back. Every time I'm near him I catch him looking at me, and there was once my two friends confronted him and ...
A. 14 June 2011: My guess is that he knows you like him in a "romantic" way. As a result I think perhaps he didn't want to be your friend because he doesn't want to encourage you. Just try not to think about it- he's only your teacher, not a friend. Persevere with... (read in full...)
How do I get through the next 3 months?
Q. Hey all, i really need some advice, my partner of 4 and a half months left 2 days ago to stay with his father for 3 months to work.(were both 21 by the way) me and him are used to the distance as we live 85 miles apart as it is and go anything...
A. 11 June 2011: Can your bf go to an internet cafe or library or something at an agreed time so you could have a chat and a catch up on skype? ... (read in full...)
I was dismissed on my placement for being to sensitive and upset!
Q. Is it discrimination if you get fired from a job or a placement because of being too sensitive and getting upset easily? I was on a work placement, which was voluntary, as I was put on it through a training course i am on to help get me back into ...
A. 10 June 2011: "I got really upset and had an outburst. I went mad and said that I was going to call my advisor on the training course and said that I had had enough."
I think this is the key. If you told her that you had had enough then maybe she took you for ... (read in full...)
Holiday together or separately, your thoughts please?
Q. OK. So my bf and I have taken two weeks off annual leave in the summer, August. He is fiercely independent and I always go for these types so I must like it. I couldn’t bear a guy who was needy. Anyway, we recently spent two whole weekends ...
A. 10 June 2011: I think going away separately can be a great idea. My OH and I don't always share the same interests on what we like to do, which on a holiday can get annoying. It never seems like we have enough time off anyway, and therefore I always think it's ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be a housewife, but I want a career in medicine! What should I do?
Q. Me and my bf love each other very much. He is two years older than me and is pursuing a job now. I am a medical student. These days we were talking about our marriage when one day he said after our marriage i'l have to take the whole responsibility ...
A. 10 June 2011: In my opinion you should not sacrifice your dreams and career, especially as you are so young, and clearly intelligent if you are a medical student. If someone really respects you and what you want to do then they will want to make sure you are ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my job, but I'm worried that because my co-worker is pregnant she will be off sick and the company wont have anyone to cover for us....
Q. I have been an admin assistant at a job for four years. It is basically me and my coworker doing alot of tedious things. I have been trying to leave for awhile now. My coworker recently told me she is pregnant. It was sort of the final push for m...
A. 9 June 2011: Don't worry about the company, you need to do what's right for you. They can easily get a temp in or train someone else if need be. That's their responsibility not yours, so don't let that influence your decision. You have to decide what it is that ... (read in full...)
Who's in charge of the baby, me or my parents?
Q. I'm 16 years old and have a 2 month old son, me and his father are still together. My parents act like the baby is theirs and like they can make decisions that pertain to him. I'm very responsible and I do everything for my son, my boyfriend (his ...
A. 9 June 2011: What exactly do you mean when you say your bf supports you? Do you mean emotionally or financially or both? And to what extent, eg. if he supports you financially do you mean he pays for the roof over your head, your food, bills and transport, or ... (read in full...)
So Many Messed Up Things About this Relationship. Please can I have some ideas on how to get over this?
Q. Hello all, I just broke up with my 17 yr old girlfriend. thats right, 17. I know most of you probably think im a scumbag but please hear me out. I dropped out of college in my junior year and moved to the east coast from way out west, and lets jus...
A. 8 June 2011: From your post it sounds to me like your pride has been seriously dented by being dumped by this "effing little girl" as you so eloquently choose to call her. From the tone of the post I can quite understand why she probably felt that you made her ... (read in full...)
I saw my boyfriend kiss another girl!
Q. i saw my bf kiss another girl but he conntinues to kiss and hug he, but im not sure what i should do because i know he loves me but after i saw that im now not so sure. we have been going out for 3 years and he made me wear a promise ring that i ...
A. 8 June 2011: Leave him. He's cheated on you and clearly thinks he can get away with it. I would question how much he actually loves you if he has been kissing another woman. ... (read in full...)
I don't need Viagra but I want to try it, would anything bad happen?
Q. hey everyone..im just thinking about taking a viagra once..just for fun and see how it feels lol. i never had problems with my sex life but i just want to take a pill and see how it feels..but im worried about what could happen to me after i take ...
A. 7 June 2011: Isn't priapism a potential side-effect of this? That is actually a dangerous and also painful condition which you do not want to end up with. I'm sure google will offer you plenty of information on this which you can digest at your leisure.
Even ... (read in full...)
It's like I'm allergic to my girlfriend! Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Or does anyone have any advice?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts I wonder if you could help me please, I’m so confused and upset over what’s going on. Before I go into detail I hope the following background to me/situation may help. I have two very stressful roles that are high profile and ...
A. 7 June 2011: OP I think you are suffering from anxiety problems. I have also had similar things in the past, which have also manifested with stomach problems and sickness. I think it is quite common. I also know how annoying it can be, and also that it can turn ... (read in full...)
Does all of this sound reasonable? I no longer know what's right or not....
Q. I have a few questions: Whenever we argue, my boyfriend refuses to make up. When I offer affection, he refuses it. He says that offering affection doesn't change anything and in fact makes him angry because it's a sham - i.e., affection doesn'...
A. 7 June 2011: This man seems to have complete control over you. Moreover his behaviour is completely unreasonable. I for one do not think his behaviour is normal. "Making up time" by chores or sexual favours is humiliating and disgusting.
Don't let your bf ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to lose weight and have no support from my family
Q. My mother has battled with her weight for as along as I can remember ( am now 20) she has been using weight watchers and has lost over 4stone over about three years. I am one of her three daughters and the youngest and recently had to move home , as ...
A. 6 June 2011: OP you don't need to join a gym or go to Weightwatchers if you really are that motivated to lose weight. Why don't you start running, or even just going for brisk regular walks? This doesn't need to cost anything, and will also have the benefit of ... (read in full...)
Do you think its ok to have a couple's profile on Facebook and for me and my BF to share it together?
Q. My boyfriend made the suggestion last night that we delete both of our facebook profiles and create a new one that is a couples profile and share it together that way the people that add us or that are real true friends will not have a problem ...
A. 2 June 2011: I don't think it's a good idea to delete your personal profile and only have a shared one. I appreciate that you are close to your partner but that doesn't mean you can't have an independent profile on there. Nor does having an independent profile ... (read in full...)
She refused to shave after eveything I do for her...
Q. Dear fellow readers, I have found myself stuck in a very fragile situation and I am in need of some serious, thought out advice. I am 16 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and I have hit a brick wall. A few weeks ago I ask her to ...
A. 19 May 2011: Sorry Josh, you completely mishandled this. This bit of your post made me most sad/annoyed: "and told her the next time we do sexual things is when I think she deserves it" I know you say you don't have life experience, but surely even you ... (read in full...)
Should I complain about my treatment in the store?
Q. Hey guys. This is not a relationship question, but more a question for your view point. Im 18 years of age, and suffering from a condition that my doctor is not quite certain of yet. I also have crohns disease. My condition is something to do ...
A. 16 May 2011: Firstly you need to ask yourself what you hope to gain from making a complaint.
My gut instinct tells me that you shouldn't bother complaining, at least, not until you have a clear outcome which you hope to gain from doing so. It just strikes ... (read in full...)
He's awesome. But Why doesn't my boyfriend want to come to my graduation?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been dating an awesome guy for a couple of months now...we met through mutual friends and began working together, after which we became closer and realized how much we have in common (similar educational background, same musical ...
A. 10 May 2011: I understand that you would like him to come, however, he has made it clear that he doesn't want to. I know it does seem a bit strange, however I think you should respect his decision. You've only been together for a couple of months as well, so ... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 5 May 2011: Oh I remembered another one.... I quite often hear people say "tret" instead of "treated", eg. "She tret him really badly." Not good. ... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 5 May 2011: Excellent post! I have two particular issues which drive me crazy 1) Sometimes people seem to use "brought" instead of "bought", which is just wrong. 2) You sometimes hear people saying "lend" instead of borrow, eg. "Can I have a lend of you... (read in full...)
He wants me to be one of those women who cleans the house and have dinner ready for their husbands; but I have a full job with a lot of stress and responsibilities.
Q. My relationship is going downfall. My bf and I don't get along. We disagree on pretty much everything. He is conservative, I am liberal, he plans everything, I live by the moment, he likes to eat at home, I like to eat out, he watches reality ...
A. 5 May 2011: 33 is young; you've also got a good career and are happy to be independent. You don't need to rely on this man.
You've got loads going for you. Don't ignore your feelings or push them aside because you are worried about being single. If you're n... (read in full...)
Would you be so kind as to comment on my poem?
Q. I'm entering a poetry contest can peeps tell me what thy think bout this poem thanks xx to be with you is all i desire, with out you my hearts on fire, my hearts in pain ,bleeding,aching for you, only in my dreams u luv me 2 . m battling ...
A. 3 May 2011: OP don't be shy! There's no need to be at all. Some of the most beautiful poetry ever written is love poetry. It's also a really good way to express your feelings. You've already been given some good tips here re. structure, grammar etc. I wo... (read in full...)
Fiance won't get rid of pictures of his ex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, he recently proposed and I said yes. Only problem is he won't get rid of pictures of him and his ex girlfriend. They had many issues, he said they would break up and get back together, ...
A. 3 May 2011: No. Having photos of your past has nothing to do with how much you love a current partner. I don't see how the two are related, except that you want him to throw them out. In this case the real question is: Wouldn't he just do what I wan... (read in full...)
Am I wrong? Or can it be as black and white as this?
Q. I've been thinking about this for a while and I think I finally have my answer. Tell me if you think I'm wrong. (or right? LOL) If a man knows that his porn viewing is hurting his girl, and he continues to do it, doesn't that mean he doesn't ...
A. 3 May 2011: Can the (subconscious) brain tell the different between masturbation with no porn involved and sex? Based on what you have argued person12345 I would think not. Therefore what's your view on masturbation?... (read in full...)
Am I wrong? Or can it be as black and white as this?
Q. I've been thinking about this for a while and I think I finally have my answer. Tell me if you think I'm wrong. (or right? LOL) If a man knows that his porn viewing is hurting his girl, and he continues to do it, doesn't that mean he doesn't ...
A. 2 May 2011: OP this is a very interesting debate and I can see the arguments on each side.
I just want to ask a question; would you have a problem with your bf masturbating to pictures which weren't pornographic, or just by imagining whatever fantasie... (read in full...)
I don't have any friends!
Q. This may sound a bit pathetic to people reading this but I don't have any friends. I live at home, with my sick mother and so don't have housemates to hang out with. I have tried to go to social events with different interest groups, etc b...
A. 1 May 2011: Hi OP I am sorry to hear about your situation. Caring is a very demanding experience both mentally and physically. It is important for you to find some friends to be able to relax with when you have the time. You've already had a lot of good advice h... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 30 April 2011: My advice to you would really echo what has already been said. Definitely continue with the therapy; I do find it hard to believe that this issue alone has led to you having suicidal thoughts, and that there are not other factors. Secondly, I ... (read in full...)
Heroin use during first 3 months of pregnancy... Should I abort?
Q. I am 9 weeks pregnant (my first time ever, and it was unplanned), and I have an abortion scheduled for 5 days from now. Up until today, I was positive I was not going to continue with the pregnancy and was for sure going to get an abortion. Because ...
A. 22 April 2011: Hi OP I cannot tell you about the possible defects which might be caused by heroin use in pregnancy. You need to seek a medical opinion for that, although there is plenty of info on the internet. I would question, however, whether if yo... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless marriage..........
Q. Hi-i need advice, please help!I have been with the same girl for 10 years, married for 2. It was a mistake, we are friends nothing more. 18 months ago I tried to leave, she was devistated. We had 'goodbye' sex and she fell pregnant. I agreed to ...
A. 18 April 2011: OP your no. 1 priority has to be your baby. You know that already. You have to weigh up what is best for the baby.
My opinion, and of course that is all it is, is that, as long as you can maintain access- which ought not to be a problem but you ... (read in full...)
Family first? Or the love of my life?
Q. Hey everyone, ok I need some help I'm in a really sticky situation right now! So here it goes, I've been with this. Guy for nearly a year now we work together everyday and always have eachothers company, however we broke up for a month because he ...
A. 18 April 2011: Thanks for your update OP. Re-reading my post I'm sorry if it came across as a bit harsh....it wasn't intended to be, but as with a lot of queries on here it's always easier to see a solution as an outsider than when you are involved. Part of the ... (read in full...)
Family first? Or the love of my life?
Q. Hey everyone, ok I need some help I'm in a really sticky situation right now! So here it goes, I've been with this. Guy for nearly a year now we work together everyday and always have eachothers company, however we broke up for a month because he ...
A. 17 April 2011: You're doing the wrong thing. What sort of loving boyfriend would have a problem with their gf going home to visit their family at a time when they need them. This man sounds incredibly controlling- he doesn't even like you going to Tesco? Th... (read in full...)
My sister just walked in on me wanking & I think I'm going to die of embarrassment!!!
Q. Well no easy way to ask this so i'm just gonna blurt it out. My sister just walked in on me wanking and i think i'm going to die from embrassment. This is so much worse than i could imagine. What do i do? Do i say anything to her? Or do i treat it ...
A. 16 April 2011: OP I've got to ask, what do you mean by "...then I finished with the icing on the cake..."? Well done though, you've handled it really well. Your sister is probably more embarrassed now as she has also got caught looking at porn. Litt... (read in full...)
My GF has severe trust issues, she starts to restrict me from whoever she considers a threat, and impulsively dumps me over these issues!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year and a half, and were really great together. Recently she says she cant trust me, when i have never done anything to ever make her not trust me. About a month ago i went home for a few days and...
A. 16 April 2011: To be honest I think you should dump her. It isn't your place to have to get her to work through this. Her behaviour is unreasonable to say the least; the really sad part is that she wanted to stop you doing stuff with your family because you should ... (read in full...)
What do I do next? He treats me like a kid, not his GF. I turn off when he speaks badly to me.
Q. Hey guys, well i am still with my ex, we broke up but he said he would try for our relationship, if you read my other question.....well things are going better, but he still treats me like a kid. He never ever talks to me like a adult. i had too ge...
A. 16 April 2011: OP as far as I can see you have three options. 1)Talk to him and tell him how you are unhappy with how he behaves towards you. Hope for the best and see if he changes. 2)As he has treated you this way before expect that he is not going to c... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling so upset and anxious about his dirty texts to another girl?
Q. Hey readers, I need some help to stop hurting about my bf sending dirty/sex texts to another girl. We've been together 7 months, and everything has been really great, including our sex life. He went through a rough patch at work, working long ...
A. 15 April 2011: To be honest I don't know if I would get over this myself. You are completely right that you feeling upset over this is nothing to do with what your ex did. Plus, I simply do not believe that you bf didn't realise it was hurtful or disrespectful. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend to move with my family?
Q. My parents are on about moving to Devon and wanting me to come with them, as my mum has said she wont move unless I go with her, however I recently got back with my ex boyfriend I know we haven't been out for long but it feels like forever and at ...
A. 15 April 2011: This is a difficult one.
I've got a few questions for you; are you planning on going to uni in the next few years or so? Is your bf? I think this is an important factor to bear in mind, because if you bf moves to Devon with you and then you both... (read in full...)
What is your opinion of someone who has quite a few piercings on their body?
Q. I currently have my first and seconds (lobe piercings), and my helix done (upper ear cartilage piercing) and in my left ear first piercing (lobe), i have a 3mm fleshy (stretcher) And i want: -My thirds -My tongue -My nose -My belly ...
A. 15 April 2011: If you like piercings then that is your choice and people shouldn't judge you by the fact that you have them. As you say, you are a smart kid.
The fact is though, people probably will judge you. The thing about all these piercings is that they can... (read in full...)
Found Dad's history of porn on computer. Should I confront him or tell my mum?
Q. my mum and dad have been married for about 18 years and recently things have been a bit awkward. they have been arguing quite a bit and my mum even told me a few weeks ago that she was getting fed up of my dad because i was upset and said that i was ...
A. 14 April 2011: I don't think you should tell your mum because your parents' sex life is none of your business. You don't know the details of their relationship so I don't think you should try and get involved. I can't see any other outcome than making more trouble ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher just playing with me, flirting, or just likes me?
Q. There is this teacher in my school who is also a model and just 12 years older than me. Since the beginning of the year Ive have a big crush on him, but Im not sure if he likes me back. Anyway, Ive notice some uncommon behaviour when he is with me: ...
A. 14 April 2011: I think he's just a nice teacher.... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 14 April 2011: You could just tell her that it's not working any more. I think if you told her you don't want to go out any more because she's overweight that would be a major confidence wrecker and it also turns you into the villain of the peace. Don't mention ... (read in full...)
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