Can I get an IUD fitted regardless of being 19, childless and still a virgin?
Q. I'm 19 and thinking about contraception for the first time. Having done a fair amount of research on all types available, the (non-hormonal) IUD sounds the most appealing. I'm wondering if I could have one fitted though - am I too young? Some ...
A. 10 July 2011: Defo get a doctor's opinion. They will be able to advise you properly, especially as you note a bit of family medical history.
As for my experience I haven't had any adverse effects from being on the pill but everyone is different. The same goe... (read in full...)
Why would a man still enjoy watching porn if he was truly affected by a miscarriage?
Q. Hey, I'd like some advice on how to deal with my feelings of anger towards my bf who has been watching porn while i've been coping with a miscarriage. We've been together 9 months, and I know he's been watching porn occasionally (like one short ...
A. 10 July 2011: I'm sorry you are going through this OP
I personally think that this is down to the fact that men and women can react differently to sex, and as you yourself said, porn can be something men do jut for release. I sometimes think that for men sex ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law is too clingy towards my husband. What do I do?
Q. My question might sound weird, but the situtation that Im in is making me more and more anxious. So me and my husband have been married for a little over two years now. We have two beautiful children(ages 3 and 1)Our marriage itself has been ama...
A. 8 July 2011: There's already loads of good advice here but I'll just add my bit.
My brother and I are both adults, but whenever we are together we love to just joke around like when we were kids. Although he's younger than me he's nearly a foot taller now, and... (read in full...)
Will I end up lonely ? Should I lower my standards ?
Q. I think I am the most complicated person ever! I'm 25 but have been though more in my life them most people twice my age. Thing is I'm terribly lonely but I have huge issues that stop me finding anyone. I'm a lesbian, I'm more feminine then most ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hey OP
As the other aunts have said, you're NOT a misfit, and you should try not to worry about being a miserable old spinster because I don't believe that is going to happen.
You've already got lots of good advice here, but two things struc... (read in full...)
Is this pain from trying to get a finger in normal?
Q. right i'm 19 and still a virgin i have never been fingured ... i have been with this boy for almost a year now and i want to have sex with him so badly but i have tried to fingure my self but carnt as it gives me BAD pain it makes me feel like i ...
A. 7 July 2011: For a start, it doesn't matter what your friends think of you. Why would they know what you are going to the doctor for anyway? You can easily make up some sort of excuse if they have to know that you have a doctor's appt.
Secondly, the doctor w... (read in full...)
Is this pain from trying to get a finger in normal?
Q. right i'm 19 and still a virgin i have never been fingured ... i have been with this boy for almost a year now and i want to have sex with him so badly but i have tried to fingure my self but carnt as it gives me BAD pain it makes me feel like i ...
A. 7 July 2011: For a start, it doesn't matter what your friends think of you. Why would they know what you are going to the doctor for anyway? You can easily make up some sort of excuse if they have to know that you have a doctor's appt.
Secondly, the doctor w... (read in full...)
I don't want to lead him on. But does it sound like my teacher has feelings for me?
Q. Ok so there is a teacher at my school and I don't call people amazing unless they are, but he really is amazing. I do not have a crush on him or anything, I guess I see him as a friend. But people at school keep saying he has feelings for me and to ...
A. 7 July 2011: If he's not teaching you any more I don't think your "somewhat flirty" behaviour will make any difference as you won't be seeing him. Moreover he is an adult male teacher and I'm sure he sees this sort of behaviour all the time and is perfectly ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? Or should our anniversary mean more?
Q. It's our 2 year anniversary today and I must say, im disappointed with my bfs efforts. He knows I'm the romantic type and our first anniversary was so romantic, he took me to dinner, brought me two bracelets (one engraved) and we got matching ...
A. 7 July 2011: I would have thought that a collage of pictures which he made would count as something meaningful that you could keep and remember?
Did you make it clear in advance that you actually wanted to do something special on the anniversary? It doesn't ... (read in full...)
My fiance is demanding I have a DNA test, even though I only cheated once back in 2010!
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my fiance are expecting our 1st baby. He wants a DNA test, just because I messed around just 1 time and that was last year (2010)! IT'S A NEW YEAR! I mean, he's actually "insisting" that i get a DNA test... I just got pregnant...
A. 7 July 2011: I think it makes sense, to him at least, on the basis that you broke the bond of trust in your relationship. I appreciate that you are only five months pregnant, however perhaps he still feels that he cannot completely trust you and therefore in his ... (read in full...)
I know we're young, but I want a baby! Is this a good idea?
Q. im 16 and i want to have a baby me and my partner been together some years now and im ready to have a bby i know a baby comes with alot of expenses but we both are working and he's a senior and im a junior. and we have a lot of money saved up ...
A. 7 July 2011: When you've spent your money on an apartment, which you and your bf will of course need when you have the baby, how are you going to afford to bring up the child?... (read in full...)
Is this pain from trying to get a finger in normal?
Q. right i'm 19 and still a virgin i have never been fingured ... i have been with this boy for almost a year now and i want to have sex with him so badly but i have tried to fingure my self but carnt as it gives me BAD pain it makes me feel like i ...
A. 7 July 2011: I personally don't think this is normal. If you are in so much pain that you are in tears when trying to insert even half your own finger then I strongly suggest you see a doctor. They will be able to give you some proper qualified advice. Out of ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to break up with me or something?
Q. my boyfriend just started saying mean things to me like yea you could lose some weight, stop being so needy, etc. he stopped wanting to have sex with me and hardly touches me anymore. he keeps comparing me to his ex's and i don't like that. he ...
A. 7 July 2011: Whether he is trying to break up with you just being an idiot, surely you don't want to be in a relationship with this guy? If I were you I would take the initiative and end it with him. You don't need to put up with this sort of behaviour. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends have a problem with me and I don't know how to deal with it!
Q. My and my bf are about to buy a house together and he has just informed me that he does not think that some of his friends will come round as they have a problem with me. The reason being that a few times in the past I got really drunk and was out ...
A. 6 July 2011: Forgot to add that I imagine he mentioned it because he wants to find a resolution to the problem... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends have a problem with me and I don't know how to deal with it!
Q. My and my bf are about to buy a house together and he has just informed me that he does not think that some of his friends will come round as they have a problem with me. The reason being that a few times in the past I got really drunk and was out ...
A. 6 July 2011: I appreciate that you know you have changed, and also that you don't care about their opinion. That's fair enough. However, don't you think for your bf's sake that you could make an effort to let them know and maybe apologise. If they are mature ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that my ex-boyfriend is essentially my "muse" even though we've been broken up for a year?
Q. Hi all. So, I like to write poems, and sometimes I write to sort of have a release for my emotions. So sometimes I may feel a bit crappy about my ex-boyfriend, so I write poetry that kind of expresses how I feel. My question is, is it kind...
A. 6 July 2011: I don't think it's lame at all, however I would imagine that if he is in your thoughts on a regular basis it would make it much harder to move on from him. I would also say that if you are still writing about him for emotional release a year after ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends have a problem with me and I don't know how to deal with it!
Q. My and my bf are about to buy a house together and he has just informed me that he does not think that some of his friends will come round as they have a problem with me. The reason being that a few times in the past I got really drunk and was out ...
A. 6 July 2011: Is there any way you could apologise to the friends in question and let them know you've changed your drinking habits? Personally I know how annoying it is to have to deal with some who's had too much to drink and doesn't know how to behave, and I ... (read in full...)
Now he tells me he is 'too old' to have another child. It made me wonder whether I am okay with this
Q. Hi all I have a serious question and could do with some really good advice. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is quite a bit older at 45. We love each other very much, have a great friendship aswell as relationship. I know this man is the one I want to spend...
A. 5 July 2011: Talking about your son's reaction to a younger sibling, how does he get on with your boyfriend? Presumably if you were to have a baby with this man then he would take on the father role both to the new baby and your son if you are all living ... (read in full...)
Why do people dislike me? Is speaking your mind really that bad?
Q. This isn't a love/relationship question but I think this site is great and I go nowhere else for advice, so I hope there are people here who would take the time to read this and help me out. Okay, hi. I'm a 17 year old girl. I've never had proble...
A. 4 July 2011: Can you give us an example of when this has happened?... (read in full...)
She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?
Q. advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything...
A. 4 July 2011: Just keep doing what you are doing. Don't put any pressure on and be the best dad to your kids that you can be. Sounds like you are trying to have lots of involvement with them so that's great. Like everyone's said, she needs to build up trust and ... (read in full...)
If you are not beautiful? Beauty is so useless. Why do people give such a damn about it?
Q. I hate my body and can't accept it! let's just say that my body looks nothing like the 36-24-36 ideal of the media. And sure people say that it's the inside that matters but people are so hypocritical! Especially men! Because they say they want a ...
A. 4 July 2011: I'm afraid that to me your post isn't about beauty, it's all about the opening sentence.
"I hate my body and can't accept it!"
That's the problem. It's got nothing to do with society and its perception and value of beauty. Two things spring to... (read in full...)
Online Lesbian Stalker
Q. I met this chic in February while in a relationship with now ex. I met the chic from a site n wanted to get to know her, in a none sexual way. So we exchanged numbers and maybe within a week or so met. She seemed real cool. It was only 3mos later ...
A. 3 July 2011: How about removing your profile from that particular site?
Does she still call and text?... (read in full...)
Will going on the pill mean I will put on weight? Or should I see a gynacologist instead?
Q. i'm currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. he's the first boyfriend i've ever had and the first person iv'e had any sexual contact whatsoever with. I also recently lost my virginity to him as well, and he wore a condom both times we'v...
A. 30 June 2011: I don't know how the health system works where you are, but in the UK if you want to see agynaecologist (on the NHS), you have to go to your GP anyway and get a referral.
I also used to have painful, heavy and frequent periods until I started ... (read in full...)
Do you think that my teacher had deep feelings for me? Or some form of emotional connection?
Q. Hi there, Good God do I know you have all been asked this question millions of times. I know I should take my own advice and read the answers you have all written to similar questions to mine, but I guess it feels more personal when you reply t...
A. 29 June 2011: OP, I'm sorry if this comes across as a bit harsh, but I'm not going to mince my words here as being in the 18-21 age group you are an adult.
In spite of the length of your post- which is no bad thing by the way- I don't see anything in it to ma... (read in full...)
He is cheating on his new girlfriend with me, I just want him to hurry up and dump her so we can be back together again!
Q. Boyfriend and I just broke up about 2 months ago due to some just plain unfortunate stuff. Were living together over a year, dating quite a long time. Had to move out and to my mum's far away. Ended up leaving on good terms, and with mutual wants to ...
A. 29 June 2011: Sorry, but I just don't buy this bit
"He is just sort of stuck in the relationship for now because dumping her without any good explainable reason would risk him losing almost all of his friends."
or this bit
"He's also far too nice and ju... (read in full...)
What's the deal with guys and big boobs?
Q. What is it about big boobs that guys like so much? I have small breasts, small waist and a big, round butt! My friends tell me I have a great body and that I should be proud, but there's something I don't get. I don't seem to receive that much ...
A. 29 June 2011: In my experience clubs like that are something akin to a meat market. It's all about what is easily accessible and visually obvious.
I have to say, though, PLEASE don't judge yourself on the fact that some guys you meet in certain circumst... (read in full...)
My GF is spending time with her ex, how should I handle it?
Q. My girlfriend met up with her ex at Glastonbury! I am having a really hard time getting my head round this and am wondering if this is the beginning of the end. My girlfriend of nearly 5 months has an ex who she finished with in Sep 10 who ...
A. 29 June 2011: Caring Guy has said it all.
Don't let her treat you this way. You deserve better. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife hates me when there is nothing romantic about my relationship with her husband! What can I do?
Q. ok i have a male best friend i mean we are even closer then best friends more like brother and sister hes 9 years older then me. he calls himself my gaurdian angel and thats what he is. he helps me i help him. anyways hes married and has 2 kids. in ...
A. 28 June 2011: Thanks for the follow-up OP.
Sorry, one more question, do they pay you to look after the kids or do you do it for nothing?
... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife hates me when there is nothing romantic about my relationship with her husband! What can I do?
Q. ok i have a male best friend i mean we are even closer then best friends more like brother and sister hes 9 years older then me. he calls himself my gaurdian angel and thats what he is. he helps me i help him. anyways hes married and has 2 kids. in ...
A. 28 June 2011: There may be nothing between you and the husband, but don't you agree that it looks a bit odd for you to be staying over in her house when she is away on work?
Also, why do you say she gallavants off for days on end if she is on work trips? (... (read in full...)
Help needed with my sex phobia!
Q. hi please can you all help me, as much as avice as poss. im a lesbian but a virgin and im scared of having anything inside me but my girlfriend wants us to use sex toys. she does know how scared i am but this is something shes happy to wait until im ...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi OP
Thanks for your follow-up.
It seems to me that the fact you do not know why you are scared seems in itself a good reason to get counselling. There must be some reason, even if you do not know what it is. If you could get to the bottom of... (read in full...)
He has been cheating the entire time with a girl online! Should I break up with him? Or forgive him and trust that he wants me, not her?
Q. Totally shattered. Please read - I have been with my boyfriend since one year. All the relationships I've been in before, the guys cheated on me. I was emotionally vulnerable when I met my present boyfriend, we had common friends. Both of us a...
A. 24 June 2011: Just break up with him!
He has been cheating on you for your entire relationship. This shows he has no respect for you. It's disgraceful behaviour.
Show yourself some respect and please do not take him back. You can do so much better. Don't gi... (read in full...)
He didnt invite me to his sister's wedding, nor has he even told his family about me! Am I right to be upset?
Q. Would anyone on here be upset that your boyfriend hadnt asked you to his sisters wedding? Ive being going with this guy for the last 8 month. His sister gets married next weekend, he has talked about the wedding and the plans for it but never on...
A. 23 June 2011: It's a difficult one, to be honest. I think there are quite a lot of issues at play here, possibly inter-related. In no particular order, firstly, I would imagine the fact that you haven't been introduced to his family yet has quite a lot to do with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watches porn without me!
Q. When me and my boyfriend first met he didnt watch porn, but together we tried it a couple of times and then it stopped. but then i found out he had been watching it behind my back. at first i was mad but then i said it was ok with me but i wanted ...
A. 21 June 2011: Just a question, why is making you worried about him cheating on you in the future? Has he done so already in your relationship?... (read in full...)
I don't mind my BF having friends but I don't want him being friends with girls.
Q. Me and my current boyfrined have been togather over a year... in our first 4 months of datuing... he was cheating on me... We are over that now... but i dont let him talk and hang out with girls because i done want him to do it again, today he was ...
A. 21 June 2011: You clearly are not "over" him cheating on you or otherwise you wouldn't have any worries about him having other girls as friends. Moreover when you say you trust him but not the other girls, that also seems a bit silly. If you trust him then surely ... (read in full...)
Living in a foreign country and about to return home, my ex has asked if I can buy her some jewellery which she will pay for - shall I buy it? Should I tell my wife?
Q. Hi guys, I have been living in a foreign country for two years with my wife and plan to return to our home country soon. Yesterday, my ex surprised me with a call asking me to buy her some jewellery but made it very clear she would pay for it. I ...
A. 20 June 2011: If it's not a big deal then presumably your wife wouldn't have a problem with it? It's your wife you need to ask, not us really. If you feel that you can't tell/ask your wife then I would suggest that indicates underlying issues implying that buying ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to put their friend before their girlfriend sometimes?
Q. Hi. My question is quite a general one. I have noticed sometimes that my bf puts his friends/friend before me. Is this normal or is this a sign of immaturity? There is one friend in particular, typically I dont get on with him, there is no love los...
A. 20 June 2011: It is definitely not a sign of immaturity, especially if he only sees this friend once or twice a month. That is hardly demanding schedule.
On the contrary, I would argue that seeing friends and being able to balance friends and partner is a ver... (read in full...)
Will I be able to choose what contraceptive pill I go on when I visit the doctors?
Q. Hello all, just a small question here, I am going the doctors tomorrow to ask to go on the contraceptive pill, and I was wondering how it works.. Do I get a choice of which contraceptive pill I get to take? Or will they just prescribe me a certain ...
A. 20 June 2011: They will probably prescribe you what they feel is the best option, and then if you get any side-effects or problems you can go back and let them know. There are lots of different types so they will probably explain a bit about them to you. Unless ... (read in full...)
Where can I actually meet someone for potential dating?
Q. I've been single now for well over a year and while I am not miserable and moping about it (I am enjoying life as it is) I do really want to be dating and ideally meeting someone for another relationship (my previous lasted 8 years). Trouble is I ...
A. 20 June 2011: I would second travel as a good way to meet people. Being single also means that you are free to come and go as you please. Why don't you go on some sort of language course somewhere nice where you would like to visit- Spain or Italy would be my ... (read in full...)
Disappointed in engagement ring, am I being selfish?
Q. I'm interested in your opinions. My boyfriend was engaged before he met me. He bought her a very beautiful $7000 ring, for which he spent all his savings on. The relationship failed and she returned the ring. After us being together for ov...
A. 20 June 2011: I haven't read all the answers here so I post at the risk of repeating myself.
I personally think that if you are considering spending the rest of your life with this man and making the committment of marriage, then you should talk to him about th... (read in full...)
Is my mom being ridiculous or am I?
Q. My mom hasn't cooked dinner in over three months. If she does, its one day out of the week and the leftovers are expected to tide us over until she next cooks. Since she doesn't grocery shop often enough, I end up buying all my food or just not ...
A. 15 June 2011: Well the way to solve it is, since you are no longer a child, to move out and get your own place. Then you don't have to worry about your mum "pulling her weight" in "our" house.
I would remind you that, although you might happen to live there, i... (read in full...)
Still living with my ex, and have met someone new. Should I have sex with him? Will I regret it?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 6 years have split up but we are currently still living together as I dont want to chuck him out as we have a son, he is moving out in the next month. I love him with all my heart but, It wasnt working as he has anger issues ...
A. 15 June 2011: This only an assumption so please correct me if I am wrong, however I am guessing that you haven't met this man before. Ignoring everything else in the picture, I wouldn't suggest having sex on a first date, but that is just my opinion. To me it ... (read in full...)
I do not want my difficult Mother-in-Law to move in with us!
Q. Please bare with me, as this might get long and thank you in advance for reading. My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year, and have a great relationship.one pertinent piece of information is that I have lupus, which for those who ...
A. 15 June 2011: You need to work this one out with your boyfriend I think. If it is his house then I guess ultimately he gets to decide who does and doesn't live there. I appreciate it is very difficult for you as you have an established way of live with your bf ... (read in full...)
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