Texting a guy who already has a girlfriend.....is this wrong?
Q. I know this may seem obvious and I'm sure most of you will right away say it is wrong and I shouldnt be texting him, but let me give you the full story and please reserve your judgement until then! I met a guy on Saturday night whilst out with ...
A. 17 August 2011: I'm not convinced you can be such good mates as you hardly know each other. You've only met once. If you wanted to make friends with him I would think it is better to get together face to face, with this guy's gf and maybe some other people ... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 17 August 2011: Cheating is wrong. No-one would really be able to condone it, certainly not me, and it doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman doing it. It's equally bad.
The fact is that on here there seem to be an awful lot more questions from women who are ... (read in full...)
My BF seemed to forget my hospital appointment. Am I being over sensitive, or does he not really care?
Q. Dear all, Please can you tell me if I am over analyzing or reading into this. I have been with my BF for around coming up to six months now. I told him over the weekend, I have an important hospital appointment on tuesday. I saw him on the sunda...
A. 17 August 2011: Maybe he was being insensitive but I wouldn't read too much into it. You've only been together for 6 months and I imagine it genuinely slipped his mind. You say how you got the all clear, which I am guessing means you were waiting for some results ... (read in full...)
Unexperienced boyfriend is making me feel bad about wanting oral sex
Q. Hi, aunts and uncles! Should I be offended by my boyfriend's bedroom etiquette? My boyfriend is a bit immature. He is 21 and I am his first serious girlfriend. Before me, he was a virgin and just lost is virginity last week. So, I've been trying...
A. 15 August 2011: I honestly don't think he is aiming to cause offence, I just think he is seriously immature and lacking tact. You say he is not experience sexually, but I also think his reactions seem to indicate that he doesn't know how to react around people. I ... (read in full...)
Should I study film in college, which is my passion, or get another degree as a fallback?
Q. I know this is relationships but i really could use some third party advice! I'm going to university and want to know whether i should study the what i hope to pursue a career in, or whether i should study something else?? Basically, i w...
A. 14 August 2011: I would think that you could do a much more useful, and respected, degree that would still be useful in the film industry but also be a good useful qualification with transferable skills. How about doing a modern foreign language? A friend of mine ... (read in full...)
He's a single male teacher. But he lied and told me he was married. Why would he do that?
Q. I know this guy who is in his late 30s and who is a teacher - the problem I have is that he has been lying about having a wife and daughter when he doesn't. He claims that this is because he wants to protect himself from typical issues that coul...
A. 14 August 2011: Male teachers are inundated with attention (unwanted) from female pupils so I expect this has to do with his line of work and making himself appear to be "taken", so to speak. You only have to read Dear Cupid on an infrequent basis to see how many ... (read in full...)
Is there a time limit for how long I can keep a sugar Daddy interested?
Q. I turned 29 a fortnight ago. I will be 30 next year at this time. Throughout my 20s I have had several sugar daddies, older men who supported me financially whilst I was pursuing my musical aspirations. They've been good chaps over all, tho of cour...
A. 14 August 2011: I suppose it depends what you want out of life. If you want to settle down and have a family then as a woman your biological clock will most likely dictate that you will want to think about preparing for parenthood within the next 10 years I would ... (read in full...)
My ex is friendly to me in person, but just ignored a casual text? why?
Q. Right after the breakup, I got a little nasty..but not too bad. We have to run into each other in town every once in a while. At first I ignored him and he me, but gradually we started to warm up to each other enough to say "hi" (his initiative.) He ...
A. 11 August 2011: There's a difference between being civil in an elevator where other people are present, and wanting to have personal communication with you. My guess is that he doesn't want to tell you how he is because he doesn't want to let you back into his ... (read in full...)
I cant get rid of the evidence!
Q. Hello, This is soooo embarassing but basically my mum has been away for a week and so is my dad so my boy friend came round and had sex. However when he climaxed the semen leaked onto my bed and there is now a large yellowey stain on my covers, ...
A. 10 August 2011: Have you tried washing them in the machine? A hot wash will probably be good. Have you tried some sort of stain removal product like one called Vanish that we have over here. They are good on stuff like mud, blood, grass, etc, so should be useful ... (read in full...)
I get waxed frequently, but cant stand the ingrown hairs when it grows back!
Q. I keep my pubic hair nicely trimmed, but I'd really love to get more brazilians. I'd love to entice my boyfriend to visit (down there), as he hasn't in years. I get everything waxed off regularly and I love how soft and clean I feel, but when it ...
A. 10 August 2011: I find regular gentle exfoliation and moisturising can help with ingrowing hairs. I don't think there is any easy fix, but I definitely think waxing is preferable to shaving. As I find hairs can grow back at a different pace I sometime use an ... (read in full...)
Shaving rash driving me crazy but not ready for wax! Help!
Q. Okay so, I've been shaving down there now for about 2 years!bi always exfoliate, I always use plenty of gel, I only do it once a week and use a new blade and afterwards I put aftershave on that keeps the skin cool ! But I still always get a shave ...
A. 10 August 2011: When you say aftershave, do you mean some sort of perfume? Because it could be that this is irritating your skin and adding to the rash.
I would highly recommend waxing; I'm not sure what you're not ready for, but if it's the pain, although... (read in full...)
Why would my rectum be bleeding after using the bathroom?
Q. Dear cupid, my stomach has been hurting all day today and im sure its because of all the junk food i have been eating. Almost every hour im eating something new. Thats because im not eating food so little snacks like chips and ice cream bars do not ...
A. 10 August 2011: It's probably just a fissure; don't worry they are common, but always see a doc if you are concerned. We can't give proper medical advice on here.
You can really help your body eating properly though. Here in the UK we're told to eat at least 5 ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has taken me back with strange condition , please help me
Q. 25 days back, my ex-girlfriend took me back after 15 months break up with her. We were together for 2 years before I dumping her in first week of January 2010 . I left her telling her to try new options in my option ... I mean dating new girls. ...
A. 7 August 2011: I think this relationship is doomed now....she's unhappy over what you've done in the past, and is also physically abusing you which is not acceptable. You need to end the relationship and move on. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes my boyfriend gets really mean with my children. Should I listen to the voice in my head telling me to end things?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am a single mother of two loving boys, 12 and 5 years old. I am currently in nursing college. I have a boyfriend and we've been together for five years. We met 6 months after I got my second child. My children adore and loves hi...
A. 7 August 2011: Hi Julliet
I have to add my voice to Cindycares and Youwish. They've really hit the nail on the head. Read their advice and take it to heart. Of course it's not going to be easy for you, but for the sake of your little one you need to take con... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 6 August 2011: Oh dear.
As a woman I hate posts like this which make ridiculous generalisations about men based on personal experience. Moreover these rants don't do any favours whatsoever to any woman who might have a problem with porn as this sort of polemic ... (read in full...)
I want to draw a nude woman (not for sexual reasons), but I'm afraid to ask
Q. I am an 18 year old art student, and far from sad or weird. What I have always wanted to do is draw an undressed girl live, preferably someone I know, but have never had chance to do it. I want to ask someone, but am afraid of sounding creepy. Would ...
A. 4 August 2011: Just go to a proper art class; there are plenty around with professional models. Why does it have to be someone you know?
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I have lost weight and my breasts look terrible! Help!
Q. Please, i have this problem that is bothering me so much. It may only be aesthetics but its really getting my down. I have always had big breasts, although they have always been in proportion to my frame. They have never been pert, nor have i ever ...
A. 4 August 2011: Bio oil, and in particular Solar oil, most often used on cuticles, are really good for stretch marks.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my professor reply?
Q. So I wanted to remain friends with a former professor because she was a huge impact on my life. I asked her if we could remain in contact, she said yes, but every time I email her (the only form on contact we have) she doesn't reply. why would she ...
A. 2 August 2011: If my PhD supervisor didn't check his emails for a week he used to come back to well over 400 unread messages in his inbox. Your prof probably has massive amounts of mail to check, whether she is on research leave or at uni/college. She may simply ... (read in full...)
I feel like at 31 I've totally made a mess of my life and there's no going back...
Q. Dear aunts and uncles... How can I get my life back on track as I feel like just giving up. I am soon to be 31 and have nothing in my life and I look at my friends and I'm consumed with jealously as they have good jobs, places to live and or ...
A. 1 August 2011: I know you say you hated the course but is there any way you could give nursing another go? You will be getting a good secure job afterwards, and can work your way to to become a sister or a nurse specialist or something like that eventually. ... (read in full...)
Turned on by porn but not my husband!
Q. Hi!I'm a 31yr married female and i love watching porn so much and it always turns me on but when my husband touches me or does foreplay with me i don't get turned on and i don't even enjoy sex but before i used to enjoy it. i don't know why is this ...
A. 29 July 2011: I also think you are addicted to porn. You need to stop watching it as it is very clearly having a detrimental effect on your marriage. How would you feel if your husband was no longer turned on by you because he would rather watch porn? I imagine ... (read in full...)
Pressure over lending money to my fiance, please help!
Q. Hi, I need advice. Basically I am engaged (have been for a year now). I am working part time at my dad’s shop and generally trying to make money for the future. My girlfriend has been unemployed for about 2 years, she has tried her best to get a job ...
A. 25 July 2011: She doesn't sound like a very nice person OP. You have already got some good advice here so I'm just going to ad one thing.
I also once lent my (ex) fiance some money, quite a lot. Of course it then actually became a nightmare to get it back and... (read in full...)
Trying to pass off another man's child as my husbands....Is this really such a big deal?
Q. I have been married for 2 months, but pregnant with another man's baby. i dated by husband for 3 years, but he really treated me badly for a while. I fell pregant by him and he "forced", me to abort, which i regreted.I resorted to cheating on him ...
A. 25 July 2011: I don't think you should lie to your husband, nor to the child.
Taking the husband out of the equation, think about your child. What if they have some sort of health condition, for example, which might need some sort of contact with the child's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to choose between him and my dad
Q. I accidently sent my bf a text that was meant for my sister, discussing what my dad had said about my boyfriend and how i should take a university place at the other end of the country because it would get me away from my boyfriend. and I ended up ...
A. 22 July 2011: First and foremost you need to choose the right uni for your PhD. Presumably that is all based on your potential supervisor, research interests, etc, and funding I guess if you are applying for a scholarship. My supervisor was excellent and the ... (read in full...)
My ex refuses to tell me where I stand! What should I do now?
Q. I'm having a physical realtionship with my ex and when I ask him were do I stand with him he either avoid the question or just refuses to answer i have feelings for him but he refuses to tell me how he feels my question is what do I do now...
A. 22 July 2011: That's because he doesn't want to commit to anything but in this set-up is getting sex with no strings attached. The best thing you can do is stop sleeping with him and move on. ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to lose weight? 100lbs seems so overwhelming!
Q. Hi all. This is more a self-esteem/relationship with myself kinda deal. I'm currently 220 lbs and at only 5'4", I'm a big girl. It sucks and I hate it. I was actually one of those girls you called anorexic back in elementary school because I was so ...
A. 22 July 2011: Hey OP
I'm just going to second what other people have already said here I think.
My advice is: don't try and starve yourself and go on unsustainable diets, do some exercise instead. Start gradually and it will become part of your daily routi... (read in full...)
Movement in my stomach, What could be causing this?
Q. Okay I am VERY sure I am not pregnant. About 11-12 weeks ago I had sex. Anal none the less. It was 3 days after i started a new pack of the pill (which i have been on for over a year now) Off and on I feel movement in my stomach...I am n...
A. 22 July 2011: Have you taken a pregnancy test? That might be a good place to start.
See a doctor and get professional advice. ... (read in full...)
Is it domestic abuse if my husband yells at me? my kids and I get very upset by it.
Q. From the outside, my life seems perfect. I am in my late 30's and have been married for 15 plus years. My husband and myself have advanced degrees, demanding careers, and 2 beautiful children. I am just wondering if it is verbal abuse if my ...
A. 21 July 2011: Thanks for the update OP
At least you have been able to address the problem of the shouting with your husband and hopefully he does act upon this.
Your follow-up, however, makes me even more concerned. Your co-workers are completely right... (read in full...)
If we are just "friends", why did she get all dressed up to go out with me?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I know this girl and I like her, but she said she just wants to be friends. I was heartbroken at first but then said to myself, I like her enough so why not just be friends. So we made an arrangement last week to see a movie...
A. 18 July 2011: Girls like to dress up if they have the opportunity. If you're going out it's fun to wear something other than work or gym clothes. The same goes for make-up if you can't really wear it at work. It could all mean nothing and your friend might just ... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 18 July 2011: Hey OP
I can empathise with you to a certain degree, as my ex was a bit like this. I would drop everything for him but it didn't work both ways, and he didn't want to spend time with my family. He didn't try to stop me seeing them, however,... (read in full...)
I sometimes cringe at the thought of sex. Is this normal?
Q. I have to admit that I sometimes cringe at the thought of sex. I've been with may partner for almost 2.5 years, and yesterday he got really upset when I turned down the chance to be intimate. He says I always have an excuse and it's very annoying to ...
A. 18 July 2011: Firstly I will say that, in my opinion at least, 3 times a week is quite a good amount, I mean, it's more or less every other day. Does this sound about right?
This is a difficult question. It sounds as though it boils down, at least in part, to... (read in full...)
Is my husband having sex with someone else?
Q. me and my husband havent had sex in about 3 days on the 4th day we had sex he came extremly fast and it was thick kind of gooey like...is that a sigh of him having sex with with some one else?...
A. 18 July 2011: What makes you think he is having sex with someone else? ... (read in full...)
I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!
Q. My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS...
A. 17 July 2011: This isn't about being mean, this is just about stating some facts. However she went about saying it, the meaning would be the same. Couching it in more diplomatic language would perhaps reduce the impact of what she is trying to tell you. It is ... (read in full...)
I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!
Q. My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS...
A. 16 July 2011: I think she is trying to shock you into thinking about the risks of what you are doing. I am sure she didn't intend to hurt you, she is just telling it like it is. My granddad was a maxillo-facial surgeon and he always told us he would disown us if ... (read in full...)
Pardon, your slip is showing!
Q. My Aunt has recently given me some brand new 1960s style underwear which includes some waist slips with pleated hems one black, one brown and one white.I could not resist wearing them and these slips are absolutely gorgeous and when the pleats of ...
A. 16 July 2011: I think your hunch is right: in my opinion it looks both common and scruffy when underwear is showing, no matter how mice it is. That combined with the fact you are at work makes me think you should make sure either it doesn't show or wear something ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my daughter's bad behavior?
Q. I am at the end of my patience with my 19 year old daughter! Her attitude, mood swings and rude behaviour started around the time she started 6th Form college and having sex with her boyfriend. We had a few arguments and she would storm off to her...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi OP
Your post made me a bit confused; does your daughter have a dad around at all? You say at the end of your post that you are your son's only parent. How about your daughter?
I have to say that your post does sound as if you favour your ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be morally offended by the way people are reaction to my display of affection to my boyfriend over the internet???
Q. I was on facebook and posted on my wall about how happy I am and how I think i am even more in love with my boyfriend then before.. the problem is all of his friends are commenting on it and saying thinks "like how is that possiable" and "I want ...
A. 12 July 2011: To be able to write on your wall these friends must also be face friends of yours as well as your bf. The thing about FB is that whatever you write on there, your friends can see (depending on your privacy settings). You are therefore putting your ... (read in full...)
Do I need to keep my opinions to myself or embrace my outspoken nature?
Q. lately people around me tend to think i am being a pain in the but or a jerk. i can not really figure out why this would be? i am one of the those people or at least i have become one of late who speaks there mind who doesn't take shit from any ...
A. 11 July 2011: Heated conversation can be good, two way conversation that is. Being lectured to and told someone else's opinions without asking for them is very tedious and boring. Try and reign things in a bit. You can still make your views known without annoying ... (read in full...)
Do you think my girlfriend's relationship with her brother is weird?
Q. My girlfriends brother who is 13 lives in a care home as their parents have a variety of alcohol/drug/mental health problems. They have a really weird relationship though she insists on seeing him every weekend and has him stay over at least 1 night ...
A. 11 July 2011: I don't think it's weird at all; it all seems to make a lot of sense based on your post. The poor lad clearly doesn't have a functional parental set-up, he lives in a care home and luckily for him his older sister has stepped up and is doing her ... (read in full...)
My GF wants me to remove a tattoo from my chest which spells my late sister's name, because my ex had the same name, and my GF doesn't want to be reminded of my ex!
Q. My twin sister died a few years ago in a car accident. I was really affected by her death. She wasn't just my sister but my best friend. I got a tattoo of her name on my chest so that she'll always be next to my heart. I have been seeing a...
A. 11 July 2011: I think your feelings are perfectly natural and your girlfriend is completely in the wrong. She cannot, and obviously does not want, to see things from your point of view. I cannot imagine what it is like to lose a sibling but I can certainly ... (read in full...)
We want a baby. How can we when our sex life is kind of difficult?
Q. My fiance and I are trying to conceive a baby. however we are both little over weight and well...he is kind of small down there. I'm not very comfortable being on top, but everytime we have sex, his penis doesnt stay in. We both very much want...
A. 11 July 2011: What do you mean when you say a little overweight? If you are talking about a couple of kg then I don't see how that would make much of a difference and wouldn't mean that many, if any positions are impossible for you. How much is a little?... (read in full...)
Can I get an IUD fitted regardless of being 19, childless and still a virgin?
Q. I'm 19 and thinking about contraception for the first time. Having done a fair amount of research on all types available, the (non-hormonal) IUD sounds the most appealing. I'm wondering if I could have one fitted though - am I too young? Some ...
A. 10 July 2011: Defo get a doctor's opinion. They will be able to advise you properly, especially as you note a bit of family medical history.
As for my experience I haven't had any adverse effects from being on the pill but everyone is different. The same goe... (read in full...)
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