Am I being selfish for not wanting to go round to his mother's house once he moves out?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for two years and a year ago he had to move back in with his mum due to financial difficulty (he's 39 and his mum's 55). it has been a year from hell! when i first met her i was going round for dinner with him twice a ...
A. 26 November 2010: I'm afraid this relationship seems doomed from the start to me and I am at a complete loss as to why you are still with this guy.
I would also point out some things though
1)He moves into his mum's house, he lives by her rules, no matter how ol... (read in full...)
Stepfather vs. Daughter with mother caught in the middle!
Q. My husband continues to nag at my 15 year old daughter. She is a slop and can be moody, but she is 15. When my daugther is not around, my husband and I get a long awesome...we never argue unless it is about her. She is a good kid (honor roll for ...
A. 23 November 2010: I'm sorry but having read this post, I really feel that you are letting your daughter down badly. I appreciate that she has a roof over her head and food on the table. But the fact that she would rather go and live with her father who works until ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me! What can I say to him that I havent said already?
Q. i feel like i'm unappreciated. i always organise days out with my boyfriend and i always sort out tickets and transport and times. he just says yes! but he when it comes down to paying, all he does again is say yes.. he never actually p...
A. 23 November 2010: I don't believe in the idea of man having to "woo" a woman and shell-out accordingly. To me that is very old fashioned and I would never treat a man like that.
This question has been difficult to answer because you have provided more and more inf... (read in full...)
I helped influence my boyfriend to disown his son
Q. My boyfriend has a 6 year old son by another woman. When I came into the picture there was hardly a bond between them which I was not surprised at, he only saw the child twice a year and spoke on the phone with him. I felt this burning resentment ...
A. 22 November 2010: You make a great pair and I think you deserve each other.
You are clearly selfish, insecure and manipulative. He is obviously completely spineless and an appalling parent if he lets a short term girlfriend influence his relationship with his chil... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and my girlfriend wants to have sex, if we don't she'll dump me!
Q. I'm 13 and my girlfriend really wants to have sex. My best friend did it once and said it was a great experience. I'm breaking under peer pressure and need help. We've been going out for 10 months and I really like her. She said if I don't have sex ...
A. 15 November 2010: Good for you OP. You have definitely made the right decision. For what it's worth I think you did a very mature and sensible thing.
You don't need anyone pressuring you into losing your virginity. Clearly you have high standards and want to wait ... (read in full...)
Got quotes?
Q. got good quotes ? any kind . love , life , dark , light . you name it . I need some good ones for my class . lol . help me out . post one or more(: thanks ....
A. 14 November 2010: Amor vincit omnia
Love conquers all
Virgil: Eclogues X 69... (read in full...)
I need advice, I want to have a baby, I am 14, please help??
Q. hey im 14 and i really want a baby i have wanted one sence i was 11 and i dont know what to do my family and friends say i am a natual when it comes to looking after children and careing for them i really don tknow what to do please help x...
A. 14 November 2010: Please OP can you come back and give us an answer to the questions about finishing your education and how you will fund raising a child independently (without just sponging off the state). ... (read in full...)
Should I pay my mom back?
Q. Hey. I need some advice. Ok. So I get food stamps 200 to help out. I'm 19 and @ the time I was job less. So before I got my food stamps my mom was payin my phone bill ( 98.00 ) and she told me to sign up for food stamps, so she can save som...
A. 12 November 2010: Of course you should pay her back. I don't see any good reason why you shouldn't; I see that you say you won't have any money for yourself, but think about all the things your mother is paying for on your behalf, including your phone bill.
I wou... (read in full...)
Ladies, is therea way to shave down there that isn't equivalent to self-torture?
Q. I prefer the look and feel of having no hair down there. Multiple times in the past I’ve attempted to shave, but I’ve never been able to keep it up for more than three days. It’s just so uncomfortable. For the first day it feels fine, but within 24 ...
A. 11 November 2010: Wax it yourself. You can buy really good wax strips from the supermarket. I heartily recommend Veet. Then you get a really nice smooth finish which lasts for a long time. Remember to exfoliate and moisturise afterwards though. ... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for my worries due to his hair colour?
Q. i have a problem, a man reaaly likes me and would do anything for me but because he is ginger im scared what people will say! what do i do?...
A. 10 November 2010: It worries me that your concern is not whether you like this guy, but what you think other people will say about his hair colour.
Do you like him back? That should be the real question.... (read in full...)
How much sperm is needed to get a girl pregnant?
Q. How much sperm is needed to make woman to be pregnant? Is there a minimum amount of sperm required to make a woman to be pregnant? ...
A. 10 November 2010: No there is no minimum amount.
I would be interested, however, in how you think you can control the amount if you were given a figure.
Why don't you just use contraception? ... (read in full...)
Wanted: New breasts!
Q. I have ugly breasts. They're small for my body (I have huge hips) and they have big areolas. I also don't like their shape much, it's a very common shape but it's not round and nice. If they were rounder and had small areolas I wouldn't mind the ...
A. 10 November 2010: I always think that womens' preoccupation with breast size is analogous to the male obsession with penis size. I also think that the same answer applies.
If you are attracted to a man, is the first/only/overriding factor that you take into acc... (read in full...)
My family says move on but he's my whole life!
Q. Me and my first and current boyfriend of almost two years were dating when I found out the shocking news that two and a half months ago he had cheated on me with my now Ex-best friend. I found out by her phoning me early in the morning and her ...
A. 8 November 2010: I have to say your family are right about this. They are there to offer you support and help; they love you and they want to see you happy. If my sister was in your situation I would say that she should move on as well. Your bf has broken your ... (read in full...)
My 10 year old doesn't want to meet her long lost father!
Q. I had my daughter when I was 15 years old. I'm now 25 and she is a beautiful ten year old who is now in the sixth grade (she skipped a grade because she's a smart cookie!). Her father, unfortunately, decided not to be part of her life (or mine, f...
A. 7 November 2010: I think you should listen to your daughter.
Although I am older than her, I can understand this question as my biological father has recently tracked me down and he wants me to get in touch with him. He left my mum to bring me up on her own and ... (read in full...)
He never allows any foreplay and then falls asleep straight after sex!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a couple of years and nothing has changed as far as our sex lives go. He has a very high sex drive and is very demanding when he wants it and any time of the day or night will do. That is not the ...
A. 5 November 2010: ....in fact reading this again I can't believe you have put up with this for two years before trying to do anything about it.
Give him a chance to change his ways, but if you don't see a change very soon get rid of him. Not all men are like thi... (read in full...)
He never allows any foreplay and then falls asleep straight after sex!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a couple of years and nothing has changed as far as our sex lives go. He has a very high sex drive and is very demanding when he wants it and any time of the day or night will do. That is not the ...
A. 5 November 2010: Your bf sounds extremely selfish.
I think it is natural for him to fall asleep, which is why he needs to make an effort in pleasuring you before he climaxes. You need to point out to him how selfish he is being. If I were in your shoes I would te... (read in full...)
I'm single, 20 and want a baby
Q. i want a baby but am single i am 20 yrs old al my friends have babies and i have always wanted to be a parent young from a very young age what should i do this is gettin me realy down ? ...
A. 3 November 2010: You post demonstrates poor spelling and poor grammar so I am wondering what you do for a living which would give you sufficient earnings as a single parent to rear a child. If you are twenty, unless you have been extremely lucky I am highly doubtf... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend was blind, would you stay or would you go?
Q. Dear Cupid, My name is Alexis and I'm 18 years old. I met the man of my dreams of 21, four years ago and we have been together ever since. When we first started dating, I knew I could picture myself getting married to him, and having a family ...
A. 2 November 2010: I think you have made this into a much more difficult situation than it needs to be.
You sound like a great, caring person and I am glad you have a bf whom you love so much. However, I think you have put yourself into a position where your bf ... (read in full...)
He said I look like a school teacher... A good or bad thing?
Q. What does it mean when a guy said:'You look like u are a school teacher"? Does it mean he means that i look boring or not very exciting?...
A. 31 October 2010: My sister is a school teacher and she is always smartly dressed, well-groomed and professional-looking.
I would take it as a compliment. ... (read in full...)
I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant...!
Q. I have a question about sex, I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant and i know how my body works and i keep track of my cycle and all, but recently me and my bf of 2 years had sex without a condom for the ...
A. 30 October 2010: Usually sex without protection is a good way of getting pregnant. I mean, that's what couples do when they want to have a baby.
As you have not mentioned anything in the post I am assuming you are not on the pill or anything like that.
I am re... (read in full...)
Why won't he look at me anymore during sex?
Q. So heres another question about me and the bf... So we have rarely been having sex (my choice because he is being STUPID)... anyways... I noticed the last 2 times... he wont look at me (position willing) anymore. he used to make me look...
A. 30 October 2010: I just wanted to add that as far as I am aware, sex in pregnancy is absolutely fine; you can keep having sex up until your waters break; there is no risk to the pregnancy by doing to.
Poster, whether he looks at you or not, you need to stop doi... (read in full...)
My friends always say the teacher is staring at me
Q. hey :) I know I have asked this before, but I got no help :( thank you to the people who did comment though, I just need more help please I don't know what to do im really sorry its so long, but please I need your advice .... I'm a littl...
A. 29 October 2010: Hello poster Firstly, I would echo what some of the other aunts and uncles have said here and ignore what your friends have got to say about this issue. If the way that one of your friends has posted on here is indicative, it suggests that th... (read in full...)
My ex asks a lot of questions about my private life ...
Q. My ex who i have a child with,asks me alot of questions about me and my private life not just about the child, i was seeing him for around two years.He then left me and got married 3 mounths later.Do you think this is a controll thing or a bit of ...
A. 23 October 2010: I think neither.
I imagine he might be wanting to know what sort of environment his child is living in.... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed for people to know that I'm attracted to big women!
Q. Hi, Over the last couple of years I have been very attracted to big women but havent told anyone about it. Its my deepest secret and I have a huge problem with it. I am attracted to all women but there is just something about a big woman that m...
A. 23 October 2010: You have to decide what is more important: what you like or what your friends like.... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dream?
Q. I am 23 and currently studying for a degree in history which has been my dream since I was 14. The problem is I also have a dream about studying or volunteering abroad after but I have a boyfriend of six years and he wouldn't be able to come with ...
A. 20 October 2010: Go for your dream!
Your boyfriend will understand. If he doesn't then he's not worth giving up such an opportunity for.
You will always regret not going off to do what you have dreamed of. Plus, it is such a great learning experience to go... (read in full...)
I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!
Q. Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...
A. 19 October 2010: My ex and my fiance are two completely different looking guys. Different figures, different complexions. But, I never went out searching for someone completely based on the way they looked, because ultimately- at least for me- looks are just par... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to give my cats away!
Q. My boyfriend who wants to marry me, wants me to give away my 2 cats whom i love so much because the cat hair disgust him alot. He loves to spend the night with me, but isnt comfortable because of all the cat hair. Should I give them away? PS he laid ...
A. 19 October 2010: I don't think you should get rid of the cats.
However, if he is getting cat hair all over him just by having a nap on the bed, that is really pretty gross. We used to have two cats and I was really careful about keeping the house clean, especial... (read in full...)
I'm lonely depressed and sex is not enjoyable with my husband!
Q. I recently got married to my 1 year fiance and we ve now been married for 3 months. Its been hard. I wouldnt say Im unhappy, I love him dearly and he means the world to me. I dont even know where to start.. Because of his work, I moved halfaway...
A. 15 October 2010: If you are still having pain on intercourse then you need to get checked out by a doc. I don't really know what you mean by cuts, or at least, how you could have got cut during sex, so it is a bit hard to advise. Anyway, head to a doc and then at ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: Is this for real?
Yes leave your girlfriend for her own sake. She doesn't deserve to have such comments made about her by your so-called friends. Attacks on personal appearance are spiteful and childish.
I don't know how much you really love ... (read in full...)
Why do you answer to these questions?
Q. I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people? what do you plan to get out of it? do you think "God" will reimburse you for your efforts and "love"? do you feel better by helping others you don't know? I really don't see any ...
A. 13 October 2010: I'm sure all of us have had bad patches in life which we'd rather not go through again. If people ask for advice for a situation which I've been through, I like to think that maybe someone else can perhaps benefit from my experiences. Also, we can ... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a baby but he's not! What should we do?
Q. Hi i need your help , me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now and for a couple of months wev been talking about having a kid, my Heart has been set on having a child for years now and im soo certain that im ready for the ...
A. 11 October 2010: Right, so your bf works 3 nights a week and you don't work at all.
How are you going to pay for the child? Because that sort of income is just pocket money where a child is concerned. However, you probably know that already. Who is going to pay? ... (read in full...)
Advice on boyfriend's porn.....
Q. I’ve been with this guy for almost ten years in a serious relationship and he is wonderful on many levels. However, long story short, I discovered porn on my boyfriend’s internet history by accident earlier this year and I confronted him about it. ...
A. 7 October 2010: From what I can see, you have been together for around ten years, and only this year have you found the porn. I would imagine he's been using it for a fair while, but it's only now that you have found it. If he behaviour hasn't bothered you bef... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend force me to give up our child?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I might be pregnant. I've only ever been with one guy (my bf of a year and a half) and I've always told him that if I got pregnant by accident, the only option for me would be to keep it. I've scheduled a doctor's appt to find ...
A. 5 October 2010: Number 1, no of course your bf can't FORCE you to do anything.
How could he?
I note how you say you would feel guilty in giving up the child for adoption; would you not, however, feel guilty for having to rely heavily on others to basically fi... (read in full...)
Why does she keep throwing this in my face?
Q. ok i wil try to only add needed details..me and my ex broke up 2 years ago..i am with my new gf for a year now and dont want my ex back whatsoever..we have tried to be friends but there is a feeling of resentment towards eachother..(she broke up ...
A. 3 October 2010: I would ask you why you are so bothered about what she is up to? And why you are still in so much contact?
If you are not bothered about what she is doing then stop the contact between you and move on. If you are still bothered about the fact tha... (read in full...)
Does he need a good bye letter?
Q. I thought I met the love of my life when I went on vacation in the summer of 08. I was going through so much at the time and I took a trip to clear my head, and there he was, the same person I loved as a little girl growing up. We spoke for hours, ...
A. 1 October 2010: I don't know what you are still with him for. Apart from anything else, he has hit you. More than once. Don't stand for it. He isn't going to change. Move away, leave, whatever. Get him out of your life. ... (read in full...)
My ex is self obsessed
Q. Hi, my GF left me and wants us to "be friends". But its too painful even seeing her. How do i tell her? Also i think shes self obssessed, as apparantley she thinks that i was aiming a performance of the song "Sunny Afternoon" at her, what do i do?...
A. 29 September 2010: Just ignore her. Don't react to her, Show her you're not interested and just stay away from her if you can. Hopefully she will get the message to leave you alone.... (read in full...)
I don't want anything inside me! How am I ever going to have sex?
Q. I'm 24 n a virgin, yet i have urges like everyone else. I have one problem ... I am scared of anything going inside my vagina. the mere thought of it makes me squeeze my legs together. Ive had a boyfriend before n I only let him go as far as playing ...
A. 29 September 2010: Your vagina has amazing stretching properties, so don't worry about being able to have sex. Think about what happens when women have babies! So, don't let the fact that it looks small in the mirror put you off.
You need to learn to relax. It does ... (read in full...)
Confused about why fiance needs to go OUT without me!
Q. hi everyone me and my partner are engaged and have been together for almost two years. we do have lots of fun together and our sex life is usually pretty good. the problem starts when he declares he wants to go out drinking and to the clubs in the...
A. 29 September 2010: I can see two things going on here, basically as the other answers point out
1) With your follow-up it seems as though he might be straying when he goes out. You keep finding this evidence but you accept it after an argument. You need to make you... (read in full...)
I don't want to trap him, I just really want a baby!
Q. Hi, I'm 29, really keen to have children. I have a new bf of a few weeks. I really like him and things are going great. I'm so broody, though, I'm thinking of trying to get pregnant without telling him. If he wants a baby, great, if he doesn't, ...
A. 28 September 2010: I always find these posts very worrying. When desire for a baby overrides someone's rational thought to the extent that they believe unacceptable behaviour is justifiable, serious questions need to be asked about fitness to parent, in my opinion.
... (read in full...)
Should I move into my girlfriend's parents' house?
Q. I'm 22 and still live at home (and dont pay rent). My parents broke up a year ago, and i live with my dad. My dad started seeing another women about 10 months ago, and he hasnt introduced us yet. Sometimes she'll stay overnight, but my dad will ...
A. 28 September 2010: Are you working? Or a student? To be honest at your age you need to be thinking about getting your own place anyway, although I know it can be a very expensive business renting your own place.
Is there an option of moving out and getting a place ... (read in full...)
Why does he look at porn? Am I not good enough for him?
Q. My husband looks at pictures of hot girls in Maxim. He used to look at porn and it made me sick to think he was doing this behind my back. It wouldn't have been as big of deal if he included me in on it. I was a very attractive girl, but now I'...
A. 28 September 2010: He's your husband. Have you actually spoken to him about it?
Communication is so important. It doesn't matter what people tell you on here, you need to know what he's thinking. Moreover, you need to make it clear to him how you feel. Have you done... (read in full...)
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