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My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...

A.   13 August 2011: You'll know for the future to go with that good old female intuition. ... (read in full...)

Shall I fly over to plead with him to reconsider not breaking up? I don't know what to do

Q.   My husband had to go to a conference. I even helped him pack. And put some sweet notes into his case so when he unpacked he would know i care. We had a bad patch last year when he was unfaithful when he promised he would never never do it again. I ...

A.   3 May 2011: What a bastard to text like that, unbelievable! You will be in shock. But don't run after him, run straight to your solicitor, or Legal Aid if your cannot afford a solicitor . Check your bank accounts, credit cards, is the house in both your ... (read in full...)

Dealing with missing someone when on a break?

Q.   Hi all. I'll post this quite quickly as I dont have much time this morning. Me and my bf have been struggling for a while and as scarey as this may be, we have decided to have a break from eachother for a month. This is basically going to involve ...

A.   3 May 2011: Personally, I don't understand the 'having a break' to save the relationship theory. I would think you'd have to work together, to stay together. So I will be interested to see the advice you get. Good luck with it all.... (read in full...)

Sister very pushy when she visits out mother. Should I stop the visits?

Q.   My sister bounded in at the weekend. She does not want to look after our mother and rarely visits. She knows I have taken leave from work to look after our mother after three strokes. I walk her to get her legs working again. I get up in the night ...

A.   3 May 2011: Family can be 'fun' hey! Good on you for looking after your mother, you should be very proud of yourself, it is a huge role to play. My mother is being cared for by one of my sisters, and I tell my sister, as often as possible, what a fantastic ... (read in full...)

Why am I feeling so hesitant about a relationship with this younger guy?

Q.   I have been chatting with this guy for almost a year. We have seen each other 3 time (he lives out of town). Although, I am still unsure of my feelings for him "I run hot and cold" so does he. We have some sort of connection that brings us ...

A.   30 April 2011: I guess, as you have only seen him 3 times, it is a bit hard to form any real sort of relationship. I'm not too sure about long distance relationships, they always seem to be problematic. But there doesn't seem to be any reason to end things, just ... (read in full...)

How do I get him back without coming off needy?

Q.   My boyfriend and I recently broke up, it was due to a lot of nagging about the relationship on my part! I wasn't happy but now I think that things could really work after this short break! How do I get him back without coming off needy? Or withou...

A.   30 April 2011: In writing to him, you can tell him how you can see where you made mistakes, and that you want to have another chance with him. It is then up to him to get in contact with you, it he wants to try again. Good luck.... (read in full...)

After 6 years my son's father wants to be in his life!

Q.   I got pregnant at 15 to a man that was married, at the time I didn't know, when I found I finished it, well I had my baby when I was 16, father didn't want any contact whatsoever, well 6 years down the line I got a message of him trough facebook ...

A.   30 April 2011: This is a very hard one to answer. I can definitely understand how you are feeling. But then I am thinking that your son has a right to get to know his father. He is only six now, and knows nothing else, but as he gets older he will question why ... (read in full...)

He can't maintain an erection in bed.

Q.   Dear Cupid, My questions are a bit complicated and probably TMI. I apologize in advance. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. I love spending time with him, love who he is... but there's an elephant in the room only I seem to bring up...

A.   30 April 2011: It is a major issue in your relationship. Could be the medication he takes for the anxiety which is the cause of the sexual problems. If you know the name of the medication, you could Google it and see if one of the side effects are what he is ... (read in full...)

I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt?

Q.   I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt? And then I guess, come on this site to gain more knowledge/experience? Does anyone know how one would go about gaining paid employment as an agony aunt/advisor? I really love doing this ...

A.   30 April 2011: Just recently, I wrote to the editor of our local newspaper, with the suggestion of starting an 'Agony Aunt' column. I wrote a letter of introduction, selling myself and the idea, much like what you have in you question. Also, I had written a dumm... (read in full...)

How can I put on more weight as I hate being called skinny?

Q.   im a 14 year old and i weigh 86lbs. before you call me bulimic,anemic,or anything else let me tell you i do none of those things. i dont know what to do people at school make fun of me and tell me im skinny. it really bugs me cuz i eat but i dont ...

A.   30 April 2011: I know exactly how you feel. I too was called skinny all through my younger years, even though I ate like a horse. It annoyed my two sisters, as they both were on the plump side. When I had a baby, in my late twenties I gained some wait then, and ... (read in full...)

Met a nice girl, but she's sending me mixed signals! We have a great time together and then, she won't pick up my calls. Should I ask her what's going on?

Q.   A few months ago I met this really nice girl on my course. We got chatting and I asked her if she'd like to go for lunch one day. She agreed and we had a great chat, got to know about each other and she even mentioned that I should go visit her in ...

A.   26 April 2011: I guess until you see her in person, and ask her out properly, you won't know. Could be she is playing it cool, who knows! Just give it a go if you're interested. Good luck.... (read in full...)

How do I overcome my status as a "divorced" man? It seems women think I'm damaged goods!

Q.   Okay, so I joined match.com, and I'm a little dispondant. I'm divorced, I was treated badly by my ex who was emotionally and physically abusive to me, and after trying everything I had to leave for my own safety. I have ticked the divorced box...

A.   26 April 2011: Maybe try a few different sites, they could be set-up differently.... (read in full...)

I keep bleeding after sex...should I see a doctor? Or will it eventually stop?

Q.   i haven't been having sex for that long and have only had sex around 8 times but every-time including the 1st and the last time Ive had sex Ive bleed afterwards and it can be fairly painfull during and after sex.. should i get this checked out or ...

A.   26 April 2011: It doesn't sound quite right to me, so I would take myself off to the doctors if I were you. Better to be sure hey.... (read in full...)

My teacher kissed me! I don't know what to do or how to handle this!

Q.   I KNOW ITS KIND OF LONG BUT PLEASE I NEED ANSWERS. Ok well i get along great with my maths teacher. hes funny, easygoing and a great teacher! We always have a laugh in class as well as getting the work done, but one day some of my friends started ...

A.   26 April 2011: You haven't done anything wrong. But he most definitely has! You must tell your parents, and they can contact the school. This is very serious, and must be dealt with immediately. Just avoiding his classes isn't enough. So be brave, and go ... (read in full...)

Emotionally sick after going so much, please, how can I be strong and be happy again when I feel otherwise?

Q.   The past year has been a rough one. I was in love with this guy and he left me for my best friend and then broke our friendship apart. Then in December one of my really close friends commited suicide unexpectidly. I try to forget about everything ...

A.   26 April 2011: Do you have any one who you can talk to? Because you are too young to have to deal with these things on your own. You should turn to your family for support, thats where they can come in handy. Or what about a school counsellor, or teacher?... (read in full...)

My best friend's boyfriend is taking over her life! I'm scared he'll succeed in pressuring her into what she's not comfortable with!

Q.   i am new with this whole advice thing. but I feel like my best friend is replacing me with her new boyfriend. i have talked to her countless times. she is in pure denial, and her attitude is changing for the worst. she stays up all night talking to ...

A.   26 April 2011: There isn't really anything you can do. This has been happening to between girlfriends, well, forever. Just give her space, and when things settle down, you will still be friends I'm sure. Your friend is an adult, I am assuming, so she will have ... (read in full...)

Why are my stepsisters getting treated better than I am?

Q.   Am I right to feel upset? My parents are divorced and my Dad remarried a year ago and suggested I go on holiday with him, his wife her kids and one of her kids boyfriend/fiance (she's only 16!), so there's 6 of them altogether. The plan for the...

A.   26 April 2011: As a parent in a blended-family, I know 'The Brady Bunch' is pure fantasy! It is as though it is just too unnatural a situation to ever see everybody happy. So I feel for you. You can choose to go on holiday, for you and your dad's sake, and ... (read in full...)

All I want is a nice decent guy ...

Q.   I am almost 37 and a divorcee, no matter how much I try, I cant get a stable relationship. I want to have a guy in my life but all that I come upon either wants a night out or my saving out (if any!). I dont seem to come upon a guy who has feelings ...

A.   25 April 2011: The best way to find what you are looking for, is to stop looking! Concentrate on you, learn about who you are, and how you can be happy with yourself. Then it will be a breeze to attract the same sort of person. I didn't find my 'Mr. Right' ... (read in full...)

My father has Alzheimers, my mother is unsupportive. Should I go overseas as I wish? They want me to stay

Q.   I have a problem with my father. I am 33. I have been living with my parents for 6 months because I had to do paperwork to go abroad. I have lived during 7 years independently. My parents are in their 70s. My father has Alzheimer's disease. He does...

A.   25 April 2011: Sorry, sorry, sorry. I meant to say that your parents being in their seventies does NOT mean the deaths are imminent. ... (read in full...)

He as done a terrible thing to me so why can't I just hate him?

Q.   My husband had an affair with my best friend and is now in a relationship with her. I am absolutely devastated not only for myself but for my baby boy who as only been seeing his daddy for an hour or so a week. He say's he wasn't happy and he ...

A.   25 April 2011: Yes, it is very sad, and it will take you a long time to recover. So don't go rushing yourself. Also, it is hard to get over someone when you have a constant reminder of that person facing you every day, as in your son. When you start to recover, ... (read in full...)

Having a Professional Page is ruining my relationship!

Q.   Hello! I am a Paul Mitchell Focus Hairstylist, and I was trained to network with people to help myself build my cliental and or just get my name out there, one day I hope to become well known or even famous for what I do, I made my professi...

A.   25 April 2011: Absolutely keep your professional page. Your BF can look at it any time he wants. It does sound like a trust issue. His lack of, that is! Well, thats his problem, his issue, not yours. Good luck for the future. ... (read in full...)

He says he's too lazy to love me any more. Is this real or is it his depression talking?

Q.   What does it mean when you get dumped by your depressed boyfriend because he doesnt want love or relationships anymore because he's too lazy? Is that even possible? Can someone seriously be too lazy to want love and relationships?...

A.   25 April 2011: He is probably too depressed; which interprets to can't be bothered, too lazy. When you are suffering from depression, it's hard enough that the sun comes up every morning, that here is yet another day which you have to deal with. So having to cope ... (read in full...)

Our relationship is boring for me, not for him. Is it fair than I try harder than him?.

Q.   I get bored in our relationship from time to time. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Of course, everything was exciting and amazing at the beginning. We also had a distance relationship for a year. This year, however, I transferred to his ...

A.   25 April 2011: You have to decide how important this is to your relationship. He won't change, and why should he, it's obviously not the way he is. Some men are attentive that way, but many are not. It is your decision now, how important are those things to ... (read in full...)

My father has Alzheimers, my mother is unsupportive. Should I go overseas as I wish? They want me to stay

Q.   I have a problem with my father. I am 33. I have been living with my parents for 6 months because I had to do paperwork to go abroad. I have lived during 7 years independently. My parents are in their 70s. My father has Alzheimer's disease. He does...

A.   25 April 2011: Just because your parents are in their seventies, does mean that their deaths are imminent. Go overseas as planned, try and not let them make you feel guilty. Your father does not have control of his behaviour, but your mother does. Be strong and ... (read in full...)

Should I try to reconnect? first he was going to propose then he dumped me.

Q.   My boyfriend and I were together for almost a year. It seemed perfect. We were always appreciative and affectionate. He told me over Christmas that he already knew how and where he wanted to propose. And that he wanted to stare at my face for the ...

A.   25 April 2011: It really does sound as though he is over it, doesn't it. But then, why are you meeting for coffee next week? Maybe meet for coffee, and ask for in-depth answers to your, I'm sure, many questions! I can understand you're feeling lost.... (read in full...)

Should I go back to my country? What other options are there to pay my tuition fees?

Q.   hi, i am an indian who came to Australia for higher studies. i don't have money to pay my next year's tuition fee as i didn't get a job. i can't ask my family for help as their business went bankrupt. so, i asked my boyfriend for help (just to lend...

A.   25 April 2011: Can you still try and get a job in Australia, or is it too late to get enough money for the fees? If its possible, try and do it for your own independence. Then you can look at your relationship with your boyfriend and see where you stand with him. ... (read in full...)

He will not pay child support, but does not want me to move. What should I do? I still care about him

Q.   my long term boyfriend broke it off with me ten months ago when i told him i was pregnant. i was desvasted. i had a melt down really coping with the fact i was dumped, later to find out he had been cheating, and that i was pregnant. well anyways ...

A.   25 April 2011: Contact your Child Support Agency, let them deal with the issue of money. Move as planned, if he wants to see his daughter, he will. You need to make a new life for yourself, but you will need to maintain contact with him, for your daughter's sake. ... (read in full...)

How do I get over and out of this? I'm 16. He's 30 and I fancy him, but I don't want to.

Q.   hey, i know you may think i'm a kid but all the same i need help with this all the same. last week i stayed with my boss for the week to do this training/boot camp thing. he offered that i stay with him so that i can do it. in fact he was very e...

A.   25 April 2011: Just enjoy the feelings of this major crush. You can fantasise to your hearts content over him, and you will. But don't let him know you feel this way. Try and be mature. You have to, your career obviously is to be considered, as well as his. His ... (read in full...)

My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...

A.   24 April 2011: I can understand where the boyfriend is coming from. Does he keep all things about his private life off FB, or just the fact that he is in a relationship? Maybe his profile is just for the professional and not the personal. ... (read in full...)

How do I confirm when a really quiet guy is trying to get my attention?

Q.   I wanted to know how you can tell if a quiet guy is trying to get your attention. The guy I like is pretty quiet. He has sat behind me a couple times in class and makes tons of noise rattling things around. Whenever I turn around to look at him, ...

A.   24 April 2011: It does sound as though he is trying to get your attention! But you might have to be the one to start the talking. Give it a go, what have you got to loose? It is very hard for shy people to get up the courage to talk to someone they're interested ... (read in full...)

Is he genuine? can I still trust him? he keeps cancelling at the last minute.

Q.   my boyfriend and i recently got back together after a short break apart.I dont see him very much as he goes to boarding school so we try and meet at weekends. Although he has started avoiding meeting up with me,he always has an excuse,when we do ...

A.   24 April 2011: If he wanted to see you, he'd make the time to see you. I think you already know that its over. Don't waste anymore time on this one ok. ... (read in full...)

My world revolves around my boyfriend. How do I get my independence back?

Q.   I am too emotionally attached to my boyfriend.? I feel my world would come crashing down if we broke up for any reason. He is a great guy and the only problem is his bad temper. But I feel I am too attached to him to be able to live independ...

A.   24 April 2011: To feel that your 'world would come crashing down' if you broke up, is an unhealthy dependance. Your great guy might have a temper because people generally don't like to be THAT relied upon, it can be very frustrating, and suffocating, for him if ... (read in full...)

Am I doomed to be single?

Q.   Hi Im 18 and a little over weight not like fat but a bit bigger and i have these friends that are so much prettier and skinnier than me. we all go out and they get all the attention even the guy i like likes one of them. I just dont know what to ...

A.   24 April 2011: Your physical appearance isn't the issue, it's the lack of self-confidence. Many years ago, (actually many, many) when I was first going out, I was considered pretty, and the all important thin! And my best friend was not; she had terrible acne ... (read in full...)

Dating for six months but he won't call himself my boyfriend

Q.   I really want the guy I've been dating for about 6 months to be my boyfriend but we've been through a lot already. I told him i had type 2 herpes at the beginning, and then we found out it was just type 1 even though it was genitally (that's why i ...

A.   24 April 2011: Just relax and enjoy each. Don't be so concerned about the next step, take each day as it comes. If there isn't any pressure being put on him, and he can see that you are happy, and he is thinking marriage, then I am sure he will instigate the ... (read in full...)

I don't think this is a healthy relationship, how do we fix it?

Q.   This is very long, so any help is really appreciated and thanks for reading this. Not long after I started university I met a guy who I very quickly became very good friends with. I was really comfortable with this but then one day he asked me out ...

A.   22 April 2011: I think that you are right, in that this is not a healthy relationship. I personally wouldn't be trying with him again. I actually feel a little scared for you. Possessiveness can lead to obsessiveness, and no good can come from that. I would be ... (read in full...)

We had make-up sex and then I find he has a girlfriend?!

Q.   So, this guy and me quit talking for six months and the the other night he showed up asking me to forgive him. Well, i did. He said he was sorry and i wanted to be close again. Then one thing lead to another we had sex. He hasn't talked to me since. ...

A.   22 April 2011: What a giant rat! Your poor girl. But, when you think about it, you are lucky to have found out what a jerk he really is, and that you are not his girlfriend. I feel sorry for his girlfriend as well. Best to slam the door in his face, if he ever ... (read in full...)

Been married for 5 years and attracted to someone else

Q.   I have been married for almost 5 years I got married really young it was the day after my 18th birthday. I love my husband very much, but I don't think I am in love with him anymore. I am extremely attrated to another man. This has happened once ...

A.   22 April 2011: If you want to stay married to your husband, stop all the other rubbish, grow up and work on your marriage. Try marriage counselling, try something. If you don't want to be married to your husband, then leave and start a new life. There is no ... (read in full...)

How do I gracefully avoid an awkward situation of being pressured?

Q.   Hello aunts! I would like to start off by saying that I am 14 and a high school freshman. Four days ago, an 18 year old high school senior asked me out. Please don't judge the ages, I am aware. He's leaving for boot camp next fall and I do not ...

A.   22 April 2011: Just say no to going out with the guy. If he wants to know why, just say that you think he is a bit too old for you; which he is. If you can't say that, just say that your parents will not let you go out until you are 16. Parents can come in handy ... (read in full...)

I hate to end a relationship over texting but I dont' know what to do anymore!

Q.   This is a really random question, but I've been dating my girlfriend for about two years now, and I'm not a big cell phone person. I believe that when you're in the company of other people, be it friends or especially your significant other, the ...

A.   21 April 2011: Definitely, the girl is immature. But also, she does not seem to have any respect for you, or your wishes. I can't see this lasting, sorry.... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about these dreams and the subsequent pains?

Q.   I'm always dreaming as if i'm eating, when i wake up my chest hurts and i feel the pain goin down to my lower stomach. Wat's really happening to me? Should i be worried?...

A.   21 April 2011: I wouldn't like to guess. I think you should definitely go and see a doctor. The dreaming is probably just your brain picking up the sensation from your body. Don't worry, but go see your doctor. ... (read in full...)

I'm in a relationship, is it normal to have feelings for someone else?

Q.   So quick question, I am in a relationship, its been on the rocks for a while but I;ve been trying to fix it, and she;s constantly telling me I'm not the one and she doesn't understand why I stay. Well I met someone and we got on well together but I ...

A.   20 April 2011: If you are starting to like someone else, I would just finish with the old relationship (wasn't working, and she didn't sound like she cared anyway), and move on. It's actually good that you felt bad for liking someone else when you're in a ... (read in full...)

I want to relieve the stress in my life by losing my virginity.

Q.   I am 14 years old and my parents are always fighting so i think if i loose my virginity it will help me relieve stress. What should i do?...

A.   20 April 2011: No way will that relieve any stress for you, it will give you a whole new world of stress. You need to talk to someone. Do you have a family member, an aunt or uncle who you could talk to, or a favourite teacher at school? What about a friends ... (read in full...)

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