How can I convince her that I do truly love her a lot? She has doubts about me.
Q. Hey all i have a lovely girlfriend and we have been together for 2 months and recently she has been having doubts about me, for chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls. the thing is, i love her a lot and i show her my feelings ...
A. 9 June 2011: If you don't believe that you are flirting, maybe ask some of your mutual friends if they think that your behaviour could be interrupted as flirting. ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her that I do truly love her a lot? She has doubts about me.
Q. Hey all i have a lovely girlfriend and we have been together for 2 months and recently she has been having doubts about me, for chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls. the thing is, i love her a lot and i show her my feelings ...
A. 8 June 2011: Stop 'chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls'. Pretty simple, she has said how she feels. Chat to girls, but not behind your girlfriends back. Cos really, whats with that?... (read in full...)
It's like I'm allergic to my girlfriend! Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Or does anyone have any advice?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts I wonder if you could help me please, I’m so confused and upset over what’s going on. Before I go into detail I hope the following background to me/situation may help. I have two very stressful roles that are high profile and ...
A. 7 June 2011: I would guess that it is nerves that are affecting you. Past experiences can most definitely play a part in how we handle things in our present lives. I was probably in my forties before I could enjoy eating dinner in a relaxed, carefree way. I ... (read in full...)
I found some texts to his ex that have made me worried...what should I do?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. When we got together his ex fiancé was pregnant with his child, she kicked him out not long after she found out. Recently they have been getting on better, for their daughters sake. I don’t k...
A. 7 June 2011: Gut feelings can often be right. What you do next is a hard one. It will be difficult to confront him without telling him of you checking his texts. And the texts aren't good either, are they! I don't think there is much hope for your ... (read in full...)
Husband emotionally empty and I'm incredibly lonely
Q. I have a picture perfect life. I have been married 12 years (together for 20) to a handsome man who makes a good living. We have 2 great kids. We live in a nice house in a nice neighbourhood. I am attractive and have a great social life with lots ...
A. 6 June 2011: You need to start talking to him. Tell him what you have just told us. Ask him what his thoughts are on your relationship. How is he feeling about his life. Maybe he is in a rut and just wasn't aware, too busy with work and life. It is too sad ... (read in full...)
Did fate bring us back together?
Q. 1st post. Here goes.....(deep breath) So in 2007 I registered on a website to meet women of my age. A random girl gave me a glowing (yet conservative) compliment and I proceeded to converse with her based on that. We spent ridiculous amo...
A. 6 June 2011: I guess you won't know until you meet up with her. You may find that you don't have the same feelings when do actually meet. It has happened before. The physical chemistry might be there. It all might be just fantasy. She should respect her ... (read in full...)
We're planning to get married, but he wouldn't put me up for a few nights??
Q. I need help! I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I'm 25 and he's 32. Recently, we have been looking a houses and setting plans (in the belief that we would be getting married in the near future). We went ring shopping almost a ...
A. 5 June 2011: He really does owe you an explanation. He is not an acquaintance, he is the person you are sharing your life with. I would be getting him to tell you whats going on with him, now. I understand your reaction completely. Give him the chance to ... (read in full...)
Why would she be angry with me wanting time after this?
Q. My girlfriend decided I was "smothering" her, and decided that she wanted to be friends. We subsequently had an argument, basically homing in on the fact that she seemed to actually be finding ways to sabotage the relationship - something she ...
A. 5 June 2011: You sound like a caring and understanding guy, and I don't think she really appreciated what she had. Her loss, and you can do better.... (read in full...)
The pill and gaining weight?
Q. Hi, I've been thinking carefully about going on the Pill for a while now and think it's the right thing to do. My only worry is that it'll make me gain weight (vanity I know!) What have your experiences with the Pill been like? I really don't want ...
A. 5 June 2011: I never gained weight when on the Pill. Women have many different experiences with it. Just discuss your concerns with your doctor when you go for the prescription. The most important thing is to not smoke.... (read in full...)
My gf doesn't want to have sex anymore and I am wondering if it is because she had a traumatic experience in the past.
Q. My girlfriend and I have had a very bad sex life lately. It was good at first, but 3 years in she basically stopped wanting it at all. Ever. We talked about it tonight and she said that it's not uncommon for women to want to stop having sex afte...
A. 4 June 2011: She does need help. She should see her doctor to start with, who can then refer her on to the appropriate professional for her. I am with you on the talking to a priest issue, I can't see that as too helpful. There is no point in speculating on ... (read in full...)
Girl I like was really quiet on our date. What does this mean?
Q. Hi cupid, This girl told me she liked me by saying that as long as I'm at her party than that's all that matters. So because I liked her as well I decided to ask her out. We went to the cinema and for something to eat. She was really quiet whi...
A. 4 June 2011: Don't give up yet. Maybe on the next date she'll be more relaxed. It is hard when you are just getting to know each other. Make sure you ring her, and ask her out again. Movies are always an awkward way to spend a first date. Good luck... (read in full...)
Boyfriend help please...my boyfriend has a lot of girlfriends. What should I do?
Q. Boyfriend help! My boyfriend doesn't get along with men/guys well. So he has alot of "girlfriends." I usually, am a jealous girlfriend, not overly jealous, but average jealous for a girlfriend. However, recently, one of his "girlfriends", h...
A. 4 June 2011: Time for you girlfriend, to get a new boyfriend, one who doesn't have girlfriends. It is really quite simple. You can do better.... (read in full...)
My ex is playing mind games!
Q. My ex has been plating mind games a bit. For the last few months we have stayed in contact after the break up. I now have got to the point where I have had enough and have previously said for there to be no more contact. Now I have been ignoring ...
A. 29 May 2011: Yes, you are doing the right thing. So keep on being brave. He has no reason for contact. It's over, he needs to let go.... (read in full...)
B/f in touch with alot of his exs and hooks ups. He says its nothing but I don't trust him
Q. Ok, My husband left me when our daughter was just 18 months. He was having an emotional affair from what I gather with a girl he worked with. My problem is now that I'm finding it hard to trust my new boyfriend. We have been together almost 12 ...
A. 29 May 2011: Maybe its just not meant to be. You can't trust him, and he doesn't want to do what you've asked, in regard to ways you feel would help you build trust. I don't understand the hanging on to ex's either. If it's all too hard, just let it go.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spends all of his money on or for his mom. There's none left for me!
Q. I love my boyfriend but I'm so very sick of hearing sob stories he is always broke. He lives with his mom, pays all the bills, and also just gives money. I admire someone who can help their mom so much...but when it comes time for me, his finances ...
A. 29 May 2011: You won't ever change his ways with his mother; it is what it is, for whatever reasons. As far as his attitude toward you and your child, I think you would be better off leaving this relationship behind. Do you really want to be with a person who ... (read in full...)
There's no going back from this split, so why am I so broken up?
Q. I need serious help with my mixed emotions. I split from my married man just a few days ago- he betrayed me in the most unforgivable way and it is 100% clear to me that there is no going back. However, he has gone on holiday today for a week wit...
A. 29 May 2011: You can get through the week, by planning a fantastic future without this person in it. Think of all the things that you didn't get out of the relationship, things that you wanted and needed, but that he couldn't do for you because he is someone's ... (read in full...)
What can I wear for swimming? I have huge legs!
Q. I would love to go Swimming this summer and my Best friend just put up a swimming pool in her backyard and invited me but my big problem is i don't do the whole swimming suit thing not at all, My issue is my Huge legs and i won't even consider ...
A. 22 May 2011: You could try getting a spray tan, the tanned look appears thinner. Get a pair of long board shorts, there are knee length ones. And a bikini top. And have fun!... (read in full...)
I have too much hair!
Q. Every since I was about 11 or so, I've been ridiculously hairy. Kids used to tease me about it but I wouldn't let it get to me. It wasn't until I reached high school that it really started to bother me. I have hair on my upper lip, chin and breasts ...
A. 22 May 2011: Yes, I agree with CindyCares, you need to visit your doctor. Definitely sounds like a hormonal imbalance.... (read in full...)
The way my husband acts I think he hates me!
Q. I have had some problems with my husband and the problem is sometimes I feel that he hates me by his actions, when we first met he was the type to go out and party, but me, I was a homebody and I still am to this day, when we got together he stopped ...
A. 22 May 2011: Have you tried talking to him when you are not fighting? Take him out for a romantic dinner, a public place is good because you a less inclined to fight. Calmly bring up how you are feeling. Surely he didn't mean it when he 'wished you were dead'. ... (read in full...)
5 months of dating and he won't introduce me to his family!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months but he doesnt want to introduce to me his family.i have already introduce him to some of my family members.and i found out that he has a child from previous relationship bt he denies that.and the mother ...
A. 22 May 2011: You should ask yourself, do you think that you deserve better than all that? Absolutely. ... (read in full...)
Friend planning on having unprotected sex!
Q. My friend is planning on having unprotected sex with her boyfriend and I'm seriously worried she'll end up preagant at 17 but she won't listen to me when I tell her to get on the pill of use a condom and I don't know what do to get her to listen? ...
A. 22 May 2011: Give her a packet of condoms, and tell her to grow up. I don't see what else you can do. Explain to her how there won't be much love or lust coming her way as a pregnant teen.... (read in full...)
Should I try again? The last time I asked her out she said she wasn't dating
Q. So I was in another city visiting some friends so we could go to a comic convention. I went to visit an old friend at work (we still keep in contact) and give her a gift I found her. She seemed so happy to see me. She kept hugging me and laughing ...
A. 22 May 2011: Why don't you ask her if she is dating yet? Say it in a cheeky way; so that if she does say no, you can at least have a laugh and not feel embarrassed. But then she might just surprise you, and say yes. And thats when you jump in and ask her out. ... (read in full...)
She never wants to do couples things. How do I keep her happy and not lose my negative girl?
Q. My girlfriend is always getting mad at me no matter what i do for her. she never satisfied. It is as if whatever i do for her is never enough for her. She a very negative person always thinking negative as if nothing could never good right and she...
A. 20 May 2011: You are not responsible for her happiness. Doesn't sound as though anything you do would work anyway. You have to ask yourself, what are you getting out of this relationship? Do you really want to be with a woman who thinks, and tells you, that... (read in full...)
The wedding is so close and I know I love this guy but why do I keep focusing on reasons why the wedding shouldn't happen when the date is so close and there is a kid involved?
Q. The man I am with treats me very well, and treats my 7 year old kid just the way I would want a step parent to treat her, but there is no heat in our relationship anymore and I am SOOO infatuated with a guy I used to work with and constantly see him ...
A. 19 May 2011: You should be listening to that little voice inside your head. And don't marry someone just for stability for your child; that isn't fair to anyone. You don't sound like you love this person. Can you postpone the wedding for now? And talk to your... (read in full...)
I read her diary and found out she was bi-sexual! Should I confront her about this?
Q. I've been dating the girl of my dreams. I have been over the moon for the last 5 months because I have finally met someone who I feel real love for, and who loves me back just as much. She is gorgeous and kind and I truely have fallen head over ...
A. 18 May 2011: Yes, you did a bad, bad thing, the worst. If I found out that you read my diary, (if you were my BF) we would be finished. That is a huge betrayal. So don't ever do it again. Now, you could just casually bring up the subject of bi-sexuality ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to find my biological father
Q. im searching for my biological father, and i have been for a few years now. im getting told by a lot of people that its not such a great idea, my mother left him when i was about 2 years old, because he was an alcoholic and very bad drug abuser. but ...
A. 18 May 2011: I don't know about where you live, but in Australia, The Salvation Army are fantastic at finding people. You are old enough to look for your father, and to handle what you may find. You will need his full name, and date of birth. Good luck, and ... (read in full...)
Could my abusive past be the reason I'm desperate for a baby?
Q. I was wondering if my abusive past is linked to my desperate need for a baby. For as long as I can remember up until I hit 12 I was sexually abused by my biological father. I was wondering if it could be causing me to want a baby so badly. I'm...
A. 18 May 2011: You crave the unconditional love that you didn't receive from your father. He destroyed that, and it doesn't matter how 'healthy' & 'accepting' you are, you will always feel that sense of loss. Having a baby will not change that, but it will, if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is flirting via text with another girl!
Q. So for the past couple of months, I have noticed that my boyfriend of almost 10 months has been texting another girl a lot. We're both 17. I first I noticed this when I just had his phone and I saw the text conversation with her. I didn't really ...
A. 17 May 2011: Thats the problem with snooping; you find out things that aren't good, and you look just as bad because of the manner in which you got the info. If this girl was just a friend, why hasn't your boyfriend of 10 months told you about her, regardless ... (read in full...)
Travelling to UK in next couple of days and would appreciate advise. Should I text him?
Q. Hi:) Was out a couple of weeks ago and met this guy thats living in another country - he living in uk and im in ireland. He was really nice and we exchanged numbers. Sent him a text the next day basically just saying hi. He replied and we texted a ...
A. 17 May 2011: Yes, absolutely. You've got nothing to loose. Best of luck with both the job, and the guy :-)... (read in full...)
Ex took off when he found out I was pregnant, but I'm thinking of taking him back
Q. 14 months ago me and my bf were in a great relationship. we had so much love for each other it was unreal. however, i fell pregnant. he said he would stick around and support me even though he didnt really want it. anyway, that night he took off. he ...
A. 14 May 2011: I think you are very confused. And I don't think that the current BF deserves the treatment he has received. Do the right thing by him, and break it off before he and your baby get anymore attached. That's if you want to try again with the ex, but ... (read in full...)
Why is she so distant with me lately?
Q. Ok so iv been with my gf for almost a year now, she and I have grown up much faster then we have both had to, due to family problems when we were younger so we have a very mature and open relationship. However she has seemed to be a little distant ...
A. 11 May 2011: She might be just tired, or have something on her mind. Keep up the communications. Let her know that she can tell you anything, and that you are there for her. It is hard not worry though isn't it? I hope all goes well for you.... (read in full...)
Is it bad to have casual sex after a breakup?
Q. So my question may seem a little odd. More from curiosity than the need for advice. Basically I have had a series of bad relationships broke up with my long term bf. Met an amazing man. Moved in with him. Then he list his job and we lost our place ...
A. 11 May 2011: It doesn't sound like anyone is getting hurt. I assume you are practicing 'safe sex'. Both are consenting adults. Enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
I'm being blackmailed for having a one-night stand!
Q. Hello, I was just wondering if anyone would be able to help with this rather unusual predicament I'm in. Two and a half years ago I had a one night stand. I didn't think clearly about it and I instantly regretted it. The guy I had sex with remaine...
A. 11 May 2011: Do not go and see this person. No good will come of it. Tell your boyfriend what is going on, and the blackmailer has nowhere to go then. If this causes more problems with the BF, then maybe its time to move on from that relationship. If you think ... (read in full...)
He loved me when he was married and now he's divorcing he doesn't seem to love me!
Q. Hi, I've been dating a married man for more than one year. He was never happy in his marriage and during our dating year, I gave him advice about how to protect himsel financially, etc. He is now divorcing his wife and going through a mediator. ...
A. 9 May 2011: I think your relationship finished when he left his wife. Your role as 'the other woman' is no longer needed, it's over. And really, would you want to make a life with a man who cheated on his wife? Time to treat yourself better, and expect more ... (read in full...)
Should I try for this job again?
Q. Any advice much appreciated with this. I am currently looking for a job at the moment...not easy. I have heard about a job where I live at. The thing is I got offered a job at this place about this time last year. I said I would take it but at the ...
A. 5 May 2011: Go for it. I don't think she would consider your previous behaviour as a 'let down' at all. You sound as though you handled the situation very honourably. I am sure that your application would be looked on favourably. Best of luck to you.... (read in full...)
I can't seem to have conversations with people! I overthink!
Q. I'm an 23 year old guy in college, and every time I have a conversation, I consciously think of what I'm going to say next, rather than just listening to the person and expanding on what they say.My conversations aren't natural liked they used to be ...
A. 5 May 2011: Have you been to see a doctor lately? Maybe you need to talk to a professional about how you've been feeling, especially as you say that you have been feeling depressed for years. You should get a full check up with your doctor, and speak to ... (read in full...)
I caught my ex cheating in the office! Would you turn her in?
Q. I caught my ex gold-digging past-lover that I work with screwing with another person in the office this morning? I caught them and now have extremely incriminating evidence against her and I would love to get her kicked out of the office for ...
A. 5 May 2011: As good as it would feel for the moment, it would surely back fire on you. You would be seen as the bad guy I'm afraid. Maybe you should be looking for a new job. Remove yourself from this very unhealthy environment.... (read in full...)
Why is my g/f so frigid? Am I that repulsive?
Q. My girlfriend (27y) of 9 months and I (26y) have never been intimate, never discussed sex (she gets extremely uncomfortable), never ventured our hands between each others' legs. I always respect her comfort level. I feel unwanted. I feel...
A. 5 May 2011: You've done well to last 9 months. What does she want from the relationship? If she gets 'extremely uncomfortable', I'm assuming you've tried to discuss the lack of intimacy with her. If you've tried to tell her how you are feeling, and things ... (read in full...)
Is she cheating again or is the past just making me uneasy?
Q. My girlfriend and I are at what I consider to be a crossroads in our relationship, either this is going all the way or it needs to end while we're young, we are both the same age, 25, and we just recently got back together after about a year apart ...
A. 5 May 2011: It all sounds wrong, wrong, wrong to me. That you both cheated previously, not good at all. And now, you don't trust her. And it doesn't sound as though she is trustworthy. It doesn't appear to be a very healthy relationship at all. Just saying ... (read in full...)
I live with her, I love her but I'm afraid if I tell her it will ruin our friendship
Q. Hi there, I've been living with this girl for almost a year now. I actually also work with her as her supervisor. We get along great, hang out in work, talk a lot at home and we even go out sometimes with her friends. Over the past few days, I...
A. 3 May 2011: Maybe the reason she hasn't had a relationship, in to time you've known her, is that she has these same feelings for you. This is a wonderful realisation that you 'love her'. So, start slowly moving a bit closer to her, and if its meant to be, it ... (read in full...)
Shall I fly over to plead with him to reconsider not breaking up? I don't know what to do
Q. My husband had to go to a conference. I even helped him pack. And put some sweet notes into his case so when he unpacked he would know i care. We had a bad patch last year when he was unfaithful when he promised he would never never do it again. I ...
A. 3 May 2011: What a bastard to text like that, unbelievable! You will be in shock. But don't run after him, run straight to your solicitor, or Legal Aid if your cannot afford a solicitor . Check your bank accounts, credit cards, is the house in both your ... (read in full...)
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