How do I explain to my daughter that the man she thought was her dad actually wasnt her father, and he died 3 years ago?
Q. I have a 5 year old daughter. From the time she was born till she was 2 my best friend Craig was always there for her and I. My daughter called him daddy, even though he really wasn't her dad. Craig died when my daughter was 2 and ever since he...
A. 3 August 2011: Is there a reason why you can't tell her the truth about her real father? As you haven't stated in your question. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'll never be able to move on from my married lover....
Q. After 3 years of being with an older married man, I finnally walked away from him last week. Ever since, he has pestered me with hundreds of texts and emails daily, constant calls and if I don't answer he leaves voicemails crying, telling me he lo...
A. 3 August 2011: The first move, I believe, you should make, is to change your phone number and have a silent number. Change your mobile number, or block his number on your phone. You really need to stop this man having any contact with you. He sounds very toxic. ... (read in full...)
My boss broke up with his g/f and now he's treating me differently. I don't want things to change!
Q. hey, i'll try to keep this as brief as possible so i'm sorry if i go on a little bit. ^^' i'm 16 and i work as a secretary come assistant come general dogs body for my boss. we get along great, he treats me with respect and like a friend, which...
A. 31 July 2011: Stop accepting any more gifts. Don't be rude, but decline any activity that is not work related, for eg, the lunches and walks. It might even be a good idea if you could look for another job, because it could get a bit uncomfortable for you. ... (read in full...)
Does he actually want to marry me or am I wasting my time?
Q. I've been with my partner for 5 years and living with him for a year and a half. I w ant to get married and start a family and he says he does too. He. Say's we can't get engaged right now as he can't afford an engagement ring, (I don't want ...
A. 31 July 2011: Someone who spends all their money every month on DVDs and games, is not someone who has their heart set on getting married in the near future. If he wanted to get married, you would have a ring on your finger now. It is that simple, sorry. This ... (read in full...)
My ex came back into my life, who do I choose?
Q. torn between two lovers, whom do i chose? dear cupid, i have been in a relationship for 4yrs, and last year our love was on the rocks, and in the mist of our arguments and misunderstanding i met a guy and i realy liked him and he fel the same too...
A. 31 July 2011: If you are getting want you want and need from the new guy, why would you jeopardise that for more arguments and misunderstandings?????... (read in full...)
How do I stop my brother from becoming like our abusive father?
Q. Our parents are divorced and my brother (13) visits our dad for twice a month. I don't see him but he is having a negative effect on my brother. He is becoming sexist and says things like men should slap women if they disobey them. (this is what my ...
A. 31 July 2011: Try talking to your brother about the past. Remind him of those feelings he had when your father was abusive to your mother. Can you talk to your mother about this? Your brother really needs some serious guidance at this point in his life. He ... (read in full...)
He's really big and I'm really tiny and sex just isn't happening!
Q. I just started dating this guy who is amazing. Unfortunately when we tried to have sex it doesnt work for two main reasons. It takes a while for him to fit inside me. He is really big and I am really tiny, so the combination of the two is bad. ...
A. 31 July 2011: A woman's body is an amazing thing. You can fit a baby through a vagina remember, its adjustable to size. So there's no problem there. He will be going limp because things just aren't going smoothly. If it appears that you aren't aroused enough, ... (read in full...)
Any "happy ending" love stories?
Q. There are too many "my horrible love life is slowly killing me" posts. Anybody have any happy ending, true love, stories? Thanks! :)...
A. 29 July 2011: Didn't find true happiness with another until my late thirties. And only then, because I found true happiness within myself. Make a life that is true to you, and life can be easy.
You must remember that this is a site for people with ques... (read in full...)
If I get a job my child will suffer, if I don't I will suffer through lonliness! What am I supposed to do?
Q. Hi My husband is the only son of his over possesive mother.We are married 10 years but .My mil stays with me....who thinks herslef as Mrs.Perfect.Bcoz of her constant critisim I lost my cofidence .I took up a job...but she was not ready to take ca...
A. 29 July 2011: This is your house, not your mother-in-law's, and she should be respectful of that fact. Your husband should be supportive of you, and show that support in front of his mother. If you wish to get a job, talk to your husband, and together work out ... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance with my ex?
Q. My ex that i lost my virginity to has contacted me through Facebook, it's been 8 years we were each others first we had a deep love and we had a horrible breakup. he hated me for a while but then last year over Facebook we would write statuses sbout ...
A. 25 July 2011: I'm with 'dirtball' on this. It never works to go back to the past. Let it go.... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 25 July 2011: Probably a good reason why a persons past sexual history should be kept to themselves. No one likes to be judged. And is it really relevant? Is it anybodies business? Just so long as you don't pass anything on (from your past, STD's for eg.) to ... (read in full...)
Because of my past my girlfriend thinks I'm a "monster waiting to happen"
Q. The other day, me and my soon to be wife were talking, she thought I've been acting weird since we was dating when it came to sex and just now decided to ask me about it, of course I didn't want to tell her the reason why, It's something I haven't ...
A. 24 July 2011: This is really something that you need to deal with. For you to move forward in your life, and to ever, ever again trust another person, you will need the help of a professional. This is not something that you can handle on your own. You are not ... (read in full...)
Is cybersex cheating?
Q. I have a cybersex habit. I had it before I met my wife and I still have it. I have a very high sex drive and my wife just doesn't keep up with me by any stretch. To me it is just a step beyond jerking myself off. In fact, that's what it is. Some...
A. 20 July 2011: Yes.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets emotional when talking about work, which irritates me
Q. My girlfriend will work herself up into a hurricane of emotions when talking about anything work related. These conversations are completely one-sided. I try to add to the conversation or ask questions on the topic at hand to try to stay engaged but ...
A. 20 July 2011: She must have a very stressful job, and is just using you as someone to vent to. You don't have to say anything, but you should, even if you have to pretend, show that you are interested. Just the occasional nod and noise. My husband and I will ... (read in full...)
How can I build up confidence in the bedroom. I feel I am useless!!
Q. Hi everybody, I have a problem with my sexlife! I don't know whats wrong with me and I am too embarrassed to ask my friends for advice and tips. Basically I have had 3 serious relationships 5 years, 2 years and 1 year. First relationship I was quit...
A. 20 July 2011: You will get more confident as you get older, and more sure of yourself. I have always found too, that a big part of how good the sex in a relationship lay in how strongly you felt for your partner. If things go well with this guy, and its all ... (read in full...)
Is there some way of solving this problem?
Q. my nipples are huge. they are about 6cm across and they come out at 2 cm, 4 when aroused. i have small boobs anyway and it looks ridiculous. ive only found out theyre weird cause i have recently seen some of my friends boobs and there nipples are ...
A. 20 July 2011: These guys that said WOW were complimenting you. They (your nipples) may not be like your friends, but they are obviously impressive. Lots of men find that erotic. They are normal for you, as we are all different. Don't consider it a problem to ... (read in full...)
Can our daughter's possible health problem turn-off my wife's feelings for me and depress her?
Q. Me and my wife married for 10 years, have two kids. Latelly we have observed that our 5 years old daughter have some socilal adoptive problem. She doesn't follow social rules. She doesn't like to play with kids, doesn't follow the reules in class. ...
A. 19 July 2011: You all need professional help. Go and see your family doctor, he/she will be able to refer you on to suitable counselling. You can't help your wife, except in being supportive. Your daughter will benefit, from her parents getting the help that ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about his lack of interests and goals!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am having relationship problems, well obviously if I am asking for yalls opinions. I am in a relationship with a guy who is madly in love with me. Every girls dream right? Well wrong in my case. Don't get me wrong, I love him...
A. 19 July 2011: He must have some ambition, he is in college, and hasn't quit. He has plans for marriage and a family. If you love him 'so much'; why do you want him to change? What is it about him that you love 'so much'? Is he being any different now, as to ... (read in full...)
Do guys care if their girlfriend is taller than them?
Q. I have been talking to this guy my friend introduced to me too online for quite awhile and he's going to be in my area soon soon so we're going to meet in person. I am tall, 5"10 to be exact, and I know he is about four to five inches shorter t...
A. 19 July 2011: I have friends who have been married for over twenty years. She is about five inches taller than him. The subject comes up quite a bit, but mostly by others. They seem to be very comfortable within themselves and with each other. Some times she ... (read in full...)
I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!
Q. My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS...
A. 16 July 2011: She obviously feels quite strongly on the subject. I don't care much for bikes either. Don't take it to heart. She would just be worried for your safety. Oh, and I wouldn't bother offering to take her for a ride!... (read in full...)
I feel he loves me, but when he is goes to his hometown, I'm a nuisance, and it makes me crazy!
Q. I have been living with a guy for about 6 months....he is going through a divorce, he is so so sweet, he makes me feel so beautiful, and I love who I am when I am with him!! He loves his daughters, I haven't met his girls or any of his family!! I ...
A. 16 July 2011: He is probably having a very difficult time dealing with being away from his family, and the lack of control he has over the life of his kids. He is possibly, constantly worrying over their safety, if their mother is an 'avid drug user'. Money ... (read in full...)
BF is married and lied to me about being separated from his wife, having sex with her and having another kid that I didnt know of. Does he deserve another chance?
Q. Five months ago I met this guy who seemed like a good guy and was fun to hang around. From the first moment we met he admitted to me that he had a son who was in the first grade, and showed me pictures like any proud father. Even though I myself ...
A. 12 July 2011: You will always be doubting him, so I would have to say no to any second chances for this guy. In the five months that you dated, was occasionally sleeping with the 'wife'? If the answer is yes, he has been unfaithful to you. Not telling the ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of the baby not being my boyfriend's?
Q. My boyfriend and myself broke up around the 12 of may, in that time i slept with someone else, however my boyfriend and i were still on and off, got my periods on the 29th of may and it hurt more than usual and lots of lining? came out. Since then ...
A. 7 July 2011: 50/50 I would say. Don't you use protection/contraception?... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out or wait and establish more communication?
Q. OK. Here we go friends. I have a job. I like this girl over there. She is single. I have talked to her 2 or 3 times by now and last time was 2 days ago and the longest conversation with her. It started like this: Me: Hey, I saw you on facebook...
A. 7 July 2011: Go for it. Ask her for a coffee, Starbucks will do nicely. You have to ask her out now any ways, cos you said you were! Maybe she is just hanging onto the photos with the ex because she thinks she looks good in them, who knows. And don't start ... (read in full...)
I can't shake this feeling that I'm not good enough.
Q. I can't shake this feeling that i'm not good enough. I'm feel like a failure at everything that I do. I've had some success in my life, and when I had it, I felt it wasn't good enough so I think I sabatoge it subconsciously so that people wouldn't...
A. 7 July 2011: You need to go after something that you believe in. Why not shave your head. If you don't like it, it will grow back. Join an international volunteer organisation, they are always after help. Not sure how it works with the monastery. That one ... (read in full...)
Is it me or are they crazy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7yrs at the beginning it was horrible cuz he cheated and I forgave numerous times and I think the reason I did was because of low self-esteem issues which now I am in a different place in my life. He is always ...
A. 7 July 2011: Oh yeah, they are the crazy ones. DO NOT HAVE A CHILD WITH THIS MAN! In fact, why do you have anything at all to do with him? Why is he around your children? Gather up what little self-respect you have left for yourself, and say NO. Cut him out ... (read in full...)
She told me she was pregnant and I felt my heart shatter into pieces!
Q. I have badly fallen for my professor, (spare me the lecture, i've heard it all). I've liked my professor for 2 years, and felt a deep connection with her the first time I met her, she began teaching me and although I didn't think it was possible ...
A. 5 July 2011: I think you need to let go and move on. I don't think being friends with this woman will help you at all. You need to get stuck into dating, going out with your friends, trying to have a good time. Distractions and keep busy, and in time, you ... (read in full...)
He said I was playing games but I really do like him and I want him back!
Q. I feel really silly doing this but I don't no what else to do.. Sooo here it goes. I work part time as a barmaid in my local pub, and Friday just gone I worked a late shift as we had a big family reunion party in the Pub, and all night long a guy ...
A. 5 July 2011: You listen to those alarm bells, they are ringing for a good reason. What you said, and how you handled the situation was completely reasonable. And, might I say, very sensible; I am impressed. I would be letting this one go, it just doesn't sound ... (read in full...)
Am I being neglected or am I being too clingy?
Q. Hi, i have an amazing boyfriend. he is also my first boyfriend; we been together for 5 months and everything is going wonderfully, however due to his uni course, he has to spend one month on a site doing archaeological digging. Hes busy from 9 u...
A. 5 July 2011: You need to lighten up. Appreciate what you have, it all sounds fine.... (read in full...)
Is my bf being overprotective or just very caring? And should I stay with him even though my family & friends hate him?
Q. My relationship with my boyfriend has been great. He is such a great guy and he is my first love. We have recently moved in together but since the move he has started becoming weird like becoming over protective and making excuses for me to stop in ...
A. 2 July 2011: Yeah, I'd say controlling sounds like the right description of your BF. Why would going to college get in the way of your relationship? No wonder your family can't stand him. He must also be an idiot to say that you 'don't need an education'. I ... (read in full...)
My best friend is sleeping with my older brother, and they don't know I know. How am I supposed to react??
Q. Okay so me and my female best friend have been friends for years and we are incredibly close. Lately she has been distant with me as if she is hiding something from me. Then the other day i caught her and my 24 year old brother making out outside ...
A. 2 July 2011: Would you have felt differently about their relationship, if they had told you instead of keeping it a secret? I wouldn't worry about the age difference, it's not really that big. And while your brother is a father, he isn't in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 2 July 2011: You can't change a person. Don't ever believe that you can. The future will be just the past repeated, with a baby in the picture. So RUN RUN RUN. Tell yourself that you deserve so much more from life than you have been getting. Listen to your ... (read in full...)
Did he lose interest? How do I make him want me again?
Q. My boyfriend left for camp Monday morning. I stayed the night at his house Sunday night after he asked me to. We didn't do anything sexual and haven't gone farther than touching and making out. I'm 16, he's 17, and we've been talking for about a ...
A. 2 July 2011: I wouldn't worry. Possibly the reception wasn't always good. Maybe he just got busy doing camp 'stuff'. Send him a text saying - 'can't wait to see you', then just wait and see how it goes when he returns. There's no sense worrying until you see ... (read in full...)
Was he more than 'our' friend? Should I discuss how close my wife might have been with him?
Q. My wife has a male friend named X. She's been friends with him for years now, we now live a few hours apart, so we don't see him very often, but I've met him and we've all done things together a few times. The other day, we were shopping, and I ...
A. 12 June 2011: If it were me, I too would want to know it they had been more than just friends. And, I don't think I would have maintained a friendship with an ex of my partners. Yeah, just ask her how come she knows the what kind of underwear X used to wear. ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship just too full of problems? Or should I continue trying?
Q. Ive been seeing a girl for about 6 months who is some way younger than me. I am 30 and she is 19. We met through mutual friends of which there is a broad age range. I was cautious at first about anything happening as i was concerned about the age ...
A. 12 June 2011: The age difference if too big I feel. She is too immature for you. Try dating girls around you own age, and see how that works for a change.... (read in full...)
My mom says I have to pick either her or my ex
Q. My ex and I broke up while I was 3months pregnant mainly because he did not have a job and my mom and him did not like each other even before I got pregnant. I have always loved him and wish I could be back with him and have a family. He now has ...
A. 12 June 2011: This is totally unfair of your mother. You have to convince her that you are entitled to give it a go with the father of your child. It sounds as though he is maturing, growing up, and deserves a chance at having a family with you. Don't give up ... (read in full...)
Its nice my parents have sex, but do they need to be so loud and leave their lubes, toys and other things around?
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but rather wanting an opinion if I am in the right or wrong about what I think. My dad has moved away for a job, so he comes home once or twice a month. My parents are very much in love with each other, which I am ...
A. 11 June 2011: I am not aware of any rules on this topic, but for me personally, children should not have to hear their parents having sex. Are you the only child at home? (Though at your age you are hardly a child.) Maybe its time to move out. It is your ... (read in full...)
Questions from health class
Q. so in health class we are having the sex education talk and i'm not planning on having sex anytime soon hhahaa no worries specially cause i'm 15 but anyways my teacher said that sex should not hurt unless the guy is going too hard.. and i mean i ...
A. 10 June 2011: Its great that you are asking questions. Just because a person is a teacher, doesn't always make them an expert on a given subject. I guess this teacher is generalising, and trying to cover all areas for you. Sex can be painful the very first ... (read in full...)
Healthy mom or sick dad?
Q. Im now writting to ask what to do in my family situation. My mom and dad are divorced and i currently live with my mom and my dad lives in a differnt state. The doctors have told my dad that he is diagnosed with cancer and complete kidney faluire ...
A. 9 June 2011: Is it practical for you to live with your father, as his health deteriorates? Who will be looking after you? You need to discuss this with both your parents. If you don't get to be with him anymore than the twice yearly visits, you will be very ... (read in full...)
Having a booty call with friend's off and on boyfriend
Q. Ok so heres the situation. I met one of my best friends through work about 2 years ago. We hated each other at first, but last summer we grew very close. And now we are closer than any of my other friends. We talk every day and I love her to no end. ...
A. 9 June 2011: You need to get a grip, and give yourself a good shake. Sit quietly, on your own, and really think about what it will be like when your friend finds out. Really picture it, try and feel the emotions that you will both experience. See her face, ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her that I do truly love her a lot? She has doubts about me.
Q. Hey all i have a lovely girlfriend and we have been together for 2 months and recently she has been having doubts about me, for chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls. the thing is, i love her a lot and i show her my feelings ...
A. 9 June 2011: If you don't believe that you are flirting, maybe ask some of your mutual friends if they think that your behaviour could be interrupted as flirting. ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her that I do truly love her a lot? She has doubts about me.
Q. Hey all i have a lovely girlfriend and we have been together for 2 months and recently she has been having doubts about me, for chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls. the thing is, i love her a lot and i show her my feelings ...
A. 8 June 2011: Stop 'chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls'. Pretty simple, she has said how she feels. Chat to girls, but not behind your girlfriends back. Cos really, whats with that?... (read in full...)
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