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We broke up a year ago, but I still think about her every single day!

Q.   Hi I broke up with my ex about a year ago. We lived together for 2 years and were together for about 4. I really miss her and think about her every day. I havent been with anyone since as every time I meet someone I shy away because I still love my ...

A.   23 August 2011: You will never get over her while you are still in contact with her. Try to distance yourself from her. You are probably shying away from other girls because, with your ex still so much in your life, you might feel that it would be a betrayal to ... (read in full...)

Family and a crush on my cousin since I was 13. How do I move on from this?

Q.   Hey people, I really appreciate you guys and girls for helping me out and I have a problem. Please don't say ewwwwww, or anything rude because it's my second cousin. Please help me. I remember this was back 3 years ago when I was 13, I saw my se...

A.   23 August 2011: You've got yourself a little obsession going here. You have spent wayyyy too much time thinking about her. Yes, she may just think of you as an annoying cousin; whatever her reasons are, for not contacting you, you have to start getting a grip. ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my ex happy birthday?

Q.   Hey everyone, I was wondering recently my ex's birthday had just passed and I was thinking about sending her a quick happy birthday email. However my birthday happened sooner then hers, it was in January, and I didn't get a happy birthday or ...

A.   23 August 2011: I think you should let it be. You need to let go, so that you can move on with your life. You will heal in time, just takes a while sometimes. Tell yourself that its over, and try to forget things like birthdays, anniversaries etc. You'll get ... (read in full...)

Is my problem more about my own jealousy than anything else?

Q.   I really like this girl. And she's a good friend of mine. The problem is she is best friends with another guy. They are way too abnormally close. This concerns me. I have a feeling something will happen between them. She always chooses him to ...

A.   20 August 2011: If you are friends and not dating, I don't quite understand. Are you jealous as a friend, or is it that you want to be more than friends? If you want more than friendship, you need to let her know this. If she wishes to date you, then the ... (read in full...)

Should I go out with him? I really want to to, but I am scared

Q.   Okay, so im realllllyyy into this guy. He is my age and seems like a really great guy and all that stuff. but he smokes, does weed, alcohol and isnt a virgin..Yeah i know its all bad stuf, but ive done everythin but sex, ima virgin. I really likie ...

A.   20 August 2011: Have you heard that saying "Don't judge a book by its cover" ?? Ted Bundy, a famous serial killer in the US, was one of the most innocent looking person, which was how he managed to entice his victims to him so easily. So don't believe that this ... (read in full...)

I don't want him to think I'm too easy

Q.   I'm 17 and I've been dating this guy for 3 months and we have recently gotten to second base. He told me he would stop if I didn't feel comfortable, but I like it. The only problem is that I don't want him to think I'm too easy. Are we being to ...

A.   20 August 2011: If you are ready, and he hasn't pressured you, then I believe that having been dating for 3 months, doesn't make you 'easy'. He sounds like a descent person, so he won't think you're 'easy'. Just remember to use protection!!! :-)... (read in full...)

Started on a one night stand then affair then now confused.

Q.   were both married still @ this moment. we are working in the same company. we both admitted we are attracted to each other before he got married and i was battling my husband infidelity and lack of sense of responsibilty. we shared txt messages, ...

A.   20 August 2011: You don't sound very committed to fixing your marriage, so you should do the right thing and get divorced. Your husband doesn't sound that committed either. Don't stay together for your child's sake, that just never works. Until the other guy has ... (read in full...)

I cant stop thinking about this guy I saw while on holiday in Greece!!

Q.   This is a bit of a weird question but anyway i'v just come back from a weeks holiday in greece.I went with my brother and my dad,we decided to go to the waterpark one day. While i was on one of the rides i noticed this guy who was my age or older ...

A.   20 August 2011: It's not love, it's your first taste of what you may have heard about, chemistry. Great feeling hey! Don't worry about trying to forget about it, enjoy it. You will feel it again, possibly several times in fact. That chemistry is what attracts a ... (read in full...)

I'm disabled, how can I get more money when I can't work?

Q.   Okay I know this is mostly a love related site but i know there are great people on here who can answer my question... Okay im 19 and I was born disabled and since I was born disabled I've never been able to work. SSI gives me $620 a month bec...

A.   20 August 2011: Definitely look for on-line work. There are courses in professional writing and editing you can do on-line, which then qualify you for proof-reading & copy-writing/editing type jobs. As Kyle007 said, data entry work, and lots of freelance writing. ... (read in full...)

How to get my boyfriend to kiss me??

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been together for a week now. He is 18 and I am 17. We have held hands in the movies and hugged several times. He just hadnt kissed me yet! This would be my first kiss and I don't know if it would be his first kiss though. ...

A.   19 August 2011: Don't do anything. It will happen, when the time is right, and he is feeling confident. It'll be worth the wait.... (read in full...)

I'm concerned about my son's relationship

Q.   i have a son. hes only gone eighteen. he has a girlfriend. she has an apartment and a child who lives with her aunty. she has limited time with her four year old. shes six years older than my son. he stays over without telling me and turned o...

A.   19 August 2011: At his age, I don't think that there's much you can do, accept be there for him. You could try talking to him, pointing out the obvious. But boys that age, don't hang around much listening to their mums do they! Hopefully it will run a short ... (read in full...)

I do all the housework and I'm not happy about it. How can I broach this conversation?

Q.   Hey there everyone ive got a question that i can't really answer myself. My girlfriend and i have been together for a few years now and we now share a house together, but it seems like im the one doing everything around the house all the time. Sh...

A.   14 August 2011: Don't start an argument, just say - "I've done the washing, and left the ironing for you." "Can you dry these dishes while I wash?" "Will you mash the potatoes while I finish off the gravy?" Speak up, ask for help. If you keep on like this, your ... (read in full...)

Why does he want a trial marriage if we have already been G/f and B/f for two years already?

Q.   I was out to dinner with my boyfriend tonight and I asked him what his reservations are about getting married. He told me that he wanted to live together first because he wanted a trial run to see if we were compatible. I feel after two years he s...

A.   14 August 2011: I can see his point of view. Going-out/dating and living together are entirely different playing fields. If he has concerns about your compatibility, it is better to have ago at living together, before committing to marriage and a mortgage. Don't ... (read in full...)

Should I just take a chance and hope he doesn't cheat on me?

Q.   Hey everyone! I recently began a relationship with someone. My last relationship involved a lot of deceit on his part, and from that I find trusting people difficult. I recently discovered my boyfriend cheated on his last girlfriend. Is t...

A.   14 August 2011: Past behaviour will often be an indicator for future behaviour. For me personally, I wouldn't get close to him. Because really, what possible reason/excuse could there have been for his cheating on a girlfriend? It's not something that happens by ... (read in full...)

She's surrounded by men in the workplace -- might she feel some attraction?

Q.   My question is this. I've wondered about someone I work with and since I cant read minds dont really know what she thinks. If you are an attractive married woman, working in large open plan office, with many people working, and your job require...

A.   13 August 2011: I have worked in two work places where I was the only female. What was good about it, was the lack of bitching that goes on where it is predominately female. I was married, always managed to get my work done, and was never attracted to any co-w... (read in full...)

What's up with him? he'll compliment me then insult me three times over and will not 'hang out with me"

Q.   This guy and I met online through a mutual friend. He gave me his number first and I gave him mine and for the past month we text and talk on the phone non stop. We have so much in common and I get the feeling he likes talking to me but when...

A.   13 August 2011: He sounds annoying to me. I wouldn't bother with him. Don't reply to his text any more, and see if you get a reaction. You don't really know him, he's making you feel uncomfortable, so why continue any form of contact with him. If he wanted to ... (read in full...)

He wanted to spend so much time with his friends. We were missing out on more intimate moments. Was I out of line in this ?

Q.   Hi all, Ok so my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me suddenly on Wednesday night over the phone and I have not heard from him since. The situation is as follows: Things were always really good when we spent time alone, although we also spe...

A.   13 August 2011: I personally wouldn't have been keen on the idea of his watching the ex-gf playing soccer. Sounds to me as though he was more interested in his friends than you. I would let it go, and move on. It takes two to have a relationship, and I think you ... (read in full...)

My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...

A.   13 August 2011: You'll know for the future to go with that good old female intuition. ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend broke up with me and doesn't want to talk to me

Q.   so upset me and my boyfriend has just split up he said i dont make him happy like i use to do and that he doesnt want to get together im devastated, he seems odd around me like he doesnt wanrt to talk i feel really bad that iv made him fel like that ...

A.   12 August 2011: It was never your place to make him happy. He could be happy being with you, or not. One person can't make another happy. So don't hold yourself responsible for his not being happy. Look to the future, you will get through this tough time. Good ... (read in full...)

Any tips or advice for someone who hates going out?

Q.   Hi everyone. I’m wondering if anyone’s got any tips/advice for someone who hates going out. This weekend, I’m off out with a bunch of girls for my friend’s birthday. It’ll be a clubbing/heavy drinking sort of night but I hate that sort of thing. I...

A.   12 August 2011: Oh yeah, can sooo relate to how you feel. It took me many years, and some horrible nights out, but I learnt to just say - 'Nah, think I'll pass. But you guys have a great time.' And seriously, you need to get some new friends, real friends. To ... (read in full...)

Is it normal that guys forget their girlfriends when they are around their friends?

Q.   I don't understand sometimes what's up with my bf. Ok, we currently live together. During workdays, he gets to go home first and he always never fails to follow-up on me if I am on my way home or always ask me why I was late for only a few minutes ...

A.   12 August 2011: I don't understand why you live together. It sounds as though you a room-mates, and not a couple in a relationship. The only time that you wish to spend with each other is after work, during the week. Doesn't leave me feeling very warm and fuzzy. ... (read in full...)

GO AWAY LOVE, I don't want to be a freak

Q.   I know i'm being stupid asking this but its really getting me down i convince my self that with practically every guy i meet that its love and that there he's one i've had a couple of bf and each time my mind goes into this omg its love, i lov...

A.   12 August 2011: You're not a freak. You are just looking for someone to love, and to love you. Have you missed out on a healthy, happy childhood? Was your father there for you, to love you? Give the boys a miss for a while, get to know yourself better. Find ... (read in full...)

My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!

Q.   So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...

A.   10 August 2011: It's his birthday, you'll just have to respect his wishes I guess. You might not understand them, but there you go, we're all different.... (read in full...)

Very much in Love but cannot leave the family

Q.   Hi I am married with an 8 years old. I ma very much in love with another woman, she is my sweetheart from 25 years ago. She lives in ITaly and has a doughter of 8 years old. We met again and fell in love again... I left 25 years ago to come to E...

A.   9 August 2011: Your lives have turned out the way that they have, because of the choices that you made all those years ago. If she doesn't want to leave her husband and daughter now, thats the choice she has made. Make it easier for her, and leave her to get on ... (read in full...)

Do I just not have guy material to attract women to me?

Q.   I always see my friends that have girls who are attracted to them. All the time female friends that tell me how they like one of my other friends and I feel bad. Ive never had women throw themselves at me like they do to them and its got me down. ...

A.   9 August 2011: Maybe you don't have that dangerous/bad boy appeal that some guys have. But don't stress it, that kind off thing wears thin after a while, and then the girls all want the nice guy. Thats where you come into your own. So just be patient for now. ... (read in full...)

Should I just let it go or give him a hint?

Q.   Hello! So, I’ve been interested in this guy for a couple of months now pretty much since we’ve been working together and we became pretty good friends. I got a new job about a month ago, and as soon as I ended my first job he asked me out. A few ...

A.   9 August 2011: If it were me, I'd let it go. He knows where you are if he is still interested.... (read in full...)

Is my best friend trying to ruin our friendship?

Q.   Having an issue with my best friend. So, my best friend is gay, and, honestly, I thought that was the best kind of friend. A guy who could give me advice in fashion, be blunt about how I look, y'know. But recently he's been skinning me off... Like, ...

A.   7 August 2011: If his behaviour is out of character, ask him whats wrong. Maybe he has something on his mind, and needs a prod to talk about whatever it is. Friendships are, or should be, about honesty and you should be able to speak up for yourself without fear ... (read in full...)

Do I need to rehome the dog? How can I better settle my son? I am so worried re this.

Q.   hi everyone i know that this isnt a relationship question but i don.t know what to do with my 2 and a half year old son he has been in his own bedroom for 6 months now. Putting him to bed was no problem i would settle him in read to him give him a ...

A.   6 August 2011: If the night time screaming and the arrival of the dog have occurred at the same time, I would say that the dog is the issue for your son. If you want the dog to sleep in its own bed, you have to take charge, and put it there. You are the boss. ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions for sensual music?

Q.   Hello everyone, I was just wondering if anyone new some sensual music to listen to with your boyfriend. An example of this would be like No Ordinary Love by Sade, but thats not his favorite. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!...

A.   5 August 2011: Definitely Marvin Gaye, and Barry White.... (read in full...)

Did I do the right thing breaking up with my b/f who I think has retroactive jealousy?

Q.   I need to know if I did the right thing in breakn it off with my bf of 2 yrs... I believe he has retroactive jealousy.. I've been reading about it and it clrealy sound he has that... my past is a real big issue to him... he constanlty puts me down ...

A.   5 August 2011: That was not a healthy relationship, so its better that its over. In the future, don't share your sexual past. It is history, learn from your mistakes, and make better choices from now on.... (read in full...)

I like her but I'm scared if I talk too much she'll think I'm crazy or something!

Q.   ok so i am 24 male and am going through a very rough path of life since 2 years after my breakup. i am mildly depressed and frustrated because i dont fit into the society and seem to have lost all my social skills. Leave alone women, i really find ...

A.   5 August 2011: Whatever your interests are in life, that is where you should be mixing and making friends. Stop telling yourself that you are weird, try unique for a change, see how that fits you. Do you ask her questions about herself, or are you doing all the ... (read in full...)

His daughter is a selfish brat and I'm running out of patience!

Q.   Hi I have been with my partner for over a year.He has a 17 year old daughter who is controlling.About a month ago when they had an argument she told him that she hates where she stays and wants to stay with her Mum who was the bad one in my ...

A.   5 August 2011: As the step-mother to three girls, two of whom live with us, (and yes, all through their teenage years!!) I can say from experience, that this will not change. You have no control in how he handles things with his daughter. The best way to handle ... (read in full...)

I am now pregnant but haven't had a chance to grieve for my mother. I don't know how to handle this

Q.   Hi, I'm in a bit of a dilemma. Although I am very happily married to my husband, We have just found out we are expecting our first baby. The dilemma is because although we are married almost 4 years, and pregnancy is more than acceptable at this ...

A.   5 August 2011: You are allowed to grieve for the loss of your mother. It is very sad that you cannot feel joy in your pregnancy, but that is just a fact in your life at this present time. Grieve for your mother now, and when your baby is born, then you can have... (read in full...)

Thoughts only why I'm called a slut and 19 months along enough time to wait to loss virginity?

Q.   okay well i lost my virginity to much boyfriend of 19 months at the time. he was a virgin also. i was just kinda wondering was that a good about of time to wait. i thought so but just wondering. also why do you thik people call me a slut when ive ...

A.   5 August 2011: If you are in the 13-15 age bracket, you are too young to be having sex, with either virgins or non-virgins. This is possibly the reason why there is some name calling in your direction. As you can't change what has happened, you can only now ... (read in full...)

I can't connect with people. What should I do?

Q.   Hey, im 19 and have very few friends. everyone i meet likes me and are nice to me but dont really talk to me. they say hi but nobody likes having a conversation with me. it is making me feel lonely and depressed because i cant connect with ...

A.   5 August 2011: Always use a persons name in a conversation, this makes them feel that you are taking notice of them, which people warm to. Ask questions about themselves. Try and have a few questions always on the ready, 'Do you go to school?' 'Do you work?' ... (read in full...)

Someone help! I don't want to make the wrong decision on my future!

Q.   I know this is relationship advice, but this website gives me the best, most insightful advice!! I don't know what to do, i have a vitally important life decision to make. And i have to make it as my future starts in a month!! Ever since i was 10 ...

A.   5 August 2011: You could go to Uni in England, not make any friends and hate it. And forever regret not taking the opportunity of a life time. Or, you could go to America and live your dream, make fantastic life long friends, have an exciting career. You must ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I should demand he comes to see me or just say "okay"

Q.   Me and my bf have had a row during our time off togther. He has gone home and has said he does not want to see me tomorrow but we can hook up on Saturday? Is this okay, i am not happy, we are on our annual leave togther,although maybe we have been ...

A.   5 August 2011: If you've 'been getting under each other's feet a bit' - most certainly go with 'ok, see you Saturday'. Hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday.... (read in full...)

Is the lack of sex the reason why I no longer have feelings for my husband?

Q.   am a married lady been married for the past 20 yrs my problem is I no longer have feelings for my caring husband. my problem is that for the past 3 yrs we have no sex, I tried to ask him but he does not give me any answers. can this really be the ...

A.   4 August 2011: It is hard to stay connected to someone who won't talk to, or confide in you. It's also hard if there isn't any intimacy in your married life. Do you think that he is having an affair? Or could he have a medical condition that he is keeping from ... (read in full...)

My ex made me insecure about sex , how do I stop this insecurity so I can move on with my new guy?

Q.   Hello aunts and uncles.. Ok so my situation is I broke up with my bf 2 years ago.. I'm still not completely over him he was my first bf I took home to meet my family I lost my virginity to him..were together for 5 years.. The first 2 1/2 were on and ...

A.   4 August 2011: You should talk to the new guy, explain that you have had you confidence stomped on. If he is a nice guy, he will be understanding and help you get over the past. But you have to let him know what's going on with you, or he won't be around for ... (read in full...)

Could this technique help people to keep that 'honeymoon' feeling forever?

Q.   Hey everyone, i've read loads of great advice on here about the 'honeymoon phase' of relationships, and how this fades in time in all relationships, and it leaves me wondering why we stay in long term relationships then? The honeymoon phase is great ...

A.   3 August 2011: People do I'm afraid, it's called cheating, infidelity!... (read in full...)

How do I explain to my daughter that the man she thought was her dad actually wasnt her father, and he died 3 years ago?

Q.   I have a 5 year old daughter. From the time she was born till she was 2 my best friend Craig was always there for her and I. My daughter called him daddy, even though he really wasn't her dad. Craig died when my daughter was 2 and ever since he...

A.   3 August 2011: Is there a reason why you can't tell her the truth about her real father? As you haven't stated in your question. ... (read in full...)

My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...

A.   24 April 2011: I can understand where the boyfriend is coming from. Does he keep all things about his private life off FB, or just the fact that he is in a relationship? Maybe his profile is just for the professional and not the personal. ... (read in full...)

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