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Dating for one month so far. I feel as if I'm not good enough when I'm trying to pleasure him. What could be the problem?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. Let's call him X. He's 39. I'm 22. I'm still a virgin and he's not. We've already done sexual stuff and he knows what he's doing. I, on the other hand, have not been able to get him off. I feel ...

A.   3 February 2013: If he wasn't happy to be with you - as things are right now - I'm sure that he would have moved on by now. He is probably understanding of your inexperience, give it time.... (read in full...)

What are the key factors to keep a Gf interested? I'm afraid my Gf will eventually lose interest in me

Q.   a simple question, i'm a very nice guy. too much of it. i please my gf in every single way but im afraid she eventually, with time, will have taken me for granted and lose interest. what are the key factors to keep her interested?...

A.   3 February 2013: Make sure that you have interests of your own, that you don't rely on your GF as your only interest. While it is good to share things, it makes life more interesting for both of you if you have separate interests also. This gives you other things to ... (read in full...)

How can I sort things out with my g/f and tell her that we need to compromise and both take blame?

Q.   Hi everyone.. I really need some advice about my relationship. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 years now and over the past year, its not been as good and a week ago we split up. The niggles that we have are often over silly things, we ...

A.   11 January 2013: While you both are feeling liked the one who has been wronged, you won't get anywhere. Someone has to make the first move - IF you really want to get back with her. Do you think that maybe things have gotten bad over the past year, because it's poss... (read in full...)

My husband going to massage parlors. Do I leave him?

Q.   I have been married to my Husband for five years. We both have two boys and all four of them live with us. About four years ago I found they my husband was on dating website we split up but decided to try and work things out. About two years ago I ...

A.   11 January 2013: He has a problem, and his not seeking help through counselling, leaves you with a situation which will never be any different. Yes, talk to him, and tell him that you are considering leaving, as you don't see how you can continue to live this way. ... (read in full...)

Is my body not compatible with the IUD?

Q.   I realise this isnt entirely a relationship question but i do genuinly need some help on this one.... i had an IUD fitted about 2/3 months ago and since then my periods have been eratic. I have bleed for 9/10 days the past 2 months, had head...

A.   11 January 2013: My advice is that you should be taking yourself to see a doctor. It could be the coil, but you really need a professional to access you. The headaches and high BP are enough to warrant a visit to your GP. Off you go, now!... (read in full...)

My sister is verbally and mentally abusive to her children. What can I do?

Q.   I have an older sister that emotionally, verbally, and mentally abuses my 13 year old niece and 15 year old nephew. Every day she calls my niece all kinds of nasty names and calls my nephew everything but a child. She mocks their looks, tells them...

A.   3 January 2013: When it comes to other people's children, it gets complicated. Besides voicing your opinion, all you can really do is be there for your niece and nephew. You tell them all the good things that they should be hearing. You encourage them to feel good ... (read in full...)

Is having a threesome a good idea to spice up our sex life?

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm 23 year old turning 24 in 2 months..I'm married to this gorgeous man I love and everything is going great,but we always need something to spice up our sex life.rather I need something to spice up our sex life..so I decided to sugge...

A.   2 January 2013: Someone will always be hurt - bad idea. Plenty of other things to try. There is a huge amount of literature on sex - do some research. Then have lots of fun experimenting.... (read in full...)

Is this guy just a user?

Q.   When dating a guy for 2years he is laying in bed with me present girl freind a ex girlfreind calls while we are in bed making love.She tells my guy she loves him and he responds back and tells her he loves her to. Then hang up the phone and tells ...

A.   31 December 2012: So, you had a good relationship up until the moment you found out that there was another woman in his life? He is cheating on both you and her - So, you might want to think about that. You will get angry - when decide that that is not what you ... (read in full...)

I want my BF to grow up and save $ - Am I controlling?

Q.   So I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He doesn't have a car or a license. So I drive him to and from work and everywhere else every day except on his days off. He pays for gas, most of it, and buys a few groceries since I stay with him at h...

A.   31 December 2012: It's not that you're controlling - it's more a case that you can see what he needs to do to get some independence. You are lucky in the sense that you grew up with parental advice on how to achieve, whereas your BF has not had that same guidance. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is acting almost paranoid about me leaving him and its really starting to get to me!

Q.   I've been seeing my bf now for 4 and a half months, it started really well ( the honeymoon period) but now he's started to over react to situations, and I would almost go as far as calling it paranoid about me leaving him. I no he's had bad past ...

A.   30 December 2012: You need to tell him exactly what you have just told us. It is as simple as that. And this is a great opportunity for him to learn to trust again. Best wishes for the New Year xx... (read in full...)

Everything is not Ok. Never had a relationship. Do I need to feel better about me first? Or would the right partner make a difference?

Q.   I know you're not supposed to rely on other people for happiness but I feel like finding that one guy who understands me and clicks with me will help me get out of the slump I've been in for the past years now. It's really hard being gay,clos...

A.   16 December 2012: Putting on a mask and pretending won't get you anything 'real' in life. Forget for the moment about finding 'someone' and find yourself first. Work on those things that you hate about yourself - don't be lazy! Then you might start to at least like ... (read in full...)

We're 9 years apart in age. Is that too much?

Q.   Hi, Hi recently met a guy a chatting app. Because the app tells you how near the person you're chatting to are, I know that the guy doesn't live too far away from me. The guy is 27 and I'm currently 18 going on 19 in March. I wasn't original...

A.   4 November 2012: Red Alert! Red Alert! Of course he seems 'really nice' - but the 'really persistent' part worries me. And personally, I'm not to keen on the age difference, you are still only 18. I would be very careful.... (read in full...)

We're 9 years apart in age. Is that too much?

Q.   Hi, Hi recently met a guy a chatting app. Because the app tells you how near the person you're chatting to are, I know that the guy doesn't live too far away from me. The guy is 27 and I'm currently 18 going on 19 in March. I wasn't original...

A.   4 November 2012: Red Alert! Red Alert! Of course he seems 'really nice' - but the 'really persistent' part worries me. And personally, I'm not to keen on the age difference, you are still only 18. I would be very careful.... (read in full...)

Husband made weird comment about 2 co-workers who have cheated. They are going on a business trip together. Should I worry?

Q.   I need some advice on why my husband with say some things he said before leaving for a busines trip. He has a job that requires him to travel from time to time. He woke up this morning and was reading some work emails and he said he hated the idea...

A.   3 November 2012: I think that what he is saying, is that he doesn't want any situation to arise where one of these women might possibly put the hard word on him. He would then have to turn them down, causing an awkward feeling. You should feel good about the fact ... (read in full...)

I met him online. His behavior alarms me. Should I just let things go?

Q.   I met a man on an online dating site a little less than 2 weeks ago, he is 57, I'm 50. He's a soldier in Afghanistan, his tour is over December 15th. He was married for 18 years, divorced for 7, I was married for 15 years and divorced for 3. He ...

A.   3 November 2012: I would trust your gut feeling on this one, and agree with Oldbag - let it go!... (read in full...)

I love my husband but he shows me no affection

Q.   i have been married for 4 yrs now i love my husband but he doesnt touch or hug me or kiss me or sleep with me we have slept in seperate beds for over 1 yr i love him he is a wonderful guy i feel he gives me everything but what i really ...

A.   3 November 2012: It sadly doesn't sound like a marriage to me. If you feel that you want to turn to another man, maybe you should leave your husband. It sounds as though he has already left you. If you've talked,and had professional advice, and still it isn't ... (read in full...)

I feel like I need to put on a happy front all the time and I can't! How do I change?

Q.   I don't like myself most of the time. I have been feeling a lot better recently, but then I'm reminded of when I was a child and I deal with anger and other negative emotions and it's overwhelming. I cut off all ties with my mom and I don't intend ...

A.   3 November 2012: Try to live in the moment - concentrate on what is going on in your life right now, not in the past. Each time you start to think about the past and your mother, shake your head as if to shake away the thoughts and go back to what is happening now. ... (read in full...)

I'm married, he's married. I guess I'm stupid and need help in trying to end things

Q.   I am a married woman having an affair with a married man that I have reconnected with from college. I am in love with him and he says he is in love with me, but seems to not want to commit to a timeframe for leaving his wife. His elderly father has ...

A.   3 November 2012: Admit to yourself that you've made a huge mistake. Accept that he's just been using you. And then decide if you want to stay married. Doesn't your husband deserve better? And it is easy to end 'IT' - stop!... (read in full...)

What is the best way to support and deal with an emotionally damaged boyfriend?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. We met online and before I got into this relationship I knew he was damaged. All I know that one or more past girlfriends have cheated on him other than that I don't know a lot. He is very gua...

A.   28 October 2012: Be patient and understanding as best you can. Don't push, but offer to talk when he feels comfortable. Be yourself, and just see how things go.... (read in full...)

I'm confused, because after 3 months she says she only wants to be friends. Why? is it just stress that's made this happen?

Q.   I met a girl online. We talked on the site for over a month before she gave me her number Then after that, we texted and talked on the phone for 2 weeks before we went on a date. Sense then, we've gone out everyweekend for 2 months, sometimes tw...

A.   28 October 2012: I think that she is being honest with you about her true feelings. It is unfortunate, but then life is like that sometimes. She sounds like a very nice person, who didn't want to hurt your feelings. In time you will get over her.... (read in full...)

Do you think my guitar playing can play a role in attracting a woman who will love me, into my life?

Q.   Hello ladies and gentlemen I have a weird question. How much does guitar playing affect in attracting females? I am a guitarist and I can shred, strum, sing and play ANY song. I compose my own music and cover many rock songs. I have been singl...

A.   28 October 2012: Haven't you heard of that very old saying - 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder'? When a woman falls in love with you, she will think that you gorgeous, that is the nature of love. All of the traits that you believe that you have, will attract the ... (read in full...)

I don't want to hurt this guy but I don't want to date him. How do I let him down gently?

Q.   HI :) Well basically I just wanted to know how to let a guy down gently and tell him that you're not interested in him. So I am in a band and one of the members 'really likes me' and wants to ask me out, I mean don't get me wrong he's a lovely g...

A.   23 October 2012: If he asks you out, just say 'thank you very much, I'm flattered, but I'd rather not.' Simple and no room for any misunderstandings. The safest way to go. If he really likes you, he will be upset that you turned him down, that is just unfortunate ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend of 3 years broke things off, should I let her cool off?

Q.   Hello, My girlfriend and I of about 3 years just broke up last week on Thursday. She has been separated from her husband for three years(he wasn't happy no more)They are going through a messy divorce. So she is being stressed out with that situat...

A.   23 October 2012: She sounds as though she needs space and time for things to settle down. If you are prepared to wait, do so. If you're not happy with the way you left things with her, write her a letter expressing how you feel, and your intention to wait. It then ... (read in full...)

Friend's obsession with her b/f and their problems is really getting to me!

Q.   i have a friend who is dating an raf man. all she ever talks about is him. if he dosent text, she analyses evrything and her moods go from up to down. one minute shes crying, then if he texts shes back to normal. as i live with her, i get it all the ...

A.   18 October 2012: Life is too short - you need to move on from her. Leave her to her dramatics.... (read in full...)

I get on really well with my boss. Why doesn't he make a move? Should I make the move?

Q.   I get on with my boss ridiculously well, we are completely on the same wavelength, both in our twenties and both single. For around 6 months we have been flirty in work (I usually only work with him on a weekend) and he often remarks that he think...

A.   17 October 2012: Because he is your boss, I would be very careful/cautious here. If you start a relationship, and then things turn sour, you could be without a job, or at least in a very uncomfortable situation. Maybe he is aware that his friend likes you, and is s... (read in full...)

Do you think my crush likes me?

Q.   Hello :) I posted a question about a week ago, but I only go one answer, so I'm posting it again. Do you think my crush likes me? I have two classes with my crush. First and second block. (by the way, we are both sophomores in high schoo...

A.   17 October 2012: Sounds to me as though he likes you. You will have to be the brave one and start the conversation - the blushing and stuttering give the impression that he is very shy. Go for it, could be a mutual crush situation.... (read in full...)

Can I trust my g/f not to cheat on me? She lied to me!

Q.   ok so i've been with my girl friend 5 months and she is the girl of my dreams and i believe she loves me also. thing is she was with somebody for 8 years and not been happy for a long time. we started seeing each other so she was cheating on this ...

A.   17 October 2012: I don't see how you will ever be able to completely trust this woman. You might try really hard to trust her, but you all ready know that she has cheated in the past, and more importantly that she has lied to you. I can't see things working for you ... (read in full...)

I realized life is short, made a bucket list but don't have the money to do things!

Q.   I don't really know how to say all this but, I'm 17 and would like a little advice. In May 2011 I almost lost my mother, she was fighting for her life and thankfully made it! In November 2011, I lost my grandad, this was a complete shock a...

A.   16 August 2012: All of these things that have happened in your life is what life is - a real roller-coaster ride sometimes. Having dreams and going after your goals is the best way to live your life. You'll figure out how to achieve them along the way. Some ... (read in full...)

Which career choice should I go for?

Q.   Hi. This isn't really about a relationship problem. Mainly a life problem. Anyways I'm currently in college for my AA and after that I'm going into the RN course! I know this is an amazing field to go into, but I sometimes don't feel that my heart ...

A.   11 August 2012: You are on the path of adulthood, making major decisions that will ultimately affect the rest of your life. It was great that you took on board your parents thoughts and opinions, gave them consideration, but have chosen what you feel is the right ... (read in full...)

Which career choice should I go for?

Q.   Hi. This isn't really about a relationship problem. Mainly a life problem. Anyways I'm currently in college for my AA and after that I'm going into the RN course! I know this is an amazing field to go into, but I sometimes don't feel that my heart ...

A.   9 August 2012: Nursing is very hard, and it is a MUST that you have a passion and a desire to be there. Yes, it is very rewarding, I know. But it is not the profession to go into for the money. If you can't picture yourself as a nurse, then it's not for you. And ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a super "homebody" and I'm not!

Q.   My bf and I have been together for almost 3 years. We get along great and we both are college students (don't live together). My problem is that my bf is a major homebody. His desire to be home all the time (cuddling, playing games, watching TV, ...

A.   9 August 2012: You don't sound irrational, and it should be a deal-breaker. Has he always been this way? If he has, I don't see why he would, or should change. If you want more, then that is fair enough too. You will only become resentful if you give up living the ... (read in full...)

Family situation affecting my Bf. How can the issues be raised? A little girl is suffering.

Q.   Hello, OK so some background: My boyfriends 28 year old sister "X" lives at her parent's house after losing her house about a year ago. She lives there with her four year old daughter. she has spent the last 12 yrs going to communitity college...

A.   9 August 2012: The best thing that you can do for your boyfriend, is to love and support him. Don't go making any judgements about his family, or how they could be doing things better. Families can get very defensive when non-family start to try and give advice, ... (read in full...)

Things have gone from bad to worse since I told the truth. What should I do now?

Q.   I hurt my husband badly and I apologised for that, but his reaction makes me feel like withdrawing my apology. We have been married for a year. We dated for two years before marrying. It was a terrible time for me. During this time, I did the begg...

A.   9 August 2012: You say that 'I couldn't leave him cos I loved him dearly' - but from all that you wrote about him, and your relationship with him, I cannot understand what it was that you found to love about the man. And it doesn't sound to me that he loves you ... (read in full...)

Study tips? I have trouble concentrating and staying focused. Help!

Q.   I can't study. Ever since I was young I've always been smart but I can't focus on studying. I'm constantly distracted even when there's nothing to be distracted by and I have no patience. Every subject bores me and as soon as I finish the class I ...

A.   18 July 2012: You get distracted because you are bored. Look at what you are studying and why. What is your goal? Are you at college to get a degree for a career that you want to have? Or are you there because your parents said that is what you do next? If you ... (read in full...)

I feel like I'm losing my father to his new girlfriend and her children.

Q.   My father's moving abroad while my brother and I are remaining here with our mother; but of course we're completely dreading him leaving but he seems to be counting the days until he leaves to be with his new girlfriend and her children. The ...

A.   10 July 2012: If you have explained to your father how his behaviour has been making you feel, I can't see what more you can do. You are justified in feeling the way that you do, so don't doubt yourself. You will have to be the grown-up in the relationship with ... (read in full...)

Will my crush ever talk to me?

Q.   I thought my crush liked me so I flirted and gave him my number. He texted me a couple weeks later. He is shy so I didn't think much of it when he texted me two weeks after I gave him my number. He started to stare at me a lot, smile, blush, and ...

A.   10 July 2012: I'm thinking that maybe you need to just let this one go. You gave him lots of opportunities; he'll just have to be in your past, because I can't see him in your future. As time moves on, you'll get over it. xx ... (read in full...)

He wants to move in after 3.5 months of dating!

Q.   I would like some advice on my situation. Thanks your first for reading this. I am a 35 years old lady and divorced once. Now I am really looking for the right guy and have a happy relationship and family. I met a nice guy 2 and half months befo...

A.   8 July 2012: It's only too soon if it feels that way. Do you think he is rushing things due to his lease ending? It's not ideal if that is the case. Does he know that what you are looking for is a relationship AND a family? Maybe he's got to be in his late ... (read in full...)

I'm wondering if I should be mad at my boyfriend for returning my sister's call first!

Q.   Hey everyone I don't know if I should be mad at my boyfriend but he did something I didn't like. Ok so I called my boyfriend, he didn't pick up his phone, I wasn't mad though but my sister called him ( she's 14), he didn't pick up either. But l...

A.   19 June 2012: It doesn't sound like too big of a deal to me. So yeah, just let this one go :-)... (read in full...)

Is his low sex drive because he's no longer attracted to me or because I put off sex sometimes?

Q.   I have issues with my boyfriend of 7 months. When we first met he was meant to be a one night stand and the sex was amazing. I'd never had any one like him before. He'd took me out on a date that evening, and he made me laugh and I liked him, but I ...

A.   19 June 2012: Have you tried to talk to him about this? Possibly he feels responsible for your 'health problems' in some way. Who know's what he is thinking, you'll have to ask him. Best of luck. ... (read in full...)

The love of my life used to be an escort... can I forgive her?

Q.   I met the girl of my dreams... or so I thought. A little background... She is a senior in college and I'm a few years older than she is with a solid career. She is beautiful, intelligent, exciting, fun... she was the perfect woman. I never ...

A.   19 June 2012: If you are the one that said 'the meanest things a person can say', shouldn't you be asking for her forgiveness? And, it isn't a case of you forgiving her for being an escort, it is more about you being accepting of her past. She hasn't done ... (read in full...)

She won't tell me to my face that she made a mistake breaking up with me!

Q.   Six months ago, I dated this girl for a month. She broke up because she said she still had feelings for previous ex whom she dated off and on for over a year. She said she doesn't think she will ever go back to him because he's a jerk. Now six ...

A.   19 June 2012: If you're still interested, ask her out. Take your time, get to know her again. You may find that you can trust. It is probably just a case of her not being very mature as yet. Give her a chance, if you really like her.... (read in full...)

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