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7 August 2009: I guess I am writing this or sharing my story because I want to provide some help/education to those of you affected by this illness, or know someone with it, or if you are just helping out posters that have this condition. I am 37yrs old and I wa...
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Being harrassed by a married, former coworker?
Q. Hey, I'm an aunt on this site and I'm very frustrated with a situation that I haven't been able handle. There was a married coworker, 2 small children, of mine that I worked with for 3yrs and we had a good, professional relationship. NOTHING ...
A. 8 November 2009: All of you are definitely right and I'm not at all upset or offended that you think I could have handled this better- that's what I needed to know and what I asked so thank you for being so honest, I really appreciate it more than you know.
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Being harrassed by a married, former coworker?
Q. Hey, I'm an aunt on this site and I'm very frustrated with a situation that I haven't been able handle. There was a married coworker, 2 small children, of mine that I worked with for 3yrs and we had a good, professional relationship. NOTHING ...
A. 8 November 2009: Just so you know, I would never accuse this person of sexual harrassment unless he started physically stalking me or something crazy, which I don't think he will! Calling him a psycho was just me venting my frustration in an anonymous environment. ... (read in full...)
Being harrassed by a married, former coworker?
Q. Hey, I'm an aunt on this site and I'm very frustrated with a situation that I haven't been able handle. There was a married coworker, 2 small children, of mine that I worked with for 3yrs and we had a good, professional relationship. NOTHING ...
A. 8 November 2009: Accountable, you could be right, that's why I asked the question. Someone that I don't know well on a personal basis is calling me late evenings on holidays is not really appropriate in my book. I wouldn't call some married guy at night unless it ... (read in full...)
Being harrassed by a married, former coworker?
Q. Hey, I'm an aunt on this site and I'm very frustrated with a situation that I haven't been able handle. There was a married coworker, 2 small children, of mine that I worked with for 3yrs and we had a good, professional relationship. NOTHING ...
A. 8 November 2009: Ok, I just hope that doesn't come across too personal. I don't want that to open the door for him to say something like his marriage isn't going well or anything weird like that. ... (read in full...)
Being harrassed by a married, former coworker?
Q. Hey, I'm an aunt on this site and I'm very frustrated with a situation that I haven't been able handle. There was a married coworker, 2 small children, of mine that I worked with for 3yrs and we had a good, professional relationship. NOTHING ...
A. 8 November 2009: Thanks so much for all the excellent advice, looks like I was too direct and also avoidant. We worked together several years ago and I did talk to him on the phone when he called me at a normal time during the day but there really is no reason for ... (read in full...)
Should the break up stop me from being in contact with his friends?
Q. hey everyone! So my boyfriend broke up with me just over 2 weeks ago and I am still pretty sad about it. Anyways, I was good friends with a lot of his close friends before I knew him and in the past week I've been talking to some of them. I feel ...
A. 7 November 2009: As long as you don't talk about your relationship and put your mutual friends in an awkward position like that, it should be fine. Surely you have your own friends to discuss your breakup with, right? Otherwise, I agree. If you were friends with ... (read in full...)
I want my ex bf back, please help!!
Q. 3 days a go my boyfriend of 2 1/2 months broke up with me because he is too busy and doesn't want to keep me holding on, he says he want's to be with me and that he does love me but doesn't know when he will have the time to spend time with me. ...
A. 7 November 2009: If he loved and wanted you, he'd be with you. LOTS of people work and have hobbies and manage relationships quite easily. I know he's your first boyfriend but please realize 2 1/2 mths is a VERY short time to be involved (most wouldn't even ... (read in full...)
Last week he loved me, and now it's over??
Q. Hey guys i would really appreciate some help with this one. If it is long i apologise but going into detail might make it clearer to you. A few weeks ago a dear friend of my got back in touch after a long time and after talking etc we realise...
A. 7 November 2009: metalsman puts it really well as far as the guy questioning your "capacity for value". You irresponsibly got pregnant in the first place and didn't protect yourself well and now you are bringing up the subject of kids again? To be honest, it just ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get your period while you're pregnant?
Q. I am sexually active with my girlfriend of course. My question is... is it possible to get your period while you are pregnant? According to those menstrual cycle calculator things her fertile days 19-24 of october. And she was supposed to be ...
A. 7 November 2009: You can't have an actual period while you are pregnant (some women get spotting) but you can get pregnant while on your period. I had both situations happen to me- got pregnant on my period and thought I was having a period during my first ... (read in full...)
Can two introverts date and have a successful relationship?
Q. I have a question for anybody that would like to add their opinion.Can two introverts date and have a succesful relationship? I ask because I know that I,for the most part,have an introverted personality.Im usually lost in my own thoughts,or ...
A. 6 November 2009: When I got my Master's degree in IT, those classes were full of introverts and most were married to other introverts. In fact, I've never met more introverted people in my life. I would sit in class and wonder how these people dated because they ... (read in full...)
Drunken mistake won't leave me alone...
Q. This guy i did stuff with while drunk keeps trying to contact me through facebook, but he was just a DISGUSTING mistake and I really don't want to have anything to do with him... How can I reject him without seeming like a bit of a b****?...
A. 5 November 2009: You don't owe him anything so don't respond at all. Any response will give him something to work with or negotiate around. You aren't being a bitch, you are just completely unavailable to him in every way. That's the message you will send across ... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.
Q. Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...
A. 5 November 2009: Well, I support you in your decision and I can only imagine how difficult it was to make. Regardless of what I would have done, it's not my life and I'm not for a second going to pretend I'm entitled to make judgments about yours. I wish you the ... (read in full...)
I might want more... Eventually
Q. hey. Well straight to the point. I've been talkin dirty over the net to this guy i've known for quite a long time. We've been good mates for a couple of years now. So, We're planning to get down and dirty, sometime soon in the future. But i ac...
A. 5 November 2009: I think it's already too late for him to see you as girlfriend material since you've been having phone sex with him. This is just a sex thing and it's almost impossible to turn things into more once it starts out like that. If he wanted more, he'd ... (read in full...)
Why do teachers flirt with female students?
Q. Just being curious, but why do young male teachers flirt with their female high school students. Is it so they can get them to like them? Do they enjoy watching how we get crushes on them or just for fun?? And of course there's teachers who...
A. 5 November 2009: If you are asking this because of a specific situation, you will probably get more informative answers if you just say what it is. ... (read in full...)
Why does he not respond? Does he need space?
Q. The guy I am dating had a birthday and I text him happy birthday and something nice at the late evening, on that day and the day after in the morning I text him happy good morning and happy birthday and some very nice sentences about that, he is the ...
A. 5 November 2009: Doesn't sound like he's too interested and I think you have already texted too much. The ball is definitely in his court so he'll call you if he wants to do dinner. Ideally he should be taking you out, not coming to your house and you cooking for ... (read in full...)
Have I lost him forever by cutting him off like this?
Q. I broke up with my best friend of three years/boyfriend of one year over the summer. It was hard at first but our close friendship seemed to pull through, and soon we were able to talk fairly normally again, even after I agreed to give a mutual ...
A. 5 November 2009: Anyone that dispenses a litany of verbal abuse at you is no friend, okay? Calling you over and over to lecture you is harrassment, it's what stalkers and people with borderline personality disorder do.
Just because he's "religious" doesn't mean... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of getting him back in my life?
Q. When i was 13 i lost my Virginity to my 4th grade crush 13 is young but i felt we were meant to be. And the relationship took a down fall..Now he is dating one of my Closest friend...she is like Family...my feelings for him hasn't gone away...On my ...
A. 5 November 2009: Why would you even consider trying to screw over one of your best friends who's like family to you? Of course you should move on, he's with your friend. If he had feelings for you, he would have dated you. Based on your age, you guys had 5 years ... (read in full...)
Should I leave things alone or try to get her back?
Q. Ok this may take a while but please read all of it. I really need some advice on this. I'll start this story in with my 7th when I was 14 grade year. I met this girl named Laurinda and I'm not gonna lie at first I thought she was just some annoying...
A. 5 November 2009: It's really nice that you took the time to write her a note to express all of your feelings. It sounds like you did everything right in this relationship and have you read anything about people with ADHD? Especially when they are younger, teens ... (read in full...)
Can a smaller penis look bigger from a different person's perspective?
Q. Hi i am about 18 years of age, and I have a question on measurement in penis sizes. When i put the ruler next to my penis it shows me that i am 8 inches. Now the problem is, when i was in MMA the men had to take showers when the session was over. I ...
A. 5 November 2009: Really, for a lot of females, anything over 6 inches can be a bit uncomfortable- you must watch a lot of porn or something. It's also not the length that's the most important, it's the girth so you are focusing entirely on the wrong thing. In ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my boyfriend to drive to see me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months, and we both live an hour away from each other. In the 3 months that we have known each other, I have always driven to see him weekly (sometimes twice a week), and he's only driven down to see me ...
A. 5 November 2009: Personally, I would have exited this relationship a LONG time ago. Seriously, he can't drive to see you? Whatever, he doesn't sound that into your relationship. I would stop making the effort to drive to see him but please be prepared to never ... (read in full...)
Do opposites attract? Will I not attact him because we're so much alike?
Q. I have had a crush on my boss for the past 8 months. I don't believe in having a work relationship so I have done nothing to pursue it. I would be willing to find a new job, its time for me to move up in my industry anyway, but I don't know how to ...
A. 5 November 2009: No, I actually think every similarity is an asset. I think the more you have in common, the better you can relate and communicate. When you find a new job, shoot him an email to catch up over coffee. That will open the door to other things if ... (read in full...)
Was it all in my head or did my professor have feelings for me?
Q. So this is complicated, I was asked by one of my Professors like three semesters agao to join a Behavioral Philosophy Lab that he was going to start at school. One day he approached me and asked if i would like to join and he explained to me ...
A. 5 November 2009: Why did you ask him so many questions about other people joining the lab? Who cares, don't you want all the credit??? Sounded like an awesome opportunity. Sounds like you were looking for things that didn't exist from the getgo. Are you leaving ... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 5 November 2009: The fact you think men your age don't approach you because you look "too young" tells me you don't have many real conversations with men or even know much about men. When you were online, didn't you notice the age range most men that age were ... (read in full...)
We're drifting apart and I don't know how to change it!
Q. My guy friend has stopped talking to me! He still stares but I haven't seen him in a while. When I left class to be dismissed we both looked at each other and I left. He texted me one day but not much lately. I hope I didn't hurt him when I told him ...
A. 4 November 2009: If you told the guy you weren't going to talk to him, then that's why there is distance. It's beyond me why you would tell someone you don't want to lose as a friend that. How can you fix it? Be honest and tell him why you wanted to stop talking ... (read in full...)
Bipolar wife pregnant-help!
Q. My wife is bipolar. She is also pregnant, so she isnt taking her meds. I knew this would be hard, but she is really starting to get to me. I love her, but Im getting really tired of the fights.... that more often than not, seem to be about stupid ...
A. 4 November 2009: The first thing you need to do is get her to the psychiatrist. Anyone that is bipolar and pregnant is at a high risk during pregnancy, especially if they are bipolar 1. I am not trying to be an alarmist here, but suicidal thoughts and attempts ... (read in full...)
Why do teachers flirt with female students?
Q. Just being curious, but why do young male teachers flirt with their female high school students. Is it so they can get them to like them? Do they enjoy watching how we get crushes on them or just for fun?? And of course there's teachers who...
A. 4 November 2009: Yes, they have favorites, it's only natural. They see a student with a lot of potential or one that reminds them of how they were as a teen, for example. My ex would always have a couple of students each year he would talk about- usually had to do ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined everything with the man I love?
Q. I've been with my bf for 6 months. He's a complicated creature, very sports orientated from a young age so his appearance has always been important to him so he regularly goes to the gym. He has also never been on holiday with anyone and canno...
A. 4 November 2009: Hi, once someone tells you that they can't give you what you want and to go find someone who can, it's pretty much over. You didn't do anything wrong, he just doesn't sound like relationship material. I suspect he has commitment issues and letting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't respond to my calls or texts in 7 months!
Q. My bf and i have had a long distance relationship for 1 year now. but in march i texted him normally and waited for a reply. but he didnt reply to none of my calls or text messages. before all this he said he was busy with work and would be free in ...
A. 4 November 2009: I think the fact you've tried new relationships with other guys, you kind of know this isn't really your boyfriend anymore- no contact for 7 months? That's a very clear indication this isn't a relationship and the LDR thing isn't working. At this ... (read in full...)
Why do teachers flirt with female students?
Q. Just being curious, but why do young male teachers flirt with their female high school students. Is it so they can get them to like them? Do they enjoy watching how we get crushes on them or just for fun?? And of course there's teachers who...
A. 4 November 2009: I think eager young girls take almost any attention and think it's flirting! Male teachers have a VERY difficult job and find that being nice or complimenting someone can be misconstrued very easily. My ex was a hot, young teacher and was relieved ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now my sister won't talk to me!
Q. Should I say sorry to my sister, I had an abortion in April and my sister got very angry at me, she is very pro-life and wanted to to weigh my other options. She did not talk to me for a couple of months, and it was really hard not being able to ...
A. 4 November 2009: No, don't apologize to her. She should be apologizing to you for childishly ignoring you and making it all about her and what she went through. She also violates your privacy, good grief. You can always tell her that you love her no matter what ... (read in full...)
Suddenly he just wants to be friends. What's going on?
Q. Ok - here is my problem. I met a wonderful man about 3 months ago - we shared alot of information - by email, texting and talking on the phone. He asked me out on a date and alot of questions about how I felt about his current situation (having ...
A. 4 November 2009: Well, if you want just a friend then go out with him. He wants a friend, no more, that's his deal.
If you want more, meet other men that want that. Take care. ... (read in full...)
She is 30 and he is 74. Is he actually interested in her mind?
Q. He is 74. She's 30. First of all, let's say he is a thin, very attractive, elderly man. It may seem gross to some people, but she says she is actually attracted to him. It may be weird to some, but she said something about him is fascinating to h...
A. 4 November 2009: Your friend is foolish to get involved with a married man on any level, emotionally or sexually, who cares what his story is. It's a dead end for her. There is no reason for him to divorce his wife, he has too much to lose and she lets him do what ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend has interfered with our relationship!
Q. I met this guy a year ago and we have been taking it slow. Recently his best friend came back to town and is thinking about moving back. He is with us all the time. I don't mind, but... Things he is doing creep me out. He calls me all the time. ...
A. 3 November 2009: Just tell your boyfriend, please. I was in this same predicament a couple of months ago with a guy I just started dating and his supposed "best friend" started texting and calling me all the time. I told the guy I was seeing and he said, "that's a ... (read in full...)
I am tired of this woman texting my husband with her problems!
Q. my husband continues to be friends with a woman that i don't approve of. i told him several times that she wants more than that,but he says i'm just jealous. everytime she has drama in her life she text him at least 15 to 20 times and believe me is ...
A. 3 November 2009: Your husband needs better boundaries, for sure, but I'd pick up the phone at this point and call this woman directly and give her the number to a therapist in your area. Wish her the best of luck with her problems and then sit down with your ... (read in full...)
I am supposed to be meeting this man for the first time, but he restarted his online dating profile!
Q. i met a man on an online dating site almost three mnths ago and we have been txting by phone ever since. he made big deal bout deactivating his account because he didnt need it anymore coz he fond me.of course i didnt believe that and gla i didnt ...
A. 3 November 2009: Please don't meet this person, don't even bother when they are already trying to deceive you. The fact he was going to deactivate his account before he even met you face to face was weird enough, really. ... (read in full...)
Ever since I became happy with myself, I seem to repel men!
Q. I am a 27 year old editor and I have the worst luck with dating out of anyone I know. This year, I have been on dates with seven men, every one of whom has not felt compelled to continue seeing me, almost always after three dates. ...
A. 3 November 2009: I have a similar problem where the way I look doesn't match my personality and I also have a similar childhood. I have a really small build and look very innocent so many of the men that are immediately attracted to me are the more alpha ... (read in full...)
Could this Senior be a Cheater?
Q. Okay, so there is this sweet senior, and he will always come by me and touch me a little. hug me, hold my hand. and when ill text him "hey" he will text me " hey cutie ;-D". the thing is that he has a girlfriend who has been away. and im afraid she ...
A. 3 November 2009: You are afraid she might be cheating? Uh...you are the one trying to break up their relationship and desperately trying to "start" something with him...attempting to lure him away from his girlfriend. Get a grip and leave him alone. Their ... (read in full...)
If I leave my girlfriend, will she let me see our son?
Q. I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 22. We've been together for a year and a half. But, we consistently have problems in the relationship, and the love just faded a long time ago...anyway When I let her know whats wrong, or if I have a concern regardin...
A. 3 November 2009: She can't take your son away from you, no court would allow that unless you have drug problems or anything severely wrong. Courts are granting joint custody now in most cases so she'll be forced to share custody with you. I would document all her ... (read in full...)
My Co-worker likes me... right?
Q. I recently read a Question pertaining to a situation of a Guy with his co worker. She had a boyfriend yet had told others at work that he was taken/hers. Someone I work with also does this with me. Ive only known him for about 4 months, close as...
A. 3 November 2009: Since he's referring publicly to this as an "affair", sounds like he's not single or you aren't single. It doesn't bother you that he's making you look bad in front of coworkers? People look down on others that move in on someone else's territory ... (read in full...)
My friend saw me naked! I'm so embarrassed!!
Q. had any body ever had embarrsaing moment before cuz i had one not long ago when my friend walk in on just when i was geting out shower naked and she see my privet parts what should i?...
A. 3 November 2009: What should you do? Close the bathroom door and lock it next time you take a shower. ... (read in full...)
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