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When I masturbate I have the urge to pee

Q.   Okay so I got a problem, every single time I masturbate, I have the urge to pee. It starts when I rub my clit and when I finally enter a finger in I have to stop to run to the toilet and pee. It's not just a feeling, I really do need to pee. So i ...

A.   22 August 2010: Pee beforehand!!! :) It's actually a good thing to do anyway since it helps to prevent the possibility of you accidentally peeing when you orgasm. And of course, pee afterward, too, to reduce the risk of a UTI. If you've never had one, believe ... (read in full...)

He initiated the relationship, and now he's telling me he updated his dating profile. wtf?

Q.   I signed up for eHarmony just over a month ago and about two weeks in, went on my first date. It went well, and we've been seeing each other ever since. It seemed to me like he was moving really, really, really fast but I figured "to hell with ...

A.   22 August 2010: Well, the relationship is over. Thanks for your guises advice. :)... (read in full...)

Why do guys want to watch girls masterbate?

Q.   Why do guys like to watch girls masterbate? I mean I don't really mind it,but it's a bit awkward to me. I'd rather you finger me then me finger myself. I wouldn't ask a guy to jerk off or something while I'm there when I know he'd rather me do it ...

A.   22 August 2010: I like to watch guys and girls masturbate. :) I'm also very giving, lol. But to explain, I think it's hot to see someone pleasure themselves, to watch them do exactly what it is that gets their rocks off. They know themselves best, after all. ... (read in full...)

Why am I so attracted to dark skinned men lately?

Q.   I dont get a lot of attention from boys back home. I keep my body in shape, and wear nice clothes and my friends say that I am really pretty and my hairdresser asked me to model. Anyway, I went on holiday to Turkey, and got all this attentio...

A.   8 August 2010: Haha, hey, this happened to me once too!!! When I was younger I was not attracted to black men at all; I could not figure out why and it was something I consciously realized. I just figured that dark skin, to me, was like being fat to other people, ... (read in full...)

I am pretty sure my mom is cheating on my dad, what do I do?

Q.   Okay, hi Im 14 years old and I have a question. My mother and fathr have been together about 18yrs now. Last year, my mom been really acting weird and everytime when she has a phone call she looks at the number and sometimes won't answer it. One ...

A.   8 August 2010: This happened to me about a year ago, a few months before I moved out of my parents' house. I found out my mom was a PROSTITUTE. No joke. Well, I kept my mouth shut, and still can't tell my stepdad what she's up to. Or my little sister. I could ... (read in full...)

Can I get into trouble for dating a 17 year old even if we have no intention of any sex whatsoever?

Q.   Hello everyone. I'm 20, my gf is 17 and lives in California. I know the age of consent in California is 18, and this is no issue for either of us. We have talked about sex and neither of us want to go there yet, we both understand and respect both ...

A.   3 August 2010: Listen, I've been in this EXACT SAME SITUATION. No worries!!!!!!!!!! If you aren't having sex, you aren't violating any age of consent laws unless what you do isn't consensual (which it obviously will be). I talked to a lawyer, really. Don't sw... (read in full...)

Its been 18 years since I had sex and I don't know how to move this to the next step...

Q.   I am 47 and divorced. I have not had sex in 18 years and I'm thinking too hard. I'm dating but I can't figure out how to move us from a kiss in the living room to sex in the bedroom. (Sex in the living room would be even worse.) Is it as simple ...

A.   29 July 2010: My apologies if this does not seem too relevant since I am from a younger generation, but for us, here's kind of how it goes, at least in my personal experience. 1. Watching a movie, relaxing in bed, whatever. 2. Holding hands, maybe touchi... (read in full...)

Hooking up with a guy 10 years older for a FWB relationship

Q.   Hey, So I was considering hooking up with one of my friend's brothers. I've known him for about two years and we've been discussing it for some time now and we both want the same thing, no-strings sex. The only thing is, he's ALOT older than m...

A.   28 July 2010: Listen, wait until you've reached the age of consent, whatever it is where you live. I'm 18 and my fwb is 36--the thing is, because we're both adults, it's all fun and no worry/stress/concern. Wait until you're old enough, and until you're o... (read in full...)

23 and always single...

Q.   Well, I have a problem. I am always the single girl. I've always been the single girl, always. Save for a few dates, I've never had luck with men. And I don't see that changing. Truth is, I've got an odd look to me that you either love or hate. I ...

A.   26 July 2010: I was in the EXACT same position as you!!!!!!! Seriously! I could not figure out wtf I was doing wrong for the life of me. Yeah, I'm pretty overweight, but so is like 40% of our population, many of whom can get a date just fine.... I could not ... (read in full...)

Since his desk is right next to two of my supervisors, how should I ask this guy out?

Q.   There's a cute, in my "league" work-study student who's been flirting with me since I came back to school this summer and found that he was a new addition to our department. So, I'd like to ask him out to the movies this weekend during work ...

A.   8 July 2010: Wow, thanks for the great advice! I'll consider leaving a note at his desk before he comes in and, as I'm going in and out throughout the day, see how he responds. A+ advice. Thanks a bunch! I think I'll do something along the lines of "lets do... (read in full...)

How can I get over my paranoia or convince her to try the pill?

Q.   Hello, me and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 month now and everything is going good. we see each other about 5 days a week and have a lot of fun together. im 19 and she is 16 by the way. the thing is, we have yet to have sex, which is ...

A.   5 July 2010: Well, I definitely understand where you're coming from, but all you can do is refuse to have sex with her. Truth is, it isn't just about what the pill does to your body; quite frankly, in my experience the pill turned me into a total b*tch due to ... (read in full...)

What explains why some men can have multiple orgasms?

Q.   I'm just curious... To explain why I asked, my ex (whom I lost my virginity to and vice versa), before we had sex the first time, I assumed would probably come within just a few minutes since it was his first time. I was fine with that. Turns out,...

A.   4 July 2010: Ebony: yeah, exactly! That's why I didn't understand how it kept on coming...That said, he didn't masturbate. Yeah, silly me for thinking that I suppose, but in his african culture (he was from Africa) it was strictly forbidden. Clutch (hey, ar... (read in full...)

What causes me to to have an intense tingling sensation buzz through my body during sex?

Q.   What causes me to to have an intense tingling sensation buzz through my body during sex? This doesn't happen every time, but I am curious to know the name of the nerve responsible or condition. I liken it to being electrocuted or intense "pins and ...

A.   20 June 2010: Ever knowingly had an orgasm before? If not, this could very well mean that you're on the brink, or that you're possibly even orgasming and not realizing it. For me, this happens when I orgasm in my legs and feet. This definitely sounds like an ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend will grow out of this, right?

Q.   My bf and I are in a long distance relationship, and after a year of talking/chatting/e-mailing we decided to meet up. Things went great, so I took a seasonal job where he lived and moved in with him for a few months, just to see how it would go. ...

A.   8 April 2010: To answer some of your guises questions and elaborate, he's originally from Africa and several of the people he talks to are the people who sponsored him as a child. He grew up VERY poor and his family is still in the same situation; I TOTALLY ... (read in full...)

I'm having weird dreams about our relationship

Q.   i know this post might sound a little stupid but i keep having weird dreams every night. dreams that involve me getting accused cheating on my boyfriend and he ends up leaving me, its really long dreams, have dreams that my boyfriend is holding ...

A.   7 April 2010: I had an experience with this recently. I had weird feelings that my bf was cheating on me (and some evidence to back it up), and then I dreamt that he and I were standing by a swimming pool with a plastic sheet on top of it, and he just pushed me ... (read in full...)

Do I have the right to hate my brother even though I don't remember what he did to me?

Q.   Hey well im 15. But when i was 2 from 3 years old my older half brother molested me he was 12 threw 13 at the time i think. I dont remaber it at all. I only know what my mom said. He thought they were next door but my mom wasnt an she cought him in ...

A.   7 April 2010: I've been in your shoes, except that it was my dad. I can't remember a thing to this day, but my dad admitted it in court and I testified to it when I was like 5. You totally have a right to. I denied what happened for a very long time and even... (read in full...)

Did I lose my virginity... or not?

Q.   I dont know if I'm still a virgin! His penis slid on my vagina but not inside. Does this mean I'm a virgin still? He didn't cum, there was a condom, but he had pre cum and it lasted literally a minute coz I wanted to stop. I'm so confused abou...

A.   1 April 2010: You mean, his penis slid on your vulva but not in your vagina? If he didn't "go inside" in the slightest bit, you're still a virgin. If he got inside at all, you aren't a virgin. That said, I'm one of those who believes that you can't lose y... (read in full...)

Finally, I am going to meet my LDR but he is worried about his sexual inexperience

Q.   I leave to visit my LDR for 3 months in Africa next Monday (yaay!!). I'll spare you all of the other details of our relationship except to say that we're both open to sex if the right time comes. ...but here's the thing--one moment he's exci...

A.   14 January 2010: Anonymous-- No worries about "being negative." I appreciate your frankness. Sorry if I kill you with the reading here.... I suppose I'll divulge some more details about our relationship and say, for one thing, I still to this day am nervous a... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my pregnant principal

Q.   i think im falling in love with my principal. shes all i ever think about, theres not one day where i dont talk about her and i cant walk by her office without saying hi. She sometimes stops by my cafe. at lunch, i always have to go up and talk to ...

A.   12 January 2010: Neither. If this is true, you simply have a crush on her. No. Big. Deal. I went through the same thing (though not quite to that extent) with my 6th-8th grade gym teacher, but fortunately I knew it was just a crush. Nothing to worr... (read in full...)

Can stress and being physically and emotionally abused affect my pregnancy?

Q.   I just found out that I am pregnant...about 5 weeks. Not in a healthy relationship, please don't lecture about the relationship, I know what I need to do. What I need is advice from people who have been through this before. I was hit in the l...

A.   12 January 2010: Yes, absolutely. I won't lecture you. I will only say that I am the child of such a relationship, and I once watched my dad shove my 5-month pregnant mom hard into our fish tank, resulting in her going into labor. My mom then drove herself to... (read in full...)

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