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I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: Hi, Good, the medicine is working well. You don't know what to do, well there are two paths. First path, you cll her, set a date for lunch, not dinner. Short and sweet, if she blows you off for this weekend, ask her for the next feasible date. Talk ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: Hi there, You are closer than I am and so you know what is going on better than I. I want you to think which is better texting her or telephoning her, mythought is thatif you call her, you probably should ask her out to talk and not just ask her the ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 25 August 2008: Hi, Thanks very much for the update. I was wondering how you were doing. Very interesting texting. Here's my suggestion, do not ask her out to lunch or dinner, tell her "I want to ask you someting, I want to do what will make you happy, because I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, I forgave him, I didn't cheat but he's split up with me!
Q. A little while ago i asked for help because my boyfriend got another girl pregnant and didnt want to tell him that we were together well he did tell the girl but now we are arguing he found some messages that i have been writing to my ex but they ...
A. 22 August 2008: Hi there, Thanks for writing back. Find someone who is deserving of you, and try not to settle for less than you deserve. Life is too short to be miserable and wondering what someone is doing around the corner. It is always best someone told me, to ... (read in full...)
Are there any natural remedies for depression?
Q. I think I may be suffering depression. I feel like there is a constant black cloud over my head. Most of the time I feel down, tired and tearful for no reason. I no longer have any desire to go out, like I once did. I just want to stay in bed all ...
A. 18 August 2008: Hi there, Much good luck to you, please don't forget about extra light in your room, especially in the winter time. Take care. Please stay in touch. ... (read in full...)
Cheating: It just happened so what do I do?
Q. I have just recently found out my boyfriend has cheated on me.We have split up but i really want him back.He says that he doesn't know who he loves me or her.I know im acting stupid and should try and forget about him but i cant.I think i love this ...
A. 17 August 2008: Hi, We all at one time or another, feel that we just have to be with a certain person, because we care so much about them. But think about this please, does it not matter that they care about you as well, and not just themselves. I feel it is a ... (read in full...)
Are there any natural remedies for depression?
Q. I think I may be suffering depression. I feel like there is a constant black cloud over my head. Most of the time I feel down, tired and tearful for no reason. I no longer have any desire to go out, like I once did. I just want to stay in bed all ...
A. 17 August 2008: Hi there. I once saw a doctor on a health program on television, who strongly advocated the use of Omega-3 capsules for depression. He said that he was treating his patients with it, and they had very good results. You could research it or ask your ... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell anyone about me even though we are having sex?
Q. hey, well this is slightly embarressing i'm 16 years old, and am sleeping with a guy who's 21. he treats me so well and well yeah, you get the jist. we started getting together when i was 15, and he didnt want me to tell anyone because of the a...
A. 15 August 2008: Hi, I am going to mention something that maybe in your country is very different, but in this country, there is something called statutory rape. What that means is that in some states it is against the law to have sex with a female who is under 18, ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend's parents to trust me when they think I'm only dating her for sex?
Q. my girlfriends parents think that im with her just to try and have sex with her, but sex doesnt matter to me in a relationship since we are happy as it is is there any way i can prove to them that im not like other guys and that i truely love and ...
A. 15 August 2008: Hi there, Why don't you sit down and compose a medium length letter to her parents. Do a few drafts first, so you have the right tone and say what you mean to say. Tell them why you like about their daughter, what attributes you like about her, what ... (read in full...)
I met a guy off the net. It got a bit complicated and now he's not talking to me. I don't want to lose him as a friend.
Q. hey im gonna try and keep this as short as possible i met a guy off the net that night i lost my virginity to him we carried on talking via texts and msn and he always said we would meet again after 3 months of him promising to meet up aga...
A. 14 August 2008: Hi there, This is going to be a bit difficult, but I think you should do nothing. Here's why, this is between the two of them, they have to work it out between themselves. She has to decide if she wants him back, after all he is a cheat. How do you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to pick up after himself? It is seriously driving me crazy.
Q. My boyfriend and I have a 1yr old that I clean up after all day. Well my boyfriend has gotten a lot better with helping me with our son but other then that, the only other thing I don t have to ask him to do is cook because thats onething he loves. ...
A. 14 August 2008: Hi there, Here's a little trick, don't talk to him any more about it. Print out the following on your computer, use colored paper if you can find some or put some nice designs around it, not too many so it won't look busy. Here it is: I LOVE ... (read in full...)
How do I trace the woman my husband met online and had an affair with?
Q. Husband has had a affair for 4 months last year with a woman he met on the internet. He then went to Afghanistan and we are no further forward in repairing the marriage. He is on leave at the moment and i have said in order for me to believe what he ...
A. 14 August 2008: Hi again, thanks for your response. Very good luck to you in the future. Remember what we told you, and make healthy choices. Take care.... (read in full...)
How can I better connect with other people, especially women?
Q. I am a healthy active 39 year old male.I have not been in a serious relationship for over 15 years,truth be told I have not had a date with a women during this period of time.I have some issues with being social and desire to connect with people on ...
A. 14 August 2008: Hi there, I do not have any wisdom links, you may just have some other Aunts who will weigh in and help you there. I would make a suggestion that you try to join some small social clubs with single people, maybe a travel club, or perhaps visit your ... (read in full...)
Being a teenager is hard, with growing pains and other stuff, why is it that adults think it is so easy?
Q. why is it that adults think being a kid is so easy? i mean they lecture you about how good their childhood was but they can never accept the fact that we are not perfect... not like they were..i think they should spend a day being a teenager with ...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi, It is never right to insult your parents, if not for them you would not be here. They love you but sometimes parenting can be hard too. I'm sure you have heard this before, but they feed and clothe you, and look out for your well being. But you ... (read in full...)
He told me that he loves me but just wants to be friends! What do you think?
Q. I have a friend, we meet at Church and all. We talk for a while on the phone, then he invited me over to his apartment we talk and learn about each other past relationship. He is single and so am I. We have been talking for some months now. SO, he ...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi there, Sounds as if you both have the makings of a good relationship. But he is hanging back and you want to move forward. Why not take the time to get to know each other better, and not rush things, I know you feel as if it is going very slow, ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up? Will she give me another chance?
Q. ok, so ive been in what i think to be love with this girl for a few years now. weve been good freinds during, so a few months back, i completly open up to her but she says were just friends, i take it but i still loved her but kept quite. so a m...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi, This lady that you care about is very interested in controlling things, and she does not want anyone trying to have it their way. If you are into being controlled, then
carry on with your pursuit. If you would want a relationship, where ther... (read in full...)
How can I get over my dependence on pot?
Q. so i have a drug problem. i have smoked weed for 17 years on a constant basis. it has never interfered with anything. i have always held a higher up position at work and i never let it come in contact with my family or anything. basically, you ...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi there, I would first write down the reasons you should quit smoking the pot. Then I would write in another column why you feel you should not. Compare the two and see which you think would be the better plan, quit or keep smoking. I am hoping the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started to ignore me and won't talk to me. How do I deal with this?
Q. hi. me and my boyfriend have been really happy until recently. we had a pretty gd relationship b4 but the only problem was that he never seemed to want to go out with me anywhere. recently my bf has started to ignore me and wen i try to tlk to ...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi, It appears that your boyfriend has a problem sharing his feelings with you, he may be afraid of exposing his vulnerablities to you, because he has a fear of rejection. He also seems to be a little introverted, which means as well, he doesn't or ... (read in full...)
How do I trace the woman my husband met online and had an affair with?
Q. Husband has had a affair for 4 months last year with a woman he met on the internet. He then went to Afghanistan and we are no further forward in repairing the marriage. He is on leave at the moment and i have said in order for me to believe what he ...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi there, Some of the things I say are going to be a little bit blunt, so I apologize up front. Your husband cheated on you, not once but twice or these are the times you know about. It would be a good idea if your husband found a good therapist, as ... (read in full...)
Health question: Cyst/ovary pain. What should I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I come with a question mainly for the females and anyone else who, well, has ovaries! Since I was 18 (gonna be 27 next month), I have had moderate to severe pain in my left ovary. I had gone to the emergency room at least tw...
A. 13 August 2008: Hi again, Good for you, hopefully your problem will be solved. Take very good care.... (read in full...)
I really want to be a songwriter, how do I get started?
Q. Ok, i know this isn't a relationship question but i'm hoping that you will answer it anyway.I really want to be a song writer and i know that all song writers don't make it but i am determaned to at least try.Iv'e heard that most song writers ...
A. 12 August 2008: Hi there, First of all, good luck to you in your quest. I used to write songs, and I don't play anything, I just knew how I wanted the music to go, and I sang it for a person who played the piano, and we put it all together. I have heard that the ... (read in full...)
Being a teenager is hard, with growing pains and other stuff, why is it that adults think it is so easy?
Q. why is it that adults think being a kid is so easy? i mean they lecture you about how good their childhood was but they can never accept the fact that we are not perfect... not like they were..i think they should spend a day being a teenager with ...
A. 12 August 2008: Hi there, No, it is not something that an adult should say to a child. But we can not control what comes out of someone elses's mouth, but we can control whether we internalize it or not. You do not have to believe something just becasue someone ... (read in full...)
I can't fulfill my girlfriends needs, and it's bringing my self confidence down. Please help!
Q. well im 16, i need help greatly evrytime i go to have sex with my girlfreind my errection doesnt come iv attempeted 3 times with her. the 1st time, my penis wouldnt come errect. The second i was drunk with her. it would get errect but it hurt her...
A. 12 August 2008: Hey, Why not try longer foreplay. Stroking, cuddling, relaxing, talking about nothing at all, have a little music in the background. I've heard of a little whipped cream and cherries, make it an adventure, instead of just a sexual encounter. It ... (read in full...)
I have extremely bad lower back pain and stomach aches which I've had for about a week, why?
Q. I'm quite confused. I'm supposed to be on my period, but the blood is like really light brown and not even blood really and there is hardly any. Should I just count this as my period? I have extremely bad lower back pain and stomach aches whic...
A. 12 August 2008: Hi, I have no idea what your problem could be, but this is what I suggest. As soon as day breaks and the office is open , I would make an appointment with my gyn, to see if there is a problem which could be corrected, or if you need an anti-biotic ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 12 August 2008: Hi again, Sorry but I wanted to explain something. The reason for trying to keep the lunch or whatever you ask her to do, short, is that you want to stir up a need in her to see you, not always being available for her at any turn. If you get out of ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 12 August 2008: Hi there, I think it was good judgment on your part to wait until she gets back to ask her to go out to lunch. When you do ask her, you might preface, by asking if she has time to have a cup of tea, coffee, or I wan't finish the clique, but you want ... (read in full...)
Being a teenager is hard, with growing pains and other stuff, why is it that adults think it is so easy?
Q. why is it that adults think being a kid is so easy? i mean they lecture you about how good their childhood was but they can never accept the fact that we are not perfect... not like they were..i think they should spend a day being a teenager with ...
A. 11 August 2008: Hi there, You have to trust that all adults have basically
gone through the same things that you are going through. But the fact is that they went through it so lone ago that they probably can't even remember the crying spells, the heartbreak of f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, I forgave him, I didn't cheat but he's split up with me!
Q. A little while ago i asked for help because my boyfriend got another girl pregnant and didnt want to tell him that we were together well he did tell the girl but now we are arguing he found some messages that i have been writing to my ex but they ...
A. 8 August 2008: Hi there, Did you ever stop to think that he is doing you the biggest favor, by letting you go your own way, Why would you want to hang on to such a, I am sorry to say, loser. Don't you want someone who will be, or try to be true to you. Is there a ... (read in full...)
His feelings for me grew. Mine didn't. It's like he doesn't want me in his life at all because of it. Should I contact him?
Q. I was great friends with a guy a couple of years ago. Awesome friends... we started sleeping together after late nights at the bar or partying (this was in college) and I always told him we were just friends, I didn't want anything more... just ...
A. 8 August 2008: Hi, It seems that although you were telling him all along that you were not interested in a relationship with him, he was not listening to you. He thought, even wiht your verbal messages to the contrary, that becasue you were sleeping wtih him, that ... (read in full...)
I have major jealously problems but he still carries on with other women. Help!
Q. I have a majorr problem. im dating this guy, for almost 3 months now. he is a dancer, singer, and gets along with everyone. he is always positive, smiling and hates getting on peoples bad sides. he treats me so well i love it, but he also trea...
A. 7 August 2008: Hi again, I left out one letter in the web address:
www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137
Sorry. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I have major jealously problems but he still carries on with other women. Help!
Q. I have a majorr problem. im dating this guy, for almost 3 months now. he is a dancer, singer, and gets along with everyone. he is always positive, smiling and hates getting on peoples bad sides. he treats me so well i love it, but he also trea...
A. 7 August 2008: Hi there, In reading your letter, I think we have multiple situations here. For one, he is a performer, performers must have adulation, so he is not going to stop or curtail his fans from showering him with affection, it's part of his personality, ... (read in full...)
Am I being played for a fool? Should I give up? Or really go for it?
Q. Hi I've got a bit of a problem with a certain girl and from what I've read on askmen.com I think you would be able to help. I know your a busy person, but I would be greatful if you could lend a helping hand. Basically I grew up with this ...
A. 7 August 2008: Hi, This is my thought, if she is not in to you, and is only playing the flirting game, she will show no emotion regarding what you say to her about this fictious woman.
I would just start by telling her you want a woman's opinion and you feel she ... (read in full...)
Am I being played for a fool? Should I give up? Or really go for it?
Q. Hi I've got a bit of a problem with a certain girl and from what I've read on askmen.com I think you would be able to help. I know your a busy person, but I would be greatful if you could lend a helping hand. Basically I grew up with this ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi there, Sometimes, a woman may have insecurities about a man who they really like. You don't flirt with a guy, sit on his lap and make goo-goo eyes at him, if you are not attracted to him, or like him a lot. So that much is clear. My thought is ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi there, Sounds positive. Going to see the doctor is a good thing. That you are less anxious is a very good thing, keep it up. It is probably good that you did not go to happy hour, especially if you were going to be kooking for her. Lighen up a ... (read in full...)
I get insanely jealous for no good reason of his ex'es although he dislikes them and they do not maintain contact!
Q. i've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a year. he's the most loyal and trustworthy guy ever and i know for a fact he would never ever cheat on me, let alone flirt with another girl. he always tells girls he's chatting to about me ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi there, Let's see if we can determine why you are jealous. Are these women in his past a threat to you? No.
Are they trying to get back in his life? He would have to particpate for that to happen, you say he is faithful and does not like thos... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi, I was sitting here waiting for your response to how your Friday evening happy hour went? Was she there and did you have a good time? I hope so, let me know. Hope you are doing well. Take care.... (read in full...)
I can't lose her! I love her more than ever before! Help me get her back, please.
Q. i have been dating my g/f for 4 years before we broke it off. we have a 2 yr old little girl. i have cheated on her alot after the break. my love for her is more than i ever had for her since we met, i cant lose her. Please send me advice to get h...
A. 5 August 2008: Hi Good luck to you, try to have patience with everything.
Hpopefully everything will work out for the best. Take care.... (read in full...)
I can't lose her! I love her more than ever before! Help me get her back, please.
Q. i have been dating my g/f for 4 years before we broke it off. we have a 2 yr old little girl. i have cheated on her alot after the break. my love for her is more than i ever had for her since we met, i cant lose her. Please send me advice to get h...
A. 5 August 2008: Hi, If you are sure you really love her, then prove it by behaving like it. Make the committment to be the kind of person you want to be. Hopefully you will find the job you want, financial problems cause stress, which does not help a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Will I ever trust again? How do you get on with your life when you are this broken inside? Are there good men who don't cheat and hurt the people they love?
Q. My boyfriend left me for another woman after telling me I was the love of his life. I had finally learned to trust him after another man I was engaged to cheated on me numerous times. I thought this last boyfriend was different and he was so good to ...
A. 4 August 2008: Hi, I can feel the agony of your problem. I think there is a book out there called "Why Men Cheat". See if you can find it. There are men who are just wired to cheat, I can think of one of our recent presidents, they get a thrill out of it, like ... (read in full...)
I can't lose her! I love her more than ever before! Help me get her back, please.
Q. i have been dating my g/f for 4 years before we broke it off. we have a 2 yr old little girl. i have cheated on her alot after the break. my love for her is more than i ever had for her since we met, i cant lose her. Please send me advice to get h...
A. 4 August 2008: Hi, It is not clear why you broke up. You said you cheated on her while you were broken up, was this why you broke up, that you were also cheating, while you were together. Please let us know why, it seems that she broke up with you. Thank you for ... (read in full...)
I want to fight this guy who ruined the love of my life... what do you think?
Q. i know many people will be against me in this but i need honest help please. Here's my story. Right i started liking a friend of mine and basically we are very close and 3years later i am absolutely crazy about her. I love our connection. S...
A. 4 August 2008: Hi there, I think that in order to grow and be adults, we have to learn that there are things which will happen that sometimes, we cannot control. If, as you say, the girl and you were close, then I would, if I were you, try to tell her, what the ... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny guys?
Q. Are women put off dating skinny guys? Is the build and muscles of a man overly important for a woman?...
A. 4 August 2008: Hi there, If a woman meets a man that she likes, being nice,
being a gentleman, having a sense of humor, being gentle, being a good listener, being considerate, being emotionally connected to your lady, being empathatic, being loving, to me repr... (read in full...)
After several, awful relationships, I met and moved in with a very nice, caring, wealthy man, but he has changed, no sex drive, no romantic overtures, I am unhappy, but with four kids, I can't leave, what do I do, he tries to change but then reverts,
Q. I moved in with my partner last year and since living together, he has changed from someone who was romantic affectionate to someone who sleeps and has a low sex drive. My past relationships were awful, i was married for 13 years to a man who always ...
A. 4 August 2008: Hi, Thanks for writing back, very good luck to you, remember, it could be worse. Fight for your right to be happy. Talk to him and see if he will be receptive, to change, explain to him how you feel and ask him to please try to understan, ask him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend accuses me of cheating, I haven't, I just flirt, how do I get her to trust me?
Q. my girlfriend thinks 'I'm cheating which I'm not (also because its wrong) all because most of my friend are girls. I admit we can get a little flirty. But I'm trying to tune that down a bit. Why doesn't she trust me? I'm a not a two timer....
A. 3 August 2008: Hi, Your girlfriend may have a self-esteem problem, and it doesn't help her sense of self, if you are going to flirt in front of her. You said you were trying to cut it down, plese cut it down some more. Try being very affectionate to her, and do ... (read in full...)
Ten years of a sexless marriage, we are basically roommates, I care for him, but I am considering an affair, would I be wrong?
Q. I have been married for 19 years. And for the past 10 years me and my husband stopped having sex. I have tolerated this sad condition all these years. I just do it myself whenever I want a release. Our relationship has deduced to a roommate status. ...
A. 3 August 2008: Hi there, In answer to your question about the affair being justified. there is a trust issue, and if you are together, how do you think you would feel if he had an affair, and it turned into something that no body exepcted and he left you. OK, now ... (read in full...)
After several, awful relationships, I met and moved in with a very nice, caring, wealthy man, but he has changed, no sex drive, no romantic overtures, I am unhappy, but with four kids, I can't leave, what do I do, he tries to change but then reverts,
Q. I moved in with my partner last year and since living together, he has changed from someone who was romantic affectionate to someone who sleeps and has a low sex drive. My past relationships were awful, i was married for 13 years to a man who always ...
A. 3 August 2008: Hi, I can understand your needing affection, and sex sometime, depending on your libido. But this is a tricky situation, you told us about your past, this man that you are with now sounds like a dream, compared to the others who you were with. So I ... (read in full...)
Health question: Cyst/ovary pain. What should I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I come with a question mainly for the females and anyone else who, well, has ovaries! Since I was 18 (gonna be 27 next month), I have had moderate to severe pain in my left ovary. I had gone to the emergency room at least tw...
A. 3 August 2008: Hi there, i sympathize with you, pain is not good. Since what they have told you in the past, does not seem to be working, I would agree completely with gabberjackranch, that you should find a new doctor. Specifically a woman gynocologist, she would ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi there, In answer to you going to play golf, and being there for Happy Hour. I would go, why stop your life? Go and have fun, don't go looking for her, that's the last thing I would do. You have to let her know that you have a life beyond her, if ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 30 July 2008: Hi there, I am going to allow you to absorb what askoldersister and Tisha, have given you. I agree with everything Tisha said. Her advice is spot on, and covers areas that we did not touch on. So stay in touch, but re-ead Tisha's reponse and try to ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi, there, Nice to hear from you. Good thing, the card, send the card only, if you would, do not send the gifts, wait on those. I would write in the card, something like hope you have a good time. Stop. No calling, no texting. The thing you have to ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 July 2008: Hi there, Thanks for sharing what you did. The response from her was positive, but like I mentioned before, let that positive contact sit now. The card will be a good thing, but you have the right idea about controlling yourself. You are reaping the ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi there, I would like you to perk up. Why do you feel she is slipping away? If two people care about each other, time and space don't necessiarly make things change. She has a favorable impression of you, she cares about you, and she enjoys your ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi there, You should be enjoying yourself, instead of fretting about her, for the umpteenth time, calm down, hope you are taking your medicine. Since I am assuming she knows, that you know she is going on vacation, find a card that wishes her a ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 19 July 2008: Hi there, I thought your vacations were at almost the smae time, call her after your vacation, and ask for a short sit down, just to get it straight about her wishes. Good luck, as I said calm down, it's going to be fine, fine, fine. Just don't ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hi there, No you are not wearing me down. What I would like
is that you get some direction. You must know where you are going. You said you wanted to know the answer to your questions, which she had not answered to your satisfaction.
You can't kn... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hi, thanks for writing back. Alright, if you really feel that you do not know what she wants, then call her and ask her if the two of you could have tea, lunch or something with a short time span, so she understands that you are not trying to have ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 16 July 2008: Hi, Now listen up. You are doing well, keep it up, think postively , but not only to be with her, for yourself and your..... your future. The other thing is, forgive my bluntness, stop trying to talk yourself into some reason to contact her, you are ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 14 July 2008: Hi, What she told you was that she wanted space, she didn't say how long, or how much space. So virtually she is putting you in limbo. This is is where you are, as far as being with her anytime soon, we would have to wait to see. Now if it were me, ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 14 July 2008: Hi there, I would like you to take her at her word, that it is hard for her, when she does not see you, but do not act on it. Write down those words that she said and the date she said them. Hang on to that, put the paper the words are on, in your ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 13 July 2008: Hi there, thanks for responding. She is probably going through the same feelings you are, but on top of everthing else she has on her plate, something has to be put on the backburner, and I think with her, that includes any relationship. You have to ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 12 July 2008: Hi, Right now, you will have to use a whole lot of self discipline. If you go in to try to persuade her, you will ruin what is a fairly good relationship. When you saw her, she responded to you, you don't want her to tell you to leave her completely ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi there, The best thing that I think you can do, is to listen to her. She tells you she needs space, you know enough about, what is going on in her life, to realize that she could be a bit overwhelmed. If you push the issue, you will, I think turn ... (read in full...)
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