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My gf wants to speak to me all night every night, how do I make it stop!
Q. My girlfriend and I see each other everyday. She still lives with her parents, and so do I for my families financial reasons, but after I get home, she calls me every night and won't get off the phone with me. I have tried to hint over and over that ...
A. 2 February 2009: Hi again, I didn't realize she was that young, she is doing what a young person especially a girl does, talk, talk, talk. You have to be patient with her as you care about her, but you must set some rules, I agree also with the Aunt who said to tell ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to speak to me all night every night, how do I make it stop!
Q. My girlfriend and I see each other everyday. She still lives with her parents, and so do I for my families financial reasons, but after I get home, she calls me every night and won't get off the phone with me. I have tried to hint over and over that ...
A. 2 February 2009: Hi there, In order to have a relationship, there has to be mutual respec. It is very rude not to be considerate of others feelings, especially if you care for a person. Youcetainly do not want to aggravate them or make them think that you are a ... (read in full...)
After 5 years, she pushed me away so I made my decision
Q. Hey everyone, After 5 years my girlfriend who I love to death and care for so much has been pushing me away. I am 22 and she is 21. We have been having these little arguments and she keeps bringing up the idea that if we are like this now, what will ...
A. 1 February 2009: Hi there, As for me and my thoughts, if a person thinks they do not want to be around me, I do not feel the need to convince them that they do. There was a song by a country singer, "If It Don't Come Easy. You Better Leave It Alone", life is very ... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 1 February 2009: Hi, Hi, That is great news, congrats. It is also a sign of the times, that people need comfort and help, especially now. Thank goodness you have provided such a great place for them to find answers to some of their pressing problems, with competent ... (read in full...)
I'm much better looking than she is, why did he dump me for her?
Q. Hiya I still have contact with my ex bf, we speak everyday and see eachother still, Anyway basically he tells me about all these girls hes been sleeping with and how this one girl he sleept with her 7 times in one nite, then again, the other ni...
A. 1 February 2009: Hi there, I agree completely with the other Aunt's advice to you. I would add one more thing, I think he was intimidated by your looks and he is bragging to you about his sexual conquests to try to impress you, because he does not for some reason ... (read in full...)
We're always fighting over the chores!
Q. I'm a young mother of a3 month old baby and my boyfreind and I always fight now over everything but mostly chores. He runs away to his parents house for a couple days and leaves me here to take care of her. Than he says he wants to work things out ...
A. 1 February 2009: Hi there, I with all the things ella said. You have a child on your hands, not your baby, your boyfriend, but think you already know that. Can you please tell me what he contributes to the reltionship? Is he at least paying the rent? That is good, ... (read in full...)
Need solid sensible advice...
Q. I started a relationship with a man 7 years ago when he and his wife were on the verge of a divorce. He was thrown out of his house and needed a friend at the time. I wanted to be that friend. The divorce came soon after. I had also separated from ...
A. 1 February 2009: Hi there, You are not lost. What you have outlined is exactly what and where the relationship and the situation is. What I would want you to do, is to try to take yourself out of the situation mentally and read your letter to us, as if it were ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he'll run away if I bring it up...
Q. Recently a co-worker I'd invited to my house party hit on a man I had just begun dating. I am not sure what happened between them but something started at least because he did go to her house a few times she said when she blurted it out to me a week ...
A. 30 January 2009: Hi there, thanks for your response. You have to try to be honest with yourself. Just sit still and consult with yourself, do you want to be with him, does he fit your idea of what you want in a companion? If not then move on, if you care enough ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he'll run away if I bring it up...
Q. Recently a co-worker I'd invited to my house party hit on a man I had just begun dating. I am not sure what happened between them but something started at least because he did go to her house a few times she said when she blurted it out to me a week ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hi there, You in my opinion should forget about the co-worker crazy lady, he is obviously not interest in her from the information you provide, maybe he did visit her, but anyone being around her for a while would know that she is a bit off the ... (read in full...)
I'm really concerned about the chance that I might have HIV or Hepatitis and could use a little guidance.
Q. Hello all, I'm really concerned about the chance that I might have HIV or Hepatitis and could use a little guidance. I realize that this isn't a replacement for medical advice, but I would like to know if anyone can share some advice with me. ...
A. 28 January 2009: Hi there, The first thing I would do is to stop worrying. The next thing would be to make a doctor's appointment to satisfy your mind about the hepititis. It is very remote that you would get Aida with one kiss, unless you were into very deep French ... (read in full...)
Help needed... I'm so screwed up at the moment I feel exhausted.
Q. Ok me and my ex split in october just gone, he dumped me to go back with the mother of his daughter, anyway that didn't work out, and we started sleeping together like once a week, as like fuck buddies. We still remain friends but, he's now ...
A. 27 January 2009: Hi there, "Lose him altogether" if you don't stop what you are doing? Guress what, that's waht you need to do. What do you have in him? In my estimation, and forgive me because you think you have feelings for him, which I really think are unhealthy, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother and I do not get along, how can I cope, without leaving my boyfriend?
Q. What to do when your boyfriends brother hates you???? I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we've been really close friends for couple years before we started dating. We started officially dating summer of '07 and for the first year ...
A. 26 January 2009: Hey there, First let me say that i do not think your boyfriend's brother hates you. The two of you have a way of pushing each other's buttons, and neither one of you want to back down when it gets heated. He is always going to be your boyfriend's ... (read in full...)
First my period is late, then it comes, then it stops, what is the problem?
Q. i have a question ; in few weeks i thought im pregnant cuz i didn't get my period for 15 days but then now i get my period but it stop it what is that mean that i have a bby in my tummy but its dead or something wrong with me cuz this mornign i have ...
A. 26 January 2009: Hi there, if you have a gyn, or if not let your mother take you to her gynecologist, for an examination. Your cycle may be just adjusting itself. There may be nothing wrong with your body, but you should find out. To eliminate the worry about ... (read in full...)
I got divorced, he didn't, should I wait around or what?
Q. short version of the long story. I fell in love with my boss (though we are the same age). We started as great friends and everyone thought we were soulmates. Then he told me he was thinking of me all the time and that he could not get me out of ...
A. 26 January 2009: Hi there, Should I take it that you got divorced because you and your husband were not able to make the marriage work, or did you divorce because your lover promised something that you believed? Whatever the case, with the information that you have ... (read in full...)
There is this womanizer at work who seems to really like me, but also my ex who does to. Who to be with?
Q. I feel so confused. I don't know what to do. There are 2 guys in my life right now. The first one is actually my ex-boyfriend. My feelings for him are completely confused. I ended things with him because I didn't feel I loved him anymore. We st...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi there, the first thing you need to do, is deal with the depression, Your health is most important. I have heard from a doctor, that Omega-3 oil is very good for depression sympthoms, you may want to research it and see if it might help you, I ... (read in full...)
How do I get COMPLETELY over my ex boyfriend?
Q. hey there , i broke up with my bf 4 months ago but i met another guy right after my breakup .this new guy admitted that he loved me in about a week .i hesitated a lot at first but then a friend of mine told me that if i wanted to forget my ex , i ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi there, when we have been in relationships, and they don't turn out the way we want, we all have a tendency to want to get over that person. But the truth is, we don't get over them, they are a part of our lives. They are a part of our whole ... (read in full...)
He wants to get it on, but I'm a virgin and he doesn't know! What to do?
Q. I need some help, I am a twenty six year old virgin, there is a guy at work whom I have been flirting with for about a year, he has said to me that on the next night out we should get it on back at his. I am thinking wow because he is gorgeous and ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi there, my thought is that your firat time with a gentleman, notice I said gentleman not just a guy, because your first encounter with sex is not going to be some mindblowing, skyrocketing situation. If you have not ever been with a man, it is a ... (read in full...)
Help me get him away from her - or me away from him!!
Q. Pleeeease help me, what should I do? I really like this guy who has a girlfriend who is giving him sex, and I've totally backed out of the picture but he keeps trying to draw me back in. He seems to need my attention by flirting with me which ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi there, What I would like you to do, is to consider the fact that you could be the girl he is involved with sexually and otherwise. So here he is flirting, trying to seduce you possibly, what does this say about him? Do you think this would be the ... (read in full...)
He's in the back of my head like 24/7 and it's really annoying.
Q. My friend has been going out with this girl for about a month and I really don't see it going anywhere. I sort of have an on-off crush type thing going on. I don't know what to do about it. Maybe I should ignore it? I thought the girlfriend would ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi there, I am glad you feel the things I said to you are helpful. Improve your self and grow, this will help you in the very long run. Nobody but nobody, in my opinion, will take that which is going to be yours, believe that, and go on your way ... (read in full...)
He's in the back of my head like 24/7 and it's really annoying.
Q. My friend has been going out with this girl for about a month and I really don't see it going anywhere. I sort of have an on-off crush type thing going on. I don't know what to do about it. Maybe I should ignore it? I thought the girlfriend would ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi, I think I would just wait it out without telling him. It would seem to me that if you told him that, you would confuse the issue between him and his current girlfriend or friend. Let them go along with their relationship, see where it goes, ... (read in full...)
This is the woman who had the ring question...
Q. (This is the woman who had the ring question) And don't even get me started on his spending. We had a joint account and he claimed that someone came and stole our money. He had spent half of my bond that I got from my grandpa of about six hundred ...
A. 22 January 2009: Hi, Thanks for responding. Good moves, I might suggest that you look into seeing a threapist by yourself, to get a professional answer to some things that you want to go into further. If he is not going to go, don't worry about it, you need to have ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and messed up, please someone pull me out of this!!
Q. I am in desperate need of help. I have been so over anxious about my relationship the past week that I have almost been making myself sick. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 and a half years, and have lived together for about 10 ...
A. 22 January 2009: Hi there, My first question to you is whether or not your boyfriend has a habit of brushing his teeth each night before he goes to bed, if he does, that ends the kissing question. :o) Now the way you get to being in control of all of this, and it's ... (read in full...)
This is the woman who had the ring question...
Q. (This is the woman who had the ring question) And don't even get me started on his spending. We had a joint account and he claimed that someone came and stole our money. He had spent half of my bond that I got from my grandpa of about six hundred ...
A. 22 January 2009: Hi there, I am not sure what you thought of him prior to marrying him (I think I read that you are married , just without the formalities, yes?), but you have found yourself in a trick. If you want to have any money saved for the formal wedding, you ... (read in full...)
Triangle of confusion
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend 7month ago. i met another man. he is nice but 2 months after that i met up with my ex-boyfriend and we have been having sex ever scence. my love for him is stronger now then before and i am scared to loose him. the ...
A. 21 January 2009: Hi there, I think I'll begin by asking, what is it that wouldmake you happy? Your daughter if she is grown yet, but she will find someone who makes her happy, I don't think she would drop someone she cared for because you did not like him, you ... (read in full...)
We're breaking up, getting together over and over..what is wrong with her?
Q. Been with her for a 1 1/2 years. She has broken up with me at least 12 times. I leave her alone and she comes crawling back, calling, texting, emailing, until I agree to see her. We end up back together everytime. Then when we are back together she ...
A. 21 January 2009: Hi there, I would very much agree with the advice already given and ask that you visit: www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137, look for the title, "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts". This article may give you a better perspective as to what is ... (read in full...)
His paranoia is splitting us up slowly but surely.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we have started living together. Everything is fine when we spend all day together, but even if we're apart for like 30 minutes he'll suspect me cheating on him. I have never cheated on him and ...
A. 20 January 2009: Hi, He has a problem, I don't have specific information about smoking weed, but I have heard that it makes you paranoid. Now here's the thing, if someone wants to do something, someone else telling them it is wrong or is the cause of their problem, ... (read in full...)
Please give me the courage to leave my cheating husband.
Q. My husband and I will be celebrating our 10th Wedding Anniversary in Feb-2009 but I'm not thrilled about it as my husband is having an affair. I found out about it for 7 months already. I've confronted him about it, asked his best friend to talk to ...
A. 16 January 2009: Hi there, This is important, you yourself are going to have to give yourself the courage, No one else can do it for you. That's why your husband keeps doing what he is doing, along with his wanting a variety, and not being true to you. He knows, ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a difficult parent?
Q. First off I really know the answer to all my problems: MOVE OUT. Later on in this letter you'll find out why I haven't yet, but I suppose I just want to share my thoughts with people who perhaps have the same problem and to find out their opinions ...
A. 29 December 2008: Hi there, All of us humans have our good and bad points. I don't think too many of us behave the same way away from home as we do at home. We always, most of us anyway, want to put our best face forward in public. So your mam being extra nice in ... (read in full...)
I want him to leave my house and he won't!
Q. I am ending a 16 month relationship due to his disloyalty and lying. He currently lives with me in a home I own. I want him to leave and he won't! I have confronted him with his lies and cheating and he seems to be in complete denial about all of ...
A. 29 December 2008: Hi there, Since you don't want to involve the law and I guess i can understand. Why not change all your locks, and be done with it. He appears to be unreasonable, and possibly stuck on stupid. So I would call a good locksmith, change every lock and ... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 29 December 2008: ....Hi there, Well it took a good while, but we have a success story. Good for you, now don't look back. Keep moving forward, and thank your lucky stars that you saw the light. Take care. Happy 2009. All the best to you and yours.... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 29 December 2008: ....Hi there, Well it took a good while, but we have a success story. Good for you, now don't look back. Keep moving forward, and thank your lucky stars that you saw the light. Take care. Happy 2009. All the best to you and yours.... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 29 December 2008: ....Hi there, Well it took a good while, but we have a success story. Good for you, now don't look back. Keep moving forward, and thank your lucky stars that you saw the light. Take care. Happy 2009. All the best to you and yours.... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 29 December 2008: ....Hi there, Well it took a good while, but we have a success story. Good for you, now don't look back. Keep moving forward, and thank your lucky stars that you saw the light. Take care. Happy 2009. All the best to you and yours.... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 29 December 2008: ....Hi there, Well it took a good while, but we have a success story. Good for you, now don't look back. Keep moving forward, and thank your lucky stars that you saw the light. Take care. Happy 2009. All the best to you and yours.... (read in full...)
Would you marry her?
Q. I would like your opinion on something. Would anyone marry someone who has had an abortion, had an affair with a married man, cannot tell you exactly when the affair eded, lied to you about many different things, flirts aimlessly with other guys ...
A. 28 December 2008: Hi, I agree with a lot of what has already been said. I do have to say, that people must want to chanbe, you can spend a whole lot of time, trying to get a person to change, but if the way that person behaves is the way they are deep down, then that ... (read in full...)
Why am I always cold and tired?
Q. ok so I'm 13 years old and I'm always so very tired and cold. Like every day after school I take a shower, then take an hour and a half nap then go eat and go to bed which is around 9:00 p.m. In the morning I find it to be absolutely freezing with ...
A. 22 December 2008: Hi there, I don't know if you have started your period yet, but if you have or even if you haven't, it sounds as though you are anemic. Which means that you have a low red blood cell count. To determine this, you should say something to your mom, ... (read in full...)
Anyone know anything about getting approval to come to the US from Phillipines?
Q. i have bf in california, and he wants me to come there from the philippines,what should i do? How easy will it be that he can get me in the philippines,and how long will it take to get the papers to fixed or approval? ...
A. 20 December 2008: Hi there, I do not know the answers to any of your questions. But my idea of how you could get help, would be to contact, if there is one, the U. S. Embassy in the Phillipines or the United Nations in New York City, in the United States. Lastly, if ... (read in full...)
Signs of falling in love?
Q. My question is a very simple one. How do you know you are falling in love with a person. What are the signs you look for. I think i am falling in love with my girlfriend. All help is appreciated. Thank you...
A. 17 December 2008: Hi there, Well, let's see if I can remember :o). When you are away from the person of your affection, you think about them all the time and want to see them. When you see them, your heart beats faster, and you are excited. Colors look brighter, it's ... (read in full...)
A baby crazed Christmas!!! Help!
Q. OMG!I need help! I have no clue what to do! I dont know whether my hormones have gone insane or my maternal instincts have overtaken me, but I am baby crazed. I have no idea why, I've always wanted kids but now I think I've just gone crazy lol. My ...
A. 15 December 2008: Hi dear, Thanks for getting back to us, now I can breathe a sigh of relief. :o). Try some chamomile herbal tea, it relaxes, you and it may just reduce and calm your hormone level.
Take care, whenever you do decide to have a little one, you will prob... (read in full...)
A baby crazed Christmas!!! Help!
Q. OMG!I need help! I have no clue what to do! I dont know whether my hormones have gone insane or my maternal instincts have overtaken me, but I am baby crazed. I have no idea why, I've always wanted kids but now I think I've just gone crazy lol. My ...
A. 15 December 2008: Hi there, Hormones may be at play, but I think you are fantasing about wanting to have a small, soft, cuddly baby.
Which is great, but do you have a sister or cousin or some friend who has had a baby already, and can tell you all about the morn... (read in full...)
The ghost of Christmas past...
Q. So...where do I start? I will make this short and sweet. 1st love comes back into my life after 10 years, 2 kids and a soon to be ex husband. She married him because like a lot of girls she got pregnant blah blah blah. So now she decides to tell me ...
A. 15 December 2008: Hi there, many layers here, first why did you two break up in the first place? You say you care, but do you love her, somewhere inside? Next, big question, do you like children? Can you see yourself being a part of helping to raise her children, ... (read in full...)
7 years, 2 kids and he still isn't quite ready to marry??
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for 6 years and we have a 2 year old son and currently Im pregnant with our second child which is due in march. We have been engaged for about 9 months and just recently within the past month started premarital ...
A. 13 December 2008: Hi there, Now unless I am mistaken, I did not see the word love in yur letter. Do you love this man? Do you want to marry him because you have been together for the years that you have, or do you want to marry him for the children's sake? Why do you ... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 17 October 2008: Hi there, We have all tried to help you deal with your problem. But sometimes, people love to feel pain. So it goes, you are going to have to decide what is the best thing for you to do, to make your life the best that it can be. If you love this ... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 15 July 2008: Hi, Although you may not realize it, you are staring to heal just a wee bit, because you feel the pain. Go through it, cry a little bit if you have to, but move on, everything has a time and a place, now is your hour to put things in perspective and ... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 14 July 2008: Hi there, Alas, you are coming around to the fact of life, that you have to be you own best friend. She has a problem, you can't make it better, she has to realize it and change it herself. Don't know if I gave you this website, but take the time to ... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 13 July 2008: Hi, Good luck to you, try to find happiness somewhere else. There are a lot of people in the world, hope you find a good one next time. Take care.... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 12 July 2008: Hi, If she doesn't want to talk to you, won't pick up her phine etc., you should look to the heavens and be thankful. Try to get over this and move on, you putting yourself through such a strain, trying to figure all this out. There has to be ... (read in full...)
Am I the "other man" in my girlfriend's life?
Q. Hello dear friends!. I have a question! Background! My ex wife saw 8 men in a year and I eventually divorced after hanging in there for my kids. So..then I met a new girl via a dating site. She told me she can never lie. I believed her. ...
A. 10 July 2008: Hi there, I am going to ask you one very important question, I think you know what it is going to be. Do
you trust your lady? If you do not, you will forever be looking and listening for signs of whatever you think she is doing or not doing. This... (read in full...)
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