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Married, relationship in trouble, and I'm thinking of divorce
Q. OK, Here is my story. I am 27 years old and have been married to my wife for almost 2 years. About 4 years ago I met this other girl before I ever met my wife. We talked and it was like love before we met. We went out on a date and she was not very ...
A. 11 March 2009: Hi, thanks for doing the exercise. It tells you a bit about what is going on. You should be excited to come home to your wife for as long as it is a thrill for you to see her. You should miss her when you are not with her. If it has lost its ... (read in full...)
Married, relationship in trouble, and I'm thinking of divorce
Q. OK, Here is my story. I am 27 years old and have been married to my wife for almost 2 years. About 4 years ago I met this other girl before I ever met my wife. We talked and it was like love before we met. We went out on a date and she was not very ...
A. 11 March 2009: Hi there, I am glad you are considering consultation. Now let me get this straight, she wants you to go somewhere and enjoy yourself with another woman or women? This is very, very bad, if she loves you, why would she approve of you doing something ... (read in full...)
Married, relationship in trouble, and I'm thinking of divorce
Q. OK, Here is my story. I am 27 years old and have been married to my wife for almost 2 years. About 4 years ago I met this other girl before I ever met my wife. We talked and it was like love before we met. We went out on a date and she was not very ...
A. 10 March 2009: Hi, This is serious, but you make me laugh out loud. Suggestion, you make sure your condoms are safe! You realize that children should not be a part of this, at this time anyway. Now, let's talk a bit about your wife. There is something nagging her ... (read in full...)
Married, relationship in trouble, and I'm thinking of divorce
Q. OK, Here is my story. I am 27 years old and have been married to my wife for almost 2 years. About 4 years ago I met this other girl before I ever met my wife. We talked and it was like love before we met. We went out on a date and she was not very ...
A. 10 March 2009: Hi there, thanks for getting back with what you are thinking. Yes it could be lust, remember the grass is greener thing. Decide if you want to make a sincere effort to make the marriage work, your wife must be e part of the revitalization, have ... (read in full...)
Married, relationship in trouble, and I'm thinking of divorce
Q. OK, Here is my story. I am 27 years old and have been married to my wife for almost 2 years. About 4 years ago I met this other girl before I ever met my wife. We talked and it was like love before we met. We went out on a date and she was not very ...
A. 9 March 2009: Hi there, Answering questions for ourselves in problem situations, requires knowing who we are and what our goals are. If you know yourself, then the answers tend to follow suit. Some people get bored easily and are not suitable candidates for ... (read in full...)
Why is my teacher starting to act differently?
Q. I've recently been noticing that one of my teachers has been acting differently. Here's some of the things he's been doing: When he walks around to check in our assignments, he stops either next to my desk and takes extra time filling in his ...
A. 9 March 2009: Hi there, Since your friend is noticing your teachers change of behavior, it seems it's reality. Because we can sometimes imagine things as well. I would, if I were you, let him keep acting as he has been. I would mention it to my mother casually, ... (read in full...)
I tried to break it off with this married man but he still flirts with me, what do I do?
Q. I began dating a guy at work a few months ago. He is married and I knew it from the beginning. (I know it's horrible). For the past few months, we've gotten relatively close. We emailed several times a day, went out on a few occations, (no sex, ...
A. 9 March 2009: Hi, There is basically nothing to add to what triedit has said. It's all there. Let him flirt, enjoy it, but don't flirt back, slowly stop beingin places at work where he might be and start to like his flirtation less. You can do it. This fellow as ... (read in full...)
What are the signs to falling in love?
Q. Hello! I need to know how I can tell if I am falling in love. What are the signs? ...
A. 9 March 2009: Hi there, Well, let's see, who do you think about most of the day? Do you miss the person so much when you are apart, that you want to go and find them? Are you nervous around them, with butterflies in your stomach? Some people lose their appetites, ... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming I'm sleeping with Present Bush!
Q. This isn't exactly a relationship question, but I'm in desperate need of help here! This is going to sound really weird and borderline gross, but please bear with me. I am a young, female, Liberal Democrat of nineteen (voted for Obama and suppor...
A. 7 March 2009: Hi there, First of all there are a few things that go like this, "take a dream as a dream", "dreams are a multitude of business". You know who you are, I believe, so as far as changing to something that is so against the grain in your case such as a ... (read in full...)
Fate? Just a really weird coinicidence?
Q. Almost 1 year ago i called an old boyfriend and another guy answered the phone the new owner of that number and from then until now we are still communicating with each other but we've never met in person the strange thing is i now have strong ...
A. 2 March 2009: Hi there, Well people can become friends in many different ways. It seems you two have taken your time with this relationship and that is good. I myself would like to know some of his friends or family before getting too locked into a meaningful ... (read in full...)
On V-day I got my boyfriend having sex with my sister
Q. My boyfriend told me not to come over to his place on Valentine's day because he said he wasn't feeling well and didn't want me to get sick. But I forget my phone there and I needed it so I went there anyway. I went get there (he give me a house ...
A. 28 February 2009: Hi, This is where you separate the adults from the immature.
You cannot, repeat cannot allow your emotions to take you to a place you regret going. What good does it do to punch your sister out, none. Calm the freak down, and try to be sane. Firs... (read in full...)
On V-day I got my boyfriend having sex with my sister
Q. My boyfriend told me not to come over to his place on Valentine's day because he said he wasn't feeling well and didn't want me to get sick. But I forget my phone there and I needed it so I went there anyway. I went get there (he give me a house ...
A. 26 February 2009: Hi there, I agree with most advice you have been given. But you should forive your sister for your mental health, not for hers. Stay away from her, any boyfriend you get will be fodder for her, unless she gets therapy, and as I think I said she sees ... (read in full...)
My mom and I don't get along..how can I emancipate from her?
Q. I don't know what to do!!!! I'm done with all of it an I want out and I want out now!!! I f*** up my life every chance i get but I'm not acting out for attention. I'm acting out to get away. I love my mother to death but for as long as i can ...
A. 24 February 2009: Hi there young lady, It seems that you and your mother may have almost the same personalities, and she sees herself in you and for some reason it distrubs her that you might make
the same mistakess she did. She cares about you though you can not ... (read in full...)
Is it abuse when a girl hits a guy?
Q. So I have a girlfriend. We seem to fight a lot. when I make her upset she tends to hit me. The other night we were arguing in the car and I said something to upset her, and she swung her arm and struck me right in the eye. she hit me hard enough to ...
A. 24 February 2009: Hi there, Violence is violence, it does not change if it is woman hiting a man or the reverse. She seriously needs a course in anger management. She also does nto respect you and she wants control, and the hitting if her form of trying to control ... (read in full...)
Do I have any legal rights after living with him for 7 years?
Q. I had posted yesterday, I am the woman who is involved with the married but separated man. I appreciate your responses. I have this question and it is really urkin me for some reason. Even though I have invested almost 8 yrs with this man and lived ...
A. 23 February 2009: Hi there, You might want to contact a contract lawyer, I have heard the same thing about the seven year common law marriage connection. But you must let someone who knows the laws of your state tell you what rights you would have under certain ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and still wet the bed, what can I do?
Q. okay horribly embarrassing question, i'm 16 and still wet the bed, what can i do? i've been to the hospital and they keep sending me off to gynecologists for internal exams... i really don't want that. anyone on any drugs that help, any ideas would ...
A. 22 February 2009: Hi there, The best thing that I can suggest, is that you drink your most water early in the day and try to empty your bladder as much as you can before you go to bed. Stop drinking liquid around 4 p.m. each day, that may lessen the water in your ... (read in full...)
Now he is back and my head hurts and I can feel my own blood pressure rising. I can not live like this, but what can I do?
Q. I have moved 3000 miles to be with my husband. He has been mentally and verbally abusive to me in ways I can't even begin to describe. In ways that caused me to vomit blood while he laughed. We rent a house, I have nobody here and no way to leave ...
A. 22 February 2009: Hi dear, I am so happy that you are taking steps to put your life in order so that you will strive. It is okay to be scared, remember when you first went to school, or when you first started a new job, very scary time. These are human emotions and ... (read in full...)
Are there any programs that can help a disabled full-time single mom own a home
Q. I am single mother of 2 sons who was newly declared disabled. I've worked as an R.N. for 18 yrs until medical conditions prevent me from working. My ultimate dream is to own a small new home. Can anyone tell me of any programs the US govt. or any ...
A. 21 February 2009: Hi there, Good luck to you. There may be some program for disabled people, but off the top of my head I can't give you any. You might want to contact the National Association for Disabled Persons for information. There will be new creidts in place ... (read in full...)
On V-day I got my boyfriend having sex with my sister
Q. My boyfriend told me not to come over to his place on Valentine's day because he said he wasn't feeling well and didn't want me to get sick. But I forget my phone there and I needed it so I went there anyway. I went get there (he give me a house ...
A. 21 February 2009: Hi there, This happens in families where there is jealousy. I agree with everything else that has been said. One more thing that I would add, your sister has no boundaries, and may never, ever have any, where you and your boyfriends are concerned. I ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my g/f's dad and his sexual attitude towards me?
Q. I'm 23, my girlfriend's 22. We've been together for just over 4 months now, and everything's great. There's no major problems in our relationship, it's her family that's the issue. Whenever I go over to her house (which is semi-regularly), her ...
A. 21 February 2009: Hi there, Well, your girlfriend's dad has a problem, which I am sure did not just start. I would if I were you, tell someone in your family who you trust, what happened on both occasions, just so someone else is aware on your side. I would not tell ... (read in full...)
Now he is back and my head hurts and I can feel my own blood pressure rising. I can not live like this, but what can I do?
Q. I have moved 3000 miles to be with my husband. He has been mentally and verbally abusive to me in ways I can't even begin to describe. In ways that caused me to vomit blood while he laughed. We rent a house, I have nobody here and no way to leave ...
A. 21 February 2009: Hi there, First of all, the good thing is that you are renting. I would first of all write a letter to your landlord or call and let them know that you are being abused, you can't take it anymore and you are breaking the lease. Then I would leave or ... (read in full...)
I'm upset because my boyfriend is not a virgin.
Q. I'm a 15 year old girl, who has a 18 year old boyfriend. What bothers me is to know that he has not been a virgin since he was 16. When I first met him I really didn't care.. I guess since he didn't mean much to me but now, I love him. He would ...
A. 20 February 2009: Hi there, I think it would probably be good if you thought about and accepted the fact, that there has a;ways bee and more than likely will continueto be a double standard in societywhen it comes to virginity and sexual experience.Men are suposed to ... (read in full...)
Name suggestions for my baby
Q. I may be pregnant. My daughter got her name from putting the names of her dad and my name together. I want to do it again but can't think of anything right now. If you have some ideas, I would really appreciate it if you can share some with me. ...
A. 20 February 2009: Hi there, I agree with all that Raylee120 said, but here are two, that you might consider: Kaycee and Kameron. Hope if you are pregnant, that the baby is healthy. Good luck and take care. ... (read in full...)
I have a date tomorrow night, but I just got a cold!
Q. i have a date tomorrow night, but i just got a cold! :( it's started with a bad sore throat and mild nausea a little over a week ago. a couple of ays ago i started getting a bit stuffy, and now i'm stuffy sometimes, and other times runny and sn...
A. 18 February 2009: Hi, Good for you, the cold will eventually away. Your guy might want to pamper you because you are sick. Take care and good luck in the future.... (read in full...)
I have a date tomorrow night, but I just got a cold!
Q. i have a date tomorrow night, but i just got a cold! :( it's started with a bad sore throat and mild nausea a little over a week ago. a couple of ays ago i started getting a bit stuffy, and now i'm stuffy sometimes, and other times runny and sn...
A. 17 February 2009: Hi there, First of all you are putting too much stess on yourself to get better, which will only make it worse. I would let my date know that I just got a cold, reschedule the date, because I am sure he will not want to get your cold. It you can ... (read in full...)
He had a fling with her while we were going through a rough patch...I forgive him but forgetting will be harder!
Q. My husband and I have been married 10 years and together 12years. We have 2 girls aged 8 and 4.Yesterday when I picked up our post there was a valentine card from a woman he knew at work about 5 years ago.He could see I was a bit taken back by this ...
A. 15 February 2009: Hi Sarah, I think every marriage has its ups and downs. You two seem to be making a go of it, even with the rough patches. I know you have heard of men who have long affairs, and their marriages are going fine. At least your husband had an excuse of ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever heard of someone my age or older initiating a career in music and being successful?
Q. Good evening (and happy Valentine's Day) everyone, I didn't feel comfortable revealing my identity, but I will say this: that I'm one of the "regular" aunts on this site. Anytime someone needs me, I'm always happy to listen and I understand feeli...
A. 15 February 2009: Hi there, First of all, ruined your life, you are a baby in some people's opinion. You will probably live for a good while longer. If you remember Grandma Moses started painting long into her old age, Picasso I think started late in life, not all ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age & he found out!
Q. hey im 34 yrs old , met and a guy some 3 yrs ago, thot it was going to be just a fling, but he ended up talking marriage, problem is im 3yrs older than he is but i lied then that it was just one yr diffence, well he just found out, i actually meant ...
A. 13 February 2009: Hi there, First of all let's talk reality here, if we can. What is the big deal about you being 3 years older than him? A five year difference is no big deal if both people are grown. How many women out there are marrying men 20 years younger than ... (read in full...)
I want to call the wedding off, but he doesn't. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm in need of advice desperately.I've been in a relationship for the past 2 and 1/2 years now,we are getting married in a few months time and I'm studying .lately Ive been having doubts about us,about the wedding,about just being with ...
A. 12 February 2009: Hi there, First of all I want to say that I have never been married, so you know where I am coming from. Two lines in your letter stood out to me, "he never listens", and he hears me but doesn't listen" and one other item, "he gets what he wants". ... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with mother and daughter... but this can't carry on...
Q. This may sound like every man's dream but I've gotten myself in to something that I don't know how to get out of. About three months ago, I met a woman at work who is older than me. She is 46 but certainly looks good for her age. We both share an...
A. 12 February 2009: Hi there, Well aren't you the cat's meow? :o) The only problem I see here is, that is since everybody seems to be taking this all in stride, and no one must love anyone, it's all a sex thing, I guess, if the younger one gets preggers, what then? ... (read in full...)
Should I directly ask him about his Wife for closure??
Q. Hello: Many of you have given me help and I know what to do. I find it hard to resolve the fact that I actually fell for the games/fantasy of this married guy I work with. I went back to work again the other day and already he is mentioni...
A. 12 February 2009: Hi there, From what I am reading, it would be better for you, in my opinion, to not question him about anything. Why, because you are then giving him an opening to sell you more of the same "I need you, or please listen to me".
What good is that... (read in full...)
Everytime we have a big argument, my husband threatens divorce!
Q. I know almost all married couples have arguments and fight occasionally. The thing which bothers me is every time we have a big argument, my husband threatens of divorce. We have a 3 yr old son and have been together for 8 yrs. We are Indians and ...
A. 11 February 2009: Hi there, I have never been married but have observed a few couples during their married lives. I think this, as you have already guessed, is your husband's ultimate weapon, he knows that if he threatens divorce, you will either shut up or be afraid ... (read in full...)
I quit smoking but have put on 2 stone! HELP!
Q. hi i have put on 2 stone since packing up smoking i am now 16 stone i feel out of breath all the time my clothes dont fit and i might have dibetas now the nurse said. can you please help me all i want to do is eat cause i am not smoking june i ...
A. 11 February 2009: Hi there, I understand this happens with an awful lot of people. The eating is a substitute for the smoking, as you well know, and also comes with a price. If you are flirting with diabetes, get Cinnamon capsules from any health food store. Also ... (read in full...)
How do I become more secure?
Q. i am a jealous person, but i feel like there are rational explanations for it. i do trust my bf, but i'm just iffy about a lot of girls he hangs out with. like, my first impressions of them would not be the greatest, even before i knew they were ...
A. 10 February 2009: Hi, I agree with what basschick has said. Why are you jealous? It seems to me that there is more mistrust than jealousy, you don't quite know what to make of this situation. I know I wouldn't. He goes to the movies with this girl and then what, she ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to like younger guys?
Q. is it wrong to like a younger guy and i am 2 yaers older.he was born in 1982 and i was born in 1980. is it wrong to like a younger guy.i like younger guys but i don,t mean to ? is it wrong .do younger guys like older girls? can you help m...
A. 8 February 2009: Hi there, Come on now, stop it, two years older is really nothing, unless the gentleman is very immature for his age. I used to know someone who made the point that women should marry men who are younger than they are, because men die younger than ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 8 February 2009: Hi there, Maybe not true for all guys, but what a great perspective. You seem to be a nice exception to the rule.
Take care.... (read in full...)
I want to ejaculate on her face, how to convince her?
Q. my girlfriend and i have done a lot sexually. we have both performed oral on each other, she likes it when pull out and cum on her, and she has even let me cum in her mouth and on her face once. i only recently told her that i would like cum on her ...
A. 5 February 2009: Hi again, Let me respond by saying, if you ask her and she says yes, then you guys have fun, whatever turns you both on. Some people find pleasure where others don't. That's why there is Vanilla, Chocolate and Strawberry ice cream.
your taste is y... (read in full...)
I want to ejaculate on her face, how to convince her?
Q. my girlfriend and i have done a lot sexually. we have both performed oral on each other, she likes it when pull out and cum on her, and she has even let me cum in her mouth and on her face once. i only recently told her that i would like cum on her ...
A. 5 February 2009: Hi there, I find myself agreeing with the other writer. Why would you really want to do this, not that you are alone with this form of activity, but since you wrote in about it, let me ask you a question. It can be retorical if you don't want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend turns off the radio in the car while I'm driving!
Q. Hi it's a petty relationship question, but I just want to know if I'm off base here. Scenario: I'm driving in my car with my boyfriend(he is the passenger) and I happen to be listening to my favorite radio station. All of a sudden he leans over a...
A. 5 February 2009: Hi there, have you noticed any other tendencies by your boyfriend to want to be in control? My feeling is that this is his way of trying to take charge by doing something irritating to you. He would like to be in the drivers seat and this is his way ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my ex quicker?
Q. So I dated this one guy (we'll call him X) the summer between sophomore and junior years but the timing was really off for numerous reasons. The last couple weeks, though, we started hanging out again but my ex (we'll call him Z) and I just broke up ...
A. 4 February 2009: Hi there, Time is a factor in most relationships, how long you were with your ex is a factor. You look at the end of a relationship as a sort of death, sorry to be so forthright, but it is. A joining of two people just ended, and if you loved the ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to speak to me all night every night, how do I make it stop!
Q. My girlfriend and I see each other everyday. She still lives with her parents, and so do I for my families financial reasons, but after I get home, she calls me every night and won't get off the phone with me. I have tried to hint over and over that ...
A. 2 February 2009: Hi again, I didn't realize she was that young, she is doing what a young person especially a girl does, talk, talk, talk. You have to be patient with her as you care about her, but you must set some rules, I agree also with the Aunt who said to tell ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to have a baby I'm not ready for
Q. hi just needed some advice, ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years everything is good but he has a daughter of 2 years old that he hasnt seen in over 2 years cause his baby momma took her to jamaica with her so since he hasnt seen his daughter he ...
A. 2 February 2009: Hi there, Is this your life and body or his? You seem to be the sensible one here, and thank goodness. Another question, does he send his daughters's mother money to take care of his child? Babies are a responsiblilty, when you are on the table ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to speak to me all night every night, how do I make it stop!
Q. My girlfriend and I see each other everyday. She still lives with her parents, and so do I for my families financial reasons, but after I get home, she calls me every night and won't get off the phone with me. I have tried to hint over and over that ...
A. 2 February 2009: Hi there, In order to have a relationship, there has to be mutual respec. It is very rude not to be considerate of others feelings, especially if you care for a person. Youcetainly do not want to aggravate them or make them think that you are a ... (read in full...)
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