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I am a people person, I love to help people when I can. I am always being asked for my opinion on any number of things.

I live on the East coast.

What makes me tick is my insatiable curiousity and my eagerness to learn new things and meet new people.

I am currently happily single, and not looking. I like to make new friends.

I love nature and art, and the colors of fall and the ocean,

and the sound of silence. I have a passion for writing.

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I get depressed about my "small" boobs...

Q.   im 18 and just wondering if my boobs will grow anymore or if im gonna have to wait till i have kids or the next stage of my life? im a size. 12A sometimes 10A and i feel like i have the body of a 14 year old. i was a late developer didnt get my p...

A.   16 June 2008: Hi, I'm thinking it only depresses you, because you are comparing your breast size, to pictures of women with larger sized breasts than you. Your self image is very important, but how you are inside and who you are as a person, should be at the fore... (read in full...)

I've lost a friend's address and number! Now I don't know where he is!

Q.   Hey guys, I was wondering if you could help.. Basically I met a guy on holiday in Majorca, Spain about 6 years ago, he worked as a rep for the hotel and we became friends while I was there. We swapped addresses and telephone numbers, and the last ...

A.   14 June 2008: Hi, Sorry I was thinking Hotel, but the same thing goes for restaurant. There should be a restaurant association for restaurants in Granada, a business association that helps restaurants with their business needs. In addition, as he purchased the ... (read in full...)

I've lost a friend's address and number! Now I don't know where he is!

Q.   Hey guys, I was wondering if you could help.. Basically I met a guy on holiday in Majorca, Spain about 6 years ago, he worked as a rep for the hotel and we became friends while I was there. We swapped addresses and telephone numbers, and the last ...

A.   14 June 2008: Hi, Not to be funny, but this could be a good movie script, I do think I saw a movie like this. Here is my sugggestion, you could find out if there is a Hotel Association in Granada, write or call them, giving his name and see if they have any ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend will not talk about our relationship!

Q.   Why do guys have a hard time expressing themselves? Every time I would ask my bf where this relationship is going or what he thinks of it, he says, "it is what it is". What does that mean? He shows a lot of affection towards me and treats me very ...

A.   14 June 2008: Hi, The great thing about your letter is that you say, he shows a lot of affection towards me, and treats me very well. I am reminded of the saying "actions speak louder than words". You are being shown, how much he cares for you, he may possibly be ... (read in full...)

What is a good destination that will be a good vacation (a week) for an 8 years old girl and 2 adult during the summer holiday?

Q.   What is a good destination that will be a good vacation (a week) for an 8 years old girl and 2 adult during the summer holiday? We're from Canada, so we can go to US or something like that....

A.   13 June 2008: Hi, I took my niece to Disneyworld in Florida. We had a very good time, went through It's a Small World twice, wanted to go again, me not her. There is so much to do, with the Disney characters, Mickey Mouse, Minnie, Goofy, Donald Duck, Cinderella ... (read in full...)

I need help to deal with his lies!

Q.   I've recently found out my boyfriend of 6 years has lied to me. I found out by reading msg's on his phone should I confront him? please help feel as though I'm losing trust in him....

A.   12 June 2008: Hi, Well, I am wondering, do you think this is the first lie he has told you, or is it the first lie your found out about. It has been my experience that either people are honest or they are not. Some poeople are complusive liars, it is just a part ... (read in full...)

Do I end it or not?

Q.   so im dating(1.5 years) a guy 4 years older than me. lately ive been feeling a little disconnected and its starting to really bother me. the romance is dying, he's always busy, and he recently told me he was applying to a job which was on the other ...

A.   11 June 2008: Hi, The tone of your letter, seems to cry out, no you actually said , you used to be happy. To me that says it all. I somehow feel that you already know the answer to your question. That you really want to be, like you were before, especially since ... (read in full...)

My online guy wants to marry me even though we've never met!

Q.   So, I may seem insane to you guys after asking this question.... I've been talking to this guy online for about 3 1/2 years. We've become good friends and both have been wanting to date for quite some time..but he lives in TN. Last year he joined ...

A.   11 June 2008: Hi there, I think the word possibly is important here, he is giving you a reason to date him. Just start from there, don't get to serious with his "wanting to marry you", those are words. You should meet him, hopefully in the daytime at some ... (read in full...)

His actions don't agree with his words... is he playing me? can he really be in love with me?

Q.   I am 18 years , my boyfriend is 25 years old. we have been together for about 6 months. This is the longest relationship i have been in. in the first month and a half that we had been together i lost my virginity to him and then three months into ...

A.   10 June 2008: Hi there, Please take a look at everything you have mentioned about him and your relationship. First of all, did he ask you to be his girlfriend? Have the two of you discussed if you are going to be a couple. Some kind of mutual agreement would or s... (read in full...)

I am tired of him and want out of this relationship!!

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 and a half years. we get into arguments about three times a week. its not just a regular little argument he gets to throwning stuff around breaking my stuff to make me mad. punching wholes in the ...

A.   10 June 2008: Hi, It is way beyond time for you, to leave this relationship. This person has a lot of pent up anger and it is being directed at you. Please do not sit and think he will change, he won't. It has to be his decision to change or modify his behavior, ... (read in full...)

I found out my fiance of 14 years has just slept with his cousin - can they be charged for incest??

Q.   i have just found out that my fiance of 14 years, has just slept with his cousin - who he has been re-united with after 20 years. i am very hurt and sickened and want to know if they can be charged, by Law for Incest. Please advise...

A.   6 June 2008: Hi, I am sure you are hurt, and would like to have some sort of revenge, but it is not against the law, to have sex with your cousin. The only problem comes, when they have children and the children are affected by the inbreeding. Back to your othe... (read in full...)

Jerry Spriner moment, sisters ex run off with brothers ex, what do we do?

Q.   This is so twisted it is Jerry Springer deserving, but we hardly look the part.... 2 years ago my brothers wife D, divorced my brother for the second time. She took the 5 year old son with her and moved 8 hours away to her parents in Missouri...

A.   6 June 2008: Hi, This is quite awful, but s...t happens. If your brother-in-law is determined to get the divorce, then there is not much your sister can do. I am sure this is stressing her out, but she is going to have to roll with the punches, I'm sorry to say. ... (read in full...)

We're getting married this year, but I'm getting cold feet as he is not very affectionate, should I marry him?

Q.   hi, i've been with my fella for 7 yrs and we are getting married this year. I've started having second thoughts though.. can you fall out of love with someone and become just friends???? Because that's how we are, we don't do anything couple ...

A.   5 June 2008: Hi, Please stop the presses! Even if you have sent out the invitations, and chosen the bridal dress. This relationship either has to be revitalized or ended. You have been together for seven year, he has either gotten into the habit of comfortable, ... (read in full...)

Can we overcome this? He has issues with my past and my self confidence is low...

Q.   Ok, I'm having a lot of doubts here. Me and my bf have been having problems. We've been together for almost two years, and we're mostly happy. But for ayear or so, there have been issues. It's about my past. I always had this "feeling" that h...

A.   5 June 2008: Hi, The two of you have been together for two years, that is a long time to be in a relationship, by some standards. So the two of you must care about each other, and are trying to hang in there, because you evidently like each other and possibly ... (read in full...)

Freaked out! I kissed my cousin and now I'm in love!

Q.   I kissed my cousin and now I'm in love! We have kissed before but it freaked us out. I really want to tell him how i feel but don't know how....

A.   4 June 2008: Hi, It is not hard to find that you like someone of the opposite sex, who is a member of your family, especially a cousin. Nature is nature. When I was young I had a serious crush on one of my male cousins, I thought he was the greatest, and he ... (read in full...)

Should I just walk out on two years of my life?

Q.   I'm so tired of my relationship. My fiancee and I fight all the time. Nothing I do ever seems good enough to him. When we argue he gets verbally abusive and the last time he punched me in the leg after i threw something at him. I understand i probab...

A.   4 June 2008: Hi there, Reading your letter, I am troubled by your words. In any relationship, two people will have to make concessions and be flexible if you want to get along. People will argue, but there have to be boundaries, as to how you argue, and limits ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend never listens to my feelings!

Q.   It seems like my boyfriend never wants to hear how I feel, or what is it that he does that upsets me. Do you think I should break up with him?...

A.   4 June 2008: Hi there, What I would like you to do for me, and this is for you to ponder as well, how can you have a relationship, a boyfriend, when he won't listen to you? This does not bode well for a healthy relationship, it is always necessary, I feel... (read in full...)

He's calling me again, but I'm not answering because of his past cheating! What do I do?

Q.   I broke up with my ex boyfriend 3 months ago and since i broke up with him, i still remember him every minute of the day...i cannot move on and i think i still love him.Wer on a different country now cause i work before abroad, we supposed to get ...

A.   3 June 2008: Hi, This is kind of tough, because you say he was "courting" other girls, on the internet. Does that mean that he was dating them as well, trying to date them, was there human to human contact, or was it all done through keyboard and screen? ... (read in full...)

I stayed faithful, but he is ending our long-distance relationship.

Q.   After 2 and half years in a relationship (12 months long distance - not my choice but his) my boyfriend has decided that its over. He told me that if I was not able to be with him (re-locate overseas) he is calling it a day. He has been ruthless ...

A.   1 June 2008: Hi, Decision time. Are you receiving what you need now, from your friend? If not, do you think you are going to change him? It has to be up to him to change. Will you be happy away from your home, meeting new people, getting a new job, kind of ... (read in full...)

I stayed faithful, but he is ending our long-distance relationship.

Q.   After 2 and half years in a relationship (12 months long distance - not my choice but his) my boyfriend has decided that its over. He told me that if I was not able to be with him (re-locate overseas) he is calling it a day. He has been ruthless ...

A.   31 May 2008: Hi there, First of all, step back and assess what is going on in your "relationship". Who is making all the demands, who is giving nothing in return, who is asking who to travel to see them (probably without sending you airfare), who is not coming ... (read in full...)

How do we move to the next level? Need your help!

Q.   hi guys! i really like this guy and he likes me too we have fun together but i wish we could move to the next level,like a relationship,buti dont know what to do to get him to ask me. so i need your help....

A.   31 May 2008: Hi, I would think you would play it by ear, and continue to enjoy his company. Sometimes guys want to have friends and other times they want lovers, other times friends turn into lovers. I would not push it too hard, he has to be willing to go to ... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid because of his previous betrayal?

Q.   Ok to cut a long story short my husband cheated on me once before and I forgave him. Its not been easy and I do not want any advice on something I want to forget. I just need to know if I am now paranoid or have the right to be worried. We w...

A.   31 May 2008: Hi, Have you ever thought that maybe, this woman is doing this to get under your skin for whatever reason, and if you take her looks and whisperings seriously, you play right into her hands. Ignore all of them, is there not another place you and ... (read in full...)

Please some one help me I'm desperate to get over this guy!

Q.   I am 27 I was in a relationship with my daughters father for 4years...we had a roller coaster type of relationship. he is very jealous and treated me like I was wrong for having had sex before him... basically all of our arguments consisted of ...

A.   31 May 2008: Hi there, You have the answer within your question. You may love him, but he does not respect you as he should. He controls through intimidation, and ridicule, he does not have high self esteem in my opinion, and he wants you to have less. This is ... (read in full...)

PLEASEEEE I really need someone to talk to and someone to help me decide things!

Q.   Hey aunts ! So its not like I have problems or anything, but I think I really need someone to talk to. It might make me feel better . But there are all these little problems I have, and I dont wanna write them all up here and post like 100 questi...

A.   31 May 2008: Hi, I am older, so you would be talking to a seasoned individual with a great sense of humor. I would love to help you if I can. Do they send e-mails directly through? I live in the States. If you like to read, you can go to a web site where I ... (read in full...)

Why do you all have to bow down to the oppressors-why cant you do what you really want?

Q.   i have spent the last two hours reading various responses to the questions on this site and i noticed that in general there is a trend toward condemnation of people who dare to have a different take on sex than what the morality police deem ...

A.   26 May 2008: Hi, You and your husband found an approach that worked well for the two of you. That is great, it was a mutually agreeable situation. Others as you have said, make such agreements. But there are a lot of pitfalls to such situations, people don't ... (read in full...)

Does this dream mean anything?

Q.   This may seem like an awkward question but here goes, last night I had a dream that I was making out with a girl but she wasn't my girlfriend, it was my best friend I've known for 6 years, and I used to like her before I met my girlfriend. Can ...

A.   26 May 2008: Hi, You stated you liked this person, before you met your girlfriend and I would imagine, but not know, that you did not engage in any physical, sexual contact with your friend? So, the dream could possibly, just be some repressed latent, left over ... (read in full...)

My childhood friend slept with my BF a year ago; she keeps telling me she wants to be friends again, do I forgive her?

Q.   My best friend since childhood slept with my boyfriend. It has been a year since I have talked to her and I dumped the guy. She keeps calling me telling me she wants to be friends agian. Should I forgive her? I'm afriad she may try and do the same ...

A.   7 May 2008: Hi there, She may have been your girlfriend, but she was or is not your friend. Friends respect each other, they have limitations regarding certain things, there are boundaries. She wants you to forgive her? Why? So she can do it again. She is ... (read in full...)

Any special risks pursuing much younger women for relationships?

Q.   I am a guy in my 50's and I'm most compatible emotionally, physically, and sexually with girls in their 20's. Are there any legal or other risks in approaching and having sex/relationship/love with women that are at least 18 years old(USA venue)? ...

A.   6 May 2008: Hi, thanks for responding to our stated advice. You say you are not "fun". You are fun, but you have to involve yourself with those women, who share the things that you like to do, then it will fun, for both of you. Give yourself a short break, from... (read in full...)

Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place despite the mutual attraction?

Q.   I've made a decision to NOT get involved with a man who I am attracted to at work, and he's attracted to me as well. Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place and just remain co-workers? Do you think these ...

A.   6 May 2008: Hi, Alright, so now we have clarifacation of both your situations. Stop it with the messages, stop parking your car next to his, if I may advise you. What you are doing is flirting with fire. Think about this, if you both decide to have some kind of ... (read in full...)

Any special risks pursuing much younger women for relationships?

Q.   I am a guy in my 50's and I'm most compatible emotionally, physically, and sexually with girls in their 20's. Are there any legal or other risks in approaching and having sex/relationship/love with women that are at least 18 years old(USA venue)? ...

A.   6 May 2008: Hi, As long as they are of a legal age, I can't think of anything wrong. Socially, you will looked at, as robbing the cradle, but is that a crime? People would probably be a bit jealous of you, wishing it were them. The other thing I would be ... (read in full...)

Would You Reply To This Email?

Q.   alright to make a really long story short my BF of 6 years an i broke up more than a month ago. he sent me an email a little over a week ago accusing me of something i didnt do (obviously someone started some drama) and how i made a fool out of ...

A.   6 May 2008: Hi, I would write him back, I am assuming you don't want to be involved with him anymore. I would write him in response to his e-mail, because he won't quit, he does want to talk but these people he is listening to, and it could very well be a ... (read in full...)

The way I feel right now, nothing can hurt me more than I’m hurting right now.

Q.   6 months ago i took a trip to Colorado to visit my uncle during my college break. My uncle told me and my family theirs a woman (my dads second cousin) who's related to our family we should visit. I met that woman’s daughter, she is my 3rd cousin. I ...

A.   6 May 2008: Hi, For one thing, the third cousin relationship should not be a problem legally, unless it is against your religion. You have to check it out. But, my dear, it takes two to tango, which I'm sure, you know what I am talking about. You have a serious ... (read in full...)

Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place despite the mutual attraction?

Q.   I've made a decision to NOT get involved with a man who I am attracted to at work, and he's attracted to me as well. Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place and just remain co-workers? Do you think these ...

A.   5 May 2008: Hi, You do not sy ifnthe two of you are single or not, so we will go on the assuption that you bothare availble. What are you company policy rules? If office involvement is frowned upon for obvious reasons, you would have to be very discreet, if you ... (read in full...)

He made excuses for not seeing me and got angry when I asked. Please help me understand.

Q.   I've been seeing this boy for 2 months. He told me on the phone that he couldn't see me this weekend, so I asked him when we could meet, and he flew off the handle... and then told me that he'd met someone else the last couple of days. I didn't ...

A.   5 May 2008: Hey there, I am going to start with the ending portion of your letter, where you state that he has been divorced twice. First warning sign, at best he is a habitual marrying type, forget the divorces, most women think about getting married when they ... (read in full...)

What are the signs your husband is cheating with a coworker?

Q.   what signs should I be looking for, I think that my husband is cheating on me with his co-worker while being away on business. I have no solid evidence but something in my stomach says it. how do i go about knowing if i am right or wrong?...

A.   5 May 2008: Hi, I think that I would go at this a little different than, perhaps you are thinking, confronting him and all. Here is what I would do, I say this because if he does tell you, if you ask him, that yes he is sleeping with his co-worker, then, what ... (read in full...)

I need to contact him before we leave for different Uni's. Please can you help?

Q.   Well i may sound like a loser to you guys but i have to make a confession....i liked a guy for almost 8 months secretly without anyone knowing. I used to catch him looking at me many times, but it lead nowhere..and now i have 15 days left, and both ...

A.   4 May 2008: Hi there, You really like this young man, and you have X amount of days, before you both leave for university. OK, so what will be accomplished in X amount of days, if you talk to him before you both leave? Do you know if he has a girfriend? He may ... (read in full...)

Deep down inside, I know he isn't the one for me. Advice on how to let go?

Q.   I can't let go of my boyfriend. Deep down inside i know he isn't for me other than the fact everyone tells me, i still ignore them and get hurt over and over again. I mean i never asked him for anything during our four year relationship and he never ...

A.   4 May 2008: Hi dear, Let's start with who you are with, 100% of the time, that is yourself. How you feel about yourself, then, is very important. That involves feeling good about how you are treating yourself , and also how you are being treated by others. ... (read in full...)

He pursued me for about two months, then virtually overnight he changed!

Q.   I have been dating this guy who is 42. He was very, very into me, and pursued me for about 2 months. He really gained my trust, and I liked him a lot. We started having sex (three weeks ago) and virtually overnight he stopped being on time, ...

A.   30 April 2008: Hi, It would appear to me, that this gentleman (being kind) likes the pursuit, he is very charming, knows how to break down a woman's defenses, so that he can move in for what he is really after. Which seems to be a sexual conquest, and not a real... (read in full...)

We keep arguing and it's depressing, but if we break up will I ever find anyone else that will love me as much?

Q.   hi everyone i have a question that makes me think about my relationship with my boyfriend and how long its going to last if this keeps happening. ok me and my boyfriend have been datin for almost 11months and i love him to bits but i believe that...

A.   30 April 2008: Hi, You are in a situation, where you are putting up with things, which are not at all healthy, because you think that it would be worse, without your boyfriend. The problem with that thought process, is that you don't know, that what you think will ... (read in full...)

We are very much in love, but we fight constanly, what should I do?

Q.   Hi everyone, i have a question that has bugging me. I love my boyfriend to death, and i'd do anything to see him happy, and that's how he is with me. We get along perfectly, and we are 110% comfortable with each other. We do almost everything toge...

A.   29 April 2008: Hi there, If you are going to be in a relationship with another human being, you will have disagreements, you will have fights. But not everyday. If you are fighting everyday, then there is some underlying problem with the relationship. You must... (read in full...)

How do I make myself realize that nothing will ever happen between me and this girl of my dreams?

Q.   I love her, I go to class with her, work with her, and also hang out with her at least 4 days out of a week. But I don't think she reciprocates the feelings. The problem is that whenever I talk to her or look into her eyes, all rational thought is c...

A.   28 April 2008: Hi, The best thing you could probably do for yourself, is to wean yourself away from her. You need to be missed, first of all, she will never realize if she cares for you or not, as long as she sees you almost all of the time, and you basically ... (read in full...)

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