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| | ariel's profile:I believe the answers we look for are inside us,we just have to have the courage to be truthful to ourselves.We always want to do what is expected of us but that is not always possible.You could say I follow my own rules and my heart.And try to live for the moments as they unfold.Although it is hard because being a women we are suppose to worry.
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I took my wife back, but now there's no affection from her.
Q. i have been married for 36 year my wife left me 5 years ago for someone she meet on the internet after a lot of crap i did settlement and tryed to get on with my life, it didnot work out for her i think and when we meet i took her back i love her ...
A. 6 July 2008: I agree people do change. But there seems to be a lack of communication going on between the two of you, hence you saying “it didnot work out for her i THINK.” Never assume anything EVER. If you are unhappy you need to voice yourself. Why don’t you ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of waiting to lose my virginity.
Q. I am currently a virgin I'm 19, and there is this guy that has become my friend. We've had some attraction and little feelings for each other as more than friends but because of certain situations we never engaged any further than just staying ...
A. 3 July 2008: Some say that your virginity is a gift well i want to know what is so special about losing it and what is so special about keeping it?”.....Once its gone its gone. It will only be memory, hopefully a good memory. Loosing your virginity is a personal ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 1 July 2008: She knows exactly where to hurt you.I agree with Eyes,time to get legal advise.You are a good father and she can't take that away from you.... (read in full...)
I kissed my best friend. Should I leave my boyfriend?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with a man who I like greatly.However on a recent night out with work, I got really close with my best friend from work and ended up kissing him. Although I did not plan this, we were both sober and I have been ...
A. 22 June 2008: """Or to stay in the relationship and be unhappy myself."""
I think you answered your wn question.
What good is it if you are unhappy?Your partner will also be unhappy.
... (read in full...)
Quick.. how can I make my boyfriend stay (instead of staying at a friends house) so we can try to get pregnant like we want to?
Q. quick my boyfriend wants 2 go stay a couple nights w/his friends but im ovulating n we've been tryin 2 get prego 4 awhile soo im tryin 2 figure out how 2 make him stay home without makin him feel guilty and without him thinkn tht im mad abt it or ...
A. 22 June 2008: Why do you want to get pregnant? You sound like you are rushing into this.Does he have a clue what you are up to? Have you discussed this at great length with him?... (read in full...)
When will this get easier after his cheating?
Q. Ok question to those cheated on. When will this get easier. Done the shouting, the soul searching, the anger, the bitterness, the forgiveness etc. Still love him despite everything and he is the one who is trying really hard after a silly one off ...
A. 21 June 2008: I find negative advice is usually from someone dealing with their own pain on he subject.You are the only one who knows him best and he sounds committed to fixing this. You can do it ,stay positive and when things get you down ,think before you ... (read in full...)
When will this get easier after his cheating?
Q. Ok question to those cheated on. When will this get easier. Done the shouting, the soul searching, the anger, the bitterness, the forgiveness etc. Still love him despite everything and he is the one who is trying really hard after a silly one off ...
A. 21 June 2008:
You have dealt with the whys, now all you need to do is remember the lessons learnt form this. Thinking about the intimacy between them is not helping you or him. Only you can put a stop to those thoughts when they enter your head. You also can’... (read in full...)
I want to have an affair but I don't know where to look for someone else?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having problems and he never gives me attention. I want to have an affair but I dont know where to look for someone else. Any advice? I cant go to a bar becasue I am 18....
A. 17 June 2008: It sounds like he has given up on your relationship, hence him not being bothered what you do. Do you think having an affair is going to make everything better? It sounds vengeful, and the only person who will get hurt is you. I think its time to ... (read in full...)
Separated wife dated and I can't deal with it! Help!!
Q. why cant i get over my wife dating someone when we were seperated? weve been married for 13 years, i had some withdraw problems 2 years ago when my mom died then we grew apart and she accused me of having an affair. after months of fighting my wife ...
A. 8 June 2008: Stop the blame game. You both were in the wrong, you deserted her and shut her out when you needed her the most. And she left you. Now she is back and you still looking for things to sabotage your happiness together. You have to find a common goal ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.
Q. i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....
A. 5 June 2008: Babies are lovely, when you can give them back to their parents (lol). Twelve is a bit young to have a baby even if you think you feel ready. My daughter is eleven and she also loves babies .I think it’s your hormones are going mad in your body. ... (read in full...)
He says I should turn a blind eye to his cheating, is he right?
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 years, i knew he has been cheating. we have discussed why do men cheat? and he answered that man can have sex with other women but not having any feeling for them, so i should not get upset. as long as he is nice to me, ...
A. 5 June 2008: Snooping is besides the point.You would not have snooped in the first place if he was a proper boyfriend.Why don't you call up the girl and get the information from her.Then tell him he is a lost cause.IT'S NOT OKAY TO CHEAT.He is playing russian ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive my husband, for the awfull thing he did?
Q. This is the most bizzare situation I have been in and I am in the brink of loosing my mind. I have with my husband now for 9 years ( 2.5 years married) we are about to have our first child together. Unfortunately during blood work the doctor told ...
A. 5 June 2008: Your situation is not that bizarre, it’s actually quite common. I think people would probably be shocked at how many people do this behind there loved ones back without them ever finding out. If you did not have a STD, you probably would have been ... (read in full...)
10 years in our relationship and I am exhausted.
Q. I was wondering if someone could help. I am a 32 year old man who has been with his wife for 10 years, and married for almost 4 of those. My wife is 37 years old. We have a 6 month old baby. Over the last few weeks, I have found myself reass...
A. 22 May 2008: Without sounding patronizing, only you can make yourself happy. I am sorry if I offend you in what I am about to say,but you need to stop whining and complaining and forget yourself for a minute. Don’t you find it strange that you have made all ... (read in full...)
I've never really kissed before. How should I pucker my lips?
Q. This girl and I have had this thing for each other for a very long time. We both feel ready to kiss, but I've never really kissed before. How should I pucker my lips? This is the only problem I'm running into! I've read about all this other stuff ...
A. 18 May 2008: Try http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-kiss-for-the-first-time
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I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 15 May 2008: Agh!! Mac. No wonder you are a nervous wreck, you just have to look on the internet at all this information from people promising you a solution on how to act. For example I typed in ‘How to make conversation?’ and a whole lot of sites came up ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 14 May 2008: “”I can’t help being nervous and so I can’t say much! I’m nervous so when I try to act confident it comes over terribly......””
What is it that you worry about? Is it rejection? Your fear of rejection will banish you to a life of loneliness. Mac ... (read in full...)
Will having sex with this woman make me stop yearning for her, alleviate this sexual frustration so I can focus on my marriage?...
Q. I'm getting concerned about my sexual feelings for my wife, as I've been strongly attracted to a very attractive and wholesome woman at work, and I came to learn she feels the same as me, and she is also married. There has been no sex between us a...
A. 11 May 2008: Listen to Mandy she is so right. This is a warning and you need to listen, the fact that you want to act on your feelings should be very concerning to you. Talk to your wife. What you want to do can end your marriage .Do you want to end it? If so ... (read in full...)
I feel really great about myself...except for my body. I'm so upset, how can I cope?
Q. I'm glad to say I've been improving my self esteem. As a result, I'm less jealous of other girls, and less envious (baout their personalities, or how well they do in school, their talents, things like that). I feel better, as I know I'm worth a lot, ...
A. 11 May 2008: You‘ve got to stop wanting to be like someone else. You need to take control of your life. You hate Hollywood, showbiz and the media, when you don’t need to. You are in control of your thoughts, you have a choice to stop feeling and thinking like ... (read in full...)
Come on aunts and uncles stop dodging your resposibilities....
Q. I often hear the phrase 'it's not for me to judge'. If no one offers a judgement then how is right and wrong determined in society? Someone batters an old woman, 'it's not for me to judge'....Someone molests a child, 'it's not for me to judge'. Isn...
A. 9 May 2008: So you are saying people need to be more judgemental. Are you not confusing judgement with opinionated? Judgmental people wish their beliefs, their habits, and their way of life on others. They look down their noses at people who don’t live up to ... (read in full...)
Why am I cheating on a girl who is so perfect for me?
Q. I've been dating a girl for 2 years. Everything was perfect, until I met a girl about 8 months ago who I slept with, roughly twice a month, for 6 months. I have only physical feelings for this girl and do not love her what so ever. I have be...
A. 9 May 2008: Well this is how I see it, basically both of you were attempting to fulfil the need for love. You have been together for two yrs and you met a girl who you found physically attractive and had a physical affair for 6 months only to realise it was not ... (read in full...)
What does "Be Yourself" really mean?
Q. Can anyone really define "BE YOURSELF" properly, so we all know what it means? People use this expression all the time, yet it does not parse in an intelligible way. If I were to "be myself", I would never leave my land, and spend most of my life ...
A. 8 May 2008: Being yourself is the you without the ego armour.Being who you want to be and not who you think others want you to be.... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 23 April 2008: …………”if he left he must love me more then her?”
Is it love or lust on his part? I read somewhere that "True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be and will not be." (Author Unknown)... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: At least I don't fear my God.I don't want to slag your beliefs.All I would like to say is,its okay to believe what you want,live by it and accept that there are others who don't feel like you.Your reality is what will be for you as mine will be for ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: You forgot to mention the speaking from the soul. What happened to forgiveness? I don’t believe you have ever truly forgiven anybody in your life. If you’re having problems with getting your head around divorced women and children been born out of ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: Yes, Jesus is in trouble, just maybe you are reading into his words narrow mindedly. You are so busy condemning every divorced, unmarried mother that you are missing the whole point of life and faith. I hope your choices are not made out of fear of ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him and try and make it work, or should I move on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years now...we have a big past, we've both cheated...we've taken breaks....For a long time, I was the one chasing him around while he didnt want to settle down...now, he has changed his ways, and is ready ...
A. 6 April 2008:
If you can’t be yourself in a relationship then you will only resent your relationship in the end. Love is unconditional and he seems to be very conditional. He doesn’t even listen to you. How long do you think his effort to change is going to last... (read in full...)
What do I do when time doesn't help me get over my first love?
Q. Hello all, I am writing to get some advice on how to move on with my life after a very bad break up. I am now at the worse state in my life. I cant concentrate for even a second, my mind always wonder to thinking what if things were dif...
A. 6 April 2008: Being dumped sucks and you need to grieve the loss of your relationship. There is no time limit. You are the only one who can say enough is enough. You have to, through will move on. Learn from what went wrong. You mention there was always drama. ... (read in full...)
How do I not be insecure when there are hotter girls than me?
Q. I've always felt insecure about my looks (never been considered pretty or hot). My BF thinks I'm hot. However, he's also said that there are hot chicks everywhere. Now I'm more insecure. He gets mad if I go on about feeling insecure. He said hot ...
A. 6 April 2008: This is a serious problem, if not sorted could compromise every relationship you have. You need to take control of your thoughts regarding beautiful people .Is it possible that you are with the wrong bloke? Does he blatantly drool over ‘hot chicks’? ... (read in full...)
I had an affair and I love him.
Q. Last year i had an affair with a married man and too this day i am still in love with him. i have never been able to get over him and i know for a fact he loved me aswell. I have decided to write him a letter but as if its wrote to his wife. SO he ...
A. 5 April 2008: You said” it wasn't your typical affair. i am not going to publish on here what happened. He never lied to me and was always honest.” How can you believe him, he has not got an honest bone in his body. Your stolen moments were pure lust on his part. ... (read in full...)
How do I not be insecure when there are hotter girls than me?
Q. I've always felt insecure about my looks (never been considered pretty or hot). My BF thinks I'm hot. However, he's also said that there are hot chicks everywhere. Now I'm more insecure. He gets mad if I go on about feeling insecure. He said hot ...
A. 5 April 2008: Easy you need to believe in yourself. What’s so fabulous about people is that we are all different and have quirks and things we do that nobody else does because we are unique. There are always hotter chicks everywhere BUT they are not you. Beauty ... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin with a 5.5 inch penis. I feel shy about having sex...help!
Q. i am 23 old virgin and i have 5.5 inch penis .should i feel shy from having sex ? i feel shy :(...
A. 28 March 2008: Ha!my computer is acting weird,sorry for the duplicate... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin with a 5.5 inch penis. I feel shy about having sex...help!
Q. i am 23 old virgin and i have 5.5 inch penis .should i feel shy from having sex ? i feel shy :(...
A. 28 March 2008: Don’t be shy, you have an average size penis. What you need to do is love your penis, it will bring you great pleasure and will pleasure someone special to you. It’s all about technique. And the g-spot is only located about an inch or so inside the ... (read in full...)
Please help me stop beating myself up over mistake. - and how do I get him back?
Q. Please help. I have been seeing my boyfriend for five years. It has always been a bit rocky, but recently things have been great and I finally thought we were going to buy a house together. We haven't lived together all this time as I have a son an...
A. 22 March 2008: 'We teach people how to treat us by the way in which we treat ourselves.’ I don’t mean to sound patronizing, but its time to take control of your feelings. What has he done for you lately? He is selfish, disrespectful and treats your little boy like ... (read in full...)
What is going on in my marriage?
Q. I've been married for 22 yrs. to a very wonderful man that any woman would be lucky to have. January 1 we had a bad fight that caused him to withdraw from me for two months now. He says that he loves me and always will but since that day the love is ...
A. 21 March 2008: Oops, I mean "lucky to have not "happy to have"... (read in full...)
What is going on in my marriage?
Q. I've been married for 22 yrs. to a very wonderful man that any woman would be lucky to have. January 1 we had a bad fight that caused him to withdraw from me for two months now. He says that he loves me and always will but since that day the love is ...
A. 21 March 2008: You have so much to offer your man who is lucky enough to have you in his life. He might not see that right now, but trying to spend every waking moment with him will NOT fix the problem. In fact, it will only make it worse. You are being needy and ... (read in full...)
Can an affair make your marriage stronger?
Q. I often read amongst the answers that an affair can make a marriage stronger. Is this true or just the hurt parties way of saving face. i.e its been so painful i must make out its been worth it. Question can an affair strengthen your marriage?...
A. 19 March 2008: Being on the receiving end of an affair is like going to hell and back because you have to deal with the issues that the two of you were sweeping under the carpet. I don’t think it has anything to do with saving face. It’s about the two of you ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 16 March 2008: Maybe she does not believe you will carry through the threat of ending the marriage. Maybe she thinks it’s only a matter of time and you will be back. The saying “You can take a horse to water but can’t make it drink “comes to mind. We can’t tell ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 14 March 2008: I do understand what you are going through. I use to be a size 22, I don’t know how many stones I was ,I never climbed on a scale …perhaps I was in denial, I was also a couch potato who sat with a bag of chips and what ever was easily accessible .I ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 13 March 2008: Right your wife is 30stones, walking is difficult and swimming can not be fun with everyone judging her. To you loosing 3 stones was easily obtainable and visualized, put yourself in her shoes loosing what she has to, must be so scary and ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 13 March 2008: I’ve followed your post with interest and I’m feel rather sorry that even with the looming of a marriage breakup, your wife feels nothing. Why? Why has she given up? You keep mentioning that its not from a lack of trying to help her loose ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 11 December 2007: Don't be freaked out Mac,there is going to come a time when you are going to have to face what ever it is you don't want to face.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 10 December 2007: Holy crap!! You sound well pissed off. But let me just say that I can only give you generalized advice because I don’t know you from a bar of soap. Maybe I don’t know what you want and I am sorry that you are lonely and can’t find someone. But this ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 30 November 2007: How do you know that won't work?You have not tried it,and you are assuming again.Why do you always compare yourself to others? There are no rules in dating.You don't have to act a certain way to get a girl.Women don't want looks or confidence,they ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 18 November 2007: Timing and confidence...mmmm! Well as a women,if I were single on a date,I would want to know your intentions.So maybe you could say "I really think I am falling for you would it be okay if I put my arm around you?" or maybe ask if you can ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 8 November 2007: ++++"how do i belive in myself????"++++
Well you need to ask yourself...What would I like to believe? There is a saying "A belief is only a belief because we believe it" Beliefs are formed throughout our life experiences,for example your beli... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 6 November 2007: +++"Thsnks, but what happens when a woman does come along and im not good enugh to get her?? "+++
NOT GOOD ENOUGH??Says who.......You? You are your worst critic.When you chat to these girls are you listening to what they have to say or are you thin... (read in full...)
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