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Hi im 25yrs old yes i know im young, tho i have alot of maturity for my age. i am very logical. I have seen an heard alot of things so i feel i am able to help others in similiar situations and would like to generally help others. I live in the UK .

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He calls me his "younger brother" but I get the feeling he might be gay!

Q.   hi im an adult of age 23 , I am a straight and i happen to meet a guy elder than me of around 25 years . he is from the same place where I come from and we got introduced through a common friend of mine. as days passed on we got close to each other ...

A.   19 August 2009: seems he is very mixed up and very unsure of himself. think he wants things to be his way and you were like is toy its hard to guess on something like this the only answers you would get are from him and why hes acting so stupid. sorry it hasnt ... (read in full...)

He calls me his "younger brother" but I get the feeling he might be gay!

Q.   hi im an adult of age 23 , I am a straight and i happen to meet a guy elder than me of around 25 years . he is from the same place where I come from and we got introduced through a common friend of mine. as days passed on we got close to each other ...

A.   16 August 2009: i think its time to treat him like a distant friend than anything else because he is not being honest and his feelings are causing you to get hurt and if he cared for you he wouldnt treat you this way. i say dont concern yourself with him and if he ... (read in full...)

What do you think of our situation? I'm cheating with a girl who can't leave her relationship

Q.   im dating a girl but she has a boyfriend. she told me the first time we met so she never lied to me. we talk everyday and we like each other a lot.. she tells me that she likes me more but shes been with him for 5 years now and she cant just ...

A.   12 August 2009: i feel sorry for her bf who hasnt a clue that shes cheating on him he deserves better than someone who doesnt value people more than herself.. i never believe in cheatin or lying they are two things that is wrong with this world and only seems more ... (read in full...)

He calls me his "younger brother" but I get the feeling he might be gay!

Q.   hi im an adult of age 23 , I am a straight and i happen to meet a guy elder than me of around 25 years . he is from the same place where I come from and we got introduced through a common friend of mine. as days passed on we got close to each other ...

A.   12 August 2009: i think he is unsure of himself and his life and he sees you as a brother but perhaps he likes you more than that but doesnt want to make a fool of himself.. let him get on with his life and if he wants to talk then let him start it.. just leave it ... (read in full...)

What is the big deal about masturbation?

Q.   What is the big deal bout masterbating/cuming/orgasm? I have never masterbated in my life, but even on this sight there's something bout it. You hear stories bout people using hair brushes and carrots and whatnot to stick them up ya, i think it...

A.   12 August 2009: my mum walked in and was like didnt you hear me and i was in bed and was like erm no ok ill be down soon lol..and no you cant get sex toys till your older best experiment with your hands first and see how that goes..their is a little bit of skin ... (read in full...)

What is the big deal about masturbation?

Q.   What is the big deal bout masterbating/cuming/orgasm? I have never masterbated in my life, but even on this sight there's something bout it. You hear stories bout people using hair brushes and carrots and whatnot to stick them up ya, i think it...

A.   12 August 2009: masturbating can be quite an expiernece one which gets better with practice..not all people do it and some dont do it all. but most people have done it. your young so your questioning things which mean your curious..What is the big deal bout ... (read in full...)

Already had sex is it going to hurt this time too?

Q.   Ok so i already had sex before well my first time it was pretty painfull. I gotten fingered a few times. But my main concern is will it still hurt this time? Should he finger me before we have sex.I dont think we can use a lube because we are using ...

A.   11 August 2009: you can use some lubricnt which are useable with condoms but you are underage and it is illegal you should think wisely about sex and the effects of what would happen it if all went wrong and by the way if your not on the pill then you are higher at ... (read in full...)

Do you think she knows he's cheating on her with me?

Q.   I'm 18 and he's 40 and married, and we have been seeing each other for about 2 and a half months. We usually have sex in his car or a hotel room. Once after we had sex in his car his wife said she could smell perfume, but he said it was his mums ...

A.   10 August 2009: well for her i hope so poor women! you do realise that if she found out he would get rid of you and that this is just a bit of fun on the side. or it might be that one out of a 100 that you might be together but i tell you you will always wonder if ... (read in full...)

She lied about her past lovers! Should I trust her?

Q.   i have been married to my wife for 13 years i just found out that she lied too me about how many people that she had sex with prior too us getting married she told me that she just rembered about one more person about five years ago but just now ...

A.   9 August 2009: wow its just a number and your willing to break your marriage for it what does that say about you. she forgot so being honest she told you. and now your flying off the handle if you do this every time she is honest then she wont be so honest ... (read in full...)

Why did he do the sim for my mate but not for me?

Q.   Okay, my and my boyfriend are going through such a bad time, my parents are not letting me see him because of a rumour that leaked home. (About him beating me, this is completely untrue) But this isn't the problem. A while ago, when our relationship ...

A.   8 August 2009: i think their is something underlaying before he is not that willing to make this work perhaps they are having a relationship on the sly perhaps your better off without him their are so many possiblilties. i think you should forget him and move ... (read in full...)

Is It Rape?

Q.   Hey a few months ago my ex forced me to have sex. i kept shouting at him n hitting him telling him to stop but he wouldnt.. i never told anybody except my best freind.. my ex is now saying it isnt classed as rape because we were a couple. ...

A.   8 August 2009: if he forced you to have sex and you told him to stop numerous occasions yes this is rape rape is were its not consented. not to mention your age its highly illegal you should tell your parents and then the police! and also see about get some ... (read in full...)

I have an annoying problem, all day I think about sex!

Q.   hi, im 14, male, and i have an annoyin problem, all day i think about sex and it bugs me and i want to know if theres something wrong with me and a get hard all the time for no reason can you please help, pleasee...

A.   8 August 2009: you have lots of sexual tension and its causing you to get hard. at your age alot of young males find out about masturbation and that helps to release these urges in a safe healthy way. here is a web page filled with young teens who are unsure ... (read in full...)

Our relationship became sexual and now we're arguing. How can we fix this?

Q.   p /> I'm having some problems with my girlfriend. We've recently started having sex... or atleast trying to. We aren't virgins, but we are having some problems. We've tried having sex twice now. On both occasions there have been distractions...

A.   8 August 2009: ok so you want more answers well the answer is your going to have to talk with her that is the only way to sort this out. second of all if you cannot do it happily then of course this is going to put preassure on and make it harder to complete your ... (read in full...)

Why do I suddenly feel guilty after masturbating?

Q.   I started masturbating when I was 13 years old, and have never felt any guilt about it until recently (8 years later). It feels great and I don't feel bad while I'm doing it, but afterward I now find that I am feeling very guilty/ashamed/embarrassed ...

A.   7 August 2009: i have a friend who is just like you she felt so guilty about doing it when she didnt want a relationship with women but was tormented that she liked to watch women and their ir nothing wrong with having a wide variety of porn or so forth. you will ... (read in full...)

How can I convice my daughter that she'd be aborting for the wrong reasons?

Q.   My 17 year old daughter is pregnant. We have always talked openly about keeping the baby should she ever become pregnant. Her boyfriend does not want her to keep the baby. I am so upset she is now considering abortion. We took her down to her ...

A.   5 August 2009: you can only tell her how you feel then tell her you will stand by her. you cant make anyone do anything more so when you know its wrong.just be their when the pieces fall. tell her how you feel and just support her how ever it falls. she will ... (read in full...)

The programs on tv just make me want a baby!

Q.   Heyy :) this isn't a major problem but just something i'm curious about. i've been watching the programmes 'underage and pregnant' and i imagine they were broadcast to try and stop teens from becoming parents and to stop/be more careful when hav...

A.   30 July 2009: i agree if you were seen young and pregnant you and your family was seen with disrespect! all the shows make it so simple but its not. you need money and your education wont be easy to get done with a child around not to mention that getting a ... (read in full...)

I cheated. How do I prove I'm not that person anymore?

Q.   I cheated on my ex bf for about a month in April. We lived together 5 out of the 7 months we were together. Things got really difficult because he was having financial and family problems while i felt we were drifiting away. I realized our fla...

A.   30 July 2009: well he cant believe you because it wasnt a one off it was repeated. think how you would feel if you were him hes heart broken and doesnt know what to do. also he was having problems and you ddnt help him you made it worse you should of been with ... (read in full...)

My FWB has a hard time having an orgasm, any good suggestions that would help?

Q.   Hey everyone, just so you know I 15 and I'm bi. I have a really good friend who is also bi a d yes he is a friend with benifits. We like to get together and wank and suck each other off but he always takes so long to cum. Sometimes I can't make him ...

A.   26 July 2009: omg 15 and their already having fwb bad enough having sex with the ones they think they love but doing it with friends to oh this is great news !since your gonna do it anyway heres a website about safe sex! http://www.sexinfo101.com/oralsex.shtml... (read in full...)

Sex and Love- but in what order??

Q.   Ok so here's three general questions opens to guys and gals: What's the sortest length of time you'd feel comfortable with been told that your partner loves you? What is the ideal length of time between starting a new relationship and having se...

A.   26 July 2009: love should always come first over sex because then sex can be even more meaningful. and as for when is the right time their never is sometimes it just happens!... (read in full...)

Help, I need advice! Who is the father?

Q.   I have a problem I am 24 weeks pregnant and I don't know who the father is. I had sex with my husband on jan 22 and my ex husband on jan 28th. I think i ovulation date was on jan 26th. I know scientist say girl sperm swim slower and live longer ...

A.   26 July 2009: yeah well sorry you should of kept your legs closed and not be so deictful! the only thing to do is have the child then if you have the child then get a DNA test. i dont think the midwifes could make a very close determination on when it was ... (read in full...)

What is this unknown spot on my genital area?

Q.   Hey guys. I have this problem. Recently I found a spot on my gential area. This was say a week ago. Earlier today I found another. The one I found seems to be sore whilst the other isn't. I have never had sex and haven't engaged in any sexual...

A.   23 July 2009: if you shave or wax that area you can get ingrown hairs nasty fellows when a hair curls anyway but out lol. their are creams for that to help it come out correctly i think a good one cost about £11. if its off the hair trail best seeing your gp they ... (read in full...)

Mirena IUD... or IUDONT

Q.   I don't know if this is the right place to ask this, but my doctor has suggested that I should think about getting the Mirena IUD. I just wanted to know if anyone here is using it or has used it and how it works or worked for them....

A.   23 July 2009: i have the rod implant its more effective than most contraceptives even against penicillin. so thats my choice as for the coil i guess thats to preference they all work but alot have different views on which is best. i suggest you look through them ... (read in full...)

Curious about certain in-law behaviour. Need input on this.

Q.   I need someone's input on this. My sister-in-law and a few of my wife's cousins have the tendency of getting up close to me to the point where their breast is rubbing up against my arm. For example, if we are at a party and I am taking pictures with ...

A.   22 July 2009: i think actually its a good sign that they are really comfortable with you that they dont notice the small things which alot of us forget when were with people we love and know. but if your really worried then just gently enquire that you have ... (read in full...)

He hasn't texted me back, it's been 6 days!

Q.   Well there's this guy that wont text me back. I have no clue what I did for him to stop texting me. Yeah I know there's many questions like this one, but I need help for mine. Ok so I told this guy that I liked him...the last few days of school. ...

A.   22 July 2009: i think on your behalf you have done all you can. and now you dont want to seem desperate and that you need him. so let it go and see if he contacts you. you will be going back to school soon so i guess you will get your answers whether its one you ... (read in full...)

My drug addict ex boyfriend dumped me, he just puts drugs before me!

Q.   My ex bf began taking cocaine at age 10 as well as drinking and having sex. His parents sent him to a rehab in grade 9 but when he got out he became a dealer and ended up doing time in jail. When he got out he went back to his old ways and ended up ...

A.   21 July 2009: he doesnt want to save himself and everyone who shows him a good life he throws it at them because their showing him what perhaps he never got and because it feels so good he feels like its so wrong. he is in love with his addiction hes had help ... (read in full...)

He didn't cum in me, on birth control, could I be pregnant?

Q.   hi what are my chances of getting pregnant. me and my boyfriend had sex 3 days ago several times, he never came inside of me just like on my stomach. i'm on birth controll but that night i took it later than usual. i'm not supposed to start for ...

A.   21 July 2009: very unlikely hun that you are pregnant take a test if your that worried but your on the birth control too so its like very slim. also if your worried about getting pregnant should you be having sex in the first place not a mean word but just ... (read in full...)

Would you consider a woman who had casual sex with 5 guys in 6 months extreme behaviour?

Q.   Would you consider a woman who had casual sex with 5 guys (all college friends) in 6 months extreme behavior or par for the course for a gal getting over a stale relationship? Before this stage she had only been with one guy for two years.(19-22 yrs ...

A.   20 July 2009: some have more some have less one of my friends was only 30 and she had over 60 partners in that time. so i guess some go from one extreme to another. we all have a rough image of what we think is acceptable and whats not so 6 to her might be the ... (read in full...)

Is it normal practise to tell your boyfriend every time you go out?

Q.   i have a question about relationships in general . i'm in a relationship and it is my first committed one so this might sound dumb. Is it -normal- to call your other half when you're for example going out to tell them? cause my bf is always why ...

A.   20 July 2009: well i would say no if your livign together and your gonna be out all night yea sure say going out will see you later. perhaps hes a little protective just be wary of how protective he is. i fell into a bad lull with my ex he was everything and ... (read in full...)

Stomach pains... should I be concerned?

Q.   Hello, i was just chatting with my bf the other day about babies and what we would do .. and i got this awful pain in my stomach like my body was telling me something.. i dont think im pregnant as im on the pill, we do have sex on my pill free wee...

A.   20 July 2009: if your not sure of something dont do it simplest thing. go see your gp talk about the pill and see about getting a pregnancy test done. note the pill and condoms are not the 100% safe so their is always that chance. good luck aphex ... (read in full...)

I really like this guy. Only he's 20 and I'm 25!

Q.   I really like this guy. The thing is, i am 25 and he is 20. I'm not sure whether he fancies me or only likes me as a friend. he does ask me to meet up with him alot though,and once he put " you'll have to meet me soon coz i want to see you again ", ...

A.   20 July 2009: look age means nothing never did and never has just some frown apon it even though its happened since the old age of dawn! hell im 23 and i dated a 19 year old that felt weird but age is a number and its something that is easily overcome. he sounds ... (read in full...)

Dating a married man. I just want him to be with me

Q.   hello, i dont want any hurtful or rude comments, iam writing to everyone here because i think this is a site for evryone to write about their problems and feeling's. Well, iam seeing a married man. i have been seeing him for 2 1/2 years now. i got ...

A.   20 July 2009: glad thigns have worked out for the best i know right now you wish they were different but trouble is i would of never been different because he wouldnt leave her and he wouldnt be with you. but now your going your way the only person who can make ... (read in full...)

Is it possible that a relationship can survive after one person cheats, please help?

Q.   About a week ago I found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I wrote another post regarding this, but now I need so more help. During last week we had no contact at all. It was killing me inside, but I knew I had to be strong. I miss him every single...

A.   20 July 2009: some people cheat once and learn their mistake whilst most do it more than once. you can make this relationship work a till he cheats again or b he doesnt cheat. but the big word that decides it all is trust. would you be able to trust him since he ... (read in full...)

I am 14 and attracted to my friend's 58 year old aunt, how do I let her know of y sexual feelings?

Q.   hi I'm a 14 year old virgin male. I have feelings for my friend's aunt(they live with their aunt). I go across the street to their house and play with them often. their aunt is 58 and has a nice body. I asked my friends if they cared if I had sex ...

A.   20 July 2009: your very young and its illegal to have sex or relations with someone under the consenting age. so im sorry i doubt she will be wanting to break the law whether you want to or not. i think you need to get out of this fantasy and play with your ... (read in full...)

He criticized my breast size now I can't get over it!

Q.   hello my ex has made many mitigating statements of how small my breasts are. He had his new girlfriend mock me. She told me how he laughed with her about me for having small breast. She compared herself to me and made me feel so insecured. Eversinc...

A.   19 July 2009: hun. stop what your doing. they have hit the dart in the right spot and they are hurting you and now your hurting yourself. stop this madness. if you really want bigger boobs then get implants but stop overdosing on pills to make them bigger. lots ... (read in full...)

He fell asleep on me!!!

Q.   So i've been seeing this guy for 2 months already. I'm a little confused. Last night I ran into him at the bar and he always does this: He never comes up to me but he's always observing me and watching me, he'll pinch my butt, he'll call me and ask ...

A.   19 July 2009: well you left him high and dry so he prob thinks something happened and its over. so just txt him and said you had things to do but thanks for the nice walk and so forth seem. interested and if your alone together and you like this guy then why not ... (read in full...)

I didn't feel 'that' spark, what shall I do?

Q.   hiia x i got told that if your really like some one , then you feel a "spark" when you kiss your boyfriend and well i felt nothing ! what shall i do ?? is this true ?? do you really feel a spark ?? thanks x laura :)...

A.   18 July 2009: i went through the same thing recently and i was bugging myself about it because all thought i loved my bf i just ddnt feel the butterflys or nothing. we were together for almost 1 yr until i realised it just wasnt right. i dont know if it just ... (read in full...)

I like this boy but mum doesn't!

Q.   i need some advice, i like some boyy like loads, but my mum is not very keen on him, but i dont know what to do, i want him to be mine, but i also dont wanna loose talking to my mum .. so what will i do :S ? x...

A.   13 July 2009: show her he is a nice guy like you seem to think prove her wrong and she can only correct her mistake. perhaps she has heard something in the grape vine or has a bad hunch but the only thing you can do is say to your mum you would like to have your ... (read in full...)

What is this problem I'm having with my penis? it bends down!

Q.   hello...im 21 and i think that i have a problem with my penis...is about 5.5 inches is perfectly straight...but the head bends and its kinda ugly...i dunno how to explain how the bend acctualy is ... is like when u tring to bend only ure finger ...

A.   13 July 2009: best solution mate you wont like it but here it goes. Go see your gp please its the best way to get problems that your worried about sorted i know its embarressing like hell but seriously they will help you better than we can. good luck hun aphex xx... (read in full...)

I start bleeding during sex and its starting to scare me. Help

Q.   ok im 19 and im goin out wit this guy he 17 and for some reason i started bleeding during sex is something wrong wit me or is it normal please help its startin to scarre me please...

A.   13 July 2009: ok we need more details and two you need to see a gp not a help website as the best results would come from a gp i know its not nice doing embarresing things but atleast you know you will be ok and that nothing is wrong other than taking advice from ... (read in full...)

First time sex. Underage but how do I come across it with my boyfriend?

Q.   Im ready to have sex with my boyfriend. I know am 'underage' but I have spoken to my bf about it and we are both ready for this kind of commitment. I didnt come on here to be told am to young and i shouldnt be doing it because I KNOW this okay. ...

A.   13 July 2009: well it seems you think your ready but you have no clue other than you want to do it because everyone else is its fun or it feels good. what you going to do if you get pregnant you cant pretend it wont happen and your school life wont be as good ... (read in full...)

We still can't trust each other and at 22 he's already gone off sex. Help!

Q.   This is quite a long one and I apologise but I feel like giving the history is really important in this case. I've been with Roger* for nearly four years. We met online and were friends for three months before we became a couple, I guess we were ...

A.   13 July 2009: ok ok. let me get this straight you cheated and what you expected him to be ok with it and not hurt or looking over his shoulder about it im sorry but no. you need to take the punch on the chin on that one and now you think he has cheated when in ... (read in full...)

Whats going on with my best friend?

Q.   *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...

A.   12 July 2009: perhaps. we all are given a choice of paths to walk and he chose to turn his back on you. and you have a choice to do the same or make it work. in the end all we can do is choose and hope its the right path that we have taken. im sorry it hasnt gone ... (read in full...)

Whats going on with my best friend?

Q.   *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...

A.   11 July 2009: no problem just be strong and do things that make you happy in life and focus on making a better life for yourself and everything else should fall into place. goodl uck hun aphex xx... (read in full...)

Dating a married man. I just want him to be with me

Q.   hello, i dont want any hurtful or rude comments, iam writing to everyone here because i think this is a site for evryone to write about their problems and feeling's. Well, iam seeing a married man. i have been seeing him for 2 1/2 years now. i got ...

A.   8 June 2009: well we could say various things and if its not what you want to hear then it could be hurtful but the thing is no one is trying to be hurtful on here just being honest about how they feel and what they would do so just be openminded to what they ... (read in full...)

Whats going on with my best friend?

Q.   *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...

A.   29 May 2009: well you seem to farely have a good game plan going i guess now you just have to let fate and time decide whats going to happen. your a strong person you will get through this but at the moment try and focus on yourself as their isnt much said about ... (read in full...)

Whats going on with my best friend?

Q.   *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...

A.   28 May 2009: Omg you have had such a hard ride with life and it seems its taking another turn. i think you should go over and talk to his mum and him. you have come so far and as you said *I REALY love this man and there is nothing he could have that would make ... (read in full...)

Whats going on with my best friend?

Q.   *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...

A.   28 May 2009: Omg you have had such a hard ride with life and it seems its taking another turn. i think you should go over and talk to his mum and him. you have come so far and as you said *I REALY love this man and there is nothing he could have that would make ... (read in full...)

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