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I happened upon Dear Cupid seeking advice on how to cope with a boyfriend's ex and somehow found myself giving advice. Liking what the site has to offer and the opportunity I have to help others, I signed up after my first annonymous post.
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How do you know how long you'll last in bed?
Q. well im 14 and i still havent went through full puberty. ( i got pubes and the parts are beggining to grow) so how can i know i can last in sexual intercourse? i mean i want to know because i dont want to last 5 minutes with my 1st time. sincerly ...
A. 12 August 2008: While you may have gotten an answer already, I'd like to ask you somethings. When you look back on your first time, is how long you lasted going to be the first thing you think of? Will it be the most important part? Will it be something you'll be ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that some of us, are not destined to have loving relationships, or to be happy with someone and not be ultimately rejected?
Q. I came here because of an article that I saw and found it intereasting, I dont look for romance and all because I dont believe it is in the cards for me, Do you think a person can be destroyed for life, or that some of us are just not meant to have ...
A. 12 August 2008: To answer your question honestly, I don't believe in destiny. Life isn't set in stone; it's guided by the choices we make. However, I certainly do believe that some people can become bitter and hopeless, which is the feeling I'm getting from you.
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I can't fulfill my girlfriends needs, and it's bringing my self confidence down. Please help!
Q. well im 16, i need help greatly evrytime i go to have sex with my girlfreind my errection doesnt come iv attempeted 3 times with her. the 1st time, my penis wouldnt come errect. The second i was drunk with her. it would get errect but it hurt her...
A. 12 August 2008: Artistry already provided you with some great advice, but I want to ecourage you to do two things.
The first is to relax. If she's important to you and you're important to her, sex can wait. You might just not be ready to go that far with her yet.... (read in full...)
I am 14 years old and I really want to have a baby, I think I would make a great mom, I take care of my brother and sister all the time, please tell me what you honestly think??
Q. iam 14.and i'll be 15 in about 6 months.i want a baby so bad.my om never around so i take care of my brother and sister all the time.grew up rough no dad you know...i would be a amazing momma.people are costanly telling me im already mommy and i ...
A. 12 August 2008: I think Tremor has covered the basics already, but have you also thought about the financial responsibilities you'd have?
Your still a kid, so your parents may support you and the baby in the beginning, but what about afterwards?
What happ... (read in full...)
I have accepted the fact that I am gay, recently, all I think about is sex, but how do I approach a guy, without being awkward, please help me?
Q. im 15 and im gay. It took me a while to accept it but i finally have. Latley all ive been thinking about is having sex. I really want to be with someone but i dont know what to say to a guy without feeling awkard. please help me!...
A. 12 August 2008: First of all, congrats on accepting yourself. But I have to ask... Do you only want to meet someone to have sex or are you looking for something more than that?
If it's the former, I can't really help you with that. You're young, so starting to h... (read in full...)
I don't click with the guys who approach me... It's not commitment phobia, so what is it?
Q. Ok i have a problem...i am 17 and about to be a freshman in college i have numerous of men trying to date me..from married men to men with plenty of children....but i also have some good men trying to date me, i enjoy talking to one guy in ...
A. 6 August 2008: It's perfectly fine not to like anyone sometimes. You wouldn't beat yourself up if someone offered you ice cream and you didn't want any because they didn't have any of the flavors you like. You're young, wait for someone that excites you and don't ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but I find one of my male friends very sexy, Is this okay?
Q. I'm 19 and I am in a very loving relationship that has lasted about 4 years almost, I'm engaged and very much in love with my fiancee. The problem is I find one of my male friends very attractive, and I dont know if is normal to find anyone else but ...
A. 6 August 2008: Yes! Attraction doesn't stop because you're in a monogamous relationship. I'm 19 and have been in a 2 year relationship, and I still think a guy I knew in high school is attractive. The important thing is, is that you know your fiancee means more to ... (read in full...)
He wants to know my fantasies... but they are SO dirty, I don't think he could handle it.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to tell him my fantasies, but I'm so nervous. Some of them are really DIRTY. For example, I have rape fantasies, one of the most common I know, but kind of hard to explain. Especially since I want it rough. Not just him taking ...
A. 6 August 2008: You should tell him. Maybe he wants to break from his conservative ways and do something completely out of character. He knows who you are and I'm sure your kinkiness has come out in other ways with him; whether it be making a crude joke or giving ... (read in full...)
Will masturbating stunt my growth?
Q. Hi i am 13 and i am starting to hit puberty and i always find my self getting really horny and it turns to a result of masturbating. after masturbating for quite a while i now have veins i can see really clear in my penis that i didnt see before, ...
A. 6 August 2008: To answer your question, no masturbating will not stunt your growth. Also, doing so at any stage of puberty is normal. I'm not sure about the vein, but as you grow so will your penis. Maybe some guys can shed more light on that issue.
But other than... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend's brother hate me?
Q. I can really say that this is a relationship question. My relationship is perfect, but I'm a pretty quiet person if I don't know someone. When my boyfriends brother comes over with his girlfriend I never say much more then Hi, How are you? sometimes ...
A. 2 August 2008: Maybe he's just quiet like you. Your boyfriend did mention that, right? From what you've said it doesn't seem to hate you. I'm not sure what the staring is about, though. Try asking him why as he's doing it.... (read in full...)
I am almost obsessed with the idea of getting married and having kids, should I be thinking about this?
Q. Okay my bf and i have been together for almost three months and i am 17 and he is 19. Anyway, I am almost obsessed with the idea of getting married and having kids i mean what girl doesnt think about that, i just want to know if im being too ...
A. 27 July 2008: Well, I think it depends on what level of obsession you've reached. If you're at the point where you've already picked out a dress, it might be a bit much. But if you're just thinking about how his last name will sound with your first name or if ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my girlfriend not being ready to have sex? I'm tired of waiting.
Q. Okay - So, I've been dating a girl that studies with me (collage) for about 10+ months already, and we haven't had sex yet. We are both virgins - believe it or not! I really like her and I know she really likes me, but I don't know why she doesn...
A. 27 July 2008: If you're really tired of waiting, you should leave her. I get that you two are in college and sex is somewhat expected in a seemingly long term relationship at that age. But I noticed you didn't once say you loved her in your post. And yet, you're ... (read in full...)
I sent him a letter to see if he felt the same way I did, but now I'm worried as I told him that if he didnt feel the same its best we break up but thats not what I want!
Q. I met John on an online gay connection site in July, and since then we have been "hooking up" at least once or twice a week - despite the fact that we live an hour apart, and I have no car and 4 roommates. On top of it all, I am 18 and John is 39 ...
A. 27 July 2008: Which is better? Loving someone and not being with them at all. Sure, it would hurt immensely to break something off so soon when you think it could actually turn into something great, but it will hurt ten times more giving you're all to someone on ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is uptight and volatile! I know no relationship is perfect but is this too much?
Q. please can anyone help. i dnt know what to do about my relationship with my long tearm boyfreind. most of the time he is nice, he is affectionate, gives me cuddles, is faithful, cleans and cooks, he always tells me i look nice and stuff but when he ...
A. 27 July 2008: Well, my mother and father have a similar relationship. Any little thing could happen and he'd make some crude comment or yell at her or me, even. I've told my mother (he's also been physically abusive) to leave him before and she hasn't. They've ... (read in full...)
My long distance girl says she's losing feeling, what's going on?
Q. Well I met my girlfriend online, and im only 17 but i already have gone to see her in South Carolina I live in New York and as you can tell I love her alot because only after 3 months of talking and writing to eachother i went down to see her. I ...
A. 27 July 2008: You know, I'm pretty sure she said that to get to you. I don't think she did it fully aware of how awful it'd make you feel, but she knew saying something like that to a guy who traveled far just to be with her would sting.
And she tells you to s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is telling me my vagina is too wide, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend told me that i have a wide vagina and theres no feeling for him when we have sex. what could be the problem?, and what can i do to fix it?...
A. 27 July 2008: Sweetie, your boyfriend sounds like a jerk. But to give him the benefit of a doubt, if you've been sexually active beforehand and he... doesn't measure up, to put it lightly, a penis enlarger might do him good. But other than that, sjwcool's advice ... (read in full...)
He is happier being with his friends than with me, we have intimacy and sexual problems, he seems to be losing interest, please help?
Q. For some time now I have thought my boyfriend is bored with me, but then I have put it down to my low self esteem as he still makes arrangements to see me. As time has gone on, I have noticed that we never seem to spend time alone anymore. He ...
A. 27 July 2008: Honestly? I think you should end it. He seems withdrawn and uninterested and you seem hurt and appear to put the blame on yourself. Since neither of you seem particularly happy and you're trying harder than he is to keep things going, it might be ... (read in full...)
Having trouble socially...any advice for me?
Q. I'm really depressed over the fact that I had never had girlfriend.Several hours ago I was crying and feeling incredible pain,just like always.A bit later my best(and only) friend calls.I was in no mood to talk because of my depression,which he ...
A. 27 July 2008: Well, I agree with you that shy people often get lame advice like "be yourself." But it is really true and you'll only see that it is when you become more comfortable around people.
Like someone else said, starting online might be a great fo... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend was forced to suck someone off before and since then she is not into for me how can I get her to do it?
Q. my girl was forced to do it once a few years ago but now when i ask or go down on her i get nothing back and its really frustrating i mean i wont break up with her because of it its just sometimes i wish she would just do it is there anything i can ...
A. 27 July 2008: First, you have to address the psychological issue with her. If you've thoroughly talked to her about it and let her share everything about the experience, then you've got to start assuring her that it won't happen with you. If she was forced down, ... (read in full...)
I would like to ask her how she feels about him but I could not because it shows I do not trust her.
Q. My girlfriend told me she has a friend. She knows him before we are couple and during she was with her xs. She shares a lot of things with him. Her happiness and sadness. The guy does the same. I know if she loves him, we will not be a couple now....
A. 27 July 2008: You have every right to ask her about her male friend. If you feel he's coming between you two, it's better to talk it through with her than to secretly have it tear you up inside.
The thing is, is not to accuse her of anything when you start the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to make yourself like someone?
Q. There is this guy who likes me a lot and have for years. He's very sweet to me and would make a great boyfriend, which is what i really want. The problem is that im not attracted to him at all. I still have very strong feelings for the guy I lost my ...
A. 27 July 2008: Honestly, there's nothing you can do. As long as you still have feelings for this other guy, it's a lot less likely that you'll fall for the nice one. You'll just have to wait this out. And you will move on in time, but the important thing is to not ... (read in full...)
I sweat really bad, anyone knows how to stop it???
Q. this may seem a little funny but its a porblem that i dont konw how to solve. i sweat really bad. i use deoderant all the time and if its too hot ill look at my armpits and there will be massive sweat patches. even in school, i know that i ...
A. 20 May 2008: I have a similar problem and although I haven't tried them yet there are armpit perspiration pads that you can tape, stick, or sew onto your clothing. There are some that come with adhesive already on them and there are also clothes that are made ... (read in full...)
The porn debate. Who's right?
Q. Alright, after reading some of the discussions on pornography on this website I have some things to say, and a few questions to ask. So these are some of the things p...
A. 1 March 2008: To start off, I'm agnostic and liberal similar to you and also of the same age range. I think it's obvious that you're wholeheartedly against pornography and your reasons are understandable, but I'd like to defend those defenses of porn.
I will summ... (read in full...)
If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin?
Q. I've got one curious question to ask you. If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin? Please tell me, I asked my mum, she said ask your dad so I did but he said ask your mum etc etc. I can never get anywere with my famil...
A. 22 February 2008: No, you wouldn't be a virgin if you used a condom. It's still sex. And I think it's great you're so aware and open about sex at a young age. I'm not saying to go out and have it, just that you'll be able to make smarter decisions than most young ... (read in full...)
How do you convince your partner to give you a blow job without actually asking?
Q. Do most women enjoy giving a blow job or do they do it because their mate pushed them to? How do you convince your mate to do it without you asking and many times giving you the ultimate rejection?...
A. 22 February 2008: It all depends on the woman. Some women are pressured into it and others genuinely enjoy it or simply enjoy doing anything to pleasure their significant other. Ask her how she feels about it. Don't bring it up out of nowhere, though. Initiate... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out without risking our friendship?
Q. I met this girl several months ago and she is one of the sweetest people I know. We've gotten very close as friends, but just recently, I can't stop thinking about her and want to become more than friends. I'm dying to tell her how i feel, but shes ...
A. 22 February 2008: Tell her how you feel. Bottling it up accomplishes nothing. If she's serious about that other guy, it's better you know now than torture yourself loving her for much longer. I liked a friend of mine when he had a girlfriend he wasn't seeing of... (read in full...)
How long do I have to wait for oral?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years - He has yet to finger fuck me or perform oral -I know it is not a problem with me cause other guys have loved to do it for me - He says he loves me but doesn't have to prove it that way - I say ...
A. 22 February 2008: I know how you feel. Having any aspect of a relationship, especially sex, be one-sided is less than great.
But he isn't necessarily wrong. In fact, he is right. He doesn't have to prove he loves you by doing whatever you wish. Everyone has thei... (read in full...)
He just doesn't do passion! How can I get him out of his hole?
Q. my fiance has never given me oral and nor has he had an orgasm. This worries me. I always give him oral, he loves it. I've tried to talk to him about it but he changes the subject he also has never given me a passionate kiss, just quick pecks; he ...
A. 22 February 2008: I understand how you feel. My boyfriend isn't very passionate either and is generally against giving oral too.
I'm always for communication, so when you bring up these issues don't let him change the subject. Be persistant. He's your fiance, ... (read in full...)
He works a lot and I feel neglected. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for more than 1 yr.. and i was always happy with him. i always felt he treated me good. had some few problems but then no relationship is perfect. for some time though i have been feeling a little insecure about h...
A. 22 February 2008: You should tell him how you feel. If you miss him, let him know; just don't lay it on thick. Make him know you want him, but you're not desperate. But really, you've just got to bite the bullet. He seems driven and career-oriented.... (read in full...)
Why did she log off?
Q. hi, I have a really good friend. We always speak to each other and sit next to each other in classes. Just today she wont speak to me at all. I have no idea why but its worrying me. On instant messaging I asked her if I had upset her in some way and ...
A. 21 February 2008: You gotta ask her. You don't know what's going on in her head. And I don't know what advice to give you.
Ask her and update us.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Any ideas of where and how we can meet in person?
Q. Hi, my best friend's cousin is my boyfriend. I have never met him though. She introduced us over msn and he said he really likes me. I really want to meet him and he really wants to meet me too. He gave me part of this chain that he wears everyday ...
A. 21 February 2008: First off, I doubt if he'll be mad you lost the bracelet. People lose things. It's a fact.
Just make sure to tell him beforehand, if you haven't already.
But I too met my boyfriend online and my main advice to you is to do so in a group settin... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm bi but I fantasise about girls and I have a boyfriend.
Q. I find myself thinking about girls alot. im straight, i have a boyfriend of a year and a half now, nad i love him with all of my heart. but i also think that im attracted to girls. i think about doing things with girls all of the time and i have ...
A. 21 February 2008: Well, it does seem like you are bisexual. But you shouldn't worry if it's normal. You are who you are and that alone is normal. Now if you're thinking about being intimate with a girl while you're in a relationship, you should really treat it the s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is making me do things and I am not confortable with it
Q. ive just got in to a relationship with someone that made me do things i wasnt sure i wanted to do. he is 16 im 12 almost 13 i cant tell my mum or dad i still love him and want to be with him but i dont know how to say can we slow down beacuse ...
A. 20 February 2008: Everyone here is right. You're a young girl. Your worries shouldn't be of an abusive, drug addicted, and alcoholic boyfriend. Leave him. Leave him now. Get your childhood back. Find sweet tender love. It's what you deserve. You're not getting ... (read in full...)
He said we can advance by the time I reach 18 if I still like him. Why shouldn't we date now?
Q. I am 15 and i like someone who is 20. We both have feelings for each other but because of the age difference we have to wait until i am 18. he said that when i am 18 if i still have feelings for him than we should make the relationship serious. but ...
A. 20 February 2008: While age is an issue here, I don't think it's the main issue as others have said. The main issue is that he wants to wait. The question really should be about why you can't wait, not why a 15-year-old and 20-year-old can't be in a relati... (read in full...)
How to make my ex girl want me back, but by playing hard to get!
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend dated for about 6 months. We've been broken up for about 3 weeks, everything has been good for the past three weeks but what should I do to get her back? She is 21 and I'm 19! Is it worth getting back together? What should I ...
A. 20 February 2008: Are you sure you want to get back together with her? You say the three weeks apart have been good and you're not sure if she's worth it. I can't tell you how you feel nor do I mean to, but it doesn't seem like you love her. If you did, why would yo... (read in full...)
My foreskin is tight and it is making me nervous...any advice??
Q. I read apparently only 20% of male men in Britain can retract their foreskins. I'm 14 and cannot. Now I'm not looking for sex at my age, but I'm nervous for sex in the future. I can take it back SLIGHTLY but anymore and it hurts. Any advice? *N.B -...
A. 20 February 2008: I don't think girls really care if you can retract your foreskin or not. But they're not the ones who will experience the pain. You're only 14, so your worries now might be gone in a few years when you're more likely to have sex. You've got plenty o... (read in full...)
10 months on and I am thinking about contacting him...what should I do??
Q. I’ve been finding it difficult to move on from someone. From 2005/06 I started uni and met a bloke. From the start he said he didn’t want a commitment and I didn’t either as I was settling in at uni. We dated and he started messing me about. W...
A. 20 February 2008: You're better off without this guy. Trust your instincts to stay away from him. You may have had some good and pleasurable times with him, but he clearly doesn't treat you as the wonderful woman you are if he was with someone else while trying to ... (read in full...)
For his 18th birthday I would like to give him the gift of sex.
Q. Hi, I found your site while looking on the net. My boyfriend and I are into each other and have been dating. I am 18 and he will soon turn 18. Both myself or my boyfriend has had sex. However, we both have said that we want to and want it to be ...
A. 20 February 2008: Well generally, I don't think planning sex works out. There's a lot more pressure that comes with than there would normally be if sex happened on its own. But to answer your questions, the bed is probably the most comfortable place for you guys. As... (read in full...)
Could shaving/waxing too much 'down there' harm you?
Q. If you waxed or shaved your pubic hair too often, could it harm you or give you a rash or something? Also, how often is too often? Just, I saw someone post an answer to a question about how you shouldn't wax/shave too often.. I didn't realise you ...
A. 20 February 2008: I think there is a point when you can shave or wax too much, but that's easily avoided if you wait long enough to have hair to do so. There's no definite answer to how often to remove pubic hair. Whenever you feel you need a touch up, go for it.... (read in full...)
As a friend he wants me to like him back.
Q. One of my friends is really into me i like him to but as a friend he keeps trying to convince me that i like him back. our relationship is little bit more that just friends i care about him alto and hes made it obvious thats hes mine and if i want ...
A. 2 February 2008: Well, I think the first thing you have to do is to sit down and seriously think to yourself what is more important to you right now. It's either be with him or not. Chances are he probably won't stick around much if you officially and firmly reject ... (read in full...)
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