He masterbates over Adolf Hitler!!! What can I do???
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I need to get it off my chest. I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend who's 29 for 4 years now. Recently he's become addicted to looking at websites on Adolf Hitler on the Internet; even masturbating ove...
A. 17 May 2006: That is weird!! Wow...no wonder you are worried. It sounds to me as if he is idolising Adolph as a figure to look up to, probably certain aspects of Adolphs character that he craves or wishes he was like?
What got him looking at websites... (read in full...)
Have I any hope with friendly crush??
Q. I've liked this guy for 9 months now, he knows I like him and about three months ago he messaged me and told me that he thinks it would be best if we just stayed friends. Ever since he said that, we haven't spoken to each other, and every time I get ...
A. 17 May 2006: The fact that he's not been in touch says a lot. But maybe try and get him to meet up with you for a casual coffee or something on a 'freindly' basis and take it from there.
He could be shy. Signs that he likes you and feels the same; he will ... (read in full...)
Have I any hope with friendly crush??
Q. I've liked this guy for 9 months now, he knows I like him and about three months ago he messaged me and told me that he thinks it would be best if we just stayed friends. Ever since he said that, we haven't spoken to each other, and every time I get ...
A. 17 May 2006: Possibly not. Or maybe he's scared that the friendship will be spoilt. I'm not sure about you being in love though as you have never been out with the guy, and he has never reciprocated your feelings on a romantic level. I would try and steer ... (read in full...)
I deleted numbers from my husband's cell and he is telling me to stop snooping.
Q. My hubby has some of my friends home phone and cell numbers programmed into his cell phonne book. I know he has not called them from his cell, as I get the bill and he really never has a chance to "DO" anything as he is always with me or at work. I ...
A. 17 May 2006: No, I don't beleive he's trying to get you back or anything!! He is right...you should'nt be looking through his phone and deleting the numbers that YOU think he won't need. It's just the principle of it, I doubt he's hiding anything. How would ... (read in full...)
Are guys always rude or is it me?
Q. I guy I was dating has stood me up twice and when I call to see what happen, he is now avioding my calls and emails. I what to know if it was something I did to or is that just how guys are RUDE!...
A. 17 May 2006: You haven't met the right one yet!! No not all guys are like this...you will go through a few guys who are just not interested in you...sometimes it is a one way street. But one day you will find someone who you can trust and who respects you. ... (read in full...)
It gets to me he is always out with his mates but never asks me out!!
Q. Quick question! Me and my bf both work fulltime, him sometimes 12 hr shifts me 8 till 5 every weekday! we both generally get the weekends off. I dont have a problem with him going out with his mates on the weekends but sometimes it gets to me that ...
A. 15 May 2006: Yea I agree. You are not someone to be used when he wants you for something. You have been very reasonable with him, more then resonable and fair. He needs to spend quality time with you,going out for the odd drink, dinner or flicks...whatever. ... (read in full...)
I liked this girl when we first met... Until she started slutting around with my boy!
Q. My bf broke up with me to be with this other girl, Emma, a few months ago. I was completely crushed and hated her guts more than you could possibly imagine, even though we got on like a house on fire when we first met (before she started slutting ...
A. 12 May 2006: She didn't succeed with him...that's why they broke up on saturday!! Of course initially your feelings for her may have been justified to a certain extent, especially if she knew you were going out with this guy.
There are two sides to every st... (read in full...)
I step back when boys step forward to kiss me!
Q. when i am out with a boy and he reaches over to kiss me i get very nervous incase i wont do it right and step back. why is this...
A. 12 May 2006: Sounds like you have not had the experience in the kissing field there! Maybe you have not yet found the right man to feel comfortable kissing with.
Get to know the person first, don't be kissing for the sake of it. Just sounds to me you have... (read in full...)
Tell me... Am I too young to be a mum?
Q. Hi. I need some advise. I am 22 years old, 23 this year and have been with my for a long time. I have always wanted to be a mother, but always wanted it to be later on ie 28years old ish! Recently I have beenthinking of nothing else, I want to ...
A. 12 May 2006: How long have you been with your boyfriend for? Sounds like you have a solid relationship and things are going well. Think very carefully about this because having a child is not something to take lightly, it is a lifetime decision, a decision ... (read in full...)
Girls opinions needed... Is this chick interested in me or just being polite?
Q. Hi, I really just wanted some girls opinions... There is a girl who lives fairly near me who knows I like her (sent her a card ages ago), well nothing really happened as she always seemed so shy, I tried approaching her in the street but never go...
A. 12 May 2006: You gave her an opening to show her interest there when you were talking. A very positive sign that she introduced you to her parents. I'd say she is definately interested, was probably just waiting for you to make the first move! Now make the ... (read in full...)
Guy seems to have lost interest in me.. doesn't return my calls.. is it my fault?
Q. I'm a single 28 year old. I've been dating this guy for about two months now. At first he was very attentive, called a lot, etc. Now we go out to eat about once a week, spend the night together once a week or so...but other than that he doesn't ...
A. 12 May 2006: P.S: Don't be hard on yourself, if it is simply a case of him losing interest it isn't your fault. Your type of qualities and personality may not be what he's looking for. Youv'e done everything right...don't worry!! xx ... (read in full...)
Guy seems to have lost interest in me.. doesn't return my calls.. is it my fault?
Q. I'm a single 28 year old. I've been dating this guy for about two months now. At first he was very attentive, called a lot, etc. Now we go out to eat about once a week, spend the night together once a week or so...but other than that he doesn't ...
A. 12 May 2006: You should'nt have to be play hard to get...why play games? So early on in the reltionship it's natural to want to spend a fair bit of time with the other person to get to know them etc. What is equally important of course is to still see you ... (read in full...)
How can i show a girl i'm interested in her?
Q. simple question. what are the non verbal signs a girl likes you?? what signs could i make to show i am interested in her?...
A. 12 May 2006: Getting a chance to talk to her is a start, if already done that, keep that going. Ask questions about what she likes to do in her spare time, try and remember information about her and bring it up in the next conversation...this could lead to ... (read in full...)
I know it's just a crush, but will I get over her?
Q. I'm leaving school and going to university and this girl I really fancy is in the year below me. I know it is a crush and I know at least I won't be going out with her in the near future as she wants to concentrate on getting into university. I know ...
A. 10 May 2006: The only way you will get over her is creating a distance between yourselves, which you will be doing anyway. Does she know you at all? If she does then maybe you could kill your curiosity and ask her out for coffee or something. Get to know her ... (read in full...)
Now that my girlfriend broke up with me, I fancy this other girl again. What could this mean?
Q. This is a long story so I'm sorry. Ages ago I asked a girl out at school, we'll call her M, but she said no, she wasn't horrible about it or told everyone but in general she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. That is why I liked her afterwards still, I ...
A. 10 May 2006: It could be that you are feeling a little low after your break up with 'S'. Don't hurry into another reltionship. Sounds like you need a bit of time to yourself. The fact is you have always liked 'M', and ok while your feelings were subdued for ... (read in full...)
I planned to propose but then she told me she had feelings for a friend!
Q. I'm 24 and have been with my girlfriend for almost six years now. On our five year anniversary of being a couple, I had planned to propose to her. I CHICKENED OUT! I don't know why....I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, she had ...
A. 10 May 2006: Sounds like due to your lack of affection in the last couple of years because of your own depression etc has pushed her away. Understandably so, but if she is really committed to you, and loves you it was something you both should have got through ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to kiss, but I don't want to mess it up....advice please!
Q. hey there i am having problems and i dont know why okay here it is: my boyfriend who i have been going out with for two months and well he asked me in a letter if it was okay if we starting kissing well i want to but i am scared, i think i am going ...
A. 10 May 2006: Well a kiss is not going to do any harm?! Sounds like your'e pretty into him, but if you are unsure as to whether you want to take the relationship to the next level then leave it for now, he should respect your wishes. Are you afraid that a kiss ... (read in full...)
Why does my workmate advance then back-off again??
Q. Hello, I started my new job in advertising 3 months ago and at work there is this one guy who just acts really peculiar. I have talked to him on a number of occasions. He also works in advertising and several weeks ago we were both working on simil...
A. 10 May 2006: Probably likes you, but is trying to surpress his feelings as does'nt want to get involved due to him being in a reltionship. Sounds like he feels frustrated and that quite possibly his reltionship is not going well. Try and steer clear of him for ... (read in full...)
What are the signs she likes me??
Q. I would like some female advice. I really like this girl in my year at school. We used to go out a couple of years ago for a few months but then stopped because everyone in the year found out. One of her friends asked me if i was still interested in ...
A. 10 May 2006: Hair stroking when looking at you indicates she likes you. When a girl starts to subconciously touch herself this way, and looks at you when you are not looking is a positive sign. I suspect the feeling is mutual, otherwise why would you feel this ... (read in full...)
I was so close to asking her out, but someone else got to her first.....
Q. i was gonna ask out this girls but then she went out with some other guy like the day i was goin 2 ask her wat can i do so close...
A. 10 May 2006: Depends really, if she has only had one or two dates and hasn't formed a relationship yet with this guy, then I think you still stand a chance. I mean only because she may have gone out a couple of times with this guy, it certainly is nothing ... (read in full...)
Should I send him an email assuring him that I am not offended?
Q. I am 22 years old and a past college instructor (of a school I still attend) got along so well that we kept in touch after the quarter ended and would chat both in person and through email. The instructor (38 yrs old)recently told me that he had ...
A. 10 May 2006: He is probably trying to do the right thing and resist how he feels as it is in quite an inappropriate setting. As you still attend the school it is a bit of a no-no to involve yourself with someone who teaches there, even though he no longer ... (read in full...)
He wants to give me a "pearl necklace" but I'd prefer some pretty ear-rings!!
Q. Hiya I'm 17 and from Newcastle in the uk, studying art and design. My boyfriend and me have been going out for a few weeks now and he keeps promising to give me a pearl necklace at the weekend, but he has yet to come round with one. I love my j...
A. 8 May 2006: I agree with willywombat...this is a wind up right?!... (read in full...)
I'm not quite sure if he's asking me to be his girlfriend or what?
Q. I am re-posting this question as the last one didn't get an answer. I am desperate for some advice as I see this guy tonight and am worried because he wants a cuddle and I won't know where to stop and I haven't established if i'm his friend or ...
A. 4 May 2006: He wants to be with you!! Let him make the first move as he's shy, that way he will feel confident and manly. A cuddle suggests more than a hug. A cuddle is more intimate in my opinion. Try if you can to just keep it to cuddling though...unless ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin at 29. I want to lose it, what should I do?
Q. Virgin at 29 Years I know this may seem weird but it is true. I am 29 yr old woman, who is asking for your help. I am still a virgin. I go out sometimes. In a month i may go out 3 times. I work, l have a good job good life. But i am ready t...
A. 4 May 2006: Nothing .... keep hold of your viginity, see it is a wonderful gift to give to someone you love and are in a commited reltionship with. These days it seems people can't wait to jump into bed with whoever, they don't seem to think of the ... (read in full...)
Feeling of nausea wont go away, Is it my girlfriends new found friends??
Q. I feel sick and cant sleep whenever my girlfriend goes out. I've been with my gf for 5 years now, I've always been the strong one, in a way I've always felt in control of the relationship! Recently she has met new friends and seems much happier tha...
A. 4 May 2006: Write down a list of all the positive things in your life. Write all the qualities you posses in order to get another job...not just qualifiactions, but all your experiences you've had dealing with public etc. I've done this before and it has ... (read in full...)
How do you know when enough is enough, Need advice??
Q. How do you know when a relationship is worth saving? When you've both never been so in love or thought there was someone so perfect, but you somehow, despite good intentions, manage to keep hurting each other, how do you know when to just give it ...
A. 3 May 2006: Being in love means to understand and compromise on each others faults, no one is perfect. There is no such thing as the ideal person! Of course we build up ideas of the sort of person we would like to be with. Sometimes these ideas get shattered ... (read in full...)
Feeling of nausea wont go away, Is it my girlfriends new found friends??
Q. I feel sick and cant sleep whenever my girlfriend goes out. I've been with my gf for 5 years now, I've always been the strong one, in a way I've always felt in control of the relationship! Recently she has met new friends and seems much happier tha...
A. 3 May 2006: Ahhh ( I sigh!!) you sound really in love with her, but be careful...love can be an obsession. How is your life looking at the moment? Are you jeslous of her being happy? Are you happy with yourself? Don't be living your life through your ... (read in full...)
Husband would rather look at porn than get intimate with me, What should I do??
Q. I want to know what to do im married but my husband just doesnt seem to want to make love to me, he would prefer to look at porn on the net an on videos ive tried everything what can i do...
A. 3 May 2006: Get him to seek help...no seriously!! If he loves you why would he be looking elsewhere for his sexual enjoyment? That is not right. Do you think his feelings for you have changed? How long have you been married for now...you don't give a lot of ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure which guy I should be with, any advice?
Q. I've been with a guy for over two years and for almost all of that time I've been seeing someone else on and off. The guy I'm with makes me really happy, and has never done anything wrong or upset me and our relationship has gone from strength to ...
A. 3 May 2006: Sounds like you should be with the other guy if you really feel that strongly towards him. Personally I feel you need to walk away from both of them and have some time out on your own for a while. I feel really sorry for the guy you have been with ... (read in full...)
Will my ex want to hear from me?
Q. i don't know what to do, i broke up with my ex nearly 9 months ago and since him i've come across some really nice guys but i just don't fancy them. i'm still totally hung over my ex. my ex was my best friend aswel, but my friends have told me to ...
A. 3 May 2006: When you have been close to someone and split up it is best to stay clear from being friends...at least until you know you have no emotional ties there still. Sounds like you have. It takes each individual different amounts of time to get over a ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what to do about him, can anyone help?
Q. Hi I've known by boyfriend since July 2005 but have only been dating seriously since December 2005. We have been getting on great and he wants us to go on holiday together soon and has already bought my birthday present even though it's not until ...
A. 2 May 2006: Give him the space he needs right now. Most men keep things bottled up, they tend to not admit how they really feel...they need to withdraw into themselves for a while to work out what is going on. He is dealing with this in his own way. You say ... (read in full...)
I liked this guy, but my friend at work is going for him now...
Q. I am in my late twenties and there is this guy at work that i have had a crush on. We went out on a couple dates, nothing happened not even a kiss. Nothing has happened since. I have a friend at work who had no interest in him at all until all of ...
A. 2 May 2006: Jealous of what? The fact you friend gets her knickers off at the first opportunity to a guy who shows any interest? If she knew you liked him...then yes she should have stayed clear. Seems they are both as bad as each other. You have come out ... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to get a guy to notice me...
Q. I like a guy, but i don't no if he likes me how can i get him to notice me?...
A. 2 May 2006: You say you don't know he likes you, has he spoken to you yet? The first hurlde to jump over is to break the ice and start talking to him. Just say hi, hows things..real casually. You don't say how often you see him. If you know where he hangs ... (read in full...)
The idea of sex makes me frigid and nervous. What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm posting this on here because I cant't talk about this to my friends. I'm a 21 year old virgin. The trouble is, I don't feel like I act like one and feel I'm in danger of being percieved the wrong way. I drink too much, probably swear to much, ...
A. 28 April 2006: No there is nothing wrong...even non virgins can experience this.What was your up-bringing like? Did your parents talk openly about sex? How do you view sex within a relationship? My personal opinion is that it is something that should be shared ... (read in full...)
Getting soooo bored with this reserved guy..what should I do?
Q. i am quite outgoing, single mum with 2 kids. met a fella who is fantastic with kids, really devoted, but seems boring and bit cold towards me 80% of the time. sex is fine, but i want to be more adventurous. he's quite reserved. bit naieve. he is ...
A. 28 April 2006: It's great thet you have met a man that gets on well with your children, as your children should come first, this is important! While he's great in this area, it sounds as if your'e not getting the attention you deserve yourself. I would question ... (read in full...)
Is it really possible to have sex with someone by mistake? Do I believe this excuse?
Q. Okay this may seem like a stupid question but I need to hear some other peoples opinions. Is it really possible to have sex with someone by mistake? Recently I found out my girlfriend slept with my best mate 6 months ago. They both say it was a ...
A. 26 April 2006: I'm sorry, but alcohol is a poor escuse, what were they doing getting drunk in first place? Sometimes a woman needs to feel wanted and will sometimes end up in bed with a man just so she can temporaily feel wanted and sexy. Has there been any ... (read in full...)
We have a sexual relationship only, but I'm beginning to feel more. What should I do?
Q. Help, I'm Confused!! I started seeing sexually this guy in my office a couple of months ago. He finshed a long term relationship a year ago. It started after a drunken night out and then I went back to his place. We then started seeing each othe...
A. 26 April 2006: Well don't see him any more then! He is using you for SEX...he does'nt care about you emotionally, men don't when they know there is no commitment. It is easier for a man to sleep with someone without getting emotionally involved. Women nearly ... (read in full...)
Shall I help him again??
Q. Shall I help him? I know he need my help now, but I really got hurt from him and he did not apologize until now, but my heart still help him since he emailed me saying he need my help but he also knew maybe I do not want to help him any more. ...
A. 26 April 2006: Oh my....he is USING YOU!!! Don't even go there girl...better off a million miles away form the piece of scum...ha ha!! No seriously though, he's taking you for a ride. You might as well have 'Welcome' written on your head (doormat) ... ... (read in full...)
My sister in law is obbsessed with my husband and now im attraced to her husband. What should I do??
Q. Hi: I am a married woman wih an 18 month old daughter. I am pretty unhappy in my marriage in large part due to my overbearing know-no-boundaries inlaws, especially my sister in law. She is obsessed with her brother, my husband. As a conseque...
A. 26 April 2006: Grow up!! Seriously, be mature about it, don't act on some feelings you have for your sister in laws husband, what are you basing your feelings on? Sounds to me like there are some games going on here...
As your not happy in your marriage... (read in full...)
He's got porn and videos of me and him-and-me... But now I find a porno mag of his and I'm steaming!
Q. Okay, I have been having this terrible dilema with my boyfriend for some time now. I, personally, am against pornography, and he is not. A while ago, I asked him to get rid of the porn, he did, and I was happy. Just recently, though, I found a ...
A. 25 April 2006: Fantasizing about being with another woman real or imaginary as in the videos is commiting adultry, I am totally against the idea of pornography. It is unhealthy, it leads to many things, one of which is unfaithfulness. It's as bad as actually ... (read in full...)
Is she cheating or not? How do I handle this?
Q. Recently i got a new girlfriend, she was great, she was amazing however things have took a turn for the worse... Basically i took her out 2 days ago and we stopped in a hotel, it was a great night and it was passionate, however the next day whe...
A. 21 April 2006: If anything really is there with this other guy I doubt she'd be silly enough to allow you access to these messages that she has been sending him. Obviously you have a niggling feeling else you wouldn't have looked at her private mail. I think the ... (read in full...)
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