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Location: Oxford - UK
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Profile updated: 27th of March 2011
I'm Andy. I'm something of a sentimentalist. I consider myself to be romantic and affectionate
I first found my way to Dearcupid after my first dose of heartbreak. I was in a long distance relationship (240 miles) for over two years from 2005 - 2007. I met my girlfriend originally in December 2004 over the website Habbo Hotel, she found me purely because she liked my hair (I had an Afro at the time!). We ended up talking every night over MSN. By April, she revealed that she liked me, and very soon after, I decided I felt the same way.
On the 10th of July 2005, we met in her home town. I remember getting off the train, and she was stood right down the other end of the platform, and ran towards me like something out of a movie. I threw my bags down, and she dove into my arms for the first time. Later that day, after 3 hours of being crowded by her sister and mum, we got our first minutes alone, and kissed for the first time. In my case, it was my first kiss ever. It was magic.
We met up on 13 different occaisions, including a couple of camping trips alone together as well as a holiday to Cuba as late as April 2007. Then everything changed.
On the 25th of June, just over 2 weeks before the anniversary of the day that we met on that Summers day at the train station, 5 weeks before we were scheduled to meet up again; She rang me up in tears and told me that she thought we should end things. I was completely devastated. She told me her decision came due to the fact that she didn't think we would have as much time to meet up when she went to University, and that things were hard enough as they were. Also, we had argued over stupid things a little more regularly, but I didn't think it was any thing worse than what all couples encounter. I hadn't fallen out of love with her, but she now expected me to do so and become just a friend. By breaking up with me, as of that day, I had pretty much lost my best friend in all the world, and it wouldn't take long before it was clear that I couldn't handle the transition from boyfriend to friend.
Instead of talking every night, we went back and forth from talking to not talking. Anytime I spoke to her, after a few days I would start to miss her, and even cry over her. Her father died of liver problems less than 6 months after we broke up. After he passed, me and her spoke for a couple of nights, and I told her that I would try and support her like a friend should during that time of sadness, but it didn't take long for me to start avoiding her again. I felt really guilty for that. She wanted to be my friend, and I wanted to be more than her friend. I was crushed by what she had put me through. It always stuck with me when we spoke for the last time. It was about 2 months after her dad died. She told me "I feel like I've lost so much already, I don't want to lose you as a friend." And as much as it kills me, she did. We haven't spoken since... and to this day I still feel guilty, though I have come to accept that I had to protect myself from being hurt further.
I can honestly say that that experience has been the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. But we're 5 years on from when we met each other and I have since found love and lost love again, twice in fact! My 2nd love showed me that I am capable of loving others and having meaningful relationships. The 3rd one has shown me how to be happy without having someone in my life. In truth, I have never really been happy within myself since my first love left me. I felt like I needed somebody in order to be happy. It's a shame that I have had to go through heartbreak to learn that, but for the time being I feel a great deal better about myself and even feel like I can maintain a friendship with my ex's... Maybe even my first love in time.
Throughout this whole experience, I have found out that pain only make you stronger, the first cut is the deepest and time really does heal all wounds.
Cheers for reading, and may this be an encouragement to everyone else out there who has experienced heartbreak! Things really will get better for you one day, you have to believe! |
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My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 23 December 2007: Thanks for the support, Maddie. I don't want you to think that this persons words are hurting me. I'll admit, at first they brought on a little anger, but I have no interest in taking his bitter words to heart. Thanks again :)... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 23 December 2007: Hmmm, you're back again. Listen, your "advice" is unwanted by me. I find it very inconsiderate, as do others as you can see. On top of that, you clearly do not understand what I mean when I say "stay the fuck away".
I wonder what you are like in ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 22 December 2007: Hi everybody, an update, and you won't believe it.
I rang a friend of this girl I met last week to arrange meeting up again "sometime". I also managed to say that I have struggled to contact the girl, and she explained that she's lost her phone! U... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 22 December 2007: Thanks for your support. I'm thinking that answer slipped through the moderators. And Chlez, I know I can be emotional at times, but I hope you see my reasons for an answer like that to bug me.
Anyway, I'm going to try and contact this girls fr... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 21 December 2007: Ha... That wasn't very brief after all. Worth it though.... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 21 December 2007: Well, I must say it's a real pity. I was just about to post a rant about this recent "answer", but the page has somehow refreshed itself, and I lost it all. So, I'll be brief:
There is so much about that "answer" that I consider to be, and I do... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 19 December 2007: Listen, I know I may not be the most patient guy, but all this isn't something I've lost sleep over. It just got a little bit frustrating for me, because I was asking for advice about what to do, and everytime I got an answer, it didn't really have ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 18 December 2007: It's wonderful, Samutsen. Hopefully it'll stay that way... I have my doubts, but I'll do my best.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE SUGGEST SOMETHING ABOUT THIS NEW GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 18 December 2007: Yeh, cheers Richard, but I know that would make me look desperate, and that's my point, I don't want to look desperate, because as you said, that's not a good image.
That's a good idea about setting a "target" so to speak, and it's somethin... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 18 December 2007: I did expect her to contact me because she seemed like she enjoyed her night, but the fact is she hasn't. I don't know what I'm expected to do now. I've tried to contact her the only way I can, and she isn't responding. What else can I do? Go into ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 17 December 2007: Chlez83, I appreciate your help, so please don't think it rude of me when I ask: How do you propose I meet up with her when I have heard nothing from her when I've tried to contact her, and thus, don't know where to find her?
Back to everyone... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 17 December 2007: Thanks for the recent answers, everybody. I made it through yesterday without contact, so that's a step forward. I just wonder how long I wait to try again. A few of you have suggested different days of the week, so I'd love to know which day you ... (read in full...)
My ex seems to expect me to simply be her friend after all the hurt she's caused me... But her Father died today. Now I have the chance to be a friend, but I'm worried that I may hurt myself. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I posted a question earlier today, but there has been a serious and tragic twist since this morning. My girlfriend broke up with me almost 6 months ago after she decided our long distance (240 miles) relationship was too much to bear...
A. 16 December 2007: Her Dad's funeral is on Tuesday. For a couple of days now (since I went out on the town and met the CUTE girl), I haven't really thought about my ex at all. But today, it occurred to me just how soon the funeral is. It's hard not to think about how ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 15 December 2007: I'm thinking I won't contact her until later in the week, after all this nonsense. I just wonder how I can get in touch with her. I would normally just try and find her in College, but I'm finished until the new year now, so I have no reason around ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 15 December 2007: Yeh, I guess I am a bit sensitive at times, but I think that just comes across as I'm a little over-dramatic also.
I'm really getting annoyed at myself now, cos I've just done something as equally stupid as sending that text. I tried to call her... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 15 December 2007: That's an excellent idea, rythmandblues2. I am starting to regret sending that text. It seemed like such a good at the time. Perhaps now if I hear nothing and call her Monday, it will make her think I'm being too hasty. Grrr! Is there any way around ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 15 December 2007: It's so encouraging to know that I have you guys looking out for my best interest. Even more so, now that the chances of me feeling better about my immediate future has increased dramatically through one beautiful moment.
Unfortunately tonight ... (read in full...)
Worried I've become to fond of a girl I've only met online...
Q. I really like a certain young lady, who i came across on the internet, she has said that she really likes me as i have to her. I have not yet met her in "real life" however we regularly speak on the phone, i feel a bit stupid being so concern...
A. 15 December 2007: I'm with Richard. There's no harm in maintaining contact, just try not to get too many expectations, because as he said, she may only be looking for friendship. If conversation remains fun and interesting, perhaps you have a chance. Failing that, I ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 15 December 2007: Thanks very much for the recent answers!
This may make you laugh, or atleast raise a dry smile when I say I retract my most recent update where I talk about being repellant. Tonight me and my friend go talking to a group of girls. Later on it wa... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 14 December 2007: Still thinking about everything a lot, and trying to stop. I've not spoken to her, and I have no intention to. Perhapps ever, but that might be going a little too far. I wish I knew why she fell out of love with me, whenever I loved her so much.
... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 13 December 2007: I don't know if I would or not. I'd like to believe I would have told her, instead of letting her find out about it over the internet. We've spoken the past few days. I would have thought he would have been in the conversation in some way, but it's ... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 13 December 2007: Thank you for your support missmel.
As for the 1st anon. I don't know if what you're saying is true, but either way it is getting me quite angry again. I know you're just trying to help, but you're just saying everything that I don't want to here.... (read in full...)
My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..
Q. Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...
A. 13 December 2007: I'm very grateful for your answers so far. Right now, I would probably avoid contact with her again, but I've done this a couple of times now already. I think if I wanted to really make her think about what she's lost, I should have done it earlier. ... (read in full...)
My brother is having surgery today and I need some prayers and word of support
Q. My brother is undergoing surgery to remove a brain tumor today. He has been fighting brain cancer for 5 years. We lost our Dad at the end of September. He is only 11 months older than me, so when we were growing up, we were very close. If you ...
A. 11 December 2007: Glad to hear he got through it, Birdy. I hope this leads you to a happy christmas! :)... (read in full...)
My ex seems to expect me to simply be her friend after all the hurt she's caused me... But her Father died today. Now I have the chance to be a friend, but I'm worried that I may hurt myself. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I posted a question earlier today, but there has been a serious and tragic twist since this morning. My girlfriend broke up with me almost 6 months ago after she decided our long distance (240 miles) relationship was too much to bear...
A. 11 December 2007: (UPDATE BELOW)
I feel I should address you again, Samutsan. I believe there is such a thing as being "Too nice", but I don't think it's me. I'm only doing what I feel I must do for her at this time. I know I don't HAVE to do anything if I so wishe... (read in full...)
Could a tampon take your virginity?
Q. Out of curiosity, If you have never had sex but you use a tampon and your hyman breaks, would you be considered not a virgen?...
A. 11 December 2007: Nobody is thinking of you as anything less than somebody who is aged between 13 - 15, and is asking a question. I think I speak for all of us when I say that none of us mean to sound patronizing. We're only answering your question.... (read in full...)
Could a tampon take your virginity?
Q. Out of curiosity, If you have never had sex but you use a tampon and your hyman breaks, would you be considered not a virgen?...
A. 10 December 2007: Simply; No, you would not.
You don't lose your virginity by breaking your hyman, you lose it by having Sex. I don't know if this has happened to you and that's why you're asking, but if so, do you really want to believe that you lost your virginit... (read in full...)
We are both worried the distance will split us apart.
Q. I'm 16 and my bf is 20, we've been going out for nearly 4 months now and are in love, the only problem is that its long distance. He lives in england and i'm in scotland,we both trust one another completely, he comes up when he can but recently...
A. 10 December 2007: Well, I hope you both get whatever you want out of your break.
Best of luck to you both.... (read in full...)
My ex seems to expect me to simply be her friend after all the hurt she's caused me... But her Father died today. Now I have the chance to be a friend, but I'm worried that I may hurt myself. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I posted a question earlier today, but there has been a serious and tragic twist since this morning. My girlfriend broke up with me almost 6 months ago after she decided our long distance (240 miles) relationship was too much to bear...
A. 9 December 2007: I would like to address each of your answers, and then give you an update
(Update immediately follows my responses).
Enjoimx
I understand I am putting myself in a vulnerable position. Thankfully, time has passed and things have gotten a lit... (read in full...)
My ex keeps trying to be my friend but she broke my heart...what do I do??
Q. What am I suppose to do? My ex just can't seem to leave me alone! She broke up with me almost 6 months ago after she decided our long distance (240 miles) relationship was too much to bear with. We were together for 2 years. Over the past 6 months, ...
A. 8 December 2007: While I appreciate the advice I have recieved already, I feel I must update you. This may or may mot be coincidental, but sadly today, my ex's father passed away.
I think I am going to almost copy this question and give that update, because ... (read in full...)
We are too embarrassed to buy condoms and don't know where we could get privacy, but we want to have sex.
Q. Me and my bf have been going on and off on our relation ship i want to have sex with him and he wants to have sex with me we are both ready but neither of use want to go buy condoms let alone he is to embarrassed to go get them and neither of us ...
A. 6 December 2007: I think Juliet hit the nail on the head. If you aren't mature enough to buy Condoms without bailing out due to embarrassment, then you clearly aren't ready to be having Sex. It sounds as if you would rather just not bother and have Sex unprotected, ... (read in full...)
My ex is hot, I can't get him out of my head, but there's no way he will take me back, how can I get over this?
Q. Im drivin myself crazy thinkin about my ex NON STOP!!! He was absolutely gorgeous and so sexy i wish I was still with him but he couldnt put up with my worrying about other girls!! Ive tried to get him back but he doesnt want to know. But all I can ...
A. 6 December 2007: It has to be said, I've been going through the same sort of thing for the past 5 months. I'd say what you're feeling is very normal soon after a break up, and don't expect that to go away overnight. Try to ease your pain by keeping yourself ... (read in full...)
Received a "friend add request" on facebook from my EX's potential bf. Why?
Q. Hello everyone. Last time I messaged, I sounded like I was really making progress in healing my heart. The last thing I needed was a step in the wrong direction, and I think it may have just happened at the end of a night that was going very nicel...
A. 3 December 2007: Hi. Just wanted to say I've been very stupid. It turns out that guy isn't the potential boyfriend. He meerly looks a little like him and they both have the same name. Stupid mistake. I get on ok with that guy, infact he has helped me through some ... (read in full...)
I met her but she looked nothing like her picture!
Q. I'm a single gentleman thats been divorced for nearly fourteen years. During this time most of my spare time has been raising my only child - a son. Now that he's off on his own at college there has been an enormous void in my life. I've tried to go ...
A. 3 December 2007: I understand why you would feel the way you did, after she sent you a picture. If it was an old picture, then this was stupid of her. She should have known that this would only disappoint. Unfortunately this is something that occurs in online ... (read in full...)
Received a "friend add request" on facebook from my EX's potential bf. Why?
Q. Hello everyone. Last time I messaged, I sounded like I was really making progress in healing my heart. The last thing I needed was a step in the wrong direction, and I think it may have just happened at the end of a night that was going very nicel...
A. 30 November 2007: Many thanks, Tom and Richard. Yes, perhapps I am looking too much into it, but it just seems suspicious how he is in a relationship now, whenever not so long ago, he was interested in picking my ex up after I was taken out of the picture.
I hop... (read in full...)
5 month since my break up, but I'm not sure how to feel. Can you help? Is it a good idea that I'm avoiding her?
Q. Hi everybody, it's Andy00. Not posted a question for a while now. Things have gotten much better for me this past month. I'm not sure why, because I don't think anything has changed. I have just felt a little stronger about the situation I have...
A. 27 November 2007: I will be honest, a few months ago, I did try to maintain contact with her as friends, but all it was doing was messing me up. I suppose that why I'm concerned, because I tried, and I feel like I failed to keep it up. I wasn't strong enough. I don't ... (read in full...)
We are both worried the distance will split us apart.
Q. I'm 16 and my bf is 20, we've been going out for nearly 4 months now and are in love, the only problem is that its long distance. He lives in england and i'm in scotland,we both trust one another completely, he comes up when he can but recently...
A. 26 November 2007: I endured a long distance relationship for two years, starting at the age of 16. (It's described in detail on my profile if you'd like to hear more about it).
LD relationships can work, it just takes a lot of effort, patience and determin... (read in full...)
5 month since my break up, but I'm not sure how to feel. Can you help? Is it a good idea that I'm avoiding her?
Q. Hi everybody, it's Andy00. Not posted a question for a while now. Things have gotten much better for me this past month. I'm not sure why, because I don't think anything has changed. I have just felt a little stronger about the situation I have...
A. 26 November 2007: Thanks very much. Richard, I will take all that into account. Glad you are pushing through as well.... (read in full...)
Sometimes I break down and cry all of a sudden at the thought of not having her around. How do you move on when the feelings are so strong?
Q. I think of her as the best person in the world the ideal partner, she's the first thing on my mind in the morning and last thing at night , some times i will just break down all of a sudden and just cry and cry at the thought of not having her ...
A. 25 November 2007: That's very touching, mate, I sympathize with you because I've been going through the same emotions for about 5 months now, and understand that it isn't easy.
Is it early days in your break up? How long ago did it occur?
I don't know how l... (read in full...)
He doesn't go down on me anymore... Should I stop giving him head?
Q. hi,im in a stable relationship and have been for 2yrs until recently my partner loved going down on me and i him.it has been something like 2 months since he last went down and it seems he has no intensions of ressuming it,yet i have continued to ...
A. 21 November 2007: Hello.
Do you not think it would be better; instead of not giving him head, and hoping he will get the message, you should just talk to him about it? Why not be straight up and honest with him about it, instead of simply trying to give him the ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can be rejected, there's nothing else that is "worth it." Advise, please.
Q. i cant do this anymore i met a guy online and im so into him its crazy we texted and talked on the fone for like 3 weeks so into each other and its kind of fading off, he doesnt seem interested anymore and when i mentioned going to see him this wee...
A. 20 November 2007: Honestly, I think you really need to chill out a little. To be into somebody so much after a mere 3 weeks is a little worrying. Maybe you're the type who falls in love fast, and while that's nice, it can also be very damaging.
I understa... (read in full...)
My bf has taken intimate photos of me with my consent. I just found out he's emailed them to another girl!
Q. My bofriend has taken intimate photos of me with my consent but I have just found out he has emailed them to another girl what shoud i do...
A. 20 November 2007: That, in my opinion, is a serious violation of your trust. It is very inconsiderate of him to send your 'personal' pictures to people without your concent. Why he has e-mailed this girl, I would like to know, because that seems a little strange, and ... (read in full...)
What could be going on in her head?? A women's perspective please...
Q. Hello, Im new on here. My girlfriend broke up with me nearly two months ago. I thought we were doing fine and she just came out with it. She has ignored all my texts apart from the one that said i had some of her things and wanted to return them. Sh...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi. Let me say that it is no surprise at all that you feel this way. It must be very frustrating for you to have made such an effort to get nothing back whatsoever, without seemingly any reason behind it.
I can't say I know for sure what she's th... (read in full...)
How do I move on after being together for 2 and a half years?
Q. Today my girlfriend broke up with me after 2 and 1/2 years, she had some issues about a month ago but she said that we had sorted them out. I went to see her today and she said we should break up, I dont know what to do it was out of nowhere. I ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi. I really feel for you, my friend. Breaking up after a significant length of time like that is by no means easy.
I advise you to do as Flower girl suggested (she has advised me through my difficult times over the past 4 months or so), surround... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant this way?
Q. I would like to become pregnant but my hubby won't cum inside, he says not now we are not ready but I am so I got him off with a blow job then let him cum in my hand then I went in the bathroom in put it in my vagina. Can I get pregnant like that? ...
A. 6 November 2007: I will first say that it is an interesting plan, but I must register my disapproval. It's very dishonest of you to put your husband in that situation, knowing full-well that doesn't want a child with you just yet. This is something you should talk ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop these arguments?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for 7 months now and we always argue what can i do to stop these arguments?...
A. 1 November 2007: Yes, I have experienced silly little falling out's like the one you describe. It isn't your fault, in my opinion. It isn't as if you intentionally missed his phonecall, so he should understand this, and not let it bug him like it does.
It used to ... (read in full...)
How to snog
Q. dear cupid i have this girl freind and we both want to snog but i have never done it before and i want to do it right so i dont make a fool of my self please help me ...
A. 1 November 2007: I'm rather confused how there are a few of you who don't know what snogging is. All the same, I will explain.
Snogging is just a term for French Kissing, or; Kissing with tongues.
It's a lot like normal kissing, only every so often, you open ... (read in full...)
Can we have sex without contraception?
Q. can if i didnt 'cum' inside my gf would it be ok not to use contraception?...
A. 1 November 2007: DrPsych is right. Pre-ejaculate can get your girlfriend pregnant.
And furthermore, why take the risk?? Wouldn't it be safer jsut to use contraception and practically gaurentee to avoid pregnancy, AND STD's? Think about that.... (read in full...)
How to snog
Q. dear cupid i have this girl freind and we both want to snog but i have never done it before and i want to do it right so i dont make a fool of my self please help me ...
A. 1 November 2007: Does she know that you've never done it before?
Just try it! It's something that takes a little time to get the hang of. Try to avoid clashing teeth is the best advice I can give. It hurts.
Don't worry so much about it. Just relax and see ho... (read in full...)
Should I dump him even though he is my first love?
Q. I had a long distacne relationship whilst my boyfriend was at uni but he two timed me 3 times. I forgave twice. We split up after the 3rd time for a year and got back together after he finished uni. I recently heard that he took a girl back to ...
A. 1 November 2007: Leave him. How many more times are you going to allow him to show a lack of respect for you?
Long distance relationships CAN work, but they absolutely cannot if one half of the couple is two timing! It just can't.
Please don't let this guy con... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop these arguments?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for 7 months now and we always argue what can i do to stop these arguments?...
A. 1 November 2007: I would say this question is insufficient. What do you both argue about?
Please offer us more information.... (read in full...)
My heart cries out for her. What am I supposed to do?
Q. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about four months ago after a five year on-off relationship. I always wanted to be with her, we could communicate naturally and easily, we wanted the same things out of life and I felt so comfortable with her. She ...
A. 1 November 2007: I feel for you, mate, as I know what you're going through. I miss my ex an awful lot most of the time. We split 4 months ago as well.
Just give things a little more time. That's what everybody tells you, and will probably tell you the same thi... (read in full...)
How can I blow her a kiss across the Atlantic?
Q. I am currently participating in an exchange program with a school in Nuernberg, Germany (I'm from Atlanta, USA). The exchange partner I was assigned is a girl, who, I might add, is extremely beautiful. Not only that, but she's amazingly fun to talk ...
A. 31 October 2007: Well, I take it you mean; If she is no longer with her boyfriend, could you try to get something then?
So long as she is single, then I suppose you could try. But even though at that time she may be single, it doesn't change the distance between ... (read in full...)
His affection has cooled off. What is happening?
Q. Hello I'm new here, and I really need your help.. I'm in a relationship, and have been with him for 15 months now.. It is a long-distance relationship, but we've been doing fine really until about 4 months ago, when I was doing my A Levels and did...
A. 30 October 2007: Your question has literally left me shaking in my seat... I'm so shocked and a little frightened about how... accurate your words are. They almost exactly match the situation of my own... I'm resisting asking "Is that you??"
God, if I'm wrong, p... (read in full...)
How can I blow her a kiss across the Atlantic?
Q. I am currently participating in an exchange program with a school in Nuernberg, Germany (I'm from Atlanta, USA). The exchange partner I was assigned is a girl, who, I might add, is extremely beautiful. Not only that, but she's amazingly fun to talk ...
A. 30 October 2007: I agree with Karlos. I'm all for trying to make Long Distance relationships work, but your situation is just far too much to take on. She lives thousands of miles away, and she has a boyfriend.
Give up. She isn't yours to have. You live in Ameri... (read in full...)
D`oes he hate the way I taste?
Q. Hey My boyfriend of 5 months went down on me for the first time ever this weekend, all was goin great, until afterwards he said i 'taste like a bitch'. what i wanna know, is this a bad thing? does he hate the way i taste? this has me really c...
A. 30 October 2007: Hi.
I think the best way to find out what he meant is by asking him. I'm sure there are a couple of ways he could have meant what he said, but only by asking him will you know for sure.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away, I'm staying put, is this the end for us?
Q. Oh, I'm desperate! My boyfriend and I have been "together" for almost 9 months now. He decided against coming to school in the town I live, and is interviewing for jobs in his own country- and that's far away! He always told me that he didn't ...
A. 29 October 2007: Hmmm. Sounds like my own case scenario of 'break-up by circumstance'.
I'm sorry what the strain is doing to you, and I understand what that's like. But I must agree with shania. I'm afraid your boyfriend is not doing enough to swing things i... (read in full...)
My parents will laugh and make jokes at me if I tell them about my girlfriend!
Q. I've been going out with this girl for about a month and I want to tell my parent but if i do, they will laugh and make jokes! I realy want them to know what happens in my life but it feels like I'm living two lives. I don't know what to do. ...
A. 29 October 2007: Hi.
You sound a little like me. I was worried that my parents would react this way when I met a girl. But I can tell you from my experience; they couldn't have been more cool about it. They didn't crowd me, they didn't pry into our relation... (read in full...)
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