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I'm unmarried, but I've been in a relationship for two years now, and I've never been happier. He is 15 years my senior, and I wouldn't have it any other way. |
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How do I stop being horny all the time?
Q. Ive been single for about 5 months, which has ment no sex, the problem is im horny all the time, its driving me crazy and its all im thinking about How do i stop thinking about it? and how do i stop being horny 24/7? Should i just go and have a on...
A. 2 September 2008: Do you masturbate frequently? If not, you should. Also, if its not against your moral standing, you might consider finding someone to take part in a symbionic friends-with-benefits relationship with you.... (read in full...)
How long does a girl have to be on the pill for it to be fully affective?
Q. I was just curious?? how long does a girl have to be on the pill for it to be fully affective?? ...
A. 2 September 2008: One month, no less.... (read in full...)
Underage Sex
Q. From growing up, I've always been taught to know right from wrong, to know how to handle certain situations, and how to make my own decissions and learn from my mistakes, yet there are many teenagers out there that are immature and irrisponsible. ...
A. 26 August 2008: Its my opinion that a great deal of 20-30 year olds aren't mature enough to be having sex, let alone 13-15. Most people who have sex at your age regret it forever... But not everyone. Both myself and a single friend of mine lost our virginities ... (read in full...)
I stopped taking the pill... is sex without a condom ok?
Q. hi all im on the pill and when i was taking the pill i was having sex with my bf then when i stop taking it , cause i start taking the packet on a monday and continue the course till the packet runs out which is a sunday , then the following we...
A. 26 August 2008: Is a condom really so bad that it is worth risking pregnancy? There are so many things that could go wrong when dealing with contraceptives. You are switching from a pill to a patch, right? They may very well manipulate different horemo... (read in full...)
I've been misusing my birth control pills. What is going on with my body?
Q. Hi, Just a quick question been on the oral contraceptive pill 4 like 4 years now, and never ever miss a pill! The past two months i've been overlapping my pills so i wouldn't get a period. This month however i overlapped my pill not expectin...
A. 26 August 2008: There are a few things that could be going on here. The most likely one is that it will simply take time for your periods to stop. They usually won't go away immediately, its more of a fade. The other possibility is that you are having the same ... (read in full...)
Is there a special exercise or diet that will make my boobs bigger?
Q. i have small boobs r there some tips i should do to get bigger ones r there any exercises or food that can make them bigger ...
A. 26 August 2008: There are plenty of exercises out there that will make your pectoral muscles bigger, but breasts? No. Increasing the size of the pecs will make the breasts you already have appear larger to a certain extent. You might try this website. It has a ... (read in full...)
Virginity Poll: How old were you when you lost the V-card?
Q. tell me...how old were you when you lost your virginity??...
A. 26 August 2008: I was 15 when I lost my virginity... Theoretically.... (read in full...)
Why does she keep defending her abusive ex?
Q. I have been with the women for a lil over year and it alredy feels like its been for ever. i meen we were friends a bit befor i asked her out. the night i asked her out she said i dont know because t (her x boyfriend) is really good in bed. but then ...
A. 26 August 2008: It sounds like she needs to see a therapist. She seems to have a lot of issues that she needs to work through before she'll be able to be part of a healthy relationship. Unfortunately, thats a conclusion that she will have to come to on her own. ... (read in full...)
Is my mom's friend acting strange or am I reading into things?
Q. My mom has a guy friend Jeff (not real name) and hes nice and all but something seems strange about him.....when im home alone he'll call and ask what im doing for no reson and he always ask me "is any one there with you?!" then he'll tell/ask "ok ...
A. 26 August 2008: Please, I am begging you to talk to your mother about her friend immediately! Many of his actions are a HUGE violation of your privacy. He could be completely harmless, and he just wants you to be your buddy. But to be honest, and I hate to scare ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my adopted brother. I don't want to prey on him and mess with his development!
Q. Hi, I need help, or more or less guidance because I have feelings for my 14 year old adopted brother. He hits on me and I know that he feels the same. I want to stop liking him because I know that these feelings are unacceptable and i feel like im ...
A. 26 August 2008: Sorry honey, but no ammount of advice will cure you of your feelings. The only thing that could do that is time and experience. If you both feel so strongly about each other, you may have to learn to accept that, and not be ashamed. Feeling ... (read in full...)
Do I still need to take the morning after pill? I need an answer asap, please.
Q. I am 16 and i had unprotected sex last night, but i came on my period today. Do i still need to take the morning after pill? Please answer ASAP. Thanks a lot....
A. 26 August 2008: As (almost) everyone has said, yes. Take the pill. But here's some info to keep in mind for the future, that will hopefully encourage you to be more careful.
Most women actually ovulate numerous times during thier cycle, and can ovulate during t... (read in full...)
How do I get my girfriend, to have a different attitude about sex?
Q. hi. i am just getting back into the motion of things with my ex girlfriend who i dated to almost 3 years. we have beenbroken up for 9 months and we both still love eachother and want to slowly try again. now i know sex arguements really make guy...
A. 25 August 2008: There are a large number of women that DO use sex to lure in guys. Why? No idea. It is a horrible thing to do. Many women do that, just as many men pretend to want a relationship just to get a girl in the sack.
I asked my boyfriend for his ... (read in full...)
My wife has a colorful past, and now one of the guys, she used to have sex with, is in one of her new groups of friends, thoughts of her past, are worring me very much, how can I stop being so concerned about it?
Q. I need some help. I've been married for 2 years now and to this day my wife's past is constantly haunting me. (I have a clean slate I’ve only been with my wife, no one else.) My wife and I dated for 4 years before we got married she was 17 and I ...
A. 25 August 2008: Yeah! You can stop taking your frustrations out on your wife!!! What do you mean that you take your frustrations out on her?! You say it so casually! Do you insult her? Hit her?! WTF!
... I think my head is going to explode.
Ok, so she's ... (read in full...)
I have an illness that has prevented me from dating but I'd like to give it a try!
Q. I have suffered from an illness in which I could not go outside on my own which started when I was a teenager. I had a couple of dates when I was a teenager but never met anyone special. I am now 41 years old and had counselling 5 years ago which ...
A. 24 August 2008: I'm going to take a wild guess and say that you've suffered from agoraphobia. If this is the case, then perhaps the idea of stepping out into the world without a plan makes you uncomfortable? If I'm wrong, ignore my advice.
Perhaps you could tr... (read in full...)
Am I scared of loving?
Q. Theres this girl, and she is totaly in love with me, and we dated for less than half a month, Ive been overseas for 2 months before that, and we met 2 days before I left. she broke up with her BF to be with me. we have had sex in many ocations, and ...
A. 24 August 2008: I think you should speak with her ASAP. Just try something like this:
"I would really like to give this a shot. But I've been hurt in the past, and I'm frightened. Do you think that you would be ok with taking it slow? Maybe we could just see ... (read in full...)
I feel like I did something wrong, because he is contacting his ex and won't admit it.
Q. My boyfriend won't admit to trying to contact his ex girlfriend. I have been with him for 3 years, and we just got a house together about 2 weeks ago. I found out about a month and a half ago that he has been trying to contact his ex girlfriend. I...
A. 24 August 2008: Think long and hard about what your saying. You are POSITIVE he is talking to his ex. He lies about it, gets furious, and blows the whole thing out of proportion. And you want to know what you've done wrong? You don't want to leave him?
He wo... (read in full...)
I will accept her invitation, so how can I tell her that I want to have sex with her?
Q. Not too long ago after graduating from college I went to spend a vacation at a resort. It was planned to be a trip that a few of us were going to do together. In the end none of the others made it. I went alone to the resort. I thought ...
A. 24 August 2008: I don't think you need to, buddy. She made the bold move back at the resort, and was the one to go out on a limb and give you her info. She obviously intends your relationship to be a sexual one (and probably more), so I doubt it would be any ... (read in full...)
Am I scared of loving?
Q. Theres this girl, and she is totaly in love with me, and we dated for less than half a month, Ive been overseas for 2 months before that, and we met 2 days before I left. she broke up with her BF to be with me. we have had sex in many ocations, and ...
A. 24 August 2008: Yeah, you should be the one asking for another chance. But you're not asking. You're hiding. Your mistake before wasn't falling in love; it was falling in love with someone who did not reciprocate your feelings. Why don't you ask her to take ... (read in full...)
How do I get to spend time with her away from the conference?
Q. I have a sexual fantasy that I would like to live out. Perhaps you can tell me how. As part of my job I go to many conferences in different cities. These conferences last for a few days to a week. At these conference I often see a beautiful woma...
A. 24 August 2008: Wow, yeah. I kind of have to agree with belladonna123 on this one. I think they are purely sexual intentions, since you say "sexual" and "fantasies". I've never heard anyone call the desire to form a relationship, a "sexual fantasy". Why don't... (read in full...)
I am debating as to whether or not it would be ok to have sex with this younger man-any advice?
Q. Some background may help. I am a woman in my early 40’s. My former husband and I were high school sweethearts and married. He and I had one son. About six years ago just before my husband died unexpectedly we adopted two children. After the death of ...
A. 24 August 2008: It sounds like you need to sit him down and have a chat. But first have a chat with yourself. What are the possible outcomes of this situation? How do you feel about each one? What would you consider the perfect outcome? You say that you wou... (read in full...)
Can my girl get pregnant even though I can't ejaculate?
Q. Hi people, well I am a 13 year old male, and well, I had sex with my girlfriiend, three times to be exact, but in thise three times, I did not where a condom, but I know my body, since I masterbate, I know that I still can't ejaculate, could she ...
A. 24 August 2008: Sometimes it frightens me to live in America, when our educaional system lacks so much.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend pays me no attention, we only have sex, if she wants to, what do I do about this?
Q. My girl wont pay me ant attention, she only have sex with me if she feels like it what should I do?...
A. 24 August 2008: Um... should she have sex with you whenever she doesn't feel like it?
There's a simple solution to this: Talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. Nicely, mind you.... (read in full...)
If a guy has a girlfriend, and dumps her, comes back and kisses you, and then returns to his girlfriend, what does this all mean, I am totally confused?
Q. If a boy tells u he likes you but has a girlfriend and then dumps her comes and kisses u passionatly then gets back with his girlfriend days later but still tells u he likes u what does that mean.? I Am really really confussed anyone with some...
A. 24 August 2008: That means that they are seriously F***ed in the head, and you should really stay away from them.
But seriously. It means that he's 13-15, and the mere sight of a girl fries his brain and makes him act like a moron. You should probably get used... (read in full...)
If you have sex once, and your hymen is not completely torn, will it heal with time?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if it's possible for like, if you have sex once, and maybe don't tear the hymen completely...after time and time goes by, can the hymen heal??...
A. 24 August 2008: Not really, no. ... (read in full...)
I just got my period, and for three nights prior to that, I had intense sexual dreams, I get turned on during the day by anything, is this a part of PMS, and will this continue, it is embarrassing?
Q. Okay kind of an embarrassing question but... I just got my first-ever period yesterday and for three nights beforehand, I was having intense sex dreams and I'd get turned on during the day by just about anything. Lol is that like part of PMS? Is ...
A. 24 August 2008: You should never be embarrased about your sexuality, honey. You should try seeing this as a bonus, not a set-back. It's part of who you are; even if you choose not to act on it.
But about the question... Yes. Well, probably. I have no real ... (read in full...)
Once a man choses one of two women and has a sexual relationship with her, why does he keep flirting with the other one, and getting jealous over her?
Q. I have a question especially for all you guys out there (gals can answer as well). When a guy chooses one woman over the other and starts a sexual relationship with her, why on earth does he keep flirting with the one he didn't choose? And why ...
A. 24 August 2008: You've got to stop looking at everything in such black and white terms. Just because he CHOSE one, doesn't mean he only WANTS one. If you see two pairs of shoes that you really like but you can only afford one, do you really stop wanting the other ... (read in full...)
Once a man choses one of two women and has a sexual relationship with her, why does he keep flirting with the other one, and getting jealous over her?
Q. I have a question especially for all you guys out there (gals can answer as well). When a guy chooses one woman over the other and starts a sexual relationship with her, why on earth does he keep flirting with the one he didn't choose? And why ...
A. 24 August 2008: You've got to stop looking at everything in such black and white terms. Just because he CHOSE once, doesn't mean he only WANTS one. If you see two pairs of shoes that you really like but you can only afford one, do you really stop wanting the ... (read in full...)
I'd really like to go to her forbidden place...any opinions??
Q. I am looking for opinions here. I have been with my wife for 10 years, total. I have always wanted to have anal sex with her, but she has said only on one condition: She wants to do me first with a strap on dildo. She thinks the idea of a guy ...
A. 23 August 2008: (Start Quote)no girl would prefer anal sex it will be very painful.one should always know that vegina expands according to the penis while anal dosn't anal has no secretion (End Quote)
Wow. Thats just not true. Do some research. The sphincte... (read in full...)
I'd really like to go to her forbidden place...any opinions??
Q. I am looking for opinions here. I have been with my wife for 10 years, total. I have always wanted to have anal sex with her, but she has said only on one condition: She wants to do me first with a strap on dildo. She thinks the idea of a guy ...
A. 23 August 2008: Hey, wait a minute guys! There's a big thing your overlooking here! Its called the prostate gland. Anal sex is WAY more pleasurable for men, gay or straight, than it is for women! Men have a prostate gland that is constantly being stimulated with ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a good thing or would it be wise to move on because of the age difference?
Q. I could really use some good advice. I'm a 24 yr old college student. I've bounced around in a few relationships over the past few years, none of which lasted very long. About a year ago, I hooked up with an older woman (she's 43). I basically did ...
A. 22 August 2008: Well said, emilysanswers. Its called gambling, mr. anonymous. We gamble with cards, money, love, and our lives everyday. This is no different than rock climbing or poker. You don't fold on a good hand unless you know the River is flowing the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend crossed the line and called me a "dirty whore"!
Q. Sometimes i dont know what to do. Things just haven't been going my way lately. Me and my boyfriend argue about the simplest things. But today he crossed the line and called me a dirty whore. There was no reaction to that reply i just turned my head ...
A. 22 August 2008: Ok, this may be a little extreme, but I want to mention it just in case. Those actions kind of sound like those of an abuser. He's constantly belittling you and wearing away at your self esteem. Why would he feel the need to do that? That should ... (read in full...)
I had encounters, with a man I met on the internet, only for sex, I saw him, in the area where I live, my boyfriend does not know I did this, should I tell him before the internet guy, or someone else does?
Q. two years ago I met up with someone off the internet for sex. He said he was a virgin and so I agreed to be his first. We met up 4 or 5 times just for sex. I thought nothing more of it until now... My boyfriend and I have recently moved to a small ...
A. 21 August 2008: You fail to mention whether or not you were dating your boyfriend at the time. That makes a huge difference. If you two weren't together at the time, then I wouldn't worry about it. Just mention it in coversation. Its better to tell him than ... (read in full...)
This guy hangs around me, tells vulgar jokes, and is basically creepy, he is also mentally challenged, and has been in a psych ward, I want him to leave me alone, but I don't want to crush his soul, what do I do?
Q. Hello everyone! My problem is with a friend I've had for about a year now. He make me EXTREMELY uncomfortable; so much in fact, that I dread seeing him. He'll call, text, or show up at my work every day. He'll sit at my work for like five hours, j...
A. 21 August 2008: I probably should have mentioned that I work in a coffee house. So the fact that he's there isn't as strange as it may have come off. Its just the fact that he's not there to do anything but stare at me that is. Nonetheless, I suppose the vote is ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend trying to make me jealous about his new girlfriend?
Q. a guy who i am really close friends with, and we both like each other as more than friends has a new gf and im really starting think that he wants me to be jealous of him and his new gf as he seems to be rubbing it in my face, so could u tell me ...
A. 21 August 2008: Ok, here's what I see: First, he lets you know that he's with a cute girl... but not too cute! Not the kind of cute that no other girl (like you) could live up to. Then he gives you an example of how sweet and romantic he is... with her, though! ... (read in full...)
Is my friend making a mistake with her new relationship?
Q. I would like an opinion on a new relationship a friend has gotten into She is starting to date this guy from work since the beginning of August, however, she doesnt know that he is a lying cheating type. He has had at least 5 other women in t...
A. 21 August 2008: Ok, reality check here. Five women in nine months isn't THAT bad. Obviously he's not ready to settle down, but it's not big neon sign that says "walking S.T.I!" either. I've known plenty of guys who've been with five women in one month!
On an... (read in full...)
I'm older than the girl I met, is that bad?
Q. I am a 29 year old male from the UK. Two months ago, I met this lovely 21 year old young lady. I have fallen head over heels for her; we are very much in love. But, the age gap bothers me. Does it really matter that my girlfriend is many years yo...
A. 19 August 2008: My boyfriend and I started dating when I was 20 and he was 35. It's been two blissful years now, and we are just as happy as we ever were. As the younger of the two, I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way! And yes, my friends used to ... (read in full...)
Should I try and stay friends with my abusive ex?
Q. Hello, I recently have left my boyfriend of 2 years. It has been 1 month. I ignored him for about 3 weeks because the last day i saw him, he hit me. this is not the first time it had happened. he has been hitting me on and off for about 18months. he ...
A. 19 August 2008: I will disagree with everyone on one point: He probably does love you. And that's what you have to understand. That is how he treats someone that he loves. The more he loves you, the worse he will treat you. Don't think that I'm letting him off ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that we are having oral sex at our age?
Q. Me and my Girlfriend have been dating for about...5 months now, and the other day she gave me Oral, we were both fine with it, we didn't feel bad or anything. Is it bad that at my age I'm having oral sex? We've both discussed actual Sexual In...
A. 19 August 2008: It is very mature of you both to decide to wait on actual intercourse. Oral sex is a great way to explore each other's interests without crossing any boundaries that you aren't ready for yet. Try and learn about each other from your experiences. ... (read in full...)
Are we too different for a permanent relationship?
Q. I have been dating Marshall for three years. I enjoy his company, our love life, the way he thinks and our time together. There is very little we disagree on. I don't think we have ever really had an argument. I consider him my best friend. We are ...
A. 19 August 2008: You guys sound pretty compatable to me. If the way you spend your free time is all that you disagree on, I don't think you have too much to worry about. You don't list any of the things HE likes to do (stare at walls? Make sculptures out of ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. ok, were do i start. i did the most stupid thing ever. I was on the pill but came off in june becasue i ran out and was too busy, to go and get some more. i had a random period which start early on the 14th of july, which was not normal for me and i ...
A. 19 August 2008: Like superrshawna says, no one here can tell you whether or not you're pregnant, but here are some facts that you should really know: Contrary to popular belief, most women ovulate many times over the course of their cycle. Many even during thier ... (read in full...)
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