My boyfriend didn't respond to my calls or texts in 7 months!
Q. My bf and i have had a long distance relationship for 1 year now. but in march i texted him normally and waited for a reply. but he didnt reply to none of my calls or text messages. before all this he said he was busy with work and would be free in ...
A. 4 November 2009: Hi, First thing you need to do right away-TALK TO HIM.Don't assume anything.You need to talk to him face to face.You can fly over to him since you want to make this work.If that's not possible then talk to him on phone. Ask him directly-what'... (read in full...)
She masterbated to his voice during a business phone call...am I overreacting and how should I handle this?
Q. Hi everyone, My question is about my boyfriend's ex.Her behaviour has upset me.I think that he should not talk to her any more.Am I overreacting?How should I deal with this? I am with someone I love dearly for over a year now.And he loves me too....
A. 4 November 2009: Hi,
You are so lucky to have this man.He handled the akward situation perfectly.Ignore his ex and there is no need to worry.You must be upset and its understandable.
You know what...your relationship is so strong.And it will get stronger aft... (read in full...)
Can you go from sexually active to abstinent to make sure he's the right guy?
Q. Hey, umm, I have been sexually active for about two years now and I have had three partners, two in which i have been serious with, and one, was just a one night stand. after that one time, i kinda felt guilty about it because i did it out of spite. ...
A. 3 November 2009: Hi,
Delay physical relations instead of total abstinence.
If you just meet a new guy, delaying physical bonding speeds up emotional bonding. That way, the two of you can concentrate on the deeper aspects of your personalities and emotions rat... (read in full...)
What do you class as cheating?
Q. OK, I wanted the aunts views on this.... What would you class as cheating?.... naughty phonecalls, texts, emails, pictures, thinking about someone else, a kiss, or full sexual contact?... My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails o...
A. 31 October 2009: What your boyfriend did was cheating.He was involved with someone else for whatever reason,when he was committed to you.This was emotional cheating.These actions obviously hurt you.
Yes,civilised men can be trusted to be faithful.Most common e... (read in full...)
Help! I left a 31-year relationship with a woman I could 100% trust, for a relationship that I don't think I can ever trust!
Q. hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back ...
A. 31 October 2009: Hi,
Walk out of this dysfunctional relationship.You deserve better.
Stay alone for some time.Use this time to relax your mind.Decide what you want in future when your mind is relaxed so that you make the right choice.If you still want to go back ... (read in full...)
Our kids sleep with us... how can I tell my wife I think it should now stop?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a great relationship, We have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and an 8 month old son, my wife still exclusively breastfeeds our son and our daugther still nurses before bed and during the night. ...
A. 30 October 2009: Hi,
Communicate with your wife.Talk to her about this calmly.Tell her everything that you have written here.Make your thoughts verbal.
Ask her how she feels?Let her talk and you just listen to her.Don't argue.She will understand.
... (read in full...)
How can I show her I'm genuinely really interested in her?
Q. So I got to go on a date with a new girl a few nights ago. We got together through a dating site and I was skeptical about the whole thing to begin with. When we met up and had dinner, the whole time our conversation flowed really well, we hung ...
A. 30 October 2009: Hi,
If you have already sent her text messages then wait for her to respond.She'll get in touch if she is interested.
Be calm and collected.Don't rush things as you don't want to give her the impression that you are desperate.Be gentle and d... (read in full...)
Did I cheat on my boyfriend, and if so does that mean I'm not happy with him?
Q. I'm very much in love with my boyfriend, we've been together for 7 months and it feels very right, like I've found my soul mate. I've been through enough abusive/controlling/violent and generally unhappy relationships to know that I'm definitely ...
A. 30 October 2009: Hi,
You didn't cheat.You were drunk and did something that you regret.Just forget about it.Make sure it doesn't ever happen again.
You don't know how your boyfirend will react to this so don't tell him.But if there's a chance that he would come t... (read in full...)
I think I love her, but she just wants to be friends. Should I keep being her friend?
Q. Please Help!!! Ok so i really like this girl like alot i think i love her. I have told her that i really like her. She had also told me that she really likes me,but the other day out of nowhere she changed her mind and told me that she only sees us ...
A. 30 October 2009: Hi,
You can be friends.Be there for her.Tell her that you will always be there for her.
Girls at young age,are not sure about what they want.With time,maturity and experience they can understand themselves better.Give her some time to know you ... (read in full...)
This is for the men...
Q. Men...? What do you find most attractive in a woman?...
A. 30 October 2009: I am not a guy but I think-silhouette,eyes and of course boobs.... Danielepew is absolutely right.... (read in full...)
I already know he's a womanizer. Should I go for it?
Q. I am in a relationship with a divorced man who is well educated. I love him and had sex with him. Recently he has been saying about his past relationships and it appears that he had sex with two other women when he was married just because he had a ...
A. 27 October 2009: LEAVE HIM "NOW".
Girls always get attracted to such men.You may think that you will make his life better.You expect him to change his ways...certainly you are not happy with his image as a womanizer.You want to be his guardian angel to make lif... (read in full...)
I already know he's a womanizer. Should I go for it?
Q. I am in a relationship with a divorced man who is well educated. I love him and had sex with him. Recently he has been saying about his past relationships and it appears that he had sex with two other women when he was married just because he had a ...
A. 26 October 2009: Hi,
No.This is not the right guy.
Some men are charming,caring but they can't get committed to any woman.These men openly admit this.You may think that he is so honest.Well he is honest but its just that he doesn't want to hide it.
He cheated ... (read in full...)
Is he being truthful or is he saying it just to get into my pants?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man since a year and half. We have known each other since 3 years. I have never been in a relationship before and I am a virgin too. Initially , at the start of our relationship every thing else was good except the sex ...
A. 20 October 2009: Hi,
Congrats!You have such a loving guy as your partner.He loves you unconditionally.
This guy truly loves you.He respects your decision so he doesn't force you for sex.
He would not wait for one and a half year like this if he didn't feel for you... (read in full...)
I'm in an LDR and need help figuring out my relationship!
Q. Hi everyone, well i'm new to the forum but i have 2 questions. i'll start off giving a little history. i'm talking to this girl (lesbian relationship) and she broke up with her ex to be with me (long distance relationship for now) but after talking ...
A. 18 October 2009: Hi,
You did the right thing.Don't be impatient and give her time.We all fear losing love no matter how much we love our partners.So as a partner,you should always be there for her.That's the best thing you can do for her.
... (read in full...)
I'm in an LDR and need help figuring out my relationship!
Q. Hi everyone, well i'm new to the forum but i have 2 questions. i'll start off giving a little history. i'm talking to this girl (lesbian relationship) and she broke up with her ex to be with me (long distance relationship for now) but after talking ...
A. 15 October 2009: Hi,
In any relationship,you should not waste time talking about ex's.Look at the way your partner is treating YOU,rather than other people who you don't know well.May be they weren't worth it.
Right now,she is staying with her ex out of necessity... (read in full...)
Can anyone assess this relationship?
Q. I am 23 she is 21 .We both r in college.I am in deep love with this girl who was in relationship with 2 boys before me.I am a really intelligent guy who has a balding problem and an irregular shape(i ll fix that). the last boyfriend ditche...
A. 15 October 2009: Hi,
You feel so much for her but its not reciprocated.So no matter how good you are,you should look for someone else.You are a nice,caring person who thinks so much about others.Stop thinking about her NOW.Stop all contact...thats the best way to d... (read in full...)
How do I handle such strong feelings I have for a guy when I'm in a relationship?
Q. I have been in a relationship for over three years now. my boyfriend is a very sweet and kind person. I know that he accepts me for who I am and I do not feel like I have to work to impress him. When we first began dating I was completely head over ...
A. 10 October 2009: Hi, You are just attracted to this new guy at office,who is a nice gentleman with a charming persona. Getting "butterflies",heart palpitations,loss of sleep,nervousness,anxiety in presence of 'someone' is not true love.These are just feel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is turning 21 soon, and I'm stressing out here! How can I make it super special for him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years is turning 21 in a month's time and I'm stressing out here. The issue is, I want to make this day super special for him. I have a lot of things planned for the day...now I don't know what to get him. I know dat some would ...
A. 6 October 2009: Hey,thats really sweet.He is a lucky guy.I can understand how you must be feeling.
Take him on a helicopter ride/hot air ballon ride/dinner cruise ...he'll never forget his 21st birthday.
Buy him a precious gift which is not easily available... (read in full...)
Should I marry him or not?
Q. i had a 2 years relationship wd my bf...well,i've always been waiting for him to propose and whenever i brought up the subject to him he'd say to me he aint ready and that used to tear my heart apart...well,lately he surprised me by proposing to me ...
A. 5 October 2009: Hi,
You are just nervous about getting married.It happens to a lot of people.There are mood swings,self-doubt and feeling depressed.
There is no need to worry if you really love him and he loves you too.
Don't rush things and wait till you ar... (read in full...)
Sometimes it really feels like I'm moving on, and other times it feels like I'm still really hoping for something
Q. hi, I had a lover for about a year who I became very attached to. She didn't want a committed relationship, it was pretty casual, but she told me she loved me and sometimes would let her guard down and say things that were pretty loving. But I...
A. 5 October 2009: Hi,
If you guys have such different views about commitment then cutting all contact is actually good for you.That's because you are emotionally involved.So being 'just friends'is not possible.
You have written that you think that you should ... (read in full...)
Geographically undesireable is becoming desireable
Q. Dear Cupid, Great longing and an aching heart for someone far away brought me to you tonight. I look towards the wisdom and divinity of dearcupid.org to lean on. First, I will get right to the point, then provide support details and describe the...
A. 29 September 2009: Hi,
You are not foolish for having feelings for someone who is far away.Its quite natural.
A lot of people are involved in long distance relationships(LDR)these days.Many of these have blossomed into beautiful relations.Many couples have even go... (read in full...)
I'm married want to know if its ok to indulge in sex with someone else?
Q. i am a married for last 3 years, last year i met a guy who is single. intially it was a good friendship. he is 3 years younger to me. we used to talk a lot. gradually he started expressing his feeling and talking all about himself. one day i saw his ...
A. 26 September 2009: Hi, STOP CHEATING IMMEDIATELY. You are commiting adultery. You need to evaluate the reason/reasons for your cheating.Is it loneliness?Is it communication gap?Is it just for some excitement and fun without attachments?Are you bored after ... (read in full...)
How is genital herpes passed on?
Q. Is genital herpes passed only through sexual contact or can you get them another way?...
A. 26 September 2009: Hi,
Genital herpes is a virus that is mainly transmitted by sexual contact-vaginal,anal,oral sex.
Herpes can also be spread through skin-to-skin contact. This means touching an infected person’s genitals and then touching yourself(mut... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex? Or will the distance be too much to handle?
Q. my ex and i broke up about a month ago. it was a mutual thing, we went to college and the long distance thing wasn't working because we didn't have enough time to create a strong relationship first. we still like each other, we just can't make it ...
A. 24 September 2009: Hi,
Does she want to get back together with you?
Long distance relationships are more challenging than regular relationships.
LDRs are successful only when both partners are totally commited to each other.
Many people are involved in LDR thes... (read in full...)
Should I ask my son to live separately on his own?
Q. My son recently got married. He is staying at our place with his wife. Time to time we catch them play kissing games, or making out openly in the living room and everywhere in the house, although they would keep apologizing if they get caught. As ...
A. 23 September 2009: Hi, In Asia ,especially Indian subcontinent,lot of people live in joint families.Many married sons continue to stay with parents. Have a man to man talk with your son.Be frank and open about how akward you feel.Tell him that such a behaviour is... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I really want to get a divorce because I feel like this is going to be a never ending pattern
Q. OK well i have been married for two years in october and total time together will be 3yrs. My husband is a solider and we got married before he went to iraq. After seven month when he got a 2 week break everything was fine and loving but he used my ...
A. 20 September 2009: Hi,
No.You are not blowing this out of proportion.Confront him with hard evidence that he is cheating and see if he is remorseful or oblivious to it.
A cheating husband always lies to hide his affair.After getting caught, some men ask for forg... (read in full...)
Cysts on the ovary what does it mean?
Q. Ok... i went to the Dr's they made me get a blood test and an ultrasound... the ultrasound shows that i have a cyst on my ovarys... small ones.. uhh and i dont know what im ment to do? can anyone help me with this? i have alot of sickness's...
A. 18 September 2009: Hi,
This is my answer to your response.
Self-medication can be harmful to your health.
Oral contraceptives or birth control pills are used for other purposes too...not just birth control.Since these pills act by affecting the sex hormones.I a... (read in full...)
Cysts on the ovary what does it mean?
Q. Ok... i went to the Dr's they made me get a blood test and an ultrasound... the ultrasound shows that i have a cyst on my ovarys... small ones.. uhh and i dont know what im ment to do? can anyone help me with this? i have alot of sickness's...
A. 17 September 2009: Hi,
The best person to answer this is your gynaecologist.You can also talk to your family doctor.Your parents may not have medical information but talk to them about your worries since you are so young.
Don't worry.A lot of girls in the rep... (read in full...)
Cysts on the ovary what does it mean?
Q. Ok... i went to the Dr's they made me get a blood test and an ultrasound... the ultrasound shows that i have a cyst on my ovarys... small ones.. uhh and i dont know what im ment to do? can anyone help me with this? i have alot of sickness's...
A. 17 September 2009: Hi,
The best person to answer this is your gynaecologist.You can also talk to your family doctor.Your parents may not have medical information but talk to them about your worries since you are so young.
Don't worry.A lot of girls in the rep... (read in full...)
Risk of STDs from masturbation?
Q. hi im back with another question about trying to avoid stds/aids i was just wondering about me being sexualy active with myself like masturbation and was wondering if that gives you a bigger risk of geting a std and yes i know that condoms help ...
A. 16 September 2009: Hi,
Masturbation can never cause STD.There is no need to use a condom.
STD(Sexually Transmitted Diseases)are infections transmitted through sexual contact. STDs are spread in two ways. The first is through bodily fluids, including blood,... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of losing love in the future
Q. Hey everyone i need some advice... My girfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now and we've talked of our future. Although we're in a LDR we truly love each other but im just so afraid of losing her in the far future... I dont know wha...
A. 16 September 2009: Hi,
There is no need to worry.Its just your insecurity.It happens when you fear losing your partner you love so much.Especially when you can't see her face to face.Everytime you have a doubt -ask yourself do you trust her? ..yes or no.
If you ... (read in full...)
Should I meet my phone (sex) buddy?
Q. hey everyone, so heres my dillemna..i have been talking to this guy i met in a chatroom, over the phone for the past 4 months.we get along great.. he sounded hot and we ended up having phonesex pretty often. Except iv seen his pic and im not real...
A. 16 September 2009: Hi,
Do you know him well?Do you think he is a nice,decent guy you can trust?
If yes,then
Tell him clearly that you don't want any physical relations when you meet in person.If he accepts that only then you should meet him.
Inspite of all ... (read in full...)
My weight and subsequent lack of confidence is making my relationship suffer!
Q. This is most definitely a confidence and health issue. For a while now, I have been trying to lose weight, because I'm low on confidence and my partner and I's sex life has suffered from it, simply because I can't bear to have him touch me or some...
A. 16 September 2009: Hi, Calculate your Body Mass Index(B.M.I)-take your weight (kg) and divide it by the square of your height (m). * You are in the normal range if your BMI is between 18.5 and 25 (kg/m2). * You are overweight if your BMI is between 25 a... (read in full...)
My weight and subsequent lack of confidence is making my relationship suffer!
Q. This is most definitely a confidence and health issue. For a while now, I have been trying to lose weight, because I'm low on confidence and my partner and I's sex life has suffered from it, simply because I can't bear to have him touch me or some...
A. 15 September 2009: Hi,
If you are gaining weight inspite of regular exercise for your age and sex then you must see a doctor to rule out medical causes of weight gain.Thyroid disorders and metabolic conditions can cause obesity.There are also other caus... (read in full...)
Relationship had to end but she's heartbroken!
Q. My girlfriend and me have had to end our relationship today, as I am going back to university, and neither of us want to continue our relationship in long distance circumstances. We both knew this day would come, however, she's really upset and so ...
A. 15 September 2009: Hi,
I would like to add this.This is related to your response to previous advice.
Its obvious that you don't want a long distance relationship but still want to be in touch.You want to keep your options open.And she wants you totally committe... (read in full...)
B/f wanted to be with his friend and she shot him down
Q. Hi all, I would really love some help on this one please......I recently found out that my Boyfriend of nearly two years is in love with his friend ( has been for 8 years) the things is they are thousands of miles apart. so of course I am very...
A. 15 September 2009: Hi,
Talk to your partner.Communication is simply the most important factor of any relationship,after love and trust.You must openly and honestly communicate with your partner.
Stop making assumptions and talk to him about this.Why don't you as... (read in full...)
Please help me understand my true feelings...
Q. I am 23 and have been married for only a year and a half. I knew when I married my husband that I wasn't very sexually attracted to him but loved him and knew he would be a great husband. We didn't have sex until we were married and I thought, no ...
A. 14 September 2009: Hi, I would like to add this.This is related to your response to my previous advice. With all due respect,I think that you secretly want your husband to walk out of this marriage.So that you can be free and won't be blamed. The first t... (read in full...)
Please help me understand my true feelings...
Q. I am 23 and have been married for only a year and a half. I knew when I married my husband that I wasn't very sexually attracted to him but loved him and knew he would be a great husband. We didn't have sex until we were married and I thought, no ...
A. 14 September 2009: Hi,
You did the right thing by not getting involved with the guy you were attracted to.Relationships born out of ADULTERY usually don't last. Chances of them actually working are are very, very slim.
You wouldn't know if it was just physical att... (read in full...)
Relationship had to end but she's heartbroken!
Q. My girlfriend and me have had to end our relationship today, as I am going back to university, and neither of us want to continue our relationship in long distance circumstances. We both knew this day would come, however, she's really upset and so ...
A. 14 September 2009: Hi, Ending a relationship is a very painful thing to do.Do not blame yourself if the relationship needs to end.It was a mutual decision. Breaking up is a part of life. It involves simply moving along to do something that will make you happy.Look... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've looked through her emails and know of her plans?
Q. I found e mails between my wife and an old boyfriend in which there have been statements of deep love back and forth and in which my wife says to him that he was her first and only love at first sight and they have indicated they plan to meet in the ...
A. 14 September 2009: Hi,
Talk to your wife about it.
Communication is simply the most important factor of any relationship,after love and trust.You must openly and honestly communicate with your partner. Once the problem is exposed you should work to a compromi... (read in full...)
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