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| | Aly Jane's profile:I'm 16 and I live in Texas. I'm a huge sports fan; participating in them and watching them is a big deal. I've been to Australia and traveling is something that I also enjoy. My family and best friends are very important to me and my sympathy for them knows no bounds. |
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I want a relationship, not meaningless sex! I'm confused.
Q. hi im confused. theres a lad i like but all he seems to want is sexual stuff... he says he wouldnt do anything with me drunk because id wud be taking advantage and he said he wouldnt wanna do that. But he says he doesn't fancy me and he said ...
A. 26 July 2008: This guy obviously has no respect for you. How can he possibly be worried about you taking advantage of him? Clearly, he's the manipulative one. I know you like him, but there are other fish in the sea. There's a guy out there who will share your ... (read in full...)
Should I have my facial birthmark removed or could I learn to live with it?
Q. i have a problem with my self image i have a birthmark on my face and it does get me down sometimes when people will stare. i have the choice to get it removed by laser which i would want to do but at the same time i dont want to turn my back on ...
A. 26 July 2008: If the birthmark is really bothering you, I would suggest having it removed. If, however, you change your mind, you could cover it up with make-up, if possible.... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I'm reading her wrong?
Q. Hi im 15 and i my problem is im not sure if this girl is just flirting with me or if shes sending me signals to ask her out. Heres abit of information on the story... ive known her for like 5 years, at first we were close and we went over to ...
A. 21 July 2008: No, I'm pretty sure she likes you! David's right, gather up your courage and call the girl. You have nothing to lose.... (read in full...)
How can we become closer?
Q. hey! I've been going out with this guy for about two months and we haven't really become physicaly close. I mean we're only 13 so I'm not looking for full on sex just a cuddle or kiss. He's given me a peck on the cheek once but were going to th...
A. 19 July 2008: This website has a lot of flirting and kissing tips...hope it helps! :)
http://www.links2love.com/... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend in bed with my sister while her boyfriend was downstairs!
Q. well. basicly. I CAUGHT MY BOYFRIEND IN BED WITH MY SISTER WHILE HER BOYFRIEND WAS SAT DOWNSTAIRS!!! well ive been with him now for nearly 18 months, i thought he loved me, and i adore him! well DID. im confused! so bad, i stayed at a friends house ...
A. 19 July 2008: Ouch! Remember, it wasn't only your sister's fault. Your boyfriend did wrong as well. Kick him to the curb and don't look back.... (read in full...)
Feeling sad, I need tips on laser hair removal, good sources of protein other than meat, and also, I just don't feel beautiful.
Q. hey i feel really sad right now. has anybody had lazer hair removal and seen gud results? and also has anybody had lazer hair removal and then noticed their skin get worse for example: dry skin/spots/patchy skin. i feel so depressed right now....
A. 19 July 2008: I can't give you tips on laser hair removal, but I do know of some other protein sources you could try. Tofu is good; I'm not sure if you like it, though. I also eat Quorn, which is meat-free and soy-free, and it's composed primarily of ... (read in full...)
Am I in love or just obsessed?
Q. im 16 years old and i think im in love but im not sure, whenever im with him i dont want him to leave my side . im always thinking about him and he always calling me to tell me he loves me and when im lonely and sad i just call on him and he talks...
A. 19 July 2008: It could develop into love, but it simply sounds like you like him and his presence for now.... (read in full...)
Should I be nervous or will high school be fun?
Q. i am really nervous of going to high school and i want to lose about 20 pounds and then buy some better clothes should i be nervous or will high school be fun? are girls really that mean to each other for no reason like in the movies? i need help to ...
A. 18 July 2008: It depends on the school you go to and who your friends are. My frehsman year was difficult because I was so shy and some of the older kids would walk all over me. There was more work to do and I started staying up late trying to finish it. Last ... (read in full...)
I worry about shaving my pubic area... how can my friends do it?
Q. Basically, 1. I am 16 and a 32D. All my friends are sizes 30F or 32F etc. I am scared i don't get any bigger because i haven't changed in a year. I am really worried. 2. Recently my friends have been speaking about shaving their pubic hair and o...
A. 18 July 2008: 32D? That's my mom's size(she's not 16)! I'm the one who's 16, and I'm a 32A. Don't get too upset if your chest doesn't get that much larger.
As for shaving, please be careful and don't cut yourself!... (read in full...)
I would like to know, does anyone have any idea, if Slim Fast works, thanks?
Q. SLIM FAST.... does it work??...
A. 16 July 2008: It will help you lose weight quickly but probably won't be enough to keep you full. Making small changes in your diet and exercise are more beneficial.... (read in full...)
It's just me, bulimia and weed. How do I get it back to just being me and my husband?
Q. I feel like im going crazy. I dunno whats wrong with me. all i do is go to work, come home and smoke weed with my husband. we rarely have sex and im starting to get bored of the conversation,all we talk about is work or music. i am desperate for ...
A. 16 July 2008: Eating disorders are painful enough, and when weed and depression/mood swings are thrown in the mix, it's easy to see why you feel so lonely and miserable. Try to open up to your husband and let him know that this is deeply affecting you. Someday ... (read in full...)
What things should I know about relationships so I can keep this great girl?
Q. Im with this girl who im very attracted to mentally and physically. shes 17 shes smart and has a voice older for her age. we are bascially taking it slow. and its almost perfect bc like she said, i dont have to prove anything when im with you. like ...
A. 15 July 2008: She sounds like a great girl. She feels comfortable around you and can relax and be herself. Don't worry about losing her! Just be yourself. :)... (read in full...)
Could this be an eating disorder? Or is it all in my head? Also, how can you gain weight in a proper, safe and reasonable way?
Q. I'm a little underweight. I'm 13. When I eat I can't have more than 4 bites without wanting to throw up. Could this be an eating disorder? Or is it all in my head? Also, how can you gain weight in a proper, safe and reasonable way? OhI also ...
A. 15 July 2008: Eating disorders are psychological problems anyway. Your doctor will be able to tell if you have an eating disorder or not. I'm assuming you don't have one because you asked how to gain weight. ... (read in full...)
Will giving him space help him love me?
Q. help me plse my boyfriend and i had been ating for 10 months from the start he wanted mearound all the time, abot 1 month in he told me he loved me. we were together all the time his choice. no he says he needs space to do what ever he wants when ...
A. 14 July 2008: He just desires space, not a breakup. They say "absensce makes the heart grow fonder" and in my experiences, it does, because you don't take that person for granted. Continue to let him have a little space and free time and he will respect and ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks our group ignore her. It's really not my fault, is it?
Q. i have a problem with my friend she thinks that our group ignores her and we gather without telling her (we always tell her to hang out with us but then she don't come or answer our msgs or even our calls) so how can i fix this she thinks we don't ...
A. 14 July 2008: No, it's not your fault at all. In fact, you invite her, so it's up to her whether or not she wants to come. I'm not exactly sure why she thinks she's left out when she's the one not going.
Let her know that she's appreciated and that your gro... (read in full...)
How can I take my mind off my sick brother?
Q. my oler brother is 16 and he has sickel cell cancer and has been in the hopital for 3 weeks what do i do to not think about him witout taking medication or drug or anything bad for my body ...
A. 14 July 2008: I have an uncle who's in the hospital and I understand how that puts a lot of worry and stress on you and the family. Your brother doesn't want you to worry, he wants you to be happy and live your life. It's not easy to just forget about a sick ... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend doesn't value our friendship.
Q. i have this friend a he treats me like crap when he's with his other friends, were always fighting it's like he doesn't value my friendship. but he's the closes friend al my other friends live like a mile or more away and i'm only 13 but i want to ...
A. 14 July 2008: You're right, he doesn't value your friendship. Losing friends is painful and sometimes accompanied by regret... but since he doesn't regret treating you like crap, you shouldn't regret leaving him.... (read in full...)
My best friend is 15 and I'm worried, she says she has been drinking and having threesomes...
Q. My best friend went to Pennsylvania last weekend with her family. When she came back she called me and told me she was involved in a threesome, she was drunk most of the time, and she snuck out! Her behavior has really worried me lately; she's in ...
A. 14 July 2008: Thank you for all your answers.
I know that she is close to her dad so I can inform him of what's going on. I know that she really is doing this because I'm one of four she trusts. I'm not sure who else knows about this, but I can't let it go on... (read in full...)
He kissed me.. then when we hugged next day he didn't give me the usual kiss on the cheek. What's going on?
Q. i really like this guy alott! im pretty sure he likes me back and two days ago he kissed me. it was july 11. well the next day [july 12th] i went to give him a hug and after we hug usually he kisses me on the cheek. well he just like hugged me and ...
A. 14 July 2008: Are you two dating? If not, then it's perfectly normal for him to feel nervous or shy, because he doesn't want to be rejected. If you act calm around him he'll pick up on the vibes and relax as well.... (read in full...)
I have been dating him for 6 days but he won't make me number one on his Myspace...Is he cheating on me?
Q. so i been going out with this guy for 6 days we hanged out he didnt try to kiss me he just hugged me,he calls me txt me.im still not first on his myspace and he doesnt have as if we r together,if some asks if we are going out he says yea,he still ha...
A. 14 July 2008: Don't worry if you aren't his top friend! One of my friends was number 2 on her boyfriend's page, and they dated for 1 1/2 years. He also might be upset that you're talking smack about his ex.... (read in full...)
Will a teen boy accept a girl with braces?
Q. Does anybody know if braces turn a boy off. I mean I'm trying to get a boy to notice me and like me, but with acne, glasses, and bad hair, braces aren't going to help me very much. It kind of lowers my self esteem on how I look. I just don't know if ...
A. 14 July 2008: I had braces for 2 years and had them removed at the beginning of 8th grade... and now I LOVE my smile! People always complement me on it and my self esteem gets a boost. I'm definitely not the prettiest but I feel a lot better when I focus on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she wants to wait until we are married to have sex...We're 16...I don't want to wait!
Q. Hi, I am a 16 year old male and am sexually active... Well should i say i was. Im not going to go into it but i lost my virginity to my ex girlfriend, we broke up, now im with another girl. I have been out with this girl before i know its you...
A. 13 July 2008: It may be hard but you have to respect her wishes and opinions. Virginity is a gift to her and she wants her first time to be special. As for building the relationship, there are many other things you can try. Just be creative and see what works for ... (read in full...)
We really fancied each other but people at school making fun of us made him aparently lose his feelings towards me, and I can't forget him just like that
Q. Me and a Boy of my age at high school have recently revealed that we both have feelings for one another (Recently being about a month ago). Ever since, we have been flirting like crazy, and the feelings that I have for him have grown stronger and ...
A. 13 July 2008: First of all, you aren't an ugly mess. Even though you had problems before, it doesn't make you bad or worthless. I can understand how amazing and special he made you feel, and how the pain and misery dissolved from everyday life. I
I don't kn... (read in full...)
My teacher is giving me all the signals that if someone my age was doing, I would be certain he fancied me...Help?!
Q. So, here's my question. I know there are a lot of these on here and I know that I might sound stupid for asking. I know that because of the situation i could NEVER be with the guy - I just want to know what everyone thinks about this. So my art...
A. 13 July 2008: Well, it seems, that with a loooong list of what he's done, that he likes you. You already know that it wouldn't work out and it's illegal. Try to stay away from him as much as possible and don't lead him on. An adult man needs to be in a ... (read in full...)
What do you think could be wrong with my close friend, she acts like a child sometimes, she is 21, and has never had a boyfriend??
Q. One of my very close girl friends has never had a boyfriend. She's 21 years old and she has never had a boyfriend or kissed one. She very immature for her age and still watches cartoons. She is obsessed with celebrities and compares every boy who ...
A. 13 July 2008: She definitely sounds like Laura from the Glass Menagerie, painfully shy, withdrawn, and unusually childish. Shyness is not necessarily a problem, but in your friend's case it has hampered her social abilities and has, as a result, caused people to ... (read in full...)
I feel empty and sad because I broke up with my boyfriend. My friend told me to.
Q. I broke up with my b/f because my part-time friend told me to, but now i feel empty and sad, but i still want to be friends with my friend, and date him. What do i do???!...
A. 10 July 2008: Part-time friend? I don't know if she was jealous or thought that your bf was bad, but she clearly didn't know what she was talking about. Tell him that you made a mistake and that you won't do that again.... (read in full...)
Dating problems, help, will she change her mind?
Q. Hi, I was a tuition and this girl came in. She caught my eye and ever since I've been interested in her but never dared to tell her. Its been about 2 months and then one day we had a conversation and she gave me her no. w/o me asking for it. I...
A. 8 July 2008: It sounds like she'll change her mind eventually but she's comfortable being your friend for now. Perhaps she's shy or likes someone else, or wants to wait and see what her feelings are for you. Some of the best relationships started from ... (read in full...)
I can't find a love partner at all!
Q. Dear dearcupid website providers, I am very much excited to join you .I will discuss all my personal problems concerning relationships. Do you believe me if i tell you that until age 32 currently I do not have a love partner! This is due to my bad c...
A. 8 July 2008: Physical attributes aren't the only thing that men are interested in. Initially they are drawn to women with good looks, but if she doesn't have enough confidence or the right personality, they won't stay. What's holding you back is a lack of ... (read in full...)
I've become nervous, paranoid and jealous in our relationship...
Q. I'm 17 and Me and my boyfriend of two and a half years dont have the "perfect magazine" relationship, we argue a fair bit, mostly over useless crap that we then forget about the next day, or the fact he lives two hours away, but not that long ago, ...
A. 6 July 2008: Take a step back and figure out what it is that makes you feel nervous, paranoid, jealous, etc. It might help if you really look into yourself and make peace now; then hopefully you'll have a new, fresh perspective on the relationship.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not want me to attend karate class, if there are only men in the class, I want to go, should I abide by his wishes?
Q. Today my bf and I went to a class of karate. We had never practiced any kind of martial art, and we were invited and thought we would give it a try. Another friend of his went, and he had invited his gf, but she was sick so she couldn't go. So it ...
A. 6 July 2008: Don't let that hold you back! Go to the karate class and tell him you really enjoyed it! ... (read in full...)
I'm just like a magnet for negative things, all I seem to do lately is cry.
Q. i cant cope with life no more! is there anything i can do for my boyfriend apart from be there for him, i know its selfish me thinkin about my feelings when hes going through such a rough time but im really messed up! my boyfriend has recently found ...
A. 4 July 2008: I'm very sorry that these things have happened to you and your family and that your boyfriend has cancer. I can't imagine the pain and sorrow this has caused, and I wish that things didn't have to end up this way. Please don't give up; keep ... (read in full...)
My fiend claims she likes the same guy, if I go with him it will put an end to our friendship.
Q. ok, the situation is that my friend told me he likes me and i like him too, but then when i told my other friend this she claims she likes him also… alot, and being with him would put an end to our friendship. what do i do?...
A. 4 July 2008: I agree, she doesn't sound like a true friend. Jealousy should never get in the way of a friendship! Ask yourself how much you really value your friend, and if it's worth it to risk the friendship for a guy.... (read in full...)
Is eating large amounts of dried fruit bad??
Q. I love eating dried fruit in between meals and for snacking on and i realised yesterday how fattening it is because of the suagar-sugar on the dry papaya and apricots etc....Im gutted-all the dry fruit seems to contain the same calories and fat!!! I...
A. 2 July 2008: Dried fruits can be as sweet as candy, so enjoy them in moderation. Plus, the sugar in dried fruit can make you hungrier for more carbs and make you crash and feel tired.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my feelings or just be happy with his friendship?
Q. Ok. So here it is. I am ABSOLUTELY in love with this guy who is 12 years older then me. He's 26 and I'm 14. He is unmarried and as far as I know he doesn't have a girlfriend. If he did I would definitely try to forget about him because I want him to ...
A. 2 July 2008: Please don't tell him your feelings! He's at a completely different stage in life and won't understand where you're coming from. He is obviously happy to have you as a friend, but nothing more. Sorry. :(... (read in full...)
I'm really scared he will pick this other girl over me! What can I do?
Q. Im 15, and I am dating this guy that is 16. He is the only guy I like, so I really dont feel like dating other guys. However, he is dating one other girl. I really really really like him, and he did say that there is a chance that this thin...
A. 2 July 2008: Keep waiting and think about this some more, it's possible that he does like the other girl more, maybe not. I don't have relationship experience either, but it seems that you should go on a date or something (you haven't seen him in 3 weeks!). It's ... (read in full...)
Would he tell a load of people if I told him I liked him? Should I?
Q. Basically, I think I am in love. I know, I will probably get a lot of people saying you're not, but I think I am. The guy whom I like is a younger than me, and in the year below me at school. I get butterflies around him, and the thing is, I real...
A. 2 July 2008: First you should make sure that he likes you too, so you won't end up hurt and rejected or make the friendship awkward and change things. I don't know if he would tell other people or not; some people do because they like the attention. Keep your ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about what my boyfriend really feels for me
Q. me and my boyrfrien have been going out for quite a while now i only ever see him on the weekends becuase of school and things, so i spend more time at home than with him, we both have msn and bebo but he never reply's back to me or nothing, i have ...
A. 2 July 2008: I'm not sure if he really loves you... he could have something that's really bothering him, and that's why you don't see or hear from him very often. If you feel that this just isn't working out, bite the bullet and let him go. You deserve to spend ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her she's pretty without leting her know I like her?
Q. If a girl says she looks bad in her picture what can I say positive to make her feel good without being corny or giving signs that I like her???...
A. 23 May 2008: You could try to focus on one area, like her smile or eyes, and say it looks amazing/beautiful/etc. if you want to be more specific. Complimenting her will raise her confidence and she'll be around you more often.... (read in full...)
I am just so quiet, shy and lost... any advice?
Q. I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. I have been so shy, ever since I can remember. Even when I was a baby, I was very quiet, I barely cried or anything. And as I became a toddler and a kid, I was shy, never wanting to let go of ...
A. 23 May 2008: I used to be very quiet and shy, but I've learned to open up more. Ultimately you can't change your personality; just accept it. I feel like I can let myself go when I play sports or dance. Learn how to stand up for yourself and ignore rude ... (read in full...)
Which of the four should I choose?
Q. Okay so this boy loves me, well says he loves me, and he's also my ex. This other boy says he misses me and stuff, which is another ex, and this other kid always says he loves me but we're really close and we hangout alot, and then there's this ...
A. 12 May 2008: Get to know the new guys because they seem legitimately interested. If your exes loved you, they wouldn't be your exes.... (read in full...)
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