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What should I do here... stick with the boyfriend and ditch the lover?

Q.   Trapped between 2 men Hello there I ve been with my bf for 5 years, last 3 of them we are living together. Last couple years i ve started feeling very unhappy, although its not really my partner's fault. I still love him very much, but its a differ...

A.   8 March 2007: your bf is honest about everything then you go cheat on him? he should ditch you. split up with both and stay clear of relationships until u can be faithful, loyal and commited to one!... (read in full...)

He slept with 2 girls when I was pregnant and had unprotected sex with the one. What should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 4 years now. We grew up together also dating in high school. Our relationship has been a series of ups and downs to say the least! In June of 2005 we found out I was pregnant. He freaked out t...

A.   6 March 2007: first and foremost get yourself checked by a doctor and dont sleep with him until he does the same. well as you were apart at the time he theoreticly never 'betrayed you' but i can still see where your problem is as you want the father of your bab... (read in full...)

The spark is gone and now I am seeing other men! How do I not hurt my bf?

Q.   I am 19 in a relationship but the spark has gone we don't have sex anymore and I am seeing other men but I don't want to hurt my other half like this...

A.   4 March 2007: you dont want to hurt him? sorry but did you have that thought befor youd betrayed him or after youd slept around? if you truely have any respect for your bf, finish with him and be honest as to why your ending it. that way he knows all he has... (read in full...)

She 's promiscuous, has a bf and we are close friends. How do I get her to date me?

Q.   Hey. I am 16 years old, and I am in love with a girl that I am really close friends with. We dated for a while last year, and later on ended up having sex. The thing I am concerned about is something that happened about 3 weeks ago. I probably ...

A.   4 March 2007: i seriously feel sorry for both of you. its harsh to say that i know but you guys are messed up. your 16 yet both sleeping around? she has a bf yet slept with 2 other men?. do you two value your lives in any way? do you have morals? do you u... (read in full...)

Why is no one interested in taking it beyond 'casual sex' with me?

Q.   Hi, I'm 38 and I haven't had a boyfriend since 2000. I take care of myself -- I'm well-educated, slim, sociable, good job etc -- but no one is interested in taking it beyond the casual sex stage. At one point, I went two years without even the...

A.   4 March 2007: FIRSTLY. it sounds like your giving your body up to people befor you really know them,befor youve given a relationship of trust and respect a chance to be built. SECONDLY, it seems strange, but most men around your age are actually getting ... (read in full...)

Please let me know what the problem is... is it me?

Q.   hi there me and my feance are 2gether for 5 years i had a affair with friends and other Men even married once about 6ppl and i keep on wanting to chat with them! Why i dont know i am very happy with my feance and treuly love him we even...

A.   2 March 2007: what a mess. your saying you love this guy yet youve slept around behind his back, even with married men. hes sending nude pics to other people i cant imagine a worse relationship than yours, i think its a good thing you never produced a ch... (read in full...)

I kissed by flatmate...but I love my boyfriend! Now my flatmate's trying to make me jealous! Help!

Q.   I need help!!! ive been with my boyfriend for a year and we are really happy together, but i moved away to uni last september and i think i fancy one of the lads i live with, we kissed but i felt so guitly coz of my boyfriend, now my flatmate keep...

A.   28 February 2007: the fact your letting your flat mates childish antics bother you suggests you care more than you should. be strong and ignore him, you say you love your fella so every time you find yourself doing anything that might contradict that. remind y... (read in full...)

Went to a party, got drunk and went overboard with another guy! How do I tell my boyfriend what I did?

Q.   okay. so i'm completely inlove with my boyfriend. we've been going out for six months. right now he's in the airforce; basic training, and he's been gone for 3 solid weeks, and 3 1/2 to go, at that. i havent talked to him or seen him. i miss him ...

A.   28 February 2007: well it seems youve learnt the danger of booze early, and i hope you have learnt. no you dont always know that someone has had sex with you, its called drug rape. be safe, see a doctor. its sad to see that your having sex and drinking at such... (read in full...)

Found my wife kissing her best friend! It bothers me, should I discuss it or ignore it!?

Q.   Found my wife kissing her best friend,did'nt overreact but feel quite insecure,married for 23 yrs although I suspected that she might have done this before or gone further.Love my wife and kids,what should I do,discuss it or ignore it.It was put ...

A.   28 February 2007: firstly, is it really relevant if its male or female best friend? i think not. what is important, is that shes kissed someone other than you. youve been married a very long time which is very comendable. you should be able to sit her down and talk... (read in full...)

Should I be worried the he refused sex, but then jerked off the next morning!?

Q.   i have a bf, we have been going out for 2.5 years now, and do have sex. just the other night, i assumed we would have sex, but we decided not to since we do it almost 4-5 time a week (!?!?) any way, that very next morning, i saw my bf jerk off.....

A.   28 February 2007: contrary to popular belief, men arent always up to 'their game'. yes we can easily have sex (unless tired or stressed, but i'll get to that). but theres a difference to a quick and easy sexual moment or pleasing your partner properly. he most like... (read in full...)

I keep comparing myself to his girlfriend which makes me feel even worse!

Q.   Well I really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend, who I think is more attractive than me. I'm quite jealous/envious of her and I really don't like to feel like this, even though I don't know her. I compare myself to her, which in honesty, make...

A.   28 February 2007: i think its natural for all humans to look at people and think 'what do they have that i dont dont'. we've all looked at couples and asked why he/she is with him/her. but envy isnt a sin for other peoples benefit, its for ours. modern life has... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and want to move in with my boyfriend but my mum won't let me.

Q.   I'm 16 and want to move out with my boyfriend he has his own place, but my mum wont let me move out. If i go is there anything legal she can do about it if i just go? I really don't no what to do. Please help!...

A.   25 February 2007: please re think what your doing. so you love him and want to move in, moving in will hurt and upset your mom and damage the relationship you have with her. so when you brake up with this presumably older guy and have to move out with no money, w... (read in full...)

I've agreed to stay with her but I don't know how to rebuild the trust.

Q.   My partner recently cheated on me with her ex boyfriend. she said it meant nothing and she was drunk, at first she denied it and when confronted with overwhelming evidence she still tried to lie about it. Yes the cheating hurt but so did the lying. ...

A.   25 February 2007: ive been in your shoes, and i know it hurts like hell. its not usually the act of cheating that hurts most, most can forgive a drunken fumble. its the lies and deceit that do it. the fact that you had proof and she still lied suggests she may... (read in full...)

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and just found out my boyfriend has cheated with my best mate!

Q.   I'm 38 weeks pregnant, 19 years old and my partner has been cheating on me with my 'best mate' he's moving out on monday but I hurt like mad, I know I'm stupid but I still love him, how can I get over him? Please help! ...

A.   25 February 2007: the mans a heartless coward and your supposed friend is even worse, theyve not only damaged you but left a child without a father. you may still feel for him, but the sooner you move on and stop talking to these two for good, the better your lif... (read in full...)

She just confessed that she cheated, I dont know how to cope with this now!!?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years. She just told me that she cheated on me with a friend of mine. They went out 3 times(as friends) but the last one ended up with a kiss and he asked for a hand in which she did.. I am feeling very ...

A.   17 February 2007: sorry but you cant say his friend isnt to blame. this man is no friend, it takes two people and they both knew what they were doing, these things dont 'just happen'. they both betrayed your trust and your respect and personally i wouldnt talk to ... (read in full...)

I had my chance and blew it! How do I move on now?

Q.   I met my husband when I was 19 and we were best friends. He is a funny, kind, lovely guy who always treated me well. Three years ago I began a new job and started an affair with a man who had quite a reputation as a womaniser. Our affair was very ...

A.   17 February 2007: dont tell your husband anything, dont talk to him ever again. hes finally met someone whos made him happy, who hes raising a child with and who will hopefully respect him more than you ever did. you got what you deserved for lying and cheating... (read in full...)

I am happily married, but my guy on the side drives me wild! I don't want to hurt my husband, though. Help!

Q.   Im very happily married and met someone on a works night out - i have really fallen for him (have only kissed him so far but he drives me wild)i have very strong feelings for him, but love my husband and dont want to hurt anyone. Please help...

A.   17 February 2007: how is it possible to use the words 'love' and 'happily married' in a post that suggests you want to have a relationship out of marriage? STOP try looking at the real issue and not the 'outside' excitement (which isnt real, just a side show)... (read in full...)

How can I get my boyfriend to be a more considerate lover?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have generally have sex at least once a day, although it's not always as fulfilling as I'd like it to be. My boyfriend masturbates to fall asleep and when he wakes up and doesn't take into consideration that I might want to have ...

A.   17 February 2007: theres nothing wrong with sex every day, and each and everytime can be earth moving (unlike the previous advice). what seems to be your problem is communication and confidence. if you wish to join him when he 'plays alone' then i dont suppose he'll ... (read in full...)

Once guys I date get me to date them, the seem to lose interest! What's going on?

Q.   Here's the thing, my dad has been cheating on my mom since i was 5, i can't trust men and everytime that i have tried to love i ended up heart broken. i think guys are always attracted to me sexually but once they get me they lose interest,and that ...

A.   17 February 2007: there seems to be a few issues here. firstly, your picking the wrong men, if theyre just using you for sex then dont sleep with them straight away, build a relationship first. sex should be special between two people who trust each other. seco... (read in full...)

How much emphasis do guys put on a girl's past sexual experience?

Q.   How much emphasis do guys put on a girls sexual experience? Although I've fooled around a bit and have done various things, I've never had a proper relationship and have never felt it was the right time or place to go all the way. But now I'm very ...

A.   17 February 2007: its very much the opposite. most men like to know theyre the first or are one of only a few at least. men and women dont want to be just another number, but men especially dont like 'easy' women (not in a relationship). some men may feel pres... (read in full...)

I'm bullied at school and everyone hates me! What can I do?

Q.   Everyone In my Year Hates Me. I only have one friend and everyone else picks on me in lessons and Kicks me and hits me and says its an accident. I told my teachers but they dont Do anything. I dont want to move schools because I dont want to leave ...

A.   17 February 2007: hun i know exactly how you feel, i too hated school and was constantly bullied. its horrible and incredibly lonely to feel the worlds against you and the fact your 'friends' have joined in makes it all the worse. bullies tend to pick on the vuln... (read in full...)

How do I know if a boy wants to have sex?

Q.   how do i know if a boy wants to have sex?...

A.   17 February 2007: first and foremost... your far to young to be thinking that way, im not going to tell you not to have sex, your a teen and will always think your right. but ill ask you to at least re consider wanting sex so young and wait till you find someone you ... (read in full...)

I'm a bit confused about everything, I've been seeing my boyfriend's sister's fiancee but don't know if he still likes me...?

Q.   Hi all. im finding things quite tough at the moment. well few months back i slept with my boyfriends sisters fiancee. it happened more than once but eventually we were found out.it was all over then after time i got back with my boyfriend but his ...

A.   17 February 2007: she doesnt need a respectable bloke, she had one and she showed him how little respect she had by sleeping with another man and ruining 2 relationships. the man sounds like he was using you while he was with his fiance, now hes free he doesnt need... (read in full...)

I love my bf but I want to have fun! What should I do here?

Q.   hey, yo. I'm really, REALLY flirty with this guy, and he's really flirty right back. If not more so. I really, really like him. He's thirty. He's hot. He's funny, and he's really kind! We were flirting like crazy on the way home and we always jo...

A.   12 February 2007: let me get this right, you love your bf and say hes your best friend yet talk about him like that? i think your thoughts are all 'me,me,me'.. if your bf bores you then why are you with him?, you obviously cannot be bothered to talk your feelin... (read in full...)

I have feelings for another guy, yet love my bf! What is going on with me?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. The spark has gone. There is someone else at work that has caught my eye. I have a house together with my boyfriend. I am scared that I suddenly have feelings for someone else but love my boyfirend. He ...

A.   12 February 2007: its good youve given it thought and not just dived in like so many others. your looking else where because you see is the chase, a game that will entertain because its taboo. you said it yourself that the sparks gone. the biggest reason for this is ... (read in full...)

Why do people cheat on one another?

Q.   Why do people cheat, why do they cheat when they know that they love or maybe think they love the person there cheating on ?...

A.   12 February 2007: i dont know really, but if you ever find out please tell me, it would answer a few past scars of my own :(... (read in full...)

I am seeing a married man, is there really any hope that he'll want to leave his wife to be with me?

Q.   Hi i have been seeing a married guy now for about 7 months, when i first met him he told me he was married so when he offered me his number i declined but we bumped into each other a few more times and i still refused to get into a relation...

A.   12 February 2007: sorry hun but its very rare a man leaves his wife for his mistress. find someone who can be with you and only you, who can show you all the love and attention you deserve. cut your ties with this guy, how can a man who cheats be any good?... (read in full...)

I'm on the injection but it wore off and now I think I might be pregnant.

Q.   im realy worried im on the injection but it wore off on the 23rd and i didnt tell my bf and now im worried i mite be pregnant and i dont know what to do if i am i want to keep it but i know my bf will say get rid of it i dont want to wreck our ...

A.   12 February 2007: firstly, if your bfs first answer is 'get rid', you sure hes the right guy for you? secondly, things such as the injection and pill arent meant to be a primary method of contreception but as a back up to the condom, you should always use both to ... (read in full...)

My gf put me through hell and after all this she wants me to take her back. Should I or shouldn't

Q.   Hello, ok, so here is my situation. I've been with my g/f for about a year and 8 months. We've broken up during this relationship about 3 times now. The first in march, she left me, calls me back the next day. I agree to see her, back together, t...

A.   11 February 2007: wow, how many times does a person have to lie to you befor you pick it up? get out of the relationship, stop talking to her...avoid eye contact.tell her shes lost you for good, even as a friend. its the only way youll ever be happy... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I broke up and I slept with another person during the break... we're now back together and he doesn't know, should I tell him?

Q.   my bf decided he wanted a break for a while following a big row we had. i slept with someone else in the time we were apart and the next day he decided he wanted to try again. i didnt tell him about this other person because part of me feels as we ...

A.   10 February 2007: technically yes you were on a brake and have no reason to tell him. but to a man a brake is still a relationship but just time apart. therefor he sees it as cheating. i like how women always ask if theres a chance hell find out, somehow making i... (read in full...)

Will I ever be able to come to terms with the fact that my wife had an affair?

Q.   A year ago my wife had an affair. We separated and now we are wondering if we could work things out. Can I ever forgive and forget about what happened and how do I deal with knowing that she went out for a year long adventure??? without me?...

A.   7 February 2007: its possible to forgive, but its very hard to forget believe me. there will always be some eliment of doubt and there will be situations where she'll say or do things that will make you paranoid. but love and trust can if its genuine help buil... (read in full...)

Is it normal that I like him to control me during sex?

Q.   Is it normal that I like him to control me during intercourse? He's very dominant and tells me what do do and I like it! Is this normal? It never leaves the bedroom, but still......

A.   7 February 2007: its quite normal for women to fantasise the 'innocent' role. infact in lots of surveys womens most common fantasies include being tied up, sex with a forceful stranger and being blindefolded. my current gf has a big thing about being tied up, as l... (read in full...)

She demanded I can't hello-hug any women but she says it's ok for her to do it to guys!

Q.   Dear Cupid Early in our relationship my girlfriend demanded that I never give other women a hug-hello since she never hugs guys. Its so rare that I hug-hello anyways, and then, only to real friends who cannot misinterpret it as flirting. However,...

A.   7 February 2007: that my friend is called double standards. and besides its wrong to make 'demands' of anyone, unless your a terrorist or maybe a mother inlaw lol. it sounds as if shes either very controlling or has some very deep trust issues. if its different... (read in full...)

He wants to have anal intercourse with no condom! Should I be worried?

Q.   He wants to have anal intercourse with no condom, but I'm worried that it will be gross for him! We've done it with a condom, and it was really clean, but I've heard of 'pimp shitz' or something where stuff gets forced up into his penis. But I ...

A.   7 February 2007: its seriously not recomended to have anal without a condom. theres an awful lot of bacteria in your anus and that can leave you not having sex for quite a while and worse. but if you still decide to go ahead with it, i suggest you give your anu... (read in full...)

Is he feeling bad about denying me or something? Advice please?

Q.   Here's a scenario: We're watching TV and I want to cuddle with him and kiss, and he says 'not now, jeez' and watches TV. I turn around and watch TV as well. Then he kisses me and tells me he's sorry and tries to cuddle and kiss. I hate it when he ...

A.   7 February 2007: sorry gals, man thing, we tend to get a bit dragged into our world of the oggle box, but we know you gals like a kiss n cuddle too so he proberbly just realises he upsets you when he turns you down (and if the truth be known, us men like cudd... (read in full...)

How can I make her see that he's a complete idiot and that she's better off without him?

Q.   My friend has started going out with this guy that I know is bad news and she is making him really permanent in her life like doing things such as planning to go to a university nearer to him and talking of getting a tattoo with his name on it. ...

A.   7 February 2007: its never a good idea to get between a friend and partner. 9/10 it blows back on you. firstly getting a tattoo of any lovers name is stupid, only do names as memorials by thats besides the point sorry. everyone makes mistakes in love and sadl... (read in full...)

I said no because of our age difference but now I'm wondering if I should have said yes!

Q.   I am a 34 year who honestly does not look my age and have a 20 year old who wants to date me. He not only has spoken to me but when he told me his age I thought no way and then on different occasions he spoke to two of my friends asking them to ...

A.   7 February 2007: what is age? surely the relevant factor in any relationship is whether you feel comfortable with that person and if they make you feel happy? if this guy makes you feel these things wheres the harm in going out for a few drinks, as you have dou... (read in full...)

We are like a couple, but he doesn't want our friendship to progress into a relationship b/c I cheated on him the last time. Am I wasting my time w/ him?

Q.   Hi please could you help,Im confused. This time last year I met a great guy and we were together for about 4 months. Unfortunately I was unfaithful to him and he found out about this, I keep on asking myself why I cheated but I dont know why beca...

A.   7 February 2007: being cheated on is the worst feeling to have, its gut renching and incredibly lonely. the fact hes come back into your life is a blessing in itself so dont take it for granted. he obviously still likes you but the problem is once youve been chea... (read in full...)

Why do I feel red and sore after I have sex?

Q.   After my boyfriend and I have sex I notice that my vagina hurts. It seems more to do with if he cums inside of me. For days after, I'm very sore and it feels red and hot. Does anyones else know what I'm talking about. I never have this problem ...

A.   7 February 2007: it could be a possible infection or possible damage from the birth. its deffently something that needs sorting by a doc... (read in full...)

Do vitamins help with erection problems???

Q.   Lately I have been having erection problems and I am only 25. I just started taking vitamins 3 days ago and they seem to be helping. Does anyone know what vitamin might be helping me? Or if a vitamin deficiency could cause something like this?...

A.   7 February 2007: it could of been a case where your body was lacking in its diet, in which case dont just buy expensive pills, eat healthier. reduce alcohol,red meat and fats. eat more fruits,veg and cook things healthy like steam and grill. on the other hand the... (read in full...)

Why aren't I getting dates? Do I need to be pretty AND popular?

Q.   I'm quite clever, and my family and people close to me, outside of school, say that I'm absolutely gorgeous. However, no-one at school says I'm very pretty.. and I'm never asked out by anyone. I'm not very popular so I'm expecting this to be the ...

A.   7 February 2007: another victim of the 'you need to be pretty to succeed' culture we live in. guys arent very forth comming when it comes to asking out girls, and it actually tends to be the case that the prettier ones actually scare more men away as they tend to ... (read in full...)

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